Take a Knee

I’m going to share something that happened to me this week in New York City. An alarming incident of sorts.

And before I begin, quick shoutout: mom and dad, please don’t freak out.

As you all are very well aware, over the past week, NYC has been rocked by protestors, and completely brought to its knees by looters/rioters.

And please note the distinction: the one group is not the other. Protestors = good; looters = bad.

But shops, restaurants, banks, retail, everything – is boarded up. Meanwhile, every New Yorker is glued to their phone, with one eye on the Citizen Neighborhood Crime Alert App, and the other eye looking out the window, canvassing the street below for violence or suspicious activity.

Or maybe that’s just me.

But it is a New York I have never known before. One of anger, distrust, and defiance. Nevermind the fact that everyone is pissed about being under curfew.

So: On Monday or Tuesday of this past week, it was 7:45, just a few minutes before curfew began at 8, and I had just stepped outside for literally 5 minutes to sit in the park across the street for some fresh air before I had to be locked up in my stifling hot apartment for the night.

And I had stopped to take a photo by the flowers, when out of nowhere, this young man ran up to me with a camera. He was filming.

And – nevermind violating social distancing, and not wearing a mask – this young man got right up in my face with his camera, and started yelling at me.

He shouted, “Excuse me, Miss. Miss. I’m with Black Lives Matter, and if you don’t take a knee like Kaepernick right here right now, you are a racist! Take a knee! Take a knee!”

Terrified, I kind of fumbled for words.

And noticing my hesitation, he continued the rant, yelling that I have white privilege and need to acknowledge it and apologize for it by taking a knee, and some other rhetoric, that to be completely honest, I have no idea what else he said because my mind was racing.

I was absolutely shell shocked and scared in that moment. I was alone. I had no idea who this man was, filming me. And he was so angry and being so derogative towards me. Was he going to hurt me if I didn’t take a knee?

This wasn’t me being quick-to-judge, but rather acting from the fact that the past several nights, the streets of New York were truly dangerous: rioters setting fire to cop cars and trash cans, looters breaking into stores and stealing, lawless behavior running rampant. I was scared for my life.

And so I quickly took a knee and then got the hell out of there.

Obviously, I was completely shaken. I called my friends, but decided not to tell my parents, because they already couldn’t sleep with all the violence going on in Manhattan.

But I shook it off, because at the end of the day, I wasn’t really in danger, and I just chalked it up to some guy trying to get a viral instagram video.

Until Friday.

I was listening to a podcast, and one of the headlines was how this viral YouTube “LiveStreamer” named ‘Smooth Sanchez’ was going around Manhattan, making caucasian women get on their knees and apologize for their white privilege, and then livestreaming it for the masses on the internet.

They played a clip of it on the podcast, and sure enough — this Smooth Sanchez guy — was the same guy who got in my face just four days before.

Upon further research, I learned that he’s been doing this “On Your Knees” stunt all week, with every 2+ hour video upload getting more and more views and comments.

I did not watch them, because I didn’t want to know if I was, in fact, depicted on the video — without my consent, I might add.

Now, if you could – table that for just a moment. And allow me to bring up a really powerful, one-line message that a I heard this weekend during one of Fr. Mike Schmitz’ homilies. He was addressing the topic of racism, and it can all be boiled down to this one, very simple and profound statement: “As Christians, we are called to carry each other’s burdens.

Which finally put into words what was so unsettling about not only that isolated incident in the park, but also the state of the world at large.

We are called to carry each other’s burdens. Every single person was made in God’s image and likeness. And because God is love, our deepest identity is to love.

And by that very fact that we are creations of God – each one of us has a dignity that cannot be taken away.

But sadly, throughout history, and devastatingly even still today, our black brothers and sisters have had that dignity oppressed — either outright, systematically, or underlyingly.

And that is a terrible terrible stain on humanity. One that is unforgivable. And one that needs to change, immediately.

And as one family in Christ, we are commanded to seek justice for the oppressed, and love and stand by our hurting brothers and sisters.

And that’s where the confusion comes in: yes – protesting peacefully and nonviolently for my oppressed sisters and brothers — that is what we are called to do as Christians, and where I personally stand on this issue.

But I do not support violence or looting or rioting.

Which is also why this Smooth Sanchez situation is so upsetting.

This man was going around touting that he was with Black Lives Matter — a movement that I respect, and support. But that was the first thing he shouted at me. ((And I fully acknowledge that this man is not representative of the entire BLM. This man was a lone wolf, I’m sure.))

But that bullying and harassment isn’t going to solve anything. What good does it do to publicly shame — or scare — people into genuflecting at the alter of “wokeness”? That’s not how you solve things. That’s not how you change hearts. You change hearts through communication. Through awareness. Through love – working together, as one family.

And you find resolution through taking on one another’s burdens, in love.

The contrast between those two episodes, gave me a real juxtaposition in thought that, frankly, I probably haven’t done a very good job at articulating, but then you know what? I think another important thing to do these days is to extend one another grace, as we’re all navigating these eggshell-waters to the best of our abilities.

One last thought. I want to close with a quote from the Friars of the Renewal: a brotherhood in the South Bronx here in Manhattan. They released this statement this week, in response to all the violence, which succinctly articulates exactly how I feel.

We stand in solidarity with our African American brothers and sisters who desire to speak…We recognize that passivity in the face of racism is a sin of omission for which we are accountable before God and is in direct contradiction with an authentically prolife worldview….’Solidarity is an eminently Christian virtue.‘” – Franciscan Friars of the Renewal 6/3/20

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333 responses to “Take a Knee”

  1. I read and read and then I found some solace and trying to understand what it must have been like for you…not fair…but Christianity and the messages and what must be done! Unfortunately for many you cannot even begin to write what it must have been like for the slaves of America…it has been like over 400 years and yes it is still here and so unfortunate that many do not know their history as to who they are today and all that they claim. The fact that the term “taking a knee” has been used so selfishly…
    Goes to show the state of the humans in this world in 2020 and I don’t believe many understand what “practising what you preach means”? A man died with someone taking the knee…and all that is happening right now, probably wouldn’t be understood for another 400 years! Very sad for those that are targeted just because they have the skin they have! Ignorance is never bliss, and God must be so disappointed in humans!

    • Thank you Becky for this powerful response. It is unfathomable to try an comprehend the suffering, oppression, dehumanization and mistreatment of African Americans throughout history. It is the most heart shattering thing in the entire world, ever. And I pray that our nation can transform into one of respect, empathy and love. Hugs and love xox

      • Amen and Amen! Totally to be unified as humans not by race would be a lovely thing. Positively looking at life with pain intact is the best way forward. Hugs and love to you too x

    • Was it better for the 300k British slaves in America, or the 1.25 million white slaves raided from Europe by black Muslims? Why is there no pain, no anger about the ten million slaves that Atabs bought from African chiefs that caught and sold their own? There are many more sides to the story. People should first establish the facts.

      • I don’t know Pete which is better as none is good. Your facts are established for you and all the stories wouldn’t fit into my domain. As I can only speak for what I definitely know! The fact the “racism” against black people is sooo common in 2020 is a sad truth for the whole of humanity! People are all born and die the same way….if you dwell on what happened to others and not to you, you can never be well informed. Therefore facts or lies can’t be established!

      • Racism from white to black ain’t the only racism about. I live in South Africa where I, as a white guy, has not even been allowed to APPLY for a job for the past 26 years! There are some 550 new racist laws that marhinalise whites, Asians and the Creol-type Cape Coloured people, some of which are from the only truly indigenous KhoiSan people. The acute racism that I had seen as a small child, even, oftentimes was blacks hating whites, killing whites, raping white women (among others.) If I walk down the street, despite my own poverty and obvious disability, I am the one that get accosted by beggars. They never will approach a black man; as their racial bias tells them that I was born with some imaginary privilege and a mythical pile of cash under the mattress. Once they change their tune and bloody stop playing victim at every corner, we can maybe start building a future for all. But even their present-day failures through sheer incompetence and the most vile acts of corruption, of course gets blamed on the white man. Oh, the hypocrisy. While our President be,moans the death of Floyd, his own government had killed, in similar manner, several other blacks during lockdown. yet he wants to riot for Floyd. When these people one day will see in their own blind spot, the reality check will be much of a shock. I am tired of getting told that me, who really was innocent in the evils of the past, now have to bow to a lesser God than Jesus Christ, to “repent” of something I never was guilty of. Having said that, I have travelled to a few countries halfway around the earth, into the Pacific and also up north to where that aunt where the stiff upper lip lives. In several other ciountries, I have seen the crudest racism, blavks vs white and white vs black. Both were guilty in ways that would have ended up in jail in South Africa, where we have strict anti-racism laws, laws that only protect blacks. See, there the bias and one-sidedness is again. Fix that and we’re on the same page.

