The Lie Women Believe

Paxton Smith.

If that name doesn’t ring a bell, it’s because she’s a graduating high school senior from a random high school in Dallas, Texas.

But last week, she became a viral Internet soundbite, when her valedictory address got picked up and shared across the nation by the millions.

Why? Because she scrapped her pre-approved speech and gave, instead, what was the most gut wrenching plea for abortion rights, in an outraged response to Texas’ new Heartbeat Bill that was signed, banning abortions after six weeks of pregnancy – a landmark win in pro-life legislation.

Paxton Smith's Valedictory address at Lake Highland High School has taken the internet by storm with her pro-abortion rant against Texas' Heartbeat Bill. But what does her speech reveal about the lie our women and young girls have come to believe about motherhood? #prolife #catholic #motherhood #mom #family

I hope that you can feel how dehumanizing it is, to have the autonomy over your own body taken from you.”

Yeah, Paxton….tell that to the child in the womb who is literally having the life sucked out of him or her.

Paxton, who was one of the first female Boy Scouts, and high achieving scholar at Lake Highlands High School, has been made deity-status among the mainstream leftist media. They’re stumbling over themselves to kiss the ground she walks on, and praising her pro-abortion soapbox. Why?

Because she is regurgitating precisely the lie they’ve been indoctrinating women – especially young women like her – with for decades.

And here she is, a barely-legal girl, preaching the Gospel of Abortion in none other than conservative Texas.

Paxton Smith's Valedictory address at Lake Highland High School has taken the internet by storm with her pro-abortion rant against Texas' Heartbeat Bill. But what does her speech reveal about the lie our women and young girls have come to believe about motherhood? #prolife #catholic #motherhood #mom #family

Paxton chides, “I have dreams, hopes, and ambitions. Every girl here does. We have spent our whole lives working towards our futures, and without our consent or input, our control over our futures has been stripped away from us. I am terrified that if my contraceptives fail me, that if I’m raped, then my hopes and efforts and dreams for myself will no longer be relevant. I hope you can feel how gut-wrenching it is, how dehumanizing it is, to have the autonomy over your own body taken from you.

I refuse to give up this platform to promote complacency and peace when there is a war on my body and a war on my rights. A war on the rights of your sisters, a war on the rights of your mothers, a war on the rights of your daughters. We cannot stay silent.”

Oh Paxton, how my heart breaks for you. I am truly saddened to hear how wholeheartedly you’ve bought into the lies you’ve been fed. It is tragic how misguided your thinking is, in one so young – one so manipulatively targeted. You are precisely who the pro-abortionists zero-in on with their lies, and they gotcha: hook, line and sinker.

What is this lie? Sure, there’s the lie that a “pregnancy” is nothing more than a clump of cells. That the “fetus” is not a child or human person with its own separate life and rights. And sure, there’s the lie that abortion is merely a “termination of pregnancy” – not the murder of an innocent life. Those lies are terrible, and I have written about them numerously — in posts that have been banned from Facebook.

But this particular lie that Paxton has so pitifully bought into is that a woman’s aspirations – her career – her dreams – her lifeARE OVER when she has a child.

This despicable lie that women cannot do, cannot be, cannot achieve, cannot continue on with their hopes and ambitions once they are a mother. And it is fed like milk to a suckling cow.

Paxton Smith's Valedictory address at Lake Highland High School has taken the internet by storm with her pro-abortion rant against Texas' Heartbeat Bill. But what does her speech reveal about the lie our women and young girls have come to believe about motherhood? #prolife #catholic #motherhood #mom #family

This lie is the basis for the deterioration of the family. Of marriages. It’s why women are waking up at 43 after striving after their careers — which is not a bad thing! — but they’re waking up heartbroken and realizing that, Oh crap, I’ve been running so hard and fast in this direction, thinking that children would be the worst thing in the world for my career trajectory, and now, here I am, childless at 43 and physically UNABLE to bear children anymore.

And if that is stinging a little too close to home for some of my readers, I am truly sorry – and my heart breaks that the world has so wrongfully instilled this backwards hierarchy of priorities, with children being enemy #1.

It has obviously been culprit #1 to the abortion industry, as well as Plan B and birth control sales.

But spin off after spin off, this lie has broken the hearts of so many, as we witnessed in the tragic thinking of your typical American teenager: Paxton Smith.

I want to close with two things.

First – the truth about babies and motherhood.

Sure, you’ll have celebrities like Michelle Williams get up on stage at the Golden Globes, and credit her Hollywood acting career to the abortion had many years ago. And you’ll have broken feminist politicians like Hillary Clinton tweeting “This took guts” – referring to Paxton’s speech. And yeah – you’ll have the entire secular world fawning over this misguided girl, saying she’s totally right and the next big feminist activist.

But the truth of the matter is that children are a gift from God, and any woman who finds herself in the privileged position of being a mother should feel dang blessed.

Children do not hinder a mother’s ability to live how she wants, or do what she wants. A child isn’t going to squash her dreams or snuff out her potential. In fact, it’s just the opposite. A child will enrich every area of that woman’s life.

The child will bring her and her spouse closer. The child will offer a new depth in her relationship with God. Motherhood will give her a beautiful new purpose and direction in life, in addition to those she had before.

