Faith in the Fast Lane

I think sometimes the truth is the hardest thing to hear — especially, when it comes out of left field.

I was out with someone recently, and we were chatting and somehow, the conversation all of a sudden got deep. And in so many words, he told me that he had a bunch of friends he’d love to set me up with, but couldn’t because of my “lifestyle choices.

Now, typically, when someone hears “lifestyle choices,” a slew of destructive habits come to mind: smoking, drugs, reckless behavior that puts a person’s body at risk…

Well, my “lifestyle choice” he was referring to, was my Christianity.

Now look, before I get too ahead of myself here, this is a great guy. His comment was coming from his heart, with the best of intentions, albeit said clunkily. But, great guy. No hard feelings whatsoever.

But this comment…it sucked to hear. And it punched the wind right out of me.

And in the moment, I just kinda laughed it off, whatever. But I’m going to be honest — that sinking feeling stayed with me. Was I really so undesirable because of my faith? Is my faith considered “baggage?” And I woke up the next morning, still feeling pretty crappy.

I shook it off, and went about my day, and being Sunday, that meant going to Mass.

Well, wouldn’t you know — that God had just what I needed to hear all queued up for me in the readings.

MT 5:11-12 “Blessed are you when they insult you…because of me. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward will be great in heaven.

Yup. The freakin’ beatitudes. As though God knew that little ol’ me would need a serious pick-me-up after the gut punch the night before.

I’m going to be honest. Typically, when the beatitudes are read, I hate to admit it — but I tend to tune out a bit. I mean, I’ve heard them over and over since I was a kid.

And not to mention, I typically don’t really internalize them all that much. I mean, let’s face it: in 2019, as a young millennial New Yorker…meek is not really a virtue I possess.

But that morning, the beatitudes hit me in a different way. A personal way. Because for the first time, they applied to me: I had been criticized for my faith.

The climate today among young people is incredibly tough to navigate. At least in New York City, following Jesus is seen as a bit of an “alternative lifestyle choice.” One that is seen as inconvenient. Antiquated. And, in its worst judgement: narrow-minded.

Blessed are you when they insult you…because of me. Rejoice and be glad, for your reward will be great in heaven.

One of the things I’m particularly guilty of is getting too caught up in the here and now. I mean, I’m incredibly guilty of that. I care too much about fashion. About being out and about. About the latest hotspot, going here, trying this. I love the fast life that is right here, right now – Don’t blink or you’ll miss it.

But the fact of the matter is that, our purpose is not here and now, but there…Heaven.

We were created for Heaven, and this earth is just a temporary home. We’re merely passing through.

Christianity is not a wide, beautifully paved road. No, it is the narrow, difficult path, that’s full of treacherous terrain.

And as a result, many people won’t understand why a person would make that “lifestyle choice.”

But I want to just encourage you, because God reminded me that morning in Church…Yeah, I may face some light insults. But it is nothing that Christ hasn’t already endured. And why did He endure such insults? For me. Because He loves me that much.

I choose to love God because He loved me enough to shed His blood for.

I cannot deny that. I cannot turn away from that beautiful act of incredibly selfless love. The love that rescued me, and is truly, the reason I’m here today.

So I guess, bring on the judgement. Does it sting? Yeah. But grand scheme, Caralyn. Grand scheme.

“This is what the Lord says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life.” Ez 37:5

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265 thoughts on “Faith in the Fast Lane

    1. Oh my gosh Melissa you’re so kind to say that! Thank you so much 🥰 Hugs and love xox

    2. Hi kiddo. One of the reasons I read you is because of your stand for faith in our Jesus. As an old guy, who has seen it all, I can tell you it doesn’t matter where you live, work, or play. If you’re known to stand in your faith you will be a target. He told us this is to be expected. What your friend was saying is, he can hook you up with others who lack faith-built standards which the Lord requires of us who call Him “Lord”. That is a privilege, a blessing, an everlasting insignia on the forehead of your very soul. It is the fashion worn long after you are out of this body, this rat-race of life, this culture’s trinkets set-up for you. Proud of your stand. Love to you from Dallas. -Alan

      1. thank you so much for this awesome encouragemnt, Alan. you’re so right – it’s a “label” i am honored to posses. Because at the end of the day, Jesus is the most important thing! hgus xo

  1. It’s harder and harder to become a Christian these days but God blesses those who stick with him to the end. It sucks to be rejected and I’m sorry that happened to you. 🙁

    From what you’re posting, you’re a great gal (to speak 1940s) and keep living out the Gospel! Sending you a virtual (and chaste) hug. 😀

    1. I think you’re right about that. Thanks so much friend 🙂 I’ll take the hug anytime! Haha Hugs and love xox

  2. There is a lot of wow going on in this here but If you don’t mind an impartial older view, I would tell you of my experience here. I know some men may well be turned off by faith, but in my experience, it is because they have yet to embrace that there are things in life bigger than themselves, myself included. For them to completely shut out the opportunity to get to know someone, to me that is a shame. Some people do need that interaction even if by chance to realize this. I for one, realize I know very little, but I do believe and always enjoy learning and feeling more. Will I ever carry the same conviction, I do not know. But, I have hope in my heart that I can. Someday’s it gets closer, and some I admit I feel so much farther away.

    You, just need to keep being you, and one day things will happen. It always seems to when I least expect them to anyways.

    Stay shiny!

    1. Thanks friend – I appreciate your advice on this. Yes – gotta keep on keeping on. Thanks. Hugs and love xox

  3. Hey Carolyn, I’m sorry you had that sucky moment with a friend. Coming from someone who’s relatively agnostic but kinda has faith (I’m still figuring it out! 😂) I have experienced this but from the angle of not having casual sex (I’ve nothing against it, it just isn’t for me) or even from religious folk fervently getting up in one’s face that I have to accept the gift of Christ or I’ll go to Hell. That may be what they believe, no judgement here, but it wasn’t the best approach! 😂 With me personally, I see people of faith referring to people such as myself (a bisexual woman) that that, who I am, just as who you are, as a ‘lifestyle choice’ when you don’t choose it nor is it a lifestyle. Slightly different concept but same analogy if I’m making any sense at all! 😂 Basically I’m trying to say for what it’s worth from someone still figuring out their faith, following Jesus’ example of ‘love thy neighbour’ and love one another as I have loved you etc. Aside from it being a fantastic teaching (let’s face it, Jesus is pretty awesome) it certainly saves on a lot of conflict. God bless xxx

    1. Thanks so much friend 💛 you’re right – loving one another is certainly a good practice all the way around! I appreciate your encouragement 🙂 Hugs and love xox

      1. Certainly! 🙂 Anytime, it’s always interesting to read your insights, and I admire how passionate you are about your faith. Regardless if it’s my thing or not, it’s good to learn more from people who follow it. Hugs and love to you too! 🙂 xoxo

  4. Your faith may be a liability — but only to the people who’d ultimately fail to meet all your criteria in a partner anyway. You’re awesome and you’re unique; and your man is out there, possibly even having a similar conversation with one of his friends.

