I Got Stood Up – TWICE

Well, this is embarrassing.

I was stood up. TWICE. Two weekends in a row…by the same guy.

Now, let me clarify — It wasn’t some stranded-at-a-restaurant-alone situation, like a scene out of an early 2000s rom-com.

No, it was a we-made-plans-to-go-out-on-Saturday-night, -and-then-he-never-followed-through situation.

And this happened two weekends in a row.


The first weekend – he said he fell asleep. Which – you know what…Fine. I have an older sibling who’s a hardworking doctor, and is so sleep deprived that he often times will fall asleep within 90 seconds of sitting down on a couch. Mr. Stood Me Up Twice works at a high-stakes job in NYC – I like to give people the benefit of the doubt. I gave him some grace.

Well, this weekend…Saturday night rolls around, we had planned on going out all week. I had gotten a manicure, got my glam on with a great outfit, perfume, makeup, everything — 6pm…7pm…8pm… crickets.

I am just — baffled.

And I’m not dense. I’m not naive that — despicably — most guys have several girls on their “roster” that they’re actively dating in the beginning stages of getting to know a person. Sadly, that’s just the name of the game these days, especially in NYC.

But this guy and I – we’d been out on three dates. He seemed to be really into me…just…bad at dating.

And so, finally…after allowing myself to, admittedly be strung along now for far too long, I am going to respect myself and walk away.

Because I deserve better than that.

I mean, for crying out loud, at the bare minimum, I deserve a text that you’re canceling on me!!

I was pissed.

And yesterday, I took a walk to blow off some steam, and I was reflecting on the fact that – wow, I have been stood up twice. Frankly, if I’m being really honest, it was a bit of a blow to the ego. I feel a little gross admitting, but I never thought that I would be stood up once, let alone, twice.

I mean, I just believe that people are better than that! And maybe that’s a fault.

But I was thinking about it, and it hit me: When people show you who they are, believe them.

I don’t have many bad experiences with people — as a Strong Two on the Enneagram Scale (aka a desperate People Pleaser who’s deepest desire is to be loved) my interactions are 99.9% favorable. But hey, as the former president of a sorority, let’s just say, I’ve seen some things.

But in those rare occasions where I’ve been hurt, or taken advantage of, or simply just left with a bad taste in my mouth about a person — looking back, those behavior patterns were evident all along, I was just choosing to overlook them.

When people show you who they are, believe them.

But I think the biggest takeaway for me was that, God is working.

God is orchestrating exactly where I am, who I’m meeting, what is happening. God is in control. And perhaps God wanted to show me that, frankly, there are some frogs out there. Perhaps God was trying to show me characteristics that I don’t want in my potential husband. Perhaps God was trying to teach me that I need to stand up for myself and demand bare minimum respect and courtesy. There’s no time to waste with someone who’s not respecting you.

I do believe that God has a good plan for me. If I’m being really super brutally honest, I think I still have a long way to go before I’m truly ready to bring someone into my life, and share with them all of my imperfections and the broken past from which –by God’s grace– I’ve overcome. And I think all these experiences are just evidence of Him working on my heart, so I that I am ready to fully let someone in.

And I trust that, God is working on my future husband’s heart too.

I can’t rush God. I’ve got to just keep putting myself out there, open to whomever God brings into my life.

Which is why, I’m going out with another handsome bachelor on Wednesday. 🙂

Oh, and if for some crazy reason Mr. Stood Me Up Twice is reading this…a) Welcome to my secret blog. And b) The men in my family have a few choice words for you, sir.

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382 responses to “I Got Stood Up – TWICE”

    • Thanks Brandon, I appreciate that. But of a blow to the ego but onward and upward!! 🙂 hope you’re having a great night! Hugs and love xox

  1. His loss will be someone else’s gain. Stand your ground and hold to your standards, and keep your feeling of self-worth strong. Don’t settle for less than you deserve. When all is said and done, I’ve no doubt Mr. Right will appear, and it will be magical. Hugs and love– Mike

    • thank you Mike, i appreciate you saying that, and for your encouraging words. you’re right – I believe it will be magical too!! 🙂 have a great night! hugs and love xox

    • thank you friend, I really appreciate the encouragement. yes! i am blessed to have wonderful loved ones to process with!! 🙂 hugs xo

  2. It is frustrating when Guys are pricks, who don’t have the decency to have some respect for the time and effort of any woman they have been a date (or several) with. It’s sad, that the concept of being a gentleman has gone out the window.

    • thank you, yeah it was pretty disappointing to say the least. I think the dating app culture has allowed guys to be able to get away with behavior like this. we need to raise them to a higher standard! hugs x

      • I completely agree, the last guy I “dated” (it was 3 dates and not much in the way of communication between dates after the first one), I had met through a dating site. That was the final straw on “looking for love”, since then, I need to meet the guy in real life from the get go. I am definitely holding each guy I meet and get to know to a higher standard of how they treat women, and people in general.

      • thank you so much frien d- I’m sorry you can relate so personally. best of luck on your dating journey!! will be praying for you! big hugs xo

  3. 😂😂😂😂😂that last meme. You know the saying, “it will happen when you aren’t looking for it”….yeah, that’s exactly how I met my husband (almost 24 years now!). Hang in there girl. He’s out there. You will know it without a doubt when you meet him!

    • haha thank you so much 🙂 You’re right – when I’m not looking for it! And thanks for sharing your beautiful love story! Gives me great hope. and congrats on 24 years!! that’s really something to celebrate! hugs xox

  4. Oh, my, yes. When people show you who they are, believe them.
    But, ugh. It is a blow to the ego.
    And you do deserve better. Respect. Courtesy. Kindness. Honesty – which may feel unkind but not nearly as unkind as deception or lies.

    • Thank you Teressa, for your wonderful and encouraging words. Just a little courtesy is all I’m after!! hahaha And you’re right – nothing is more beautiful than the truth spoken in love 🙂 hugs to you xo

  5. Honestly Caralyn, you are too good for this guy. Too many strikes, he’s out. Everything happens for a reason by His direction. I’d be really pissed too. 🙏🏻😳😎

    • aw John, thank you my dear friend. That’s exactly what all my friends said too. They were done with him after the first strike! big hugs to you xox

  6. A kind display of grace and mercy on your part….
    grace towards the first failed date
    mercy for just moving and not choosing to be one those who wants to waste energy on making his life miserable.
    listening to God’s whisper to move and remember you are HIS above anyone else’s
    and how just being HIS gives you all the value in the world to Him is always the wisest way to go.
    He loves you, Caralyn.
    PS. Praying for your hardworking brother.

