I have a heavy heart today.
You may or may not be aware, but there has been an unprecedented gathering at the Vatican, of cardinals and bishops from around the world. Also in attendance were survivors of abuse, and 10 women religious. All coming together to address the heartbreaking abuse that is tearing the Catholic Church apart at the seams.
The Vatican Summit on Child Protection, which concluded over the weekend, has left Catholics – and the world at large – particularly shaken to the core at the brokenness of our religious organization that is supposed to be the legacy and bride of Jesus Christ.
The Summit has been met with mixed reviews. Their theme of “transparency” feels all but hollow when, over the weekend, German Cardinal Reinhard Marx admitted that decades worth of files were destroyed to prevent the documentation of sexual abuse.
Ugh, my heart is just gutted typing that out.
How can the church stand on a new platform of “transparency” when literally this is coming to light at the Summit itself?
One highlight, however, came in the form of Nigerian nun, Sr. Veronica Openibo, who gave a powerful, powerful speech to her brothers in Christ. She was frank and direct about how this abuse has destroyed the credibility of the Church, and that we need to move forward with humility and zero tolerance.
But enough about the nitty gritty. Because at the end of the day, what’s going on behind the opulent, closed doors of the Vatican has so far, had little to no effect on the hurting, confused person in the pews on Sunday, who is left holding the broken pieces of a beautiful, meaningful faith they once knew.
Because the truth of the matter is that post-scandal Catholicism, is red lining.
That’s not some overly-dramatic “blog speak” meant for click bait. No. We’re talking, after the McCarrick abuse scandal, the Boston Globe story, and as a result: the Spotlight docudrama. The Pennsylvania Grand Jury Report. The findings in the archdioceses of Galveston-Houston, and Illinois. And now, even just two days ago, a Cardinal from Australia was convicted of molestation. The details of the horrific abuse — and the even more repugnant cover-up of it — are detonating a Church that is barely hanging on.
It’s no secret that I am Catholic. And to say that the atrocities coming to light have shaken me, is the understatement of the year.
And if I’m honest, I feel so much shame – so much embarrassment – simply admitting that I identify as so.
And clearly, not just me.
At Mass, I look around and church attendance is frightful. Saying that the church is 1/6 full would be incredibly generous. And mind you, when I first moved to the city, it was standing room only.
The church is deeply wounded, and unable to trust the men who are supposed to be In Persona Christi.
What are we to do?
People are leaving in droves, heading to nondenominational churches – which honestly, I don’t blame them.
This summer, I visited RedRocks Church in Denver, and it was honestly such an incredibly moving service. It’s no surprise that people are choosing to abandon the Catholic faith, where recently, Mass feels more like a funeral service, for a rock-concert-caliber worship experience. I get it.
It’s crisis of faith. That’s how it’s been described to me by many Catholic friends.
And I can definitely relate.
The only way I am getting through this is to remember that my faith is not in the men who run the Church. It’s not even in the organization itself. It’s in the foundation of Christ’s ministry on earth. It’s Jesus who I am putting my faith in. It’s my love for the sacraments, and my devotion to Jesus’ body and blood in the Eucharist that brings me back to the pews each and every Sunday.
There’s so much brokenness in the world. If you need any proof, just look at my own story, for crying out loud. No one is immune to it. Not even the priests and clergy who have the responsibility of leading the Catholic Church. We are a fallen people, and clearly, we are witnessing the severity and depth of that truth, in the abominations coming to light.
So what are we to do?
I think the most discouraging and frustrating part, is that as lay people, there’s not much we can do. The Church is run by priests, and the vast majority of them do not want to speak on the matter. The people in the pews are so often left in the dark, with their parish priests simply not addressing this from the pulpit.
But, setting that unfortunate reality aside….
First and foremost, let’s support the victims. They should be the foremost concern here. The unimaginable burden that they’ve had to carry is just soul crushing. Let’s support them and bring them justice.
Secondly, we need to eradicate the problem from the root. No more cover ups, or sanitizing the truth. We really do need transparency. And consequences. Now.
Next, – and this is going to be tough, but here me out – we need courageous Catholics. We need people of faith to stand by the Church during this Armageddon. Yes, attendance is down. Yes, we’re the butt ends of jokes. Yes, it would be a hell of a lot easier emotionally and spiritually to just walk away. But we need to stand in the rubble and say, My Church is broken, but we can rebuild.
Lastly, and this is especially for all of my non-Catholic brothers and sisters: We need your prayers. I know that, especially right now, it is more convenient and popular to jump on the band wagon of criticism. And heck – I’ve found myself criticizing the Church, and Pope Francis’ lack luster address at the culmination of the Summit. It’s easy to be skeptical about its actual impact. And it’s more satisfying to pick apart the faith in – well-deserved – anger or disgust.
But, I humbly ask for you to pray for the Catholic Church. For her leadership. For those who are confused and hurting and angry. For the future, and for the courage of those in leadership to do the right thing.
Because at the end of the day, we are all brothers and sisters in Christ. And no matter what faith you call home, we have the same ultimate goal: Heaven. And so let’s encourage one another in our path and pursuit of holiness.
What are your thoughts on the Vatican Summit? Had you heard about it? Are you surprised? Disappointed? Encouraged? Please share.
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Caralyn I have to say for a Catholic you would make a wonderful protestant I rarely have meet a Catholic Christian who is as knowledgeable as you about your faith and takes it seriously. You have a wonderful beautiful spirit if you ever get to Adelaide Australia for a visit I would love to meet you for a coffee and an in-depth chat. If you don’t drink coffee any kind of refreshment will do. I have a vegan friend here who knows some great spots for food and gluten free deserts etc. much much love hugs and kisses back at ya. I could almost convert back to Catholicism because of you and maybe join the Priesthood myself… almost :P. Would please my mum no end lol.
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Oh wow Australia! What a beautiful place to call home. Lucky you. Thanks for stopping by and for your kind words. Hugs and love xox
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As a Lutheran pastor it is easy (and maybe even expected) for me to criticize the Roman Catholic Church. But the right thing to do is very rarely easy. I will pray for the RCC and the “one holy catholic and apostolic church” instead. We MUST all come together around the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Jesus is calling us to Himself and sending us to a hurting world to share Him.
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Thank you Ed for your prayers and compassion. Amen – we need to join as family of believers! Hugs and love xox
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I wish there was a “love” button.
