Warning: this post may be slightly unpopular.
You know what fashion trend I am completely over? Shirts with words on them.
You know what I’m talking about…they’ll have random words like, “How about Tacos” or “#squad” or something like “Laundry Day.” The whole I’m-really-trying-to-look-like-I’m-not-trying look. And listen buddy, you ain’t foolin’ anybody. Just take your poly/cotton blend attempt at irony back to the dumpster fire that is Forever 21 where it belongs.
But since I’ve been back in NYC, I’ve noticed the tone of these said “word shirts” have gotten…well…hostile.
And women, I’m looking at us.
I’ve seen shirts with language such as “No Uterus, No Opinion,” “Not your P####,” “Feminist as F@%#,” “Who Runs the World? Girls,” “F#*%ing Nasty Woman,” and my personal favorite…”She’s Beauty, She’s Grace, She’ll Punch You in the Face.”
Frankly, I’m disgusted.
Listen, I am all for celebrating womanhood and the feminine genius – after all, we are the crown of creation and have so much to offer the world – but when did celebrating womanhood become about absolutely tearing down men?
There’s no excuse for belittling another human being just to elevate oneself. I mean, isn’t that exactly what you’re “fighting” to stop in the first place? Apparently it’s okay to reduce a man’s value and worth and intelligence because it’s in the name of feminism, right?
What message are we sending to children, when our clothing attacks men with profanity and language I certainly wouldn’t want my future children repeating?
I mean, where’s the line?
And I get it…there are a lot of reasons, especially given recent history, for women to be up in arms. (I’m lookin’ at you, R. Kelly, Donald Trump, Jay Z). And those feelings are valid and important.
But for cryin’ out loud, can’t we take the high road?
The truth is, men and women are different. We are each a unique reflection of our Maker, and are equal partners in life, in marriage, under the law, in the eyes of God.
But I’m tired of women putting men down just to advance the feminist agenda.
One of my favorite verses on this is from Col 3:18-19, which gets a bad wrap. It’s all about a wife submitting to her husband. But what gets left out is where the husband gets that very same instruction! And it goes further in 1 Peter 3:7 to say that husbands should treat their wives “with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life.”
God wants men and women to be a team.
We are to build one another up.
We are to treat one another with respect and dignity – as equal partners.
One of the most powerful things my mom ever said to me was that when you get married, your number one job is to help get your spouse to Heaven.
It’s an equal partnership where the earthly and eternal wellbeing of the other becomes more important then your own.
That’s radical feminism.
That’s the male/female relationship we should strive for.
I’m going to call it how I see it: this new wave of profane feminism isn’t feminism…it’s bullying.
And you know what? It needs to stop.
By acting out with such base and vile behavior and language, we’re just as bad as the “mysogyny” we’re fighting against.
It’s the epitome of hypocritical, and honestly, it’s just in bad taste.
I’m just going to leave you with this…you attract more flies with honey than you can with vinegar.
And maybe, if we hold ourselves to the standards of virtue and grace, and humility and honor, then men will take a page from our book, and that respect we’re demanding will be voluntarily given.
So please, enough with the aggression. It doesn’t look good on you, sweetheart.
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