    • Thank you Gail, for your encouraging words. Amen to that – I am His about anyone elses, and I know that when the right man comes along, he will know and respect that too. I am so touched by your kindness. And thanks for your prayers! He’s a pretty awesome dude! 🙂 hugs xox

      • 🙂 I’m sure he must be. The spirit of you and your mom is a great indication.
        I use to have a brother who would come in from work, and fall asleep from exhaustion as soon as he sat in a chair or couch (even as a roofer with tar all over him), and didn’t move a muscle until he’s automated 5am alarm went off. Then off he went again to do the same thing… sometimes for days.

      • Gosh that sounds just exhausting. Yeah I mean if you’re tired you’re tired!! But there’s just a lack of respect by vanishing!!

      • Amen, Sister!! Doctor’s offices, workplaces, and so much will let you go if you are a no show, and write “no rehire” or some kind of note not to allow you back at all.
        I’m glad you have your family for support too. The last line was cute. My brother used to ask me, “You want me to go whip his… ?” And while of course I told him, “No. He’s not worth you’re getting into trouble or going to prison, and it’s just not Christlike” it was pretty cool to know he was willing. 😉

      • hahaha aren’t brothers just the best? love your response to him!!!

  7. I broke up with my boyfriend in January. Well, technically, he broke up with me. We had been seeing eachother on and off for about 10 years. So you know I was shocked when he broke up with me because he didn’t get his way one day. Unfortunately for him, it was the second time. I gave him 5 days to change his mind – probably 5 days too many – and then I totally blocked him and made his wish come true. He sent me a text on Valentine’s Day – from a phone number I didn’t recognize. I didn’t respond.

    You did the right thing. You are the Prize and he needs to recognize.

    • Oh gosh, I’m so sorry to hear that. You deserve a man that recognizes the prize too! Our princes are out there, my friend! thanks for the encouragment! bigbig hugs xox

    • Thank you so much 🙂 I really do appreciate that. And you’re right – it will be a beautiful, beautiful thing, when it happens! 🙂 hugs xox

  8. As I would tell my daughter (and have!), that kind of behavior should be a real warning sign of worse behavior to come. When it happens it happens. You’re too good to stoop. Good decision.

    • thank you Ted, that really is terrific advice. A red flag for sure. thanks for the encouragement!! hugs xo

  9. Yes! Believe them! That is inexcusable behavior and believe me, it likely wouldn’t improve over time. Shake the dust off your shoes and move on. Love is kind. Mr. Wrong was not.

    • Thank you so much Deanna! I really appreciate your encouragment. Amen – onto find Mr. Right! 🙂 hugs xos

    • hahahhaha well — only secret to him 🙂 does that make me a horrible person!?!?! eek! this has always been an anonymous blog! hah

  10. Yeah, falling asleep before a date 😞, sounds like an excuse to me personally, but since he did it again you are in your rights to give up on him for someone else. Dating is mostly weeding out the bad apples. Eventually you’ll come across a good one.

    • Thank you friend, yeah – I’m pretty forgiving and easy going, but this was just….enough is enough. That’s great advice. thank you for the encouragement ! hugs xo

    • Thanks friend. Yeah pretty disappointing. Ah well.. Onto the next! Hugs and love xox

  11. My poetry book coming out admit something about about me that I NEVER thought I would admit. I finalized it last night and was like, “Do I really want to put this out there…am I going to embarrass myself?” Then I come on here and see this and realize this is WHY we right. To show folks they aren’t alone. Reading your post, though about different things, reminded me of why I am publishing the book. Thank you Caralyn for always providing quality content!

    Your ending by the way – beautiful!! Loved that last paragraph!!

  12. You’re a strong person, so feel sorry for him. He doesn’t recognize a quality product when he sees it so for the rest of his life he’s going to have to have second best, or maybe third best. Well, you get the drift. 🙂

    • thank you Ian, I really appreciate your encouraging words. hahah you’re sweet. hugs xox

  13. I have been where you have been many times. They say it will not happen again. the truth is that they are not telling the truth. They never planned on being there in the first place. You are a great lady who deserves a great man.

  14. Lucky for you that he stood you up not once, which should have been at least a text, but twice so now he’s off has a big red line through his name on your “maybe” list

  15. Oh, geez, this guy sounds like a loser. My best guess is that he lost interest in you and didn’t know how to say as much. His loss!! Anyone who can’t respect you enough to communicate is beneath you! I’m still holding out hope that God will find both you and me wonderful men!! 🙂

    • Thank you Meg for your encouraging words. Yeah, you must be right- or he met someone else! thanks for stopping by! hugs xo

  16. Glad your getting out there. Your well on your way to a great guy, being open to opportunities and potential. It will probably be someone your surprised by that you end up with so stay open. Gods ways are higher than ours!

    • Thank you Lisa, I appreciate your encouragement. I love that idea – someone i’m surprised by! hugs xox

  17. Sounds like you dodged a bullet! 😉 You’re lovely in many ways, and I have no doubt the right one will simply adore and respect you. A good relationship is worth waiting for…worth fighting for! Take it from me, I promise what God has in store is worth whatever it takes to get there!

    • thank you so much for your support and encouragement. you’re right – it is worth waiting and fighting for! hugs xox

  18. Wow…I’m so sorry girlie you got stood up, TWICE. How MESSED UP!!! If anything, as much as technology seems to run our lives, I would think that he would have a few reminders set for the date. We can remember to bring our phones to the restroom but can’t remember to go on a date???? Whatever the excuse is… I’M NOT BUYING IT.
    Continue to seek The Lord in finding the special man for you. He is faithful. In fact, pray your way through even dating the next lucky bachelor. May your dating venture be purposeful and blessed, gorgeous!

  19. Nice to see someone as nice as you get stood up twice…..sends a message to all those out there that anybody can get stood up! I see it a different way sometimes – guys run from a women who is too strong, cannot be manipulated, or is just too good for them. They go looking for targets that will make them feel superior or selfishly feed their egos all the while telling themselves fictions. Probably not this guy – though you never know. Man I loved the door shot – who would not want a key to those doors!
    Anyway – trust and discern with God.

  20. “When people show you who they are, believe them.” What a great quotation!