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Aw thank you so much Amy, that really means a lot. Hugs and love xox
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Praying for the body of Christ in general. There is a lot going on🙏🏾
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Thank you so much for your prayers and compassion. Amen. Hugs and love xox
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You faith may not be in the men of the church, but this is the roadmap of abrahamic faith. For a thousand years it spread like cancer at the point of a sword. This is the result of faith without evidence. It equals a fundamental flaw in our trusting neurology played upon by the men of words throughout human history.
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Thank you Jim for sharing your thoughts on this emotional issue. I don’t know anything about Abrahamic faith, but i know my faith is in Jesus Christ. Hugs and love xox
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Abraham is the father of judaism, Christianity and Islam. The beginning of it all.
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Gotcha thanks
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I have some comments but most have already been said. The worst thing we can do is associate with a denomination before associating with Christ. No matter what denomination you claim there are go8ng to be dark corners. Abide with Christ.
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Thank you Steve for sharing your thoughts. As Christians we are all on the same team for Christ. Hugs and love xox
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As an ex-altar boy, I’m also angry and disappointed. I’m praying that real change is coming. Keep the faith !
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Thank you Dennis for your prayers. I pray that too! Hugs and love xox
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I am not Catholic, but my heart completely goes out to you! Thank you for sharing your heart on a topic that many just want to turn a blind eye to. God loves his bride so much! I often get an even greater glimpse of his love through such darkness. And if we’d be truly honest, every single church and denomination has its deep faults. The light is on the Catholic Church right now, but tomorrow it might be my Church… What a blessing to be able to support and care for each other in our difficult seasons. Praying for the Catholic Church today and for the victims of abuse today. May they understand that God was in no way connected to their pain and find their healing in his arms.
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Thank you so much for your prayers and compassion. You’re right – supporting our brothers and sisters inChrist is exactly what we need right now. Hugs and love xox
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Caralyn, thank you for sharing your heart. I have prayed, and will continue to do so, for the Catholic Church.
As a United Methodist, we have had our own struggles. This past week, there was a Special Session of The General Conference in St. Louis. According to umc.org, “The purpose was to act on a report from the Commission on a Way Forward, authorized to examine paragraphs in The Book of Discipline concerning human sexuality and to explore options to strengthen church unity.” It was interesting to see the conversations and comments on social media, to say the least.
We all believe in God, the Father. He knows everything about us. However, we need to hold church leaders, no matter what denomination, accountable for their actions. That’s my opinion.
I will continue to pray for the Catholic Church, Pope Francis, church leaders, and you.
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Thank you so much Laura Beth for your prayers and compassion. I did read about that conference. I agree. We need to hold them accountable for sure. Even though no one is perfect, criminal actions are criminal actions and merit the appropriate consequences. I really appreciate your support. Big hugs and I will also be praying for the general conference as well!! Hugs and love xox
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Thank you so much! Your prayers are appreciated. XOXO
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🙂 likewise!!! hope you have a great weekend! xox
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Yes, we live in a fallen world and only our faith in Jesus can sustain us and help us get through life.
This verse from the Holy Scriptures came to my mind as I finished reading your blog.
‘if my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land.’ (2 Chronicles 7:14)
https://my.bible.com/bible/59/2CH.7.14
Thanks for sharing your honest and brave heart.
God bless you!
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Thank you so much Sandy for sharing that powerful verse. Amen to that – God can and will get us through this storm! Hugs and love xox
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Issues like these sister is why I believe it was never God’s will for us to have eaten FIRST of the Tree of the knowledge of Good and Evil, without consulting God first.
We did not possess the MATURITY at the time to interpret the knowledge of good and evil.
God’s will initially was for us to simply receive everything with childlike faith and to not be burdened with the details.
However, IF we choose to continue to eat and live by the tree of the knowledge of good and evil these days vs. our faith in God, then may mankind’s failures be a simple reminder why we need forgiveness.
I overheard once that hurt people hurt others and that we cannot give what we don’t have.
And I, myself who have come from a long line of church elders, understand now at 45, that it is easier to TEACH the stories of God’s love than to SHOW God’s love.
We all, all denominations, even the non-denominations, including Catholic priests and even the high priests of old remain the product of a life that pushes more obedience than love.
“Obedience without love becomes religion.”
Now religion is where it may start for us all, but it cannot end there. We have to draw nearer to God in intimacy and love.
Hosea 6:6 NLT
“I want you to show love, not offer sacrifices. I want you to know me more than I want burnt offerings.”
Jesus then said,
Matthew 12:7 CEV
“Don’t you know what the Scriptures mean when they say, “Instead of offering sacrifices to me, I want you to be merciful to others?” If you knew what this means, you would not condemn these innocent disciples of mine.”
This IS the MYSTERY of the TRINITY.
It is the “I AM” drawing closer in intimacy to us personally.
From the love of a FATHER to the love of a FRIEND in Jesus and finally, the most INTIMATE of all three, the love of a HUSBAND as we become ONE with His Spirit.
It’s God “above us”, God ‘with us” and finally God “in us”.
God “above us” or “with us” will NOT save your soul. Otherwise, Jesus died in vain.
May these serious charges of the global Christian Church and it’s indictment of it’s “elders” across all Christian denominations be a wake up call to us all that we have to make sure that we have received the gift of the Holy Spirit.
The Apostle Paul once said,
Acts 19:2 NLT
“Did you receive the Holy Spirit when you believed?. .”
You would think that receiving the Holy Spirit would be automatic upon confession, but with all things, works must complement our faith because faith without works is dead.
Now once the believer is in Union with God via His Spirit #acts 2:38, then now we can maturely eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and not be swayed or shaken.
2 Corinthians 2 NLT
“15Those who are spiritual can evaluate all things, but they themselves cannot be evaluated by others. 16For, “Who can know the LORD’s thoughts? Who knows enough to teach him?” But we understand these things, for we have the mind of Christ.”
Believe to receive.
#acts2:38
Your brother in our war against sin,
Ray Evangelista
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Thanks Ray for sharing your heart on this. Amen – I pray that it is a wake up call as well. We need the holy Spirit to move in our churches! Hugs and love xox
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My heart aches for those who are victims of sexual abuse. My heart also reaches out to my Catholic brothers and sisters in Christ. This must be an incredibly trying time for you. My prayers are for you to cling to your faith in the Savior and to be comforted by His Holy Spirit. There is, and always will be, hope in Him who is the author of our salvation.
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You have my prayers. I think, if you just continue to follow Jesus, and not men, you will be a blessing to many.
