Indoctrinating our Kids

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Ever see something that makes you wonder, “Is this real life?!

I was recently shopping with Steven at Hudson Yards in NYC. It’s a high end touristy mall on the West Side of midtown Manhattan that attracts visitors, locals and — with shops like Rolex, Dior and Louis Vuitton — those who prefer the finer things in life.

We love to go and just people watch and window “shop.” But that afternoon, we were there actually to pick up a gift for my nieces from one of their children’s stores.

I always gravitate towards books for kids, because…readers are leaders! hahah Just kidding, but I do value the importance of education, and the precious time spent together when parents read to their kids.

Anywho, I was browsing their selection of books, looking for anything “New Yorky,” when I stumbled upon a section of…shall we say, eye opening…books.

I had to do a double take when I saw the titles, “Feminist Baby” and “Little Feminist.”

I was taken aback. This is a joke, right? Like, we’re not really slinging feminist propaganda at children, are we?

Then, of course, I looked to my right and saw lapel pins of Dr. Fauci’s face for sale and remembered…oh yes…this is America, and I’m living in the Bluest Blue state of them all.

Spectacular.

But those books haunted me for the rest of the day.

What are we teaching our kids? What harm does that do to a little girl to tell her from the jump that she should believe that, by being a girl, she should expect to have to overcome her voice being silenced by society?

I mean – not only is that notion absolutely false, but what kind of warped perception of reality is that instilling in our impressionable young girls?

Of course, I am all for championing confidence and power and self-assuredness in our young girls – that goes without saying. Women can do whatever we set our minds to! We are powerful, strong, independent, beautiful and smart!

But why do we have to frame those truths through the filter of being a “feminist?” Why do we have to accentuate the differences between men and women at all? And why do we have to frame the conversation in an “us vs. them” mentality from the beginning?

This whole, “I am woman, hear me roar! Down with the patriarchy!” mentality just doesn’t need to be pitched to little girls.

That’s not the story I want to paint to my future daughters, God willing.

Which leads me to the question: What *should* we be teaching our young girls?

One day, I hope to be a mom, if that’s what God has planned for me. And if I am so blessed to have a little girl, you can bet your bottom dollar that I want to bring her up with a good heart and a strong head on her shoulders.

And to be honest, it’s terrifying to think of bringing children into this broken world. Woke society is encouraging our kids to question their very identity, to see skin color as a defining quality, and to believe that systems are designed to oppress and hold back. I can’t imagine trying to navigate those tumultuous waters as a parent – or as a kid!

What will I want to teach my future little girl some day?

That she is loved.

That she is a precious, beautiful daughter of God, created on purpose, for a purpose.

Because you see, once you know and internalize that…all this feminist mumbojumbo falls into place.

I have always been a feminist, but not by society’s definition. Rather: God’s.

You can trace it all the way back to the creation of Eve: God took a bone from Adam’s rib — from his side, as an equal partner. Not from his head to dominate, not from his foot to be trampled on, but from his side. An equal.

When you know and embrace your position as the daughter of the King, that puts an inherent and undeniable value and dignity on your life. On your personhood: starting in the womb, and extending every minute until natural death and beyond. That daughter-ship is our very essence that allows us to excel in whatever we set our minds to, using our uniquely feminine qualities.

Those relational and receptive qualities that make up our feminine genius are different from and complimentary to a man’s, and yet equally important and necessary to the flourishing of our society. And equip us with special qualifications to excel on whatever path we take in life.

The irony, is that by teaching our young girls to be feminists and to expect to come up against glass ceilings and the patriarchy, we’re actually boxing them in and doing them a disservice.

We can teach our young girls to spread their wings and fly, without politicizing it, or shaping their world view in the process.

Clearly, I am not a parent. And I know that one’s idealistic fantasy of motherhood is never equivalent to the complexities of reality. So I would love to hear from you who ARE parents!

What was important to YOU to instill in your children? How did YOU navigate what the WORLD was trying to teach your child, vs. what YOU want to teach your child?