    More and more I sound like an old man, but I can’t help it…KIDS THESE DAYS!!! Whether in personal life or business I find myself constantly astounded at the rudeness and outright idiocy of the youngsters I encounter. No one is interested in the future. Everyone is interested in “me punching my ticket and moving on to greatness.”

    Mr. Rude isn’t thinking that you might be the one that got away. He might not be old enough to know that “The Whirligig of time brings in its revenges.” Thank you Mr. Shakespeare. Julie and I have marveled at how people reap what they sow.

    Therein lies part of your answer. Not promoting vindictiveness here, but you can take some satisfaction in knowing that justice always has the last word. Knowing that I’ve been less than stellar in all of my dealings keeps me from rubbing my hands in delight, but I do take comfort in knowing that people who are intentionally harmful will be subject to justice in some way.

    You, my friend, are the flip side of that coin. Yes, I know you were not a nice person during your anorexia, but you have repented, are forgiven, and now brighten the lives of so many of us! That too will receive what is just.

    • Haha thank you Jeff. There’s a lot of truth here. the flip side of the coin – I am so touched by that. And I am embracing that more and more every day. Especially because it has brought me to where I am today. And gosh, you’re kind to say that. Thank you, Jeff. Thanks for brightening my day!! Grateful for your friendship. Hugs and love to you and Julie! xox

  21. Little relief tho it may be to a woman scorned, I offer these two poems to fortify your conscience.

    Joaquin Miller – Columbus

    Brave Admiral, say but one good word:
    What shall we do when hope is gone?”
    The words leapt like a leaping sword:
    “Sail on! sail on! sail on! and on!”

    Rudyard Kipling – The Female of the Species

    Man’s timid heart is bursting with the things he must not say,
    For the Woman that God gave him isn’t his to give away;
    But when hunter meets with husbands, each confirms the other’s tale—
    The female of the species is more deadly than the male.

    Best of luck to you, and God Bless.


  22. Sorry about that my friend. As for me it has been so long since I’ve been on the “dating” scene I’m afraid I wouldn’t be able to do it. I’ve been married for 25 years but due to my being away due to my military obligations I’m not sure we will make it to 26. I have no desire to even think about that what ifs. I’ve got 6 more months until I get to come home for good and I pray that my wife and I can reconnect after 2 years away. May your week ahead be blessed my friend.

    • Thank you friend for your encouraging words. I will definitely be praying for your and your wife. 25 years is a lot of life and love lived together. That’s beautiful. I prayer that it is a smooth transition and reconnection. And thank you for your service to our country!!! Hugs and love xox

  23. I cannot believe this! What is wrong with this guy? He’s beyond rude, he’s DC dumb, dumb DUMB! You deserve far better than this and I hope and pray for God’s perfect plan to unfold in your life.

  24. ” When people show you who they are, believe them.” Going to remember that one. Caralyn, Like several others have already said, I would be ticked off too. Toads come in all shapes and sizes. Sorry you have had to deal with this toad.

    • Thanks DM. I appreciate your support. The right one is surely on his way! Hugs and love xox

      • I saw stuff like this happen to one of my daughters…(over the top disrespect) .Won’t go into it here, but I can just about guess how your dad was feeling..

      • Oh yeah – He had some *choice* words! Haha aw I’m sorry your daughter can relate!

    • Thank you friend – that’s a really great way to look at it! Better sooner rather than later!! Hugs and love xox

  25. Well he’s missing out, and yes you definitely deserve better than that. Good for you for having the wisdom to shut that door and opening your eyes to what God is showing you. He has big plans for you and when Mr Right walks into your life it will be well worth the wait. Until then, be patient and continue to stay true to yourself 💕🙏🏼

    • Thank you Lisa, I appreciate your kindness. I believe He’s definitely got a good plan! Patience is the hard part! Haha Hugs and love xox

  26. Guys are such idiots. Why would anyone ditch their chance with you? He’s a dolt, a miscreant, a child. Oh well, like you said, it wasn’t meant to be. When I look back at my life, I see God’s work too. At the time though, it is so very frustrating.

    Good luck with the next dude!


    • Thanks Reid, you’re kind to say that. Amen – God’s working!! Hugs and love xox

  27. Oh girl. I’m a 26 single Catholic girl who knows the struggle. The dating scene is a hot mess these days to say the least. And after many frogs I am finally at a point of peace where my devotion is now focused on Him. I resisted for so long and so badly wanted a husband but now I know that I HAVE to have better standards. God is asking me to be patient and also to say no to several men and be picky. Stay strong. I’m in Kansas and its not easy so I can only imagine if NYC how difficult it would be. Pray and give it to God, lady. You are to smart for anything less than what God has in store for you.

    • A HOT MESS. Thanks Allison, so true – patience can be so difficult! Yes! Praying for you on your journey! God’s preparing our men right now! Haha Hugs and love xox

  28. @ the #livid never in a million years would I have guessed that. Just from the picture id say is she trying to smile at me ahould i smile back…
    Gussing your mood from your expression is lose 100% of the time haha.

    • Ahaha oh yeah that’s my – I cannot believe you just did that and I’m ticked look!! Thanks friend. Hugs and love xox

  29. Clearly, he’s a moron. Love your attitude, though. God’s preparing someone out there for you. Someone who will actually be worthy of the awesome person He’s made you to be.

    • Thanks friend – I do believe that with my whole heart: God’s in control! Thanks for your support. Hugs and love xox

  30. Oh girl. You deserve MrGoesAllOut not THAT guy. Dating is so hard. I’ve had some tears and disappointments in dating lately. Sigh.
    Let’s pray for each other.
    Hugs and so much love.

  31. Huge thanks for sharing that. Not a lot of people would have put it back out with so much honesty. Sigh, another guy us “good guys” would like to disavow. Tell you what, I’m going to concentrate all my thoughts and send him a cosmic flick to the nuts. You’re welcome!

  32. Dating can be so frustrating (I’ve been there). I see how this would have been disappointing and upsetting. If he has a cell phone, it is hard to understand why he would not call, text, or even set an alarm. Best wishes!

    • Thanks Marcelo – it sure can. Thanks for your support and encouragement. Yeah, super disappointing!! Hugs and love xox

    • Thanks Kevin. Haha yeah a Texas cowboy certainly wouldn’t have pulled a stunt like that! Hugs and love xox

  33. I am so impressed how you are able to see through the angst and turn it over to God. You are strong and I am wondering if I can be as strong to turn over my angst to God. Thank you for sharing your rare emotions and seeing how God can be there all along.

