Dear Beyoncé,

There’s something really beautiful about humility.

I’ve been kind of on a pop culture “fast” recently. Not by choice…

Ever since my mom had her stroke over Christmas, we literally haven’t turned on the TV. Which is crazy, considering how glued I was to the news during the election.

But for whatever reason, tonight my parents and I decided to watch the Grammy’s.

And that may or may not have been because I thought the Biebs was performing 🙂

But I digress.

Going into the night, I had obviously heard about Beyoncé‘s attention-grabbing nude pregnancy photo shoot, but to be honest, I have so many (more important) things to occupy my time right now.

But her Grammy’s performance…..daaaaaang.

I honestly had to take a moment to collect myself afterwards.

And not because I was so moved by her “brilliance.”


I needed to just get away from the sheer glorification of self we collectively had to witness.

Now, let me begin by saying this: I have nothing against the Queen Bey. I love her music. But I’ve always said, “I don’t worship at her altar.” – Kind of half-kidding.


But tonight….that was actually literally accurate, as Beyoncé was adorned and bedecked in a full on personification of a cross between a Hindu goddess and the blessed Virgin Mary, complete with a golden, saintly crown (that was eerily similar to a monstrance.)


My dad watched 30 seconds and said, “This is making a mockery of religion,” as he got up and left the room.

But that’s for another post. I’m not even going to go into that tonight.

What irked me about the performance was that she chose to portray herself as a literal deity.

Since being home with my mom, I’ve been spending, literally, every waking hour with her – from 6am until I pass out at 11pm. (That is, unless I’m up until 1am writing a post!)

But I’ve been my mom’s “wingwoman” – attending all of her bible studies and book clubs and social gatherings with her.

And Friday morning, we were at book club, and the book was The Hidden Power of Kindness.

And uncannily, the chapter they were on was on caring for the sick.

I kid you. Frickin. Not.


But there was a powerful line in the book that said, “Sickness makes people more humble.”

Beyoncé’s performance tonight, it was all about motherhood, as she just announced last week that she was expecting twins.

So this performance was a celebration of womanhood and specifically, motherhood – and elevating herself to goddess-status because of her pregnancy state.

But I’m here to tell you – what I’ve learned from my own mother in this season helping her recover from her stroke, is that the most powerful “glorification of motherhood” is when she is the most meek and humble.

In fact, the best exemplification and celebration of mothers would never be the glorification and deification of self, but rather, humbling oneself and serving and loving others.

Seeing my mom, in this vulnerable state, she has never been more beautiful to me. Ever.

All her life, she has never asked to be “adored” or “worshiped” because of her status as “mother.” In fact, just the opposite. She has always sought to give of herself to others. And even now, when she can’t really do that at the moment, that humility makes her all the more beautiful and lovable.


There was just such a stark contrast between seeing Beyoncé, adorned in a golden halo crown and dressed as a deity, glorifying herself because she’s a mother and a woman; and then looking over at my beautiful mother, fighting for her life to regain her memory and her speech after her stroke. That woman, is worthy of all the praise in the world, and yet would never ask for it, nor covet it.

I’m not bashing Beyoncé. Truly, I’m not. She’s talented and I’m sure, a terrific mother to Blue, and the babies in her belly. This is not meant to be a judgment on that. It is merely an observation.

Looking at my mother tonight, on the couch, concentrating on absorbing the sights and sounds coming at her from the TV, – she was absolutely radiant, giving Beyoncé a run for her money.

There’s something really beautiful about humility.

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493 responses to “Dear Beyoncé,”

  1. This is really interesting to me because I heard that Adele was super humble (but I can’t confirm because I didn’t watch.) I think everyone reacts to fame differently. I’m sorry that you (?) felt offended by what she wore. It’s a little sad how mainstream it’s become to bash on religion. I’m just like let people believe in what they believe! If they want to worship a rock, let them! If they want to worship God, let them! (I don’t want to be THAT person but you spelled deity wrong.)

    At any rate, I wish you and your family the best during your mum’s recovery. Godspeed to her.

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    • Thanks for this! You’re right, everyone responds to fame different. Yeah, Adele was really humble. I wasn’t really offended, just more taken aback and like…”wow.” Yeah, I definitely don’t expect pop culture to respect or have anything to do with religion, but this was just a little extreme. Oh oops! haha I’ll go in and spellcheck! haha that’s my 1am brain for ya 🙂 thanks so much, my beautiful friend! I always love hearing your thoughts!! 🙂 hugs xox

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  4. Beautifully put – I have been trying to put words to my thoughts about the pictures I have seen (I didn’t watch the Grammy’s). I am not one to take offense to a lot of things, and I love culturally ethnic art. However, I agree with your dad, and I was so disappointed to see the embrace of ethnicity take a turn toward deification.

    And, I did NOT think about the Monstrance on her head until I saw a meme floating around about it today (something about Jesus wearing it better).

    Finally, such a beautiful reminder that motherhood is most beautiful when it is raw, humble, and real. Thank you for that reminder!

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    • Thanks so much Anne. I really appreciate your encouraging words. You’re right, we had a bit of an icky feeling watching it. Yeah, it’s kinda crazy when you think about the symbolism. thanks for stopping by! hugs xox

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  7. I can’t remember the last time I watched any of these award shows. It’s one thing to like an artist’s music and another thing entirely to worship celebrities with a devotion best reserved for God.

    Not that all of these artists expect this, but being only human, when you pay that much attention to a person, it’s not only possible, but highly likely they will start eating it up with a spoon and then expecting it.

