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Well, in case you’re locked in a bunker somewhere and don’t know…it’s Pride Month.
I’m sitting here writing this from my Greenwich Village apartment in Manhattan, and I’m looking out my window at – I kid you not – probably 25 different rainbow flags flying from the various brownstone buildings and businesses.
The entire country is gearing up for the Pride Parade. Companies like Coca Cola, Chipotle, Nike, Disney, Dr. Martens, Bud Light and just about every other media/consumer conglomerate have adopted rainbow logos, LGBTQ+ positive slogans and campaigns. It’s as though there’s a competition to see who is the most “woke.”
And as someone who lives a hop, skip and a jump from the Stonewall Inn in NYC, believe me when I say I fully respect and understand the importance of June 28, 1969.
I’m going to be really honest: every Pride Month, I’m faced with this internal battle of: do I dare address the topic on my blog? Or do I just let it go? And every year, I cower back, afraid to touch this topic with a 12-foot pole.
But not this year.
Because this year, more than ever, it is so apparent:
We are worshipping at the altar of our own sexuality.
And believe me – this, coming from a heterosexual virgin…the irony is not lost on me.
This year, more than ever, it seems that there’s been this explosion of identity: people are, not so nonchalantly, making known their individual sexuality. “LGBTQ” is no longer adequate nomenclature. In 2019, it has expanded to: Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Transsexual, 2/Two-Spirit, Queer, Questioning, Intersex, Asexual, Ally, Pansexual, Agender, Gender Queer, Graysexual, Demisexual, Polysexual, Cisgender, Bigender, Gender Variant, Gender Non Conforming, Demiboy, Demigirl, Genderfluid, Onmigender, Non-binary, Nonmonosexual, and Pangender. Among others.
We have made idols out of our labels. We’re so hungry for identity, and to set ourselves apart, that we have literally created a new language and social ideology to do just that.
And before I get into why I believe that is, I think it’s important to just pause for a moment here to address something vitally important.
I think it’s really easy to look at that list of identities and, since most are – let’s be honest – probably a foreign concept to a lot of people – it’s easy to think in terms of “us” and “them.” But it’s important, as we continue this conversation, to remember that there are people — someone’s son, daughter, friend, cousin — who identify as such. And even though we, ourselves, may not fall into that camp, or have any personal experience whatsoever with that – it’s important to have this conversation with compassion and with love — recognizing the personhood, dignity and value of each individual. And to remember that there is no “us” and “them” in this conversation — there is only a “we.” A human race, children of God, who are all together on this journey towards Heaven.
But back to the why.
Why are we so hungry for that identity? Why are we so desperately trying to distinguish ourselves that we’ve created a culture that worships our sexuality?
It’s because we have strayed so far from our true identity in Christ.
We, as a society, have wandered so far into the desert of godless culture, that we’re believing the mirages we see pop up in the sand.
Now, I’m not saying that these unique sexual attractions that people feel aren’t real to that individual. Not at all.
Having same sex attraction is a very real thing. And people — no matter who they are attracted to — are all children of God. They are all worthy of love, and acceptance, and compassion.
That’s not what’s coming into question here:
It’s the sharp left turn from, “I am a person with same sex attraction,” to elevating our sexuality to deity-status. And glorifying and worshipping the labels that we’ve created to express that attraction.
And that’s where the danger lies.
Our culture has chosen to drift far, far, away from the truths spoken into us by the Father. Truths that we are unique creations of God, and loved beyond our wildest dreams. Truths that we are made for more than this world, with a plan set before us by Him. Truths that we are heirs to the Kingdom of God. Truths that we have intrinsic value, and that our lives were purchased through Jesus’ incredible mercy and grace on the Cross.
We’ve abandoned those truths that *truly* identify who we are at our innermost core.
And so as a result, we’re turning to our own carnal nature, and trying to write our own biography. And surprise, surprise — it’s distorted. Why? Because we are products of The Fall.
And because we have a distorted sense of love.
Love is no longer a self-giving expression of marriage, that mirrors Christ giving His body to the Church on The Cross.
It’s distorted. It’s a self-serving act of pleasure. Look at the multi-billion dollar porn industry. Look at the sex-robots that are now a reality. Look at the dating app, “swipe right” hookup culture that is now the norm.
We don’t love people, we use people. Use them for pleasure, for security, for fulfillment of a physical/emotional/relational/social/financial need, to alleviate loneliness. Hell, for rent money! It’s become a commodity exchange. And our grasping for some sense of sexual identity is a reflection of that.
So where does that leave us? Where do we go from here?
Because spoiler alert: the answer is not locking the shutters and throwing a poo-poo party on the parade goers, celebrating sexual identity.
It’s to be beacons of truth. Take every opportunity to remind people of their true identity in Christ — through the love, dignity, compassion, and respect you show them.
Real truth is hard to find these days anymore. But when you do discover it…it changes you.
Be that truth. Be that person that reflects one’s true identity back to themselves.
Because that is the definition of true love: pointing the other back to God.
It’s wanting the best for your partner, and ultimately, that means journeying together, towards the Father.
Be that to everyone you meet. Today, tomorrow, and for every Pride Month to come.
“This is what the Lord says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life.” Ez 37:5
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Wow! I appreciate your courage and loving heart conveyed here. You entered into turbulent waters with this post …
and did a fine job!
Keep shining that light 🙂
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Thank you Beckie – yeah I was terrified to push publish on this one. But it was put on my heart, so I had to do it! I appreciate your kind reception! 🙂 have a great night! Hugs and love xox
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Great post!
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thank you so much for your support! hope you have a great night. hugs xo
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You’re welcome! You write posts on difficult and sensitive topics and I think it takes guts to do it. You go girl!
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🙂 xoxoxoxo
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I really appreciate this post. Last week, I was in Chicago and pride month and rainbow flags were all over the city. I was really struggling with how to put into words all that I was thinking, especially when I saw churches and government buildings covered the same as other places. I really appreciate your honesty and just pointing out that this all boils down to needing to find our identities in Christ. Keep on being bold and posting as God leads you. I know I love keeping up with ya!