Sure, it will take a little creativity with childcare, but mothers can absolutely chase after their dreams and careers! Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg, RBG, Reece Witherspoon, Gayle King, Meryl Streep, Katie Couric. I mean Kamala Harris is the freaking Vice President of the United States, and she has two kids.

In fact, studies have shown that over a 30-year career, mothers are more productive than childless women!

A child adds to a woman’s life, not detracts from it.

And that is the truth.

And also – Abortion is not the only option! She could give the child up for adoption – which is a brave, and noble, and generous thing to do for the sea of couples that are so desperately longing to welcome a child into their family.

Lastly, I will just close with this. If Paxton Smith is so terrified of her “contraceptives failing,” perhaps she shouldn’t be having sex. She’s a high school senior. There’s a 100% bulletproof method for not getting pregnant: and it’s not in a box you can buy from CVS, or that secret blister pack of pills you’re hiding from your dad: It’s called abstinence. It worked for me. It’s a beautiful thing. And yeah, I think I turned out okay.

Paxton Smith's Valedictory address at Lake Highland High School has taken the internet by storm with her pro-abortion rant against Texas' Heartbeat Bill. But what does her speech reveal about the lie our women and young girls have come to believe about motherhood? #prolife #catholic #motherhood #mom #family

“There is a war…on the bodies of our daughters.”

Well, Paxton. You were right about that…but ironically, not in the way you meant it. There, in fact, IS a war on our daughter in the womb. And you’re damn right: I refuse to “stay silent” until their rights are acknowledged, protected, and THEY are no longer dehumanized.

Paxton Smith's Valedictory address at Lake Highland High School has taken the internet by storm with her pro-abortion rant against Texas' Heartbeat Bill. But what does her speech reveal about the lie our women and young girls have come to believe about motherhood? #prolife #catholic #motherhood #mom #family

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146 responses to “The Lie Women Believe”

    • Thank you so much Charlie. I really appreciate your support and encouragement! Amen to that! Hugs and love XOXO

  1. This topic breaks my heart every time, so we can only imagine how the creator of all life thinks of such ungodly acts!!!!! As long as people keep their bibles closed we will have such ignorance as abortion is fine. Blessings Always BBB. Thanks for the writing, may it enlighten someone somewhere.

    • It really is so heartbreaking, Julia. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. I’m right there with you! We need to get back to the Word! Hugs and love xox

  2. I hadn’t heard of this because I don’t watch any news these days. This gal has bought the lie and it’s evil in my opinion.

    • You’re right John, she has fully drank the koolaid and it’s really a shame. And sad. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your heart. We’ve gotta pray for her! Hugs and love xox

  3. I agree with Paxton Smith. I believe ALL of us have autonomy over our body. I also believe young Ms. Smith is misguided.

    Yes, Paxton, you have autonomy over your body … but when you invite a male to enter your sacred place, you give up some autonomy. And if the male leaves some of his seed, which in turn creates a new life, then that NEW LIFE also has autonomy over its developing body.

    Paxton and other women, outside incest and rape, have a choice about who enters their domain. The Hookup Culture doesn’t respect that space — a couple quick drinks and off to bed they go. This behavior does not respect the autonomy of our bodies or life. Abortion does not respect the autonomy of life either.

    Thank you, Caralyn, for your COURAGE to protect ALL life. Love and aloha!

    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this! That is SUCH a great point! Wow, so eloquently put! I agree, the hookup culture has completely disregarded and separated the true meaning of sex and the actual repercussions of it, and the responsibility that brings. So glad you stopped by! Love and aloha! Xoxo

      • Thanks for this analysis, something not heard frequently enough. I am amazed at the traction the simplistic “my body, my choice” gets. That’s all well an good until someone else’s body comes about.

    • Oh my gosh so powerfully put, Angela. TRUE!! thank you for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

  4. As a pagan I have a very simple philosophy on this issue. If an entity has a heartbeat it’s alive if you terminate that heartbeat you’ve killed it. If you’ve done so in a premeditated way where the entity didn’t have an opportunity to defend itself that’s murder.

    • That is so beautifully straightforward and true! Thank you Karac for sharing that and joining the dialogue! Hugs and love xox

  5. Sex education should include a video of partial-birth abortion, chemical abortions, and a baby that survived an abortion attempt left to die in a broom closet. THAT is the ugly truth that is kept from all young girls – all young people – by the abortion industry. Now before Congress is the Endless Frontier Act (the Innovation and Competition Act) that would allow the splicing of aborted baby parts into animals!!

    This is an abomination of God’s Creation by unGodly people who have unholy desires to become like God.

    Paxton Smith doesn’t have enough life experience to be making such proclamations. Like Greta Thunberg, she’s allowing herself to be used by forces of which she has no understanding. She really thinks she does; but she’s deceived.

    And the schools are complicit: Somehow I doubt that not one person on that high school administration knew of Smith’s plan to make her “statement.” Yet they would not hesitate to block a Christian student’s speech that gave a testimony of God’s grace and mercy and Divine Guidance.

    May God help us.

    • Oh my gosh that is such a powerful idea. I remember when I was in middle school I saw the black and white video “The silent Scream” which depicts an ultrasound of a baby undergoing an abortion. I remember it like it was yesterday. It completely opened my eyes and that was the day I became a Prolife advocate. You’re so right – that is kept from our girls and instead they’re indoctrinated with “my body my choice” and preyed on by the Aniston industry. You hit the ball on the head. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your powerful thoughts! Hugs and love xox

  6. God bless you for speaking up on this issue Caralyn! Paxton’s speech broke my heart. A lot of the women I graduated with were mothers, and their children motivated them to accomplish their goals! Same thing with my mom, who had three kids and little money. Yet she was brave and accomplished so much. Instead of telling women they need to murder their babies in order to accomplish great things, let’s all stand together and help support them as they succeed as mothers and in their goals!