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Thank you so much for your prayers and kind words of compassion. Amen. Hugs and love xox
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It’s painful when people violate our trust and heartbreaking when our leaders let us down. I think this is true even more when fellow believers cause other believers pain. Yet, we are a Church of imperfect, fallen people. Praying for healing and forgiveness and God’s grace and mercy. Thanks for sharing your struggles with this difficult hurt brought on by misguided men. They will be accountable to a higher power than us. May this draw each of us closer to our Savior and not push away those looking for the hope that can only be found in Christ. Blessings.
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It really is. And you’re absolutely right. We are fallen and only Jesus is perfect. Thank you
For your prayers. I will join you in that!! Hugs and love xox
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Faith leads to hope, and it overcomes fear (and the wrongdoing). Religion works beautifully when it amplifies faith. At its worse, it’s a set of convictions and rules that the people in charge don’t want to change. At its worst, it exists at the expense of faith. – Tony
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Thanks so much Tony. You’re right about that – hope overcomes fear. Amen. Hugs and love xox
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Hey BBB
My heart also grieves with you over these atrocities. I am not a Catholic nor have I ever been but that does not mean as a Brother in Christ that I don’t also feel the shame of what this Christian ministry has done to our lonely women or innocent and defenseless children. We know these stains are not limited to the Catholic community of Priests alone.
The Catholic community is in our prayers too!
His mercy endures forever, amen.
TS-Whirlwind
Steven R. Harrel
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Hey Steven, thank you so much for your prayers and compassion. Amen – His mercy will always prevail, even in darkness! hugs xo
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Will be praying for you and stay hopeful my friend
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Thank you so much MCM for your prayers and compassion. Keeping the hope!! hugs xo
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Your welcome and much love and peace!!
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Thank you for being so courageous. When I was a pastor I went through all the official channels to address false anti-Christian doctrines in our denomination. That was shot down, so I turned to the local churches in our state and asked for their help at our annual denomination convention meeting. What I found was that the local church laypeople who represented their congregations were overwhelmingly with me and standing with Scripture. It was the leaders in the denomination who were against this. We voted on this issue and 99% of the local people voted for a resolution I authored to stop the unbiblical policy. However, the leaders disavowed the vote on a procedural technicality which I didn’t even know existed until then. This was all done in front of a large crowd at the meeting. My point is this, it is really the people in the pews, like you, who can have a greater impact than you realize. Real Godly change won’t come from the top down, the organization will see to that. It must come bolstered by much prayer from the bottom, grass roots worshipers in the pews. I don’t know how that can happen in such a top-heavy organization like the Catholic church unless a wave of the Holy Spirit moves the people to change the leadership somehow. Blessings to you and yours always my sister.
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Thank you so much DT for sharing your heart and your experience. There is power in the pews, that’s for sure. Very encouraged by this! Come Holy Spirit!! hgus xo
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God loves the Catholic people. True believers in every church, do as well. Check out Psalm 37. If there ever was a time such words need to soak into our souls, it is now. Blessings!
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Thank you so much for your encouragement. I will definitely read 37 tonight. No better time to seek God’s guidance and comfort through His word. Hugs xo
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Although, I no longer follow my catholic faith (for a different reason, entirely), I have always admired catholics and, most likely, always will. I certainly am making no excuse for the abuse of children, but the inordinate amount of attention placed on the Church is incredible, considering the problem of child sexual abuse is systemic in society. But, I do believe that priests are charged with that special need of nurturing its members and when it’s violated, it’s a harm that has long lasting effects.
And, although, I don’t practice the faith of my youth, I will pray that the ultimate end is one that is truly protective of children.
(And I live in the Denver, Colorado area and hope you enjoyed the trip here!)
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Thank you so much for sharing your heart on this heartbreaking issue. I agree – the effects are particularly hurtful, given their position as father, and in persona Christi. Thank you for your prayers and compassion. I have a very special spot in my heart for Denver! hugs xo
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I understand your anguish. I’m anguished whenever I see churches and religious communities doing things that clearly violate the Spirit of what faith is about. I hope your words and your commitment help to bring healing and cleansing to many people.
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Thank you so much Joe, for your kind words and encouragement during this heartbreaking time. Hugs xo
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You have my prayers. So thankful your faith is based on Jesus and not on any earthly man. God bless you.
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Thank you so much Barbara for your prayers and compassion. Amen – it’s on Jesus! hugs xo
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Yes, Caralyn, I’d heard about the Vatican Summit, indeed, following the daily news stories of the proceedings. Moreover, I know, truly, and lament, deeply, that the crisis of sexual abuse, harassment, and misconduct is no more endemic to the Roman Catholic Church than it is to any other body, whether sacred or secular. The Episcopal Church/Anglican Communion of which I am a part has been and is roiled by the same scandal of generations of horrendous acts of the violation of persons and their souls, and then institutional silence, inaction, coverup, and misinformation. The light of truth, though searing, historically, dawns slowly. Yet, the light of truth does dawn. I share your sorrow and your conviction of faithful steps, both personally and institutionally. Praying all may be so. Love
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Hi Paul, thank you so much for sharing your heart and for your prayers during this heartbreaking time. And you’re right, sadly this culture of abuse can be seen in other realms of society too. Come Holy Spirit, heal and comfort the hurting. Hugs xo
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Very well said! Thank you so much for bringing light to this issue. We should still be proud of being Catholic because the things people did in the Catholic Church should never define us, our worth is in God.✨💗
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Thank you so much Kylie, you’re so right about that! Hugs and love xox
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I have to remind myself that and either way, I still love being Catholic!💕✨
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Me too! Always! I have a deep need to receive Jesus’ body and blood every Sunday (if not every day!) There were a solid three years where I was able to go to daily mass. I so miss it, and am going to try to add it back into my schedule! 🙂 Hugs and love xox
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Receiving Communion is always the best part of Mass! That’s cool that you were able to go to daily mass for three years straight and I hope you’ll be able to go again soon! Hugs and love to you too✨💕☺️
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I completely agree! Thanks girlie 🙂 xoxoxooxoxoox
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Religion is a “tool” to help us break free from the shackles of our rigid mind. It’s the spirit of its holy books we cherish, and not in every word you’ve memorised.
