To My Father

Growing up, I had a weird fear. And actually, looking back it actually reveals a lot about me and my people pleasing tendencies.

But I was always afraid that my dad would think I loved my mom more than him, and vice versa.

I just remember always trying to make sure that things were even. The same. Equal. I never wanted to make either feel hurt or second rate.

*Surprise mom and dad! You learn something new about me every day!* ((They’re avid BBB readers 🙂 ))

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But this would transfer to holidays too. Especially Father’s Day.

I always felt bad for Father’s Day. It was like the forgotten holiday. With Mother’s Day, we were still in school so there’d be art projects galore to celebrate mom. We’d proudly present construction paper creations and little potted plants in all their homemade glory. But with Father’s Day, it was already summer, school was out, and let’s be real: it was a lot harder to make construction paper gifts for men. They like scotch. Golf balls. Leather goods. Cuban cigars. Frankly, Father’s Day kinda got the short end of the stick.

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But the thing is, Father’s Day should be the most important day. Because dads have a crucial role to fill: they are to reflect our Heavenly Father.

And granted, we all are. But fathers have the critical duty of being the closest example we – as children – have to Father God. They have the job to demonstrate what it means to be a father in every sense of the word: being loving, compassionate, honest, kind, respectful, disciplinary, fun – that is their duty.

And, I know, there are all kinds of dads out there. And it breaks my heart to think that there are people who did not grow up with supportive and loving fathers. Not everyone is blessed with a present dad. And that is tragic.

But I wanted to just take today to honor my father.

If there’s one thing in the world that fills my heart to the brim, it’s looking into my father’s eyes.

As the years go by, we both get older, I’m becoming more and more of an adult, and yet, those eyes look at me the same way as they did when I was a little girl: He looks at me, and it’s as though I am all he sees. Not my past. Not the mistakes I’ve made or the baggage I still struggle with. He looks at me with gentleness. Love. Compassion. Generosity. Forgiveness. Selflessness. Patience.

He looks at me as sees the good.

He looks at me and it inspires me to see the good in myself.

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My dad and I have had quite the history.

I have mentioned before, but with anorexia comes a lot of deception and manipulation. Secrecy is the very nature of the disease. And it pains my heart, but my dad was on the receiving end of all of that. From me. I took advantage of his immense love for me. I abused it.

But despite all of that hurt and deceit and mistreatment – he forgave me. He chose to love me. To see past that period of darkness, and see me whole. See me clean. See the goodness and worth inside of me.

That is compassion.

That is what I long to be.

That is my father living out his duty to be the example of our Father in Heaven.

The Father who is patient with my shortcomings. The Father who wants only good for my life. The Father who provides. Protects. Guides.

My dad is the earthly example of that Father.

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And, I know. He is human. He is not perfect. But he is a shining example of God’s heart as a father.

If I could go back, there are a lot of things I would do differently. Especially around my anorexia. I would say certain things I never said. Take back particularly hurtful things I did say. I would make better choices. Treat him with more respect and honor his authority. If I let it, those regrets could haunt me and plague me with guilt.

But he has freed me from that baggage. Forgiven me of it. And for that, I am forever grateful.

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So as this Father’s Day approaches, I am profoundly grateful for my dad. The one who taught me, through example, the deep and powerful love of God.

Happy Father’s Day, pops. I love you 🙂

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258 thoughts on “To My Father

  1. saying you did this and that in your anorexia are really hard and the way you said it was amazing your father is great i am too close to my father alot what about your mother ?just curious

    1. Hi friend, thank you so much for this response. I have been very blessed with two incredible parents. I’ve actually talked about my mom a lot throughout the blog, but haven’t really talked about my dad, so I just wanted to share the love on Father’s Day. Great question! Thanks for stopping by! hugs and love xo

      1. No worries!! 🙂 🙂 Yeah, my mom has been wonderfully forgiving and loving and supportive as well. She’s a rock star 🙂 Well welcome to the world of blogging! looking forward to reading your stuff! 🙂

  2. Interesting thought on the equal parent thing… have you thought about equal time for both sides of your face? You know I’ve heard that if you post just one side of your face TOO much the forgotten side dries up and falls off:P (I’ve never actually heard that, and there’s no verifiable medical evidence to back that up (that I’m aware of…o_O))

      1. Meh, you could Youtube rant w just have your face too. It would be artsy, and people would wonder if you got burned with acid, or something cool like that…

      1. Or perfect symmetry. That would be almost as hypnotic. In either case, I’d have to credit BBB with protecting us from un-Christian focus on the exterior realities.