    • Thanks Susan, i really appreciate your kind words. Oh yes – He is always always there! Hugs and love xox

  34. Pardon my candor…but he must have a serious malfunction. I hope for his sake he’s in a hospital with a concussion…that would justify not following through with you.
    You are a fine young woman with a good grasp on things…not as common as you might think.
    What young men don’t see…

    • Haha awww thank you friend. I really appreciate your support and kind words. It means a lot. Hugs and love xox

    • thanks friend, yeah – everyone in my family, and my friends – they were all pretty up in the bit about it too. Choice words to say the least! i appreciate your support! hugs xox

  35. I hope this doesn’t sound harsh but maybe focus on someone just to hang out with or just as a boyfriend. As my mom might have said, “You’re thinking too hard”.
    My wife came out of left field. I wasn’t looking for her yet she showed up, presumably when God decided she should. And that was a decade before His grace was amazing to me.

    • Thank you Janis – that is really great advice. that puts too much pressure on it! And thanks for sharing your story – God is always at work! hugs xo

  36. You are absolutely right, better to stand up for your diginity. you deserve some real man who will respect you.
    And always remember, you’re screening these guys for someone who will love you forever, in good times and bad and especially should you start a family, you’ll need a true man.

    • thank you Challen. I really appreciate your support and encouraging words. That’s such a powerful reminder!!! hugs xox

  37. It’s his loss and, by the sound of it, your blessing. Any guy that would not have gone out of his way to make up for it is best left alone. You’re right – God is working. Romans 8:28 says that He is working all things together for good to those who love Him, to those who are the called according to His purpose. Never forget that! God has a great man in store for you – one who chases after Him.

    • Thanks so much Matthew. I do believe that – that He’s working all things together for good! I appreciate the encouragement! Hugs and love xox

  38. His loss, beautiful. If he is such a jerk for not showing up, you win and see his true colors up front. Praise God! Better awaits. Keep your beautiful chin up and beautiful heart beating for God! Love you, as always! XO 😄 ❤

    • Thank you so much Tonya – you’re right. Better to learn that now rather than later. I really appreciate your encouragement! Much love to you, dear friend! Xox

      • It is a blessing to see true colors up front than struggle for years with them. Truth! God has much better in store for you but as always knows the perfect timing for you both. No worries, precious friend. 😄❤

      • Amen – it’s all about the timing, and I trust that there is certainly a reason for why God is waiting. I will trust trust trust. Very grateful for your support and friendship 💛💛💛

      • Grateful for you. You help so many people by sharing your life’s journey and thoughts. Your vulnerability expresses your inner strength and trust in God beautifully. Thank you for writing. Means so much!

      • Gosh that is seriously such a kind thing to say. I am so touched!! 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛

      • Just knew you needed some truth to counter this snub from an unworthy. Jerks are everywhere, God loves you through the protection He gives you, disguised in the world as a snub. God loves you too much to let a jerk get too close to you. 😄

      • 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼 Thank you for that beautiful truth!! AMEN!!

  39. Caralyn, so on the first time he missed, did he contact you to say your sorry or was it a response to your inquiry of where was he? On the second time, did he/has he ever gotten back to you – it did not sound like he did. On my worst date, I would never do that . . .that’s amazing he has twice. What about him made you like him – maybe it was the inevitable anyway. But, I want to say goodbye, I know it won’t go anywhere, but I always seem to say, well you never know, then bam, they say it won’t work out. Now I feel dejected, rejected but it was my idea first. LOL. Dating is dating, God will lead you to the one. Glad you took it with a smile, don’t let those who set out to hurt you hurt you. God Bless!!

    • Thank you so much 🙂 and no – radio silence. Just so disappointing. I so agree – God will lead me to Mr. Right!! Much love xox

      • You are and your not, but be careful, you are in New York, but something tells me you are a country girl at heart. Not a lot of country in the city, if you know what I mean. Big Bear hugs coming your way! !

      • hahah total country girl! 🙂 — or at least, a solid midwest gal! hhaha

  40. You deserve better and he definitely did you a favor! However that was rude of him and he could have let you know he wasn’t coming. What’s wrong with people?? But oh well, we live and we learn. Its not the end of the world. The right guy will come along when you’re ready for him. Trust the process! God knows what you’re looking for

  41. When you start making excuses for him in the beginning,it can only go down hill. That’s his way of lowering your standard.Therefore you will expect less of him each and every time.So much so that when he simply shows up in the future you honey are just happy he is there. Yes his loss though you most likely don t feel like that now. But as they say ” beautiful girl he is just not that into you” Good though dont start lowering your standards .Good luck and do not ignore red flags

    • You’re so right about that. Gotta keep that standard high. Thanks so much for your support!! Hugs and love xox

  42. I’ve dated a few toads but it was worse than being stood up. . I’ve written about it recently on my blog if you wanted to check it out. My advice is to give the right guys the time of day and give the wrong ones the flick. Time is precious, don’t waste yours on jerks

    • Thanks Kelly – I will definitely check that out. I really appreciate your advice. Very true! Hugs and love xox

  43. “…high-stakes job in NYC…”
    Herein lies my question. Perhaps the individuals you are focusing on are not humble enough? Being too focused on the $$$ producing job, too focused on their penthouse, perhaps the focus is TOO materialistic?

    This is not a diss, just an observation from someone who has been in this realm for more than five decades. The characteristics you’re looking for in a husband, you might find those in a person with more humble surroundings. The glitz, the glamour and the $$$ lifestyle usually doesn’t lend itself to a sturdier Christian foundation, one meant to grow a family. Don’t be dazzled by the “ooo, shiny” personalities…look for the diamond in the rough that will stand the test of time. Take it from someone who has “been there, done that”. It’ll save you years of searching and heartache…humble is better than shiny.

    • Thank you for this powerful perspective, Lisa. Yeah, I actually am not really all that focused on those things. I think that, by nature — ANY job in NYC is a high stakes job, simply because NYC itself is a high stakes city. You’re right – there is so much more to life than $$$! Thanks so much for this wonderful wisdom! hugs and love xox

    • thank you Jan, I really appreciate that. i know God has someone in store!! 🙂 hugs x

  44. If it’s any consolation: I was set up for a blind date, one of the worst of my life, and one day later I met my husband and we’ve been together for 17 years! You never know what the universe holds — just keep the faith!

