The Kavanaugh Senate Hearing

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What a day to be an American, huh? 

The Kavanaugh Senate hearing has captured the attention of the nation in a way that I haven’t seen since 9/11, truly. 

People were glued to the TVs – every news station covering it. I went to the grocery store this afternoon, and the audio was playing over the loudspeaker. 

I looked around and people were watching it live on their smart phones. 

It was like it was the OJ trial. I remember my mom carrying around one of those brick-like, portable black and white televisions from the 90s. 

I want to start out by saying that you’re not going to hear anything political on here today. If you’re looking for me to bash Kavanaugh or crucify the credibility of Dr. Christine Ford, you’re in the wrong place. I will be doing neither of those things here.

However, I do have something to say about another matter. 

And that is how we’re treating each other. 

Whether or not Kavanaugh did or didn’t sexually assault Dr. Ford at a high school party, I don’t know. Nor do I feel appropriate discussing such matters that happened 36 years ago.  

But what I do know, is that sadly, the narrative of what allegedly happened – high school boy taking advantage, sexually, of a sophomore girl – is far too common. FAR too common. 

High school was not that long ago for me, and I can still remember vividly being at parties where occurrences like this happened, or hearing about situations like that being bragged about in the halls. 

It is a gross reality that is going on in high schools, colleges, work places – heck, the behavior is rampant. 

I, myself, have been victim of sexual assault at a nightclub in NYC. 

And my response is this: 

We need to do better. 

We need to raise our boys better than this despicable, disgusting, animalistic behavior of taking advantage of women. 

And slow your roll, I know that women can be abusers as well. But the fact is, the vast, vast majority of cases of abuse are of men against women. 

And most cases never even see the light of day, due to shame, or embarrassment, or not wanting to “cause a fuss.”

But it is happening. 

I have to be honest…and what I’m about to say makes me feel deeply sorrowful that this thought even crossed my mind. But when I heard the specifics of the accusations, and that the alleged incident was from high school…my first thought was…”typical high school boy. Of course it could have happened…Frankly, haven’t we all heard a story like that?”

And again, I regret to admit that crossed my mind. 

We need to do better. We need to demand better. 

We need to instill in our young men the absolute necessity for respect. We need to teach our young men what it means to honor a woman, and treat her with dignity.

Honor her by speaking to her, speaking about her, and treating her with the utmost respect. 

Instead, thanks to music and media and porn, men refer to women as bitches and hoes, they brag about their sexual conquests, and expect women to behave as prostitutes in the bedroom. 

How did we get to this place? 

What can we do? 

Respect and honor go both ways. Women, if we want to be treated with respect, we need to a) demand it, and b) treat ourselves with the respect we desire and deserve.

And I don’t need to spell that out for you. 

I’m so sick and tired of hearing about the latest sexual misconduct from politicians, or artists, or athletes. I’m tired of it! And I’m sure you are, too. 

It makes me sick. 

It’s our Achilles heel, and preventing this country from moving forward and getting anything done. 

But all that being said, we absolutely cannot blanket this over all men. There are good men who do treat women with the respect and honor and dignity. Every man in my family and the company I keep, for example. Men that I would trust with my life, who live with an open door policy, and are incredibly upstanding, moral gentlemen.  

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And to that end, we cannot presume every allegation against a man is true. 

The assassination of character by false accusation is a new threat to men and young men in the #MeToo era that has mothers, sisters, wives and daughters fearful for the reputation of the innocent men in their lives. 

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We are living in unprecedented times. Especially when there is so much political gain to be made or lost with the pointing of one finger. 

It can all be boiled down to one thing: the sanctity of human life: respecting our fellow human beings – and ourselves – seeing the soul and dignity within each person as a creation of God. 

It pains me that we are continuing to have to fill our minds and homes and television screens with violence against women. And true – or not – having to explain to our impressionable youth, about the filth that is out there in the world. 

I don’t know what did or didn’t happen with Kavanaugh. My heart breaks for the victim. But my heart also breaks for Kavanaugh – and his beautiful wife and children – who are having to wade through these accusations that I pray, and personally believe, are false. 

If this is all about trying to block the powerful pro-life changes that Kavanaugh could potentially make on the Supreme Court, then shame on democrats for this destructive steamroller agenda. 