  3. It’s quite a journey isn’t it, and so nice to arrive at a place where you can appreciate and forgive. Lovely post to your father. xo Hugs

    1. Hi Miriam, thank you so much for this reflection. Yes, it is so nice. We’re all on our own journeys so it’s nice to have people we can count on to have our backs along the way. so glad you stopped by. hugs and love xox

  4. I was always bored as a kid, but my dad always knew the solution. “Sit and twiddle your thumbs,” he would say. I was always so mad, it was too simple. But now I sit and twiddle my thumbs, just like he taught me to.

  5. He sounds like a great guy. My dad tried so hard. He wasn’t perfect, but he loved me. Sometimes I get into negative thought patterns about my family and dad. But I need to remember, he tried and that is so important. 🙂

    1. Hi Ellie! You’re so right, at the end of the day, we all are trying the best we can. Love can look a lot of different ways 🙂 sending big hugs friend. So glad you stopped by xox

  6. I love this oh so much! A little too much really. Seems like you’ve got an awesome dad and one can tell that you love him, like a lot. I always enjoy your posts! I hope you and your dad have a wonderful Father’s Day. Chow!

  7. A truly great post 🙂 Fathers are every bit as important as mothers. You are totally right also when you talk about the gifts they love even more (i.e. golf clubs and stuff) 🙂 Above all though, great fathers are the best male role models in the world as you imply throughout this post 🙂 I also love how you connect great fathers to the Heavenly father as well (i.e. God). Every day, I think everybody always feels that their are stuff in our pasts that we would have differently, but in the end, I am pretty sure God and great Dads in general, knows deep down that that particular family member feels sorry. I also agree that it is sad when one hears stories about bad fathers 🙁 It makes somebody want to find them and hug them to relieve the pain. Equally sad are ones whose fathers have dies and fathers and mothers who remain separated or divorced 🙁 We all pray to God that he can comfort those people as well which he and Jesus probably do every day 🙂 Anyway, keep up the great work as always and have a Happy Fathers Day weekend 🙂

    1. Hey John! Thank you so much:) you’re right-they are the best role models and give us a glimpse into the heart of God. I am so grateful for my dad. And that’s so true-I want to find them and give a big ole hug. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

  8. What a wonderful, honest, and compassionate letter. I love how you can see the imperfections in both you and your dad, yet love him and love yourself and reflect so wholeheartedly on your relationship.
    Let’s just say that my dad does not model our Heavenly Father. My pastor suggested that could be one of the reasons that I struggle so much with understanding God’s love. Father’s Day is pretty much a non-event for me. For a long time, I felt so ashamed and guilty for not loving my dad as I tell myself I ought, but in moments of self-compassion, I can realize that my lack of affection for him is not really my fault.
    Thank you for giving me something to think about this Father’s Day. I hope that you and your dad have a wonderful weekend! Grateful for you, my friend.

    1. Thanks For this reflection Lulu. I’m sorry that things with your dad are less than optimal. You’re right-it’s not your fault. The good thing is that no matter what, we have a Father in heaven that cherishes and loves and protects us with Everything He’s got! Sending you a big big hug my friend. Thanks for being you❤️

  9. I enjoyed reading this post. My father and I were separated for many years and I never really got to know him before he passed away. Now, my son and I are having problems and I can’t really turn to anyone except God for help. Thanks for your post and for your prayers in advance.

    1. Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m sorry that you lost your father. Sending you a big hug. And it’s never too late with your son:) will definitely keep you and your family in my prayers. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

  10. Awesome sister! I never had the opportunity to spend some quality time with my father since we got separated because my parents got divorced. Seeing a post like this makes my heart in awe of how our old man is so important to us. Send my regards to your father. You are blessed to have a great father. Have an enjoyable moment on Father’s day.