    • Oh my gosh what a story!! Thanks so much for sharing! So beautiful – gives me great hope! Congrats on 17 years! That’s really something to celebrate! Hugs and love xox

  45. This post reminds me of recent conversations with my daughters. They’re both in their mid 20’s and in the dating scene. My oldest told me the other day that she knows she needs to date to find out what she does – and doesn’t – want in a future husband. Both of my girls figure if it doesn’t work out, he isn’t “the one” and it’s time to move on to find him. God does have a plan, and that’s what my mom told me when I was searching for Mr. Right 🙂 Hope you have a great time Wednesday!! xo

    • That’s such great advice. Thank you Jenny! I firmly believe that: that He has a plan! I just have to keep putting myself out there and be patient!! Best of luck to your daughters! It’s a jungle out there! I’ll keep them in my prayers for sure! Hugs and love xox

      • Thank you, I know they’d appreciate that! It’s tough out there. I pray every day that they’ll find the perfect guy for them. And they will, in God’s timing. And you will too Caralyn! I’ll pray for that for you❤️

      • Thank you 🙂 I really appreciate your prayers 🙂 yes! In His Timing!

    • Thanks Kevin. Yeah, moving on up! I fully trust that! God will bring him into my path! Hugs and love xox

  46. Wow, I’m so sorry you had to experience that. Dating is so difficult in this modern age, and it doesn’t help that guys these days are so noncommittal. Just remember – you are worth it. Walk away from people who don’t appreciate your value.

    Sending hugs and love your way! 🙂

    – Katie

    • thank you so much Katie, yeah the noncommittal aspect is really annoying! thanks for the encouragement! hugs xo

  47. “FELL ASLEEP?!” Are you kidding me?… If I were him, I’d me too excited to sleep. OK.. you gave him the benefit of a doubt. But what was the excuse the 2nd time? Did he even bother to give an explanation?… Mr. “Stood me up twice” must be kicking himself right now. .
    I suppose after the 3rd date, he must have thought the relationship is sure and become complacent OR, he’s got another girl in the running and he completely forgot about the plans he made with you.

    The part you mentioned about guys having many girls on the line in the beginning stages of dating. If girls know this, then why do they get upset if a guy mentions that he is meeting another person?
    If I was dating someone and I was going to meet another girl, I would be completely open and honest about it. However a friend of mine said that it was a bad idea to do so. He said that since there are no real commitments made at that stage, then there is no need and being completely open would be rather confusing…
    To be honest, I’m rather confused myself right now… I always felt that honesty was the best policy, however it seems that not so in the dating scene. Its a game and you got to be a player.
    Kind of affirms my stance in saying, “Girls Don’t Like Nice Guys” for most part, ‘cuz we’re not players.

    I wish Mr. “Wednesday” best of luck and I hope he realizes how blessed he is to have a shot with you.

    • Oh gosh, thank you friend. You brought a smile to my face. Yeah – I think you’re right – probably just met someone else! it really is a conundrum with the whole dating scene. so confusing! hugs xo

      • If he met someone else, the right thing to do is to tell you without keeping your hopes up.. Or was he just stringing you along just in case the other one didn’t work out.
        If that was the case, then he was just not into you and you were just a fall-back. That’s just disrespectful IMO.
        I’ll tell you what Caralyn.. if I’m still single when I turn 40, you and I can give it a shot.. LOL.

        I hope everything goes well with Mr. Wednesday.

  48. I can relate with this blog post. I’m even amazed you shared it here.🙂 Such boldness.

    Sweetheart, let no man treat you like trash. You matter. You are special.

    God is interested in your love story. One day, your man will come in through the doors, realise your worth and never leave.

    Keep being you.

    Keep following after Christ.

    He will fix your love story.

    You are amazing.😘😘

  49. My dear friend

    Yes, it is God who brings a couple together and such a holy sacrament cannot be forced. Often it is by “chance” that a woman and a man come together and sometimes only a twinkle of an eye is enough “to know each other” – to know this is the right one. Of course we have to go through experiences and learn from them as well. You are a wonderful woman and may God bring you the right person by your side.

    It is good that you always analyze the situations this will enrich your heart too.

    From heart to heart

  50. You are do right about deserving better! This is one of the differences between a boy and a man; a man will make plans with you and follow through.

    I’d have some choice words for the boy, too…

  51. Do try to stop trying and do let God act.
    He knows exactly where you are and will send what and who you need. He has plans not so discernible but very real.
    God bless you.

  52. Love your writing style. Very engaging from the start. Keep it up. P.s soz you had to go through that (twice). But like you say, God’s got a bigger plan for us. We just can’t see the full picture from his perspective.

    • Thank you Gome, I appreciate that. And you’re so right – He’s got a plan! hugs xo

    • You’re right – haha exactly. It’s like – hello, they were plain as day all along!! haha thanks for stopping by and for the encouragement! hugs xo

  53. You may have tried this already to test or try to see if the guy fits your profile, if not within the first 5 or 10 minutes of the first convo mention God or Jesus. Like I’m blessed or I thank the Lord, etc. Watch their reaction and judge from that point if they are worthy of you & your faith.

    Scripture only restricts interfaith marriages, not racial, not that thats an issue, but your faith should be and is probably the first criteria to determine compatibility.

    Just a thought, God Bless & good luck.

    • That’s really great advice! thanks friend – amen – faith is definitely a nonnegotiable! hugs xo

  54. Sorry to hear that, but at least you discovered his true colors! I’ve been out of the dating scene for quite some time, but it’s quite ruthless in NYC. I was wondering – would you ever date someone that had a different vision of a higher power? (Obv asking for a friend hahah)

    • thanks friend – you’re right about that – better sooner rather than later! That’s a great question – and to be one hundred percent honest, faith is a deal breaker for me. I believe that the best relationships and marriages have their foundation in Christ. I want to have that bond between us, and be able to raise a family in the same faith, so unfortunately, it’s a nonnegotiable for me! hugs xox

  55. Great post! This would definitely be a great read for others in your situation. People take being stood up to heart. You didn’t let it destroy you and that is fabulous! I can’t wait to hear about Mr. Wednesday! 😉

  56. There is a great dating book:He’s Just Not THAT into You. It’s from a guy’s perspective.
    Some men are cowards. They cannot tell a woman they don’t want to date them so they behave badly. The excuse is, ‘I don’t want to be the bad guy’. The reality is, they are too immature to do anything difficult or uncomfortable, they do not care about other people’s feelings, they are too lazy to make an effort. I feel for you. I hated dating. It was horrible. I stopped dating, started courting and found my husband. I told ALL my friends and family that i was looking for a husband and to set me up with men looking for a wife. No more dating. The difference is both subtle and profound. Yes, there will be man-boys who will try and challenge your boundaries. Don’t give them a second chance. Have a mindset of an employer. You are ‘interviewing’ men to fill a once in a life time position: that of Husband and all that that word means to you. Serious applicants only need apply. You own no one an explanation, a second chance, a free ride for sleeping in and standing you up. It’s ok to stand your ground. Good for you for walking away from this one.