    As I’ve gotten older, I have less and less respect for that sort of human being. Maintaining the ability to express humility must be a tremendous effort for anyone in that position, so my hat’s off to those who do. For those who don’t, I don’t care how much money they make. Neither does God.

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    • Thanks so much James. You’re right, people can take it too far and worship these celebs. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You’re right – humility is a pretty incredible virtue. hugs xox

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  8. I wasn’t as offended by the Beyonce performance, but I rarely look to entertainers for moral insight or guidance (didn’t quite understand the sexualized imagery on Beyonce’s Instagram?) but your mother would seem to represent the true power of a person whose legacy has clearly impacted your very being, I am humbled by that. Thank you for sharing such profound truth.

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  9. ” The hidden power of kindness ” ….when I read this line, I think of you! Thank you for sharing this part of your journey….we can’t know why now, but we can trust God has you there not only for an immediate purpose of daily care and companionship but for a foundation of something later in your life! It might be years before God reveals this to you and when he does you will have another chapter of your testimony. This one will be powerful and touch many hearts! I am so proud of you and would like to thank you for being an inspiration and in my life!

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    • Aw, Rick, what a kind thing to say! I am seriously so touched by this. I am so grateful that our paths crossed and that I can call you a friend 🙂 hope you’re having a great week so far! hugs xox

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  10. No better words could have been spoken. I was so shocked to see those women “on the ground at Beyonce’s feet like she was the virgin mary or a deity of some religion to be worshipped. It almost brought to mind the woman in Revelations that was giving birth. The great harlot. That was all I could think in the back of my mind. I hate to think that but that was all I could think as I watched her draw all that attention to herself as she cradled her stomach as if she were the ONLY woman in the world to EVER carry twins. It is a sad state of our country when girls look up to idols not God. Thank you for this moving post. God bless you for caring for your mom. It is not easy I bet, but you are doing what a daughter should, and God will place jewels in your crown for it. I bet your mom is grateful and feels more comfort with you helping her and is at more peace at home. She is blessed to have you!! I will keep you all in my prayers. 🙂 God bless you!

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    • Thank you so much Tina. Yeah, it was pretty outrageous. We looked at each other and were like, is this really happening?! Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I’m glad this resonated with you. My mom is pretty awesome. thanks for your prayers. means a lot! hugs xox

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  11. As usual, your posts captivate me 🙂 I didn’t watch the Grammy’s. As a matter of fact, we don’t watch television at all, ever, lol. Just out choice.

    At any rate, first of all the “thing” that woman was wearing reminded me of the Starbucks woman/brand or whatever it is (which is supposedly suppose to be a fertility goddess of something related to the sun – you see how much I know lol) which came off as a passive political statement. Secondly, if I were pregnant I would DARE NOT act like that. It was a shame, and again, I only saw pictures, but it seems you hit the nail on the head. What is this world coming to?!

    On an ending note, I just want to let you know that your family is in my prayers. Your mother, that her recovery be speedy and complete and for you, that you are blessed beyond measure in your devotion to her, as I’m sure you will be <3

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    • aw, thank you so much! gosh, what a kind thing to say. How powerful that you are TV free! I wish I could do that 🙂 haha Yeah, I’m with you – that was brave to bare a pregnant belly – of twins no less! – on national television. Thanks for your prayers. it really means a lot. hugs to you xox

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  12. Hi Caralyn…you are way more gracious than I am. I cannot stand what I consider nauseating self-glorification of celebrities. As I read your blog, the words of Jesus to the Pharisees came to mind immediately, “He said to them, “You are the ones who justify yourselves in the eyes of others, but God knows your hearts. What people value highly is detestable in God’s sight.” (Luke 16:15). The last statement is a zinger…the value systems of the world often run crosshairs with God’s heart. I believe the beauty that you saw in your mother is the same beauty the Christ is drawn towards. Humility is beautiful in the eyes of God…I believe He was giving you a view through His lens. “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” (James 4:6). I am not anti-entertainment or celebrity, far from it, but I believe the self-aggrandizement of this age borders on idolatry. I love the promise of Jesus as He reveals His heart…“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” The Lord Himself is humble and He loves the humble heart! Okay…I’m done…sorry for the rant…ya got me going there sister!
    Tom

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    • Hi Tom, thank you so much for sharing these quotes. It is really powerful to read and juxtapose them to the world we live in. A real thought provoker in your words. Hugs to you xox

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  14. I think you did a beautiful job of expressing yourself, and your feelings without bashing anyone. Of course Beyoncé is an entertainer, and she really knows how to give us something to watch and talk about. I would like to think her performance was done strictly in that spirit.
    Regardless, it’s a wonderful gift you have, the ability to see the true and real and raw and sometimes painful beauty God shares with us in so many different ways every day. God bless you and your family.

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  15. I agree with your dad. I couldn’t watch. As I don’t know her intentions, I’ll give the benefit of the doubt. I’m guessing she was trying to portray empowerment to all women. Her performance fell short and didn’t remotely come off that way.

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  16. I pray that Beyonce’ and scores of other “stars” and “celebrities” learn humility. The powerful experience of the 12 Steps helped me. Also the Most Holy Rosary of the Blessed Virgin Mary. Praying the Rosary teaches me the power of losing my self in devotion to the Blessed Mother. I love your posts. Prayers and a hug to your Mother and your Dad!

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  17. I had a similar reaction to her performance. It was puzzling to me. I completely did not get it. And what I really don’t get is that sometimes her music alludes to infidelity on the part of her husband. I heard it in the song last night too (in my perspective). She was talking about being split open in a painful way. Child rearing can do that, so I don’t know. Call me puzzled. I hope one day my son has an ounce of the love that you do for your mom.