    • Thank you so much Emily for your words of encouragement and support. her speech broke my heart too. it really did. And wow – what a powerful story – thank you for sharing that. Strong woman!!! Hugs and love xox

    • you’re so right about that – and it is so so sad how the abortion industry preys on girls like her. And this right here proves it. is. working. thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

  7. Another GREAT post! Paxton would do well to read how these procedures are performed, What is sad is how someone in her position can use language such as dehumanizing and yet be completely blind to the fact that this is exactly what has been done to the baby she may one day be carrying. Those who want a child refer to it as “my baby”, those who don’t want a child refer to it as a fetus or tissue… anything but a baby.

    • oh gosh thank you so much M! really appreciate your support and kind words! you’re so right – THAT should be taught in sex ed classes: what abortion truly is! praying for her. Hugs and love xox

  8. Keep preaching the good word, sister. We have a generation of neglected children, who grew up not knowing the value of anything. From a dollar, to a human life, nothing means anything. Keep fighting the good fight, against post-modernism and against apathy.

    • thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement! you’re so right about that – nothing has value anymore, except for maybe “likes” on instagram – it is terribly sad. Hugs and love xox

  9. I’ve attacked abortion over their deceitful language like “health care.” Like you, I ask about the baby’s rights to their body. Tonight you plumbed a whole other level.

    I can’t tell you how much our daughter’s have enriched our lives and our marriage. All the potato w/ melted Velveeta dinners as we sacrificed for them. I remember when I used to talk to Hillary every night before she was born, said the same words. After she was born I found her fussing in the nursery. I leaned close and said those same words again. She stopped immediately, cocked her, and fell right to sleep.

    I remember the first time she hugged me. She was only months old, but as I held her close, her little arms reached around my neck and… sniff

    The pride I had watching Olivia play her flute. Teaching her chess and her excitement the first time she beat me.

    How many of these moments will that girl miss if she takes her own advice and aborts a baby…or more.

    Thank you, Caralyn, for bringing this specific point into such great fcus!

    • Hi Jeff, thank you so much for sharing this. It’s so powerful to hear – especial from a father (and a great one at that) – the joy and blessing of parenthood. Gosh, reading your words, it got me a little choked up. Whata priceless gift children are, and i cannot wait to one day, God willing, welcome my own into the world. (a lot has to happen between now and then though! haha ) but seriously, it’s so sad to see how society has warped and devalued – not just human life – but *family* now. I thought soccer practice that interfered with family dinners growing up were bad. I had no idea the attack on family that would be coming in just a few short years. thanks as always Jeff for adding such value to the conversation. Let’s pray for Paxton and all the girls (and people!) she represents! Hugs and love to you and your girls! xox

      • I always enjoy your articles. They really start me thinking! I’m sure you’ll make a great mom when your time comes! Yes, we must work harder than ever to defend against so many attacks on the family! Love and hugs!

  10. Tell it like it is! Thanks for standing up for the innocent. As usual you say it well. My heart bleeds for women caught in the rare cases of rape, etc. but it doesn’t change the facts of abortion.

    • thank you so much Rick for your kind words of support. I’m right there with you – it is heartbreaking, but like you said…yes…abortion is a gruesome and horrific act of killing. Hugs and love xox

    • thank you so much! i appreciate your support and encouragement. glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

  11. The truth is people say they do not want the responsibility. As they get older, they start realizing that they get closer to their end that there is nobody to continue their ancestry, and they never talk about the depression they have.

    Oh, she was in the Boy Scouts. Wait a minute. Are these women complaining about transgender boys going into girls sports. Hmmmmmmmmmm. I wonder where they got the idea.

    • You’re right about that, JB – children bless the lives of their parents, not just in the formative child rearing days, but then, they become friends, and the closest people to them, and steadfast loved ones they grow old with, and eventually are taken care of by. great point. thanks so much for stopping by, my friend. Hugs and love xox

  12. Why do we *never* hear about the men who are impregnating women at a rate that should always give us pause. A woman can have one pregnancy in any given year, but a man can literally impregnate any number of women per day. Where is the personal responsibility there? Asking the patriarchal powermongers to confront men of male gender really never comes to the fore in any public-square argument. I look for a measured response when it comes to placing the matter of responsibility directly where it belongs. How many abortions originate with men who simply cannot keep their part of the bargain? Why is silence the *only* answer? Why are women the *only* ones called to bear the brunt of personal responsibility?

    • Hi Bill, thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. You bring up a great point: men certainly have a responsibility in this. Half, to be exact. It really is a sad sad reality, but tragically, since the baby is inside the woman, these “run-the-other-way” men leave these women in the most difficult place of their lives. And that is so wrong, on so many levels. Again…abstinence. Hugs and love xox

      • Thanks for your kind reply, Caralyn. A man can never give birth and never has to worry about having an abortion, but he is free to fertilize eggs every minute of his waking day. So unfortunately, his responsibility is potentially far more than half.