    • Thanks Melissa – i will defintiely have to download that book and give it a read. And thank you for sharing your story. Courting – i like that. Such great advice! thank you!! hugs xo

    • Thank you so much Heather, that’s a really powerful way to look at it! i appreciate it!! 🙂 hugs xo

  57. Ouch…what a jerk 🙁 At least have some decency and show up when you say you are going to, or just don’t make plans! Sorry you had to go through this, but you are definitely looking at it the right way. Let God use this to help you grow and better prepare you for Mr. Right. When it happens, you’ll know. We are all here rooting for you! I especially love your last line….I hope he never does runs into any of the men in your family, lol! God Bless!

    • Thanks friend – yeah, it was pretty disappointing. And you’re right – God’s preparing Mr. Right’s heart and my heart! hahah I sure hope so too!!! 🙂 hugs xox

  58. When I lived in LA (another big city), dating was the worst. But I have to say the same thing happened in which I felt odd that a guy suddenly felt sick but my friends told me it was ok and I need to relax and trust. So, eventually we get together and he ghosts me after that. I was mortified! The same week, another guy from my past came back but was engaged with a baby on the way. I was wondering why God was having me go through this as I’m moving to Charlotte, starting over. But it all makes sense now. I’m starting to date a great guy who also is in a good place. I think it matters that both of you are in a good place (so timing) and all of our fears are realized so we can: 1. Realize we deserve more than that BS 2. We can appreciate a good thing when it comes along 3. We can work through our past issues and fears that may have been buried underneath everything
    I still get nervous but that’s what friends and God are for! 🙂 I will say that being ghosted after committing to someone and seeing a man I thought I would marry come back in my life were too big things holding me back. God’s timing is perfect. I don’t think I would’ve been as open to this new guy had that not happened (even though it sucks and we all deserve better than those yucky guys). I see great things ahead for you!! Keep going ❤️

    • Hi Christy! Thank you so much for sharing your story! Gosh, i’m sorry you had to go through that in LA – I feel like, especially in these big cities where it’s easy to be anonomyous, and unlike a smaller town where everybody knows everybody’s business, guys think it’s okay to ghost or worse. But I’m SO excited for you that you’ve found a great guy in Charlotte!! This is such great advice- I really appreciate it 🙂 I will keep you and your new relationship in my prayers!! big hugs xo

  59. I feel ya! In the months before I met my husband, I dated around (while being totally up front with the guys about it). Back to back, I had a guy tell me he didn’t want to pursue even a casual relationship with me since I would not have sex with him (though, to his credit, he was surprisingly gentle about it), and another guy who, like your aforementioned dude, kept standing me up. There were a couple other colorful characters peppered in there, but you get the idea. Basically, there are a lot of women who have been and are in the trenches with you. It stinks, but it doesn’t last forever.

    It’s like I read in my daily devotional yesterday: God is never late, but He’s also never early; He’s right on time.

    • Hi Monica, thank you so much for sharing your story. Oh gosh, I’m sorry you were shown that disrespect – not cool!! So glad you found your prince! 🙂 Oh I love that so much – He’s never late or never early. right on time. I’m going to keep that with me in my heart — so comforting. i appreciate you sharing that with me. big hugs xox

  60. My favorite quote here is, “When people show you who they are, believe them.” As Christians we know what God can do in their lives, but as far as getting into a relationship with someone goes, let’s just say it’s better for God to bring them a little closer to his image before we dive in and get over our heads. So, from a mother and grandmother perspective, good for you!

    • Hi Bonnie! Thank you so much for your encouragement! You’re so right about that – God always knows what He’s doing, and sometimes it’s for our protection. hugs xo

  61. Great interpretation of life’s circumstances! You are in His grip…but sometimes waiting in faith is the hardest part.

    • Thank you so much Daryl! You’re right about that – patience is not my strong suit! haha hugs x

    • THank you so much Laura, I really appreciate your support and encouragement! big big hugs xox

  62. He’ll come when you’re not looking. He won’t come when we’re actively searching. Surrendering yourself to God is so powerful – we want to feel like we are in control, but sometimes we have very little control over fate. God decides when the time is right. Dating sites can be both good and bad – plenty of frogs there too. Idk if you use a dating site or not but my friend is going thru a very similar situation (she hasn’t gone on an IRL date yet but is trying to connect with guys) and gets a lot of frogs as well…. I tell her patience. It will happen when it’s meant to happen.

    • That’s such great advice, thank you Hilary! I needed to hear that! Patience 🙂 Hugs and love xox

  63. Don’t worry. It was his loss. The least he could have done was sent a text. There’s no excuse this time around. He wasted your time but like you mentioned God isn’t finished with you yet. Hold on. Look to the hills because God is surely bringing the right person your way. He alone is Faithful 🙏🏿. Great post 👍🏾😊

    • Thank you Karen, I appreciate your encouragement. Amen – He is in control! Hugs and love xox

  64. Ah! Whoever that loser is, Caralyn, he not only has to watch out for the men in your family. How about that young lady with her finger pointing, saying, “You’re in big trouble mister.” That is who he better watch out for.

    That person, certainly was not the man for you, Caralyn. God, in His wisdom, has your life in His hands now, as well as the “gentleman” who will be waiting for you as you walk down the aisle.

    Each day is a day of preparation for the two of you. Preparation for the ministry you will be working in together.

    Scripture says:
    Ecclesiastes 4:12
    12 Though one may be overpowered,
    two can defend themselves.
    A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.

    Caralyn + God’s chosen man + Holy Spirit is a three strand cord not quickly broken, in serving Jesus Christ, King of kings together.

    God’s Abundant Blessings Caralyn.
    Luv, 😀🌹❤️😘

  65. When God says “No” to something we want or hoped for, we should not be mad or frustrated. His NOs are always a prelude to the YES — the bigger blessings He had saved and crafted especially for us.

    Hence, he is a big NO. Lol.