  5. I converted to Catholicism in 2018. My family responded with indifference at first, but recently the attacks have been increasing in intensity. I love my family. I hate when they refuse to be open to discussion. Everything becomes an argument.

    Its never easy. Shoot even just being a cradle catholic going about your daily life is hard. People *dont like Catholics*.

    But if we wanted short term profit and popularity and wealth and fame–vanity of vanity, all is vanity. There is no profit under the sun. Only in the next life, is there anything worth while, and He will make all the suffering here worth it.

    AMDG
    -Scoot

    1. Agnostic here, just to let you know, for what it’s worth, I’ve nothing against Catholics 😊 Hope you and your family find peace amongst any disagreement. Peace xx

      1. Thank you 🙂 I’ve nothing against agnostics, atheists, buddhists, hindus, jews, muslims, rastafarians, pastafarians, taoists or anyone. I only ask that, if theres going to be a discussion, lets be willing to discuss! Its ok to disagree, as long as everyones listening. Hard to keep an open mind with closed ears and vice versa. All the best to you!

      2. Absolutely! Unfortunately there is so much polarisation going on with everything right now, that a normal conversation with differing parties to one’s religion, social/political stance, is so refreshing! 😊 Thank you and same to you! 😀 xx

    2. Hey Scoot! Oh gosh I’m sorry you’re facing that with your family. Sadly you’re right about that. Hang in there my friend. Yes He will!! Hugs and love xox

  6. Interesting comment your friend made. I can’t speak to what he meant but as an atheist (not a “new atheist” who seem to be filled with hate), I would have some trepidation dating someone who was as devout as you. This is just my own… thoughts… which may be based on my own issues, so don’t take it personally. The first part might simply be, “is this girl ever going to be into me if I’m never going to believe as she does.” I mean do you WANT to be with someone isn’t a believer? I have trouble understanding that. A personal perspective is, “do I trust her?” I come from an immigrant community and have long avoided the “nice girl” because I always felt she was inauthentic and was just making her parents happy. I know that is harsh and an oversimplification, but I want to be loved authentically and that’s hard to have FAITH in when the girl is playing by a whole other set of rules (regarding sex and divorce, for example). Does she want to marry me because its the only way she can leave her home with her parents blessing or does she truly love me and want to spend the rest of her life with me?
    I once did date a very conservative Christian woman when I was young (she was older than me) and she was image obsessed. The arguments were AWESOME (and so was the sex) but always had doubts about what she REALLY felt for me.
    Anyway, good read. Whoever you are, be your authentic self and don’t change for anyone. Nothing wrong with having faith at all.

    1. Thanks so much for your insight on this. Lots of food for thought here. Love that – being our authentic selves is definitely important!! Hugs and love xox

  7. I needed to hear this, Caralyn! I need to look at the grand scheme of things and really follow Jesus in what He is leading me to do. Sometimes they’re “small” things, like asking someone how I can pray for them, but I have too gotten scared and complacent to do what the Holy Spirit leads me to on many occasions 😥. This has reminded me of the importance of what Jesus is calling all of us to do, and being obedient with it. So thank you girl!

    1. Thanks so much friend! So glad this resonated with you. Amen – He is calling us to follow Him!! Hugs and love xox

  8. On the complete flip side, that comment said even more about those young men than it said about you. It means that for one reason or another or maybe several reasons, those young men can’t, don’t, or won’t live up to your Christian beliefs and it would be an absolute mismatch.

  9. Don’t forget about it, rejoice in it. You live by your faith and you don’t hide it. When the Apostles suffered at the hands of the Sanhedrin, they left “rejoicing because they had been counted worthy of suffering disgrace for the Name of Jesus.”
    Amen Caralyn. Amen.

    1. Thanks so much Tim, I appreciate your kind words. You’re right about that. Rejoice in it. Hugs and love xox

  10. Someone once told me that if I didn’t stop holding to a truth in a meeting, he’d stop liking me. We’d known each other less than an hour. My response? “It’s cute that you think I care…” Yeah, he wasn’t impressing me either.

    You don’t know any of those people who might not like you for your faith. Why would you let their opinion – relayed second-hand – ruin one second of your life? Why would you care what they think?

    You know what I think of you, but I’ll spell it out anyway. You’re a beautiful young lady who is great company! Your faith and your tenacity are refreshing. There.

    There are too many people who love you. Why worry about the ones who don’t? I wrote an article long ago about how Everybody is Somebody’s Jerk. Including you and me. Point is, none of us bat 1.000. Some will like us, but I think more won’t. That’s the way it goes. Sometimes it’s good to care. Sometimes it’s good not to. Saturday was one of the latter. Chances are none of those unchristian guys would do it for you anyway, which brings us back to…why care?

    Your take that a Christian’s life is not going to be a smooth one is spot on. It’s just that faith is good, but so is perspective. Even Jesus told His disciples not to cast pearls before swine…don’t waste time and the Gospel on those who will degrade or dismiss it. He turned His back on the Pharisees, remember.

    You’re good people. Caring was just highly over-rated this time! Delivered fondly…because I care.

    1. Thanks Jeff for this encouraging response. You’re right – why should I care what they thing. And gosh – I am humbled by your generous words. Thank you Jeff. Truly. That means the world. And you’re right – sometimes it’s good not to care. Gotta just keep on keepin on. I appreciate you, Jeff. Hope your week is off to a great start. Hugs to you and your ladies xox

  11. Jesus never asks us to bear a burden He has not, himself, encountered. And He has never not been a help within trials. It’s a Jesus thing.

    Oh, I guess we are all hypocrites in some way. . . -Jeff

    1. You’re right about that. And such great advice. Stick to my values. Amen. Thanks for that 🙂 Hugs and love xox

  12. When you find the right ONE, he will love you because of your faith not despite it. My oldest daughter is getting married next fall to a young man who broke up with her after a year+ of dating because she was “too Catholic” and he was raised by parents who are former Catholics and didn’t want to date someone so into her faith. The breakup lasted about 3 weeks. Fast forward 5 years, and he is now a devout, practicing Catholic who keeps her on her toes! It will happen. Just keep praying.