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71 thoughts on “Indoctrinating our Kids

  1. Thanks for this post! My daughters are my everything and as a Christian in this world.. it’s scary! BUT this post reminded me. I’m teaching them the way God has designed women to work with man, I am leading them. Not the world! I am guiding them with Christian values. Not the world. It’s scary and trying but in the end it’ll be so worth it! ❤️

    1. Thank you Danielle for sharing your thoughts on this! It sounds like you’re raising your girls with good heads on their shoulders! Way to go! praying for them 🙂 Hugs and love xox

  2. years ago,not so long in fact, there was a fashion line, that put erotic notes on the rear end of children’s clothing, mainly, look at my ass was the message, some mothers bought this stuff, because it was bright and cheap mainly, but it went on for awhile, yes, the standards of human thinking is risky to say the least,but there is the other side, those of the light, those who look up, those who find security in the teachings of Jesus, stay say, life turns on small things, but your faith remains strong, amen.

    1. oh my gosh that sounds just terrible! yikes. scary world. scary scary world. thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

      1. all the stuff out there is hard on the vulnerable and mentally tired, pray for wise leaders everywhere and for God almighty to pour out the life giving spirit, amen

  3. You are so nice when it comes to recipes, ED recovery and feel-good relationship posts. Everything else, not so much.

    1. haha, well, you can’t please everyone all the time! thank you though, i appreciate you stopping by! 🙂 Hugs and love xox

    2. Right? Like, I wish she’d stick to recovery instead of spreading her judgmental, unwarranted and anti-gay bullshit. If you don’t like New York, move. If you don’t like
      Feminist literature, don’t read or buy it. This is purely for red pill anti-masker moron likes. If you write a recovery blog, write about recovery. I’m so sick of her garbage coming up on my feed even though I don’t follow.

  4. What to teach your child? The best instruction is how you and your husband interact, to be a model of what they should be. That, of course, has to happen with a Biblical basis. Sometimes our daughters would ask Julie why we conducted our marriage in one way or another. The answer was always that that’s how God made families to work. You might not understand it now, but it will make sense as you mature.

    NO KID’S TABLE!!!! We always treated our daughters as people, not children. We treated them with the same respect and consideration as we do adults. Yes, that was filtered by the parent relationship and the limitations of their age. Toward that end, we never had a kid’s table during any holiday get-together. Our girls learned to be adults by watching how other adults acted and by interacting with them. It was always a learning experience without “teaching” them. I think it also helped their confidence to be treated somewhat equally by the adults there.

    Julie especially taught them to take care of themselves, that they can learn to be self-sufficient. You might say it was feminism without picking an enemy.

    I had a family tragedy last week, and both my daughters consoled me. It struck me that they, for the first time, were being the parent while I was the one in need. I think it’s a measure of how successful Julie and I were in raising them.

    That is how Julie and I did it. I cringe at some of my mistakes, but it seems I got over half right!

    1. Hi Jeff! Wow thank you for this awesome response! you hit the nail on the head! the best lesson is how to love your spouse! i was blessed with a great example, and i know you showed your girls just the same! I love your “no kids table” rule! such a great idea! It sounds like you and Julie make a great team! Oh gosh, i’m so sorry to hear that your family went through a difficult time last week – I hope everything is okay! i will be praying for you and your family.

    2. Loved this. Finally something I can relate to. I am also very much feminism without an enemy. Very much relate to the way you raised your daughters. This made me feel a bit better about my child-raising. We have been through a lot together, so we try to support each other too.

  5. WELL SAID, Lil’ Sister! WELL SAID! I was reminded of Proverbs 31:

    10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
    11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value.
    12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
    13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands.
    14 She is like the merchant ships, bringing her food from afar.
    15 She gets up while it is still night; she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.
    16 She considers a field and buys it; out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
    17 She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks.
    18 She sees that her trading is profitable, and her lamp does not go out at night.
    19 In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
    20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy.
    21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
    22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
    23 Her husband is respected at the city gate, where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
    24 She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies the merchants with sashes.
    25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.
    26 She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
    27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.
    28 Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her:
    29 “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.”
    30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
    31 Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

    1. Thank you so much myron! i LOVE these verses, thanks so much for sharing them! so much truth and power there! Hugs and love xox

  6. If it helps even slightly, we got “Be Kind,” “Feminist Baby,” and “A is for Activist” from various friends and family members, and they are actually rather basic, human decency-oriented books.