    1. Thanks Nathanael, thank you so much for sharing this. I’m sorry that you and your dad didn’t get the opportunity to spend QT together. It’s never too late:) you’re right-I am very blessed. I definitely don’t take that for granted. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

  11. I agree with you when you said that Father’s day is like a forgotten holiday, that was what I actually wanted to write about. Happy father’s day to your dad!

  12. This is beautiful. Dads are so important, and every child deserves to have a mother and a father who stays. A father’s love and care is immeasurable, and therefore it’s hard to explain in words. May God bless you and your dad! 🙂

    1. Thank you so much. You’re right-it’s hard to express in words the what my dad means to me. This was my best shot:) haha thanks for stopping by! I appreciate your kind words! Hugs and love xox

  13. Thanks for the candor of your loving tribute to your father. As always, thanks for the “likes” on Dr. J’s Apothecary Shoppe, especially for the “Prelude to Father’s Day: Abba, Father.”

    I also loved the poster regarding the baggage that everyone carries and that we look for a friend who will help us unpack our baggage. This quote reminded me of this statement:by George Eliot:“A friend is one to whom one may pour out the contents of one’s heart, chaff and grain together, knowing that gentle hands will take and sift it, keep what is worth keeping, and with a breath of kindness, blow the rest away.”

    Thanks again for your encouragement.

    1. Thanks Dr. J. I’m glad you liked the quote art! They’re a little bit of a labor or love to make, so I really appreciate the feedback! And what a great quote by George Eliot! Thanks for sharing! hugs and love xox

  14. Being a father is a privileged responsibility. It’s scary too, especially raising young ladies. There’s no manual, just instinct and whatever we’ve learned from our own father. My father died 4 weeks ago and I blogged it quite extensively (16-18 May), reflecting on the loss of that loving guidance. Spiritually, however, that guidance didn’t leave at all. When I talk, play, laugh, guide my girls, I feel him next to me.

    Another wonderful post, missus, great job!

    Happy Fathers’ Day to all dads out there. They do one heck of a job.

    1. Hi friend, Thank you so much for sharing this. I am so sorry for you loss. My heart is hurting for you friend. Sending you such a big hug. That’s so great that you still feel him. ❤️❤️❤️ What a comfort to know that we will all be reunited one day in heaven ❤️❤️❤️ Thanks for sharing your heart. Hugs and love xox

    1. Hi friend, thank you so much for sharing this. I’m so sorry for your loss. That absolutely breaks my heart. Somehow, writing does help to process things we didn’t even realize we needed to say. Sending a big big hug and I look forward to reading your words. Hugs and love xox

  15. Your words are so profound and meaningful. It also sums up everythin my dad was which sadly i never got the opportunity to say or show because he left the world too soon. May God bless you an urbparents with long life to enjoy each other 💛💛💛

    1. Thank you so much for this reflection. I’m so sorry for your loss. sending you a big hug through the screen. How comforting to know that we will all be reunited one day in Heaven ❤️❤️❤️ thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

  16. This is a beautiful tribute to your father. He should be very proud of you! I lost my father 11 years ago, and I thank God that we had a wonderful relationship before he left us. There are still times I wish I could ask his advice. He was a great Christian and taught me to love our Lord who is the best Father ever! Keep up the great posts (and I too am waiting patiently to see your full face 🙂 )

    1. Hi friend, thank you so much for sharing this. I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he was an amazing father. What a joy to know that we will all be reunited with our loved ones in heaven ❤️ sending you a big big hug xox

  17. Aww this is such a sweet post! It makes me miss my dad and I will give him a call right away 🙂 I am now inspired to write a post honoring my dad. Thanks!

  18. Ditto all of the comments I “liked” above.

    Following your blog and listening to the outpouring of your heart must make your Father’s own heart burst with love and pride.

    I am happy for him that you survived yourself.

    God bless you, JD. Well done, as always. 🙂

    1. Hi Tony, thank you so much for this reflection. I hope so:) yes amen to that-God is good and I am grateful every day for His saving my life! Sending you a big big hug! Xox

  19. This is so touching. I am glad you appreciate your dad for being a great father. It is a great privilege to have caring, loving and patient parents. I thank GOD every day for my parents because i know i would not be where i am today without them. Much love ♥♥

  20. You did something really special here, even if you didn’t realize it. Not only is this a great tribute to you dad, but you reminded me – and maybe a lot of other dads – that while I might be having problems with my own, even when tough love is required, it should be delivered gently. I can’t let my own frustrations and disappointments color my message. That wouldn’t be…Fatherly.