    1. You’re so right about that Amy. This is such wonderful encouragement, thank you. And wow what a beautiful love story! Thank you for sharing that. Congrats to your daughter! That’s so exciting. Next fall will be here before we know it! Hugs and love xox

  13. Walking the narrow road of faith is not always easy but let me share something that I felt as I read it.
    I see a girl whose faith is not only in words but also in how she lives.
    Her faith / light is not hidden under a bowl or under the bed but for the world to see. Even though they do not understand it, it is obvious to them that it is very much who you are.
    How she lives is not influenced by the world by what Jesus did on the cross for her.

    You are walking boldly in the uncool lane because being identified as a Christian is more important to you that fitting into the norms of the world.
    Stand out for Jesus girl, HE sees it and is pleased in His daughter.

    1. Thanks so much for this encouragement. Oh my gosh, I am truly so touched and humbled. Thank you. Wow – I am honestly without words because of your kindness. All i can say is thank you. Hugs and love xox

      1. You are such an inspiration and encouragement to many. I am happy to be a bit of an encouragement to you today. Hugs and love back to you dear friend 💙.

  14. I love your phrase referring to some who feel that their faith is ‘baggage.’ But O how disappointing when we know that God has given His very best for us, and there is no rival offered in this world! Yes, sometimes the narrow road is challenging, but it is the only way that satisfied, the only road that makes sense! Thanks for sharing.

  15. I loved this post so much!! Congratulations on being criticized for your faith- that means you are a wonderful role model and are living the Christian life well!!!!

    1. Hi Catherine! Thank you so much for your encouraging words!! What a kind thing to say!! Hugs and love xox

  16. That’s sad, but at least received affirmation. You know deep in your heart you are making healthy choices of all kinds, even if you sometimes enjoy superficial things like fashion. 💖💖💖

  17. I’m gonna be really bold here Caralyn, but just take those comments and say ” get behind me, Satan!” He wants you to think you’re not good enough, when that is the farthest thing from the truth. I know you know that 🙂

    1. Yes!! Oh my gosh that’s so true. Thanks Hannah, i appreciate your encouragement so much. Thanks for this powerful perspective. Hugs and love xox

  18. It’s unfortunately neither the faith or the Religion. It’s the “V” thing :-). People, understandably if not unfortunately, can not see setting their friends up with someone who won’t, forgive the expression, “put out”.

    You have a great gift that you share with many on this blog, and a greater gift that only one will be able to experience.

    And thats something most of the world will never understand. 🙂

    1. You’re definitely not wrong, Marc. Thank you for this encouragement. Means the world. Hugs and love xox

    1. Thank you so much Meghan, that seriously means so much:) grateful for you!!! Hugs and love xox

  19. There is an old norse saying “A miserable man,and ill-conditioned,sneers at every thing;
    one thing he knows not,which he ought to know,that he is not free from faults.” You will find in life people will look at your strengths (for you that happens to be your faith) and look to articulate it in a way that seems like its a burden. In reality they are the ones who are burdened by lacking the depth of faith you attained.

    1. Oh wow what a saying. Thank you for sharing that. I appreciate your encouraging words. Hugs and love xox

    1. Thanks Celeta. Yes!! He always finds a way to give His children the comfort they need! Hugs and love xox

  20. I will tell you the same thing I’ve told my daughter (you two are of similar age) and son-in-law: If you just concentrate on making good decisions, doing what you know is right, in the end you will be fine. But it is hard sometimes to accept that “thy will be done” means we follow God’s timing, and not our own.
    Persevere, my dear, and all will be well. Hugs and love– Mike

    1. That’s really such great advice. Thank you Mike. And amen – His timing – not ours! Hugs and love xox

  21. Thanks for reminding me that having one’s available dating pool reduced by 90% is a sign of God’s favor, not his condemnation. 🙂

    (And for what it’s worth, I just can’t imagine marrying someone who doesn’t share my depth of faith. Would either of us be happy with all the constant tension and disagreements on how to live life and raise the kids? Not something I relish.)

    1. Thanks so much Brandon for the encouragement. And that’s powerful insight – i appreciate you sharing that! Hugs and love xox

  22. “You are not your gender, your nationality, your ethnicity, your skin color, or your social class. These are not the qualities of your True Self in God! Why, oh why, do Christians allow temporary costumes, or what Thomas Merton called the “false self,” to pass for the substantial self, which is always “hidden with Christ in God” (Colossians 3:3)? It seems that we really do not know our own Gospel. You are a child of God, and always will be, even when you don’t believe it. And so is everyone else! God created us all. We are all God’s children.”
    from Richard Rohr’s Daily Meditation Thu Oct 24, 2019

    1. Thanks friend, for Sharing this powerful quote! Love it!!!!!! All ahis children indeed! Hugs and love xox

  23. Hi. I know how you feel. I have lost friends because of Jesus. I lost one friend because when he found out I was a Christian, he turned on the hate like I have never seen before. Another friend claimed he was a Christian. But then he started telling my wife and I about stuff in the Bible as well as stuff about Jesus that simply were not true. (Like Buddha and Jesus would the same. And claimed the Bible said so.) When I showed him what the Bible really said, he decided not to be friends with us.

    Hang in there because as you can see, you have a lot people supporting you.

    1. Thank you for sharing your heart and your journey story. I’m sorry you can so personally relate. I truly appreciate your support and kindness. Hugs and love xox

  24. Caralyn, you are in the process of finding what is most valuable in your life. Many wonderful people turn away from Christ because of the cost and misconceptions. You are the pearl of great price and Jesus bought you with his life. Psalm 37:4 says, “Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.”

    You are on the right path and the husband for whom you are waiting, will appear in God’s timing. You are precious and putting your trust in God and not man. Love and hugs, XOXO

    1. Thank you for this beautiful encouragement. Gosh, I am truly so touched. Gods timing. Amen. Hugs and love xox

  25. Beautiful friend, here I am to remind you that God is enough and in His time He will send you who you need when you need it and the time is right. Maybe He is not ready for so strong and powerful a woman of God you are. Be patient. Someone who won’t date you because you live Jesus and won’t be an easy lay needs to run fast into a brick wall to come to his senses – you loose nothing without such a person. Maybe you need to go back home (midwest) to find a real man… NY doesn’t promote loving committed Christian relationships. Yes, that was my highly biased opinion and yes there are always exceptions. Just talking here, just a light hearted thought. Lol As always, love you! Talk to Jesus. Hugs! XO😄❤

    1. Hi Tonya! Oh gosh thank you for such kind words. You’re so right – be patient. That is terrific advice. And you know what – that is definitely something to think and pray about!!! Love you friend!! Coxoxox

      1. God loves you as you are always. And any man worthy of you, God’s precious daughter, will do the same and will respect God enough to demand that of himself. Worth waiting for.❤

