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Just yesterday, I woke up to a really interesting article that my mother sent me over Facebook — because of course, moms love Facebook 😉
But it was really interesting — it was titled, “10 Things Our Parents Did that Parents Today Should Bring Back.” And it was filled with traditional, common sense parenting tips that somehow have gone by the wayside in our nanny cam’d, “woke” society.
But as I was reading through this list of classic – yet simple – things like: making kids play outside, and family dinners — I realized that I miss how things use to be in the Nineties — the pace of life, the simplicity, the unplugged existence.
So here are a few things I wish we, as a society, could bring back as 2020 is on the horizon.
1. Eye Contact
Now, this may seem like a head scratcher — however, I feel like eye contact is a lost art in the world of smart phones. Have you noticed that, even when you’re hanging out with loved ones — eyeballs are hard to find anymore? There’s always a screen either in our hand, or on our wrist clamoring for our attention. And sadly, this staple action of conversation and connection is getting lost.
2. Phone Calls
Now, hear me out — yes, texting is convenient and efficient, and snap chatting may be fun — but both are so impersonal. There’s something about actually hearing a person’s voice on the other end of a phone, and picking up on their inflection, and tone of voice — you just can’t replace that. Not to mention, our reliance on texting has been detrimental to our ability to hold a conversation. Let’s pick up the phone and talk to someone!
3. TV Shows that weren’t…garbage
OK – this one will be controversial, because yes — we’re living in arguably the “best” era of creative content, thanks to the digital streaming wars. BUT — in the battle for viewership, TV programs are all about how far they can push the envelope — especially when it comes to kids and teens’ programming.
Remember the TV show, Bug Juice? Or Lizzie McGuire? Their plot lines revolved around hobbies, friendship, and crushes, and there was a feel-good lesson that you walked away with. Today, kids watch 13 Reasons Why — which romanticizes suicide, and Euphoria, which glorifies drugs and sex. Why are we rushing their loss of innocence??
4. An Unplugged Existence
Now here me out — I love Instagram just as much as the next basic girl. I live for a photogenic background and a Mayfair filter. However, I’ve noticed — at least in my own life — that Instagram is really interrupting my life and my experiences. I’m constantly documenting or thinking about sharing my experiences online, and it’s effecting how I’m interacting with the people I’m actually with!! How freeing to just hang out with people and not worry about documenting it. The nineties had it right — disposable cameras for the win.
5. Being Social — IRL, not through our Phones
Ah, remember the days where you’d just show up at someone’s house to hang out? Or *gasp* invite a friend over for your family dinner?? Relationships involved real face time – (In Real Life). There’s a connection you build with someone in the flesh that just can’t be replicated through a smart phone, sorry Apple.
Now this one may seem a little counterintuitive, given the fact that we’re living in an era where people bend over backwards to be as “woke” as possible. But I’m talking about tolerance of beliefs.
Today, there is a caustic divide in our culture — republican/democrat, liberal/conservative, believer/nonbeliever. The hostility between many extreme people is just mind boggling. Relationships can be shattered, simply because two people fall on different ends of the thought spectrum. Whatever happened to respect? To seeking common ground? Being quick to listen, and trying to understand? The anonymity of being able to spew hatred from behind a screen, has turned many of us into bullies, and armchair executioners.
This attack-dog existence over politics and schools of thought — it’s literally tearing our country apart at the seams, and it needs to stop.
7. PrimeTime TV (AKA — communal watching!)
Why do I love The Bachelor so much? Because it is one of the only shows on TV that still has a communal, nineties-style watching style. It’s on at a specific time every week, people watch the show in the specific time slot, and then talk about it with their friends the next day.
There’s none of this binge-watching, spoiler-culture, which — to be fair, is awesome and I love it. But I also love having TV shows that bring people together and provide a real-time shared experience that you can then theorize and talk about the next day. It’s fun, it’s exciting, it brings people together, and I love it.
8. Respect for Christian Values
I’m not going to harp on this, but the climate in today’s secular media all but demonizes traditional morality. Christian beliefs and values are made out to be close-minded, buffoonish, antiquated, oppressive, and bigoted.
And with such a rabid “Cancel Culture,” most people that do hold those beliefs have taken them underground, so we’re left with vanilla complacency, while the “woke train” keeps barreling full steam ahead, taking society further and further into the extreme.
The nineties had it right: families played an incredibly important role in the tone and direction of society. Respect was a staple in the fabric of society. And our culture at the very least, still acknowledged that God exists.
9. Rom Coms
Oh, to have a nineties-style chick flick resurgence! My Best Friend’s Wedding, 10 Things I Hate About You, You’ve Got Mail, Clueless — I’m sorry but if I see another superhero movie, or lame attempt at a remake, I’m going to scream! Thank goodness for the Hallmark Channel, that’s all I’m saying. At least there’s one source out there that still respects a classic, boy-meets-girl-and-falls-in-love-amid-some-silly-hijinks-along-the-way type of feel-good storyline!
So there we go, I hope you had some fun reminiscing about the nineties! There was a beautiful simplicity about growing up where you played in the woods, and didn’t have a cell phone, that really speaks to me.
We’re as technologically connected as we’ve ever been, and yet somehow, more personally disconnected than ever before.
Let’s bring back personal relationship skills. And interacting with people, rather than screens. And for heavens sake, let’s take it easy with our technology addiction!
That’s all for now!
“Bye, bye, bye!“
What are some things YOU miss about the Nineties?
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