  13. A woman can only become pregnant once per year, yet men can impregnate women many times daily. Why are women the only parties asked to take the personal responsibility for an act that requires the participation of both a man and a woman. Why is this argument never mentioned on the public square? I have been patiently waiting for men to come to the fore and to admit responsibility for the conception of a human being? Have you ever heard this matter of personal responsibility ever discussed on any platform anywhere in the United States?

    • Hi Tracy, thank you so much for your kind words of support. it truly means a lot. Our young people need a lot of prayers! Hugs and love xox

    • thank you so much!!! Yes, they truly do add to the mother – and the father’s – lives! From infancy to adulthood! God bless you!!!

  14. Yup, couldn’t agree with you any more that I do on these topics. My children haven’t hindered my career; my children are a highlight of my life, as well as their father’s.
    The real truth is that it takes a village to raise a family. Women can’t do it all, so some start to justify why they don’t move in one direction or another. Those lies then start to be their truth, and then it’s a bloody big mess.
    Abortion kills more than the babies; it kills dreams and the future.

    • Thank you so much friend for your kind words of support. What a beautiful testimony you are to the joys of children! And you’re spot on about that – it takes a village!! You’re right – the impact an abortion has on the mother is devastating as well – it is a grief that she will carry around for the rest of her life, whether she immediately realizes it or not, one day the gravity of her choice will hit her. That is why post-abortion ministry is so important, and why I support Christian Pregnancy Centers that offer prolife alternatives to women, as well as continued support for those women who keep their babies, and also – support for those who have chosen abortion. Hugs and love xox

  15. Bravo Caralyn, your message deserves a podium. Truth from start to finish. Only now in my sixties do I really wonder what I missed having a baby. Although I married late at 37, it was still possible.
    I will never know the blessing and lament at the lies that continue to pervert our youth.
    Press on Caralyn!

    • Hi LIsa Beth, thank you so much for your kind words of support and encouragement. I’m so glad this resonated with you. You’re right – we must pray for our youth as they navigate the increasingly hostile environment. And thank you for sharing your story. Motherhood comes in a lof of different forms, and some of the most important women in my life have been the spiritual mothers who played an incredibly important role in my development. 🙂 sending big hugs and love! xoxo

  16. I’ll start with the areas where we agree. I’m glad that you feel strongly about the fight against abortion and are willing to mark a line in the sand and express your opinion. I respect you too for disagreeing with Paxton Smith, but keeping the conversation civil. In my own instance, the minute I heard my children’s heart beats, I knew that I had been given a precious gift from God. Those are my values and that’s my story. After that, however, I feel the issue gets murky and I admit to having sympathies with others who question why the government should be telling them what to do with their bodies. I have frustrations too that the pro-life lobby often cares more about the fetus in a woman’s belly than they do about the young hungry mother and child on the street. I believe Jesus would care about all of them.

    In addition, you make great points in your article, but I’m not sure Sheryl Sandberg, Ruth Bader Ginsburg, Reece Witherspoon, Gayle King, Meryl Streep or Katie Couric are the best examples to prove your point about creative childcare. My research may be off, but they were all older than Smith when they had their children. In fact, I believe a few of the women you listed had the benefit of money and age when they had kids. That’s not to say they weren’t taking chances or didn’t have to overcome significant challenges. They just weren’t young unwed mothers trying to make a go of it.

    Finally, I know God works in amazing ways, but pro-life folks lose me when they force a victim of rape or incest to have a child that they may not emotionally/mentally be able to have. Yes, I know adoption exists, but you’re asking a lot of someone in a vulnerable position. My hope is that one day we will find common ground. In the meantime, thanks for sharing.

    • Love your respectful response. I do wish to give you another point of view to consider: My friend had a abortion because of rape. It’s now 15 years later and she says it isn’t the rape, but the abortion, that ruined her life. Nothing is easy about that terrible situation, but it’s her choice, not the rape, that haunts her to this day. 😢
      Also, as a woman who had a child at 17, the prolife community was the most helpful and loving community out there. It is an absolute lie that they don’t care for the mother. I had so much support.

      • thank you for sharing that Heather. I will definitely be praying for your friend. You have a powerful and beautiful story, and I appreciate you sharing it. Hugs and love xox

    • One of my best friends in college did not know who his dad was. As we got to know each other better, he shared that his mother had been raped and did not know the rapist. He was one of the brightest and most considerate friends I had in college.

    • Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this Brian. You bring up a great point. That’s why I support the Pregnancy Center East in Ohio, which is a prolife pregnancy center, who offer continued support for mothers once they have their babies. They help mothers with formula, baby clothes, they help these women find employment, child care, etc. It is a beautiful ministry, and we need more like them, because you’re right – prolife goes beyond the womb. Great point about the list of successful mothers – I should have researched more – I was trying to go for household names that people would know. But it takes a village. So glad you stopped by and joined the dialogue! Hugs and love xox

  17. I completely agree with you. I love how passionate you are about this, and I’m very glad that you stand up for those innocent lives.
    I’m not sure why, but for some reason I had a disturbing thought: what if she somehow didn’t know what to believe, but she was being pressured into it by those around her? I hate having that very thought, but unfortunately in some cases this happens. Either way we need to pray for her and everyone else that believes that it’s okay to have abortions.
    God bless you BBB!