Religion is all about branding love which has developed a quality of discrimination and differentiation. They lay out conditions for love. Love is obscured from a clear view behind a veil. In that, all organised religions will one day ended up in some sort of scandal. You see, there is no secrets to love, but the so called “subjects of God” have been adding artificial flavours it in order to sell it to masses in return for favours. Love is plain, and as it is simple.
That is one reason I wrote “S.O.S” without reservation. Have a read at davidlimsite.wordpress.com
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this, David. I definitely respect your viewpoint. We are living in a fallen world and the only perfection is Christ. Hugs and love xox
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Praying! I’m Protestant but all the churches are in need of prayer. Christ is being misrepresented in many ways.
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Thank you so much for your prayers and compassion, Dawn. You’re right about that. Come Holy Spirit! Hugs and love xox
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I have some interesting thoughts. It’s 1:30am, so I may not be able to form them coherently right now. I’ll continue this tomorrow.
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Haha been there. Thanks x
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I know you’re not trying to guilt trip me, but I’m one of those people who left Catholicism for other churches (Evangelical Covenant, which I’ve heard described as the closest possible to nondenominational while still being a denomination; various flavors of Baptist churches; and now a Vineyard church). My reasons were a bit more detailed and specific, though.
My mom’s ancestors arrived from Europe gradually between approximately 1850 and 1920, and they have been Catholic as far back as we’ve been able to trace. I grew up going to Catechism until 7th grade, but they didn’t teach things very well, and the other kids there were just as mean to me as the kids at school, and no one seemed to care, or build me up as a human being, or do anything about the other kids tearing me down. My mom’s church is also very traditional and not very kid-friendly in general, and Mom stopped forcing me to go to anything churchy around that time. I was down to just Christmas, Easter, and maybe once a month at the most. By my senior year of high school, I was going a little more often (which may or may not have been influenced by noticing that a girl from school I liked went to my church – nothing ever came of that, and it wouldn’t have worked anyway because she’s married to a woman now, although we stayed friends for a long time and lost touch mostly through natural causes, but that’s another story), and when I started college, I went to Mass at the Newman Center pretty much every week until mid-October of my junior year.
Early in my second year, I got involved with a nondenominational campus ministry (Intervarsity), through the influence of friends. For about a year I was part of that group, choosing on my own to follow Jesus for the first time and learning more about what was in the Bible, but still attending Mass at the Newman Center and singing in their church choir. I felt like Catholicism had much more in common with other branches of Christianity compared to what everyone tends to argue about, and that I didn’t have to choose. Generally, I still believe this, and I still have a lot of respect for the Catholic Church. I still go to Mass on Christmas morning, because I’m with my Catholic family on that day.
The reason I left was because I felt like a lot of the Catholic students didn’t really believe what their church taught. I was reading things like “So then, whoever eats the bread or drinks the cup of the Lord in an unworthy manner will be guilty of sinning against the body and blood of the Lord” (1 Cor. 11:27), yet overhearing Catholic students say things like “we have to eat and drink the rest of the bread and wine, we can’t throw it away because it’s been consecrated, and sometimes I need that wine to get me tipsy to get through the closing song.” Also, this probably has more to do with being in a liberal college town in California than Catholicism in general, but the people running Mass at the Newman Center were big on doing things like changing the words of songs to refer to God using feminine pronouns (it should be noted that this was over two decades ago, not part of the current firestorm surrounding gender pronouns and such). Now I get the argument that God doesn’t have a gender, but doing that even after being warned not to by the diocese does not reflect the spirit of humility and repentance consistent with worshiping God and loving Jesus. I didn’t want to make this decision lightly. I spent the entire month of October 1996 (about a year after I started going to Intervarsity, and eight months after making the decision to follow Jesus) going to church twice every Sunday, at the Evangelical Covenant church that many of my friends went to and also Mass at the Newman Center, and praying about making the right decision, and I felt like my friends’ church was more of what I needed at that point in life. (Last spring, I wrote a blog post about going back to an old church because the long-time youth pastor who I volunteered with was leaving; that was this Covenant church that I’m talking about.)
(I started a second blog recently, a continuing story based on my own college years. The character in that will be making a similar faith journey, but I’m only a couple months in so it’ll be a while before I get to that part.)
I have noticed the same thing you’re describing. Growing up, Christmas Mass was always packed, to the point that Mom is still always paranoid that we won’t get a seat and makes us get there really early (although she’s also a lector so she has to get there early, and we have to pick up Grandma, who is the second oldest person at that parish and often takes a while to get ready these days). But the last few years, even at Christmas Mass, half the seats are empty. And this is probably one of the most traditionally Catholic parts of the USA, with a lot of Mexicans and Filipinos and Italians in the region.
I think part of the problem is that many people only identify as Catholic because of their ethnicity or cultural heritage. Their ancestors were Catholic in their previous country, so now they’re Catholic here, without them ever having made a conscious choice to follow Jesus (like I did at 19) or even knowing much about what they believe. (And don’t get me started on politicians who claim to be Catholic but support abortion of fully formed and viable babies and attempt to suppress free speech by making pro-life pregnancy centers advertise for abortion clinics…) The Catholic Mass rituals have their origins in deep and meaningful worship experiences, but that meaning doesn’t seem to be taught and passed on very well these days. If the Catholic Church is going to experience a revival, I would think they’ll have to do a better job of that. Of course, there are lots of people in other branches of Christianity who go through the motions and haven’t had their lives transformed, but Catholicism seems especially susceptible to this, from what I’ve seen.
My prayers are with you and with the Catholic Church. Thank you for sharing and always being honest.
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Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’m sorry that the group of students at the Newman center said those things. That’s so disappointing. And sadly, you will find Catholic Churches that are pushing liberal boundaries with pronouns and other little things that aren’t liturgically sound. And I just avoid those, because like you experienced, it makes me feel so unsettled and upset and actually brings out some anger. You’ve definitely brought up some really powerful food for thought, and I really appreciate you being so open and candid. Thank you so much for your prayers and compassion. I pray for that revival too, because you’re right – it is a deep and meaningful worship experience. Sending you so much love and hugs xox
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It’s not just Catholics. The Vineyard church I went to for two years (my current church is a plant of that church, so far it’s just one extended family of 10 and me) is turning into a hipster church pushing all of those boundaries, and I actually had to unfriend the pastor on Facebook because of the childish names he was calling Donald Trump, all the praise he was heaping on Nadia Bolz-Weber, and other conduct not becoming of a pastor. I’m not by any means saying that everything Donald Trump does is right, but we should be praying for him and our country, not calling him names. Nadia Bolz-Weber brings up some interesting issues on ways that Christianity alienates people, but glorifying and bragging about your sin with foul language is not the way to approach Jesus in humility and repentance. This must be what Paul wrote about regarding people following what their itching ears want to hear… 😦
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I completely agree. We need to pray for, support and respect him, regardless of what we think about his politics. Very true. Hugs and love xox
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And also— definitely no guilt trip here 🙂 💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛💛 nothing but love and respect!