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    • Hey there! Gosh, that’s so kind of you to say. thank you so much. Yeah, I heard that lyric too, last night, about Jay-Z. I’m puzzled too. Thanks for stopping by! hope you have a great night! hugs xox

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  19. Her performance leads me to think of a quote that I love, “arrogance and fear, they will keep you from learning the simplest thing, it’s not about you.” I think that many, especially celebrities and those in the spotlight are praised by so many that it goes to their heads and humble goes out the window. Kanye West jumped on stage and embarrassed Taylor Swift to say Beyonce should have won, and Adele turned down her well deserved award because she felt that Beyonce should gave gotten album of the year. I don’t recall Beyonce ever giving up her spot and putting any other celebrity on the high pedestal that they put her on. Her performance really creeped me out and I felt like she considered herself worthy of worship. No Ma’am!! I do not worship man.

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    • Oh wow, what a powerful quote. I’ve never heard that before but it’s so true – arrogance and fear … has destroyed many lives. Thanks for your thoughtful response. Amen to that! No Ma’am indeed! Hope you’re having a great night! hugs xox

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  20. There is nothing more attractive than seeing someone being humble. It’s a practiced characteristic that makes one put others first. Something you’re really good at! Keep up the good work! Always praying for you and your family!

    ~Tom

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  22. Sing it, sweeheart. You’re still doing exactly what you are meant to be doing… revealing God truth right where you stand.

    Humility is a virtue/gift much more precious than fame or success because, without humility, one has a difficult time being aware of God.

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  23. What more could we expect from the children of Eve? [Insert melancholic you-know-you’re-right-but-it-really-sucks smile here] The saddest part of Eve’s story was she was already made in Father’s image, she was already just like her Papa, and it wasn’t her downfall to want to be like him but she got tricked into believing she had to do more. And it hasn’t stopped.
    Thank-you for your insight Caralyn, as always (: You are very discerning and while it’s not easy to see your world for what it is, it is a valuable gift [=

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    • Thanks Carson. That’s so true – she was already in His image. That’s a powerful thought. Yeah, we definitely are the product of a fallen world. That’s why community is so important to navigate through it with. Hope you’re having a great week so far. Hugs xox

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  25. This moved me. Not because of the Beyoncé stuff perse but rather the light you shown on your mother. As a mother myself I can only pray that my children would see me in the same way you see your mom (and only if I’m worthy… I hope I am). That I have enough humility in my service to them in this life. Once again I find myself wondering if I’m saying it right what exactly it is that I mean–this one’s hard to express I think. I know you don’t want to be held to a standard of nobility for the care you are giving your mom right now, but I think kind of the point is that you having the emotional capacity to do with grace and strength brightens your moms aura even more- she raised you. She brought all of the beauty in your bones out from within, nurturing –so you shine bringer too in part Because of her influence in your life. Gifts to each other you are. Special hearts with special gifts to give because it is natural to do it. God bless you both for looking up to Him in faith for strength. ❤️

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    • Thank you so much. Yeah my mother is pretty incredible. I am very blessed to have her in my life. And gosh – no no, I’m just doing what needs to be done. I definitely think our hearts are connected in a special way though:) thanks so much for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  26. Thank you for your honest appraisal of a pop culture moment and the generosity of spirit that comes through in caring for your mother. Blessings to you and your parents.

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  28. So beautifully written. I didn’t watch the Grammy’s, but I’m so glad that you’re seeing the beauty in your Mother. Sounds like you’re doing much better. Thank you so much for your kind words yesterday. They meant a lot. ❤️❤️❤️

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  32. A thought provoking essay, as always!

    I liked Beyonce’s performance. I didn’t find it religiously offensive, and I enjoyed the way she played with feminine, pregnant ideas of the Divine. (And, for what it’s worth, my first thought was of Isis, not the Virgin Mary or Durga or Lakshmi, etc.–though I assume she borrowed from lots of different traditions.).

    Also, I don’t think Beyonce’s performance took anything away from your mother. Reading this, I feel as if you felt she somehow insulted the kindness, patience and heroism of women like your mom. I didn’t get that vibe at all. To me, Beyonce just put on a dazzling, body-positive show. A show that in no way negated quieter expressions of motherhood.

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    • Hey Jenn! Thank you so much for this awesome perspective! I always love hearing your thoughts. Yeah, it was definitely a great production. she’s uber talented and that really showed last night. I guess I wasn’t offended, as much as I was just struck by the juxtaposition between these two women at that moment in time — beyonce on our tv, and my mother sitting in the same room, and just how both, in their own way were celebrating motherhood. I guess, my bias came out as to which I preferred 🙂 hehe But thanks so much for sharing this! i love to hear different points of view! after all, isn’t that the point of art?! 🙂 have a great night! hugs xox

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  33. Glad you addressed this. I too think she is a great entertainer but she is by no means a deity, and I feel like that performance made her out to be one. She is an entertainer, not a god. She stands on a stage, not an altar.

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  37. I see a lot of judging here by people. Observations she should be humble, and the only way to show the glorification of motherhood is by humility and meekness. It really isn’t anybody’s place to lay judgment.

    I just think people might want to reread Matthew 7 again and think about it before talking about whether she represents motherhood well or not.

    It isn’t anyone else’s place to do that.

