I had a pretty unforgettable experience the other day.
It was a Friday afternoon. I had a free hour or so, which hardly ever happens, and so I thought I’d go to evening mass. And I decided to go to a church I had never been to before in midtown NYC.
Like I mentioned previously…I’m “Husband Hunting.”
Cue the hair and makeup team…
ANYWHO…
We’re all sitting in the basement of this little chapel, just a stone’s throw from Penn Station, and the gospel was on “Whatever you do to the least of these my brothers, you do to Me.” (Matt 25:40)
Truthfully, I had kind of zoned out during the gospel. I know, I’m a horrible person. But I mean,Ā how many times had I heard that classic parable? My mind was wandering to my plans with my friends that night, and what I was going to wear, and how much time I needed to get ready. I hate to admit it, but it was a classicĀ in-one-ear-and-out-the-other kind of a scenario.
Well, fast forward to when it was time for communion, and I’m sitting on the aisle, and in true unabashed fashion, I’m checking out any potential men as they make their way up the aisle.
And at the very end of the line, a homeless man, kind of staggers and hobbles his way up to the front.
And if you’ve never been to Catholic Mass, there’s the Eucharist ((bread)) – which everybody receives – and then off to the side is the wine, which is optional. And you typically just take a teeny-tiny, taste…not even a sip.
Well, this man, walks to the front and sidesteps the bread, and goes straight to the wine, where he chugs the entire vessel.
And as he’s walking back, he is very disruptive: banging on the piano, messing with the candles, muttering to himself, tapping a couple people on the shoulder. Just, kind of causing a ruckus before busting through the back door in an exit made for a TV movie.
I’m going to be brutally honest here, I was really not thinking very kind thoughts at the moment. I was being pretty grossly judgmental. Quite ugly, in fact.
And as I was sitting there beginning to spiral into thoughts of,Ā I hope heĀ doesn’tĀ have a gun, or How could he abuse communion like that? –Ā God literally hit me over the head with His message.
For in that moment, I realized that this was literally the gospel –Ā that I had just heard five minutes ago –Ā playing out right in front of me.
Whatever you do to the least of these my brothers, you do it to Me.Ā
Suddenly, I was filled with so much conviction for the horribly judgmental things I was thinking. And I saw that man with new eyes – as though I was looking at Jesus.
His toes were sticking out of the fronts of his worn out gym shoes. His tattered clothes were hanging off of him. This was a broken man, hungry and cold, that was trapped in the cycle of addiction, and needing some serious help.
And it was then that it dawned on me…what I had just said about that homeless man, could have been said about me too, during my anorexia. I was that man – broken, hungry, cold, and trapped in the addiction and enslavement of my eating disorder.
I had been there.
Sure, I may not have been stealing communion wine, but I had been doing other things that were just as unthinkable.
What about my habitual lying about my food intake? What about my addiction to the feeling of emptiness and impulsive need to burn calories?
I was no better than that homeless man. How dare I sit there and think disdainfully of him? This man needed compassion. And empathy. And help.
Walking home and thinking about that gospel, I realized that I had always thought about it from the position of privilege. “Someone who is hungry, or in prison, or naked, etc. etc…those downtrodden people, how sad for them. I’m so glad that’s notĀ me.”Ā
For the first time, I realized that,Ā I was “those people”….We are all “those” broken people at one time or another.
And so was Jesus, when He chose to die.
Since then, I’ve often thought about that man. Especially as the temperature is dropping, and we’ve come to the time of year where family togetherness and overeating are all the norm. And I wonder if he’s warm. Where his family is. Where’s he’s sleeping.
I guess the next time I’m quick to judge, I need to take a second look. See Jesus. And see Ā the thread of humanity that is present in me, too.
And maybe it’s time for me to look into volunteering at the local soup kitchen.
***Thank you to everyone who has ordered my books, Bloom: A Journal by BeautyBeyondBones and “My Blogging Tips“***
Click here to order your copy!
________________________________________________________________
Stay Connected!
@beauty.beyond.bonesĀ ā Instagram
A big thank you to my sponsor, BetterHelp Online Therapy. Ā Speak with an online therapist. Or check outĀ content about eating disorders from BetterHelp.
Next time you’re shopping on Amazon, be sure to use my link! Doing so is absolutely FREE for you, and a great way to support this blog! š
For Podcast versions of my posts, please check outĀ Patreon! You make this blog possibleĀ š
297 responses to “Walking the Talk”
The good Lord certainly has a way of cracking us over the head with things doesn’t He š Just like what happened at mass, He certainly can get our attention :):) I was broken, and can’t really say that I am not full of cracks right now š
Hi Margaret! oh He really does! I feel the same way. hope you had a beautiful Thanksgiving! thanks for stopping by! big hugs xo
Loving your white sweater and your boots, by the way. It’s always a pleasure stopping by. I’m not going to say you know I wouldn’t miss it for the world, because last time I said that for the next couple of weeks, it would be days before I could get to read your post LOL. God bless you. Big hugs :):)
aw thank you š hahaha you’re funny!! have a great night and God bless! Hugs and love xox
This reminds me of when I think i have something to hold on to, as the illusory exterior part of me grabs it evaporates and I stumble at the feet of Him reminded again i need to be rid of “die” to self
That is such a powerful image. One that I can totally relate to. you’re right – we need to die to self. Hugs and love xox
Oh Wow! So very powerful! I love this.
Thank you š Glad it hit home with you. hope you’re having a great night! Hugs and love xox
Blessings!
āØšāØ
Praise God that your heart is soft and moldable in His hands and that you listened to His prompting. Not everybody in the Church gets that.
Bless you, Caralyn!
KEEP THE LIGHT ON!
Oh my gosh what a kind thing to say. thank you š yes! keep the light on š Hugs and love xox
You’re very welcome!
xox š š š oxo
Oh wow…. gut punch.
totally. thanks Gorman š have a great night! Hugs and love xox
A soup kitchen? Not ideal but it would definitely be ironic. Ever thought about volunteering at the VA or a children’s hospital?