    • Thank you Tina, I appreciate your encouragement. Amen! He’s crafted a good plan for us! Hugs and love xox

  66. Look at how beautiful you are, within and without. I’m not saying you’re perfect though, neither am I…but one thing I so much know we have in common is that we have same perfect savior. So keep it rolling…soon we’ll breakthrough.

    • Oh my gosh thank you friend for your kind words. Amen! Jesus is perfect! And so is His timing! Hugs and love xox

  67. You have given me a opening to go kick a little Butt for you. You are so open that there may be a little fear factor looming in the back of the room. This is not a negative and you may want to make yourself aware. For whatever reason, this guy’s problem is that he has no sense of guidance. You continue, overcome the hurt, and use the time (wasted) with the upper hand. The best to you and find blessings.

    • Hahaha thank you friend. I appreciate your kind words and support. Hugs and love xox

  68. Hahaha….love this post, my friend. I find it hard to digest that someone could do that to you… but then I am a firm believer that sometimes what happens is for the best…and your guy, when you have to meet him, even before you call him yours…will be there at your door, five minutes early than one minute late. Take care and best wishes!

    • Aw thanks Vidur! You’re right – everything happens for a reason! Hugs and love xox

    • Oh my gosh thank you friend. No one deserves to be disrespected like that! Hugs and love xox

  69. Everything has a season. In God’s time things will happen and it will happen for you. You are right you are better than waiting for some guy who doesn’t respect you enough to even text you which I feel is disrespectful by the way instead of a phone call. It will come and it will be right. Blessings

    • that is such great advice, thank you Corrie. And so true – God’s timing is everything! I really appreciate the encouragement! 🙂 big hugs to you xxoo

    • Thank you Sophie. I firmly believe that! Thanks for your encouragement! Hugs and love xox

      • I mean, there’s a lot of crappy rules. Three real dates, fourth one slumber party. You also mentioned you both expressed an interest but were dating other people? Very, high school. Hard to imagine long term with someone when there’s other someones. That’s my biggest Bachelor gripe.

      • To be clear, I was not dating anyone else. And I do not think he was either.

      • Do you know? You mentioned that’s normal for NYC. I was thinking, it was a binary trait. I agree about, the ego but disagree it’s like a self esteem thing, right? Ego, stands next to you. The shell, self esteem is the spirit, who we are.

      • Ego is just a shell. It’s why it’s fragile. Self esteem is the perception of the ego. That’s why I said it’s inside us. They are separate parts of how we see ourselves and what we show everyone. I know, you mentioned codependency, just trying to help (probably badly) to differentiate the ego and self esteem. Since, self esteem has a strong relation to codependency.

      • Thanks for the clarification. Also – What’s codependency? Haha I never mentioned it!

      • You mentioned you were reading a book on codependency when we talked in the cuffing season post. It’s a strange limitation, if you have low self esteem and maybe this guy is so great with a nice job or looks then you are validating your worth through him. Also, not having someone is rare as the constant need for validation through attention remains. I mean, it fits and it’s also pretty normal but it’s really reaching for something that will never exist. Especially for the partner.

      • Of course i have, Kenzie. Wow – I’m sorry you think I’m so shallow.

      • It’s not being shallow. I’d tell you. I think, if being with someone makes me feel less whole than the person I found being alone. I shouldn’t be there. Whatever, that type of love that is being offered. Codependency, feels like the reverse. I have to guess. I have to please. It’s my fault for trying. It’s just my, fault. That’s, not love but is what we call, love in popular culture.

      • Ahhhh ok. Thank you for going into more detail. It’s true – pop culture love is so so skewed in today’s world.

      • But, now we’re getting somewhere. What is built by your industry reinforces the need for women to pursue this as the only relationship. Especially, targeting women with already low self esteem. In a culture, that women have accepted as a normal place, with low self esteem.

      • Ok. And just to clarify: I don’t have low self esteem. I have come a long way in my recovery – thanks be to God.

      • Would you have waited if esteem was not partly the issue after being “stood up?” I bring, boring books on dates. If they don’t show, I’m still eating. 😁 If they do show, I appear very smart.

      • I wasn’t waiting at the restaurant. He just never followed up with our plans. So I was home. Nice touch with the book

      • I know you weren’t waiting at a restaurant. Its where I get stood up. Thanks for thinking about, me. 🙄 😂

      • Hm. In high school, we had bubbles around us that made us arrogant. The jock. The theater nerd. The artist. The regular nerd. This, is not high school anymore so we must turn that arrogance into real confidence. Be confident. They don’t deserve you. You are beautiful. Be beautiful and confident.

  70. Amen sister! Walk away. I love how you share about God working in your life. He does have a plan for you!
    And news flash- God is not finished with any of us yet! You may be further along than you think! Don’t be so hard on yourself thinking you need to be at a certain place BEFORE you’re married. Some of God working in us is in our marriage, and WHEN we are married.
    Have a great date tomorrow night and be blessed! Feel the freedom to be you.

  71. He he at your last sentence. Now that I am married, I can look back at my failed dating experiences in perfect hindsight. Yes, Everything we go through in life is Orchestrated by God to get us to the good plan He has in store for us. In your case, an amazing husband. I’m glad you got to this point of realization soon. A responsible man would call you immediately he knows he can’t make it and not keep you waiting like that. A responsible and mature man would be honest with you upfront. Obviously hope u remember that when u do eventually marry he will Also disappoint…but awesome fact Is that we know a heavenly Father who will never disappoint and loves u And I unconditionally

    • Thanks friend for your encouraging words. You’re right – God orchestrates everything! Such great advice. Thank you friend. Hugs and love xox

  72. You’re so beautiful. You don’t deserve such kind of treatment. I believe God sets standards of love by how He holds us down and loves us, therefore there must be someone out there who is approved by Him.

  73. I sort of know how you feel. I sent a message to a guy and he didn’t even answer back. I gave it a week then deleted him.
    I was taught that a real man will not only open your door but also open his Bible.
    It’s good that you look to God and remember that he has good plans for you.

  74. That ego blow… I get it. If everyone deserves a second chance (not something I’d automatically grant, to be honest), Mr.-Stand-You-Up-Twice has exhausted his chances. Wow. Dating seems disproportionately difficult nowadays. I don’t envy you.

    But for what it’s worth, I join your ranks of loving fans who think anyone who stands you up is crazy.