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Thank you so much Andy for sharing your heart on this issue. Yes – our identities in Christ. Yeah, I can definitely understand how you felt. And thanks, I was pretty nervous to publish this, so thanks for the positive reception. hugs xo
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Powerful article, Caralyn! It made think of an explanation of Christianity that I heard years ago: Christianity is hungry people telling other hungry people where the food is.
This spoke very deeply to me. It pointed out that we are ALL hungry (searching for identity, truth). We all need the only real food there has ever been – God’s Word.
Sometimes, as we go out to spread the Word, we lose sight of where the food is ourselves. We get hateful, judgmental, us-vs.-them-ish. We need help from our fellow human beings to find the food again ourselves!
I always enjoy your even-handed ability to address hard topics! Really enjoyed the Patreon Q & A video earlier today as well.
Were you able to book your flight OK? Any issues?
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Hi Jeff! THanks so much for the positive reception. Hungry people telling other hungry people where the food is OH MY GOSH I LOVE THAT SO MUCH!!!! Becuase gosh, isn’t that the truth!? I’m so glad this resonated with you Jeff. And I agree – His word is where that fulfillment is. Amen to that – thnks for your support! Finalizing and booking tonight!! I’ll keep you posted! hugs to you and Julie!
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Wish I could say it was mine. A pastor friend used it in a sermon, but he couldn’t remember who said it. I grew up learning to hate gay people. It was the culture. I’ve since learned that we all have our desires that are contrary to God’s will. As you pointed out, we’re all on the same side – sinful but forgiven. Yeah, let me know so I can send whatever it is. Again, nicely done!
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God bless the messenger!! 🙂 And amen – all on the same side for sure! xox
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I have seen more anti-pride/lgbt social media than i ever had this month. And possibly more than actual pride posts.
But i repsect your opinion as you are not the enemy. And i am adult enough to engage with those with a different opinion. And it is important that we can unpack the identity politics.
I guess my only questions is what is the difference of someone expresses thier identity as LGBT and you identifying as a virgin? It is infact celebrating the sexuality or in your case the lack there of.
When we express these identities we are explaining in short both a part of who we are, our history, our belief and our struggles. And create community of understanding which is important.
Pride is more about creating visibility for those that struggle in a particular identity and creating a safe space. The path ro God and the one understanding ourselves in this world can intersect be it by choice or spiritual crisis.
Celebrating ones identity is not what really seems to be the problem here. Because we have black history month, womens history month, ect. But more so that it is LGBT which is more than often demonized. Whether people want to admit it out right or not.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It was def something to unpack.
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Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and your heart on this! I definitely am all on board for creating a safe space for people to be themselves. THat’s something that’s really important – for sure! I’m glad that we were able to find common ground and have a dialogue. I think it’s really important to have that respectful conversation – becuase this is a huge issue, and an emotional one at that. Thank you for taking the time to read, it really means a lot. big hugs to you xox
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You as a straight virgin, white woman totally missed the point. Not surprising. As a straight person you don’t get to tell LGBTQ people how we celebrate. You don’t address that Pride is reclaiming who we are in a country that is literally legislating us out of existence. In the last four years over 100 trans women of color have been murdered on these American streets, that’s a struggle you will never know. 1 in 12 trans women will be targeted for murder. A queer black woman was lynched in Seattle yesterday. We are not worshiping our identity. We are saying to people like you that try to silence us with a work of literature we are here and we will stand. If you knew anything about Stonewall take this dross to them and let them read you.
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Hi Shoshanna, thank you for expressing your heart. I can definitely feel your passion through your words. I think it is just horrible that trans WOC are targeted and subjected to violence. Every person has the right to feel safe and it breaks my heart to read those statistics. I think perhaps my message was lost in translation. I am not trying to silence any celebration of identity. I’m merely also pointing to our identity that comes from being made in the image of God. I really appreciate your comment and the dialogue. There are a lot of perspectives, that you’re correct — as a straight woman, I will not understand. And I am eager to listen to eager to learn. Hugs to you xox
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Shoshanna it was actually 365 transwomen of color killed in last year alone. They just caught the serial killerin texas that murdered 3 this past month.
For reference.
https://www.gaystarnews.com/article/beheaded-gunned-down-and-stoned-to-death-368-trans-people-killed-this-year/
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I think you’re onto something. I’m demisexual, but usually I just think of myself as a straight female who never falls in love with someone until I’m attracted to his personality. I agree it’s just a part of who you are, and we certainly don’t need to get carried away with worshipping the identity. There does seem to be an odd desire to feel special because you’re a certain way, but we’re all special. A straight cisgender female is special, and a gay man is special, and we should see our specialness as the good we do in the world, not where we fall with our sexuality.
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Hi Meg, thank you so much for sharing your heart and sharing your story. Amen – it’s part, but not all! And AMEN! We’re ALL special and unique, because we were literally created by God and have His fingerprints all over us. I so agree — that’s what I want to celebrate!! So appreciate your response and for joining the conversation! big big hugs to you xox
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God Will Bless you for speaking out his truth. I know we are to pray for them and I do, but this Is one subject that zI will not
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Thank you so much 🙂
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“We don’t love people, we use people.”
Dingdingding!!!
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Thanks friend. I wish it weren’t the case! We need to get back to true, Christ-like love!!! hugs xo
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Sorry. I hit enter accidentally. This is something i definitely will not be silent on. It is a abomination to the Lord . What does the Bible say about homosexuality? Leviticus 18:22 says, “[Men] shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination.” Leviticus 20:13 says, “If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act.” God’s Word says the homosexual act is detestable; it is an abomination. Amen to you girl❤🙏
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Not to worry! Yeah, this is definitely a dificult issue. Because at the end of the day, we all have those areas in our lives. And we need to love everyone. But you’re right – tough issue to touch with a 12 foot pole for sure. I appreciate oyu stopping by and sharing your heart. big hugs xo
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Very well articulated. Not demeaning but compassionate. To be honest, in response to divinelove777, all descriptive can fall into the same category, I suppose. I personally, disagree with any occasion that isolates a particular group, because it isolates and segregates one person from another. It implies that one is better than another. I feel we instead should treat everyone in love as Christ loved us and as you so aptly stated,
“Take every opportunity to remind people of their true identity in Christ — through the love, dignity, compassion, and respect you show them.”