Hi Kevin, thanks for that great idea. I’ll have to look into that, because it’s an awesome idea. big hugs xox
Given my limited interactions with you, I get the impression that your message would be better received by those who are “damaged goods” or someone who can still see others unconditionally.
i definitely consider myself “damaged goods” thats for sure š
Nah, I wouldn’t consider you “damaged goods.” May have fallen out of the bag or rolled down a step or two.š
hahaa
Bottom line is, you’re far from it.
Thanks Kevin, thatās kind of you to say. Hugs x
Sometimes God has to send a physical reminder of the lesson he needs us to hear in that moment! Thanks for sharing!
you’re so right about that Sohpie! thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Great post. Its funny how quickly God reminds us we are imperfect and fallible.
thanks friend. you’re so right- SO quickly! Hugs and love xox
Hey, lady: have you done or attended book signings? Done or attended any inspirational speaking? Mass is a pretty passive exercise – not the best way to meet the kind of person that would be able to go toe-to-toe with you in a relationship. I hate to say this, but you need to put yourself front and center.
Hey Brian! thanks for that idea. I’ve definitely attended some conferences and things. pretty awesome people for sure. hope you’re having a great night~ Hugs and love xox
I had an encounter with a man needing money for a meal and I was reluctant to give him any. I felt awful but knowing some folks use handouts for not good purposes that thought took over. I felt guilty and I need to be more generous with what God gave me.
Yeah, it is always a tough thing to decipher for sure. thanks for sharing that, Tony. Hugs and love xox
praying for him, and praying for you. God loves you both!
Yes! I will join you in that prayer. Thanks Gail! Hugs and love xox
<3
āØšāØ
This is truly what I come here to find – hope. It’s eloquently written and thought provoking. Thank you for putting it out into the world. I think it’s so important to not judge others and the fact that you saw yourself in that homeless man and made that connection means you have the beautiful gift of empathy. Your stories often touch my heart. This one absolutely did.
oh my gosh thank you so much Maria, i really appreciate your kind words. big big big hugs to you xox
You are amazing! I love your writing! Thank you for being you! Just so you know, any guy would be so lucky to have you. I too, am searching for my one true love. I believe he is out there. You are so incredible I mean that. I’m sure you will soon meet that special man you are searching for.
Thanks again friend. Yes! Our men are out there! we just have to keep looking and be patient! big hugs xox
It takes a lot of courage to be honest with ourselves, and it took a lot for you to do that so, too.
On the other hand, you can not judge even yourself and the reason is for that: God, our Heavenly Parent has never judged you or any of us. As a parent He sees the potential in each and every one of us and keeps encouraging.
A prayer, a deed for someone else is an encouragement, too.
Blessings!
Thanks so much Friend. I really appreciate that. Youāre so right – He does see our potential. Hugs and love xox
This is a beautiful post! Very thought provoking. I so agree that we are all that man at some point in our lives. God bless you and your family. šš»šā¤ļø
Thanks so much John! I really appreciate it š yep! At some point or another. Hugs and love xox
Beautiful post! I’ve never been a very religious person, but the message was still clear and relatable. I find myself judging at the way some of the homeless stagger around, out of their element, when someone should probably be kicking me over the head with a reminder that that person is still a person, and that I have no idea what circumstances led to their homelessness.
I love that last line, too. And actually, I can tell you that from personal experience, it’s gotten a lot betterāI feel my own mind openingāsince I started volunteering at my local kitchen two years ago. And even moreso, now that I have a more concrete job working directly with the center!
Thank you so much! Iām glad this resonated with you. Oh thatās so awesome that youāve had such a positive experience volunteering. Iāll definitely have to look into it! Hugs and love xox
I’m amazed to read blogs like yours in today’s world where people naturally look down on each other and fail to see how we all look in the eyes of the Universal Family. You are honest about yourself and it encourages us all to take a good look at our own performance and realize we like that man you mention are unworthy of a second look by our cousins in heaven. And yet, Jesus valued us and set us an example to treat others as He treats us. Thank you for your refreshing honesty, a rare commodity in today’s world. š
Oh gosh thank you Ian. Youāre so right – He did value us, so we should value one another. Thanks for your kind words! Hugs and love xox
That is beautiful
Thanks Jessica. Hugs and love xox
Thank you for stopping by my website. I enjoyed your Inspiring story about the homeless man and self-discovery! What a gift he was to you!
Hi Patricia! Thanks so much for stopping by! So true. Hugs and love xox
We have all been this judgemental person! It is an ongoing battle, to keep ourselves in check. Jesus knows we are born in sin, and that’s why He’s given his blood for us. Of course, that’s not an excuse to keep on sinning, but it is a comfort when we fall and need to pick ourselves up.
God bless you, always!
Hi Miss Jay! Thank you for your this thoughtful response. Youāre so right – it is definitely a comfort! Hugs and love xox
A very conscious choice. I would help more. My job. It’s tough. I never had that privilege you speak of they were the people I grew up with. Some of them got better. Most. Need a lot before they hit, poverty. This is our America and our reality. Jesus. Kind of blesses those with the most. Which is fine. We made poverty and we made poor and the rich. Trespassing. Gets you a weekend in jail. Six meals you don’t have to beg for.
Thanks Kenzie for this powerful insight. Yeah we need to help and give to the max. So much to mull over. Thanks for stopping by and for offering this moving perspective. Hugs and love xox
You will find your own way. I don’t hide where I came from. When the need arises after a disaster I shut my business down now and go fight. God. Is there somewhere but, it’s really not about that. It’s people. I see that helplessness and you just know. I don’t pull people aside and ask, are you a Christian? Have more. Are you an immigrant? Have less. Would Jesus do that? I’ve been helping others my whole life. I never expected anything. I guess. It’s what I received. Nothing. Sure. There’s a philosophy that looks good on telethons and pins and ribbons for giving because, that one day out of a whole life of privilege. Huge deal. It’s hard to convey that. Mother Theresa was told by a reporter once, “I wouldn’t do this for a million dollars.” She replied, “I would not either.” That is, what volunteering should accomplish. That is, why Amish can build a house in a day. The pride is the pin and the T-shirt and the Instagrammable pose. The worth is when you don’t need that stuff and see them with love.
thanks Kenzie.wow, Mother Theresa was an amazing woman. Hugs and love xox
I think our paths have come to an end. Again. Take care.
