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What a day to be an American, huh?
The Kavanaugh Senate hearing has captured the attention of the nation in a way that I haven’t seen since 9/11, truly.
People were glued to the TVs – every news station covering it. I went to the grocery store this afternoon, and the audio was playing over the loudspeaker.
I looked around and people were watching it live on their smart phones.
It was like it was the OJ trial. I remember my mom carrying around one of those brick-like, portable black and white televisions from the 90s.
I want to start out by saying that you’re not going to hear anything political on here today. If you’re looking for me to bash Kavanaugh or crucify the credibility of Dr. Christine Ford, you’re in the wrong place. I will be doing neither of those things here.
However, I do have something to say about another matter.
And that is how we’re treating each other.
Whether or not Kavanaugh did or didn’t sexually assault Dr. Ford at a high school party, I don’t know. Nor do I feel appropriate discussing such matters that happened 36 years ago.
But what I do know, is that sadly, the narrative of what allegedly happened – high school boy taking advantage, sexually, of a sophomore girl – is far too common. FAR too common.
High school was not that long ago for me, and I can still remember vividly being at parties where occurrences like this happened, or hearing about situations like that being bragged about in the halls.
It is a gross reality that is going on in high schools, colleges, work places – heck, the behavior is rampant.
I, myself, have been victim of sexual assault at a nightclub in NYC.
And my response is this:
We need to do better.
We need to raise our boys better than this despicable, disgusting, animalistic behavior of taking advantage of women.
And slow your roll, I know that women can be abusers as well. But the fact is, the vast, vast majority of cases of abuse are of men against women.
And most cases never even see the light of day, due to shame, or embarrassment, or not wanting to “cause a fuss.”
But it is happening.
I have to be honest…and what I’m about to say makes me feel deeply sorrowful that this thought even crossed my mind. But when I heard the specifics of the accusations, and that the alleged incident was from high school…my first thought was…”typical high school boy. Of course it could have happened…Frankly, haven’t we all heard a story like that?”
And again, I regret to admit that crossed my mind.
We need to do better. We need to demand better.
We need to instill in our young men the absolute necessity for respect. We need to teach our young men what it means to honor a woman, and treat her with dignity.
Honor her by speaking to her, speaking about her, and treating her with the utmost respect.
Instead, thanks to music and media and porn, men refer to women as bitches and hoes, they brag about their sexual conquests, and expect women to behave as prostitutes in the bedroom.
How did we get to this place?
What can we do?
Respect and honor go both ways. Women, if we want to be treated with respect, we need to a) demand it, and b) treat ourselves with the respect we desire and deserve.
And I don’t need to spell that out for you.
I’m so sick and tired of hearing about the latest sexual misconduct from politicians, or artists, or athletes. I’m tired of it! And I’m sure you are, too.
It makes me sick.
It’s our Achilles heel, and preventing this country from moving forward and getting anything done.
But all that being said, we absolutely cannot blanket this over all men. There are good men who do treat women with the respect and honor and dignity. Every man in my family and the company I keep, for example. Men that I would trust with my life, who live with an open door policy, and are incredibly upstanding, moral gentlemen.
And to that end, we cannot presume every allegation against a man is true.
The assassination of character by false accusation is a new threat to men and young men in the #MeToo era that has mothers, sisters, wives and daughters fearful for the reputation of the innocent men in their lives.
We are living in unprecedented times. Especially when there is so much political gain to be made or lost with the pointing of one finger.
It can all be boiled down to one thing: the sanctity of human life: respecting our fellow human beings – and ourselves – seeing the soul and dignity within each person as a creation of God.
It pains me that we are continuing to have to fill our minds and homes and television screens with violence against women. And true – or not – having to explain to our impressionable youth, about the filth that is out there in the world.
I don’t know what did or didn’t happen with Kavanaugh. My heart breaks for the victim. But my heart also breaks for Kavanaugh – and his beautiful wife and children – who are having to wade through these accusations that I pray, and personally believe, are false.
If this is all about trying to block the powerful pro-life changes that Kavanaugh could potentially make on the Supreme Court, then shame on democrats for this destructive steamroller agenda.
OK, so I guess I couldn’t hide my personal feelings forever.
We need to pray for our country. Now, more than ever.
We have become a society that no longer values the sanctity and value of the human person. Not in the womb. Not in the world. People have become tools for our own advantage. We use them sexually. We will destroy a person to achieve personal, financial or political gain. We use each other. We don’t value or respect one another and the value and dignity we each possess. That’s the point.
We all need to do better.
And in the words of Kavanaugh himself, “This is a circus,” and “I fear for the future.”
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