    Indoctrination is unavoidable within a family/social system, whether it’s Catholic teaching, feminism in any of its various incarnations, racism, sexism, “free thinking,” etc. I believe that as long as we make our kids aware of all the different systems of thought around us, and that ours is but one of them, we lay a solid foundation for them to make informed choices.

    Thanks for writing this!

    1. A is for Activist, wow that’s a new one! haha I though A is for Apple! but i guess Activist works too! thanks for sharing your thoughts on this! Hugs and love xox

  7. Hello at your excellent blogsite–it is the first time in a long time since I visited, though for a few years I read you frequently. Felt like saying hi again tonight, and seeing for the first time your new layout–fabulous to see the change! I hope I am not being rude, but you have before said that it can make you smile if you get a happy and devout comment from a reader, and so I thought I would say hello.

    I see you have a slightly different format happening now. When I read “woke,” I think of brands like Disney, with such characters as their girl Jedi’s (from Star Wars) and greed-lauding nightmare anti-heroes (like Cruella), or for example Coca-Cola (occasionally spoke as Woka-Cola).

    I think it’s great that we let girls have a proper say. I know my very favourite girl raised her boys with a lot of pride and intelligence, and it shows–boys need to learn that they will someday be men, and it is shame to try to silence male characteristics that don’t pair easily with woke ladies. It is such a strange debate, that’s been going on a long time–“cancelling” men with dated values may be a telling principle if you look at it squarely.

    God Bless You, BBB, and good luck–it is telling that you have been mostly spared by the worst of Covid and that you enjoy some prosperity in a competitive market. Hope all is well, and that you don’t too much the time taken between now and my last few visits to your site–the world’s mad, and sometimes it seems as though the best we can hope for is the love of Our Lord and the love people build bridges with for each other. Do take care!

  8. I agree… it’s sad… especially when you consider that some schools are even teaching children to openly defy parents who don’t understand their gender nonconformity…

  9. Crazy!! What a messed up worldview! That’s why some of my 6 grade girls are so confused. As a teacher, It’s hard to see femininity anymore- either girls seem promiscuous or masculine. I’ve had 11 year old girl students tell me that they think they’re gay. These girls seem so unhappy and restless. This new society is messed up, but thank God we have voices like yours out there with a bold message of faith and a Christian worldview. God have mercy on this world! 🙏

  10. My mom brought me up feminist and I found my own way as I grew closer to God. That is the key. Fear of what the world will do to our (future) kids is a good reason to have good kids we train yo be close to God. Then we balance society and give light and truth and strength to our (future) kids. So important to raise Christians for God. And He needs us to do so. So much more important than ever. I read my kids the Bible-2 chapters every day. They are strong as rocks and are not influenced by crazy people. Love you and your tender heart for Jesus, as always. Hugs!XO😃❤

  11. Here we go again. No one says you have to read those books or that your children must read them. Yet let’s not burn them. “When they burn books, they will ultimately burn people also.” Heinrich Heine 1797. Yes, the Nazis burned his books … and you know the rest.

    As to what to teach children. We teach them how to think not what to think. We value education, art philosophy, science and literature, etc. We teach the value of questioning. “An unexamined life is not worth living,” Socrates.

    We don’t teach our children what to do but support them in what they want to do. We don’t expect them to be a reflection of us, but to become their own selves. We don’t tell them they’re special, but we praise them for the special things they do.

    We discuss, we don’t dictate. We let them grow and know that as they do they change.

    We also teach acceptance, understanding, compassion and how to recognize prejudice and hate. We teach responsibility, self-reliance and kindness and humor. We don’t blame others or think less of them because of the lives they lead — you don’t punish the poor for their plight.

    We also teach that there are no simple answers to complex questions.

    We don’t care for knee-jerk reactions or hastily arrived at opinions. We don’t value ignorance. Knowledge, understanding and caring that’s what we hope our children learn.