    • Thanks Matt. Yeah it’s the Wild Wild West our there for sure. Hahahaha thanks – yeah I feel so blessed to have such great friends! Hugs and love xox

  75. You have more patience than I do. I would not have given what’s-his-name a second chance. A date is something special, because you are something special. You should be of the utmost importance in your prospective date’s mind. Once, I messed up meeting someone because we were to meet on a corner and she went to the wrong one. I applaud your closing the door on this fellow, no matter how much fun he might have been on dates 1-3.
    Have a blessed day,

    • Thank you Sandy, i really appreciate your encouraging words! Thanks for saying that:) Hugs and love xox

  76. This is so sad to hear but is way too common these days. Just seems the current cultural climate is one where there is a lack of baseline respect for human life and other people’s time and efforts. Relationships are also not being respected with the rampant “hookup and swipe left” mindset we are being sucked into. Props to you my sister for taking it with much grace and poise. God is always on time.

    • Thank you so much for the encouragement, Christopher. Amen – God is always on time! Hugs and love xox

  77. Good post. I think the real takeaway is here:

    When people show you who they are, believe them.

    How much angst could be avoided if we all took that to heart.

  78. I have been there! Never thought I would be but, tah-dah there I was sitting at home thinking sooooooooo um well I guess not then. I really thought he was a great guy but like you said when they show you believe it!!! Someone great or at least someone pretty close to great awaits us both! I have a new date tonight as well… Enjoy it and let it be what it is.

    • Thank you so much Latrice, for your kind words. I’m sorry you can so personally relate! amen to that! hugs xo

  79. Gosh I love that “when people show you who they are believe them”. And I agree, to often we don’t get simple respect as…a human being. We have to decide we are worth more and they aren’t worth our time if they can so easily dial up disrespect to us.

  80. I starred this article not because I ‘liked’ what happened to you but to let you know that I feel you. You don’t deserve what this dolt has done to you. If he has not enough sense to act like a gentleman, he does not deserve you.

  81. Dude I’d love to say I trust you are putting God first when dating but just to make sure and reiterate and encourage. DON’T SETTLE. Number 1 advice: FIND SOMEONE EQUALLY YOKED as the Bible says. Just as fired up for GOD as you are! If he is Christian but not necessarily Catholic I’d say keep an open heart. That is your personal decision though. High paying jobs do absolutely not equate with character either. They are often a façade. LOOK at the HEART. A “wealthy guy” should not impress you if you are first looing for someone spiritually overflowing. It won’t mean a thing if they are “high class” if they are spiritually bankrupt. BLESS YOU SISTER

    • Hi AJ! thank you for this wonderful encouragement. you’re right – don’t settle! Love this advice so much – I really appreciate it!! 🙂 big hugs to you xox

  82. I hope you are happy you were not trapped in a “modern arrangement” where you give up everything valuable to you for a quick and easy grifter.

    After three dates, he discovered you are real. A real virgin, looking for a marriage/life match. He did not even think how rare a jewel you are.

    You are new to this game, and different from the other players. You may need a finer filter to find a man who wants what you want.

    • Thanks Von, i appreciate your encouragement. A finer filter – interesting thought. Hugs and love xox

  83. You are so bold to share this online. 🙂 Yes, God has better plans! And it’s not you but him. Lol. I agree with the quote you posted, close doors that lead nowhere. 🙂 God bless!

  84. Oh my goodness, I 100% relate to being the overly-forgiving people pleaser! It’s particularly hard in dating or any situation where you’re just getting to know someone and desperately want to believe that they are a GOOD person, but it’s true that we need to pay close attention to others’ behaviors. If he’s willing to disrespect your time in your heart at a time when he should be trying to make a good impression, you don’t even want to know what he’s like when he’s gotten comfortable. A mentor once told me to find a comfortable place between effort and ease…meaning, be proactive but also be patient. Your Prince Charming is out there! <3

    • Thanks friend – yeah people pleasing is definitely a treacherous slope for me. Such great advice. Thank you friend. Hugs and love xox

  85. I am sorry this happened to you at all; however I admire you for standing up, dusting yourself off, and realizing you are amazing and deserve the absolute best in your life! I wish you all the best! XX

  86. As a sister to you in Christ Jesus, my advice is that you allow God to do the choosing of your spouse for you and not you of yourself. Pray about it. Ask him for discernment before you get to know that person. Hope you’re good otherwise. Blessings and grace to you sis! Keeping you in prayer! 🙂

    • Thank you so much Tammy, that really is such great advice. Thank you for your prayers! Hugs and love xox

  87. Remember God has the controls, ask Him to put a Godly man in your life and you won’t have these issues. 12 years ago (without me asking or looking) He put Naida into my path and it has been a blessing since.

    • Amen to that! THat’s such a) truth and b) advice! Awww, what a beautiful love story! congrats on 12 years! hugs xox

  88. Psalms 45:13
    “The king’s daughter is all glorious within: her clothing is of wrought gold.”
    Never forget who you are. You are the ‘King’s Daughter’. He won’t let just anybody come into your life. He has someone special. He is your protector.
    It is who you are within that is truly glorious; who your heavenly Father has made you to be. Though your clothing were made of gold, it would pale in comparison to the inner beauty God has established!
    Don’t ever sell yourself short!
    Ron Bouchard
    P.S. Thank you so much for reading and liking my posts. That blesses me!

  89. You will meet the respectful guy who will make you happy beyond your dreams. I know you can only take so much advice because in the end, you make the decision of how worthy you are. Don’t base it on men who’s love who is not as perfect as God’s love.

    I pray that you will wait on God and trust Him. He will send a believer to you. Why should we be interested in someone who doesn’t feel the same way? Let him go.

    Best wishes!!

    • Thanks so much Bo for your prayers and kind words!! Means the world! Hugs and love xox

  90. Great blog and post. Yip God will bring onto your path the right partner for you. As a former anorexic, perfectionist people pleaser, I’m with you! Now I realise that the only one I need or want to please is God. Blessings and love, Anita.

  91. Thanks for liking my recent poem/post. I appreciated this blog entry! I agree 100 percent God is orchestrating. There is a brother in Christ out there (unless you’re open to marrying a nonbeliever), who is living out Matthew 6:33, advancing the Gospel, and expanding His kingdom for God’s glory.. who you’ll grow with!

  92. Holiness grows through little mortifications. I heard a story of a successful farmer. He was asked the secret of his success. He answered, “I always get the weather I want.” The questioner wanted to know how that was possible. The farmer replied,”I want the weather that God wants, therefore I always get the weather I want.” The key is submitting your will to God’s. Peace of Jesus.