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Good work. End times are near. And we don’t need to search the time & date of ending. Just pray for all doing good to others with love. Its time to pray for churches in the name of Jesus Christ to Almighty God. Worst things happened & happening inside and outside churches. Evil has covered the goodness of priests for doing sins. And we have no authority given from above to punish or curse the sinful priests. Only prayers can destroy the works of evil. Rosary is a real weapon against all evil. So prayers are needed daily. And only Love for eachother can save this world.
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. Yes – I will join you in that important prayer. Amen! Hugs and love xox
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It’s the sifting, read Ezekiel 34, may give a bit more insight. God bless
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I’ll look that up now! Thanks friend. Hugs and love xox
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I’m reminded of the scripture in Galatians 5:9 KJV A little leaven leaveneth the whole lump. Meaning a little yeast can cause a lump of dough to rise. One person can infect all others. In the case of the Catholic church we hear of more than one and it is a disgrace. But I’m sure there are other churches too dealing with the effects of its leaders. Our faith and hope is in our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. Our church leaders our considered our shepherd and this is a calling on their life, but when did they stop obeying the one who has called them? We must pray. Dear Heavenly Father we pray that you create in us a clean heart , O Lord and renew a right spirit within us. Lord keep our mind and thoughts stayed on you. God let us see sin the way you see sin and turn from all wickedness. God strengthen the church body and heal those that have been hurt by those who are in positions of trust. God restore the church, and may love abound and we give this all over to you in Jesus name we pray Amen.
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Thank you so much for this powerful perspective. And I so appreciate this beautiful prayer. Praying with you. Hugs and love xox
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Thanks for writing this; I wasn’t aware of the Summit. There’s so much I’d like to say… I’ll try to be brief, but I can’t promise that 🙂
I’m glad you asked for prayer because that’s what we need more than ever! Of course the abuse and the way it’s been handled is appalling; I don’t think any Catholic disagrees with that. It doesn’t make me ashamed to be Catholic, though. I’m honestly more on fire than ever.
We were told persecutions would occur in the Church, and it would get worse before it gets better. The reason the Church is in the news more than any other organization (abuse occurs everywhere) is because the devil wants to destroy the Church. He knows that if he destroys her, he destroys countless souls. We know, ultimately, the Church will triumph through the Immaculate Heart of Mary and the devil’s reign will end.
What discourages me is Catholics who leave the Church because of these problems. Yes, they are MAJOR problems and there should be zero tolerance for the priests who committed these atrocious sins. However, this doesn’t change the end result. The Church is still good and beautiful. We see this in the sacraments and the Mass, as I know you know well. The Eucharist is the BEST reason for being Catholic and will continue to sustain us on the journey and give us strength.
You’re right, we need courageous Catholics who aren’t afraid to think, speak and live according to true Catholic doctrine. When the anti-Christ comes (which may be shortly) even more will fall away, and we may be left with a very small Church. But, she will be strong! Jesus will never abandon His Bride.
Keep fighting the good fight and being a courageous Catholic, Caralyn!
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Thank you so much Terese for sharing your heart on this heartbreaking issue. You’re so right – the evil one wants nothing more than to destroy it. I agree wholeheartedly. The Eucharist is the absolute beat reason to be catholic and we need to stand by Jesus! Thanks so much for this wonderful encouragement. God bless you!! Hugs and love xox
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Thank you! And may the Lord continue to bless you and BBB +
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My prayers go out to the Vatican Summit, that these leaders will have wisdom to do what is right. The whole thing is tragic and horrific, as you said. But I do want to encourage you, Caralyn (and all Catholics). As it’s been said, we’re only as sick as our secrets, which means that bringing them into the light is the first step toward healing and even reformation. I believe that if the leadership does the hard things here, the future will be bright for the Catholic church. And I am not a Catholic so I’m not just saying this.
One more thing. In one real sense, people who have been exposed as perpetrators are safer, because they’ve been exposed and are getting help, rather than someone continuing to do the same things in secret. This is why exposure, as ugly and painful as it is in the present, can bring real healing and changes that promote the health of the whole organization. It may take several years to right the ship but, again, if they do the right thing, the Catholic Church will be stronger for it.
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Thank you so much Mel for your prayers and encouraging words. I do have hope for the future too. Come Holy Spirit. And you’re right – healing and changes I believe are on the horizon. It’s a painful process but one that will lead to permanent change for good, I pray. Hugs and love xox
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Great blog 👍🏼
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Thank you so much Sharlinie 🙂 hugs xox
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You’re welcome 😘🌻
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xoxo 🙂
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I’m a former Catholic… Even as I type these words, in my head I know that it’s always going to be part of who I am. But I can’t go back to Church.
I know a lot… from up close and personal, which I have written about more than once, but I’ll attach here for you if interested. I didn’t know they burned records… but I am frankly not surprised. I suspect that if all the truth came out, there would be no going back. How do you cover up evil in the name of religion…..ask for penance after? Not being as smart ass as that sounds…. but I know that wasn’t in the vows they took. Who are they serving now? I wonder how they live with that.
These people acted in an evil manner. They stole childhoods, and lives. They stole faith and religion… traditions and futures… And in the place and people that should have been a refuge… and the fact that they still have not come to their knees and begged forgiveness, much less complete transparency and change….. I just can’t.
There is still so much pain in my family and friends lives… still so much hurt in my heart. Anger too, if I’m going to be honest… but I try to not hold it.
But I’m angry. I’m furious. It’s been years and it doesn’t go away. They hurt people i love. It started with one man, and it grew… Because that is what evil does in the darkness…. Until the church lives and breathes completely in the light, it will continue to fester and infect. And people will leave.
What I will say is that you give my heart hope for the church.
Much love.