    As always, you’re more helpful than you know! Thank you, my friend!

    1. Hi Jeffrey, thank you so much for this. I’m so glad that it prompted that reflection. Dads have such an important and difficult job…they’re truly superheroes. thanks for stopping by! happy fathers day to you friend xox

  21. Clearly reading this on public on my phone was a mistake!Tearing up and smiling all at the same time.Beautifully expressed,and painfully honest-thank you for sharing.Your heavenly and earthly Fathers must be very proud x

    1. Oh gosh! Sorry to make you all verklempt! haha But seriously, thank you so much for this kind note and reflection. It means so much. Truly. Have a beautiful weekend. hugs and love xox

  22. As a father of four who has screwed up in some pretty colossal ways, and as the son of a father who didn’t make it past his early 40’s, I can say it’s one of the most difficult jobs I’ve ever had. I’m in my early 50s now, and while it’s not too late to keep changing and adapting and learning God’s direction for my life, I panic sometimes wondering just how badly I’ve screwed my kids up, and wonder how God can be glorified in allowing me to mature without my own dad.
    Thanks for your heartfelt words Beebs. It makes me smile. Des

    1. Hi Damon, thank you so much for sharing this. I can’t imagine the responsibility and difficulty of being a father. I can clearly barely take care of myself, let alone a family! I’m sorry that you lost your father. sending a big hug. We’re all just doing the best we can. I often struggle with wrestling with my past and how much my actions have hurt those people I love dearly – my father included. But God just reminds me that there is power in love. Love heals. And it is never too late. Even though my past is not glittery and perfect, I can build going forward with my loved ones. Thanks for your heartfelt reflection. hugs and love my friend xox

  23. You have put into words something many of us experience and can’t figure out how to express. My dad took more of the leader role in our childhood and was the disciplinary figure; it wasn’t until we were grown that he expressed that he felt he had missed out on the joy of our childhood. He was always busy working and making sure we had all we needed; I was blessed with a brother after all but one of my sister’s were grown and out of the house. It was a blessing to see him with our children and my brother he made up for all the missed memories with them. He never misses an opportunity to share this with us which makes up for it all. As to the father Damon, you would be amazed at the ability to forgive children have for parent’s mistakes they realize we have no guides just as they don’t as to how to be teenagers. As you stated in your blog post, those of us who had or still have our fathers in our lives are extremely lucky. I super enjoy reading your blog; keep up with your journey.

    1. Hi Missy, thank you so much for sharing this beautiful reflection. I’m so glad that your father has been able to experience those thing with your children. That makes me all choked up. He sounds like a wonderful man. And you’re right – we’re all just figuring out life as we go along. Forgiveness is a powerful thing. Sending big hugs to you friend xox

  24. You’ve captured the love I had for my late father but at the same time described how I love my heavenly Father. Even when things go wrong in our life we love Him anyway. And trust him!

    1. Thank you so much for this Jane. That’s so true – trust trust trust, even when we can’t understand. I’m sorry your father is no longer on this earth. What a comfort to know that we will all be together again with our loved ones in Heaven one day. Sending big hugs to you friend.

  25. Dearest BBB,

    Compassion! Yes! That ability and willingness to be with another in her/his suffering (and I would include joy; as in the Apostle Paul’s gracious counsel that we weep with those who weep and rejoice with those who rejoice), for me, the quintessentially necessary attribute of all human relationships and interrelatedness.

    Thank you for this post. Thank you for loving tribute to your earthly father and our heavenly Father.

    Much love,
    Paul

    1. Hi Paul! Thank you so much for this reflection. I so agree — Joy is SO important! I even wrote a blog post about it, called The Importance of Joy! 🙂 hehe But you’re so right – it is infection. It colors how you view the world. And it brings joy to the Fathers when we are joyful in Him.
      Thanks for stopping by. hugs and love xox

    1. Thank you so much Alex! That really means a lot. Unfortunately I’m not doing guest post on my blog right now but if I do, you’ll be the first to know! Hugs and love xox

      1. Hoping to get a few blog posts up myself over the next week, sadly been finding it difficult to get them seen if you know what I mean, any advice? x

      2. Awesome, can’t wait to read them! Hmm that’s a good question..I guess just promote your posts across your social media platforms! Hope that helps!