      • Wow Pete your story is so heart wrenching! Honestly I do feel for your plight in having to deal and face such issues. I can only say in my positive way of living and treating all as humans, this is what I will advice. Regardless of how others are, you can’t live by what they do!
        Rather than by race, it should be all by love. Indeed so much self reflection needs to be done, by so many but unfortunately not in this lifetime. In South Africa the problems are so bad, I hear!

      • We can’t live by race but we can’t live if the communist black race had prohibited white males since 1994 to even APPLY for jobs. The country is failing fast, not for the blackness of parliament but for the neo-Marxism in there. Thank you, Britain, Europe, Peter Hain, America, for giving us an atheist, socialist oppressive and corrupt corporate dictatorship.

    • Of course you would have been scared….”anybody would have” and how many times have people done that to you? You see, this post will surely bring out the “racists”

    • Thank you Derek – it was definitely a scary encounter given the current state of violence in my neighborhood. I appreciate you stopping by. Hugs and love xox

  2. From your narrative it sounds like you were accosted by a bully who was only out to make himself look intimidating and powerful. I’m not shocked that you chose to kneel and then run because of the situation that jerk put you in. As for me, I kneel only to my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. No other. Glad you’re safe.

    • Thank you Rollie – yeah, I cannot know what was in that man’s heart, but I was certainly shaken by the interaction — if for no other reason than to have had a camera shoved in my face. thanks for your kindness. Hugs and love xox

  3. You had me at “mom and dad, please don’t freak out.” You can never go wrong opening a blog post like that! 😀

    That guy sounds like a lowlife cretin. I would’ve told him where to shove it. I’m not saying you should’ve. You’re rather petite, and I’m rather heavyset, and I’d use that to my advantage in two seconds. It gives me the appearance of muscles. (I don’t actually have any muscles, but people don’t know that.) That guy violated you, and if I were you, knowing that you do his identity, I’d consult with a lawyer about it. (My dad’s a lawyer, so I know that legal consultations are often free.) It sickens me that you’ve experienced this.

    • Meg, She has no legal recourse. She consented to his threat. It’s on video. Besides, these terrorists are swarming cities en masse around the nation. No lawyer would take this on. Heck, lawyers are struggling just to keep up with umpteen lawsuits due to wrongful injuries and losses. Cases like hers are small potatoes indeed. Fact. Legally speaking.

    • Thanks Meg – told him where to shove it – oh gosh, that made me laugh. i appreciate your compassion – yeah, filming without consent for public broadcast — there’s got to be a legal stipulation there. glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

      • thank you Meg 🙂 Yeah – needed to take a breath after posting this – i didn’t know how this would be taken, and i needed a breather to just decompress. sending you so much love! thanks for checking in!! 🙂

      • “yeah, filming without consent for public broadcast — there’s got to be a legal stipulation there” … Patently untrue. when you are in public, it is legal to record someone, video record or audio record, as long as they don’t have what is called, “an expectation of privacy,” or rather a reasonable expectation of privacy. And generally in public, you do not have a reasonable expectation of privacy and so you can record people.

        Think about what you said. “Filming w/out consent for public broadcast” … would mean EVERYONE filming w/ cell phones parades, hikes, in cafes, at tourist attractions, the list is endless — be it 2 or 200 people in the vid, then posting it on Facebook, Twitter, youtube — is violating the law? Because “consent wasn’t received from all those people? Insane.
        And what of reporters? I was one. Did I get consent from EVERY person who appeared in a story that was aired? Inc. those peripheral. No. It’s NOT a legal requirement. It’d render the job of reporting IMPOSSIBLE.

        And, by your thought, filming terrible situations, as in Minneapolis, is illegal. So everyone who posted that vid should be taken to court?!

        (This is why you have no legal recourse in your own far less destructive situation btw. That dude might’ve been unpleasant but he broke no laws.)

        Once again, for the final time; particularly in your generation of Live and Die by the Cell Phone and Vids, it is required knowledge:

        There are very few laws which prohibit video recording of any kind, but that being said there are some laws prohibiting video recordings in areas of expected privacy without consent.

        These may include areas such as bathrooms, locker rooms, changing/dressing rooms, adult bedrooms, and other areas where a person should expect a high level of personal privacy.

  4. It sounds like one of they many opportunists who are out there these days — some want fame, some want sneakers — who are bastardizing this amazing moment in history. They’re always going to be out there. Carry pepper spray and don’t think twice about using it.

    • Hi Joshua – you brought a great point – that’s why the looting is so sad — becuase it’s taking advantage of the horrific murder of George Floyd for personal gain to steal. it makes me so sad. thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

  5. You articulated yourself perfectly

    Your words are some of the kindest, I’ve read from a white believer, regarding the state of our natio: Adn I say, “Thank You”.

    As an African American man, I’d like to apologize to you for how that idiot ran up on you. What this Smooth Sanchez guy is doing is completely wrong, and clearly he has no self respect.

    • Hi Marques. Thank you so much for your kindness, and I really do appreciate that. I just wish the country could focus on bringing about change through nonviolent ways, and through communication and cooperation. Because at least in my limited perspective, that’s how we can actually reach a solution! sending you so much love! xoxo

    • oh gosh – i like that, Claudia. Thank you for this encouragement. big hugs to you xo

  6. BLM is a radical terrorist organization. You’re free to support them but I encourage you to delve into *what* you’re supporting; you’d likely change your mind.

    • thank you friend – this is really great advice that I will take to heart. sending big hugs xox

      • I was going to offer the similar advice. There is a difference between the words black lives matter (of course they do & racism is a real problem) & the organization Black Lives Matter (not something I can fully support for lots of reasons).

      • Thank you so much Gina – yes, I have definitely learned that through the response to this post – which i am very grateful for. I’m right there with you – the monicker really diverts from the militant undertone by being something that everyone should fully support. Thank you for stopping by and please stay safe!

    • Thank you so much Renee. Yes – there are “bigger fish to fry” than to focus on the behavior of one individual acting out. sending you so much love xox

  7. Oh sweet friend! I’m glad you’re safe. This world has some sick people.
    All I can think of when I hear George Floyd’s name spoken is him calling for his Momma and my mind and heart and eyes flashed to my son and I just cried and cried. We are all precious people with souls and hearts. Why people choose a lifestyle of hate is beyond my comprehension.
    As for your attacker…(yep, I said it)…I stopped and prayed for him too just now. What brings a human to act like that toward another human?
    I want to stand in his face for you and say that making someone kneel isn’t going to bring about love or change; it’s going to bring about fear and distrust.
    I’ll keep praying for and loving everyone I meet. Change starts when one person chooses love and passes it on. Especially when disdain or disinterest or pride would be easier or make an ego feel better. Love humbles us all. It is the connective tissue between human hearts.
    I sure love your sweet heart.
    And to your parents – gosh y’all raised a lovely young lady.

