Life’s Souvenirs

You know you’re becoming an adult when you get excited about washing your mattress pad…


I was chuckling to myself, thinking about that. I was vacuuming and listening to a podcast on world events, waiting for my sheets to finish in the dryer and I realized — it’s taken me a while, but I’m actually growing up.


And, I realized that there are definitely some things I know now, that have changed who I am and how I live my life, for the better.

And not that I can take credit for any of these. Most are either taught from my beautiful mother, or the humiliating/devastating result of trial and [critical] error.


1. Invest your time in the people who matter to you.

Your actions speak a lot louder than your words, and how you spend your free time is a big indicator to what and who you value. And at the end of the day, your “true blue” friends are going to mean a lot more than any loud and obscure party. So choose accordingly.


2. If someone takes the time to leave you a voicemail, listen, and call them back.

Even if it’s just a text reply, RESPOND. I spent years and years during my anorexia just not picking up the phone and not returning the calls and texts from my friends. They’re reaching out because they care about you. But if you don’t reciprocate, the rejection will eventually wear on them, and they will just stop trying. Friendships and relationships matter.


3. If people matter to you, let them know.

I have lived by the rule that a lady should never show her cards and keep her heart close to her chest. But you know what? That has gotten me nowhere. And in one weekend here, I have interacted with three separate men, all of whom had feelings for me during different periods of life, and I never let them know that I too, felt the same. And you know what? They are now all happily in relationships, and there’s nothing I can do about it.


4. There is no better accessory than confidence.

If you feel good about yourself, then other people will too. Period.


5. Say “yes” more often.

I’ve learned that if you really want to start living, you need to say, yes – Incorporate it into your vocabulary. Embrace the lifestyle that it produces, and don’t look back.


6. Listen to your gut.

Here’s the thing: some people call it intuition, some people call it your conscience, some people call it a gut feeling, but I’m here to tell you…it’s the Holy Spirit’s nudging. Cheesy, sure. Accurate? Absolutely. You’ll know you’re doing the right thing because you feel at peace. That’s the Spirit moving in your heart. Listen. And if you’re feeling restless, that’s a big ol’ Red Flag, and probably something should change.


Which is why, I’m actually writing this from Ohio. 


Yes, I actually decided to come home for a little bit while my mom gets a heart procedure done.

Ever since her stroke back in December, I’ve adhered to that final advice, following the peace. But when I was back in NYC, let’s just say I was a tinderbox of emotion the whole time. It was as though I were there in body only…my heart and spirit were back in Ohio with my mom.

So I’m going to be home for a few weeks and be with her while she’s recovering and adjusting to her new post-stroke normal.

It turns out, that we really only get one chance in life. One go around the sun. And the older I get, the more I’m realizing that there are actually, very few things that truly matter…and probably the biggest of these is family.

So there you go…

If you need me, I’ll be basking in this glorious peace.

What are some of the best “Life Souvenirs”  you’ve picked up along the way?

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274 thoughts on “Life’s Souvenirs

  1. Wow! I really love this post! I really like that expression, “Life’s souvenirs” You hit on a lot of good points. btw, I love the pic of the guy falling on his face – made me laugh out loud! Perfect representation of trial and error! I will definitely keep both you and your mom in my prayers! Once again, great post!

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  2. I know how you feel C I mean I used to Google myself too sometimes. Maybe you should google Mike and Ike’s candy they are delicious. 2. I don’t use Facebook anymore. I have not for 3 years. The reason why is because Drama, Drama, Drama and let’s face it Facebook has become like an old episode of Passions in real time. 3. Put down the vodka and soda and come out of your feelings and step into faith. You won’t find God at the bottom of a soda can of vodka. Walk by faith not by sight.Lean not on your own understanding. Look C. I get it the flesh is weak. You’re human, that doesn’t make you any less worthy of being taught to be loved. Stop looking on Facebook and Look to God. He will guide your heart.

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  3. Thank you so much for this beautiful post. It took me a very long time to realise that it’s ok to be me. I have combat PTSD, and I believed that I was the ‘Beast’ from beauty and the beast, someone who is nice and caring, but someone who people may fear. Since my recovery, I have learned that to be me is a wonderful thing, and now people respond to me in a positive way – because it was me that was hiding away, not other people avoiding me. Thank you again. I love your Blog!

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  4. Just wanted to thank you for your hard work and dedication in this much needed field. I know you are reaching many people, I know you are encouraging and inspiring along the way. I think many many people can relate to your story. You do a phenomenal job, and as future RDN, eating disorders are a strong component of my future career. Thank You for helping heal others in this journey to health in aspects of life: beyond physical health but spiritual, emotional, social as well. I appreciate your heart and passion and genuine purpose behind your work.
    Keep it Up and I hope you feel refreshed and rejuvenated each day as I know you wish for your followers.

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  6. Sorry I haven’t stuck my nose out lately… Process of moving and all that… But, here I am!

    Some of Life’s souvenirs… Hmmm… Battle scars!

    Probably the most relevant thing I’ve gotten on my travels. Without them, I wouldn’t be able to tell my stories. I don’t think anyone would be able to, honestly… including you and I enjoy reading… strike that… I adore you telling all of us and we get the privilege of getting to listen and digest… these stories and experiences that you have. I don’t subscribe to many blogs, YouTube channels, or whatever… but this is one of the few.

    Great thoughts as always and well articulated! Looking forward to the next one!



  7. Seems ironic that with all the easy options to “reply” (e.g. those texts, e-mails, voice mails, even writing a real letter) folks so often do not reply. I call it the Black Hole of Social Media. We consume without gratitude. – Oscar
    P.S. You can hit the “star” now. ☀️

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