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Hi Jolie! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this article. I so agree — “Love one another as I have loved you.” That’s what we’re called to do! For every single person, no matter what. Thanks so much for stopping by! big big hugs to you xox
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To be honest you dont understand ones struggle over your own. While we can sugar coat everything with what is suppose to be the love of God. But that is not usually the case. There are people actually dying because we choose to turn a blind eye or the other cheek to people suffering or experience. Its not about being better….. its about survival. Its about healing in a group of people who understands you.
No different than someone going to an NA meeting or a womans bible study or black economics coalition. We create groups where we feel comfortable and to feel empowered through our struggles and create resource for those to be safe in whatever way. This creates language and therefore allows people to articulate their experience in this world.
It is important to not silence people. This is there testimony in this world and i pray their healing through the grace of God.
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I can understand that. No one should feel that their feelings are invalid.
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I agree with you. At first I wasn’t sure I’d like this post one bit ,because I’m so against homosexuality, but you make a lot of really good points so I can share it.
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Thank you so much Larry, I’m so glad it resonated with you. Yeah, it’s a tough issue with a real emotional component for sure. I appreciate you taking the plunge and reading the article! hugs xo
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oh nice!! thanks 🙂
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[…] via Are We Worshiping Our Sexuality? #PrideMonth — BeautyBeyondBones […]
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Thank you so much for the link up! big hugs xox
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I dont believe in pride month, these guys come up with all these different kinds of sexuality.
And I’m over here concerned whether or not I have found my soulmate. Problem is right now is that I feel like I already have but neither of us are ready.
I have had a few gay guys try to hook up with me along with a tomboy girl who I had virtually no attraction spiritually with. Then you got those people who dont believe in soulmates. But really a soulmate is someone who you were meant to be with that God put there for you.
As a 39 year old guy who has never been on a single (real) date it it can be frustrating to connect with someone but when I do feel a connection it’s like we’re meant to be… but at the same time I tend to have been wrong.
Anyway I dont have a pride month for being too timid around women I like or whatever lol.
And Caralyn, I know you’ve been trying to find a man lol but well its hard to be patient especially when your looking for that special someone or you are struggling with connecting with your special someone.
But if I’m wrong about my current attraction which feels like the world just stopped, I’m not sure why someone sexually different from heterosexuals could really be feeling something real. And I very well could have been gay, but automatically besides tne fact i haven’t found my soulmate, I just dont look at men as something sexually appealing.
But why am I attracted to women? Because I think it’s the way God intended it. Maybe some people who are gay are thinking that they found the one but they didn’t realize it until they hung around their same sex crush.
Sorry for the long comment lol anyway if it’s not easy for me to talk to women I like (if it makes me uncomfortable) it doesn’t mean I’ll be attracted to men. But it makes me wonder what really turns a guy gay.
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Hi friend, thank you for sharing your heart and your thoughts on this tough issue. In regards to a soulmate, call me old fashioned, — or perhaps out of touch — but I do believe that there is a person out there that God is preparing for each one of us. That’s why, yes I get nervous about being single and finding my husband, but then I just remember that there’s literally no way I’m going to miss him, because God already has it planned out, and it’s in His hands. That’s just my thoughts though 🙂 hehe probably romanticized it a bit too much. hang in there. keep looking! she’s out there! hugs xox
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Yeah I definitely agree, hence the soulmate. In my case with my current attraction to this girl is more like a twin flame than a soulmate. I just feel a much stronger attraction to her than any other regular crush (actually so intense that I have been getting headaches but that could be a different cause all together).
However after giving up on ever considering a relationship I’m seeking one with her but it’s pretty much at a standstill considering I’m still struggling with me being timid and considering the fact I already tried asking if she wanted to do a lunch, but later bailed. I dont know why other than I must not have talked to her a whole lot yet but it has me worried about progressing from the ‘hi’ stage when we run into one another.
Soulmates are far and few between. Its exceptionally harder when I see most women as friends and don’t think it could progress any further and tend to not try because they think otherwise. It’s very complicated for me lol.
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oh gosh – a heachache is a sure sign that you’ve got to pursue it! 🙂 I think you’re right – a soulmate is special for sure. hang in there!
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Well then it’s a good sign! Thanks for the tip. I had thought because I’m receiving signals in my brain that basically hasn’t really been used much lol. The hardest part is figuring out how to pursue this.
Anyways thanks for the support on this. 😃. And I hope you find your soulmate soon!
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🙌🏼 thanks!
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I find this true every month, and it has nothing to do with sexual orientation or God/Christ. I’m a heterosexual atheist. And I’m old, divorced, a mom. (Decades in recovery from my teenage AN and love your blog/journey/spirit.)
Everything lately is so increasingly selfish and consumer oriented imo, including sexuality. People and relationships are just another commodity. We look at each other coldly, like products… what are his features? Can I get a better one? Let’s see if I can trade up to a newer model. Click click click. Maybe it’s more obvious with all the rainbows, but I tried to date after my divorce and found the same thing in straight culture.
Just sad.
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Hi Paula, thank you so much for sharing your heart on this issue. Consumer oriented — i think there’s A LOT of truth in that. I mean, gosh — that’s the online dating movement in a nutshell!! Hang in there. I hope that someone comes along and surprises you 🙂 sending big hugs xox
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Hey Paula I see we have something in common here because we’re both fans of Beauty~
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This post is interesting because you seem to be upset that a parade is being held for lgbtq. Would you attend one for holy virgins. Because in the bible that is told to us all the time. Make no mistake I believe in GOD. I love HIM. I also know that the Virgin Mary is important in the bible. It is something that is paraded in everyone’s face all the time. Even none believers. Not everyone believes in the bible and we should respect. Just like everyone else was not blessed to know whom nor who they where attracted to. They are just trying to find their place in life. And maybe find someone like them so that they will know that they are not in this world alone.