OK, so I guess I couldn’t hide my personal feelings forever. 

We need to pray for our country. Now, more than ever. 

We have become a society that no longer values the sanctity and value of the human person. Not in the womb. Not in the world. People have become tools for our own advantage. We use them sexually. We will destroy a person to achieve personal, financial or political gain. We use each other. We don’t value or respect one another and the value and dignity we each possess. That’s the point.

We all need to do better. 

And in the words of Kavanaugh himself, “This is a circus,” and “I fear for the future.” 

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212 thoughts on “The Kavanaugh Senate Hearing”

  1. “Respect and honor go both ways. Women, if we want to be treated with respect, we need to a) demand it, and b) treat ourselves with the respect we desire and deserve.”

    I get your idea here, but I think it’s misguided. Men should treat women with respect because they’re people. The onus shouldn’t be on women to do anything; it only furthers the belief that male respect should somehow be conditional. We (men) need to do better, and that’s it.

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    1. Hey Tonya! Aw thank you lady! You are honestly such an amazing friend! Thank you for always being such a great encourager, and passing along my articles. YOU totally rock and I am very grateful for you 🙂 just wanted you to know that. 💛Caralyn

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      1. Awww, how sweet. I am an honest person and love encouraging the good I see in others. Jesus wants us to do that and I really just love pleasing Him. You are a blessing to me. Love your heart for Him. You are beautiful! 😄❤

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  4. Speaking about this isn’t a political thing! It’s called freedom of speech, freedom of expression. And someone speaking out about an alleged sexual assault shouldn’t be politicized. Even if we disagree or whatever she has a right to be heard as does he and they both should be respected. However, women are treated as second class citizens world wide and that is one of the biggest issues in the world! Women need to be treated better, period! You spoke very eloquently and you were very clear in your message. It was very well said. I don’t mind talking about politics as long as we respect each other. We don’t have to agree we just have to respect each other. That’s what it’s all about!

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    1. Thank you so much Lane for this thoughtful response. You’re right – they both should be respected. And we should all respect each other too!! So glad you stopped by! Big hugs xox

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  5. Dear Beauty:

    Thank You for bringing a womans perspective to the issue of sexual misconduct.
    You have hit the nail squarely on the head: We, the People, must do better. We have
    forgotten our divine origins, the nobler, chaste, virtues that once pervaded society.
    Where has it gone?
    Will the rising generation correct the sins of the parents and exercise leadership
    in renewing virtue and nobility of person in society?
    Or will humanity continue to “De-evolve” into baser animals fit only for extinction?

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  6. I’m sorry that happened to you. 😦

    While I agree how Democrats used Dr. Ford as a last minute trump card (no pun intended) was tacky, it didn’t mean what Kavanaugh did to Dr. Ford all those years ago, it didn’t mean it doesn’t apply. I mean for crying out loud…I don’t want a man who assaulted another woman’s body to have one of the most influential roles of the nation telling me what I can and cannot do with my body! That would be like either you or my assaulter holding the helm of the Judicial Supreme Court! That’s sicking to me. A big HELL no on that.

    I don’t feel bad for Kavanaugh one bit, because of the pain Dr. Ford went through to get her life together. Not to mention he DIDN’T want the FBI to investigating his story AND he’s hiding his friend??? People say they want proof to see if it did happen, well how can we know if Kavanaugh and his friend doesn’t want the FBI investigating. They have nothing to hide and they “didn’t” assault her, then the both of them should have no problem going through with it, because I don’t want a man who going to be the judge of this nation and yet, not even being able to go through the process of his own investigation. That is HYPOCRISY in the HIGHEST degree!

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    1. Hey Ezi! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. It really is such a difficult and sad situation. I’m glad that there is going to be an investigation. Because the truth needs to come out before any decisions are made. You made great points. Thanks. Hugs and love xox

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  7. I am not one who usually gets involved in political issues. That said, I will admit that I watched nearly every minute of this hearing. I watched because the respect for women is very important to me. This hearing expressed why I don’t get involved in politics. It was political theater on both sides. I am sad for both parties involved. I hope that he didn’t assault her but I’ve seen this happen more often than not, especially with privileged individuals. I saw terrible behavior from both sides of the aisle. I saw men disregard the pain of a woman and I saw political ambition on both sides. It was sick.

