**Please be aware that this post contains an image that may be triggering if you are in recovery from an eating disorder.**
Well, Victoria Beckham is in some hot water this week.
Yep,ย that Victoria Beckham. Equally known for her previous life as the enviable Posh Spice, and herย status as David Beckham’s ridiculously fashionable wife.
Honestly, just hearing her name takes me back to my elementary school obsession with the Spice Girls, and all their platform shoes, pleather, and “Girl Power”ย glory.
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Well, waking up this week to a firestorm of tweets, outraged over her sunglasses advertisements, my interest was piqued, and I had to do some investigating.
She had released a new line of eyewear frames, and the advertisements included a model who, was so emaciated, it made me lose my breath.
(I went back and forth about including the photo, as I am very aware that, as many of my readers are in recovery from an eating disorder, some may find this image highly disturbing or worse, triggering. However,ย this is a case of “a picture is worth 1,000 words,” so I am going ahead with including it.)
I’m going to be honest, my very first thought when seeing that photo was, “Dear Lord, she looks like a Holocaust victim.”
And then my brain went to, “Lord, help all the impressionable girls who see this photo.”
And then I had to close out of the image before it started doing bad things to my own recovery.
This post is not out to body shame, or to speculate whether or not thisย 29 year old model has an eating disorder.
I nearly died from anorexia. Knew every “trick” in the book. If you think I can’t tell if someone is actively engaging in anorexia or bulimia simply from looking at them, you’re kidding yourself.
But I’m not here to call out this woman.
Instead, I’d like to turn the attention elsewhere.
I remember back in high school when I was really struggling, and deep in the throes of anorexia, I used to pine after the bodies of these waif-like models and actresses, and just obsess over their thinness. Obsess is even too gentle of a word. I wouldย scrutinize them, as I would my own body. Comparing, detailing, dreaming, lusting after the sunken in cheeks and protruding bones.
I would not stop until I too, resembled the skeletal bodies I saw on the runways and advertisements.
To say that how women are portrayed in the media can have a negative effect on an impressionable young girl’s image and idea of beauty is the understatement of the century. Just ask 78 pound me.
I saw Victoria Beckham’s advertisement, and I literally started crying, thinking about that teenage girl, who is locked away in her bedroom, coveting the emaciated body of the model in that shot. Planning how she’s going to skip her next meal, or secretly exercise, all the while, loathing herself with a vehement hatred that leads one to slowly kill herself, one bite at a time. Just like I did.
My heart breaks for that hurting girl. The beautifully broken girl who doesn’t realize the incredible gift that she is to this world. The hurting girl who doesn’t realize how immensely loved she is, cherished by a God who wants nothing more than for her to thrive.
Victoria Beckham, shame on you for putting this image out there into the world. For blasting it on your Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, website, and in the magazines across the world.
You could have said No. You could have said, “This image is harmful to the minds of young girls.” But you didn’t, and the damage is already done.
This isn’t meant to drag Beckham, here. Because truthfully, the problem is bigger than any former, “Girl Power”-loving Spice Girl.
And therein lies the problem.
I’m just so sick of Tinsel Town calling themselves champions of women, and yet pushing and perpetuating these unhealthy standards of beauty.
When is someone going to have the courage to say, “This isn’t beautiful, it’s dangerous.”
This model’s body type isn’t something to aspire to, it’s a death wish.
And again, this is not meant to be a personal jab at this particular model. But for crying out loud. Someone needs to take a stand and say, this standard of beauty is killing our girls.
Because clearly, theย literal poster child of “Girl Power” in the nineties — Posh Spice, Victoria Beckham –ย who herself HAS A DAUGHTER –ย is not going to do it.
“Girl Power” my ass.
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150 responses to “โGirl Powerโ”
Love reading youโre work! So beautiful inside and out.
oh my gosh what a kind thing to say! big hugs xo
Twiggy was the poster child of my generation for the skeletal look. You did right to post your dismay.
thanks Larry, I appreciate it. Yeah, definitely dismayed to say the least. Hugs and love xox
A powerful post! Thank you for your courage and sensitivity Caralyn.