  26. Hang in there, you beautiful person!! Inside and out you are beautiful. You live your faith. You are an example to those who walk the tightrope of life between this secular world and life as a Child of God, living His principles. It’s not easy. But, as you know, the rewards are immeasurable – and God has you covered. Your faith will win out. The right life’s partner is out there for you. In His perfect timing, you will meet him. <3 God bless you, Caralyn. <3

    1. Oh wow, thank you so much Jan! What a kind note of encouragement – I am truly so touched! i do beilieve that — I just need the patience! haha hugs to you xo

  27. The wisdom and love we take back home with us young lady is the entire purpose of our journey. The Man made a path to find that, and which we all will eventually do. Those guys still have to do the trip, stumble thing. You my friend have had a blessing to dive in head first (like the video), and be able to find it much sooner than most. Wait and you will attract from where you are at. This time was just a trial run so that you could see where your heart was at, and go beyond it.
    Your knight in shining armor is just holding on too until he can see his queen, the one that is standing in her truth ❤️

    1. Oh thank you so much Mark for this encouragement. You’re so right – i just need to be patient and trust 🙂 Hugs and love xox

  28. I suppose much of todays world says the same thing right to the face of Jesus. “You’re too inconvenient and uncool to hang out with.” I guess my actions in teen and early adult life did that too. But thinking it through its about eternal choices. God is fair. He’s given us a choice. Be selfish and make “I” the centre of our limited earthly lives and fingers up to eternity with the natural consequences this will bring, or hang with Him in spite of the rejection it will bring in our earthly life and have an eternity doing useful things in his universal home. I think the latter is the better deal and hope this recent disappointment doesn’t deter you from the better path you’ve chosen. New York would be a hard place to keep that focus.

    1. Thanks Ian for this encouragement. You’re so right- he has given us a choice!!! Hugs and love xox

  29. Its the fact that we have to deal with Caralyn. The world cannot accept us for who we are. Your friend is right. Sometimes our faith is a put off for others. Sometimes they wrongly think that we believe we are too good to associate with them or hang out with them. Close friends know us better. But those who don’t, see us as Holy Snobs.

    The reason for this is basically the church itself. We have forgotten how to be approachable. Christ himself routinely associated himself with the “sinners” and walked out of the norm. This got the glares and the criticisms from the ruling religious leaders at the time.
    But yet his character was without reproach. Christ walked in favor with both God and Man. That was his testimony. Being able to be around sin and sinners, yet not entirely affected by it.

    Some Christians would look at it as completely wrong to go to a club or have a drink at at bar with friends, associate with people whom you know are “gay”, etc.
    But it is like Christ himself said, “It isn’t the healthy that need a doctor.”
    Christ’s mission was to show us how to live.. In Love, compassion, with power.. miracles, healings, convictions, all followed him. He went to the people like a doctor going to where the sick are. Instead of waiting at the hospital for the sick to come to him.

    But we have to admit.. We are not going to be welcomed by the world sometimes. They will ridicule us and sometimes even hate us. But we are really not part of the world.. And so we should rejoice, because it confirms we are truly part of the kingdom of heaven.

    1. This is so true. Thank you for the encouragement, friend. You’re right – a reason to rejoice. Hugs and love xox

  30. Stay true to God, Caralyn, in spite of those who may reject you for it. In our society, it is much easier to compromise and to take the broad road (which leads to destruction, by the way) than it is to follow Jesus by staying on the straight and narrow. I can testify that there are godly young men out there as I’m the mom of a Christian young adult son who lives by the standards of God’s word. Much like you, he has a lot going for him (he’s a medical doctor, musician, etc). If the right young lady comes along, that would be wonderful, but in the meanwhile, he is content in being single and staying true to his convictions. I encourage you to keep your eyes on Jesus. 💞

    1. Thanks for this encouragement!! Means the world, Diane. Yes! Keep my eyes on Him! Hugs and love xox

  31. Well if your “lifestyle choices” would mean someone would not be interested in you because you live for Jesus, then that is someone you don’t want to date.

    1. Oh my gosh thank you so much Sheryl, what a kind thing to say! So glad this hit home with you! Hugs and love xox

  32. My dear friend Caralyn,

    God and Christianity belongs to you, it is part of your being and has taken place in your character and mind as well – no-one, even not a so-called good friend or guy, should try to take this beautiful colour away from you which your life has built up in the presence of this Christ-power – this must have had a deep impact in your heart – words shot like arrows that have hurt your heart and life – nevertheless make peace with your heart, these fellow human beings have a different way of thinking – he has surely not done it consciously otherwise he would have been aware that he has hurt you with such word expressions. This is a real problem, my friend, that many of us have to faith: the ignorance and lack of empathy, only to see our sides, but leave the counter-side unconsidered – so we should meet our brothers and sister, our fellow human beings with thoughtfulness and awareness (that my thoughts, words, and deeds consist of non-violence) to prevent hurting unintentionally or even intentionally. A companion who cannot see these things should be avoided, it will only lead to conflicts. So my advice to you, my friend: Make peace with your heart, forgive him, and keep distance to him as those around us influence our life: positively or negatively… If pot and lid do not fit together, how can the pot function as a complete pot?
    A compromise is not possible in this case as it would damage your faith in Christ…

    I hope that someday the right one will knock at your door… if not, you always have the best friend, father and brother at your side one can have: God

    Happiness and patience to you, dear Caralyn
    Didi

    1. Thank you Didi for this beautiful encouragement. How can the pot function as a complete pot – what a great question to consider. Thanks for having having a positive word for me – you’re a great friend! Hugs and love xox

    1. Oh wow Washington!! That’s awesome!! Thanks so much Nikki for stopping by! Have a great week! Hugs and love xox

  33. I think I can provide the outside the religious perspective… I receive,well, let’s call it hate often, because I defend christians (a non believer and raised jewish), to me, no one can know me, or my thoughts truky, I’m not perfect, no one is, if you are trying to do the right thing, be with it, we all (mostly) have a moral compass (exceptions for mental illness), we know what is right/wrong etc. inherently. that compass points in one direction, everything else is distraction, and that is the struggle of course, there has to be a point of remembrance, a talisman, some symbol, for you that is christ, and let that work for you, we all lack confidence at times but the key is practice… practice in all things breeds readiness, that is why the bible works, it’s a guide, is it perfect? nah, nothing is, we are not, but it is better to consult a map before a venture than just running out into the darkness… and darn you inspired me to type .. yet again.. so I guess in short, have faith in what you believe, let the rest follow.