    I hope that we can trust the system to find the truth. For me, the most important thing that this has raised in my mind is the respect for women. I have seen far too much disrespect for women by men. It is far too common. It is the only reason I might side with Dr. Ford. This is a bias and I want an objective truth to be revealed. Sadly I don’t think an objective truth will be revealed. Someone is lying. This is sad also. Like I said, I am sad for both of them. For their families and all that has been sacrificed for an epidemic that is still plaguing this society. The disrespect for women. I hope he is not being condemned for something simply for political motives. I hope that she is not doing this for political motives. I hope he didn’t sexually assault her. I ache for her pain and sacrifice for doing something she believed was right. I hope the system will bring out the truth. You are so right, this country and the political system has to do much better.

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    1. Hi Alex, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. Sadly, Political theater is a great term for it. You’re right. I’m glad there is going to be an investigation because the truth. Reds to come to light. Which will then allow a truly informed and correct decision. Hugs and love xox

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  8. Well stated! As a parent of a girl and three boys, I worry about the world all of them are coming into. I have seen the abuses of the Patriarchy first hand and in vivid detail. I have seen just as great a potential for abuse in “empowered” women who I could never speak truth to their power in the workplace. I think you are spot on in regard to using humans as means to a given end instead of treating them like reasoned, powerful individuals. Thank you for adding your voice to this controversy in such an eloquent way.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your perspective on this. I really appreciate you joining the conversation! Hugs and love xox

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  10. Hey, sis’! I’m with you about this whole Kavanaugh situation: Tired of hearing it as well. Even moreso, through the years, I noticed how that sense of “respect” for anyone has gone down the drain at this point. Not only are people living in fear, but they are also staying ‘silent’ about anything and anyone nowadays. The same thing is happening when it comes to speaking up and about Christianity as well. People can hear us speak, but that information goes out the other side of their ears. They won’t listen unless they have ‘something’ to gain from listening to us.

    I feel bad for him and his family as well. Also, if this event did take place many years ago, I asked my mother “What’s the point of bringing it up now?” She said that she didn’t understand it either, but was upset that all her programs were cancelled on tv for the sake of showing this same court case. All I can do is keep him, his family, and this whole situation in my prayers because, especially in today’s world, it’s hard to gut out who’s telling the truth or any truth nowadays about any situation and topic.

    As for the sexual side of things, the “bossy” fellas I met, I managed to push these guys away from me because they felt like poisonous snakes to me. In other words, these two lovely guys wanted straight sex out of me, but neither succeeded. Lol. They hated me for making them wait too long and… well… that’s not my problem. When a man says that they’re patient with me, mean those words. Don’t live by the idea that since you asked, I will automatically submit to you what you request for, like the hoe example you’ve mentioned on how a women are often titled. Females, and male victims, should stop believing that they’re trapped, because the real truth is that…. you never are. God is covering you under His Wings more than you know. Stay strong and know that you are loved.

    Chat soon. 🙂

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  11. I listened to the hearings on my satellite radio while I drove for work. They were riveting. Thank you for your thoughts on this. One thing you said resonated with me and that was your thought about the “typical high school boy”. I have to admit, I had this thought as well. And then I had to check myself, over the course of this debate… and though most will not admit it, I believe there are many, many men who are thinking about their behaviors in high school, and over the course of their lives, towards the women in their lives.
    So these hearings, though painful for all involved, may have some positive side effects. “All things work together for good”, right?

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    1. thank you Abe for sharing your thoughts about this. I do hope that there can be some semblance of good that comes out of this. hugs x

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  13. Yesterday a bunch of journalists on TV were discussing the prevalence of abuse and domestic violence and how could that be possible with all the “gender equality” policies and education… But none of them thought it is related to the general decline in morality, specially sexual morality, in our society. Thanks for pointing to that, I see there are still people with common sense!! Also I feel the following quote by Pope Paul VI in Humanae Vitae is very illuminating: “a man who grows accustomed to the use of contraceptive methods may forget the reverence due to a woman, and, disregarding her physical and emotional equilibrium, reduce her to being a mere instrument for the satisfaction of his own desires, no longer considering her as his partner whom he should surround with care and affection”.