Thank you so much friend ๐ i appreciate your support. hope you’re having a great week! Hugs and love xox
This makes me sick. Good for you for calling her out. You’re a strong woman! So glad you were able to overcome so that you could reach out to those who need your help ๐
thanks Hazel, yeah it was a pretty disgusting advertisement. thanks for your encouragement. Hugs and love xox
I am glad someone is standing up against this!! its pure evil…..
thanks friend. yeah, someone needed to say something. thanks for your support. Hugs and love xox
Do this revolution and wake us all up! Teach us the power of suggestion and our responsibilities as elders to the youth and homo sensoriums in our environments. Truth out. Girl power. … and yet, no division either so human power. Does the fact that human alludes to men and it’s not huwoman offend you? Equality and harmony for all.
Human power. I like that so much ๐ thanks friend Hugs and love xox
Good job, young lady. We can not believe what passes for beauty now – especially in Hollywood. You are right to be offended. Keep up the good work. JandM
Thank you J and M. Youโre right – true beauty is not what theyโre pushing on us. Big hugs to you xox
I don’t want to blame Victoria herself. When i worked at Target we were about to launch her clothing line an ALL of yahoo was praising her for “bringing plus size to target”.
So i go in to work and guess what we don’t have? We have baby cloths, kids cloths, even her coloring books but no plus-size. Other stores were complaining of similar issues. Target corporate’s answer was “We only ship what we think we can sell.”
Long story short, it was all target’s fault but the lone shopper probably thought Victoria Beckham herself had something against plus-sized people in certain regions of the country.
So i am going to assume someone told her “post this tweet about glasses!” and she did, not realizing that the images were as disturbing as they were.
Thanks for sharing this perspective. Yeah, there’s a lot of truth to that. And very interesting tidbit on Target. big hugs to you xox
Well written. There has been such a lot said about images like this. I hope that there is a time in the fashion industry when it is just about the clothes and not the models look!!!! Sadly as someone who within the industry i believe this time is still very much far away
thanks so much Matt. Yeah, I pray for that time too. big hugs to you xo
…just saddens me. My jaw hit the floor for a second. It is upsetting that if this young model (or anyone) were to pass away it is only on to the next. ๐
thanks for this. Yeah, it saddens me too. Gosh, heartbreaking when you look at it like that. thanks for stopping by. big hugs to you x
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Gosh, scary and sad. I have six daughters and the idea of them trying to starve themselves for this horrific standard of false beauty…Iโve always been slim, and remember people trying fatten me up before my wedding, lest I โlook terrible in my wedding dress.โ Everyone is different, but this awful comparing, and the idea that we should all be the same is so destructive. Iโve always said curves are such a beautiful part of being a woman, and that bony elbows are nothing to be saught after.
May each girl know her own unique beauty and worth, and value her individuality more than conformity to a magazine image!
Thank you so much for sharing your heart on this issue. Yes!! May each girl know those important truths! Hugs and love xox
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Oh my gosh what a kind thing to say! Thank you Tonya! Hugs and love XOXO
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To say that i like this post is an understatement. While i was reading the post i entered the hellish world of an anorexia sufferer. For the very first time i was given some insight in the suffering and i felt like calling her, taking her in my arms to carress and tell her that she is good.
An powerful post, that given your amount of followers should get to Victoria Beckham. People like you, with a profile like you, are the instruments needed to make us aware and to shout โstop here, no furtherโ.
I continue to read your blogs to gather understanding of an illness that is so common yet so not taken seriously.
The sickening urge to be slim rather than healthy is surrounding us every day every where.
I salute you, i admire you and i encourage you to continue creating awareness of something that should be unacceptable in our society.
Thank you so much Lianna. So glad this resonated with you. You have a beautiful heart and Iโm so grateful that you took the time to read and respond. I salute you my friend! Hugs and love XOXO
I hope God reveals himself to Victoria, who I remember seeing looking quite skinny in the past and invariably with a face that reflected a hardened heart. Your post is so meaningful. I am sure it touches and supports more people than you think. ๐
Thank you so much for this reflection. I hope so too! Hugs and love XOXO๏ฟผ
“Iโm just so sick of Tinsel Town calling themselves champions of women, and yet pushing and perpetuating these unhealthy standards of beauty.”