    1. The writer and her followers are only OK with indoctrination if it’s from the Bible. Peak ignorance and hate.

  12. Amen, Caralyn! As a parent of a 13 year old daughter and an 11 year old son, I am constantly teaching our kids that their worth is found in God’s love and not the depraved standards of this sick world. My wife and I have had many conversations about the insane “woke” cancel culture & gender bending insanity. Our kids are grounded in God’s Word & they understand that God made us male and female with special gifts, abilities, and purposes that are to be embraced and celebrated as God designed. The best thing we can do as Christian parents is consistently lead our kids to Jesus & the truth of God’s Word in all things. We have open conversations about everything, and the answers they need are always explained perfectly in His Word. We are indeed living through crazy times where the world is calling good evil and evil good. We must stand firm in Christ and help our kids have a close and deep relationship with Jesus. Oh yeah, and don’t let Tik Tok and YouTube control their lives! 😊 It is definitely challenging raising kids in this world, but the Lord will always see us through to the end. God bless!

  13. I work in aircraft maintenance with a hangar full of men. I’ve found it’s better to break stereotypes with my actions than to scream feminism and hope people agree. I do excellent work in my field, and my peers have no trouble acknowledging it.

    I think instead of teaching little girls that they’ll have to FIGHT for equality, we should teach them that they ARE equal. Their actions going forward will prove sexist men wrong. And if those men choose to still be sexist, that says more about them, than it does about the parenting the child had.

  14. I really appreciate your perspective. I have thought this for a LONG time (because I’m old) but have never articulated it well. Yes – teach that we are equal before God, not teach them that they have to come out fighting to make a difference for the Lord.

  15. Absolutely love this post. And I love the positive way you say it. I enjoy your insights. Thanks so much for sharing.

  16. Wow!!! I totally agree with you. There are more constructive ways to teach our children how to find and use their voices. I was visiting my niece recently and she had ordered a some of these books. The one she was trying to force her children to listen to, and which they weren’t at all interested in hearing was one on boundaries. I find nothing wrong with setting boundaries on our person or teaching children about them but this book it focused on all touches including innocent touches which have become magnified and now taboo. I want to be able to hug my grandchildren and not have them look up at mommy or daddy and say, “Is this okay?” Teaching them what is not okay is important but overreacting to any form of touch is questionable.
    I was afraid to touch my great niece and nephew, even for a little hug. When I asked for permission to hug them, they leaped on me, then drew back like maybe they had overstepped their bounds. I felt bad for the them. I left the next day. It was too much for me.

    1. I have noticed this becoming an issue as an observer in conversations among friends on social media. Thankfully not in our family, but I agree it’s unhealthy and concerning to be so overwrought.

  17. Yup, you are so right. I agree 100%!! “Women can do whatever we set our minds to! We are powerful, strong, independent, beautiful and smart!” That’s what we teach our children – boys and girls… change “Women” to “We” and let us all affirm our uniqueness and our indwelling awesomeness! God don’t make no junk! You go, girl!! <3

  18. Dear Caralyn
    I agree with much of what you say in this post. However, it’s worth bearing in mind that the patriarchy – if you want to call it such – is real. The facts for women in positions of authority show it. For example, who was the last woman to be President of the USA? And I can tell you from my own somewhat uncommon background that women are talked over/talked down to by men. I noticed it as soon as I changed, and continue to see it in daily life.
    Which is not to say I want my daughters – I have two, both grown-up – to identify as radical feminists. I want them to be decent people with concern for others; ideally I would like them to know Jesus, but we’re still working on that!
    Knowing Jesus and experiencing the love of God is the most important thing in life, and it’s a message that in many of your posts comes through loud and clear. However, when you post a political message, the first thing that happens is that you split your readership. For example, in this post you antagonise those who define themselves politically as feminists. How will your message of love – and reconciliation – get through to those people?
    Love
    Penny xx

  19. Above all, I think you would be an awesome Mom. May the Lord grant you your heart’s desire.

    The book, did you buy and/or read? What in particular about the book was off except your instinctual revulution at the word, feminist?

    As a Father of a now 31 y/o girl, it really is complicated. Teaching morals and ethics in a secular society is difficult. This means ethics in business and career too. She has done marvelous.