    1. Excuse me, even one with a mental illness has a moral compass and a knowledge of right and wrong!!! There may be lapses due to symptoms, though we are NOT morally corrupt. What an outrageously offensive and ignorant statement!

      1. your judgment is based in misunderstanding of my comments, take a moment and think about it. what if a “lapse” is your entire existence ? that doesn’t make much sense, I believe more in the natural world and the fault of genetics, bad eggs happen, it is empirical and provable with clear data in all living things, if you don;t believe that, that’s fine, just take a step back before you call something ignorant, you never walked my shoes nor me yours… and we never can, better to discuss things so we can at least try to understand…

      2. The way your statement was phrased does not leave room for a reader who does not know you to see anything aside from the ignorance of your statement. There was no reason to even include a comment such as this in the overall discussion.

        Mental illnesses take many, many forms! Someone with anxiety or depression does not lack a moral compass or a knowledge of right and wrong. These are still diagnosed mental illnesses. An individual living with schizophrenia or bipolar disorder are not morally corrupt or lacking the knowledge of right from wrong. These are biological, chemical imbalances which can be treated quite well through proper medication allowing many with such disorders to live quite healthy lives. Lapses occur with ANY chronic illness. Even a person with diabetes has mental changes which can make them a danger to themselves when glucose levels are too far outside of normal. No one would ever consider this person lacking the ability to decipher right from wrong or without a moral compass. The same is true of a person living with mental illness. The vast majority do NOT live in a “constant state of lapse”.

        Statements and attitudes such as what you’ve written not once, but twice are why there is so much stigma and misunderstanding about mental illness. Many people who live very successful, functional lives with a major mental illness do not speak about their condition due to the judgment and attitudes I’ve just watched you put out there.

        You may not like my words, but my point is completely valid. If you don’t want to be criticized for your statements, think before you speak. Look at the impact of your words. Pick your audience. You’re not in the privacy of your own home where few will come across your words and most likely agree with you. When you speak publicly making negative, unfounded remarks about those with a medical condition you must be prepared for people to correct you and inform you of your ignorance.

      3. sorry friend, we disagree, I encourage you to read back your own statement and think about it, I don’t mind criticism but claims of ignorance are not that, I am well informed both in personal experience and educationally, we just disagree. This is not the forum for attack or such long form discussions imo, if my response incensed so many… well, it did not, but for whatever reason it triggered you, there is no absolutes with mental illness, and I was not speaking about ALL mental illness, which is your assumption (among many), I;ll let the people decide if they read through everything, that’s cool with me. I’ m not intimidated by words. read yourself again, you read a bunch into my words… things I did not write, you assumed, again, that’s fine, but just a hat tip.], peace.

    2. Thanks David. Have faith in what you believe – at the end of the day that just about sums it up. 🙂 Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. Hugs and love xox

  34. I can share a little perspective on your friends’ comment. I was raised Catholic, attended a Catholic university, minored in religious studies, have received all the sacraments including that of marriage. Along the way, I found that I’m a true atheist. I have friends and family who are Catholic and all other religions. Even within friendships there are differences in how we think about and handle issues that arise in our lives.

    As a non believer, you cannot successfully have a romantic relationship with a believer. The chasm between the two is just too broad. The philosophical differences in how we manage our lives and the lens we look through is too different. I know from experience.
    His statement was not a criticism of your faith, rather a statement recognizing that in many other areas you would be a good fit for his friends.

    Being a Christian in the modern world present problems. It always has. I can tell you that i’s significantly easier identifying as a Christian than an atheist in today’s world. You may not believe that to be true, but it truly is. I’ve been on both sides of the divide.

    1. This is a very powerful perspective. Thank you for sharing your story and for this insight. I can definitely believe that – labels are tough because by nature they set you apart, come what may. I appreciate you stopping by and for the encouragement. Hugs and love xox

    1. Thank you so much. This is a beautiful encouragement 🙂 very grateful. Hugs and love xox

  35. I woke up this morning in the arms of God. He was holding me to Him as if I was a little toddler child. And He spoke to me about my lifestyle, it is 50 years now, since He took me, just as I was… And I was to use your words, a virgin. I have lived,, 50 years as a virgin. It was the only thing He asked, “Promise me, you will never marry.” No He never asked me to take vows as a nun. Just to remain as I was… I have. I have led a full life, and I awoke this morning a little girl in my Father’s presence… I am writing this to you. His special friend to Him you are…please know you are blessed for your faith, your choice… In good time you will receive your heart’s desire.. Just hold on to His sleeve with perseverance. Please delete comment if it is your wish. I never meant to embarrass you or offend. Just to whisper what you already know, our God is love..

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful story. Wow, you write so poetically and powerfully. I truly appreciate the encouragement. Hugs and love xox

      1. Oh! Thank you!! I’ve never considered getting fringe before! Hmmmm 🙂 I’ll think about it! Have an awesome day! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

  36. Sorry to hear that dear 🌹, I know how it is I’m not a religious person but I do try to live my life by a code of conduct of honor and respect and that clashes with other people that’s why I always say ” To each their own ” you can do whatever you want just don’t expect me to follow along if it’s something I don’t do.
    So you do you dear and keep gone down your own road. 🌹

    ❤️✌️
    BY FOR NOW

    1. Thank you Dawn 🥰 I appreciate the encouragement so much. Amen – to each their own! I agree!!! Grateful for you!! Hugs and love xox

  37. Ouch! It hurts when people judge us for our beliefs. Maybe it’s a blessing in disguise though? Wouldn’t you rather date someone who shares you’re world view and belief in God? I know I would rather date someone who share’s my values and beliefs? I’m sure the right person will come your way at the right time. Enjoyed reading your post.

    1. Yes it’s true. What a powerful perspective shift. Lots of truth here! Thanks so much for the encouragement. Hugs and love xox

  38. Thank you for being honest and open about your struggles!! I’m glad I found your blog! God bless you!
    Even though we get criticised for our Faith, it’s fine. Jesus offers us all the peace, joy and tranquility we need and VICTORY! He overcame the world with love and we can too! (John 16:33). So we let God’s great love lead the way! God bless you Caralyn! 🙌💛💛

    1. Thank you friend. You’re so right – all the peace joy and tranquility! Let His love lead the way! Hugs and love xox

  39. “A time is coming when men will go mad, and when they see someone who is not mad, they will attack him, saying, ‘You are mad; you are not like us.’” -St. Anthony the Great
    Hang in there girl.

    1. That is truly some powerful advice. Leave it to St. Anthony! 🙂 Thank you friend. Hugs and love xox

  40. Good morning. I was reading your post and it made me think. It is interesting. I don’t think it’s one’s faith in as much as what one chooses to believe in to be of concern. I see the issue as how one practices The Faith. My mother was Protestant Free Methodist, and my father Roman Catholic. It was perplexing to hear how my mother grew up believing going to the movies and wearing makeup was a sin. So was playing the Ave Maria in church. Not to my father.