Cinn
https://vanillawithatouchofcinnamon.wordpress.com/2016/04/02/here-we-go-now/
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Hey Cinn, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experienceon this heartbreaking issue. I’m so sorry that you and your family and friends have lived with so much hurt and pain. That just breaks my heart. There really is no excuse for the evil that has been allowed to occur in the church. I just pray that an overhaul and renewal take place immediately. And I pray for those who have been so horrifically hurt by those who should have been a spiritual leader to them. Thank you for sharing your story. Hugs and love xox
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Okay I’m going to put $0.05 into this conversation why because I’m Italian a former Catholic and I’m going to shed some light that nobody has the guts to talk about. It’s good did these things are happening very very good purge all the perverts out of the church. The problem with Catholicism isn’t just one thing but rather manythis, it may be hard for you to grasp because your Catholic upbringingthis but yet you categorize yourself as a Christian. Wrong wrong wrong if you follow Catholicism not a Christian or Catholic. Christians do not associate with Catholics. Christians became Christians because of the corruption in the Catholic Church you should study Martin Luther. And the history behind the corrupt popes like Rodrigo Borgia. I’m not saying you have to become a Protestant however I’m saying you should become a Christian if you call yourself a Christian become a Christian leave the Catholic faith. Catholicism is nothing but a inner cancer. As in Italian I blame this on the people. The people of Rome who made this sort of religious figure into a human deity the pope is a man, Christ is the deity. Never forget that but somewhere along the lines Italy is forgotten that and countless other Catholics have forgotten that with statues in their homes of Mary Magdalene and Saint Pietro on the walls it’s disgusting and it’s idle worship it’s nothing the Jesus wanted or the apostles wanted the apostles were men the mother of Jesus was a woman they didn’t do anything spectacular. The reason they were able to do the things is because they had the Holy Spirit the Holy Spirit was from heaven and only God working with man could do those things that man alone we could never do those things. The Italians in general have mistakenly thought that man has done all those things without the connection between the Holy Spirit.
So at the end of the day Carolyn the state where you’re from has truth but have you ever walked through the doors. However for myself I go there quite frequently and is the Canadian I don’t look at the distance I look at the truth.
Here’s some sad Truth for you. a person in Canada like myself who has a physical disability loves God and Truth at any cost. However some people in the United States who have regular opportunities to attend that church and refuse to go don’t go for what reason? I can’t quite put my finger on it. Because I am sure that if I was living in the states and was able to go to church every da 5 days a week I would be there in service five days a week and the only service I would miss is if I was in a hearse because I ain’t missing service for nothing.
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Thank you. I strongly agree with ur statement. Our faith lies not in the men who leads but in the person of Jesus, in her sacraments and the Eucharist.
This is another dark age of the church, but comes with a powerful grace when embraced with humility and dependence on Christ her Spouse.
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Thank you friend. I agree. I pray for that powerful grace to come soon! Come Holy Spirit! Hugs and love xox
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First off, I want to commend you for your courage in sharing the tragic, horrible abuses in your church. It’s not easy to put that out there, knowing the brunt of criticism and negativity you could and probably do get with these scandals. And your courage to share your disgust and sorrow over it all. Every Christian church has had scandals, not just the Catholic Church, but the Catholic Church does need to handle these abuses much better (understatement) than it has. I feel for you and other Catholics as I can imagine how painful it is to see this happening in your church. But as you said, we’re all broken in need of healing, and churches are people, filled with broken human beings. But God is not broken, and our relationship with Christ and the Trinity is most important because that’s what Christianity is–an intimate relationship with Christ God. Once you’ve experienced Him, know Him, love Him, nothing can shake that connection, although the relationship is synergetic, so we have to keep striving to grow closer to Him, put Him at the center of our lives, which is a real challenge many days (at least for me). So, of course, I, a Greek Orthodox Christian will be praying for you and my Catholic brethren. God bless.
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Thank you so much for sharing your heart on this tough issue. Amen to that!! God is not broken!!! 🙌🏼 really appreciate your prayers and compassion. Hugs and love xox
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You’re welcome. 🙂 ❤
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Caralyn My prayer is that the eyes of many,with a humble heart for Christ, will be opened in the Roman Catholic church. The news about the sexual immorality in the RCC for decades has always been so sad and also very disturbing.
God is revealing these dark secrets in the Roman Catholic church for a reason (it would be wise to seek God in prayer for wisdom as to what He wants for you to do Caralyn). I agree with pkadams comment. From reading through your posts I can tell you desire to please God. Your faith seems sincere. Your post about being a virgin was especially encouraging and astonishing in a world where people are openly mocked for choosing to honour God in that way.
I know quite a few Catholics whose faith seems very genuine but like pkadams shared many really have very little to no understanding about sanctification, justification and salvation beyond what they heard their priests say. Catholics of old we’re restricted from having the texts for themselves to actually seek God for themselves through His word and prayer, only priests had the access mainly. Today it is different. Today no man, especially a professed Christian, has any excuse as to why they don’t correctly understand all that Christ accomplished on the cross for our sins.
The revelation of the abundance of sexual immorality in the Roman Catholic church (and in other denominations) is not so people could walk away from Christianity but so people can genuinely seek God. I left my last church because of its failure to be be biblically sound and they preached a prosperity Gospel, now I’m at a church more doctrinally sound in Bible teaching but still I prayerfully seek God’s word for understanding because like you shared priests aren’t perfect, preachers I’m general aren’t but one who is humble and preaches God’s word correctly and truthfully is good.
I also hope you find a church that has sound doctrinal teaching, not some church that merely seems more fun or exciting than the RCC. Don’t let Christian rock music and some band music in other churches be the only reason you consider another church. Hopefully wanting to grow more in faith and knowledge in Christ be the reason. I say that with genuine love and care for many who profess to follow Christ in the RCC.
I have never had an eating disorder but one day I came across your blog. I always knew you we’re Catholic and haven’t commented on any of your other posts about your Catholic faith but God knows why I am now commenting. Hopefully you don’t brush off comments like mine and pkadams as merely Catholic opposition. God bless you Caralyn. (Also, I’m not sure if I spelled your name correctly , if I haven’t please forgive me.) ❤ 🙂
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Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts during this heartbreaking time. I definitely do not brush off your comment at all, and am grateful that you took the time to share your heart. This is obviously a very difficult time for the RCC, and as you said – what is coming to light is not only incredibly disappointing, disturbing and brings up a lot of anger inside. That being said, I cannot walk away from my faith, and I must pray for the total and complete cleansing of the church. Not is the time to keep my eyes firmly locked on Jesus and pray fervently for the hurting church. I do truly appreciate your words of encouragement and compassion. It means the world. Hugs and love xox
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Hang on, we must hang on to Christ. The church needs a cleansing and this is a wake up call to all Catholics.