Good point! I think that’s what gets me the most in all of this … Hollywood’s double standards continue rain havoc on young, impressionable lives. Thank you for speaking out.
Thanks Rashell. Iโm right there with ya! Big hugs to you xoxo
One of my daughters has always been overly thin and underweight like the model in this picture, but it was NOT for lack of eating. She’d out eat all of us, and couldn’t gain an ounce. She was very late getting her monthly cycle. She was VERY self conscious about being underweight. It was not until we decided to take her off grain and put her on my low carb fare, which is also high fat, that she is finally achieving a healthy weight (at 16) and getting her curves. Ironically, she eats less on a low carb diet, but is gaining just the same.
Hi Linda, thank you so much for sharing your heart! My heart goes out to your daughter. Iโm so glad that youโre finding a solution that works for her! Praise God! Big hugs to you XOXO will be keeping you both in my prayers ๐
Fantastic blog! I agree with your statement noting Hollywood claiming woman power but allowing this form of self-hatred to be admirable. It can’t be escaped that we all look up to someone or something and desire to have the same image. Consumers drive it’s continuance because they purchase it which is read by businesses as successful advertising. Another comment here mentioned it is a long way off to changing this and sadly, I have to agree. It’s a vicious cycle. I personally don’t buy magazines anymore for this very reason. I refuse to give my hard earned money to any business making themselves rich off a woman killing herself for their unrealistic expectations. Even though it’s bigger than me and my dollar not spent on their product won’t dent their bottom line, it’s still a dollar less in their pocket.
Hi Allison! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this emotional issue! Youโre right, it is a vicious cycle. One that I hope gets worked out soon! Hugs and love XOXO
Yeah, the entertainment industry is by-and-large sick. If it makes money FOR THEM, they donโt care who it harms. They donโt care about societal good in general, no matter which causes they claim to champion. โShame on themโ indeed, like you say.
God is so far out of their lives, that something truly demonic has taken His place. And we all suffer for it.
Very powerful piece.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. I would have to agree. Just got to keep praying! Hugs and lots XOXO
I felt so bad for this model, these pictures are horrible, or should I say, make her look horrible. I googled her to see if all her pictures are like that. In most of the photos I found of her, as long as she wasn’t doing that shoulders hunched over pose thats so popular she looks like all the rest of these tiny little models. I kept looking for ones that I could see her shoulders, collarbone, back bone, and has quite a few where she is in swimsuits. There is one in particular,she is topless. Nothing can be seen but it was for the Edit Magazine December 2017 edition. I don’t know when that picture was taken but she looks like all the rest of the models we see, skinny of course but nothing like the sickly skeleton this beckham glasses ad made her look. I pray if she is struggling God helps her. If she isn’t then Beckham has just made her the scrutiny of the world, and they were certainly going for an unhealthy look. Just sad.
Hi Margaret thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. Yes I will join you in that prayer! The whole modeling industry needs to be Turned on its head! Hugs and love XOXO
We will have to repent in this generation not merely for the hateful words and actions of the bad people but for the appalling silence of the good people.
Rev Martin Luther King Jr
This. Is the female side of that which factors into the consciousness of beauty. But, if we saw it as attainable there would be no market. If we in our goodness, did not pick up the newest boy band. Fidget spinner. Tummy tightener. If we were judged by our merit and our character there would be no market. So. We trod from enlightenment back into the shadows of our personal inadequacies. Only later to buy the cure, somewhere.
It takes guts to summon our fears and write about them. You are special. You are loved. We must all ask ourselves, what are we doing to change this environment for our children? Why are we good for not doing, anything?
Thanks Kenzie for the thoughtful response! What a powerful powerful quote by Martin Luther King Junior! Thanks for your support it really means a lot! Hope youโre having a great week. Hugs and love XOXO
I talk with my daughters about this influence. Not in the broad sense but, like this. A new poster on the wall. New makeup. Some new underground artist. I inquire not interrogate. Try to find meaning. Build their self esteem rather than try to be, right. I only add that as a caveat for single dads that still have that wall between them and their daughters. I. Almost lost mine, not because I wasn’t listening. I wasn’t. Changing with her. Pressure does make diamonds but not kids. They are like bamboo it doesn’t matter they will grow with space and sunshine and time.