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a parade for holy virgins hahaha that actually made me laugh out loud. Hey friend – thank you for this comment. I’m actually not upset at all about the parade. In fact, I’ll probably be attending it, because I have a lot of gay friends. But I just am weary of the idolization of the labels we give ourselves and the worshiping of our sexulaity. That’s all. And I definitely respect that people have their various beliefs – for sure. And to that end, I don’t think that I’m parading my virginity. Quite the opposite — I know it’s common knowledge on my blog, but in “offline life” it’s actually something I never talk about, and am in fact, rather embarrassed about. Only 2 of my friends know. That’s neither here nor there, but anyway — long and short of it — I’m not upset at the parade. I think community and support are important. But the deitization of our sexual orientation — no matter what it is — I’m weary of. Hope that clears it up. thank you so much for taking the time to read and respond. I really enjoyed our dialogue. big hugs xo
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Never be embarrassed by what you have not done because you think everyone else may have done it. You will know when you are ready. Don’t be embarrassed though. You’d be surprised how you are probably not alone. Someone else could be just as embarrassed as you.
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Thanks for saying that 🙂 I really appreciate it.
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Your courage is admirable in today’s world. I’m glad you posted on this subject. Truth is too many people, straight or otherwise, consider their “sexual satisfaction” the most important thing in their life. For Christians this is especially shameful. Jesus told us we must “die to ourselves” and that means relegating our sexual preferences to the bottom of our list of needs.
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oh my gosh rollie, you’re so kind to say that. I was super nervous, so thank you for the support! I think you’re right – we are to be in the world but not of the world — and that can be translated to A LOT of things, sexuality included. hugs xo
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Yes. Human kind worships Human kind!
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thanks 🙂 I appreciate you taking the time to read! big hugs xo
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So tired of people declaring their sexual preference and practices are their identity. Are we supposed to think of how people have sex when we meet them, work with them and just relate? I don’t think a heterosexual could declare themselves to be a particular position they prefer. That would be inappropriate.
But I get it. Gays and all non-cis (did I get that right? I hope not) have been discriminated against, beaten, murdered. I’ve personally never seen any bashing whatsoever. And I’ve had dear gay friends my entire life. That’s probably just me and where we’ve all worked.
The abuse is why the identity and therefore we have backlash, “pride” and rainbow flags (though rainbows mean something quite different to God).
You’re right, of course, identity in Christ is the only real deal. As a former misogynist and womanizer I am and will continue to be a child of God in Christ who loves women as sisters, with pure love and support. Only Jesus does that kind of transformation and he wants to do it in us all. That’s true identity, redeemed and free.
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that’s a really great point. Thanks so much for sharing your heart on this issue. Amen to that — true identity is redeemed and free in Christ. That’s what we need our actions to comminucate to everyone we meet. so glad you stopped by. big hugs xo
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Wow, so well said! And it’s said with love too. Thank you for this reminder to pray for those around me who are flagrantly celebrating this month– they are so desperately in need of a heart that KNOWS its maker.
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Thank you so much!! i’m so glad you thought so. Big prayers for sure. Because that’s what He longs for too. hugs xox
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Beautifully written! I can feel the love in every word. In a world filled with so much hate and people just looking to be offended, it’s hard to speak up about tough topics like these but I think you did an amazing job.
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Hi Rebecca!! thank you so much — I’m so glad — because it was truly writtten with a heart full of love. You’re so absolutely right about that. I really appreciate your encouragement and the kind reception of this emotionally charged topic. Big big hugs to you xox
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Your post was very well written and thought out. Difficult topic to write about to say the least. With love all things are possible. Jesus showed us that on the cross.
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Hi Russ thank you so much for your support. Yeah I was super nervous on publishing this. But it was out on my heart so I had to do it. Amen – He showed us that!! Hugs and love xox
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Very well written, and gave a good glimpse into feeling uncomfortable with it being recognised as someone’s identity but at the same time looking at it with love and recognising that we are all children of God and the underlying and often forgotten issue is trying to identify oneself outside of Christ.
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Thank you so much 🙂 Yeah I was really hoping it would read with the love I had in my heart, writing it. amen – Children of God! so glad you stopped by! big hugs xox
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To say it so bluntly, that we worship our sexual identity to the neglect of The Living God, says it all.
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there’s a lot of truth there! thanks so much David for stopping by and taking the time to read it. big hugs xo
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No problem. I have nothing so profound to say. Coming to terms with our sexuality has been the challenge to Western culture since the days of Freud, maybe earlier. Somehow rejecting Church teaching and embracing our own unique moralities doesn’t work all that well. The good news is that God forgives, if we seek it.
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Amen! Yes He does! Hugs and love xox
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Caralyn, you hit the nail on the head! Worshipping and making one’s sexuality an idol. Thank you for your courageously writing about this topic. XO
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thank you so much for your support! amen – We’ve got to keep God in that #1 spot!!! so glad you stopped by. big hugs xox
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You are welcome!
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Following Jesus
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And I know God loves me. Pride month can belong to God rather than to the sexual alphabet community; what are y’all proud of?
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I love that so much. Belong to God. Amen! Thanks Steve for sharing that. Hugs and love xox
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Heavy topic! Heavy topic! Did I say Heavy topic? I don’t believe that this is about worshiping sexuality, it’s merely people being more demonstrative of one’s sexual preferences. Back in the day, people weren’t as bold and transparent in making public declarations of their choices, but today there’s no holding back, and this IS NOT solely limited to same sex relationships, but for ALL sexual immorality. (including fornication, and the like)
OUR TRUE IDENTITY is found in Genesis!
Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over [g]all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” 27 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. 28 Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth…..Genesis 1:26-28
I UNDERSTAND that after this the fall occurred, sin entered into the hearts and minds of mankind, and we drifted and do drift away from His word and original intent, but Jesus came, lived, and died so that we wouldn’t have to remain in this fallen state….
“For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life…John 3:16
ALL WE HAVE TO DO is turn our hearts to the Lord and accept Him as Lord and Savior….
“But what does it say? “The word is near you, in your mouth and in your heart” (that is, the word of faith which we preach): 9 that if you confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus and believe in your heart that God has raised Him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart one believes unto righteousness, and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation…Romans 10:8-10
WHEN WE DO this, everything changes in our lives, including an identity realignment….
“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. 18 Now all things are of God, who has reconciled us to Himself through Jesus Christ, and has given us the ministry of reconciliation…2 Corinthians 5:17-18
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Our true identity is found in Genesis! Amen to that!! And you’re right about that – turning it all over to Him. We are all new creations – May we never forget that. Thanks so much for this powerful response. Hugs and love xox
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Lord, help us to fully surrender our lives to You and help us to embrace the truth of Your word. I pray that Your word truly delivers and sets us free! In Jesus name, Amen!!