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    • Hi there! Thanks for this perspective. I definitely didn’t mean to come across judgey – that was 100% not my intention. I was just struck by the juxtaposition of the two celebrations of motherhood – one on tv by beyonce, and the other by my mother (without her knowing) in her humble state. I wasn’t really trying to suggest that one is any ‘better’ of a mother than the other, just pointing out the contrast. I’m sorry if this offended you. That was definitely not my intent. I will definitely go back and read Matthew 7 🙂 Thanks for sharing your heart and your point of view! hugs xox

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      • Honestly it wasn’t you specifically I was referring to. I saw where you were going and I am sure nothing was meant. The problem I had is watching the comments become an echo chamber getting more and more judgmental as people post.

        I saw less and less love and understanding and more and more preaching from the comments. This is not just here, most churches do this too so it isn’t something unexpected.

        It wasn’t meant for you as the reason or my comment.

      • Ok, thanks 🙂 Yeah, I definitely tried to craft the post in as non-judgemental of a position as possible while still expressing my point of view. Goodness knows I have a laundry list about 3 miles long of things I need to work on, so who am I to throw a stone!? haha #butseriously 🙂 Hope you have a great Monday evening! much love to you xox

  38. Your post got to me BBB! As you were talking about sickness making you humble. I have a sickness of sin. 100% chance of death. I wonder if this is the reminder that God gave us that he made us of dust. We are to be mindful of this fact. The result of being mindful, no matter how healthy I am I still have the disease, still made of dust, as I remember this it should help make me humble now, today Similar to your mom.

    As my anger and hatred for all sicknesses and death become more focused, I find I feel more foreign here than I ever have. Yet, the more foreign I become the more tender I become to all the folks around me no matter what they feel or think about God. Yes, I still falter at times with my love toward other people. But now faltering for long moments. Not choosing to live in indifference to others continuously. Just changing with out notice unless others share and provoke a realization of what God has done in a mere mortal. Thanks for the post BBB,, what do you think?

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    • Hey Denny! Thank you so much for your kind words and thoughtful reflection. Amen to that — I have that sickness too! haha You’re right though, we should try to remember that we’re dust. It’s a good reminder of Who is calling the shots. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts! hugs xox

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  39. Self-glorification has always been such a turn-off to me. And I have never enjoyed Beyonce’s crass and vulgar lyrics. She has such an incredible set of pipes–would love to see humility back it up, which really is something deeply beautiful to see.

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    • Thanks so much for this refection. Yeah, Beyonce is a terrific talent! She has an incredible voice and stage presence — this performance was just a bit much. thanks for stopping by! big hugs xox

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  40. Love your heart, as per usual. Love your post, also as per usual. I am a mother of two and husband of one (one is more than enough lol) and I feel most blessed when serving my family. I do not want credit for that, I want them to feel blessed by my taking care of them. I want God to get the credit for He gives me strength. I am incredibly strong in every way, but that has nothing to do with me, all to do with God and His grace. He has chosen to bless me with strength. Those who glorify themselves really limit their horizons, they can only rise to their own pride level. Those who humble themselves and glorify God, He will lift them up stronger at each turn. Knowing is half the battle. Killing the pride is quite a different matter. lol 🙂 Love you, beautiful! Doing great with momma. XOXOXO!

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    • thank you so much Tonya. I really appreciate your kind words! What a beautiful heart you have for your family. That is so lovely. Amen to that – Christ holds us up and gives us strength! Thanks for your encouragement. This brightened my day 🙂 hugs xox

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  42. Great post!

    I think celebrities are our society’s gods. That’s why we take celebrity deaths so hard. I’m working on a short creative piece about this same topic for my blog next week.

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  43. I’m sure that Beyonce’s daughter and future babies will look at her in the performance the same way that you admire and love your mother for her strength and beauty.

    Women are too often asked to be humble and gracious and play small. For what? Every woman is special and beautiful and motherhood is universal. Her performance was elaborate but it was a performance. If you follow Beyoncé, in her Lemonade film/album (released in April 2016) there is a line that says “God is God, and I am not.”

    Also Beyoncé was inspired by the Yoruba Goddess Oshun. She is a west African goddess of fertility.

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    • Thank you so much, Sonique, for this perspective. I did not know that about her inspiration. That’s very interesting. And that’s a great line from her album. I didn’t know that. You’re right – we aren’t called to play small. Thanks so much for this great food for thought. big hugs xox

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  44. Beyonce’ is good but both you and your mom are both BEAUTY BEYOND BEYONCE’!! Biggest hugs to both of you!!! Happy Valentines to both of you and I’m so happy you are both together to share your love for life!!

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  45. Terrific post-I admire not only your description of your mother’s strength and generosity, but the deep beauty you see in her-this is the definition of love-sounds like you are very lucky to have one another. Best wishes to you both as she recovers.

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  46. Hugs! Reading the comments here, and just wanted to add that our life experiences influences and shapes the way we look at things, it’s always immensely personal – your hand in helping your mother with her recovery has given you an intimate insight into motherhood, meekness and humbleness that is unique and special. Sharing it with all of us takes integrity and courage. Beyonces celebration of her pregnancy and glorification of her womanhood as a goddess is over the top, but then that is unique to her persona as a performer and celebrity status. Beyonces depiction for me is a fun examination of populous culture, and symbol appropriation within our secular world.

    Now view together, both provide an interesting and dichotonomus discourse between the private and public, or between the sacred and the profane. – XD <3

    Now

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    • Thank you so much for this perspective. I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts! I definitely can see that – though it was over the opt, I can definitely see what she was trying to communicate, and I do appreciate her celebration of motherhood. Yeah, my mom is an incredibly special woman, and I learn so much from her every single day. big hugs to you xx

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  47. A very good read. A parent is supposed to be the strong foundation that the rest of the family can build upon; but when a cardiovascular accident (CVA) (new terminology for a stroke) happens, that foundation crumbles, if only in the mind of the victim.