Thatโs so important to build their self esteem ๐๐ผ๐๐ผ๐๐ผ
Irving Goffman wrote that social identity is so important it overrides consequences. It makes sense here. Further, Philip Zimbardo proved that group social identity will be less moral than a single individual. The need to be social and not be excluded will pull even, rational, people into trends. Even knowingly harmful ones. I was reading something else and, this conclusion happened. You’re right about self esteem and it fits for men too. Cars. Women. Jobs. With or without any of these men are somehow lesser men.
yeah, that is a sad truth that society believes
I’m glad. You can be you. Now.
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Look up meta meditation it might help you with the night.
Okay thanks!
To mention, Sweet Angel, and a post about the importance of faith, were the final two posts I had bookmarked. I don’t write with those in mind, but it’s healthy to speak of the difficulty. (Such as of to see that picture, still.) And certainly, no reason not to receive.
Another great post from you –
Thanks David, I appreciate it. Hugs and love XOXO
I cringed when I saw the ad. That poor girl looks like a couple girls Iโve known, girls so thin I was nervous just being around them. I would be constantly in terror of them tripping and breaking like a piece of thin glass.
What has really been breaking my heart is all of the things that people are saying about her looks; none of them flattering. Everyone is going off about how thin and frail she looks as if sheโll never be exposed to the firestorm of comments. Intended or not, every comments looked and felt to me like a dagger going into her mind.
And all the women who wore black see-through styles? A real protest would have been anything modest and off the shelf. Stop with the โwho looks bestโ red carpet wars. Just wear a nice JC Penny suit ensemble or something. The Golden Globes was supposed to be about everyoneโs work so why not let the night be entirely about the workโฆand not every other womanโs golden globes teasingly on display.
Talk is cheap.
My dear, Iโm fighting off a cold and terribly congested, so maybe Iโll give Patreon a listen tomorrow. But tonight was worth some feedback.
Hey Jeff! Gosh I hope you feel better! And amen to that I too had a broken heart reading all the things people wrote about this model. She has Internet access to and can read those hurtful words! I so agreeโฆ That would be a real protest indeed! Hugs and love XOXO
My aunt died of complications due to anorexia. She was in her 50โs. Thereโs another side to anorexia that many do not see. I was morbidly obese. I was also suffering from anorexia. I would go days without eat and then when I went to eat something tiny, like a cheese cube, it automatically converted to fat storage. My body never fed off my fat stores. It was a battle to lose weight. It took years to figure out what the issue was with my metabolism and losing weight. Just a few years ago, I was finally diagnosed with PCOS. That was the source behind my incredulous weight gain. I had to learn how to eat but my dysmorphia was the hardest to change. At 200 lbs I still struggle with it.
Oh gosh friend Iโm am so sorry to hear that about your aunt. Gosh so tragic. And thank you for having the courage to share your story. My heart goes out for you and I just want to hug you for your strength in the battle. Hang in there friend. Iโm rooting for you ๐ lots of love and hugs xox
Fuck me sideways that’s Victoria Beckham??!!
In the ad? No.
Yeah the picture I can just see a painfully thin figure in pink that’s not her? Don’t pay it much attention to be honest but it just made me go “WTF?” cos it looked so WTF.
But makes sense now though now cheers! ๐
I too thought it was Victoria B. at first. Cheers back.