    • Thank you so much for sharing your heart on this and joining the conversation! Yes! passionate is an understatement. I saw “The Silent Scream” – depicting an ultrasound of a baby undergoing a partial birth abortion, – when i was in middle school, and it was so gut wrenching and heartbreaking and from that day forward, i knew i had to stand for those babies. Gosh, I sure hope Paxton wasn’t pressured. That would be a terrible terrible thing. amen to that – we need to pray for her and all the young people she represents. Hugs and love xox

  18. Bravo! We need to speak more of the right of the baby to live. How many babies have died for so called convenience and never got to live their lives. Who knows if some of them were destined to solve some of our biggest challenges? Abortion is child sacrifice, murder, and is devastating to the women who have them. Many get depressed and suicidal.

    • Thank you so much for your kind words of support! You’re so right about that, it is tragic to think about the 62 million babies that have been killed since Roe v. Wade. It makes me absolutely sick. I know – I’m sure the person who would have found the cure to cancer was in there. Murder, plain and simple. And you’re right, the impact it has on the mothers is so tragic. That’s why I support prolife prenancy centers who offer post-abortion support to those women who have sadly not chosen life — because that grief that they carry around truly is unbearable, whether they immediately realize it or not. one day, they will, and when they do, they will need a lot of support. so glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox

  19. I thoroughly enjoyed this article because you reproved the rhetoric sprouting from the mouths of lost, impressionable, selfish, entitled babes. I was taught there is a price to be paid for every decision made—you want to have sex, with whoever you choose outside the boundaries of marriage—so be it But the murder of the life you take (and how do I know it’s a life? Because God said so when he formed he/she in the womb) – is like sticking your hand in an open flame and then destroying the stove for producing what it was made to produce!
    While these people harp & fight to have their rights to do with their bodies as they will, crying wolf & bewailing the consequences of your choice to have sex is ludicrous!
    I totally agree that these people need to STOP LYING TO THEMSELVES. As you said, there are far too many options for an unplanned pregnancy whether by consenting or forced sex but MURDER ISN’T A JUSTIFIABLE OPTION and never has been.

    • Hi Ms. Wanda, thank you so much for sharing your heart and your thoughts on this. You’re right – every decision has a consequence. You hit the nail on the head! Giving a child up for adoption is one of the most brave and beautiful things a woman can ever do. There was a long time where I was infertile, due to the reprecussions of my anorexia ((another example of every decision have consequences)) and only now, have I regained my period – 13 years later – and have regained my fertility. But in those 13 years, I had come to terms with the fact that I would have to adopt a child – and it a beautiful gift a woman can give to another couple who deeply long for a child. thank you for stopping by and joining the dialogue. Hugs and love xox

    • Thank you so much Greg, I’m glad this resonated with you. Her speech left me more heartbroken than angry — which, it did make me angry lol — but just sad for how the abortion industry and the media that support it, truly preys on young girls, and this is just a prime example that their efforts are working. Just sad. Hugs and love xox

    • You’re SO RIGHT!! Oh my gosh that was my exact thought when I first saw it too — coming from a child herself, it’s like — doesn’t she not appreciate that she was given that beautiful gift of life, and now she’s fighting to DENY that from others. oh it is so backwards and sad. thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Hugs and love xox

  20. Yes!!!! Love you and am so proud of you as always, beautiful friend. Exactly right. I finished my doctorate while nursing a baby and started my own business and brought my son to work with me. There is never a one size fits all, there is an intelligence higher than saying it is all or nothing. That is a simpleton’s or coward’s way out. Kill the baby because I was irresponsible and have no imagination to figure it out. Screams pathetic and murderous. God created each and every beautiful at-first-defenseless person in that womb that should be the safest place on earth. Keep talking and fighting for these babies. Hugs!XO😃❤

    • One more thing to scream out. It is not brave to kill your baby because you are selfish. It is brave to raise your baby. The definition of bravery is to do something you are afraid to do. A coward rids themselves of obstacles, even doing hei ous acts of murder because they are afraid and believe a lie, while a brave woman rises above obstacles and figures it out. Just last thoughts.

    • Hello dear friend!! aw, thank you for always having my back and being such a beautiful source of positivity! WOW!! That is amazing – you are truly a testimony that motherhood doesn’t hinder your dreams or aspirations. What a rockstar! i agree – there are solutions out there! amen amen amen. thank you for the support! love you friend! hugs xox

  21. 100% agree. Thank you for being a voice willing to speak the truth! As a woman who got pregnant far too young, at the tender age of 17, I can tell you wholeheartedly that my children are the best thing to ever have happened to me. They didn’t end my dreams and goals – they gave me new, much more fulfilling ones. ❤️

    • thank you so much Heather! Thank you so much for sharing your story, and for being such a powerful example of the strength of a mother! Oh my gosh, that last sentence brings tears to my eyes. i am so happy for you, my friend. what a beautiful beautiful soul you are!!! Hugs and love xox

    • thank you so much Laura!!! I’m so glad this hit home with you!! Hugs and love xox

  22. Thank you for including sex in the conversation! Thank you thank you. No one speaks up for abstinence until marriage, but this is central to the issue! I’m so grateful for this post. Spot on!!