  26. This is so well said! I don’t denominate myself as part of any particular religious or spiritual group, but I just realized this very thing recently, in a slightly different context. I realized that because my father left and I..repudiated him?…it led to an overall rejection of a lot of things I have had to go back and pick up in life. Thanks for putting this so well.

    1. Thanks boozilla! I really appreciate your kind words. So glad it brought about this reflection. I’m sorry your father left. You did not deserve that. Sending you a big hug my friend xox

  27. Beautiful. The one thing I will say about a True and Loving parent, you never have to go back and change anything because they will never hold it against you. We as parents always try to be understanding through all things with our children especially when they are going through something that is out of their control. Our biggest joy is just having our child in our lives and realizing though things may get tough we are in this together. Your father I’m sure loves you unconditionally and would never ask you to change one day of your life because all things happen for a reason. Your challenges have brought together a bond that many wish for. When you are weak, your parents are your strength and God is the strength of you all. Don’t feel guilty at all for anything in the past because you know it was the work of a Disease and not your Heart. Blessings and Happy Father’s Day to your Dad!

    1. Thank you so much Corrie. Wow I am so touched by your words. You’re right-zany dad doesn’t hold any of my past against me. He’s just glad that I’m on the other side, healthy and living again. And amen to that- He is the strength of us all! Thanks for taking the time to read! Hope you have a wonderful weekend! Hugs and love xox

  28. Legit, almost cried. This is beautiful and I’m sure it will fill your dad’s heart when he reads this. I love that you feel your Dad is a reflection of our heavenly father- that’s awesome! Great read for the upcoming holiday. Btw- I’m in love with your user of punctuation:)

  29. This was a beautiful tribute to your dad!! 🙂 He sounds like a very special man. Dads are SO incredibly important, as you said; and I know he loved this blog post of yours so much. 🙂

  30. I hadn’t thought about Father’s Day as a day for me and God, which is odd. I’ve often thought about the similarities between my pain at being shunned by my daughter with the pain God feels at our shunning him. But I hadn’t thought about spending the day with Him….and asking him to remove the bitterness and resentment I feel about how I am treated (even though I’ve treated Him the same way sometimes).
    Thanks for the insight 🙂 Have a good weekend with both your F/fathers 😀

    1. Hi Jeff, thank you so much for this. I’m sorry that this day reminds you of pain. That breaks my heart❤️ I hope you and your daughter can heal that relationship. I will keep you all in my prayers. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your heart. Hugs and love xox

  31. This post is a great gift for Father’s Day! I don’t think he’ll get a better one … until next year, perhaps! Clearly you are both blessed! You by your father and he by his daughter! 🙂

  32. […] I miss you, Dad, but it took a beautiful young woman whom I have never met to help me  realize just how much. I don’t know her name but still, I consider her a friend. I call her JD (short for Jane Doe which is the way she signed a personal email to me once a while back), and she has a blog called “BeautyBeyondBones” which chronicles her journey out of anorexia, a journey that began at a point when the evil that is anorexia had very nearly claimed her life and surely must have made her Father think his own life wasn’t worth living if he couldn’t help his little girl. I was inspired to write this letter by a recent post on her blog titled “To My Father.” […]

  33. Amazing post, very thoughtful and speaks to all of us who have seen the representation of God in our fathers. And this gives a perfect example of what fathers should be to their children.

  34. This was lovely to read. And isn’t it a good thing that we can look at the past, but we don’t have to stare at it? We are all perfectly imperfect. There is much to be grateful for. Thank you for this reminder.

    1. Aw, thank you so much! I’m so glad you enjoyed it. So true. We are ALL perfectly imperfect. And SO MUCH to be grateful for. So glad you stopped by! hugs and love xox

  35. God Bless your relationship with your Father as well as your Mother. You are blessed that you had, and still have one. We are alike in that we felt weird as children on Father’s Day, but in the end your story was of a Father who’s eyes saw you for the beauty that you are. I wrote a couple of poems about my Father, and Father’s Day, but I can’t plug them off Fbook (where they once were) and share them. If you’ve got $5 to spare, they’re in my book on Amazon (An Identity Shared). Love, Hugs, and Blessings!!