    In four more days I will pass the fifth anniversary of my own CVA. Right after it happened, my mind was screaming with what I wanted to say, but my body could no longer follow the brain’s orders.

    For a retired senior non-commissioned officer from the military, a father, and a brand new grandfather, there was nothing more terrifying than losing (in my mind anyway) my ability to perform my duties as the patriarch of the family. Fortunately, my actions immediately following the CVA prevented the incident from becoming worse than it did.

    Since that day, I am still fighting to try and recover all that was initially lost. My wife was gone for a week when it happened and originally resisted that I had suffered a CVA until the neurologist told her to her face to make her believe. Afterwards, she gave me no support which irked me to the nth degree and made me work harder to recover.

    The best thing (in my humble opinion) you can do for your mother is spiritually help her by acknowledging each victory of progress she makes while quietly making her make progress no matter how minute each achievement is. Tell her how much you love her and present a positive front that she will overcome this setback.

    In the meantime, you and your family will be in our prayers for as much recovery as the Lord will permit.

    God Bless,

    The R.I.

    PS – Sorry for being long winded.

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    • Wow, RI. I am so touched by your thoughtful response. First of all, thank you for your service to our country. Secondly, thank you for your prayers – it is greatly appreciated. And thirdly, my gosh! I’m so sorry that you also suffered a CVA. It just breaks my heart to hear you describe what you went through. That’s such great advice though – I will love her and encourage her through this. That is what I am called to do. Thanks for your encouragement. Sending the biggest hugs xox

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  50. I generally don’t watch award shows of any kind, so I didn’t see the Grammys. But I did see some tweets about the costume. Displays of bowing to any person are freakish to me. But enough about that…great post about your Mom and I’m confident she gave Beyonce more than a run for her money.

    Blessings and prayers to you both (and your Dad – good for him!).

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    • Thank you so much! I really appreciate your prayers and kind words 🙂 Yeah, I am definitely very blessed to have such wonderful parents. And I’m with you — a bit freaky. Unless you’re Queen Elizabeth, it seems a little….much. Thanks for stoping by! big hugs xox

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  51. I didn’t watch the Grammy’s, but I have heard a lot about Beyoncé’s performance. I thought your words were beautiful!! There is something truly beautiful about being humble, and I think it is something we all need to strive to be better at. Praying for your mom and your family. God bless

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    • Thank you so much Krystal. You’re right – I definitely need to work on being better at that too. Thanks for your prayers and encouragement. it means the world. hugs to you xox

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  54. This is why I love your blog and I’ve missed reading your honesty and humor. I didn’t even watch the show, but for a while now, there has just been something about Beyoncé that doesn’t sit well with me. And I used to love her, but she’s just so different now. I love your observation of your mother and that you are able to realize that even through this difficult time, your mother is beautiful. In being kind, and humble, and never asking that a crown be bestowed upon her head for it. I love this post, as I do everything you write. I got that one day we can return to a world that smiles on kindness and humility. Thanks for the share girl!

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    • Thanks again Celestial. Yeah, I think through all of this, my mom’s beauty has shone even brighter. There was another line in that book that says when people are sick, the qualities we love become even more lovable. And I think that’s so true. I hope that too- what a world that would be 🙂 hope you’re having a great Tuesday! Xox

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  61. Great post and very thought provoking comments as well. <3
    I'm with you on this one. My mum had two strokes recently and I'm experiencing the same as you. Thank you for sharing!

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  64. I remember when Madonna was expecting and the media circus hyped it all so much, you would have thought no-one had ever had a baby before. It’s part of the manipulative commercial game that their creativity is promoted through. We don’t have to buy into it and beauty is found in so many simple moments. The love flowing in your life is profound. <3

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    • Hey Jane! Oh gosh, yeah I bet there was a circus. You’re right, there’s so much joy to be found in the simple moments – i like that 🙂 thank you so much for your kind words. hugs xox

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  66. I did not see the performance, but have heard commentary on both sides. I am not a fan of her music and never have been. If I were, this performance would have placed me exactly where I have always stood…not being a fan. I agree that the best celebration of motherhood is demonstrated in the pleasure and delight one receives from living out that role. Your mother, my mother and many others personify the very definition and true intention of motherhood. Those are just my thoughts…Thanks for sharing.

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  67. I watched withmy sister last night and we both said the same same thing! Never seen such self-gratification and self-importance in my life! Humble she is not! 😣🙄 prayers for a speedy and smooth recovery for your mum 🙏🏾

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  71. Loved reading this! I have always felt this way about celebrities in general. People tend to put them on some kind of pedestal. ‘Entertainment Tonight headlines! Kim Kardashian is having a baby!’ Oh my gosh! A human is reproducing (and is probably going the child a name from a different direction on the compass).

    People tend to be part of the world; I try to stay of the world. As a Christian, I am a child of the kingdom and not of this world.