    It was confusing for us as kids. So, in my honest opinion it is something that needs to be talked about beforehand. How one practices and makes their spirituality palpable and real. I believe that for a harmonious relationship, these important rituals need to be agreed upon and valued equally. Cheers!

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. You bring up a great point – definitely a conversation to have for sure. And an important one. Great insight. Thank you. Hugs and love xox

    1. Thanks so much Susan!! Oh gosh you’re too kind!!!!! I appreciate your generous words. Hugs and love xox

  41. It’s awesome that you are strong in your faith and stay true to yourself. I saw this dating advice online once and I love it – ‘Run as fast as you can after God and if someone keeps up introduce yourself.’ Someone out there will love God as much as you do and love you exactly the way you are. 💕

    1. Thank you friend. Your encouragement means more than you know! Oh my gosh I love that quote!!! Hugs and love xox

  42. When people question my faith I like to use the example from the movie “Contact” where (loosely quoted) Jodie Foster ask Matthew McConaughey “how can you believe in something your can’t prove?” he replies “Did you love your father?” She replies “yes” He says “prove it!”

    Where do people without faith go when tragedy strikes?

    1. How interesting. Never seen the movie – but that’s a great line! Thanks for sharing! Hugs and love xox

  43. Do not despair over that conversation. Any Christian in today’s world is bound to find resistance to expressions of faith, especially if you are really trying to live as Christ desires for you. As far as living too much “in the here and now,” don’t be too harsh on yourself for that. Yes, our ultimate purpose is found in eternity with Jesus, but we are in the here and now for a grand purpose as well, to show others in this life the love of Jesus and introduce them to Him. Your blog is one way you are doing that while living in the here and now. Blessings always to you and yours, my friend.

    1. thank you so much DT, for the encouaragement. You’re right – we’re here for a grand purpose as well — that’s important to remember for sure 🙂 gosh, i am humbled by your generous words! hugs xo

  44. I believe that God is using you in mighty ways, and though trials will come, your rewards will be great, if not here, certainly for all of eternity. I pray you keep doing what you are doing. God will find you the right person for you, I believe, in his own time, and in his own way. God Bless.

    1. Oh my gosh thank you for this beautiful encouragement. I appreciate your prayers so much. I believe that too – in His time. Hugs and love xox

  45. Thank you for your honesty here. It’s so hard to be a single Christian in today’s world. I’ve had guys break up with me because of my ‘lifestyle choices’ and it does suck. It’s painful and discouraging at the time, but now I can look back and be so grateful they dumped me. Because when/if I do get married I want it to be a faith-filled, God-centered marriage and that won’t happen with someone who hasn’t chosen the same “lifestyle”. I believe God will bless you with a strong Christian husband who values and chooses your lifestyle. Stand strong and firm in your faith – God has it under control!

    1. Thanks so much Becky for this beautiful encouragement. You’re so right – God has it under control! Hugs and love xox

  46. Morning! You’re an inspiration in a broken & judgmental world. Stay true to yourself and your beliefs and good things/people will come your way. ❤️

    1. Oh my gosh Mary, thank you – what a kind thing to say. I appreciate the encouragement. Hugs and love xox

  47. The day is already upon us when the world will judge us not by what we do but by what we believe. Your experience is proof positive. I came across this verse just this morning and thought of you. “No weapons turned against you will succeed” (Isaiah 54:17). Stay strong in your faith, dear. The right man for you will show up when God makes it happen.

  48. Hang in there, Caralyn. You are an inspiration to the thousands who follow you online. Anyone your “friend” might fix you up with would surely be a disappointment.

  49. I pray that the Lord gives you opportunities to meet both friends and a significant other who are more in tune with your hope in Jesus. <3

    I do believe that religion has always been, and will continue to be, a source of divide among people. Why? Because there is nothing more worldly than religion, and religion has nothing to do with God. It never did. Those who follow a religion group among themselves and tend to consider others outsiders. Those who don't follow it group among themselves and consider religious groups outsiders. Different sides of the same coin.

    As followers of Jesus, we are called to believe in, have a relationship with and follow him – not religion. And this doesn't mean that a person can't attend a place where there is a form of membership, such as Catholic churches. But religious affiliation does mean that it becomes significantly more complex to relay what, or who, we are following to others.

    In many cases, the person indeed follows the religion they are affiliated with, and may or may not have a genuine relationship with God. I grew up among religious people and that was essentially the reason why I turned atheist. I always knew the "God of religion" didn't exist.

    I think you've shared enough about your faith here that shows you prefer to live in a way that shines the Lord's light in your life. And that's how we're called to be. But anytime we resort to religious membership, it will invariably result in divide.

    Just to give you an example of how that works, I always have the opposite situation as the one you report here. Almost every single person I meet, including some friends, sees my behaviour and, because I don't associate with religion, they don't know "where" to place me and never, ever consider me any sort of outsider. On the contrary, they seek my company. They want to become closer. They love my values and, funnily enough, often think they share them – even though they're not believers. There is actually a "common ground" that they themselves see between us, because religion is not part of the equation.

    So though I can see how religion can cause a lot of divide, because that's what it has historically done, I don't see people being repelled by Jesus' love in our lives. And it is up to each one of us to reflect that love more than we reflect religion. It can be tricky at times, yes, because people have difficulty to place us. But let it be. It's simply because they don't know God. If they did, they would know He can't be placed anywhere, and neither can we.

    1. Thank you so much for this encouragement and thoughtful response. Yes – that’s so true. Jesus even said that He has come to divide. Hugs and love xox

  50. Your lifestyle choices result in the positive. When someone said that to me many years ago, I replied, “Is it so bad? What if there is no heaven, no paradise? What have I really lost? My choice free’s me to be healthy by not smoking, or drinking to excess. My morality free’s me from all the diseases young and old people get for sleeping with whoever and I could go on. Is that so bad?
    Living a life free of excesses protects you from so much pain and disease. A God-like life is a safeguard in so many way, it’s hard to innumerate.

  51. Great insight as always, Caralyn. As a non -millennial (lol… that’s my way of saying “older person”) who doesn’t date I can relate to being insulted for my faith. It’s like I have some disease… Christian and not dating… what?!?! But like you said so well: It’s not about here and now. It’s taken about four years for me to fully appreciate living in the present and being fully here WHILE understanding I live not for this life but what comes in the afterlife. People can feel how they feel but it doesn’t change how I am judged and held accountable so I am the o YL one who had to be okay with my choices and lifestyle. And I chose child of God, boldly!