Hello! Is the picture in this blog the picture gaining the attention? If so, I don’t see a problem. It looks just like every picture in Vogue or any other fashion magazine. Congratulations on overcoming your eating disorder and I would never want someone who is recovering to feel the need to do unhealthy habits to be skinny. But with all do respect, some people are naturally super skinny and I just so happen to be one of them. People use to assume I had an eating disorder when really I eat more than anyone I knew. Some people can eat whatever and not gain weight. We should be able to love ourselves and not feel the need to change based on anyone else’s perception or assumptions. “Girl Power” is embracing who you naturally are whether you wear a 00 or 26. I have a daughter and I want her to know she’s more than just a size. There is no one size fits all as people come in all shapes and sizes. I’m super skinny and healthy according to my doctor. No one should have to lose or gain weight because of another’s inability to see the beauty in who they are. I love being naturally super skinny just as I would hope my naturally thick sisters love their body. We as women must set an example to young girls that we are more than the size we wear. Healthy can come in a size 00 too and I’m living proof of that. Let’s learn to embrace our natural bodies no matter what size as long as it’s healthy. I can only think what if she’s like me or any other woman that is naturally super skinny? Should they feel the need to gain weight because they are being compared to people who don’t have the same genetics and are totally different? Every woman should be able to love their natural bodies whatever size that may be. If my daughter inherits my genes, then I’m not going to pressure her to eat only to love herself and stay healthy because she’s so much more than her size. Let’s promote loving what’s natural even if it’s imperfect or not ideal. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And healthy looks good on you! Kudos to your healing. Let’s all embrace our healthy bodies whatever size that may be.
Thank you so much for this important perspective. So true. Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. That is so so true! Iโm sorry that youโve struggled with being skinny, Iโm sure that has had its hardships. Iโm not being sarcastic, Iโm being sincere. ๐ sounds like youโre a great mom. Your daughter is lucky to have you! Hugs and love xox
LMBO๐๐we all got one! God bless!
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The struggle was in replying without editing… I see so much bad grammar in my post now. Yikes! Thanks to just hitting reply without checking…have a great day!
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I completely agree with you Caralyn! Such an important message. xx
Thanks Jenny ๐ Hugs and love xox
What a disturbing photo!
I know, made me catch my breath. Thanks for stopping by Lori. Hugs and love xox
Ohoh, this is a very needed piece of writing! Good, because those practices are malicious and stupid. And going on for a far too long time.
Thank you so much Robert! Hugs and love xox
To be fair I think you can get a distorted view of what’s normal and healthy, working in an industry like that. Someone who’s immersed in fashion wouldn’t blink an eye at that image. I feel sad for the models too. Maybe 20% of them are that thin, naturally. The other 80% our torturing themselves down to unnatural weights. The whole system needs an overhaul. I think it is changing though, plus and normal sized models are becoming more prevalent.
Thanks Sierra, thatโs a really great point. Itโs good to look at it from that point of view. Big hugs xox
I totally agree!
Thanks Efua! Hugs and love xox
You’ll be forced to surrender your Feminist Cards if you continue to point out the hypocrisy of the Feminism Royalty Spectrum.
We’re living in the time of the Emperor’s New Clothes: Everyone thinks he’s the one who points out the King’s nudity, but most of them are just “pretending to see” so they won’t be thought a fool.
Thanks for this reflection Matt. Hugs and love xox
Wow. Well said.
Thanks so much Amy. Hugs and love xox
Thanks for keeping the awareness going.
Thanks Jonathan. Hugs and love xox
I am so impressed with your work…this article especially. Now a 51 year old woman… and having toyed with anorexia at a younger age…but watched my daughter experience it fully…and now going thru years of being overweight…I am starting to realize that every woman….EVERY woman struggles constantly with her body image throughout her lifetime. To have this sort of advertising shoved in our faces…just fuels the fire that rarely gets to a smoldering state anyway! Thanks for your courage to say something…and your wisdom in seeing it and in warning your readers of a “triggering” image. Even that acknowledgement from someone who has been in the depths of anorexia, says something!
I believe God knew our struggle when he wrote this… “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own.” 1 Corinthians 6:19
Thank you so much L. I really appreciate your support. I love that verse. So comforting. Thanks for sharing. Hugs and love xox
This is so well written. I wish adverts had normal healthy women in them. The first supermodels like Cindy Crawford and Yasmin Le Bon who were stunning would all be considered too fat by today’s standards and they were slim! I’ve stopped buying fashion magazines because they just encourage girls to think they need to be skinny to be beautiful.