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amen amen amen to that!!!
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Great post….I think you have hit the nail on the head!!
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thank you so much! I appreciate it 🙂 hugs xo
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Irony is dead
Bishop Thomas Tobin
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A reminder that Catholics should not support or attend LGBTQ “Pride Month” events held in June. They promote a culture and encourage activities that are contrary to Catholic faith and morals. They are especially harmful for childrepn.
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Yes, there has been horrible abuse that has occurred in the Catholic Church, but the gross actions of a few bad priests does not reflect on the entirety of the priesthood, or the Catholic Church as a whole.
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♡ PsychoSexuality is too Simple a Word for such Complexity EveryOne; some don’t have a CHOICE!!! some just KNOW!!!
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thanks for sharing that, Yernasia. hugs x
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♡ No problem SupaSoulSis BeautyBeyondBones; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that PsychoSexuality is Psychopathic or Psychologically Synchronous EveryOne, n’est ce pas tout le mond 🤔 ? The French ARE Famous (Notorious 🤔 ?) for Liberty from Sexual (and Religious) Oppression; who Determines Our Sexuality (Gay, Hetero, Asexual, Bi et al) if NOT!!! OurSelves 🤔 ?
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A great post. Although the media makes it as if they are a majority, they are not. There are many factors that do lead people to be this way. As more people devalue life, more will be becoming or supporting these lifestyles. years ago people saw it as no problem, but when you have transgender men demanding to play women’s sports, they now see the problem. Thank you BBB for being that shining light. May YOU continue to shining that light of truth.
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Thank you so much JB – I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on this emotional issue. hugs xo
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You are very welcome. Hugs to you.
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xooxoxo 🙂 xoxoxo
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xooxoxo 🙂 xoxoxoxooxoxo 🙂 xooxoxo 🙂 xoxoxo
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Thank you so much for sharing your heart! This is so encouraging to me in this month of June. Thank you for speaking the truth in love.
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Thank you so much for your support and kind reception. This was a tough post to publish. Big hugs to you xox
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Grayson Fritts pastor All Scripture Baptist Churc, Knoxville, Tenn.
“I’m sick of sodomy getting crammed down our throats,” Fritts said during his sermon.
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Thanks Steven for sharing that — isn’t that the truth.
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Well you do wade into deep waters don’t you? LOL. The bottom line is God is the judge and He’s a fair one at that. In paraphrase of a Bible thought “God takes into account where a person is born,” their shaping environment etc when coming to a conclusion on whether they are in or out of the kingdom. We are responsible for the light we have and choices we make within that light, and that’s a good reason to study how we will act if fortunate to make it into heaven. The Bible is a good text book on heaven etiquette and we need to study that as best we are able to understand. Let’s stay by our convictions and not let go and leave others to God to judge their lifestyle and motives.
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Haha – the deepest of waters. You’re so right – God is fair, and full of mercy. And it is His role to do the judging, not ours. Ours is to love. This is such a power response. Thank you for sharing your heart, Ian. Means a lot.
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Omgoodness! This is so powerful! Just beautifully composed, poignant, and razor sharp, cutting to the heart of the matter. I’m wowed!
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Hi Laura, oh gosh, thank you so much for your support and kind words. Seriously, it means so much. I was really nervous to post this, so thank you for the kind reception! have a beautiful weekend! hugs xo
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Nothing is really any different than it’s ever been. I don’t think anyone out there is worshipping their sexuality, but finally live in a time where they can have equality in the law and openly celebrate who they are without getting dragged behind a pickup truck or shamed for being diverse people. God (if you believe in such a thing) created them that way. The churches have finally lost control over fertility and sexuality, and that’s a good thing. I remember growing up and being shamed and suicidal over the churches policies while in their own lives the skeletons were buried deep behind smiles and pretending. Even you live your life in extremes. I’m am happy for the marches. They used to hide and fear their lives. Things are better than ever before!
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Hi Jim, thank you for sharing your thoughts on this emotional issue. I agree, I am grateful that there is no longer the dangerous repercussions for being who you are. I know there’s still a ways to go against hate crimes, but the progress is something to celebrate. hugs xo
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I love the LGBTQ community but I don’t understand all the other things that have been added. At the end of the day there’s only Male and Female. No matter what other labels you try to put on it. People make such a big deal out of pride month because of the discrimination that community gets on a daily basis. The hate crimes, murders, assaults, bullying, etc that happen to them. Organizations get behind them in support for unity so the things I just named can stop. They want there to be one love! People waving gay pride flags is no different than you sharing you’re a virgin and recovering from an eating disorder. You want to share your story and inspire people. With all the things that’s going on in this world people being proud to be gay is one of the good things.
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Thanks Lane for this thoughtful and heartfelt response. You make some really great points. I agree – the hate crimes and discrimination is something that needs to be rooted out at the core. and showing support is an act of love. 🙂 hugs xo
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I guess I am guilty of paying little attention to pride month. I am too busy. I am trying to celebrate the life God has given me and to be thankful for that. You’ve taken on a big topic here. I am wondering who will try to shout you down, if he or she sees your post at all. Cue the censors. I think you nailed it. I am paraphrasing here, but didn’t the Bible say, “Thou shalt take no other gods before Me”? I have looked at porn addition as just that, elevating porn to the level of a minor god who controls one’s life. Ditto for sexuality. Frankly, I am bored to death by constantly hearing about one’s sexuality, one’s identity. Haven’t people got work to do? Can’t people think about someone other than themselves? Our culture drips with narcissism. How about if everyone took a month and used it to spread God’s love and do his work? Great blog!
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Hi Sandman, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. Yes – we all should be too busy celebrating God’s gift of life to us all!! And you’re right – there’s a lot A LOT that we as a society have elevated to God status. Amen to that. hugs xo
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Thank you so much!
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Thank you for being willing to write about the hard stuff (I mean, I guess that’s what this blog is all about, lol). I really love reading your thoughts on these sorts of topics. There is a lot of encouragement in your words.