Huh? š¤·š»āāļø
You pick the safest sentence to respond too. I want dialogue. Argument. Be wrong. Be right. I’m just, not this. Bye. You’re in good company.
Sorry Kenzie, Iām not the arguing type. Glad you stopped by and i do appreciate your thoughts and perspectives. Have a great night. X
I just, like blogs with, conversations. Possibly even an action from its contributors. It seems at times all the comments are compliments to you. Totally taking away from the hard subjects. Homeless have nothing. Literally. To receive even one compliment for something you haven’t really done yet. I don’t know. Seems wrong. I just can’t be a part of it anymore.
Thereās a poem, Delight in Disorder by Robert Frost. You should read it. Iām sure youāre a sight when glammed up, but the picture of you in tonightās post is perfect. Take a tip from a guy who shied away from some gorgeous women, because I was too intimidated by them.
I met Meredith Baxter once. My heart was about beating out of my chest when I walked up to her ā I really had to psych myself up just to walk across the room ā but by the end of our short conversation, it turned out she had been yearning for someone to just walk up and talk to her like a person! I found out later that I made HER night.
Remember; youāre that Tiffany lamp with God lighting you up from the inside. No amount of makeup and hair spray will ever match that kind of beauty. Go with what you do best; be the BeautyBeyondBones we all know. Clean, smiling, and some nice casual clothes. God does the rest.
Caralyn, Iām sitting here with tears in my eyes. I donāt know exactly why other than I know something of your experience. Read about an Elaborate Plan https://jeffreyhking.wordpress.com/2015/12/28/elaborate-plans/ that played out 2-1/2 years ago.
I was cheering inside that you maybe followed him out, bought him some food, etc. But as I thought that I also worried what could happen to you if you did; attractive, not especially strong ā outside of hugs! ā who knows how that might have ended.
I think the soup kitchen idea is a great one. Itās a controlled environment, safer than going on a Lone Ranger mission! Remember the old guy you wrote about months ago that bent your ear at the deli counter? Who knows when youāll meet another one of those?
There might even be one or two cute volunteers or staff guys there!
Iāve been enjoying Bloom and, as youāve seen, been writing some offshoot thoughts when I can find something different to say on the same situation. And of course always ending with a pitch to buy your book! I hope youāre seeing a bump for it!
Hey Jeff! Wow what an awesome story about Meredith Baxter! And gosh, thank you for that beautiful encouragement. You seriously are so kind, Jeff. I look forward to reading that article. And youāre right – no Lone Ranger missions for me š yes! Thatās exactly what my dad said about the guy volunteers! Haha thank you. And yes! I did notice that! Thank you!!! Alright hope youāre having a great night! Hugs to you and Julie!
FYI – Woke up early today…?!?!? Went over to Patreon to listen, but there’s no recording. The posting is there, title, picture and all, but no recording.
Really?!! Thatās so strange! Iāll look into what the heck is going on!
[…] Here is a young woman who has captured the essence of humility in telling the story,Ā Walk The Talk. […]
Thanks for the link up! Hugs and love xox
Thank you for your brutal honesty. I think weāre all broken in different ways, but thatās how the Light gets in.
Please tell me, did anyone come to the manās aid or were people too shocked to? I really hope someone felt moved enough to offer him some food, or new shoes or a warm coat. Of course, me commenting after the fact is very different to being there.
Thatās how the light gets in! I love that so much! Thanks for sharing this thoughtful response. Unfortunately he bolted out the door before anyone really knew what had taken place. So just prayers for the man. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Love reading your blog!
Thank you so much! Hugs and love xox
Oh tāhis post just hit me right in the heart. It is so beautifully written and I can truly feel your soul through your writing. Thank you for your honesty and transparency <3
Aw thank you so much! Iām so glad it hit home with you. Hugs and love xox
Yes! we must remember values will adjust to your circumstances in that moment you decide the answer to God’s question “Am I my bothers keeper” Now husband hunting! well from what I see that wouldn’t be bad list to be on
haha thank you. and thank you for your thoughtful response. Hugs and love xox
I just want to say thank you for your post. I am going through some pretty uncomfortable transitions right now and I needed this eye opening reminder that continuing to be kind even when everyone else around me us not, is just what I needed. As a person also in recovery, it is necessary to remain humble. We are all His children. Thank you.
thank you so much or haring your story. i’lll definitely be keeping you in my prayers. you’re right – we are all His children. Hugs and love xox
Nice message. Thank you.
thanks friend. i appreciate it š Hugs and love xox
You are truly an inspiration and a vessel of beauty inside and out.
Thank you so much for this reminder. Have a lovely day. š
oh my gosh what an incredibly kind thing to say! thank you so much! biggest of hugs to you xox
I like your pictures do you have a photographer ? I wish to have a photographer friend .
Thanks! Haha no i wish i did!! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Beautiful post. We all have our broken parts.
