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Well, in case you’re locked in a bunker somewhere and don’t know…it’s Pride Month.
I’m sitting here writing this from my Greenwich Village apartment in Manhattan, and I’m looking out my window at – I kid you not – probably 25 different rainbow flags flying from the various brownstone buildings and businesses.
The entire country is gearing up for the Pride Parade. Companies like Coca Cola, Chipotle, Nike, Disney, Dr. Martens, Bud Light and just about every other media/consumer conglomerate have adopted rainbow logos, LGBTQ+ positive slogans and campaigns. It’s as though there’s a competition to see who is the most “woke.”
And as someone who lives a hop, skip and a jump from the Stonewall Inn in NYC, believe me when I say I fully respect and understand the importance of June 28, 1969.
I’m going to be really honest: every Pride Month, I’m faced with this internal battle of: do I dare address the topic on my blog? Or do I just let it go? And every year, I cower back, afraid to touch this topic with a 12-foot pole.
But not this year.
Because this year, more than ever, it is so apparent:
We are worshipping at the altar of our own sexuality.
And believe me – this, coming from a heterosexual virgin…the irony is not lost on me.
This year, more than ever, it seems that there’s been this explosion of identity: people are, not so nonchalantly, making known their individual sexuality. “LGBTQ” is no longer adequate nomenclature. In 2019, it has expanded to: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Transsexual, 2/Two-Spirit, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, Ally, Pansexual, Agender, Gender Queer, Graysexual, Demisexual, Polysexual, Cisgender, Bigender, Gender Variant, Gender Non Conforming, Demiboy, Demigirl, Genderfluid, Onmigender, Non-binary, Nonmonosexual, and Pangender. Among others.
We have made idols out of our labels. We’re so hungry for identity, and to set ourselves apart, that we have literally created a new language and social ideology to do just that.
And before I get into why I believe that is, I think it’s important to just pause for a moment here to address something vitally important.
I think it’s really easy to look at that list of identities and, since most are – let’s be honest – probably a foreign concept to a lot of people – it’s easy to think in terms of “us” and “them.” But it’s important, as we continue this conversation, to remember that there are people — someone’s son, daughter, friend, cousin — who identify as such. And even though we, ourselves, may not fall into that camp, or have any personal experience whatsoever with that – it’s important to have this conversation with compassion and with love — recognizing the personhood, dignity and value of each individual. And to remember that there is no “us” and “them” in this conversation — there is only a “we.” A human race, children of God, who are all together on this journey towards Heaven.
But back to the why.
Why are we so hungry for that identity? Why are we so desperately trying to distinguish ourselves that we’ve created a culture that worships our sexuality?
It’s because we have strayed so far from our true identity in Christ.
We, as a society, have wandered so far into the desert of godless culture, that we’re believing the mirages we see pop up in the sand.
Now, I’m not saying that these unique sexual attractions that people feel aren’t real to that individual. Not at all.
Having same sex attraction is a very real thing. And people — no matter who they are attracted to — are all children of God. They are all worthy of love, and acceptance, and compassion.
That’s not what’s coming into question here:
It’s the sharp left turn from, “I am a person with same sex attraction,” to elevating our sexuality to deity-status. And glorifying and worshipping the labels that we’ve created to express that attraction.
And that’s where the danger lies.
Our culture has chosen to drift far, far, away from the truths spoken into us by the Father. Truths that we are unique creations of God, and loved beyond our wildest dreams. Truths that we are made for more than this world, with a plan set before us by Him. Truths that we are heirs to the Kingdom of God. Truths that we have intrinsic value, and that our lives were purchased through Jesus’ incredible mercy and grace on the Cross.
We’ve abandoned those truths that *truly* identify who we are at our innermost core.
And so as a result, we’re turning to our own carnal nature, and trying to write our own biography. And surprise, surprise — it’s distorted. Why? Because we are products of The Fall.
And because we have a distorted sense of love.
Love is no longer a self-giving expression of marriage, that mirrors Christ giving His body to the Church on The Cross.
It’s distorted. It’s a self-serving act of pleasure. Look at the multi-billion dollar porn industry. Look at the sex-robots that are now a reality. Look at the dating app, “swipe right” hookup culture that is now the norm.
We don’t love people, we use people. Use them for pleasure, for security, for fulfillment of a physical/emotional/relational/social/financial need, to alleviate loneliness. Hell, for rent money! It’s become a commodity exchange. And our grasping for some sense of sexual identity is a reflection of that.
So where does that leave us? Where do we go from here?
Because spoiler alert: the answer is not locking the shutters and throwing a poo-poo party on the parade goers, celebrating sexual identity.
It’s to be beacons of truth. Take every opportunity to remind people of their true identity in Christ — through the love, dignity, compassion, and respect you show them.
Real truth is hard to find these days anymore. But when you do discover it…it changes you.
Be that truth. Be that person that reflects one’s true identity back to themselves.
Because that is the definition of true love: pointing the other back to God.
It’s wanting the best for your partner, and ultimately, that means journeying together, towards the Father.
Be that to everyone you meet. Today, tomorrow, and for every Pride Month to come.
“This is what the Lord says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life.” Ez 37:5
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