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    1. thank you so much Paola for sharing your thoughts on this. yeah, the decline of faith and spirituality and morality is definitely a huge culprit behind the state of things. so glad you stopped by! hugs xo

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  15. You have said what some of us would like to say. Many parents are now wondering who next among their bright beloved children who have made it to the top will be among those thrown into the nation’s arena to be mauled and torn to pieces. Why, o why some have chosen to align with such a self- destructive way of resolving conflicts?

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  16. Appreciate you sharing a perspective that brings relevancy to the recent SCOTUS hearings. Good on you for being able to keep certain opinions close at heart while shedding light on the symptoms of the problem. Keep it up!

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  17. I am not from the U.S. but I understand their obsession to high moral standards from a leader. But… dredging up something that happened 36 years ago? Really? Don’t people change? Is America all about moral uprightness? Where is mercy? Let the man/woman who has not sinned (and had their sin exposed) for the last 36 years be the first to throw a stone.

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    1. Yeah that’s such a great point. People do change. Especially when it’s an uncorroborated accusation. Lots of powerful points here. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  19. Right now, my wife’s son is going through the worst imaginable abuse by the surrogate mother of his 2-year-old son. She has tried to get the baby away (permanently) since he was born. She told the hospital that the father was unknown when she gave birth. It took the state Attorney General to force her to set the record straight, Since then, she has filed one false report after another with police, causing him to lose his job, be arrested, being denied time with his son.

    She is vengeful and hateful is every way possible. Even though her accusations have all been shown to be false, the police do not care, and will not investigate or prosecute her for her deceptions. They say the DA will not prosecute women for false accusations so as to not discourage other women from coming forth with true accusations. This woman has found out that she can bludgeon an innocent man to legal, and financial death, with impunity.

    I am not saying I know the facts of Kavanaugh’s past. I am saying that men are completely at the mercy of accusers, without hope of recourse or restoration of their honor or their livelihoods. Justice, and innocence until proven guilty have been thrown in the trash. Men have become collateral damage in a social war where there are true victims. We need a way to protect the innocent as well as the victims.

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  20. I’m still kinda floored that he brought up the Clintons!!!???
    Aside from the likely previous perjury, and the withholding of records, and possible egregious sexual aggression, he has shown himself as too weirdly, deeply partisan for a supposedly apolitical position intended to mete out impartial justice.
    Also, a wretched record on enforcing or upholding environmental protections. Absolutely the last thing we need at this critical juncture.

    I know! Let’s get someone with a sterling record of moral uprightness and judicial moderation, like Merrick Garland, on the Supreme Court!😀

    As for those who are confused as to why people who are sexually abused don’t bring it up right away, and often never, the Twitter handle WhyIDidntReport offers considerable insight.

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    1. Hi Nichole! Thank you for this powerful perspective. I can always count on you to offer such great insight. You always make me think and for that I am so grateful 🙂 I will definitely check out that twitter handle. I agree – I think there is a lot to learn and a lot of compassion to be had when it comes to victims and what they went through. So glad you stopped by! Big hugs xox

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      1. It is all so heart-wrenching to read. It seems very worth remembering how statistically infinitesimal false claims of sexual abuse actually are – far more common for victims to think it is somehow their own fault, that they will be blamed or disbelieved, or “in trouble”. If powerful abusers in the public eye continue to get a pass, then how can we expect victims to change this script? Case in point: the many women who shared their stories of molestation, etc at the hands of #45 were summarily dismisses, aside perhaps from the occasional lingering death threat that I fear might also be the most likely result Professor Blasey-Ford can expect to come from her disclosure 😕
        I commend you for your willingness to read those Twitter testimonials – too many people are far too willing to ignore those voices as inconvenient and/or on the wrong “side”

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      2. The courage it takes to come forward is nothing short of heroic. Their stories need to be told

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  21. Well written and deftly dodging the political partisanship and its ugliness. Thank-you.

    The issue of respect arises organically when we begin to parse our emotions rather than react from fear, anger and entitlement. Emotional education is one way to begin.

    When I was in college in the 1970s as feminism was finding roots, I felt out of place in that sexists world as I do now. I have consistently had visions of a future where everybody feels safe, honored and respected and equal. When we honor others as sacred, including planet Earth and stop making others into objects, re-introduce civility towards one another then the possibility of transformation can begin to occur.

