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ONTO THE POST!
Well, it’s officially fall. I don’t know where the summer flitted off to, but somehow, here we are.
Pumpkin spice lattes are back with a vengeance. Chunky sweaters are being exhumed from the depths of our closets and dusted off for good measure.
But if you’re anything like me, the arrival of the chillier weather means only one thing: cuffing season.
Now, let’s be honest here…this is a recent occurrence. I haven’t always been a gal that lets my romantic longings be influenced by a calendar happenstance.
But, here we are. Welcome to life as a single millenial.
According to urban dictionary, “The cold weather and prolonged indoor activity causes singles to become lonely and desperate to be in a serious relationship, aka cuffed.”
I nearly spit out my Le Croix when I read that definition. So accurate it’s funny.
But I was out with my friends this weekend, and I’ve gotta say: in regards to a romantic prospect…it was painfully dismal.
Not for a lack of attempts. And except for a 22 year old model that couldn’t yet grow facial hair, I was completely uninterested.
And another thing, you go to a bar and everyone is preoccupied with their phones. It’s like…Come on! Can’t you do that at home? Look up from the screen and be social, dang it!
I don’t know. Maybe it was just an off night, but there just weren’t any guys who caught my fancy.
And, riding home in my Uber that night, I was a bit discouraged. I mean, let me set the scene here: “going out” with my friends now is not just a social endeavor anymore. I am husband hunting. I am on the lookout: dressed to the absolute nines. Hair done. Nails “did.” If tonight’s the night that God’s going to bring Him into my life, Dang it, I am ready.
But lurching and swerving across Manhattan through traffic on Houston St, I came to a very powerful realization.
Earlier that night, I had been surrounded by such wonderful friends. These people bring so much joy to my life, and truly make my heart so full of love and exuberant light. I am blessed beyond measure.
But it got me thinking: Here I was, surrounded by all these incredible relationships that God put into my life.
You all know my story, and how I completely shut people out of my life in isolation for a good two years during my anorexia. And so as a result, friends are precious to me. And driving home, taking an inventory of all those incredible people who God has placed in my life, it is incredible. Gets me choked up to think of how good He is, and how, like a good Father, He has provided exactly what I need and more.
He has fulfilled my heart’s desire for fellowship with friends, and helped me bloom and restore that part of my life to the absolute fullest. He provided exactly what I need.
What makes me doubt that He’s not going to do the exact same with my future husband?
If that’s how abundantly God provides when it comes to my friends, just imagine how He is going to provides when it comes to my soul mate.
How could I be so doubtful in His generosity and control of all things?
God loves to give us everything we desire in our hearts. He loves to provide in abundance. I need to quit being so impatient, and just trust that God is working things behind the scenes. I’ve never once questioned God’s ability to bring relationships into my life thus far. Why start now?
Look around, Caralyn. I am surrounded by friends and loved ones who have all been hand picked by the Father, to set my spirit free, and tap into the part of my heart that desires to be loved and known.
The part of my heart that, one day, will be made complete by my future husband.
I guess I am still growing. Still learning, healing, evolving. God will bring Him into my life when I am ready by His standards.
I trust that.
He’s never let me down. Not once. His timing is always perfect. Always for a purpose. Never rushed. Always on time.
I need to stop letting my heart by influenced by what the earthy calendar dictates, and instead, find peace in His timeline. Because at the end of the day, “cuffing season” is a stupid concept, anyway.
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