    • Thank you so much Hannah! I’m so glad this struck a chord with you! Amen to that – premarital sex absolutely plays a huge factor in this! Sex has become so transactional, and has lost its beauty, its sacredness between husband and wife, and frankly, its PURPOSE: TO CREATE LIFE! oh my gosh, this society is so backwards, it makes me so frustrated. thanks again for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

    • having raging hormones and *acting* on those raging hormones are two completely different things. Self control is a virtue, and as I mentioned, abstinence is an incredible option — one that is always laughed at and overlooked. But it is beautiful. and so is modesty, for that matter. Not sure why you had to single out *christian males, when all men have hormones. but…

      • To be sure, in male dominated societies everywhere, males seem to get a free pass in case of unwanted births. However, abortion is a non-issue in majority of the world.

  23. Psalm 127:3-5

    Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord,
    The fruit of the womb is a reward.

    Like arrows in the hand of a warrior,
    So are the children of one’s youth.
    Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them;

    They shall not be ashamed,
    But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.

    • Amen amen amen! thank you so much for sharing these powerful and beautiful verses about the gift of children! Hugs and love xox

  24. Does Paxton know how many couples are looking and trying to have a baby of their own and yet still unable to?
    Why don’t we treat these people as what they claim the baby in womb is; a clump of cells…?

    Their reasoning is so universally flawed. However the young are being targeted by such brainwashing and it is not surprising that people cannot see the light on this issue.
    Movies about women being locked in basements and raped by fathers, etc. Yes… all images that women are clearly and constantly being oppressed by men. And now they have been dehumanized by laws protecting children in the womb.
    Perhaps they should feel what it is like to be dehumanized and treated as a clump of cells. After all, scientifically speaking, that is what we all are.

    We have reduced mankind and humanity to something unwanted and worthless. We are constantly being told, mankind is what is wrong with the world and it would be better off without us.
    And that seems to be what is happening right now; especially in the western world. The western world is having population decline, while the eastern side of the world is having population increase. All part of some elaborate plan to eradicate and undermine the way of life the western society enjoys and hand humanity over to under the control of China.

    • Actually, because of sex-selective abortions and infanticide in SE Asia, they are also in a population crisis. Japan, Korea, Vietnam, etc. China has even opened up to allowing three children per couple, but most have been brainwashed like this girl, and do not want any children.

    • You’re so right – she is smack dab in the center of the young women they are literally PREYING on, with their lies and indoctrination. And this speech is proof that it’s working. it’s so sad. Especially the fact that she is a child herself. You bring up so many great and powerful points here. thank you again. Hugs and love xox

  25. I can see both sides and I don’t think there’s an obvious answer which is always correct. Selfishly, I’m just glad that I’ll never have to make a decision on this subject.

    • Thank you Robert, for sharing your thoughts on this. It is a difficult topic matter for sure – one that people feel passionate about on all sides of the issue. Hugs and love xox

    • I am too, my friend. I am saddened and my heart has been gutted. We are raising our young girls to hate the most precious and beautiful gift about being a woman. it is truly tragic in every sense of the word. thank you for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

  26. An interesting post Caralyn. I am not Catholic (or Roman Catholic) as it is in the UK. What if they discover the child has downs syndrome or some other serious disability @ birth?

    • thank you so much Kenneth for sharing your thoughts on this. In terms of discovering down syndrome or something else before birth, I think that is the MOST tragic thing in the world to choose to kill that child in the womb, simply because he or she is differently abled. Growing up, one of my best friends had cerebral palsy. She couldn’t speak, confined to a wheelchair, didn’t have control of her body, had to be fed, etc. She could only smile. And I’ll tell you what, that girl is a walking angel on earth. *A walking angel.* You look at her face, and you feel Jesus’ love. Ask anyone who is the parent or loved one of a child with special needs and they will tell you the same thing. What Iceland and those other countries who have “eradicated” down syndrome through elective abortions…it is downright evil. I’m sorry to be so impassioned about this, but it is pure evil. I cannot think of anything more selfish or horrendous than to kill a child in the womb just because it is not considered “perfect” in their eyes. I have to stop thinking about this because I’m getting so upset I’m not going to be able to sleep. Anyway. Thank you for stopping by! great question. Hugs and love xox

      • As you know I am in The Salvation Army and we once had Officers (ministers/pastors) who had a down syndrome child (and if still alive will be the same age as my daughter who is 28.) I feel that you can see Jesus’ love on their smiling faces also. Finally on a different note Caralyn as I bought one of your books i keep getting emails from blurb are they the people that publish your books?

  27. Sadly,no one is helped by throwing a word like ‘lies’ around in this issue, just as a claim that the mother has unrestricted rights to her own body seems to take us nowhere helpful. It looks to me that too many people are seduced by the simplicity of ‘being right’, to grapple with the terrible human dilemmas that are the basis for abortion decisions. Much easier to argue over the ‘rules’ than to deal with human reality. For example:
    “In analyses that exclude China and India, whose large populations skew the data, the abortion rate is actually higher in countries that restrict abortion access than in those that do not.”
    One of the great Christian insights that Jesus brought to the world is that we must move from the rule of law to the rule of love and this means letting go of the simplistic certainties of right and wrong and engaging with the messy complexities of human relations. The Genesis story gave a clue to this revolution when God forbade humanity from eating from the tree of knowledge – knowing that knowledge brings complexity some of which we are not equipped to manage well. The truth is that interests conflict, that doing good can lead to doing harm, that all we can turn to is love for neighbours with whom we agree and with whom we disagree.
    So let’s stop talking about ‘lies’ on this issue, stop being solely preoccupied with what laws should be passed and start to get to grips with the uncertainties and ambiguities of our existence.