    BBB, you are a change agent. Thank-you again for your civility and care.

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    1. Thank you so much Kai. I really appreciate your sharing your thoughts on this. Amen amen amen. We need to honor one another!!! Love that. So glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox

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  22. Yeah – I’m always happy to see how many comments you get to your posts. This one is especially important. I appreciate that you don’t really take a side here because Mr Kavanaugh may or may not have even done that and if he did it seems to have been made much worse by alcohol. Anyway – I’ve said it before and here it is again. Better role models are needed and this world needs more Jesus. We’re worshiping the wrong things

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    1. Thank you! Yeah I feel so blessed by the wisdom people share with me in the comments section. Amen – the world needs more Jesus. Hugs and love xox

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  23. I too reflected on the Kavanaugh hearing on my own blog. I didn’t exactly get political on siding or pontificating about each side, I reflected on my younger self and what I saw and heard as a teen during the Thomas confirmation and then as a college student during the Clinton impeachment. I remember these and I look at how they’ve affected me through time.

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    1. Yeah it is really incredible the effect that those events have on impressionable youth. I remember the Clinton ordeal as well. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  28. I’m mighty late to the discussion. I read a lot of the comments but not all. Maybe I am repeating someone. Kavanaugh did have evidence to prove his point – both in physical evidence (calendars) and testimony of reported witnesses. He did have six FBI investigations. He did have 30 years or so of conduct which should earn him a gold star. There is nothing in his known background that suggests he is a liar. When he made his first denial, he had no way to know whether or not she had evidence except that she could not have proof because it did not happen. Why would he take the chance of lying and then discovering she had told someone who could corroborate her story, or perhaps kept an old diary. I don’t think he lied. She had no evidence except for witnesses who only presented to be negative, and a “counseling session” from which the transcript could not be seen. She was a pawn used by the Democrats and was “cowed” by them. Her baby-like posture and presentation was quite pretentious for a lady who had earned doctorates and commanded a high position in a University. What kind of life she has been living for thirty years was not allowed to be known. If her high school incident was so traumatic, she certainly overcame in amazing ways.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this tough issue, Oneta. Great points. Unfortunately I’m afraid youre right about her being their pawn. Makes me sad for all parties involved. Hugs and love xox

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    2. So because she overcame her traumatic incident and made something out of herself will make you doubt her and judge her posture. Just shame on anyone who thinks that a victim should remain quiet. We are talking about someone seeking a high power position that can affect millions of life. Someone with anger issues that you so conveniently omitted but found issues with her baby like posture and pretentious.

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  31. You know the thing nobody has talked about? IF he did what she said, he stopped. Who or what made him stop? Dr. Ford was not raped. Someone was on top of her. And then? That’s what I wonder about. A drunk guy came to his senses? Or did someone intervene?

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  32. Great post on a sensitive subject! It all boils down to respect for, and the sancity of, human life. When we as a society, can kill the innocent and helpless ones within the womb, then society begins to break down, and ultimately, no one is valued and respected. We need to “do better” by returning to God and honoring His written Word by our repentance and obedience.

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  33. Excellent post. I continue to hope Justice Kavanaugh is innocent of these accusations, but at any rate, there are too many times when the things he was accused of doing actually did happen. I really doubt we have done a good job teaching young men how to pursue a relationship with a woman, or teaching young women what to look for in a man, etc.
    I pray we don’t just cut off the public discussion about this topic simply because this particular case has been “settled.”

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  34. I agree! It wouldn’t be right to judge someone for something that happened 35 years ago! There is however and other side to this: A man charged with sexual assault is not likely to forget everything that happened! Especially not if he has been keeping a calendar (which was presented during the hearing), thus when he (under oath) claimed ‘not to remember’, most people would conclude that he was lying to save his own hide, especially given the circumstances – but – nothing could be proven! It boils down to one question: Do you believe Ford or Kanavaugh?
    So who had the least to loose and who had the most to win?
    Lying under oath in a congressional hearing would be an absolute ‘no-no’! Right? But- it’s a done deal now!
    You’ve all got what you asked for!

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    1. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this difficult topic. Lots of food for thought here! Hugs and love xox

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