    • Oh Melissa, thank you so much for your kindness. I am right there with you. It absolutely breaks my heart to think of how Mr. Floyd was completely dehumanized – it’s barbaric. And thank you for prayers for that man. I’m joining you in those prayers! thank you for such a beautiful note of encouragement. i am so touched. big hugs xo

  8. Thank you so much for getting raw, vulnerable and brave so much as to share your heart and experience as this movement progresses and the lines between righteous anger and plain evil begin to blur! What happened to you is WRONG and I am sorry, and I appreciate your love and care for our pain as Black people. ❤️

    • Thank you Mauriel, I really appreciate that. I don’t want this isolated incident to take away from the good the movement is doing, and its fight for justice. Sending you so much love! xoxo

  9. I am so sorry, Caralyn, that you had to experience that frightening encounter. But, you did just what you needed to do to defuse his anger … and your blog explains beautifully just where you are coming from. I agree with you wholeheartedly, “You change hearts through communication. Through awareness. Through love – working together, as one family.” I am in God’s family – our One Family – with you and everyone else in the world. If only everyone believed that!

    • Thank you Jan, I appreciate that. and yes!! we are all part of His family, and I pray that we all realize that, and start to act accordingly, with love for our fellow brothers and sisters! stay well! Hugs and love xox

  10. Dear Beauty, I’m trying to see the humor in this situation, but this just leaves me speechless. And sad, that so many factions are using this solemn occasion to subvert and denigrate George’s memory. Glad you’re safe. All the best.

    • thank you Dennis – yeah, I’ve looked long and hard for the humor to, but to no avail. thanks for your kindness. Hugs and love xox

  11. Thank you for shining the Light of Christ on this disturbing, violent “solution” to a centuries old problem. Most of us loathe terrorists who blow up innocent citizens around the world to make someone pay for their so-called injustices. I have a question: how many hundred thousand policemen and women are there in our country. Now, how many police have been arrested or accused of personal violence against anyone, regardless of color? Another question: In the face of this terrible, unsolved pandemic where many Americans wear masks, stand six feet apart, etc, how is it just fine for countless thousands of protestors to gang up and rant and rave across the land? If lives matter (and they all do) why is this tolerated?

    • Thank you David for your kindness. You raise some very powerful questions. Wow – really makes you think. thanks for the food for thought. Hugs and love xox

  12. For you to be intimidated like that was abusive, no doubt about it. As a dad who is protective of his four daughters, I would want to go after him.

    I’ll take a knee for Jesus . . . nobody else.

    • Thank you Jack, I appreciate your kindness and protective spirit!! amen – for Jesus! And I hear you – my dad was so angry — and so was a particular gentleman in my life. They both wished they could have been there. I appreciate you stopping by! Hugs and love xox

  13. Thanks you for sharing your experience and your well said thoughts about it. I especially love the quote from the friars about solidarity being a Christian value. Hope the cameraman eventually learns (without hurting anyone) than you build more allies with listening than you do waving camera’s in someone’s face freaking out on them.

    • Thank you Teresa! Isn’t that an amazing quote!?! They wrote an entire letter about their position on everything and it is so powerful. Here’s the full script: https://www.instagram.com/p/CA-9OO7spZF/

      That is a lesson I hope he learns as well. Glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

  14. Gee Carolyn you seem to be taking it in your stride but this is horrendous.Too many people are exploiting the current situation for their own ends. I too have always supported Colin Kapaernik’s protest and feel that this would probably break his heart. Have you thought of somehow reaching out to him. I feel sure he would speak against this sort of behaviour. You have a great platform. I am glad you have used it to speak out now.

    • thank you friend, what an interesting and potentially powerful idea to reach out. I will definitely look into that! thank you for your supportive and encouraging words – it really means a lot. stay well. Hugs and love xox

      • I see upon further investigation, the whole thing was supposed to be a joke. The guy does all kinds of spoof videos. It is not my idea of a joke

      • yeah i just learned this within the hour as well — NOT COOL. NOT A JOKE. It is bewildering that someone would think that funny. BEWILDERING

    • thank you so much Paula, I appreciate that 🙂 hope you’re having a nice week, my friend. Hugs and love xox

  15. I am glad you are okay. I hate people who get in your face like that. It is not the way to win friends and influence people. I am not “white” nor “black” I am a Eurasian and I have experienced discrimination. Still that kind of aggression is very distasteful to me. Sending you prayers of Love and Peace.

    • thank you so much friend. I’m sorry that you have experienced discrimination. It saddens my heart whenever anyone is not treated with the dignity, respect, and love that every single on of us possess. Thank you for the prayers. Hugs and love xox

  16. I am mortified and truly sorry that this has happened to you. Wow…we’re in the midst of evil, now more than ever. You’re right, there are legit protesters and other undermining factions at work – despicable lot. (I’m off to go look for that guy and give him a piece of my mind. That’s how I’m wired, lol.) Stay safe!!!

    • thank you so much, friend. Yes – there are two very very distinct and separate groups! thank you – yeah, my dad and a couple of my friends felt the same! stay well!! Hugs and love xox

  17. The most important thing I could say would be to say that you should read the BLM “What we believe.” They want to destroy the family. You want a husband and children. It is a group that is funded by George Soros. His goal is to bring down the United States by causing internal division. You should also read Archbishop Vigano’s letter to President Trump: https://www.lifesitenews.com/opinion/archbishop-viganos-powerful-letter-to-president-trump-eternal-struggle-between-good-and-evil-playing-out-right-now. You may be comfortable with that. I am not. Not sure if you should post my comment, because the haters will immediately attack me for my suggestion. I am sorry you were forced to kneel. I have already decided that if I am forced to kneel, I will say I only kneel before Christ. I hope I have the courage to do it, because I will probably lose my life. We may disagree on this issue, but I’ll keep reading what you write, because you are for the most part wise and you can change hearts. I wouldn’t give BLM a dime. If you want to help blacks, go and help rebuild a business. Blacks will never get ahead until they look in the mirror. Read Shelby Steele and Robert Woodson. (I support Woodson.) A big hug to you. Keep up the good work. Read Thomas Sowell.

    • Hi friend, wow thank you for this eye opening comment. I will definitely be reading that article. sounds scary and destructive. I think that’s another tricky undercurrent with this whole situation is that a lot of people are latching onto the “love your fellow man, stand up against injustice” rhetoric of the BLM movement, and are overseeing the truly radical positions they take. I will be mulling this over and reading your suggestions. thank you friend. Hugs and love xox

      • “is that a lot of people are latching onto the “love your fellow man, stand up against injustice” rhetoric of the BLM movement, and are overseeing the truly radical positions they take.” This makes no sense. You knew nothing of their radical positions until commenters (inc. moi) raised red flags & brought that to your attention. Still don’t. You support them. Sorry, I’ve read you a long time but can’t get (or stay) on board with a BLM supporter. All the best to you & family. Be well stay well.

  18. I’ll start with two words. PEPPER. SPRAY. He assaulted you. Didn’t touch you? Doesn’t matter. That sort of aggressive approach constitutes assault. When I learned a little self-defense, my friend told me that whoever believes in a fair fight deserves to get his ass kicked. Practice using it in your mind like preparing for a role. Next time it happens, no hesitation, OK? Hose him down! Then walk calmly away. No cops. Next time you might not be so lucky.

    Next: so many groups use language very loosely. Black Lives Matter has varying degrees of militance. To say you agree with that fluid label puts you in a position of being compromised and having to defend yourself.

    Preach nothing but Christ crucified. His mercy and love for all regardless of skin or uniform colors.

    And being Christian doesn’t mean being a patsy. Even Jesus checked to see if someone had a sword when they went out to Gethsemane. Yes, be willing to bear each other’s burdens but only insofar as they don’t contradict your faith.

    I know you know these things but espousing any movement may have you end up looking like something you’re not. Only Christ needs no excuses.

    Sorry to go all soapbox on you, but I continue to worry about you…especially after this. Remember how I told you I sat us at that restaurant, so I had a clear view of the place? Unfortunately, that’s the kind of thinking and awareness you need to practice these days. Offered in love and concern.