Thank you friend. Youāre right – we all do. Weāre all in this together. Hugs and love xox
I heard a similar story in a book I read, don’t remember the name of the book, but the story stuck. A man was on a train with his kids, the kids were being what he considered to be a tad obnoxious, even disrespectful. The story teller was relating how he was judging this father for not having control over his kids and judging him as a father in general. Wisdom caught him before he spoke and instead, he started a civil conversation with the dad. He found out, they had justy come from the funeral of their mom and the young boys were acting out a bit – not really knowing how to express their grief – and the dad, grieving also, did not have it in him to discipline them being they had just come from the funeral of their mom. The moral, is learn the story first – do it with genuine interest with a sense to help, not condem. God Bless!!
thanks so much for sharing this. oh wow, that’s such a powerful story. you’re right – learn the story first! Hugs and love xox
The conviction is real in this post!
thanks TR!! glad you stopped by! big hugs xo
Great post! Thanks for sharing. I love the small moments of clarity and perspective shift and I love reading about them, too!
thank you so much! definitely had my eyes opened, that’s for sure Hugs and love xox
Beauty Beyond Bones is one incredible blog. This post is one of the many reasons why. I pray that God provide a time that we can be together my friend. Your heart is a Godsend. Thank you.
gosh, thank you so much Daniel. I really appreciate that. what a kind thing to say. hugs to you xo
Phenomenally poignant post – so powerful! You are amazing xo
Thank you so much!! So glad you enjoyed it š big hugs xox
Big hugs back to you! xo
āØšāØ
I wanted to say, I related this story, because I have and still do at times the same thing. I automatically think many time “Don’t they know any better!?” Rather than, I wonder what’s causing them so much pain. Love and hugs to you to!
Thanks for sharing that. Glad this hit home with you! Hugs and love xox
What are you looking for in a husband? :^)
A good man š
A godly one: Love God and Love People š
Yes!
Very well written.š
Please visit https://www.pku9798.wordpress.com to see my latest posts.
Thankyou.
Thanks
What a beautiful testimony. I did something similar and I immediately rectified it. I’ve sung in church choirs for ages. Most of the choirs (with the exception of our church in SC, have been in a “choir loft”. Well, as you might know, most protestant churches have a loft, but its actually a balcony for more seating. The church we’ve been in since 2000 hasn’t had a true “established choir” for quite some time, but an organist, and those of us who go up and sing. On occasion you get people in our church who “come up” and find out that its the singers who are there, and not just “other parishioners”. When that happens you want to act hospitable, but at the same time you feel like “this isn’t a free balcony, either join us in singing or don’t come up”. Well one time, some years ago, it was before Mass, and a couple with a baby came up. I was in the middle of the loft and blurted out “this is just for singers”. Well after they left I felt VERY remorseful and went down and shook their hands personally during the sign of peace and told them that they could come up whenever they wanted. You are right, we aren’t “privileged”. We are all God’s children and we need to give from our hearts. I hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving and its always wonderful to read your posts. Hugs and love!! xoxoxoxo
Thank you so much Migueltio for sharing this. Wow what a story. Amen – weāre all His children! Hugs to you xox
xoxoxoxo
xoxox š š š xox
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
You are a gift that this world is blessed with!! xoxoxo
Gosh i am humbled by such generous words. Thanks again Hugs and love xox āØšāØ
There is a light about you this Advent and Christmas that shines brighter than the whole of the holiday lights in all 5 NYC Boros!! The amazement of The Rockefeller Tree is no where near the amazement of all that is you!! xoxoxoxo š š š sosososo
Oh my gosh Migueltio – you are too kind! i’m blushing! Hugs and love xox
Your blush is beautiful. xoxoxo
hahaha
š
Thank you. I am grateful that church gave the man some warmth and company, at least he left filled with the blood of Jesus. š
Thanks so much friend. Thatās so true! He left filled with that! šš¼ glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox
<3
Thanks friend š have a great night! Hugs and love xox
I so enjoy your posts. They are so full of real life — where God likes to get our attention. And you have hit on the secret of Jesus… He was truly able to put Himself in the place of the downtrodden and miserable — it was the source of His compassion. It was WHY He was so compassionate. And maybe it is one of the reasons why His ministry was so laden with power. God is never distant from our pain. He is truly in the midst of our pain. And when we turn compassionate eyes to the lowly and hurting, we find we are loving with the the Heart of God. Thanks for your words, your dedication, and your honesty. God is blessing you in ways you cannot yet see… M. A.
Oh my gosh MA, thank you so much for this beautiful response. Youāre so right – He is with us during our pain and suffering. What a comforting thought. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox
I caught myself the othe night, judging another woman for a relationship she was in. I absolutely had no right to sit there and talk about where she was with God. This blog post reminded me again about my behavior!
Thanks Shelie, for sharing your thoughts. I definitely have been there. Glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox
I enjoyed my visit, friend!
š i’m so glad š hugs xoxo
God has that way of gently convicting us, doesn’t he? What a great insight.
He really does!! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
[…] via Walking the Talk ā BeautyBeyondBones […]
Thanks for the link up! Hugs and love xox
Sometimes that still small voice can truly grab our attention and shake us to our very core. How sweet of you to remind that we have all allowed those thoughts to enter our thoughts, but how wise of you to not allow them a foothold….blessings…xoxo
Hi Ann, thank you so much for this thoughtful response. Youāre so right – that still small voice. Hugs and love xox
Thank you dear. That was truly enlightening as always.
Thanks Jim, I appreciate it. Hugs and love xox
Wow amazing post. Definitely coming back to check out more!
Thank you so much Magela! So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox
I’m new and I’m already hooked. I enjoyed this post thoroughly, truly inspiring on many levels!
Aw thank you so much! Iām so glad you enjoyed it! Hugs and love xox
Wow – you got some good comments on this post. I started looking through the comments wondering if you got any marriage proposals, then I said to myself; nah – she probably is having as much luck as I did finding a single lady at Church. I met my wife bowling of all places š¬ So, I work in public service and believe me, my faith is tested every day – Iāve seen it all: murder, abuse, drugs, violence, and you name it. You hit an important message here – if change is ever going to happen, we ALL have to āwalk the walkā. Have you seen the story about the couple that helped the homeless guy with the Gofundme page? Thatās kindness in action. God bless
Thanks so much! Yeah i love reading everyoneās thoughts and perspectives. Haha oh my gosh thatās too funny!!! My mom thinks Iām going to meet some through my blog! Haha And bowling! ā how awesome! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
You too š
āØšāØ
You need to be syndicated.
There does not exist any chance whatsoever on this planet in this galaxy you will not end up writing for a living and become a household name. As Forest Gump said….”That is all I have to say about that.”
The media is jam packed full of people, big name people who cannot write like you.