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You’re so right about that. Thanks Melissa. Hugs and love xox
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I’m not Catholic, but I would say that its not just Catholics that are facing such criticisms in this modern “scientific” world of ours. To call ourselves as “Christian” isn’t treated with high regard anymore – regardless of denomination.
Let’s face it, the body of Christ as a whole as lost the part. We’ve become overweight with traditions, religious ceremonies; stemming not from the foundations of the “Word of God”, but rather on someone’s understanding of it or an adaptation of a paganistic rituals.
As followers of Christ, we ourselves often fail in the little essentials that should set us apart from any other religious sect out there – primarily our call to “Love”.
The body of Christ is often so divided by denominational and religious practices that in truth. Any scandalous issue is covered up mostly for fear of shame. So much so, most who call themselves as Christians, don’t really know what they believe in anymore. Some are even agnostic or atheistic in their beliefs; choosing to follow whatever is prevailing at the time; rather than the Bible.
The Bible is seen as the an ancient outdated document these days only followed if you want to live your life in the dark ages.
I recently saw an episode of “The Simpson” where someone was giving away free bibles at the roadside and there was a huge queue to pick up a Quran to the stall next to him.
That clearly tells us that thanks to the church, the teachings of Christ is treated with as much criticism and contempt as he was when he was on this earth.
In reviewing the church as a whole, considering how much our Lord rebuked them, we as his followers have become the very same as those he rebuked… The Pharisees and Sadducees.
One of our biggest failings is that we often place far too much importance and high regard in church leadership, often forgetting that they are men also and are prone to fail as well. The bible is full of men who have fallen and lost their calling, only to find it renewed again when they repent from their wicked ways. This gives us hope that no matter what, there is a just, loving, God that is ready to forgive and forget and help us back on to the right path.
The church was supposed to be a place of healing, sanctuary of the cares of the world, a place of teaching and guidance. So as believers, our focus and faith should not be in leaders, but Christ himself.
The Apostle Paul said it correctly, “Imitate me, as I imitate Christ.” Hence if your church leader isn’t imitating Christ, then we’re supposed to look directly to Christ.
Well… that’s my take on it. 🙂
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Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this heartbreaking issue. I think you’re so right. We need to remember that our leadership are humans and only Christ was perfect. And amen – God will help us get back to the right path. Amen. So appreciate this powerful perspective. Hugs and love xox
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Thank you for you post and your honesty. As a Christian of the Pentecostal persuasion, I have always been grateful of the teaching from the pulpit by a man that is transparent. “Write down the scriptures and your notes, go look them up and form your own conclusion Please correct me if I am wrong. The same leadership has men who hold them accountable. I hurt for the Roman Catholic church and I hurt for every one who was taught to trust the Father blindly. The error is in the Church organization, not in the people. I applaud you because you recognize that it is your relationship with Christ that matters. Keep looking, and keep writing. We need to hear your voice.
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Thank you so much Bruce for sharing your thoughts on this tough issue. I appreciate your compassion and support. Hugs and love xox
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So many preachers out there taking scriptures out of context and twisting it to suit their own ideology.
The bible itself tells us to “Test the scriptures”… it is so often that when someone does not properly understand the “word of God”, one can easily be lead astray.
Jesus himself said that many will come in his name. We’re supposed to know His voice in order to discern the difference and that comes from knowing his word.
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Again another powerful and heartfelt piece.
Many non-catholics understand your feelings because like you they are horrified at what some were able to do in the name of Christ.
For me personally the demand for two witnesses and forcing them to face the accused is such an unreasonable act. I wasn’t part of the problem but I am horrified to have been associated with the problem.
Romans 13 makes it clear that all Christians are subject to the law up to the point where it contradicts God’s law, so we look at these things from a post 1980’s viewpoint.
Historically the coursts and society did little to protect children – In the UK 1889 saw the first legal protection – prevention of cruelty act. This was played around with for 100 years and in 1989 the breakthrough occurred with the Children Act.
Our collective retrospection in judging others applies our current values.
Morally the exploitation of children is inexcusable!
The hiding of such actions by Churches today is again morally questionable but should it challenge our faith? Jesus said many would come in his name, and comfortingly he also stated at Matthew 7: 15 Beware of false prophets, which come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. (KJV).
The Apostles also told of those who would polute the congregation or church for their own devices.
So the Vatican like many other groups have to clean house. Children are a prcious gift, life is precious and like Jesus we condemn hypocrasy but we never reject our faith in God.
A really thought provoking piece as ever. Thank you.
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Thank you so much Mark, I really appreciate your kind words. I think you’re right – clean. House. It will be painful and humbling. But we need to get back to Jesus. Hugs and love xox
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Thank you for posting this! As I was reading this, I was thinking that (as a Catholic myself), I will not leave the Church during these dark times. I don’t know what I would’ve thought when I was younger and didn’t put as much value in my faith life and relationship with God. But during college, and the almost year since graduating, I’ve realized that my faith is a major part of my life. And our Church is a massive part of that.
And it hurts me that such things have happened in such an otherwise beautiful Church. And it hurts me even more that people are judging the Church (and maybe even the lay people themselves) based only on the terrible things being brought to light through the scandals.
But I don’t intend on leaving the Church any time soon. 🙂
Thank you again for posting this!