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Thank you so much Sami. I am so touched by your encouraging words. Haha – yeah, I guess I am drawn to the tough stuff! hah hugs xo
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Wow! I’m an openly gay man, and a Christian, but for the first time ever after reading your blog for two years, I find it offensive. As a friend said to me once, “After everything you’ve been through, it’s a miracle you’re still standing.” I know you’ve been through a lot, too, and I admire your great courage and knowledge, but until you have walked in our shoes …
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Hi friend, I would like to deeply apologize that my words offended you. You’re right, I have not walked in your shoes. This piece was written from a heart of love and compassion — never once did I — or do I — condemn or pass judgement. I am merely trying to start a dialogue of losing labels and — in all forms — remember who we are in Christ, first — with all other labels secondary. I love and support all people — no matter who they love. And I want to encourage us all to focus on the unifying factor of being brothers and sisters in Christ, as how we identify first. That was the intent of my piece. And again, my deepest apologies if my writing failed to communicate that to you. Thank you for speaking up and sharing your heart. Big hugs to you xox
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Thanks for the reminder of who we are. God is good, all the time.
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God is good ALL the time. Thank you Greg. Big hugs xo
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Great post Caralyn! I too, as a Catholic, am struggling with this month. People, including some of my best friends are quick to throw down the “You and your church are bigots!” card, but it’s really difficult for me to even acknowledge “pride” because that means I’d be condoning the action of “active” individuals. Don’t get me wrong, I love my friends who identify as LGBTQ-etc as much as my other friends, but I can’t condone mortal sin. So, it’s either find the strength to defend Christ or keep quiet and not attend any sporting events, or activities that are actively promoting it as a pride centered thing. The struggle is real. 😕
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Hi David, thank you for sharing your heart. Yeah, being Catholic this month is definitely a struggle in the court of public opinion. You have a beautiful heart for Christ – and this response really encouraged me. Thank you. hugs xo
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The human condition is an exercise in existence and all the complexities thereof. We are all our little Christs, as Neitszche would put it.
Where to really begin? You’re just posting your truth, of course. No one can gainsay your opinion, so perhaps I can offer comfort for Catholics who cannot reconcile their faith with the existence of their non-conforming friends.
Mortal sin does not exist for anyone but those who believe in it. That’s not a lie, it’s not a distortion, it is a bitter truth your religion must accept. The only people subject to the theology, the doctrine, and the judgement of your god, are you. I exist outside your concept of sin.
I am therefore not a sinner. There is no Glory of God for me to fall short of, because I do not recognize any such glory.
So, don’t let yourself be troubled by condoning mortal sin. It is not yours to condone or condemn. You can participate in Pride, cheer your friends on, be nice, pray for them if you want, proselytize to them if you want, and be the good people you want to be without thinking your friends are sinning.
Because, they’re not. For them sin doesn’t exist. The concept of sin is as alien to them as is the concept of homosexuality to you. Recognize this, and be at ease.
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Hi friend, thank you so much for your honest and heartfelt response. That is a really interesting perspective. And one that I will definitely be mulling over here today for sure. At the end of the day, all we can do is love and respect everyone in our path. And that is what I’m going to try to do to the best of my ability 🙂 big hugs xox
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Interesting, but you are either confused or don’t believe what you wrote. You begin by proclaiming that BBB is only posting ‘her truth,’ and then declare you know it is true that there is no mortal sin, and you are not a sinner etc. Don’t you mean that this is only ‘your truth’? When you make these statements, you are claiming that ‘your truth,’ is correct and saying what you call ‘her truth’, is incorrect and thus not true! My question to you then is ‘How do you know this?’ If it is just a subjective statement of opinion, it is only valid in your mind. If it is not subjective then the burden is upon you to show how so. Truth is not ‘mine’ or ‘yours’. Truth is not some commodity that can be adjusted for personal taste or feelings. If I think it is true that I can ‘leap tall buildings in a single bound,’ my claim to ‘my truth’ would end as soon as I took the ‘leap,’ and the truth of gravity would be validated when my body crashed to the ground.
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I know this because her god does not exist, and I know that because I can test her proposed god against the universe as we observe it, and I can do this without making the mistake of assuming no god exists at all.
There could be a god. Just not hers, not yours, not mine. It’s actually very simple, and since her god does not exist the doctrine upon which she has built her faith is no longer useful.
Her faith itself, however, belongs to her. She may believe in anything she wants, as may you.
That’s how I know.
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Recently I have been contemplating the area of this argument, you mention. I’m well aware ‘your response will be it is my opinion’ but I shall state it anway.
“I exist outside your concept of sin.” ~ is rubbish fool’s Gold. You, whatever, or whomever you are, did not enter this world in other way than we did. You were created.. You are not the CREATOR.
Or shall you argue that? Good luck. There is some truth to your argument, as before I even read your argument or opinion, I had already been led to this area or subject. God is the only thing that is good. Everything outside of that is not.
You know who else believes that Fool’s Gold necklace you wear? The enemies that believe they exist somewhere they don’t. On some plateau ,that the flood water does not reach, wrong.
All men have fallen short of the glory of God. You and I are not the exception. If you claim to be an angel, you too have fallen short. The only thing good in this World is ALMIGHTY GOD. He is the only pure H20, anything outside of that, outside of Him is murky water- that is contaminated with pollutants which make it murky,
Now, to speak on what you are speaking about, which is not mine, but shared with me, for i am not WISDOM, I am a messenger, a baby, with only fragments of TRUTH, before Adam and Eve sinned they did not know they were naked. They didnt’ know what is good or bad or sin. As a consequence of what transpired, now , we humans falsely believe we can point our fingers as ascribe things as ‘good’, ‘bad’, or ‘evil’, but its always murky, and only a fragment of truth.. what we see as evil, may be good… many times it is, because why? because all we can see are the actions involved between points A, us, and points B,C,D, we do NOT see, and do NOT have the capacity to see ALL the points on the other side, that belongs to ALMIGHTY GOD.
That is why we must depend on Him, and His Holy Spirit, to speak TRUTH, And WISDOM, to our spirits.
And as for your fools gold statement, we all have learning to do, its time you wake up and remove that gold plated necklace your wearing around your neck. ”
Every man has sinned, and those who say they have not are liars.” 1 john 1:18
Glory be to God, for putting all of us, in check, when it is needed.