Keep GOING. The good you are doing cannot be measured in this life.
xoxo
Roland
Oh my gosh Roland you are too kind! Seriously, what an incredibly kind thing to say. I am truly touched. Big hugs to you friend xox Ps- i love Forrest Gump š
Beautifully written! Thanks for being transparent.
Thanks so much Kimberly! Big hugs to you xox
A great post – very thought provoking. I love how quotes (whether religious, literary or philosophical) can change our perceptions.
Thank you so much friend. I do too! Hugs and love xox
Wow.. That was awesome. God has a way of hitting us upside the head and convicting us. He got your attention. Even though your intent was one thing, God turns everything to good to those who love him.
Thanks so much Dave! Yes He definitely does! Big hugs to you xox
Hey, great blog post, I like the way you write, quite humorous and then serious, it fits well! It’s amazing how (including myself here) everyone is quick to judge, but when we have Jesus inside of us, He kinda “puts” us in that position, you know, makes us think, “what if that was us?” Then that is how we share the gospel to them, because we can relate somehow (if you get what I mean! :P) – I’ll pray for that homeless chap š xx
Thanks so much! Iām so glad you enjoyed it! and Iāll for sure join you in that prayer. Hugs and love xox
This reminds me of something I read in my devotional (Our Daily Bread) the other day about looking at others through the eyes of our own humanity. It’s an apt lesson, and I’m not surprised to see it again, maybe I’m also being nudged. “Listen Tosin, listen!”
Thank you so much Tosin, i appreciate your thoughts on this! I definitely think you are being nudged! Hugs and love xox
I enjoyed reading your post. It’s easy to forget how lucky we are and the little it would take to tip us over the edge. Thankfully Father knows we are human and forgetful. Very thought provoking and honest. Perhaps you might enjoy my blog which you can find here. http://teachingsoftheholyspirit.blogspot.co.uk
Thank you so much! Youāre so right – He gives us grace. Hugs and love xox
I really loved this post! When we can see others through the eyes of empathy, we’ll begin to see that we’re not all that different. Thanks for the reminder…
Thanks so much! Amen to that! Hugs and love xox
The post itself struck me, but there was a deeper message that was revealed as I continued to read. Genesis 3:1 (NIV) states “Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the LORD God had made…” He’s so crafty, in fact that you having come from “…the position of privilege…” actually despised/fought against the blessing of abundance (e.g. food, family support, ease, etc.), rejecting the privilege as the enemy desired to make you destitute on many levels at the same time.
Many of us, having come from “educated” families and “stable” homes, have been used by the enemy to reject the privileges (blessings) the Lord has given us–usually in the form of somehow walking away from the love and stability given us. Drug addiction, porn addiction, low self-worth, suicide, etc. are some of the primary things I’ve observed over the course of my life to this point.
Interestingly, many poor/homeless/needy individuals become quite pissed off that those who seem to be privileged squander/reject the blessing of privilege. They then become angry to the point of belligerence when in the company of those deemed “privileged.” This individual then commits crimes (sins) against his/her own body, against others, against property, etc.
So, through the enemy’s craftiness, the privileged individual rejects the blessings given to him/her, and the poor/needy individual, feeling rejected by others and by God possibly, fights against the world–including his/her own body–all because of the enemy’s impact.
Thank God for His grace so that at some point we wake up to see the truth through Christ’s eyes as you were blessed to see.
Thank you so much for this thoughtful response. Thereās a lot of powerful food for thought here. Thatās a great point never to reject our blessings. Hugs and love xox
Even when we are just being religious and not really looking for God, our Lord never stops pursuing us. Thanks for the reminder.
Thatās such a great point Jim. Thanks so much! Hugs and love xox
I have come here via āMitigatingn Chaosā and how glad I am that I did. Those wake-up calls are only for those who are prepared to listen which shows you to be a wise and decent young woman who has clearly had her own trials in life. Would that others learned and stopped the pervasive pong of prejudice from ruling them but rather understood that there but for the Grace of God go every single one of us. I have a dear friend who is fond of saying āwe are all only two steps from the gutter as we walk down our roadā. Thank you – this is a most excellent piece.
I am not a religious person myself and am often disturbed by the horrible things that are supposedly done in the name of religion, but your posts always remind me of what the role of faith is truly supposed to be.
Thank you so much Ashley. That seriously touches my heart. Iām so glad that my posts resonate with you. Thank you for reading! Sending big big hugs xox
i enjoyed this…
Thanks so much, Iām glad your did! Hugs and love xox
As always you hit the mark with your blog. Thank you for reminding us all that we are all broken and in need of help from one another. Man blessings to you.
Thanks Loretta. I really appreciate your kind words. And thanks again for reposting! Hugs and love xox
May I repost this on my blog site: http://www.lorettaschoen.com?
Absolutely! Iād be honored. Thank you! Hugs and love xox
Yes, mercy triumphs over judgment; but,we are called to be shrewd and cunning and discerning in what we say and do.
This generation of believers faces a spiritual “minefield” in our daily walk. I pray often for God’s wisdom. I pray for the Kingdom family as well. Thank you for sharing your honesty.
Thanks so much Gary. Youāre right – itās a minefield indeed!! Iāll join you in those prayers. Hugs and love xox
So much truth in this! You are right – we are all the least of these, though our privilege often obscures that fact. Great lesson!
Thank you so much Heather:) youāre right- sometimes we canāt see it through our blessings. Thanks for stopping by! I hope youāre having a great week! Hugs and love xox
I heard that gospel too, and I applaud you for your compassion. But I do wonder. Suppose the baked don’t want to be clothed? Are you then inflicting charity on them and taking away their right to choose? Is that worse than doing nothing? Is it then more charitable to leave them alone?
Thank you so much friend. Thatās definitely something to mull over. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox
I appreciate how honest you are about expressing your true feelings. Thanks for sharing this. I love how you shared a real life example of the Gospel, God gives us those everyday. You were blessed to have seen that.