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  72. I listened to a brief interview with Beyonce’s father. He seemed so down to earth and grateful for Blue and for the new babies coming that I thought I might have been to harsh on the woman when I saw the nude photos. These types of “events” are so publicity, marketing oriented that I am just saddened by them. I don’t watch ANY of the awards shows. The amount of money spent on self-aggrandizement is just sickening. The shows are just huge expensive marketing ploys. Think of all the good that be done with the millions spent on producing those extravaganzas. I am not as kind as you when it comes to these people. Pretty is as pretty does, and I see nothing but ugly. I personally know one of the people who worked behind the scenes with the Bieber entourage. He is not kind, not nice, not generous. His success has gone to his head to say the least.
    Ok, rant over. I am so glad that you are there for your mother. I, too, had the greatest mom ever. She was a class act in every regard, and she, too, lived to take care of others quietly behind the scenes never expecting recognition much less adulation. She passed at the age of 94 of metastasized breast cancer. It went to her bones and eventually every organ in her body. I was so blessed to have her come to my home to live out her last months and days. While it was the saddest time of my life, I treasure every moment of the time we spent together. We became closer than ever before. It has been 12 years since she passed, but not a day goes by that I don’t think of her. Sometimes, I wish she had not been so tough, loving, resilient, kind, hard working, and stern. LOL I don’t try to be her. Measuring up to that legacy would be impossible, but maybe I am evolved 🙂 enough to not embarrass her.
    I had a marvelous support system in my husband and children. I know that I neglected them, but they understood that the only person I had eyes for at the time was Mom. We did manage to put on a graduation party for my oldest son in that time, and yes, I nearly lost it. Well, honestly, I did lose it, complete melt down that was aimed directly at my husband. We survived <3 A book called Final Gifts by Callanan and Kelley, two hospice nurses, gave me the insight to understand what my mother was going through to be supportive and helpful to her as she negotiated her final days.

    Keep up the good work. I don't read everyone of your blogs, but I read some. I admire your strength and your faith. I consider myself a recovering Catholic struggling to recover from the damage done by too much, too early. Reading your journey helps sometimes to keep me on mine.

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    • Hi Cynthia, thank you so much for this beautiful heart felt response. I am so sorry to hear that your mother went through that. Gosh that just breaks my heart. I’m so glad, though, that you were able to be with her during her final chapter. What a gift that was for her, and it sounds like, for you too. And graduation melt down or not:), I’ve found that when we’re going through something so difficult and life altering, the people around you extend a special sort of grace that just happens organically, as they see you giving all of what you have out for another person. Anywho. Your response really touched my heart. Thank you for sharing. Hugs and love xox

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  74. I think she was extra being that so many young women think she is “the gospel” . I hope it doesn’t give girls boujee ideas on motherhood, because yes the children come first. Perfect way of addressing it without getting mad.

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  75. A friend and I were discussing that there was something disturbing and over the top about the performance. You hit the nail on the head. While I believe it’s wonderful to celebrate womanhood, motherhood, and all the other “hoods”, we must be careful not to glorify ourselves above The Giver of every good and perfect gift. We need to focus on praising The Creator instead of the creation. Thank you for sharing your wise perspective and insight.

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    • Thank you so much Rhonda! I agree, it’s awesome to celebrate womanhood and motherhood. But you’re right- the celebration should always point towards Him, not ourselves. Hugs to you xox

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  76. You know, I’ve rolled my eyes occasionally at the excesses of our celebrities and the media that enshrines them. But I’ve never blamed them. I blame us. The world gives us Miley Cyrus because we watch her. It gives us Fifty Shades of Grey and Hustler because we read it. It gives us House of Cards (and Transformers 19 or whatever we’re on right now) because we show up. Thousands are going to perish in Myanmar this year, but we’re not going to know, because people want to be entertained instead of convicted. Here, more about what Emma Watson had for breakfast!

    Instead of trying to fix the low value of celebrity culture, maybe we should fix ourselves.

    Hmm…

    I think you’ve just germinated my next blog post, Caralyn. Thanks!

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    • Hey Brandon! Thank you so much for his thoughtful response. You’re so right! We show up, but the tickets and the tee shirt! It’s no wonder the media keeps cranking it out! We should vote with our pocketbooks 🙂 I don’t know what Myanmar is, but thanks for the great food for thought! Hugs and love xox

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  77. Hi BBB,

    Amen. That was our pastor’s sermon as well. True humility is asking for God’s will and not our own. He sees the quiet seemingly unimportant things as very relevant. Your point is right on. Put Jests first, not self. That goes south real fast.

    Thank you,

    Gary On Mon, Feb 13, 2017 at 4:02 PM BeautyBeyondBones wrote:

    > beautybeyondbones posted: “There’s something really beautiful about > humility. I’ve been kind of on a pop culture “fast” recently. Not by > choice… Ever since my mom had her stroke over Christmas, we literally > haven’t turned on the TV. Which is crazy, considering how glued I was to ” >

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  78. Can’t believe I’m about to comment on a Beyoncé blog….in her defense.

    I am far from the biggest Beyoncé fan, and am not wowed by the entirety that is Lemonade. But I found this performance quite inspiring and celebratory, and not glorifying at all. I believe some of your impression is based in lack of information. The image is based of the African goddess Oshun, who is representative of life and fertility. I can’t think of a better image for a hugely pregnant woman to personify than a fertility goddess in her image. Also, if you paid attention to the digital imagery, you’d have noticed the still of herself, her mother and her daughter–an image celebrating motherhood, Black motherhood, Black womanhood and generational love. If anything, she glorified her OWN mother for the example she set and continues to set for her, her sister, and all of their children. There are precious few celebrations of Black women in their roles as mothers–we are so often portrayed in harsh, neglectful and derelict lights that the public at large begin to believe it of all of us.

    I believe your observation has merit–I just think the path your traveled to get to it is a bit off course. Allow us our moment in the sun.

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  79. YES! Celebrities giving themselves status as “gods” is appalling, to say the least. These people thinking they should be worshiped is so wrong, so so wrong. I think we could all do with a media/celebrity fast and a lot more Jesus. They’ve begun to fancy themselves as people to be followed and believed and experts on politics, religion, and everything else. YOU are one to be admired, taking care of your mother. I took care of mine while she was dying of cancer and, you’re right, it is truly humbling and a blessing. May God give you peace and rest!