    1. Thank you Shell!! You’re right – it’s a bold and important choice we can cling to with our whole heart! Hugs and love xox

    1. Good question. It definitely would present some challenges! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

    1. aw, thank you so much. what a kind thing to say 🙂 I appreciate your encouragement! hugs xox

  52. Never be ashamed of who you are. Remember we are in the swipe left/right phase for easy sex. You are not easy sex. Tell your friend not to tell these people he wants you to me about your spiritual belief if he believes the person he wants to set you up with is a good person. It is you who needs to tell the person who you are.

    1. Thanks for your encouraging words. That’s great advice – I need to be the one to tell someone who I am. Great point. Glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox

  53. Here it goes, … he was not truly insulting you. It was a backhanded compliment. Think on it as he knew those guys were not worthy of you; or that he would be embarrassed of you knowing what type of friends he really associated with.

    1. Thanks for this perspective. That’s a great shift – definitely encouraging 🙂 haha thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

  54. Keep shining Jesus’ light! This world is getting darker and darker but our God is mighty. As long as your “lifestyle choices” Honor our Lord, they are perfect. To bad their lifestyle choices don’t match – they are missing out! Stay strong in Jesus 😊❤️

    1. Thank you friend 🙂 your encouragement means so much!!! Very touched by your kindness. Hugs and love xox

  55. True Christianity, a changed heart, life, & mind, has been considered an alternative lifestyle since the the resurrection. Thats why the world hates it so much.

    Congrats for overcoming both anorexia (physical & pyschological torment) & congrats for noticing and overcoming a rejection. You can be assured more will be coming down the pike. I believe Paul said all that live godly in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution, not promises of a lavish lifestyle, but rejection, humiliation, loss of family & friends, even death if it reaches that point.
    So feel honored to be stepping into those ranks of fellow believers who are accounted worthy to suffer, in whatever manner, for Christ.

    God bless.

    1. Thanks for your encouragement. You’re right – it’s all for Christ! Ultimate goal! Hugs and love xox

      1. I’m jealous of young people that take the chance to live in NYC. In hindsight, it’s something I wish I had done. I wish you the best in the Big Apple!

  56. What does it mean that our modern Christians don’t fit the Sermon on the Mount? The Beatitudes is the very portrait of the one we claim to love and follow.This is why I left modern church. The Beatitudes is too deep and simple for most Christians today. But what does that mean? Shouldn’t we be asking?

  57. I read this passage after reading your post and thought that it might be encouraging to you.
    “Even though I’m considered insignificant and despised by the world, I’ll never abandon your ways. Your righteousness has no end; it is everlasting, and your rules are perfectly fair. Even though my troubles overwhelm me with anguish, I still delight and cherish every message you speak to me. Give me more revelation so that I can live for you, for nothing is more pure and eternal than your truth.”
    ‭‭Psalms‬ ‭119:141-144‬ ‭TPT‬‬

    1. Thanks so much for sharing that. Wow what a beautifully encouraging verse! So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

  58. This post took me back 30 years to a conversation with a colleage during a summer job. Just chatting in a pub after work and talking about ‘outselves’ I mentioned my faith and the response was ‘Oh if only it wasn’t Christianity’. What really struck me was that it wasn’t just any concept of having a faith, but Christianity specifically.

    It was an interesting glimpse into the future that we now live in where people won’t even consider being friends because of a differing viewpoint and something we are all poorer from as a result.

    1. Thanks so much for sharing that. You’re right. A glimpse into the now! Hugs and love xox

  59. I don’t see that as an insult AT ALL. For starters, the fact that your “lifestyle choices” are an “issue” to him is really a kudos to you…you are letting your light shine! He sees the light of Jesus in you and it is this very light that is PROTECTING you from all the WRONG guys this person wants to set you up with. CELEBRATE!! Of course your light is undesirable to the darkness. THAT’S WHAT YOU WANT…TRUST ME. Besides, Jesus is the best matchmaker. All in His perfect timing my dear.

    1. Thank you so much Mindy! Yes! He really is the best matchmaker. Thanks for the encouragement. Hugs and love xox

  60. Interesting – I haven’t seen this happening myself but I’m sure it is happening. As a parent of a millennial, I try to understand their points of view; however skewed I think they may be. Both my daughters were raised going to church and still like going with my wife and me, but when asked why they don’t attend church on their own it typically goes something like this “I have my own beliefs and I don’t need someone telling me what I should believe”. What is that about??

    1. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this. Yeah – the millennial life is interesting to say the least! Glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

  61. I wonder sometimes whether the percentage of actual Jesus followers has dropped, or merely the hordes of “Christians” we had when Christianity was the dominant religion. The path to life has always been a narrow one, and your testimony is a refreshing encouragement to stay on it, Caralyn!

    1. Hi Mitch! Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this. Yeah – that would be an interesting – and I suspect very eye opening – statistic. Thanks for the encouragement. Hugs and love xox

  62. I agree with your statement about how a “lifestyle choice” has definite negative connotations now, and that religion is not one that pops to the top of the list. It really saddens me that others are not willing to elevate themselves, but rather pull those above them down. And I don’t mean “above” as in a ‘better-than-you’ snobby sort of way. But ‘above’ as in doing something they can’t (like staying religious and keeps values that you find important). We see it all the time in media. ‘Fail’ compilation videos. Or comments like, “No way you really did that.”
    I remember when people used to believe first, then waited to find out if they were lied to. Now it seems like people assume they are lied to first, and even if they are given the truth afterward, they still believe it’s a lie.
    Keep the faith. This life, this suffering, is temporary. Christ suffered all for us, we can suffer a little for Him.

    1. Thanks William for sharing your thoughts on this and for your encouragement. You’re so right – it’s temporary! And we can definitely endure it for Him! Hugs and love xox

  63. This is a tough one to comment on, Caralyn. The father in me says stay true to your Christian convictions because it is so easy for me to say that. I’m not looking for Mr. Right in the Big Apple. I truly feel your angst for several reasons. Again, easy to say from afar, but my advice is in Romans 12:2 — do not conform. I know, I know, that’s easy for me to say but it has played out in my own life, in a different way than yours. You either conform to the world (a world that is turning from God) or you hang in there believing what you believe. I am praying for you.
    Ted

    1. Thank you Ted for your encouraging words. You’re right – thanks for your prayers. Hugs and love xox

  64. I love this Caralyn. I am finding it hard to fit in at my job right now, and I am feeling a little judged and misunderstood. Thank you for sharing this encouragement. It truly gave me some much needed perspective.