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You flatter yourself greatly.
No, I’m not the “creator,” because there is no such thing as the creator you believe in. It simply does not exist and does not stand up to any scrutiny. To disprove the existence of your creator all I need to do is assume there is such a creator and test its identity.
Your god fails this test. There could be a creator out there, but it isn’t yours, and since it isn’t yours the entire scriptural doctrine you’ve built you argument upon falters.
There is no such thing as sin, no such thing as salvation. I mentioned you flatter yourself, and your self-flattery is this:
You think yourself the focus of an almighty being that created an entire universe. If any thing is arrogant, if anything is “rubbish” it is that thought. An entire universe with you at the center?
No.
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I made a promise to The Creator, to tell others , that which i wrote to you, is not mine, some of it is, again, its only a fragment. That you and I will one day realize, regardless of all our words put together, as we stand before The WORD of Truth.
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The only thing failed here is the limit of your intelligence, and the logic you use to support it. The center is not I nor you, nor anyone else. Wisdom is born, where the intelligence of man and all else in existence ends. Good day Sir/Mam.
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“The center is not I nor you, nor anyone else.”
Not according to your scripture. According to your scripture God created the heavens and the Earth especially for our species, and among our species chose one tiny group to talk to.
Don’t you see how absurd that is? Do you actually try to reconcile your faith with the universe as you observe it? Or do you write everything you observe off as some grand deception?
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There is nothing new about your old. Your mind seeks not truth. It seeks to be heard.
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Oh, I seek the truth. Let me show you how I seek the truth.
Step 1: There’s a god out there, somewhere. I have no idea who or what it is, but let’s begin there with that statement. God exists.
Step 2: This god created the universe and everything in it. We know based on our observations that this god spent 13.7 billion years to create the universe as we observe it today. We know this because this same god established something we understand as the relativity constant: c, the speed of light, which gives us a rate of expansion which we may plug into observed stellar phenomenon of the cosmic microwave background and the uniform red shift of light from very distant galaxies.
3: This god spent the last 4.5 billion of those years creating the planet we live on today. We know this because we can calculate the age of the sun based on its mass and luminosity which gives us a precise moment in time when fusion began, and the rate at which fusion converts the sun’s hydrogen fuel into helium. For the sake of simplicity we begin the Earth Creation Clock at that moment, even though we know it began before that.
Step 4: For the 4.5 billion years the Earth has been around in one state or another, life as we know it began as simple single celled organisms replicating the same chains of DNA over and over and over. Eventually life figured out to exchange DNA between one organism and another in order to fix the naturally occurring errors in the process. This is called sex, and when that happened life exploded. Humans–modern humans–wouldn’t walk the Earth for another 514 million years. We know this from the fossil record.
Step 5: Now that we have established these observable facts (not myths) of our planet and the universe, let’s compare what we know the real god did that we assume to exist, versus what your religion claims your God did.
The Earth wasn’t created in 6 days. Strike one. That’s actually a major strike, because this figure is off by many, many orders of magnitude. I’ve heard numerous explanations for why this is the case and all of them amount to excuse making. The bottom line is that the people who invented this scripture wanted an auspicious number. Six was great, seven was even better, so they took both. The Earth was created in six days and God rested on the seventh. They were very creative indeed.
But let’s not stop there! There’s the speed of light that’s never ever mentioned in the Bible, which is probably why they screwed up the creation timeline. Strike two.
Your religion claims its God created all life at the same time. Well, we know that’s not true because the real god didn’t do that. The real god spent a good long time creating life through evolution. That’s strike three.
And that’s how test your God. We compare your religion’s creation story as written without exceptions to what we have observed, and we come up with drastic differences.
Now, you can writhe, and wriggle, and spit your insults, and insist I’m not a very smart man, but at least I’m smart enough to recognize fiction when I see it.
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Sir, Religion is Dead. I am not religious. I am spiritual. You continue using phrases such as ‘your religion’ Almighty God is not found in religion. He is found within each of us.
You say your God, as if you have a different One.
You are smart, and intelligent, we can all see that from your writing. But again, were your intelligence ends, Wisdom begins. Wisdom is SIMPLE. All that stuff you wrote belongs to man and their intelligence, not to Almighty God. Once He impressed on me the following when I said ‘i know’ … ” what do you know? Everything you know, you had to learn it… I ALONE am WISDOM. “
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One more thing, such simplicity found in Wisdom, is not found nor understood by intelligent men. For they do not trust the CREATOR. They rather trust themselves and their remarkable capacity to think, to design, to formulate, to hypothesize, … forgetting all the while, where they gain their capacity to begin with. AMEN!! GLORRRYYYY be to THE CREATOR.
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“You say your God, as if you have a different One.”
Yes. There is no such thing as one god as worshipped by our species. As I’ve said before there could be a god or gods out there in the universe, but our species worships more than one. We worship many. My concession about the possibility of a god existing is just that: a concession and admission of my ignorance and lack of evidence despite my incapacity to believe in the supernatural.
You are correct in saying that wisdom is simple, and so here is the simplest piece of wisdom I can offer:
Our gods aren’t real.
What could possibly be simpler than that?
And please do not try to portray yourself as “spiritual” when making such obvious Christian overtures with phrases like “Almighty God.”
And then there is this statement:
“One more thing, such simplicity found in Wisdom, is not found nor understood by intelligent men.”
This is why your religion/faith/spirituality (pick your noun) must be resisted, confronted, and challenged openly at every turn. That kind of Orwellian double think is utterly toxic, to say that intelligence and wisdom are two different things and that intelligent people can’t be wise.
Wisdom is merely intelligence coupled with experience. It only seems simple because when we are confronted with wisdom we have absolutely no idea—yet—of all the complex thought and critical thinking that went into it, or how many times that wise person has failed. It’s like drinking great vodka and having no idea how much energy it takes to distill that alcohol from all the waste.
And the rest of what you posted is nothing more than virtue posturing. Don’t worry, everyone reading this knows you’re not an atheist like me.
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Please check out ‘Learning To Trust God’… Its like five posts down. The shift from Atheist has already begun within you, not based on my Word.
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I don’t believe in the supernatural. Sorry. It’s really nothing personal.