    1. Thanks Miguelito. You’re so right, I have been immensely blessed with two great parents. Something I definitely don’t take for granted. That’s awesome that you have a book! congratulations! hugs and love xox

      1. Oooops its 6 not 5. They wouldn’t let me go any lower than 6 when I lowered it from the original 10 I first tried selling it for. xoxoxoxo

      2. It talks a lot about my love for my cultures, life, NYC, and a lot of fun positives as well as the stuff about dad etc….

  36. Such a beautiful post. I can definitely relate to the need for equality when it comes to ones’ parents. An inspiring post that bursts of love and gratitude.

  37. Funny. Despite all the mistakes I made my father looked at me with such a deep love. I beleive they see no faults in their daughters. This is such an amazing way to honor your father. I do miss my dad tremendously EVERYDAY he was quite the father to look up to. It’s fatjers like this the society needs not of. The truest shame is the girls who grow up without their daddy 😯 GOD works in mysterious ways. Sometimes we are meant to shape in his seen for ways.

    1. Hi Rareity, thank you so much for sharing this. You’re right, society needs more guys like him. It sounds like your father was an amazing man. Sending big hugs to you my friend. Xox

  38. Such a truly touching post. One doesn’t see such a touching post for a man as much as women. I think it’s sort of like what you said about the time and what a man might want as a present. Most men sort of go under the radar. But, inside, they enjoy even the most simple of gestures. They might not ask for it but, when received, it is precious to them, even though they might not express it with great feeling. Just speculating.

    Your post reminded me of my father, who passed away several years ago. I really didn’t put much thought into Father’s Day. Even those at work who are talking about it, I didn’t really connect the dots with feeling. Your post brought out feelings that I don’t like between me and my father. How understanding, compassionate and even, behind the scenes and silently, was covering by butt in life without me even knowing at the time. Then, I was such as ass to him.

    All the things you used to describe your father, I would use for my own. My father was a beautiful example of our Father in Heaven. Most times I repress these thoughts because of how terrible I was to him at times when I was growing up. I was a real ass. Yet, I know he forgives me. He was just that way. My father was so wonderful.

    Sorry to use your blog to celebrate my own father through the clear eyes of “You don’t know what you had until it is gone.” I would love to go back and do it all differently. Celebrate all those Father’s Days that I didn’t celebrate with him. The birthdays when I didn’t call or even send a card. So many things. But, regrets don’t do any good. Knowing that he was the most wonderful person, who always supported me, cared and loved me, even though I was such as ass. To be honest. our Father in Heaven has had to put up with the same from me.

    Your post has brought me the realization that my father was an almost perfect example of our Father in Heaven. Thank you.

    1. Thank you so much Matthew, for sharing this. I’m so sorry that your father passed away and that you’re feeling these feelings. It is so easy to dwell on the “should/would/could haves.” I find myself doing that a lot. Growing up, we are all trying to find our way. Luckily, we will all be reunited in heaven one day and you’ll be able to say all the things you want to right now. That gives me comfort. I hope it does for you too. Thanks for stopping by and for sharing your heart. Sending you s big hug. Xox

      1. Thank you for bringing Father’s Day alive for me. It was nice to express what I have been repressing and let my father I do love him on this day for fathers. Even if only for myself. Yes, we will be reunited again and that will be great!

        Hugs back to you.

    2. I believe God gives glimpses of what’s going on, on earth, from time to time, for those who are kickin’ it in Heaven. I imagine your old man has seen this and read it, and laughed, and can’t wait to hug you and show you around -but ‘no rush’, he’d probably say.

      1. I believe you are right. For me, it felt good to simply express what’s been eating at me for a while and, in a sense, let him know that his kindness and love didn’t go unnoticed or unappreciated. Can’t wait to see him again but I have to complete this part of the journey first. Thanks for your input.

  39. That was really nice and I was thinking the same sentiments the other day, regarding how my appreciation of the Father has been enhanced by my own Dad being so…epic, really.
    I love that your dad follows your blog.
    If he’s anything like he’ll print out the words of his kids, or received cards and tuck them in his car visor, so they are at hand at stop lights, or when life has kicked the crap out of him and he needs to rejuvenate and reflect on what really counts.