    • Hi Jeff — thank you for this. I think you are spot on. nothing but Christ crucified. very wise. very very wise. i think the tricky thing about this whole situation is that people – myself guilt – have seen the whole BLM movement, and only latched onto the “love your fellow man” and stand up against injustice rhetoric. Some people have even used the “leave the 99 sheep to go rescue the one” rhetoric. But we’re missing the underlying radical militantism of the movement. that’s exactly what my dad said too. It’s hard to know what to say or do — especially since, by not being in total and complete support of the movement, you’re seen as someone harboring racist thoughts. ((((I’M NOT SAYING YOU ARE!!!))) Just saying that that is what, especially so many millennials are not just saying, but shouting from the rooftops. So it’s been a really challenging thing to navigate. You’ve offered some really powerful advice, that I am truly grateful for: especially: preaching only Christ. When you share His message, the rest speaks for itself. Grateful for you, Jeff. Thank you! Hugs and love to you and your girls! xox

      • Thank you for the feedback on the pressure millennials feel themselves under. It helps to make sense of what’s going on. I know you’re not saying I’m racist (although my daughter in Columbus thinks I am). Allow me to offer a solution to your problem. Number one – scripture interprets scripture. When someone trots out a biblical passage like the one you mentioned, you need to either already know it or re-read it to understand whether or not it is being misapplied. Get a trusted commentary, and always read those critically. Study the entire bible to start to see connections and definition. For example, I wrote something a while back about being judgmental after reading through a variety of biblical references. It gave clarity. I used a bible app to search the topic…which is something I do frequently. You need to establish your own Christian position on issues and thus be prepared when challenged when, for example, someone calls you a racist. I know you’re not a book person, but I suggest you get a book on debate. Learn the fallacies of logic and how to challenge the framing of an issue. Learn to listen to someone critically instead of accepting their premise. Challenge word definitions; people often use language to confuse issues. Like calling abortion health care. I’d be happy to discuss any issue with you. I often do that with people to challenge my thinking, to find out what I might be missing. If not me, debate your dad. Just get someone outside your peers who are succumbing to the pressure you describe. And keep that pepper spray handy!!!! If someone gets aggressive with you, spray him into the ground and keep going until empty. That’s how you give yourself time to clear the area without the aggressor seeing where you’re going. You know I experienced a lot of violence growing up. Believe me that I know what I’m talking about. STAY SAFE MY DEAR FRIEND!!!

      • ordering pepper spray off of amazon right this very moment. And thank you Jeff – I really do take your wisdom to heart. You are absolutely spot on: BE PREPARED. that’s the army’s motto, isn’t it? And technically, that’s what we are: God’s army? we need to be fully prepared with how to respond when put on the spot about important issues. Such wisdom. thank you Jeff. You are one of a kind 🙂

    • Thank you so much Krista! I appreciate that. stay well! Hugs and love xox

  19. I’m glad you expanded on this incident. I wished you would have done a police report. Harassment and assault victims were always, tough. I would think of my daughters. I believe, we have left behind the stage of normal decency and policing to a stage of police light. Which is almost just a militia. You know. Arizona. Nothing happens. You could probably rent your apartment for a small fortune and live here and stand in front of cars as a model or something. Recite the weather. “Its sunny. Again.” I kid. I kid.

    • lol “It’s sunny. Again.” that made me laugh. Thanks friend – yeah, we need human decency at the very VERY least. stay well my friend. Hugs and love xox

      • There was, a near Broadway show. Off-off-off Broadway one person thing a lady presented about Colonialism. It ended with her choosing three or four White male hipsters to kneel on the stage. She attached a device to her hips and a large burrito. She ordered the men to eat her burrito in reparations for Colonialism while she moaned. It was, performance Art. There’s a line definitely in exploring feelings and perceptions of different cultures.

        There have been court cases about camera uses. It is a bit like the second amendment, in that there are already so many smartphones it’s beyond the capacity of regulations. Although, you can pursue something in “likeness” with the web address of the video as defamation. He may call it Art. Art does push buttons but, within a frame and an audience. Any Art audience does understand they are an extension of the Art form itself. Like, the off-off-off Broadway show.

      • I kind of have enjoyed the physical expressions of dissent more than the fire and brimstone speeches. I saw Aztec dancers in DC. Reggae drummers. They are becoming the example of real life unity. Now they just need to pressure their constituents in their houses of government for legal change.

      • Sorry. I feel like I “mansplained” Art to a theater person. That wasn’t what I meant to do more to everyone else. Expanding on what you offered. Uhh. Yeah. This one was good.

      • It’s quite alright! That thought didn’t even cross my mind!! 🙂

      • I’ve enjoyed the musicals and ballets I’ve saw. As far as Art and film I’ve just been attracted to asymmetrical, “how Human can this be?” “How un-pretty?” My family’s the total opposite, math-y constructs, perfect forms. Off subject but, yeah. Art is cool.

      • We do focus our attention on law enforcement. That is one branch. Trump, appointed 200 judges. That, is like a vacuum fighting a hurricane for any equality in the Justice system. I can’t see that being a positive step towards equal rights, can you?

      • I don’t blame Trump. I mean, it was Nixon and before that Hoover who insisted that minorities needed a firm hand. It was Clinton who pushed for a quarter million more police. It was Roosevelt who said, “The only good Indian..is a dead Indian.” If anything, Trump is reminding us what made us great. The judges will only force us to face this in the next generation.

      • It is. I think, the trending word of systemic racism is too generic. I’m not the smartest man. These incremental steps for separate American experiences started since the birth of America. It’s always been too vast and too broad for legislation. Don’t be mad. Enjoy, your American experience but just realize that it’s not mine nor may ever include me. That’s all.

      • it is definitely the “trendy word” of the moment, and I pray that people truly understand its meaning, implication and magnitude

      • Quality of life is never an equal thing. I’m sure your grocery delivery guy would rather be playing than thumping fruit. Is it racism that he delivers groceries until he dies? Meh. 🤷🏽‍♂️ I mean, I can argue he never had many choices to market himself for better compensation. The market itself, does create biases. If Walmart can get cantaloupes from Guatemala Amazon will get Mexico to sell them for cheaper. So nobody, really gets a fair compensation in food, service, or labor.

        I think we hope our kids somehow, do better. Although, nothing changes generation to generation. Besides the feigned anger at a system that we can definitely dismantle if we wanted the temporary suffering. Five dollar beans and rice. Ten dollar gas.

    • oh wow! i didn’t know that. what garbage, if you ask me. NOT funny. Not edgy. What an awful thing. thanks for digging into this. Hugs and love xox

    • thank you Lisa – yeah, especially given the current climate in NYC on that day — right after the night of looting and violence. it was unnerving to say the least. stay well. Hugs and love xox

  20. I’m so sorry you had to face that. It’s right for you to make a decision just so it can be proven whether or not you’re racist. I’ve been following you for a while now and you’re good at being transparent about your faults. Keep bringing your heart before the throne and he’ll continue to grow those who come to him. I’m praying for you and hope that you’re able to process what happens. Much love to you

    • Thank you friend, I really appreciate your support and encouraging words. Amen to that – bringing everything to Him to redeem is the only way to get through this life. thank you for your prayers. know i’m praying for you too! Hugs and love xox

  21. Heaven’s mercy, that is a terrible experience. You are a smart person, but most people would be hurt by just the suggestion to do that kind of thing, especially if she were white, and Godfearing. Nightmarish.

    I was watching the worst of what went on in NYC, thanks to TV, and to guerilla broadcasts. It was maddening. I could think of you watching the streets and being in danger, I could, and I could see a little of the damage, and I could see the NYC businesses.

    I could see Times Square in the daytime, looking as busy as the downtown of the town where I live, thanks to the madness. I am just so sorry that the incident happened to you. God bless you.

    One last thought: I know you have to write because it’s so you, but you should dismiss comments about white privilege, as long as you demonstrate appropriate support. Forget all about that.