    But, there is no doubt she is taken advantage of routinely in business. Her charity, deeply embedded, is used against her in a very competitive and gender dismissive society. I hope you see these symptoms, too?

    So, I like your version of feminism better, but I must also accept that those without Charity are more militant.

    Today’s Alleluia verse says it well, The Holy Spirit will teach you everything and remind you of all I told you.

    The Father is LOVE, the Son is EXEMPLAR of love, and the Holy Spirit is the Teacher of Love.

    I think you could write a very fine book and will meet the parenting challenge head on. Just be ready, raising Charitable girls brings them certain heartaches too. I just believe they are the better troubles.

    1. “ Just be ready, raising Charitable girls brings them certain heartaches too. I just believe they are the better troubles.” Well said, and a powerful reminder!

  20. As usual, you hit the nail on the head! I’ve got an amazing 11 year old daughter who’s voice is heard and she’s going places. Not because I’ve raised a feminist, but because she knows who she is in Christ and she lives a life to glorify God. She loves God completely, herself correctly and others compassionately. Watch out world!!

  21. Would the message be more acceptable if the feminist tag wasn’t placed on it? For example, having survived domestic violence, I am all for teaching girls their value as human beings loved by the Father in Heaven early in life, so they understand that having a man love them is good but not being in a relationship doesn’t make them less than others.

    When I read of Huldah the prophet in 2 Kings 22 and the respect that King Josiah had in her ability and credibility as a voice speaking for God, I am reminded that patriarchy, defined as a system in which women are valued less than men and women’s ideas are seem as less worthy of attention, was not how the world was meant to be designed.

    I wish that the word, feminist, didn’t engender such strong feelings from women and men, for the messages are meant to teach women that they, too, are made in the image of God: creative, imaginative, loving, strong, and good. Being viewed as equals doesn’t deny differences that make us partners with men in marriage, because God took man’s rib and made woman, and He meant her to be an equal helper and companion, not dominated to the point of fear. To teach women to be submissive and remain in relationshios where they are mistreated verbally, physically, financially, and sexually is dangerous, so for me, I would rather err on the side of feminism than not hear the messages at all.

  22. I was a single, working mom until my daughter was 11. Her father was from an old-fashioned, farming family that suppressed women. It was vitally important for my daughter to see that she could be anything she wanted to be. That she could be sweet, feminine and successful, and still be a mom if she wanted to be. But most important, was for her to understand that she was so very loved, by God, the one who created her and had a perfect plan for her life, to prosper her. She grew up and followed her dreams and is now a master degree’d LCSW, and Director of a department in a VA hospital complex. She is married to a brave veteran and they adopted the joy of all our lives, Maddux-Grace 6 yrs ago. And she didn’t have to be a feminist to accomplish any of this. ❤️

    1. An excellent post. My advice is to let your daughters watch you be you. I was raised in a family full of strong, outspoken women and it never occurred to me that they were oppressed. It never occurred to them either because when any of them set out to do something it got done, and woe unto the one who got in the way.

  23. Probably mentioned in other comments but having drag queens not only write children’s books advocating their lifestyle and sexuality but read them to 3-8 year olds on PBS stations is an outrage. Let them be innocent kids, for heaven’s sake! They’ll encounter the strangeness of this fallen world soon enough.

  24. Great post! Feminism as it is today makes me cringe. I feel like what started as a reach for equality and fairness turned into looking down on men, at least for some.

    I am a mom, and we plan to teach our daughter her value in God’s eyes will always be the most important thing…because unlike people’s opinions of her, God’s opinion never changes. I want to teach her that it’s not black and white…you can believe that women should be treated fairly and with respect, while also choosing to submit to the leadership of her future husband. It’s about balance, and I’ll teach her the details look different for each couple.

    It’s a scary time to be raising kids, but also an opportunity to raise them in a way they’ll stand out and stay strong in their values, instead of going along with what the world teaches.