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    • Thanks so much Tracy. I really appreciate that. And gosh, what a kind thing to say. I’m just grateful to be able to spend this extra time with my mom. What a gift you were able to give your mother. So glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox

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  80. Can’t believe I’m about to comment on a Beyoncé blog….in her defense. I am far from the biggest Beyoncé fan, and am not wowed by the entirety that is Lemonade. But I found this performance quite inspiring and celebratory, and not glorifying at all. I believe some of your impression is based in lack of information. The image is based of the African goddess Oshun, who is representative of life and fertility. I can’t think of a better image for a hugely pregnant woman to personify than a fertility goddess in her image. Also, if you paid attention to the digital imagery, you’d have noticed the still of herself, her mother and her daughter–an image celebrating motherhood, Black motherhood, Black womanhood and generational love. If anything, she glorified her OWN mother for the example she set and continues to set for her, her sister, and all of their children. There are precious few celebrations of Black women in their roles as mothers–we are so often portrayed in harsh, neglectful and derelict lights that the public at large begin to believe it of all of us. I believe your observation has merit–I just think the path your traveled to get to it is a bit off course. Allow us our moment in the sun.

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    • Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. I really appreciate you sharing this perspective and insight. A lot of really great food for thought. I think Beyonce is a terrific performer and she is definitely a strong female role model to many. I’m glad that you found her performance to be inspiring. I definitely could appreciate the message she was trying to communicate, (motherhood should be celebrated!!) – I just wish she would have gone about it with a slightly different approach. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate you stopping by! big hugs xox 🙂

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  82. They say politics is the ability to tell people to go to hell and them looking forward to the trip. I think you did that quite nicely here for Beyonce. Hope she reads your post.

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    • Oh gosh, Dan! That was *defffffinitely* not my intention! 😬😬😬Yikes! I think she is a very talented performer and good person and mother, but the performance of self deification was not my cuppa tea. Anywho:) hope you’re having a great Tuesday! Thanks for reading! Hugs and love xox

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  84. Well said! Humility is far more valuable than many stones and jewels or gold. The Bible reminds us many times its is foolish or just plain not smart at all to put ourselves on a pedestal whether in words, deeds, attitude or attire for which one of us can sustain ourselves, much less another.

    Stay grounded and learn what you can from your mothers example. She sounds like a great woman.

    Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.—1 Peter 3:3-4

    Not to us, Lord, not to us
    but to Your name be the glory,
    because of Your love and faithfulness.
    —Psalm 115:1

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    • Thank you so much for this thoughtful response. You’re so right – it is more precious than gold. And yes! My mother is an amazing woman. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  85. oh so so well said, as always!!!!!!!!!!!! I was very skeptical about that performance as well- but that is a whole other story (religious-wise) but humility- it is definitely a trait I have learnt observing my own mother.

    society today- everyone feels they need to be recognized or heard or applauded and appreciated. Who are we wanting this recognition from? God does not work that way.

    Anyway- well said!!! XO

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    • Thanks so so much! 🙂 you’re absolutely right – God doesn’t work that way. The last will be first…if my memory serves me correctly 🙂 hehe thanks for reading! Hugs and love xox

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  87. Is there a more selfless act than motherhood? I think only one in history…. Great post and I’ve never really worshiped at the altar of Queen Bey…. Bono from U2 on the other hand….

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  89. Good for you Krystal, for once again rising well above the questionable intellect and priorities of your generation to recognize what is truly good and important in a person’s character. You are wise beyond your words (which makes you stand out among bloggers). My wife and I deliberately skipped the Grammy’s even though we wanted to see some of the “lesser” awards (i.e. Country, Faith). We knew the political statements would overshadow the essence of the show, as they will for the Academy Awards later this month. I’m glad to hear we also missed out on several instances of self-worship. No thank you. What a shame to have to search far and wide for the “humble and kind” among today’s celebrities. I would rather read about the “real” in people, like what you and your mother are experiencing. Stay strong in your journey.

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    • Oh gosh, Dave, thank you so much. What a kind and encouraging response. Yeah, I wish we could see more of the real in celebrities as well. Can’t deny their talent though! Wow! Big hugs xox – Caralyn 🙂

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  90. WOW! Your observation was thought-provoking. Yes, your mother is a queen as well for all she has done, is currently going through, and for constantly walking in humility. I can see how what Beyonce was portraying can be misinterpreted and in some instances idolized for the wrong thing.

    Beyonce is one of my favorite vocalists! I see her as an artistic musician that knows how to strike up a phenomenal performance. Lately, she has shown more of her human side then ever before. I think people miss that. She tries to use her platform to relate and does it in a compelling way.

    I pray that the world realizes that she is human. We all are capable of making an impact on the world in whatever avenue we choose. Doing it well and doing it humbly will reach farther I believe.

    Just like the way you do it.

    -JV

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    • Hey JV! Oh gosh, thank you so much. Yeah I love Beyoncé’s music too. She is incredibly talented, this performance just rubbed me the wrong way. But I can definitely see the point she was trying to make, and yes, mothers and women should be celebrated, but I just wish that she would have gone about it a slightly different way. But you’re right- that is not a reflection on her mothering or anything like that. And I hope I didn’t seem judgmental like that. I was just struck wth the juxtaposition between the mother on the tv and the mother on my couch. Hahahah. Love reading your thoughts! You always bring such a great perspective to the table. Hugs and love xox

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  91. She fell low in ratings on msn polls, etc. prior to the awards. I don’t believe it is racial issue as it seems Adele implied, I believe it as a lot more to do with humility, or lack there of. Self confidence is one thing, acting above others… you loose respect. Nice article. I am happy to read your mom is getting out! Cute picture of you above. Make sure you are taking care of yourself.