    • Thank you Odell – i really appreciate this powerful perspective, and support. A nightmare to say the least. Yeah – to think of what this nation, and NYC in particular has been through in the last several months – it is truly mind boggling. Lots of prayers. stay well friend Hugs and love xox

    • Thank you so much Eric, I am too!! And thank you for your prayers! Know that you and your family are in mine as well 🙂 sending so much love and hugs xox

  22. You did what was right with Sanchez. Let him have his five minutes of fame; he will soon fade off in the mists of time. You, on the other hand, will continue to do your thing, standing strong for the betterment of us all. Hugs and love from Kentucky– Mike

    • Thank you Mike. Yeah, it especially makes me sad to think that he is taking advantage of this season of pain and outcry of injustice for George Floyd’s death for his own personal gain — it frankly makes me sick. thanks for your encouragement. Hugs and love xox

  23. As sorry as I am that you had that experience you were able to look within and discover our duty as children of God. This post is so touching and contains some harsh truths. It’s important that we talk about these matters and push for change to occur. For ALL of us, not just a certain group of us and definitely not based upon our skin tone. Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m glad you are safe. Sending you so much love my friend❤

    • thank you so much, friend. I agree – there is dignity and value that each and every single one of us possess no matter WHAT, and that is what needs to be remembered and on our lips today and every day. grateful for you! Hugs and love xox

  24. Cara you may want to listen to a couple of Candace Owen’s videos why she doesn’t support this BLM narrative.

    Racism is an equal opportunity employer, anyone can be racist, ethnocentric, xenophobic or whatever, its a vice of human nature. In NYC you have 4 blocks of Russians, 10 blocks of blacks, 3 blocks of Jews, 4 blocks of orientals, people CHOOSE to be around people like themselves.

    Riots in 2016, now in 2020, both election cycles, its unseen leaders know how to play the race card, and the mindless masses follow.

    You got PLAYED just like thousands of others….. Listen to Candace Owens and others in the black community who say BLM is bull***p. You have that freedom and liberty to search for varying opinions. Even Scripture says to standfast in the liberty wherewith Christ has set you free, keep your mind and spirit, don’t let idiots like SandCheeseforbrains play you. Next time smile say Jesus loves you and walk away with your integrity.

  25. Thank you for sharing this. I can’t imagine the feeling of that time in the park for you. You’re a brave soul and so kind in the spirit to bring it around to grace. God has filled you with kindness and light. You inspire me.

    • thank you Reid. I appreciate your supportive words of encouragement. Gosh, I am touched. God definitely was watching over me that afternoon, and for that I am so grateful. stay well. Hugs and love xox

    • thank you Alice, I appreciate your encouraging words. I hope so too, I really really do. stay well. Hugs and love xox

  26. I am so angry for your behalf. What an a-hole. I’m glad that you are ok and I hope takes a knee to that guy’s groin. People like that are just out for attention and I hope he gets knees with a little sweet karma. Take good care!

    • Thank you Ab — I really appreciate your care and concern! That was the exact response my dad had, as well as a particular gentleman in my life. They were so ticked. SO ticked. Glad you stopped by!! thanks for the smile and laugh! Hugs and love xox

  27. oh my you must have been so scared. Prayed for God’s comfort for you.
    Have you thought about visiting your parents until NYC calms down?

    • thank you friend, for your prayers and kindness. Yes – i absolutely have. I am still weary to fly post-corona, and the solo drive seems daunting at 10+ hours when I haven’t driven a car significantly in many years. But yes – it has definitely been something I’ve been thinking about. Praying for you too! Hugs and love xox

  28. Big hugs and love!! While this guy wasn’t smashing windows and taking goods, to me, he was still looting. He was emotionally looting your space and your safety, as well as those of the others. It’s one thing to be in a discussion or what about the issues one stands for or against but this guy was just out to abuse. He wasn’t with Black Lives Matter. He was with “he himself is all that matters”. I’m glad in my heart you weren’t hurt. More hugs and God Bless!!

  29. So sorry to hear about that. I can’t imagine. I admire that you choose not to be bitter with the whole movement despite the negative experience. We can all learn from that.

    • thank you friend, I appreciate your kind words – there will always be outliers, no matter the group. And we can’t let that filter how we feel about the whole. Stay well my friend! Hugs and love xox

  30. Hello Carolyn, I hope this message finds you well and I am not sure if anyone has already mentioned this. I just wanted to say that with regards to the gentleman that approached you in the street you might want to consider making the police aware of him and his blog site. The reason being is what he is doing might be known as Coercion, which is the practice of forcing another party to act in an involuntary manner by use of threats or force. … In law, coercion is codified as a duress crime. It is not only about what he could have done to you but what might happen to a future female if what he does goes wrong. Best wishes and Cwtches to you.

    • thank you so much for this powerful advice. I have not thought about that, but you’re absolutely right – what he did could be against the law. very sad indeed. I will definitely take that advice to heart and look into options. Hugs and love xox

  31. Hi Caralyn, So glad you are OK. what a frightening experience for you. We have had marches here, about 20,000 I think in Melbourne this past Saturday, but no looting it was quite peaceful. Only time will tell if there is a Covid19 surge because of it. I am so thankful to know that God is taking care of you.

    • Hi Veronica, thank you so much for your kindness. Oh wow – that’s a lot of people! i’m glad it was peaceful. I know — that’s the thing that people are forgetting — the threat of COVID19 of still very very VERY real! yikes. I pray there’s no surge too. stay well! Hugs and love xox

    • thank you so much Michael, i really appreciate your support and encouraging words, really means a lot. God bless you too my friend! Hugs and love xox

    • thank you so much Brad. Yes – i was definitely being watched over that evening, and for that I am so grateful. Stay well my friend. Hugs and love xox

  32. I seen a picture on Facebook of a woman on her knees. There is something primal in me that wanted to scream at her NNNNOOOO! Now I realize that there is so much fear that she did not make the choice but was bullied into it. Its okay to support peaceful protesting and human rights but not bowl down and apologize for being who you are. No one can help they were born a certain color in a certain place…. Sorry this happened to you and I hope you are okay!

    • Thank you friend – yes – that image is so a) triggering b) derogative, esp a man forcing a woman into that position and c) just downright wrong! amen to that. thank you for your supportive and encouraging words. means a lot. Hugs and love xox

  33. To see the power structure in major cities allow the criminality but in the same time decry protests by people who wanted to worship or questioned the quarantine is staggering to me. Mob rule seems to rule the day. And I feel like I can be attacked for saying/thinking that as if ANYONE … I mean anyone supports what happened to George Floyd, that is what makes this whole thing strange, no one disagrees, no one needs convincing, we had a national snuff film (I really worry about what impact that will have on children honestly). The guy who ran up to you was not interested in asking you your thoughts, just tacit support in a way that he deemed appropriate, through the use of fear. In a way that is racism as well… the assumption that because you are white you are guilty member of the system, regardless of your ACTUAL life story or path. I wonder how long you have been in NYC… I remember the Dinkins years and the city was not a safe place at night, wash square park was a drug den, times square might as well have been sodom with neon, we were able to buy beer as 16 year old kids @ every bodega after hopping on the path from Newport/Pavonia, I literally say NYC transformed in my lifetime and now it seems to be slipping back. Sorry for the long post, I am a writer by nature! Be safe, keep your faith, all we can do is lead by example… we fall, and fail but we are still here for now, so … keep up the effort until the end.

    • Thanks David for this thoughtful response. It’s staggering to me too – literally 10s of thousands can go to protests, but we cannot gather for religious services or hold a funeral for a loved one? truly makes me angry. wow, what a powerful perspective about NYC. yeah, i fear that’s happinging too. thanks for this food for thought. Hugs and love xox

    • Thank you so much Suzette. I agree – not at all how He would have it done. stay well. Hugs and love xox

  34. I felt your fear and intimidation. In all, you didn’t let it define nor cause you to change your sweet and loving heart. Unfortunately, for blacks trying to make a difference and bring us all together, actions like those of Sanchez can set the cause backward rather than move it forward. It’s like the black guy who got in the face of a guy looting and vandalizing, telling him, “You are not our ally”. Had you been a different person, you might have walked away and turned this event as a justifiable reason for why things are as they are. Instead, it is a reminder to, not only as Christians but as human beings we need it to be our goal to get past the hate and defenses and unite us as one people. We need to put our pride aside to move forward.