Thank you so much D. I appreciate your kind words and support. Youāre right – He gives us examples every day. Hugs and love xox
Thank you so much for this thoughtful response. only two steps – what a powerful thought. Hugs and love xox
Excellent post and a great reminder that we oftentimes need to take a step back and show everyone the grace they deserve despite their outward appearance and *sometimes* unthinkable actions. I appreciate your honesty and really loved/needed this post today! Hugs. xoxo
thank you Brittney! you’re right – we need to show that grace for sure. glad you stopped by! big hugs xox
I had a somewhat similar experience recently. I was in an AA meeting, and a drunk man walked in. He was silent for a while, and then he stood up and began shouting nonsense. I tensed, preparing to stand up and confront the guy and usher him out, all the while thinking, “You don’t need to be here, you’re ruining this for everyone.” Really?! Where else should a drunk be besides an AA meeting? He obviously needed help. I’m so quick to judge and think about my own comfort. Three years ago, I was that man…I just didn’t interrupt meetings. There but for the grace of God go I….
Thanks Robert, for sharing this experience. I canāt imagine the tension that must have sparked. Yeah Godās grace is sure incredible. Hugs and love xox
What a lovely post! You are truly blessed with insight and wise beyond your years. Bless you and your family at this holy time of the year.
Pat
Thank you Pat. I really appreciate such a generous affirmation. Hugs and love xox
Very honest, a touch of humility in this proud world it’s like a ray of sunshine.
Thank you GI, that really means a lot. Hugs and love xox
Wow! As someone who used to live in NYC, this really hits home… your words speak so much. I needed to read this ^_^ Thank you.
Hi Kevin, thanks so much. Glad it resonated with you. Hugs and love xox
Thank you for the reminder. I, too, heard the same Gospel reading this past weekend.
I’m convicted.
I want to hear, “Come, you who are blessed by my Father, inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world.” But have I done anything of the things that come with that inheritance?
Time for me to wake up!
Thanks Ed. Yeah me too! Itās definitely time for the world to wake up! Hugs and love xox
Wonderful insight, thanks for sharing. As I work with formerly homeless I continue to be surprised at their surprise at how similar we are. After working all day with one man on a carpentry project he exclaimed, “You’re just like me!” and he was so right, alcoholism, shame, and even darker addictions had kept me prisoner all my life and when he saw that it was like he had permission to be broken and still be human. It really hit me because I saw the same thing, something that I always have to remind myself of and pray about, I’m broken but made beautiful through His sacrifice.
Thanks friend. Wow what powerful work you do. Youāre right – we are all made beautiful through Him! Hugs and love xox
Like others noted, your honesty is so powerful! Plus you write eloquently! Thanks for the wake-up call to notice and really SEE those around us.
Thank you friend. I am so touched by your kind words. Yes!! Hugs and love xox
Good Morning Caralyn. You did it to me again! š I didnāt have a chance to read your post last night, so I read it this morning, while sitting in the car dealership, waiting for the shuttle ride home while the vehicle gets winterized. By the time I finished reading, tears were welling up inside my eyes, so it is a good thing the driver arrived, and asked who was waiting for a ride, and broke through my thoughts.
As you mentioned the gentleman in church, it reminded me of many people I know in our area who suffer in a variety of ways, from drug or alcohol abuse, many from mental challenges, and some from neglect and physical abuse their entire lives. Although I donāt know if any actually entered a church and drank the wine during a communion service.
I know all these people from years of doing street ministry in our downtown core, volunteering in a Drop In Centre, as well as being part of a new church in the core for the abusers, disenfranchised, working girls, hurting people etc.. So as I read your post, I was thinking of many of them, and their lives and hurt.
A number of years ago, we had a speaker at our church who impacted my life greatly. She worked among homeless etc. in the province of British Columbia here in Canada. She shared also about looking at each person through the eyes of Jesus, but then as well, to look at each person as being Jesus, because He loves them, and is calling each one to Himself, so His Spirit can indwell each.
Thank you Caralyn, for being a servant of Jesus Christ, who is using your talents and gifts to honour Him, as you Bless and encourage many.
God Bless You Abundantly,
Luv and hugs. šš¹ā¤ļøš
George
Hey George, thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. wow, that sounds like a really powerful speaker. that’s so true – we need to see Jesus in every single person. Thanks for your wonderful encouragement. it really means the world. big hugs to you xox
I loved this post! Just heard a sermon on how we all are the same with the same sins. And we are not better than ANYONE else we see, although we are pretty good at judging that, thinking we are better then someone else. And GOD humbles! Isn’t it wonderful how GOD can convict us right then and there…….right before our very eyes! Let us be discerning of when HE does and be intentional about how we live out HIS GOSPEL!
thank you so much!! what a kind comment. you’re right – God humbles and really does give us a straight message right there. thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox
I love that God is always there to guide our hearts and our thoughts with gentle reminders and signs through his word. It is so easy to forget to stay humble and to remember that we have been at the bottom at one point or another… and it is so easy to forget that we are all God’s children. Love this post!
hi friend, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. that’s so true! we are ALL His children and deserve love and respect and dignity š Hugs and love xox
Happy Hunting š
haha thanks Jay! hugs x
I’ll keep my eyes open upstate š
Haha thanks! Iāll take all the help i can get!! Haha have a great afternoon! X
Such a powerful story. We are all beautifully broken and wonderfully accepted – thanks for sharing so honestly ššš¼
thanks so much Stuart! so true! hugs to you xox
Hi ! I love your post! As I was reading it, I was sitting in awe about my next blog being so similar to your words of judgement. I was sitting last night thinking that I will write next about judging and how we can start to reach out to those in need instead of shunning upon them. We may just say something or do something that changes their life. Great words!
hey friend! oh thank you so much. sounds like it’s going to be a great post! Hugs and love xox
Great Post!
thank you so much! Hugs and love xox
Such a needful truth and convicting reminder right there! Thank you for your beautiful transparency. ~ D.
hey Debbie – thank you so much for your kind words. big hugs to you xox
One thing about it, Jesus did not turn him away did He? He gave to him all which was contained in the Chalice. Far more than wine was there.