Thank you so much friend. I really appreciate your support. Hugs and love xox
I saw this article on Daily Mail and I just shook my head. Victoria knew exactly what she was doing for she does not care about the image she represents to young girls, but the money and attention. Just more publicity for her at the end of the day.
I couldn’t have said it better.
Thanks for this reflection Diana. Yeah I wish she would have stood up for womankind. Hugs and love xox
Ugh, I totally agree. I used to pick on myself too and as a teenager struggled with body image because I idolized those women in the movies and the magazines. The entertainment industry’s double standard when it comes to women is infuriating. They promote “empowering women” while at the same time glorifying the objectification of and impossible and unhealthy standards for women in ads, movies, videos, music, etc. It’s really sad and not the standard I want my daughters to measure themselves by at all.
It really is sad. Thanks for this powerful reflection. Hugs and love xox
such a important message, this is a very needed piece of writing!
Thank you so much. What a kind thing to say. Hugs and love xox
Thanks for this. We need more people like you, advocating for healthy over skinny!
Thank you! What a kind thing to say. Hugs and love xox
The mouth speaks what the heart is full of. Thank you for your compassion and kindness expressed.
Thanks Gary, I appreciate your support. Hugs and love xox
Like you, I was appalled by that photograph. Nobody should be encouraged to look like that. And how do we teach people to love themselves? Because that’s the key, isn’t it?
Hey friend, thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. I agree 100%. Hugs and love xox
Hello how are you? All well i hope, I think I already said how much I enjoy your writing. You should be so proud of yourself you are Inspirational Well Done xxx
thank you friend ๐ Hugs and love xox
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Thanks for sharing.
Good for you telling the world and movie stars how it is. I can tell you are passionate about it.
Just wondering why your blog doesnโt have a like button?
Keep it real. So sad to know people are hurting
thank you so much Teri, I appreciate your support. hmm I don’t know! that’s the first i’ve heard that it doesn’t have a button! i’ll look into it. thanks for the heads up. Hugs and love xox
While Iโve never suffered anorexia or bulimia, I know some people who do. And seeing images like this still going around doesnโt help fix the problem at all. I really appreciate you bringing this into conversation because I feel like itโs one of many issues that we as a whole need to be discussing more often.
thank you so much Raney for your support and encouragement. Hugs and love xox
My first thought when I saw the model was that she looked depressed. As someone else has already stated, there are plenty of beautiful women at a healthy size that could be models, but the problem is the people who pick the women to represent their brands. I haven’t struggled with an eating disorder but I’ve been depressed because of the number on the measuring tape and/or the scale. As an influential woman, she blew her opportunity to tell the fashion industry to quit pushing unhealthy as beautiful.
thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. i agree. Hugs and love xox
You spoke what many are thinking, I am praying at a lot of girls read this post just to know they are not alone! Thank you for your awareness on eating disorders! Great post! Thank you! Xx
oh thank you so much! i really appreciate your kind words. I will join you in that prayer. Hugs and love xox
As a woman approaching menopause, there is also a problem with the image of that “perfect body” and de-wrinkled face the older woman should have according to society. The images of a Cindy Crawford, or Christie Brinkley in their older years has older women doing everything they can to look like them, trying to measure up. Those two women have “people” and they look the way they look partly because of genetics, but a lot of it is smoke and mirrors and a surgeon or two. I have also fallen into the trap of not embracing my aging body. I workout, eat well, just try to take care of myself…but then there is that magazine in the checkout line and Christie staring back at me in all of her “perfection” I so wish these women would come out and tell the truth, but they do make a living selling a product The more beautiful women in the spotlight are aging gracefully. They don’t look plastic or cat-like from all the tugging and pulling. Still, every now and then I also get tugged and pulled in a way. I get tugged and pulled into thinking what I need to be according to what society wants to create me to be, instead of appreciating how God created me. Then I take pause and remember that.
Thatโs such a great point. Thank you for sharing this powerful perspective. Yeah there is something so inspiring about aging gracefully and naturally. You are an amazing woman!! Hugs and love xox
Call out the model or whomever, you have that right, you’ve been there done that. Offending people is part of life, if you’re trying to stop harm to someone, you’re doing nothing wrong, and again, you have every right to call them out.