    • Hi Jolie, thank you so much for this heartfelt response. You’re so right, this man’s actions sets the forward motion backwards. amen – unite us as one people. i love that so so so much!! amen! stay well my dear friend. Hugs and love xox

  35. I’m sorry to hear this. I wish someone was there to stop that bully and put him in his place. Though I agree with the statement “black lives matter”(because they do obviously), the organization with the same name is very unbiblical. They are for abortions, destruction of the biblical family(male and female). They are also for the homosexual lifestyle(don’t hate them, just disagree with their lifestyle and so does the Bible), also they’re for defunding of the police.
    That’s why I don’t use the phrase because then people think I support that organization.
    I do hope you are doing well now and your parents have a little peace and not freaking out about their daughter possibly being in danger. Stay safe up there.

    • thank you so much Pastor Clark! yeah, that’s what a couple friend and my father said — that they wish they had been there. Yes- i feel the same — i wasn’t aware of a lot of the militant undertones involved in the organization, which i certainly do not support. So i’m with you on that!! thanks for stopping by and for this powerful perspective 🙂 big hugs to you xo

    • thank you for your encouragement and prayers. Definitely joining you in that prayer for peace!!! Hugs and love xox

  36. Dear Carolyn,

    I also support the African American brothers and sisters, but this is only possible without violence, luting, rioting – Ghandi has shown the passive way of how to fight unjustice. It is very much understandable that our black brothers and sister are very angry about what has happened, but any kind of violence, loting, rioting will not solve this problem, it will make it worse…

    What the US and of course all the other nations really need is that they don’t put barriers between skin colors, between different religions and cultures, that they don’t build walls in people’s heads and think that they are right, that they are better, smarter, first class people. All this must be taught in schools from the very beginning, because that is where our future lies and starts. These children must be educated above all with ethics and morals, starting also in their parents’ homes. If the parental home passes on prejudices to the children, the seeds of violence will always be sown. People in general must learn that we are all in the same boat, that there are no first, second, third class people. We must learn to deal with each other more consciously and lovingly. When violence, crime and hate are instilled in children through films and the media, when young people and adults are given violent games to get a “kick”, then this is also a sad story for which the whole of society is to blame. From violence only violence will come, but from love comes love and it can be multiplied in the hearts of the people.

    We should all broaden our horizons of the heart and the head and not just think in small terms, but that we are all one in Him, because we are one human being, not two or three, we all live on a one planet that we should all share justly and in a loving way.

    Enlightenment instead of hate speech, community instead of division, generosity instead of narrow-mindedness is needed, is really needed to bring about a change in society, a postitive change in which our children have a secure future and do not have to suffer from fears of all kinds.

    The evil at the root is in each and every one of us, it is up to us how we deal with it. When we have recognized deep in our hearts that we can never solve problems by violence, but by good qualities: such as patience, kindness, genuine teamwork, respect for others, honesty, dignified behaviour towards each other, humanity and mutual help, then a loving cooperation in harmony is possible. For this we also need “new ideals”, common religious ideals, which all speak of love, which must be put into practice through our lives, we ourselves must become a living example, so that others can follow, take an example by example…

    Not an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth leads to peace, because that is nothing else but: violence sows new violence… It is the non-violence that already arises in the head and accordingly shows its effect. From good thoughts come good words and deeds, and we should not forget: we are a unity, one humanity, which is in the same boat…

    It must have been hard for you to have experienced such life-threatening situation, dear Carolyn, but it opens also in you some doors to see the whole situation from different point of views.

    May God always protect you, my friend!

    • Hi Didi — thank you so much for this heartfelt and powerful response. you touch on such an important truth: we are all One in Him. And we need to remember that. That is the root of where any peace, reconsiliation and resolution will come from! you’re right – a new horizon indeed. stay well my friend! Hugs and love xox

  37. I’m so sorry you had to go through this frightening experience. Shame on those weak people who take advantage of situations and innocents people for their personal advantage. I’m glad you are well. You are divinely protected. Blessings to you💕

    • thank you so much friend – I know, it makes me sad that some are taking advantage of George Floyd’s death. amen – i was surely watched over that evening. Hugs and love xox

  38. I’m so glad you’re okay, Caralyn, but you must have been terrified at the time. Having been caught unaware like that, your instinct led you to do just the right thing.
    I appreciate your good Christian outlook on the matter and the gentleness in which you expressed it. Lots of love to you. x

    • thank you Lesley! I really appreciate your support and encouragement. lots of prayers for peace for this country and its hurting people. sending lots of love and hugs xox

  39. Thanks for sharing your story. bullying and harassment will never make a positive change! “That’s not how you change hearts. You change hearts through communication. Through awareness. Through love – working together, as one family.” Totally agree with you!
    Take care and stay safe dear!

    • thank you Chloe! that means a lot. i so agree – those are no way to reach people and create change! Amen! its through love! stay welll! Hugs and love xox

    • thank you so much friend, that means a lot 🙂 sending so much love and hugs xo

  40. Another mysognist making out he’s a real cool good guy. Incensed is too small a word for what I feel about that liar sanchez. Here in Ireland racism is growing steadily but the mysogny has always been with us. I know exactly what I would do to him & his ilk in such a matter.

    • thanks Frank, for your concern and for sharing your thoughts. both have no place in this world!!! Hugs and love xox

  41. Thank you for sharing your personal story. I am a Christian, and also UK born of Indian heritage and have suffered from racism my whole life, and have felt the pain so deeply over the years and am recovering from complex PTSD, anxiety and depression because of it. It is a real problem and often a hidden one, and while I so think ‘white privilege’ is a reality, I also think the way you were treated was shocking and totally unacceptable. I am sorry you had to go through that by this bullying individual, and I hope you are ok. While this is the kind of treatment many of us have faced at various points in our lives as non-white, it is not excusable to treat anyone else that way, as like you say we are all made in God’s Image. So I want to say two things: 1. Thank you so much for being an ally and standing with us, and 2. I am sorry for your difficult experiences in these times, especially this incident and pray for your peace and your protection and that of your family. Love and Peace in Christ. x

    • thank you friend for sharing your story. Gosh, I am so sorry that this is something you’ve experienced, and it just breaks my heart to think of what you’ve gone through. You’re right- there is no excuse. I appreciate your prayers – know that I am praying for you and yours as well. Hugs and love xox

      • Thank you so much, sorry this is a late reply – been busy surviving the pandemic, lol! love and hugs and prayers to you and yours too – I hope things are improving where you live. x

  42. I do not have a problem with engagement, even confrontation and controversy, sometimes. But, these must come with a respectful attitude and consent (to the interaction as certainly to any on-line presentation). Shame does not bring understanding nor progress. Take to the streets. Take a knee. Take a stand. “Without love it ain’t nothing” (Larry Norman, paraphrasing St. Paul). – Oscar

    • you’re so right about that, Oscar – respect and consent!! without love it aint nothing — i like that! thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

  43. Oh m goodness Caralyn! How scary for you! I’ve been thinking how strange it must be for you to go from unprecedented empty streets now to violence in the streets. Stay safe!

    • thank you so much Susan! yeah NYC has seen some incredibly surreal times here in the past several months. Just wow. Thanks for your encouragement! Hugs and love xox

  44. So thankful you’re safe!! I can’t even imagine the rushing adrenaline in the moment and knowing how to respond…prayers over our nation❤️🙏…heartbreaking!

    • thank you so much Ali! oh my gosh, yeah there was so much adrenaline. At least now I know I have a deodorant that works! hhahaha jk jk — but in all seriousness – yes — so so many prayers for our hurting nation. Sending you so much love and hugs xox

      • Deodorant that works!!😂😂😂

        Had to read this post to my family (as I have some others of yours over the past few years) …always love how real you get in your post..and my little 14 year old daughter simply admires you❤️…ummm especially the video of the “cream cheese foul” on the kitchen floor 😉

      • Oh gosh this seriously made my day, thank you Ali – I am humbled that you’d read this to your fam! Awww your daughter is so sweet!!! And hahahh the cream cheese foul!! Hahah that was epic. Still cry a little on the inside thinking about dropping that! 😩😂 sending so much love!!!!