    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. My broach on the topic has never been to “be right” on the issue at all. I’m pointing out the destructive messages that are being targeted to our young girls. They are being preyed upon, and this speech proves it is working. Yes, the situations that can cause one to consider abortion are most usually heartbreaking, but there are other options than killing the child in the womb, namely adoption. This rule of love you speak of, very true. He also gave us the commandment not to kill. That is not ambiguous. Thank you for stopping by and joining the dialogue. Hugs and love xox

  28. Whenever shows such as, ‘Call the Midwife’ talk about abortion it’s always from the pov of safe, clean abortions for women, and the woman’s right to her body, forced motherhood is evil, etc. They never talk about the women who are haunted by their decision and live decimated lives in the wake of their decision. They never talk about the health complications that come after an abortion, sometimes years later when the woman who has had an abortion develops breast cancer or the woman who takes birth control suddenly has MS symptoms that clear up when she goes off the pill. Women like, Paxton act like they can never have an abortion. They lie and twist information. Notice her androgynous, non-gender specific name? Her very strong feminist pov? She is the perfect example of a well brainwashed individual. Her parents and the school system did their job completely in her. She is the product of the system. Lord have mercy.
    In the research I have been doing lately; there is a very clear, and strong connection to the belief in evolution and the complete lack of respect for human life.
    Reject the sovereignty of God and you reject the sanctity of what He created. It just doesn’t matter anymore. people become less valued than animals.
    It’s not just a Christian issue however, I follow Byron Tully of the blog, The Old Money Book/blog. He talks about how the upper class are not usually pro-abortion because they are focused on leaving a legacy and children are part of that legacy. Kill your unborn child and you kill off part of your legacy. That is a tragedy to them but here are the middle and lower class persons killing off their progeny seemingly at every opportunity. Fighting for the right to murder.
    Thank you for another great post, Cara. I hope you, Mr. Wonderful and your families are all doing well.
    p.s., did you hear about the Wisconsin priest who said people who are democrats aren’t really Christians? He is refusing his bishop’s request to step down.

    • This is a fascinating response, Melissa. Thank you so much! You’re absolutely right – the woman will have to carry that grief with her for the rest of her life, whether she immediately realizes it or not. post-abortive women need tremendous support – which is why i support prolife pregnancy centers, who offer such support, as well as continued support for mothers who have their babies! I haven’t heard about that, but i just did a quick google search and wow! that is wild! he has garnered over 620,000$ in donations too! it will be interesting to see how it all plays out! Hugs and love xox

  29. Amen!!!! Thank you for always bravely speaking out Caralyn. Speak out for Jesus and the unborn who’s lives are being threatened by this selfish act. And I’m sorry Texas but why even give six weeks, what’s the point??!!!

    I was thinking the same thoughts as you the entire time listening to Paxton’s egotistical words:

    If Paxton Smith is so terrified of her “contraceptives failing,” perhaps she shouldn’t be having sex.

  30. I saw this girl several days ago and it was so disturbing. But, I like the block you have on this post, the babies body is not her body! They don’t get that. Sad.

  31. She, like so many, think life is all about HER preferences and HER rights. My prayer is that if she gets pregnant and hears her child’s heart beating she will change her mind and realize the giver of life has blessed her to bear new life.

  32. So many will try to come at you with the “Christians only care about pro-life when it comes to the womb”. This idea is completely false. I have been involved in several groups of people who preach to care about everyone under the sun and the only group that I have seen care for everyone (single mothers, those living with disabilities and physical abnormalities, foster and adopted children, trauma individuals, societal outcasts etc.) is the church and the so called judgmental women who attend. Many of these groups that try to attack the church are filled with humans who have been mistreated personally but they tend to gather in their misery and stay there. Hurting people find other hurting people and bond and find strength in that despair. We also need to gather understanding and form friendships with those who have this experience. But outside of Jesus and the promotion of life, there is no hope and can never be any healing.

    It boggles my mind how some people say that abstinence just isn’t enough. We have become unwilling to give up pleasure that most don’t even try.

    Hate is so blinding. I agree these issues are so complex and we can never know what it is like to be in the middle of an unplanned pregnancy unless you personally have that experience. But for those commenting that say that the church is not pro-life after the womb have either been to the wrong church or are just making judgements about what they see online.

    I’ve never seen more hardworking, consistent, and empathizing community than the traditional church. The amount of gifts, showers, financial backing, prayer, and support I have seen toward singles mothers and their children is unmatched.

  33. Sadly, those who believe that abortion or any other choice that takes a detour from God’s will is giving them a “better life” or a bigger career will never know the blessings they rejected. Aside from the wonder and love they throw away when they end a child’s life, I truly believe that God rewards those who seek Him, and they may well have thrown away a better career path than the one they held on to so covetously. God’s plans are always greater than ours.

    I hadn’t heard about this girl. So sad. Hook, line and sinker.

  34. This topic certainly triggers people. As a christian myself, I still believe that there are circumstances for abortion, it’s not a black and white sort of issue. However, the flippancy of some people’s attitude toward sex and abortion is pretty abhorrent. Girls will actually joke about abortion on social media just to get clout.

