Before tonight’s zinger..which…I’m fired up tonight, so get ready….
But first, I have some incredibly exciting news to share.
I just found out that BeautyBeyondBones was ranked in the Top 25 Eating Disorder Recovery Websites on the World Wide Web!
So thank you with all my heart for taking the time out of your busy lives to read my words.
OK…now onto tonight’s main event.
As you know, I was utterly disgusted at Netflix for their irresponsible and harmful depiction of teenage suicide in “13 Reasons Why.”
You’d think they’d have learned their lesson after the backlash by the public, and several tragic copy-cat teenage suicides post-airing. But no.
In fact, they’ve done it again….
And this time…it’s about anorexia.
The movie is called “To The Bone” and it is being released on July 14.
They just premiered the trailer.
I watched it.
I nearly threw up I was so repulsed.
*sigh* Where do I even begin.
Let me just start out by saying that I am 10 years strong into my recovery from a life threatening case of anorexia. I starved myself down to 78 pounds. Went to inpatient treatment. Relapsed. Exercised destructively. And osteopenia, infertility, and some serious other issues later, I am finally healthy – mind, body and spirit.
And even though I am 10 years strong, I was triggered by this trailer.
Seeing Lily Collins, the actress who plays the main character – a 20-year-old young woman with anorexia – in such a severely emaciated state made me absolutely shudder.
The hollowed out and gaunt face, the skeletal frame — it made my blood boil.
You see, the actress, Lily Collins, battled an eating disorder herself. And so for her to have to get down to that dangerously low weight, while in real life, she is in recovery herself, it pains me to think of the detrimental harm that did to her own personal recovery.
But seeing those images poses a tremendous risk for those girls (and boys) who are struggling with an eating disorder, or who are in recovery. It was just wayyy too realistic. Just too far.
It’s hard for a person who has never struggled with an eating disorder to understand what “triggering” really means to someone with/in recovery from ED.
And yeah, seeing her skeletal, emaciated frame is triggering, but it’s also other things too — like seeing her deny food. Depictions of purging or exercise. Depictions of obsession over food and calories. “Triggering” images and language make a person miss their eating disorder, point blank. Triggers make a person “flirt” with ED, and seriously jeopardize their recovery…best way to put it.
The whole trailer just romanticized anorexia. From the joking — yes, joking — about her ability to know every food item’s caloric amount, to her measuring the circumference of her arms with her thumb and middle finger, hell – to her “thigh gap,” or to the “glamour shots” of her sharp bones protruding from her back, to the handsome therapist in her inpatient treatment facility who takes the kids outside in the rain so that they “remember how to live.”
I’m sorry. But when I was so severely depleted, I couldn’t even go to bed with wet hair after a shower because of the calories I’d expend from the loss of heat in my head while I slept. Going out in the rain is not something that you are physically able to do as someone with anorexia – your body simply cannot regulate your body temperature and keep it warm. Had a therapist/doctor taken kids out in the rain…he would have lost his job. And his medical license.
To be fair, I haven’t seen the movie, but from the 2 minute trailer, I can tell you that I don’t want to.
“To The Bone’s” recklessly irresponsible depiction of anorexia made me want to scream.
And what’s more is that in addition to Lily Collins, the writer and director also suffered from an eating disorder.
THEY SHOULD KNOW BETTER
How dare they put out material that is going to trigger those who watch it.
“But we’re trying to start a conversation about an important topic…”
I’m sorry, but someone had to say it.
I’m sick and tired of Hollywood glorifying issues that real people suffer from, just to push the envelope and be edgy, and cause a buzz for their movie.
You want to really help raise awareness and open up a dialogue about anorexia? Then how about you not romanticize it and joke about it on an *dramatic-comedy.*
Why don’t you ask someone who actually lived through the starvation, isolation, calorie obsession, tortuous exercise, broken relationships, shattered future, inpatient treatment — what she thinks about your enshrined depiction of a disease – a mental illness – that nearly killed her? Why don’t you ask me?
Because I’ll tell you: I’m not laughing.
You’re “sincere” efforts to open a dialogue — are already having detrimental effect: Photos of a gaunt and skeletal Lily Collins from the trailer are already being passed around the internet as “thinspo,” – aka: “thin-spiration” — photos that mentally sick girls use to salivate over as they deny themselves food in order to starve down to nothing.
Way to go. Way to raise “awareness.”
Netflix, you should be ashamed of the despicable representation of mental illness here recently with 13 Reasons Why and To the Bone.
You should realize the power of influence, especially on young, impressionable teenage minds.
There is a responsibility that comes with platform, and you are promoting shows that propagate harmful and negligent material.
“To the Bone” went way too far.
It is a desperate cry for “artistic attention” that romanticizes the nature of anorexia, while simultaneously negating the dangers of the disease, creating a seriously destructive narrative.
I want no part of that.
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