  45. It’s scary to think something like this could happen to you when you just stepped out to get some fresh air. You did the right thing by complying with this bully and getting out of there. God is the ultimate judge, anyway, and I happen to believe He has more than one angel protecting you. Having said that, I agree with the commenter who suggested you leave NYC for awhile until things calm down. You can do what you do from almost anywhere, right? Take Caralyn on the road! May the peace of God be in your heart.

    • thank you David for your concern and kindness – you’re right – I was definitely being watched over that evening, and for that I am so grateful. That’s very wise advice that I’m defintiely prayerfully considering. haha take caralyn on the road! that made me smile 🙂 thank you my dear friend, may His peace be with you as well! Hugs and love xox

      • hahha you’re welcome! the way i see it, if someone is going to take the time out of their day to read and respond to my article, the least I can do to show my thanks is to reply!! 🙂 plus! i learn so much from the wisdom and perspectives people share! it is truly a blessing!

      • Awwww you just made my day!! Thank you David!!!! 😊😊😊😊😊

    • oh my gosh, you’re so so right!! it’s spelled out plain as day!! LOVE ONE ANOTHER AS I HAVE LOVED YOU!!!! there is it!!!! stay well, and thanks for this!!! Hugs and love xox

    • thank you Stephanie, that’s exactly what my mother said! she wants me home ASAP! Thank you for your concern and kindness – truly means a lot. stay well! Hugs and love xox

  46. Hang in there, Caralyn! Wondering what my daughter roughly your age and living alone in DC hasn’t shared. This is why I wrote in my blog post yesterday that All Lives Matter. God isn’t color. Doesn’t look on the outside as we do. He looks inside. And as God is love, He looks inside at the heart. Ted

    • thank you so much Ted – oh my gosh i love that, yes – God looks inside at the heart. that is the bottom line. the aboslute truth. we should follow His example. praying for your daughter! Hugs and love xox

  47. Oh, Caralyn, How frightening. I’m twice your age with years of experience standing up for myself, but I would have been scared to death. May we all find a way to find comfort and healing and love in this situation. If only we all treated people according to Jesus’s command, the world would be a much better place.

    • Hi Amy, oh gosh, thank you so much for this heartfelt response and for your concern. Amen to that – we all need to share His love and love one another as He first loved us. that is my deepest prayer for our hurting nation. stay well! Hugs and love xox

  48. Could hardly breath reading this. Lockdown with its good intentions, has brought a lot of injustice, and your experience is one of them. Feeling safe is a human right, that many of us are robbed of in the current situation. I’m happy you know that the only true refuge is in God. Stay safe!

    • aw, thank you for your care and encouragment! you’re right – He is our true refuge! stay well! Hugs and love xox

  49. This is sad. He was not looking to see if you cared about the people. He wanted to bully you. He was determined to permanently destroy you. God created you the way YOU are. Do not apologize for that.

    • thank you JB – amen – God has created each of us special and in His image! Hugs and love xox

      • You are very graciously welcome your Caralynness. You are special, and you are very wonderfully made, and there is no mistake. Too many hugs and too much love to YOU!!!

      • hahha you’re too funny! You never cease to bring a smile to my face, JB! thank you!

      • Hahha. You are very graciously welcome your Caralynness. I enjoy bringing a smile to your face, and you look for more gorgeous while you smile.

  50. I thought your post might lead to that as I read about guy. Unfortunately he is framing it as getting people to virtue signal and conveniently leaving out the bullying and harassment part.

    Screw that guy, just another loser looking for his viral moment.

    • thank you James – that’s exactly right – virtue signaling at its finest, but done through bullying tactics. just wrong on so many levels. stay well. Hugs and love xox

  51. What a scary experience for you! I know your parents must be horrified to read about it, but it seems they raised you well and will take comfort in knowing that you’re sensible, and that God’s got your back <3
    Good article, well said. Thank you for pondering and sharing your deep, God-laced thoughts with us. May God continue to bless and keep you well <3

  52. Lots of comments, as I suspected there would be. First, I am glad you are alright. While we have never met, I am a father, and I have tried to teach my children how to take care of themselves (defend themselves), so I know what it’s like to be concerned for my children and have them tell me, “Dad, I’m fine.” When my oldest had a terror situation, I was at first angry that my teaching were ignored. Later, when I was calm—my daughter was attacked, I remembered that fear is powerful.
    I say all that because, from what I have read on your blog, you have faced fear many times, in different forms. I know God allows mankind’s free will to be one of the methods for which we will be judged. I know you are here for a reason. You have been through things, to help teach others. You have been—and may continue to be—in hard situations, to help teach. If we allow Him to, He will guide us, and use us to help watch over His flock.
    When you ally yourself with Him, you will be saved. He will watch out for us, in this life and the next.
    You are strong, you can endure, He is with you. He provides the way.
    I chose to dress myself properly everyday. Do not forget to do the same. Ephesians 6:11-18 KJV.
    Be safe, be well, God bless.

    • oh gosh, William, I’m so sorry to hear that your daughter went through something so horrific. breaks my heart. Amen – God will use everything for His will. Amen to that. thank you for this beautiful encouragment. Hugs and love xox

  53. What this guy is doing verges on sexual assault… at least harassment. Sorry it came your way. Forcing women to kneel to him? Nobody’s calling that out for what it is?

    Meanwhile, part of something I shared on FB this morning:

    “From the sanctimony herd I’m hearing plenty of braying about ‘You can’t call yourself a Christian unless you (support/ascribe to/agree with) X.’

    Today I read a chunk of Luke 22, and found great peace in what Jesus tells his church. While sharing the ‘Last Supper’ (really the First Communion), he knows that one of his own is about to betray him. Yet he speaks encouragement and comfort, even as his closest followers screw up:

    + They start arguing about which of them is most important. He tells them to follow his example and serve, but then, despite their pettiness, he says ‘I assign you a kingdom. ‘Nothing contingent there, not ‘Straighten up and you can have a reward,’ but ‘I bless you in spite of yourselves.’

    + Although Jesus points out that Peter will deny knowing him when pressure is on, Jesus still encourages Peter with a promise that his (Jesus’) prayers will sustain Peter’s faith and position him to be a source of strength to the other apostles.

    + Jesus asserts that his mission is to identify and be identified with us at our worst – ‘He was numbered among the transgressors.’

    When the sanctimony herd is barking and howling at us about our faults, real or imagined, we can say, ‘Yep. True that’ and move along. We need not justify ourselves or have the last word. ‘He was numbered among the transgressors.’ He identifies with us and gives us his identity in spite of our sins, the ones we actually commit and the ones others make up in their neediness to accuse and tear down.”

    Peace be with you. I hope you don’t lose those precious moments to get out and get air.

    • thank you so much for this powerful powerful response. You’re right – He givies us His indentity in spite of our sins. wow – what a powerful perspective to remember. love that. thank you for this!! Hugs and love xox

  54. I’m so sorry that this happened to you and feel this represents situations happening across our great nation. Words cannot express emotions felt by individuals as we all are hurting in many ways. Thank you for your christian viewpoint and supporting the BLM movement with compassion as Christ instructed.

    • thank you so much Mrs. B – I really appreciate your words of kindness. I so agree – there are so many who are hurting and as Christ instructed, we are to carry one another’s burdens, as we are one family, children of God. stay well! Hugs and love xox

  55. Thanks for sharing…..Thank God, you were alright and God used it to turn something bad into a message for good. That is is our God, isn’t it. God Bless, Alan

    • thank you Alan! Yes! God will always find a way to use our situations for His purpose. stay well! Hugs and love xox

  56. I think part of the blame goes to social media. People have become obsessed with trying to get as many views and likes as they can, and many will stoop t stunts such as Smooth Sanchez. I would have been frightened as well – glad you are OK. I like what the Friars had to say at the end…

    • Thank you so much Jim for your thoughts on this! you’re so right about that – it’s the viral culture, that’s obsessed with self promotion. yeah the friars are spot on!! stay well! Hugs and love xox

  57. Thank you for posting about this awful situation. There was no call for what this person did to you; he was completely out of line. I’m sorry that you had to go through this; it was as unjust as the injustice this Sanchez clown claims to be fighting.