You know one time in my perish we have this mentally impaired person. He and I have set on the same pew forever. I love him with all of my heart.
Well long story short, whenever he would go up to receive the Chalice, he would drink it all. This made some in my Church a little “nervy” to say the least, so the family would get behind me to walk with him, and they explained what was going on. After about a week of thinking about this, I called the family and gave them my thoughts.
For one we sit in the back so there is hardly anything left in the first place, so that meant all those in front of us were “chugging it down.” He is always behind me and if there is one teaspoon left for me, that is a lot.
Another, how blessed are we that we are not like G. If Jesus so chooses to give every single ounce of Himself to him, so be it. I also said, “If he was in my care, he and I would sit in the front and be the first one’s up there and I would tell him, “Have at it!” “Drink all you want!”
From that day on the family quit getting in between he and I. The woman of the house said, “You have really made me think differently about this.” So we never know do we, what Jesus has in mind? Love you and God Bless, SR
you’re right about that – far more than wine was there. thanks for this powerful perspective. i really appreciate your sharing your experience, SR. and that’s so true – we never know what Jesus has in mind. so glad you stopped by. big hugs x
I really enjoyed your story. Thank you for sharing this and opening our eyes and hearts more. ā¤ļø
thank you so much friend. i’m so glad you enjoyed the post. big hugs to you xox
Church is an excellent place to husband hunt. š
I must admit I’m not that tolerant of foolishness. I’d have been up out of my seat and helping the homeless man out of the back door before he finished chugging the sacramental wine.
I firmly believe that Yeshua did not want us to be indiscriminate in our judgment. Each of us, children of Heavenly Father, has the divine spark (and therefore divine potential) within us. So we cannot “judge” where someone is going in the eternities; heaven, hell or somewhere else.
What we can, and should judge, is whether someone’s actions are constructive and at least generally good or whether they are bad.
Homeless man would have found himself outside before he had a chance to realize what happened. š
hahah thanks James. you’re right – church is a *great* place to find a spouse š That’s so true – we all have that divine spark. thanks for stopping by. big hugs x
“Do not neglect to show hospitality to strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.” Heb. 13:2
Thanks for the reminder!
Thanks so much Edward! what a powerful verse. big hugs xo
Thanks so much for sharing. So true! Isn’t it amazing when God hits us over the head with something? I was just thinking that I’d really like to share some of my faith in my next blog – something I haven’t done before. So refreshing to read you sharing yours so openly. So thank you! I found real encouragement in this.
thank you so much friend. oh i think you should go for it! i would love to read your words about it. i’m in your corner and cheering for you!! so glad this resonated with you š big hugs xo
I’m not a Christian myself, but this certainly does resonate with me. I’ve been self-conscious of my body image for all my life, and the way that people saw me. Since realizing how that influenced my mindset and behavior, I’ve always tried my best to see the same of others: we have all been in situations when we are not at our best. And as difficult as it can be to step out of a mindset that condescends and scolds instead of one that tries to understand and love, it can and should be done. The poor and the homeless are often the ones that are looked down upon and are given the least amount of understanding. I wish that people would realize what you are speaking of here, whether it is because God hits them over the head or simply because of empathy. Thank you for sharing this!
Thanks Aarti! Iām so glad this resonated with you. Youāre so right – understanding and empathy are two things the world could use a lot more of! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Great post and yes we are all broken at one time or another. By the way you look beautiful in the picture!
Thank you so much! Gosh thatās kind of you to say š have a great night! Hugs and love xox
This post is awesome, because it encompasses the UGLY and BEAUTIFUL of the humanity that is in every one of us. Your authenticity and relatability (I believe) are why people are driven to your blog. Donāt lose that ministry heart š
Gosh thank you Brent. What a kind thing to say:) youāre right – both of those are in each and every one of us. Hugs and love xox
Beautiful.
Thanks Jen. I really appreciate it. Hugs and love xox
Thanks for your honesty! It is very easy to judge others. I am not sure how I would have reacted to the incidence at the church. I love could easily reacted the way you did. I love how you help us to see Jesus in him and in you when you were struggling. Your message needs to be spoken every where. I am glad many have seen this post. I am touched that you take the time to respond to each person. Blessings Roland š
Thanks Roland! Gosh youāre kind to say that. Yeah it was a pretty sobering experience all the way around. So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox
Wonderful post!
I often ask God to give me eyes like his, so I can see people the way he does. For who they were created to be and not for who they are without Jesus. It is very true that we are all broken, like broken vessels, in some way or another at the feet of Jesus. Yet, he is the one to mend us and heal us with his love and mercy and patience, all the time: he never fails. He is the potter and we are truly, the clay.
Thank you so much. God bless you!
Thanks friend. That is so beautiful. We really are all at the feet of Jesus. What a comforting thought. Hugs and love xox
Soup kitchens are also a good place for husband-hunting. In fact, anywhere that you’re doing something you feel is important … The numbers may be small, but how wonderful to find someone who thinks your important things are important too!
Thatās such a great point! š hehe thanks for his thoughtful response. Big hugs xox
Honestly my immediate pervading thought was, “Isn’t this the kind of heart that could stand to gain so much from sharing in the blood of Jesus?”
And I get it – religion isn’t a friend to the least of these. I know that’s a harsh indictment but it’s true; religion–what we’ve made of religion in the west, anyway–would rather give that soul the fifty-thousand-steps-to-gaining-the-acceptance-of-Jesus (never mind his affections) because it puts the least of these into two categories: easily-ignored ‘willful sinners’, or reformed saints with the humanity of Jesus scrubbed out of them.
Sorry, I actually didn’t mean to go on that rant! Haha.. stay tuned for a more interesting comment on your last Wednesday post š
I love that Jesus keeps revealing himself to you in the unlikely. Watch for him, and you’ll see him where you never expected (:
Hey Carson! Thank you so much. Yeah, weāve always got to keep our eyes open for Him. And what a powerful perspective. Thanks for sharing. Hugs and love xox
What a story! Loved reading it!