  40. Oh, how very beautiful. You are indeed blessed to have a father that reflects the love, compassion and protection of THE Father. But, something tells me both of your Dads feel equally blessed by you. You are a beautiful soul. Happy Sunday to you and Happy Father’s Day to your special dad.

  41. How beautiful. You are right. Everyone should have a Father who reflects Father God. You are very blessed to have such an example. Thanks for sharing just a piece of this rare man with us!

    1. Thanks friend. Yeah, I definitely am grateful for both my earthy and heavenly papas. Something I don’t take for granted. So glad you stopped by! and thanks again for the reblog. you rock 🙂

  42. Just like the rest, I am grateful for your positive words here today. My relations with my own father wasn’t so grand, leaving me somewhat scarred, with ‘conflicting emotions…’. So it pleases me tremendously, to hear your wonderful praise of your father, and others’ commenting on theirs too. So great to hear such inspirational words, that will provide comfort for me, too. Thanks for expressing your loving, kind offerings…

    1. Hi Lydia, thank you for sharing this. I appreciate you sharing your heart. I hope that these words did bring some comfort. I’m sorry you’ve been scarred. I hope that there can be healing in that area for you 🙂 You deserve that. Sending such a big hug to you friend. xoxox

  43. Great to see you honour your father. It is so true how the love of our fathers should reflect the love of God and sadly when people don’t get that fatherly love, they struggle with God. But our fathers on earth are only our foster fathers, let’s not forget whose we are. We should look for validation from God, because He is the only constant in out lives. May Father God bless you and prosper you <3

  44. This is a beautiful post! So well written and vulnerable. It’s great to hear you talk about your close relationship with your dad, so great 🙂

      1. You’re most (haha that nearly got sent as ‘moist’) welcome. Which awesome part of the world do you find yourself in at the moment (if you don’t mind me asking)?
        Kindest – Robert.

      2. hahaha oh no! not moist!!! lol I think that tops everyone’s list of most hated words lolol NYC!! woo! 🙂 fluffy teddies to you 🙂 😉 haha

      3. Yay for NYC!
        Yay for fluff!
        Yay for the avoidance of moisturiser! (seriously – there’s a woman here in the 0ffice that visibly shudders if the M-Word is mentioned in her presence!)
        😀 to you.

  45. Beautifully expressed and written….and my goodness that hurt my heart a bit to read the line you abused his love…not even knowing you i want to hug you and tell you honey it was not you doing the abusing or lying it was the disease the condition and your father surely knows that. He sounds like a man that has unconditional Love for his child and what a beautiful thing that is! Im very glad youve come out of the darkness! xooxo

    1. Thank you so much! I really appreciate your kind words. And thanks for the hugs. Sending you a big hug right back. You’re right-his love is unconditional. He’s a great man. I’m very lucky. Thanks for stopping by! Xox

  46. This is amazing BBB. Somehow in my illness I established a bond with both parents which would never have been established otherwise . Never thought in million years three of us will become one soul. Thank you for sharing your incredible times and memories

    1. Thank you so much Maha. That is so beautiful. I can definitely relate. There is a bond that forms through trials that is unlike any in the world. So glad you three are close too. Sending a hug to you and yours xox

  47. Beautiful. As a father, do you know what I fear the most? Failure. I want my children to be able to know God better because of my example. There are times where I know that I have done just the opposite, but then I realize that they also need to see me fall. They will learn from that also.

    How wonderful that you have a father who perhaps has shown you the most important ingredient in life — grace.

    1. Thank you so much for sharing this. it sounds like you are a great dad 🙂 and amen to that! I am so grateful for my father. He has shown so much forgiveness and love and mercy over the years. I don’t know what I did to deserve such a great dad, but I definitely don’t take it for granted. thanks for stopping by! hugs and love xox

  48. BEAUTIFUL post!! You are absolutely right when you say that Fathers are an exact reflection of our Heavenly Father. Very inspiring! Thanks for sharing! 🙂

  49. No matter their differences, Mom and Dad have to be loved equally. The same also applies for Dad and Mom, your children have to be loved equally no matter their differences.

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