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Very nicely put. Honestly, I do not understand the comments criticizing you here or your point of view. Civility is critical to any conversation, and you certainly showed that, as well as respect.
I had a brother who was gay and died of AIDS in 1994.
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Hi Kirk, gosh, I am so sorry for your loss. I know it was time ago, but those wounds are real, and I just want to hug you and offer my condolences. I appreciate you sharing that. And thank you so much for your support. Yeah – I definitely wrote this from a heart of love and compassion and respect. And i really hope that came across. I think this is just such a hotly emotional issue, that touches off a lot of knee-jerk responses from some. Thank you again for sharing your heart. I agree – honest, open and respectful conversation is important, especially with these difficult issues. Big hugs to you xox
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Once again, BEAUTIFUL, Caralyn. ♥️
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Thank you Terese, I appreciate your support. This was a scary post to push publish on. So I am grateful for the kind reception. hugs xo
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My dear friend
We have identified ourselves with our body so much that we have forgotten that we are not the body – we are spirit, we are soul that is living in this body – indeed, love may start in the body, but it does not end there – if it ends there then it is just lust, identification of the ego…that invents more and more to get satisfied, an emblem that is kept high in our society, but really misunderstood when it comes to the differentiation of love and sex. In trying to find ourselves we develop bad habits and think that they belong to us, habits that attach us more and more in the swamp of our mind – we can only find ourselves when we understand that we are not the body… We are in this world, but not from this world…
Thanks for sharing, my dear friend.
Hugs and love
Didi
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so in other words this problem actually goes deeper than Christianity, every human being has ‘concepts’ in their mind, and people should stop simply considering Christianity as someone else’s religion same for any system created by our wise ancestors from Islam to Hinduism etc, we are all one people and beyond these religious systems is the truth of the universal law of love, these religious systems are created so that the human being can maintain a clear/ pure level of mind and intellect that isn’t distorted by delusion by creating right concepts becuz many simply aren’t/weren’t capable of it by themselves. So everyone universally has a habit of gathering concepts in their mind that now your mind is locked into a certain way of thinking by their concepts, and or beliefs. So we should not be having party’s to celebrate labels or idolize concepts that lead to identification and separation based on sexuality, sexuality is constantly in delusion that is the nature of sexuality, the mind creates whatever fantasy it can to slip you into the delusion, so actually now people are idolizing their fantasy, this is the cold hard truth, we are not these things its just the mind has become conditioned to believe it, becuz maby in 5-10 years they will have some new idea of how they identify with sex in their mind or maby next week. The problem is impermanence, all ancient wise religious systems direct us to worshiping the ‘absolute’ or connecting with that diviner power at a deeper level. Now… we are celebrating surface level conditioning that it is being embedded(as identification) and celebrated? Is this good? Mby some won’t like this but what we want is a pure mind so that we can create pure things in a harmonious world, where people aren’t in opposition but co-creating this. Now forget sex, because the problem is delusion without clarity we cannot all come to the realization we need to stop worshiping at the altar of consumption food/sex/(gaming) anyway lets just say hedonism, becuz if everyone just keeps consuming this planet will not support us in 100 years. the only reason our resources are being wasted on feeding this consumerist attitude is because peoples minds are being fulled with wrong concepts that lead to hedonism
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Dear Samnessofself,
Thank you very much for joining this subject with your detailed expressions 🙂 As long as we do not have a pure mind, a mind that is no longer controlling us (our soul), we will indeed develop different concepts and wishes according to our life and background. Sant Kirpal Singh said: “No need to dig new wells (religions), people can stay in their surrounded religion (where we are born), but important is that a Christian becomes a really good person, a human person, a Muslim a good person, a Hindu, a Sikh and so on – a good person and that means that we have to start to control our mind. As everything has a reaction within the Law of Cause and Effect, even our thoughts belong to it, besides words and deeds – our mind often handles it without thinking, without being conscious of what we think, speak and do – we just do it, often as a reaction of being angry, of being happy, of being dependent of the whole spectrum of our feelings and emotions. If we want to become pure in our mind we first have to start with our thoughts: are they of good nature, are they in harmony with myself and others, with God in me? Or are they hurting, are they violent, are they selfish, egoistic, do they have motives behind to appear good, do they want to make a show? – Only with consequent honesty towards ourselves and others, we can bring this change in us. Competent Masters said (not so-called false prophets): “Mind is a bad master, but a good servant…” – and as Gandhi has put it: “If you want to see the change in the world, be the change…” Means, each of us human beings has to put his/her own house in order. When we really want to help others then we have to extinguish the fire of our own house first – we have to live a life in fact as all holy messengers God has sent in different religions, places, and times. We humans usually try to see and find mistakes in others, but when we start to clean up our own house, then we have no time anymore to see the mistakes of others. What did Christ say, when there was the woman caught in the very act of adultery when people wanted to stone her: “Who is without sin throw the stone first…” When we understand this up to the depth of our being then we will learn from it and will no longer blame others, but we will be endeavoured to weed out our own shortcomings and live in harmony with others, share and help as well. So the change has to come from within, to develop us in the right way. This is indeed a practical way, not just theory. It is the polishing of our mind but requires discipline, strict honesty, and the goodwill to become a real human being.
Thank you very much, my friend.
All the best to you
Didi
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Amen – we are Souls! I love that so much. Thank you so much for sharing your heart on this, Didi. And so true – we are to be in the world, but not of the world. We were made for Heaven. I appreciate you stopping by. big hugs xox
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Welcome, dear friend 🙂
From heart to heart
Didi
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xoxo 🙂 xoxoox
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Yes! So proud of you. As always, I love you. Hugs! XO 😄 ❤
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Thank you so much Tonya, you are just so kind. Thank you for your support. Love you dear friend!!! xoxo
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xooxx 🙂 xoxox
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and thank you for the link up!! xox
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Wow, love this post. Conservative thought in NYC is rare, keep it up! LBGTQ groups want people to identify with their sexuality and split people into us vs them, when really we are just children of God. Let’s never forget who we really are 🙂
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Hi friend! Thank you so much – hahah yes, a conservative NYer is definitely a unicorn around here! haha Amen!! we are all children of God — a WE!! 🙂 love that so much. big hugs xox
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