    1. Aw thank you so much Sarah! I’m so glad this resonated with you. Hang in there!! Sending so much hugs and love xox

  65. There has to be a proper balance. Yes, you need to have the long range view of “we are strangers here, heaven is our home.” But we also need to live in the here and now. I spent most of my 20s and 30s looking at the next thing and missing what was right in front of me. Proper balance is the key. Jesus is the rock of your life. Look ahead to the eternal life that he has won for us with his death on the cross. But he has also given us this life, this abundant life, life to the full, as he says in the Gospel of John.

    1. Thanks Ed for sharing your thoughts i this you’re right- life to the full! It’s a both / and!Hugs and love xox

  66. What an interesting post. At an early age I was introduced to a lot. I do not want pity but just to share this. At 9 years old, my favorite Aunt (who at the time was reaching 90 and due to my youth, I thought “smelled funny”) passed away. At 10, my father (who many years later Ibfound out adopted me) died at midnight on Christmas Eve. I was so angry with this “God” whoever he or she was that whenever his name was spoken, my attention was diverted elsewhere. Death continued to stalk around me and it wasn’t being quiet about it at all.
    Once there was a break in the deaths, I begin to ask why. But before I could get an answer, it struck again. This time it was to a 9 year old boy who through all of my attempts to revive would pass on.
    This really rocked my world and turned it upside down and I finally gave up and begin to ask God to help me fight with me to keep death away.
    I continue to see it all around me to this day. Cancer, heart attacks are plagueing our family now but with Gods help, it has become easier to deal with as it is in His grand scheme of things to come. I can have an open mind and respect the question or statement of your friend you went out with. I always respect everyones personal opinions as from what I gather you do as well, but they have to understand that they must respect mine as well which is to believe in a God. I now live with a very God fearing family but they are not overbearing in how they approach me about my past. As for my friends….well, there are no phone calls just to talk, nor invites to go places. It has been this way for the past 10 years unfortunately. But if it is because of my faith, than they have judged me because of my beliefs and those are not friends I want around. I will take faith and solitude over a lack of faith and an over abundance of friends any day.

    1. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Gosh what a lot you have been through. My heart goes out to you, friend. Hang in there friend. You’re so right – at the end of the day – faith is worth it. And you’ve always gotta friend in me 🙂 Hugs and love xox

  67. 🙌🏽💪🏽🙏🏽

    Matthew 6:19-21
    19 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

    I used to have that mindset living in New York City. Even 10 years after moving it stayed with me…
    God didn’t stop calling for me and I finally picked up!

    God bless you!

  68. Well, I’m pretty sure I would have said (with a smile on my face), “Someone who would dismiss me automatically because of my ‘lifestyle choice’ probably isn’t someone I would care to go out with.”

  69. Amen sister! Thank you so much for sharing this! I’ve had this situation happen to me as well and I began to have doubts because of my desire to be a wife again one day, but God is faithful and His timing is better than ours. If people reject us because our “life style” then they are really rejecting Him. I needed this. Thank you! ❤️

  70. There is a difference between letting Christianity be your invitation or your armor. I have seen so, so many Catholic influencers using their faith as a way to close themselves off to people who disagree (armor) and even to cast judgment on those not meeting the “standard,” rather than reaching out as Jesus did to have conversations that may not result in resolution but still uphold the value and dignity of each person participating in that conversation (invitation). Make sure your “lifestyle choice” reflects what true Christianity is supposed to be.

    1. You’re right about that. True Christianity – that’s the important thing to remember! So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

  71. Ummm, so God is WAY bigger than ya’ even know because the conference you’re speaking at in March 2020 theme is: “Rejoice and Be Glad.” Mark 5:12 Yep! He’s just “prepping” you right now, giggles!! Hugs Caralyn and thank you for staying stead-fast in your faith walk – remember God is simply still “perfecting” the man He will one day reveal to you! And that man will be so grateful for you staying true to His Word. ❤️

    1. Oh that’s so amazing!!!!!!! Wow thank you for reminding me of that!!! God is so good 🙂 He is always prepping us for His plans 🙂 love it!! Thanks for this beautiful encouragement!! Hugs and love xox

  72. I wonder why our Catholic ‘lifestyle’ is so unacceptable to others. Could be they are fearful of something they dont know. Or they have impressions that Catholics are suppressed and unable to live ‘free’….free by worldly standards. But Catholic or Christian, once we embrace the truth of the gospel values we are more ‘free’than those who embrace worldliness…so instead of being slighted by your friend…pray that he will one day be touched by God and understand ….its hard to be Christian….but Jesus walks alongside us….and that is company alreafy 🙂

    1. Thanks Jeanne for sharing your heart on this. That’s really great advice. And Yes! He walks alongside us! Hugs and love xox

  73. Also I may add that for us cultivating our interior lives is much more important! I realised this a few years ago when I myself was ‘searching’ after reading about St John of the cross and St Faustina….tough to follow but bit by bit if we practise…we will journey in their path…maybe you can do a post about the interior life? Take care 🙂

      1. Hang in there! I must confess I dont read all your posts but some do resonate with me! Take care…great that you are brave to promote Jesus in the way you do… 🙂

  74. Congratulations on a mature Christian perspective, the kind of genuine tolerance that popular culture cannot achieve. It exists only in the character of someone whose heart has settled on Christ and doesn’t need to worry about what anyone else thinks. Kudos!

    1. thank you so much 🙂 I appreciate your kind words! I think tolerance is a beautiful thing! big hugs to you xo

  75. I sure think you have the right idea of keeping your faith strong and believing in yourself. You are not letting all of the negativity of our popular culture pull you down because you have god Almighty on your side. Keep on staying strong and sharing your awesome inspirations and information.

  76. I’m so proud of you. You want to be with someone that loves Jesus as much as you do. One day, God will have the perfect guy for you. Just wait you’ll find him one day. Hugs xx.

    1. Oh gosh you’re so kind Amanda, thank you friend. I do trust in His timing. I just need the patience! Haha Hugs and love xox

  77. Yes Cara, this blog is an answer for ladies like ourselves who refuse to compromise our faith. Our lifestyle choice has eternal impact and we cannot compromise. God honors his children for their obedience. This blog was excellent.

    1. Hi Ada!! You’re so right about that – we cannot compromise. That’s just the reminder I needed to hear today, so thank you for that 🙂 hope you’re having a great afternoon! big hugs xo

  78. I’m glad your light is shining, even your ‘friend’ knows there is a difference in you. But he is mistaken in his comment.

    Being follower of Jesus Christ is not a bad lifestyle choice at all. I pray that those who think otherwise, will have a change of heart.

    Keep shining.

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