    • Thank you J, I really appreciate your compassion and kindness. I know – that’s what is so sad is that he’s taking advantage of what we really should be focusing on: fighting injustice, and working towards peace. Hugs and love xox

  58. Live in His Peace Sis. The Love of God will continue to allow you to see the way in all situations. Stay strong in the Love of God. Strength in Joy. Strength in Joy.

    • Thank you so much for this powerful perspective. yes! strength in joy! i love that so so much! Hugs and love xox

  59. Dear Caralyn
    I’m glad you’re safe; that must have been a scary experience. I’m glad you took the knee – you might have been harmed if you hadn’t and it’s close to where you stand anyway. I agree wholeheartedly that violence and intimidation will be counter-productive. As you say, the only solution is love, expressed by bearing each others’ burdens.
    With love

    • Hi Penny, thank you so much for this beautiful encouragment. amen – when I heard that quote about bearing one another’s burdens, it just clicked. That is what jesus wants us to do! we are one family in Christ, made in God’s image!!! 🙂 stay well! Hugs and love xox

  60. So glad you’re okay! Although you had this frightful experience, you are strong for sharing your story and even stronger for still sharing a message of peace. We are all human and deserving of a peaceful life in unity and not in division as we have seen. Thank you for sharing and continue to be safe!

    • thank you so much Papa Hannah! Amen to that — every single one of us deserves that peace and to live in the dignity and value that each of us possess. Hugs and love xox

  61. I’m sorry to hear about your horrific experience. The whole BLM movement is very dangerous. Please do stay safe, and perhaps carry a pepper spray with you, especially this crazy times. May God keep His Angels charge over you to protect you from the evil ones.

    • thank you so much friend – yes, I’m learning that there’s a lot more to it than just seeking justice for all people and striving for equality. Lots of underlynig militant undertones that I don’t support. Good idea. Yes I was certainly protected that night, which i am very grateful for. Hugs and love xox

  62. Excellent post. I’m sorry you were accosted like that. Unfortunately there will always be people who will hijack a worthwhile movement for their own selfish reasons. After all, there were those who tried to hijack the movement of our Lord, yes, even some that walked with him desired that he become a crusader against Jewish oppression. But that was not his mission. Fortunately you are too sophisticated, and more than that, too Christian to be lured into a Black Lives Matter backlash. Stay safe and strong.

    • Thank you so much, friend, i really appreciate your kind words and compassion. you’re right- it’s so sad that he’s taking advantage of george Floyd’s death for his personal gain. makes me sick to be honest. thank you so much. Hugs and love xox

    • thank you friend! oh gosh, i appreciate your comment and am grateful for each voice! 🙂 sending lots of love and hugs! xoxo

  63. So glad you are okay! I pray the violence and hatred stops. Nobody should be shaming or blaming white people, and none of us need to get on our knees because of our race. All lives matter and I don’t support racist leftist hate group BLM. I do support police reform and I support the black community in their peaceful protests, but BLM & Antifa are radical leftist hate groups that need to be held accountable for the violence and destruction they’ve caused. Social justice is just a disguise for leftist anti-American & anti-white hatred. Stay safe & stand strong, God bless!

    • Hi Ryan, thank you so much for your kindness. amen – i am joining you in that important prayer. I pray that we can come to resolution, peace and unity in a nonviolent, respectful way! And I’m with you there – I support their peaceful protest! and i’m learning that there’s a lot more to the BLM movement than the “love your fellow man” and “fighting for justice” rhetoric that people are latching onto. I am against violence and destruction as well!!! stay well my friend. Hugs and love xox

  64. I’m glad that you are “okay.”

    A few verses came to mind whilst reading this; Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.1 Peter 3:9 NIV

    And if anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. Matthew 5:40

    Then he said to them all: “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me.Luke 9:23 NIV.

    I appreciate your candor in this article. It’s when we encounter issues like this in our lives that the prayers we’ve lifted up come back to us. Staying “prayed up” as people say. 🙂 Hang in there, trust in the Lord and He will continue to guide you. Meanwhile, I continue to pray.

    • Thank you Jason, I really appreciate that. And thanks for passing along these powerful verses! Yes let’s stay prayed up! Thanks for your prayers. Know that you’re in mine too 🙂 Hugs and love xox

  65. Although we’ve never met I think you know from my comments how genuinely fond I am of you. I’m very sorry this happen to you and am glad you are ok.

    I think the Christian response to all this is love and serve all, but I now to God alone.

    Take care and stand strong!

    • Thank you so much Louie — That truly means so much. And you’re absolutely right – that is the Christian response. Jesus’ entire life was an act of love and service. We are to emulate that. Hugs and love xox

  66. “You change hearts through communication. Through awareness. Through love – working together, as one family.” And those are exactly what we lost! 💝🙈 Hope you are doing fine and glad you weren’t hurt! Stay safe sister! 🌹💝

  67. Thank you for writing! Really sorry you experienced that situation. Reading what you write your heart is for the Lord therefore you are for all people. Thank you for being you.

    • Thank you friend – I appreciate your encouraging words. I was really nervous to post this because that’s exactly how I feel: my heart is for all people. And I did’t want this story to take away from that. Hugs and love xox

      • As long as God is your guide you are in the right place. Not that it will be easy but letting God you no matter what it looks like to others you have done the right thing

  68. Wow! So glad you are okay Caralyn after that encounter. This is certainly a time of love pain hurt and revelation. My prayer as yours is that we all come to see the value of life on earth through Gods eyes in the current events and matters like it. Stay vigilant and safe.😊

  69. Wow! I can’t believe that happened, most importantly is that you are okay and were able to share the story! One thing I dont understand, and please correct me if I’m wrong. Isn’t making white people bow the knee actually being racist by acting superior to them? Is it not also an indication that all white people are being categorized by some black people as being white provelaged? I certainly have not had white privilege if people knew my life, my black fiance could vouch for that. To me, the movement has took a sinister turn. Please if you have time read the blacklivesmatter.com website and see what the movement really stands for. I hate racism but the movement is not only about that. God bless

    • thank you so much for your kind words! I agree – there is no gain to that behavior. And thank you for that heads up — i have learned through the replies on this post that the BLM movement stands for much more than just loving your fellow man and standing up for injustice. I have definitely been made aware!!! so thank you! stay well! Hugs and love xox

  70. I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’m thankful you weren’t hurt. I pray God continues to keep and protect you ❤️

    • Thank you so much Emma, i really appreciate your kindness and prayers! Know that you’re in mine as well! sending you big big hugs and love xo

  71. It is violent conduct by the last settlers to the Cape, the blacks, that had caused the British to install segregatory laws, the start of Apartheid in South Africa. Karl Marx, the embittered atheist communist, then lived there and instigated violence. He exploited the then very basic, illiterate blacks, using them as unpaid soldiers. Ever since, blacks conducted themselves in this mindless, destructive way, proving they held no power over themselves.

    To force a defenseless lady to kneel to any other than Jesus, is just rape in another format. I have never been a racist, but recent conduct makes me consider the option.

    I discriminate freely on the basis of conduct, regardless.

  72. Stay safe, especially when you’re all alone during this unpredictable time. May God give you the protection and covering as you endure this time in NY.

    • Thank you Ivan, I appreciate your kind words and prayer. Know that you’re in mine too! yes – what a time in NY right now, goodness. Hugs and love xox

  73. I’m so sorry. I really hope you’re well. All this scam comes from entitlement, and is very dangerous. It’s so good to see there are people like you so you should be careful

    • thank you so much Larry, I really appreciate your kind words 🙂 Hugs and love xox

  74. Completely agree with the fact that the support extended from all over the world is not to be abused for entitlement or violent conseqences to people regardless of their stance on the matter at hand..

    • thank you so much Aysha! I agree! stay well and many prayers for this nation! Hugs and love xox

  75. Thanks for sharing your story. Sounds scary and sad. One week ago we were all in this together and now it feels like we’re forever separated. But maybe that is for the best as our best hope is we can only be one in Christ.

    • thank you so much Pete — I so agree, the nation feels so deeply divided and it breaks my heart. I agree – one in Christ. Glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox