Happy Thursday, friends!
So a bit of a twist tonight on the blog: I’ve got a song recommendation! (Which I think is a first on here!) But yesterday, as I was scrolling Instagram, I came across Selena Gomez’s new song: Lose You To Love Me.
It is a powerful, introspective ballad about, basically, how getting her heart broken by Justin Bieber was the catalyst for her to learn to love herself.
I listened to it several times, because the lyrics were incredibly moving.
In case you aren’t down with the #Jelena (Justin + Selena) drama, they’ve been off and on for the last ten years. First loves. And most recently here this last year, they tried to rekindle one last time, only for Justin to break up with her and marry Hailey Baldwin two months later.
But the lyrics really spoke to me. Because even though I’m not going through a break up like she, the message behind the words really hit home, and I think are universally relatable.
“I needed to lose you to love me.
This dancing was killing me softly.
I needed to hate you to love me.”
I mean, wow. I think if we’re honest with ourselves, we all have that one thing that we keep coming back to and coming back to, and yet is slowly destroying us. We can’t break it – we keep revisiting and returning to that which is tearing us apart. And the only way we can truly break free is to completely sever ties with it.
It actually made me think so much of my recovery from anorexia. During my disease, I kept clinging to the empty promises that the eating disorder promised me: control, worthiness, purpose, identity — and all the while it was slowing killing me, literally. And yet I’d return day after day to bash my head against the proverbial wall.
And in order to truly heal and truly recover, I had to completely burn that bridge, to keep from crossing it again. I had to pluck it out by the roots — all the thoughts, all the habits, all the patterns and reminders, heck — even the environment! I had to completely cut ties. Which is the realization that Selena comes to in her song.
Along with the song, Selena posted a photo of a note she had written on her iPhone.
Reading that, I all of a sudden was just overwhelmed with support for this beautiful young girl. And it hit me, that no matter who you are — no matter how much money you make, or how seemingly perfect your life can seem as a pop princess, the fact is, we all are in the same boat. We are all on the same journey trying to figure out life, and our place in the world, and our relationship with our Creator.
Selena Gomez seems to have it all. And yet she still can feel lost, and in need of Jesus.
All of our journeys look differently. She had to get her heart shredded to pieces by Biebs. I had to almost lose everything to anorexia. Others have to deal with loss. Or cancer. Or addiction. Or infidelity — whatever it is, there will come a point when we’ve reached our break point, and the only way out is up: Up to the Father. Surrendering it all because that’s our last resort. And only hope.
Sometimes that’s the only way. And hearing Selena leave it all emotionally on the stage with that song, I just wanted to stand up and applaud her.
That girl’s been through a lot. And kudos to her for having the courage to be vulnerable and share the real. Share the raw. Share the journey.
So anyways, here’s a link to the song. I would highly suggest giving it a listen.
And lastly, my article entitled, “Weapons For Righteousness” was published on WINE Ministries yesterday! Women In the New Evangelization is such an incredible organization, it’s an honor to be a contributor!
That article is all about hard truths, and what the heck it means to use our bodies as “weapons for righteousness” — which is what Jesus calls us to do!
So here’s the link to that! I’d love it if you’d give it a read!
Alright, that’s all folks! Thanks so much for stopping by on this beautiful Thursday afternoon! I’ll catch ya on the flip side! 🙂
What did you think of Selena’s song? Have you ever had to sever ties with a destructive habit?
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