The Angry Feminist

Warning: this post may be slightly unpopular.

You know what fashion trend I am completely over? Shirts with words on them.

You know what I’m talking about…they’ll have random words like, “How about Tacos” or “#squad” or something like “Laundry Day.” The whole I’m-really-trying-to-look-like-I’m-not-trying look. And listen buddy, you ain’t foolin’ anybody. Just take your poly/cotton blend attempt at irony back to the dumpster fire that is Forever 21 where it belongs.



But since I’ve been back in NYC, I’ve noticed the tone of these said “word shirts” have gotten…well…hostile.

And women, I’m looking at us.


I’ve seen shirts with language such as “No Uterus, No Opinion,” “Not your P####,” “Feminist as F@%#,” “Who Runs the World? Girls,” “F#*%ing Nasty Woman,” and my personal favorite…”She’s Beauty, She’s Grace, She’ll Punch You in the Face.”

Frankly, I’m disgusted.

Listen, I am all for celebrating womanhood and the feminine genius – after all, we are the crown of creation and have so much to offer the world – but when did celebrating womanhood become about absolutely tearing down men?

There’s no excuse for belittling another human being just to elevate oneself. I mean, isn’t that exactly what you’re “fighting” to stop in the first place? Apparently it’s okay to reduce a man’s value and worth and intelligence because it’s in the name of feminism, right?

What message are we sending to children, when our clothing attacks men with profanity and language I certainly wouldn’t want my future children repeating?


I mean, where’s the line?

And I get it…there are a lot of reasons, especially given recent history, for women to be up in arms. (I’m lookin’ at you, R. Kelly, Donald Trump, Jay Z). And those feelings are valid and important.

But for cryin’ out loud, can’t we take the high road?


The truth is, men and women are different. We are each a unique reflection of our Maker, and are equal partners in life, in marriage, under the law, in the eyes of God.

But I’m tired of women putting men down just to advance the feminist agenda.


One of my favorite verses on this is from Col 3:18-19, which gets a bad wrap. It’s all about a wife submitting to her husband. But what gets left out is where the husband gets that very same instruction! And it goes further in 1 Peter 3:7 to say that husbands should treat their wives “with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life.”

God wants men and women to be a team.

We are to build one another up.

We are to treat one another with respect and dignity – as equal partners.

One of the most powerful things my mom ever said to me was that when you get married, your number one job is to help get your spouse to Heaven.

It’s an equal partnership where the earthly and eternal wellbeing of the other becomes more important then your own.

That’s radical feminism.

That’s the male/female relationship we should strive for.


I’m going to call it how I see it: this new wave of profane feminism isn’t feminism…it’s bullying

And you know what? It needs to stop.

By acting out with such base and vile behavior and language, we’re just as bad as the “mysogyny” we’re fighting against.

It’s the epitome of hypocritical, and honestly, it’s just in bad taste.

I’m just going to leave you with this…you attract more flies with honey than you can with vinegar.

And maybe, if we hold ourselves to the standards of virtue and grace, and humility and honor, then men will take a page from our book, and that respect we’re demanding will be voluntarily given.

So please, enough with the aggression. It doesn’t look good on you, sweetheart.


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550 thoughts on “The Angry Feminist

  1. Good read. You have a healthy sense of what a male female relationship should be like. Aggressive feminism is not pretty and tends to divide rather than unite men and women in a common cause. Oh, and thanks for the like. Best wishes. Uldis

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  2. I think we’re similar, or the same, on the topic of scripture and feminism.
    It’s a helpful topic…


  3. It’s actually gotten to the point that a lot of people get intimidated when I say I’m a feminist. Nowadays the word is misunderstood because some think feminists are about bringing women to the top by putting men down. Thank you for the post, and keep spreading the word what feminism is really about!

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  4. Thanks for this. You have a lot of great things to say.I believe in women’s rights and equality and all that, but – not when it gets out of hand. I don’t know if you’ve seen the netflix Ali Wong special where she talks about feminism encouraging women to lean in.. and she’s like.. I don’t want want to lean in, I want to lie down! Anyways.. keep on writing. I enjoy reading.

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  5. This was so good! I love “one of the most important roles as a wife is to help your spouse your husband, GET TO HEAVEN!

    That is so very true!
    Lady you spoke the truth here!
    A real lady is one who is viewed as elegant, and she’s not outspoken. Her mouth should never be used to utter filth from it.


  6. I could not agree more, I love this post!! Pretty much sums up how I feel towards all the negativity going around now days. We’re facing a lot of issues as a society but being aggressive about it is not going to fix the issue


  7. Thank you for this. Your post widens the context to make plainer the interconnection of cooperative concepts. This is what we need more of. Perspective on how and why we’re better when brought together rather than clipping at one another like crabs in a bucket. Exactly what’s necessary to get this metaphorical train (society, government, economy, etc.) back on track.

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  8. I dig…. I’m over the ‘angry feminist’ long before it became a fad but it’s uglier, as with anything, when you purposely decide to be a walking billboard. It’s as simple as this, do you get paid to wear it so loudly? If not, bin it. There’s tonnes of socio-economic reasons to do it too that will keep your SJW fad inspired.
    Good write. 🙏

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  9. Thanks for the Like on my post. And totally agree with you about the T-shirts. All my “saying” shirts are from runs and triathlon events I’ve done, and I do wear them occasionally, but only in the house or to work out. Never out to anywhere decent. No one needs to see my opinion on anything stretched across my chest. I can live and be my beliefs, not wear them


  10. Oh, I’m with you on the random word stuff…and, yes, frankly I am stunned by some of the stuff people choose to wear in public…but I must confess I do love a T-shirt with a meaningful/funny/sarcastic message…my favourite (which I own and wear all the time, especially to church meetings) is:

    “Minister of Religion: Because Bad-Ass Miracle Worker is not a Recognised Job Description”

    It always raises a few eyebrows! 😎😇😈

    Love your work, Caralyn!


  11. Wonderful post! I completely agree! Anger and hate are never the answer and, as much as they think they are standing up for themselves, they are only spreading more evil in the world. There are plenty of ways to make a stand and make a change without being a bully.


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