God Bless
Thanks for your support. Yeah this dangerous worship of extreme thinness has got to come to an end. Hugs and love xox
Beautifully said. And well done for finding the strength to overcome your illness.
Thank you friend. I appreciate your kind words and encouragement. Hugs and love xox
As a father the unrealistic image of beauty portrayed in the media scares me. I also worry about the importance that is placed on beauty. My daughters are smart.. That’s way more important.. Don’t get me wrong they are beautiful too.
thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. yeah I totally feel ya there! Hugs and love xox
Right on point, good job.
thanks so much GI! Hugs and love xox
Very true! So sad that some people still don’t understand that images like that are very harmful
Hey Erika! thanks for your thoughts on this. I’m right there with ya. Hugs and love xox
That is insane. I’m a hospice volunteer and when I see someone that thin I am reminded of people I have visited on hospice. Not healthy. Glad that you are in recovery.
Hey Bryce, thanks for your reflection. yeah, it’s really sad. And btw, what a powerful way to volunteer your time. that’s awesome, kudos to you. Hugs and love xox
I love the quote: Recovering is allow myself to become who I have always been.
thanks you so much ๐ yeah, that’s been my recovery in a nutshell! and also — trust Jesus haha ๐ Hugs and love xox
I think you were rescued from your life threatening choices in that era to be an inspiration to those suffering with the same mental and physical issues. I’m very proud of what you’ve accomplished. ๐
Gosh, I am so touched by that kind note. Thanks again Ian. Hugs and love xox
Thank you for sharing your journey. I hope this model is getting healthy. ๐๐
Iโve been struggling hard with my body image since being pregnant and postpartum. I sometimes get angry with myself for not having morning sickness so bad that Iโd throw up and lose weight and for gaining so much at the end of my pregnancy (really only 25 pounds but my mind…) Iโm trying not to fall back into destructive measures. This post meant a lot to me, and I wish you all the very best on your recovery journey, as I know itโs a marathon and not a sprint.
Thanks so much friend for sharing glory thoughts on this. Iโll definitely be praying for you and your pregnancy. ๐ sending big big hugs. Amen – marathon baby!!
AMEN!
Thanks! Hugs and love xox
and so it is said……….”Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never do…” words are powerful and they can hurt deeply and photos even more. Shame to those who go after the dollar, not promoting wellbeing.
Thanks. Amen to that. Hugs and love xox
Another great post! It really saddens me that we allow and encourage models who are severely emaciated. I remember reading fashion magazines idolizing these models. Now I can see how unhealthy that was. We need to stand up for the truth that women and men are created in God’s image, and are so precious to Him.
Thank you so much Emily! Amen to that. Hugs and love xox
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๐๐you may never read this comment, because you probably get hundreds a day. but i just wanted to take a comment to thank you for your blog, your ceaselessly raw truth and vulnerability and supporting this cause that is so dear to your (and my) heart. as someone in recovery from anorexia too, i couldnโt thank you enough for the motivation and inspiration and light you emit into the world. ๐๐
Thanks friend ๐ that seriously means so much. Iโm so glad that this resonates with you. Know that Iโm cheering for you as you reclaim your life in recovery! Sending big big big hugs xoxox
ahhhh iโm honored and grateful and filled with admiration! ๐ sending you endless hugs too, and i canโt wait to read your book! ๐๐
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Thanks for sharing, it is an important issue. I have a young daughter and always say to her being healthy is the goal, not how your body looks. I also reiterate to her that it would be boring if everyone looked the same, it’s the differences that makes everyone attractive. Thanks also for the like on my post – peace and blessings ๐
thank you so much for sharing you thoughts! big hugs to you x
Thanks for the like. I always like to read your blogs. Alida
thanks Alida, I appreciate that. Hugs and love xox
Girls to power, now more than ever.
We have to fight for what we want, and pursue our dream work in the best conditions. For example, women who dream of becoming a model, who struggle to enter the world of modeling.
A greeting.
thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! Hugs and love xox