Thanks friend! Hugs and love xox
What a lovely kindred spirit experience, BBB. Your honest sight is precious, whether looking at yourself, Jesus, or your neighbors. Your words echo back with enhanced meaning on the rebound. Keep preaching it.
Thanks so much – i really appreciate your encouragement š have a great Wednesday! Hugs and love xox
Just wanted to give you a shout for how much I enjoyed this blog post. You are so right, we look at ministry from the eyes of plenty instead of from the eyes of those in need. Please keep up the good work
Blessings,
thank you so much! what a kind thing to say. you’re right – we need to see with those eyes. Hugs and love xox
Husband hunting…I hope you find what you’re looking for. You seem like you have a fairly stable head on your shoulders and I think somebody who is good for you will be able to see you and want to spend forever with you. You are right; we are all broken in one way or another. I guess that comes down to “judge not least ye be judged.” I am guilty of this myself sometimes.
Best wishes with your husband hunting.
haha thank you so much š and that’s so true – we are all broken in one way or another, so who am i to judge. so glad you stopped by. big hugs x
You’re so right. I often forget that, if it wasn’t for the grace of God, I would be worse off than I am today. Thanks for the reminder!
thanks for sharing your thoughts! big hugs to you x
I like the style of your writing. Talented and popular – a great combination.
Right – dinner-time!
Laters.
Hey again friend! Thanks. Thatās really kind of you to say. Big hugs xox
Beautiful post. Very thought provoking. I, too, am guilty of hearing the Gospel and the homily without really listening to it. Thank you for sharing and for making me think and reflect.
Thank you friend. Yeah i think weāve all been there. Glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox
Looking for one thing, finding another.
yep, you may be on to something there, Von. thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox
The only thing you are is a human being. You arenāt a thug, or an uncaring woman, or a zillion other things you could call yourself. The man knew where he could get a free drink without getting beat up or arrested and he succeeded. He probably even laughed with his friends about it. You donāt need to make a promise to work in a soup kitchen. Most likely, if you were geared for it youād already be there. Jesus asks us to pray for Him to round up people for the harvest. He asks us to pray for others to do it, those who He knows are best suited for the holy assignment set before them. You might very well BE that person to work in a kitchen but judging by your posts Iāve read, I doubt it. Instead you are probably already doing what He wants you to do. When He wants you to do something He will set it in front of you, leaving no doubt. Of course I doubt Heād say ānoā to you if you go through with serving meals, Heāll just re-adjust His heavenly gps and move people around here and there. It will all end in victory with His glory plastered all over it.
Your posts are a delight to read. Donāt stop.
thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. you’re right – we need to pray for others, that’s such a great point. big hugs to you xox
I hope I didnāt sound harsh. I believe we can sell ourselves short sometimes, not realizing that we are already doing many things for God. I think living in a competitive society can distract us from what we are already doing by holding up a shiny, new āsomething elseā.
oh no not at all! I think you’re really onto something there š thanks again for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Proverbs 16:9 ESV
The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.
This seems appropriate.
Yesš
I loved this post! I have been in similar experiences of judgement followed by realization of how wrong I was. I kinda love it when that happens, because it reminds me that I am not all-knowing, and who is.
Blessings to you,
Carole
thank you so much Carole. amen to that! He is all knowing and has everything under control. big hugs xo
What an incredible post, actually brought a prickle of saltwater to this cynical eye. Our judgements of others only reveal our own flaws, especially when those we judge are downtrodden and persecuted and hurting, the same people Christ loved so well and liberated so perfectly.
Kudos on catching your own thoughts and turning them over so beautifully, you’re a better person than me!
Gosh thank you so much! Iām so glad it hit home with you š big hugs friend xox
Excellent post!! And a great reminder to all of us to walk in humility and to truly love our neighbors as ourselves.
Thanks Lydia! Yes! So glad it hit home with you. Hugs and love xox
I really enjoyed this read. Be blessed.
Thank you so much. Hugs and love xox
Wonderful post. Something you will remember. We are all those people.
yes – we are all those people. thanks Avery! Hugs and love xox
ā¤ļø
A very nice post š
Thank you Lydia! Hugs and love xox
Funny story, and great lesson about having an open perspective when viewing others, and their situation.
I’ve been working on being less judgemental and having better tact when talking to people when I have an issue, and my mantra lately is that when I feel like criticizing others, I’m going look inward first, and ask if it’s necessary, and also that I’m not anywhere near perfect either, and I could use that energy bettering my own character.
Thanks again š yeah thatās definitely something i need to work on too. Hugs and love xox
[…] refresh: #1: The homeless man who chugged the communion wine and exited with a ruckus. #2: The literal MIRACLE that took place […]
Season’s greetings and May God fulfill all that is in your heart for His glory,
oh thank you Benny, what a kind and thoughtful message. same to you š merry Christmas! Hugs and love xox
Powerful message, especially as I’m reading it on this bitterly cold night. Thanks for sharing your experience.
Thank you so much friend! Stay warm! Hugs and love xox
Powerful!!
Thanks again š Hugs and love xox
Back atcha Sis!
xoxo š
Yup – go give some money and time to a soup kitchen. Looking forward to your post about what it’s like volunteering x
Thanks Naomi š Hugs and love xox
[…] via Walking the Talk ā BeautyBeyondBones […]
thanks for the link up! Hugs and love xox
Wow šš
you’re on a reading roll! thank you so much! Hugs and love xox
Lots of things popped into my mind here. And Iād probably initially think the same as you.
But having being down a bad road of grief before I realised I āmisbehavedā a lot too. No one knows that manās back story, maybe he lost his job and family and had no money for a home … etc.
We donāt know how badly others have treated him before, maybe he is broken and desperate and doesnāt know how to ask for help.
Addiction is horrible, people with addictions are not in control of themselves, they donāt think straight, they need help and compassion. Sometime they automatically expect people to mistreat them so get in there first with their bad behaviour.
Thankyou for sharing this very honest post.
Thanks so much for sharing your story. Those are such great points. Hugs and love xox