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Thank you so much for your support and for sharing your heart during this difficult time. I am so with you on everything you’ve expressed. The church is hurting. It’s parishioners are hurting. I applaud and encourage you for standing by her and believing that Christ can and will overcome and heal! Hugs and love xox
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Just wanted you to know that I identify with your feelings of shame as well as your sticking with it because you are there for Christ and not for the people who have errantly led. When SNL and others use this scandal as a joke- I cringe because I know how it feels. I am (I shudder to even say it) an evangelical Christian. And our choices as a group have left so much pain and unchristlikeness in their wake. So I get it and you are right. I do and will continue to pray for my Catholic bothers and sisters 💕 thank you for sharing
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Thank you so much for your kind words. I agree – it’s so cringy and hurtful. Thank you for your prayers and compassion, it really means a lot. big hugs to you xo
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Caralyn, I respect you. You’re story is one of courage and perseverance in your battle with ED. You are a voice to be reckoned with here on WP and I’m sure in all of your areas of influence. I admire your honesty, your courage to tackle the hard topics and your ability to really connect with your readers. I’ve purchased your book, “Bloom” and I’m thinking very seriously about the toothpaste! I’m not Anorexic but you might say I have an eating disorder…I have a sugar/carb addiction. Anyway, all that aside, you do an amazing job writing this blog and relplying to everyone. That being said, I want you to understand this comment comes from the heart of a former Catholic. I personally never would have understood who Jesus is if I had stayed in the Catholic Church. I can say that now, because He saved me. When I read your posts, I hear the voice of someone who knows she has a Savior. I was actually surprised (and saddened) when I first discovered you were Catholic. I’m actually new to my faith in Christ (5 years now since I was saved at the age of 48). I know I’m saved because I know now that I wasn’t before…if that even makes sense. He changed my heart-and changed my life. I’m still a work in progress…working out my salvation with fear and trembling you might say. At first I thought maybe I would return to the Catholic Church; it’s all I ever knew. I tired a few times…especially with my family. But I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t be a part of that anymore. I don’t know how anyone who has accepted the Lord Jesus Christ as Savior could remain in the Catholic Church. I’m not saying that because of the sex scandal (although that’s a real tragedy-and I see why it would cause many to leave) but I say it because, once I realized the truth of the Gospel, I couldn’t go back. There is no number of masses, no amount of sacraments, no number of rosaries or confessions to a priest that will earn anyone right standing before a holy God. The only thing that will offer eternal security is putting your complete faith in the sacrifice Jesus made on your behalf. When He said, “It is finished” that meant your debt (and mine) was “Paid In Full”. Nothing we do will earn salvation. I urge you to do some real detective work on this…look to the true source of faith…Romans 10:17 says faith comes by hearing and hearing by the word of God. Jesus IS the Word…and the Bible is where we go to hear His word. He said He would send the he Holy Spirit who would lead us into all truth! He will reveal the truth to those who seek Him. The pope is doing some things that should really be a cause of concern for Catholics. I’d love to hear your opinion on this:
https://cruxnow.com/pope-in-uae/2019/02/08/u-s-catholic-officials-welcome-catholic-muslim-document-signed-by-pope/
I have urged my own family to look into these things as well. Some of my family are very devout Catholics…others are Agnostic some maybe even Atheists/Unbelievers. My own son isn’t sure what he believes any more. I raised him Catholic-even sent him to Catholic School through the 4th grade. It breaks my heart. Just another note: I used to attend one of the Non-Denominational Mega churches like you mentioned in this post and that, unfortunately isn’t the answer either…but that is a story for another time. All “churches”, with or without denomination have their problems. THE CHURCH = Believer’s. Those who believe in the finished work of Christ alone. We are saved by grace, through faith…not of ourselves. It is still important to be a part of a community of believers…not because you will go to hell if you don’t go to church but b/c the Bible says we’re not to neglect our meeting together, to encourage one another in the faith…which is the word of God! It has been my experience (and you may be different) but when Catholics speak of being “in the faith” they are generally speaking of the faith they have in the Roman Catholic Church and not in Christ alone. My prayer is for all Catholics: you, my family, my friends…all Catholics to come to know the truth of the Word of God. Again, I respect you for speaking out on what you believe…I’m simply asking, as a former Catholic, that you think about what I’ve said here. May God give you wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of Him. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Ephesians%201%3A16-18&version=ESV;NRSVCE God Bless you Caralyn-I truly think you are an amazing young woman and really enjoy your blog.
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Oops..your story not “You’re”. It really bothers me when people make that mistake! LOL!
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Haha no worries! Thanks!
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I’ve been visiting your page for some time and keep coming back because on religious matters you value what the Bible says and not so much what someone necessarily preaches from a pulpit. I’m not devaluing what is always preached but the Bible says we need to test what people say against what the Bible says. I’m not a Catholic but we can all be indebted to some of the Catholic writers of the past who obviously had a close relationship with God. We can be inspired by Catholic Mother Theresa. The essence of the gospel is as Jesus described it “love to God, love to man.” I’ve seen that demonstrated within the Catholic religion as I have in some Protestant churches. I’m not impressed with the view that you have to be one label or another to make it to heaven. To me salvation is a gift of God to those individuals who want to be in a heavenly environment and do the hard yards to demonstrate that. Yes what has transpired is embarrassing and the secular world puts all religions in a common pot of scorn because of the indiscretion of the few. Why not think positively that this sad set of disclosures could be the means of cleaning up the act of all churches so they collectively imitate the ways of Christ rather than giving into the natural waywardness of the human element in us. Keep close to Jesus and the Bible They are our only compass in an increasingly secular wicked world. 🙂
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Thank you so much Ian, I am touched by your encouragement. A common pot of scorn – wow isn’t that the truth. Thanks for your compassion 🙂 Hugs and love xox
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This is such a difficult subject and time. I was raised Catholic and practiced fairly devoutly until my kids were about 1 and 3. (They were never quiet in church so I wound up attending a Baptist church around the corner; they had nursery and instruction for my little ones, and I could actually LISTEN to a sermon, lol.)
A then-priest (with whom I had been close while he was stationed at my parish) knew what was going down at the beginning of this debacle, back in Boston, in the mid-90’s (?). He couldn’t say a word, but often told his mother what was going on was “big”.
He often told me, “More lives are saved in church basements than in church pews.” My faith has never really lacked, but having a God of my understanding has been insanely helpful when the leaders of my churches have shown their humanness.
The Catholic Church needs to look at the roots/origins of its practices and trust that God is leading them to a way that will benefit all. 🙏🙏🙏
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Thank you so much for sharing your heart. That is such great advice: to trust God’s plan for goodness for all. Hugs and love xox
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This is so real Cara. Though you are Catholic, you are not biased and it’s priceless. My family is Catholic but for some personal reasons, I’m not a Catholic at heart. Tomorrow, I’ll be attending the ash Wednesday mass with my family. I’m not proud of this, but few hours ago, I said to myself, that I was only going for my parents’ sake. Now, the depth of your faith in the sacraments has encouraged me to see the true meaning of this season we are in. I’ve decided to ask more questions, maybe it will help my mindset.
God bless you big for all that you do for His kingdom.
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Thank you so much for sharing your heart on this. It really is such a beautiful and moving season. I hope tomorrow goes well for you. I will definitely be praying for you 🙂 Hugs and love xox
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I am not Catholic. But I can truly relate. Keep praying for an answer
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Thank you so much. You’re right – prayer is the answer. Hugs and love xox
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