OK, how many of you have watched the popular show, Love is Blind on Netflix?
It’s in its second season. And WOW – what a fascinating show concept.
I’m going to give you a quick overview if you’ve never watched.
Basically, it’s a dating experiment where 13 single men and and 13 single women date each other and fall in love, sight unseen.
They go on dates in “pods” where there’s a wall separating two rooms, where they spend hours and hours talking and getting to know one another without actually seeing the other person.
The point of the show is that they get engaged without actually seeing one another. And only AFTER the proposal/engagement, is there the “big reveal” where they get to see their now fiancé. From there, they go on a Mexican vacation, live for a week in an apartment in the “real world” and then have a wedding after just 2 weeks of knowing each other. And only on the altar, do they finally say “I do” or “I don’t.”
Basically, the point of the show is to answer the age old question, is love blind?
It’s wildly addictive, and highly fascinating.
And fun fact, there are still couples from season one that are happily married after 3 years!
*Warning, there’s a minor spoiler for season two ahead.* – (Although, the final episode is set to air later this week, so the spoiler is only what’s happened up until now.)
This season, there was one couple, Shaina and Kyle, who met in the pods, fell in love, he proposed, she said yes…even wore his mother’s engagement ring.
But here’s the catch: she’s a Christian. He’s an atheist.
And that conflict of belief led to some really interesting, — and emotionally painful — conversations between the two on the show. (Although, her communication skills were a bit lacking and juvenile, to be honest.)
In the end, SPOILER, she ends up giving him the ring back and leaving the show, because, though he was willing to try and make it work, despite their religious differences, she needed her husband to be the “spiritual leader” of their future family. She knew that marrying someone who — not only didn’t believe in God, but wasn’t willing to even explore the possibility of God — was a road to disaster.
But watching this all unfold on a global platform like Netflix, it brought about a really interesting conversation about the importance of faith in dating, and ultimately marriage. And watching this show with my man, it has definitely sparked some great conversations between the two of us.
I’m going to be honest — and perhaps I shouldn’t be sharing this — but I’ve spent the last two weekends with my handsome gentleman trying on – for fun – sparkly adornments for the fourth finger on my left hand. 😉 So…clearly, I have been doing a lot of thinking about marriage these days.
And particularly, what marriage means when it comes to a couple. Because, as we saw on Love is Blind, religion was absolutely a “make or break” for this couple.
And without hesitation, I wholeheartedly agree with Shaina — it’s an absolute non-negotiable for marriage.
Why? Because of the purpose of marriage.
One thing that I hate about these dating and marriage reality shows, is how much importance they put on the dress, and the flowers and the guest lists and the actual wedding day…while always overlooking the actual marriage. Because at the end of the day, all those aforementioned things are secondary to what you’re actually celebrating at a wedding: the union of a man and a woman before God.
And when it comes to the purpose of marriage — faith is something that you and your partner simply have to be on the same page with. Because the true purpose of marriage is to help get your spouse to Heaven. And vice versa.
But it goes much deeper than that. Because also, through the vocation of marriage, together, you help the other become the person God created him or her to be. It is the beautiful fulfillment of a higher calling.
And sure, I know that’s looking through pretty thick rose colored glasses, but when it comes right down to it, having that foundation of Christ as the bedrock of your relationship…it’s unshakable.
And when you think about bringing kids into the picture, and how you’ll raise them…seeing eye to eye on religion is simply critical.
In the show, Kyle couldn’t understand Shaina’s unwillingness to “compromise” on their religious differences, like he was willing to compromise. He just didn’t get that for Christians, every single decision, outlook, thought process comes back to Christ. It is woven into every facet of life. We simply cannot compromise on God. Period.
And sure, I know that for many couples, they have found a way to make their religious differences work. And to that I say, “Good on them!” I can only imagine the spiritual and emotional strength it takes to walk that road.
This weekend, my handsome gentleman and I went to Mass at St. Patrick’s Cathedral in New York, and sitting there in that beautiful Church, listening to the ethereal music, and being surrounded in a divine “hug” of candlelight, incense, Scripture and all the magnificent architecture in that old Cathedral, I found myself thanking God for sending me such a wonderful man of God. I found myself so grateful to be sitting there with him, together sharing our love for God in worship at Mass.
He pushes me to be the best version of myself. He inspires me to grow in my walk with God. And for that, I am so thankful. And I can’t imagine not being able to share that spiritual intimacy with the person I love.
Love is Blind, though a “trashy reality show” — it did bring light to something that society finds hard to believe “still matters” — Kyle’s words. “Woke culture” gawks to believe that there are still people “so small minded” to believe in God, but the fact is…it’s a huge deal when it comes to a Christian marriage.
And good for Love is Blind for presenting it in a judgment-free way, free from any belittling tone or attitude.
Because it matters. A lot. To a lot of people.
What do you think? Obviously as a young woman who isn’t even engaged, my thoughts on the importance of faith in a relationship comes only from what I have witnessed in my own life, and learned through the Church. Clearly there are ups and downs and lessons in marriage that can only be learned through trial by fire. But I would love to know what experiences you’ve had with this, and if you think religion is a “make or break” in a healthy marriage.
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