    ❤️

  25. If you send your daughter to a public school, she may not be encouraged to read this book, as they will teach her that she can choose whether or not she is a girl.
    What I found interesting in the last election was that the crew that are saying there is no difference between boys and girls demanded a WOMAN be on the ticket. Those who say race should not matter demanded she be a MINORITY. The internal inconsistency is beyond logical absurdity. Poor Aristotle or Euclid would probably throw up their hands and emigrate to Italy!! 🙄

  26. Good word, Caralyn! Of course, not everyone is going to like it. It’s interesting how people can’t tolerate opposing views anymore. 🙂 We’ve lost the art of civil discourse in society.

    Like one of your other commenters said, we always taught our kids how to think, not what to think. Now, there is a certain amount of “indoctrination” necessary for a child to learn about life. It’s not wrong to teach them about your views. Where it gets toxic is when it turns into tribalism, “us vs. them,”or we make prejudicial statements like “all ___ are…X.” This is where it becomes toxic indoctrination.

    Faith and politics are two areas where people can get fanatical. When we taught our kids about faith, we explained why we believed what we believed. We let them ask questions. They made up their own minds about it and all have faith in God as adults. But they are also very considerate and hear people out who may have opposing views (a lot better than I do!).

  27. Yes, you are absolutely correct. I raised all three of my daughters to know and understand that they can do whatever they set their minds on, that they can and should be whatever there callings and passions lead them to be and that they do indeed have a voice that needs and should be heard. As long as the worlds are not unkind or destructive. That they may be in anyway inferior or per road such because they are not male was never a factor. As adults they are all strong women who know that they are women, that they matter and never disrespect nor allow themselves to be disrespected. Anything else just plants seeds of doubt and fear. An expectation of discrimination and abuse only excuses it in the end as normal.
    Sorry for the long rant, but I love my girls❤️ and you…

  28. The world is working hard to instill their ideas in our children. At least with a title like that, parents know to beware, but we need to be examining everything we allow our children to soak in. It is in every kind of television show, for children and adults, books, the image dolls portray, songs on the radio, the cover of magazines, and the way our teachers treat others. I had a high school teacher hurl a chair into the black board when she was upset by unexpected news. Hear me roar… not like that. A formidable force against the enemy, yes, but God’s way. There is nothing like reading to our kids straight from the Bible: discussing it, explaining it, living it, and praying it, to shape our beliefs and actions.

  29. Hi Caralyn 🙂

    Once again, an excellent question! 😀

    I’ve thought a bit about how to phrase my response — because I want my commentary to be as good for you as it is for me (and also the same for others, too 😉 ).

    One way to phrase it could be “love your neighbor as much as you love yourself”. Another way is to focus more on the “business” aspect of our lives, and to emphasize the importance of collaboration (rather than competition) — and this is something that is really a strong focal point of my own work. I think one way I phrased it once (to my kids) is to underscore how important it is that they should be aware of the other people they share this planet with (and thereby emphasizing especially the importance of the *own* generation [versus, e.g. my own opinions] ).

    That said, I quite often feel as though my own children do not pay a lot of attention to what I think anyways (that is long story in itself, and certainly beyond the scope of this post).

    Yet another way to phrase my response would be to emphasize natural evolution — and in particular the notion of “swarm intelligence”. This is a very controversial topic — and it’s controversial for *many* reasons. Following leaders (haha, the “wrong” leaders, of course 😉 ) has quite often led to very catastrophic situations for humanity. There’s a book called “Rhinoceros” which portrays such blind faith as a very severe disease (indeed, also as a pandemic). Yet swarm intelligence is also a process that is a very effective approach (and indeed, very arguably a “natural” law).

    I myself am currently working on a rather extensive essay about the importance of swarm intelligence (i.e., also *paying attention* to the *fruits* of swarm intelligence, rather than depicting it merely a *problem*) for humanity.

    Well, so perhaps the best response to your very enticing question is: it’s complicated! 😛

    🙂 Norbert

  30. Each parent wants to teach values that he or she has. These books are not surprising at all because we live in a secular society. Ideas can be wrong but sometimes we can go overboard with our level of disgust. We teach our own children the values of faith in God. To walk with Him and do what is right. Secular ideas are different but not always evil. A diversity of ideas is how we learn and grow.