    I do believe that in some cases, abortion may be a better option than having a child then chucking it into the foster care system. However, abortion is mentally and physically damaging to the woman, potentially making it difficult to get pregnant later in life.

    It’s such a big decision and in my opinion should be treated as such.

  35. Didnt listen to speech as I dont think it would make me feel good. So what she is roughy saying from what you have said, “I want to have the luxury of having as much sex as I want without the hassle of checking if or when the contraception fails. So very sad.

    When I hear about stories like this I really wonder what world we collectively are creating. Abortion is a very complex problem but it can be avoided with the proper education, sex is so much more than 5-10 minutes of fun.

  36. Really scary part of this is that Ms Paxton seems to be already planning to have an abortion. Caralyn your words are for all. To hear a good series of short talks about those who are thinking about abortion the Time of Grace website and Thinking of Having an Abortion series. Thanks again Caralyn. You are such a blessing. John

  37. Her fears seem statistically unreasonable. Failing contraceptives? Don’t sleep around unless you’re willing take responsibility to potentially raise a child. Fear of being raped? I know the liberal media would like young women to THINK there’s a rape culture…there isn’t. Drunken, promiscuous sex with that random, not great lookong guy from that party followed by immense guilt/regret isn’t rape. If you’re too drunk to consent, or remember whether or not you consented- there’s your first mistake. Furthermore, the biggest obstacle to this girl’s hopes and dreams are her own pride and selfishness. Motherhood requires self-sacrifice. That is why it is so distasteful to those who don’t know any better. And a little secret about contraception I learned from Abby Johnson (and experientially)- it is literally made to fail. So that when it does, you’ve been conditioned to believe that a child is the worst possible outcome of sex and you run with grateful tears into the nearest planned parenthood for a “quick fix” for your “little oopsie.” If that doesn’t make people’s stomach churn, there’s not much hope for their souls.

  38. THIS is what took courage and bravery. It’s culturally popular to be pro-abortion, so Paxton’s speech did not take bravery. It’s sad that no one has talked to her about having sex at such a young age. She treats pregnancy as though it were a minor nuisance she should be able to get rid of, instead of understanding that sex leads to pregnancy and pregnancy is not a minor issue. I miss the days where it was acceptable to say that if you’re not ready to be pregnant, you’re not ready for sex.

    It’s ironic that Paxton voiced her opinions about ‘her rights’, but didn’t extend that to the rights of her fellow graduates to have a graduation ceremony that celebrated all of their achievements, their right to have a ceremony that wasn’t hijacked by politics. She thought nothing of her fellow graduates and the experience she was giving them; she thought only of herself when hijacking the speech.

    From personal experience: I know a couple who are experiencing the pain of failed IVF because they waited too long. She wanted to establish herself in her career. One of my friends had experience IVF and was blessed to have 2 children, and she warned her friend not to wait, but her friend waited. It now looks like they will not be having any children, even though she and her husband desperately wanted children. There’s a lie out there that women ‘can have it all’; no, we really can’t, and I think she would tell you this. It’s denying science to think you can focus on your career and then have children. Not every woman can.

    Also from personal experience: I have a friend, beautiful inside and out, who was the product of rape. I’m grateful her mother made the difficult decision to have her, and was so strong as to be a loving mother to my friend. I share this not to take away from the pain of rape, or to say a pregnancy as a result of rape isn’t traumatic, but to give us pause when automatically assuming a rape pregnancy should be aborted.

    I read through some comments accusing you of misogyny and self-hatred (insert eye roll). With people like that, I just throw my hands up and say to those people: if the likes of you (who is behaving like a cyber bully, using manipulative tactics, and actively hating on fellow females) thinks I’m a self-hating misogonyst, I’m ok with that. And I would ask them, if they’re so concerned with what ‘little’ power women have, where are they in speaking out against women having to compete against biological males in sports?

    Stand strong in the fire. Your post took true courage…

    • No one is hating on you. You are just a passive aggressive person (like many other subhuman Christian ppl here) that can’t keep her nose out of another person’s uterus. I could care less about males and females or shemales playing sports. It doesn’t affect me. But I also think this: you look like a male with a wig on. 😁 Now go be great and you are lying like a dog–pregnancy is a nuisance. No one wants to be pregnant. Once the poster Caralyn documents her pregnancy and how lovely it is then maybe we can reconsider, but many intelligent woman have a mind and don’t want to be baby machines. Who in their right mind wants to be bogged with a children when a woman can be free to do as she pleases? Why does that idea bother you but a male who goes around impregnating multiple people and does what he pleases and is a literal danger to society does not?

      And Caralyn needs to stop dressing like she’s selling something she’s against if she’s such a Christian. Teach Caralyn about being modest in her dress, not about the young lady who provided an elegant courageous speech about her rights.

  39. So very true, thank you for fighting against this one-sided argument. This poor misguided young woman will regret every one of those words she spoke one day.

  40. I not only achieved my GED after a broken childhood, but I also gained my Bachelor’s degree and my Masters degree all while raising 4 children. God is our help, not the world. As you say, each child is a gift from Him, and I praise God for mine.

  41. This is such an awesome post. Your responses to all of the pro-choice lies are very powerful. Thank you for speaking out now and all the previous posts about this topic. God bless you.

    • Thank you so much! I’m so glad this resonated with you. Yes! You’re right – they prey on young women with lies! Hugs and love xox

    • That’s exactly what I first thought too! Thanks so much for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

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