  31. You say indoctrination is wrong, and it’s wrong to do that with kids, but at the same time you mention God repeatedly in your article as well as even mention the bible passage on Adam and Eve. And also say how you’re not surprised to see these books in a “blue state.” As well as go on about being “woke” and tie that into a negative connotation. That in itself is also a form of indoctrination.

    There is never an issue with “indoctrination.” The issue is, that it’s never what people want to be true for their side of belief. When people get upset they can’t say Merry Christmas at work, because they have to say Happy Holidays. They get upset without taking into consideration about how the other side might feel about having to say something they don’t want to.

    More and more people are becoming “woke” and are seeing through the old archaic systems that have existed. Systems that are designed to divide because they were created with supremacy in mind. That scares those who are afraid of change, or are afraid of losing power. We need more and more of it to continue to create a better world for our future’s children’s children.

  32. My daughter was a tomboy. Boy did she get grief for not being into Barbies and all things pink and frilly. Just leave them alone. I had to protect my daughter from the pink and fluffy brigade. I made it clear we were fine with her playing football, which she was tormented about. Ramming anything down a child’s throat (whether feminism or sexuality)usually leads to rebellion in my view. All my daughter’s friends have rebelled against the values with which they were raised. I try to sit back and watch and learn. I mean I screwed up, who am I to tell them anything.?

  33. Caralyn Collar is mirroring a lot of racist/homophobic/White Privilege talking points here, a common theme in a lot of her writings. Here are her assumptions:

    1)There is a group of people mobilizing to humiliate you.
    2) You must oppress them first.
    3) My hateful, vengeful God is on my side, and not your side.
    4) When people confront you, hide behind your disorder.

    Wash, rinse, and repeat.

    That is why she does not like her named mentioned.

  34. We’ve been accomplices in wrecking the planet and the animal kingdom so its natural satan has his sights on defacing the image of God in humans as well and unfortunately we as a human race are willing participants in the plan to deface that image. The good news is God has a timetable and we are almost at the point when He will intervene, deal with evil and take us to a better land.

    1. It really is so sad, Ian. So so sad. Thank you for reminding us of that truth: God is in control and has a plan! Glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

  35. Keep speaking the truth my friend! Know that there are people praying for you and that appreciate your boldness to say what many will not say. Do not be distracted by the chatter from those that cannot see or dare not to catch a glimpse of the Light. Just know there are many praying for you and with God all things are possible. Carry on my friend. Blessings

  36. A lot of people say they would like to be young again, me, no way. I cant imagine growing up now. Without spirituality people are lost, they seem so anger and so confused. Been young used to be about being innocent, now it seems they want to teach children stuff they shouldnt hear about until teens at the very least. Children as young as 5 taught about gender, seem to be more and more genders each year, what does that do to a childs mind. Its so so sad, I try my best not to think about it but its a growing concern.

  37. Thanks for this post. I like and use some of the same affirmations spoken to my daughters, grands, and other. I like the phrase teaching our daughter, other girls how to use their wings to soar. I wrote a Children’s book “I Love ME and teen book I Love ME From Pieces Made Whole both with workbook and activities to bring awareness to domestic violence and abuse.

    1. Oh wow – those sound like such powerful books. I would love love love to read them. Thank you for stopping by today and sharing your heart. You’re a beautiful person. Hugs and love xox

  38. This is an unfortunately NECESSARY post! Thank you fir your heart felt, Godly wisdom and courage.

    I’m a Mema now. We raised two sons we are so grateful for and proud of. I confess to missing some good opportunities for discipling, but also, with the Grace of God, succeeded in others. A long time ago the Lord showed me His Grace was sufficient to fill in all the empty spots, or ways my husband and or I came up short. He is so faithful! Our prayers continue to shape, mild and bless! And our LOVE does as well!

    And now I am blessed with two daughters in love and two granddaughters. So I try by example and just my influence as a Mema, and Momma in love, to light the way forward as a God loving lady who loves the Lord and loves her family and works hard with a happy heart to be a blessing to her family and those around her!! Unashamed snd unflinching! I hope and trust I’m on the right track to make a difference!

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