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    • Thank you so much:) I really appreciate your kind words about my mom. You’re right, the race issue literally never even entered my mind until the following morning when I read adele’s acceptance speech! (I fell asleep on the couch haha) But yeah, I don’t know, I just don’t even see race when I look at a person. People are people are people – no matter their color of skin, religion, country of origin. People are just people and every single person deserves love and dignity. For me, my “qualms” if you will- was just portraying oneself as a God. Any glory that we may get in this life should point to Him, not ourselves. Hope that made sense haha Have a great Valentine’s Day! Hugs and love xox

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  92. Its funny how things that were once important to you completely disappear when you are caring for a loved one. Great post and I can totally relate.

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  93. This post was very thought-provoking, thanks for that! It helped me to open my mind to a different perspective. Sending my best wishes 😊

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  94. Yay for your Mum getting better!
    Totally agree with your Dad – that was a performance all not worth watching. The “memememememepickme” culture is wearying. Yep, cool, she’s pregnant..but I didn’t need to see her underwear nor did I need to feel that she cheapened my faith either.
    I thought at first glance of a still that it was a version of a Russian icon…with those neck rings some African cultures wear.

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    • Thank you so much! yeah, she’s getting better every day 🙂 haha the “memememepickme” culture — that description made me chuckle, and is spot on. And i’m guilty of it myself too!! Yeah, i think her costume was a blend of a few different religious/cultural figures. hope you have a great evening! hugs xox

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  95. People see the pictures of saints and suppose that the halos are just an artistic contrivance.

    NOT!

    If you have to wear an accessory, it’s just wishful thinking. Our entertainment industry generates more heat than light; more chaos than warmth. I’m glad that your mother has you to reflect her glow.

    Here’s my favorite picture of a goddess mother (I haven’t read the article, btw): http://www.piercedhearts.org/hearts_jesus_mary/heart_mary/virgin_birth_mangan.htm

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    • Gosh, thanks Brian. I look forward to checking out that picture. Thanks for passing it along. And you’re right- there’s a reason saints are canonized, and not self-canonized 😉 haha Hugs and love xox

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  99. Many of the mothers who I look up to have one thing in common: Their humility. They don’t look for credit or praise. They just want to do what’s best for their kids, even when it means they have to go without, lose sleep or skip a meal. It’s the kind of the humility that reminds me of the Blessed Virgin Mary who was present throughout Christ’s life but never sought to stand in the spotlight. 🙂

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    • Thank you so much for this thoughtful response. You’re right, humility is a beautiful beautiful thing. That’s so true, too. Mary said “yes.” Always. “Do whatever He tells you.” That was my favorite line of hers. Thanks for stopping by!big hugs xox

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  100. Very soon, dear BBB, we’ll be lifting holy hands of gratitude to the Most High, by the power of the Holy Ghost in the mighty name of Jesus to celebrate your Mum’s total healing. Did you not go through some hard times health-wise? Did you not come out victorious? Your Mum is well again, chatting with you and her husband, your Dad once again. Amen. I’m a man of great faith. I believe that you believe too. Amen!

    Beyoncé? Whatever she does as a star will not come to me as a surprise at all. My post, “THE MUSIC STAR,” (4 parts) explains it all (please do find time to read it). The halo is nothing but Nimrod, the first ever earthly king and he is also Baal, the sun god. Her wife, Semiramis, is the moon goddess. This religion has been passed down human generations, in various forms all because Lucifer is the god of this terra firma. Many religions that use the ‘star’, ‘crescent’ and ‘halo’ roundness most definitely know what they’re doing. Satan has taken over, using the opium called religion. Jesus is Lord! Amen!

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    • Thank you so much for your prayers for my mom. It really means a lot. Yes! I am so grateful for her healing thus far. God is so good. I look forward to reading your post. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! hugs to you xox

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  101. I loved your post. Hope your mom get well soon. I, too, watched the Grammy’s (not from the beginning) but I started watching during Bruno Mars’ first performance, and to me that was the best show of all and the only thing worth watching out of the whole Grammy-agenda. It was one crazy Grammy for sure 🙂

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  102. I also found it difficult to finish Beyoncé’s performance. I was very confused by it all and figured it was just me due to my being out of touch with what’s cool, I personally don’t prefer her music. Loved reading your insights!

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    • Thanks so much for this reflection! Yeah, she is talented. But as far as performances go, that one was a bit hard to swallow. Thanks for stopping by! hope you have a great night xox

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  103. This is a beautiful tribute to your mom and the true value of humility. Being a parent includes giving adoration to the child rather than expecting adoration for giving birth to one.

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  104. I love this! What a wonderful illustration of the contrast between self-glorification and humble servanthood. So glad that you appreciate the beauty and blessing that is your mom. Great post!

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  107. Wow how I love your post! And I truly agree with you! Get well soon for your mom. I pray for her fast recovery. And she is truly blessed to have you as her daughter. God bless!

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  108. I didn’t watch the Grammy’s, but I gotta say I love your honesty, girl. And your humor. May Abba give you and your mom strength and fill with his love as and patience as she recovers. I’m gonna be thinking about that book now. Sounds good. 💕

    (Also, I grew up in Ohio so I find this kinda cool you’re from there too. Random I know, lol.)

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  109. I loved your post and completely agree with your interpretation of Beyonce’s performance. Thank you for sharing things that are personal to you. I hope your mother gets better soon. She is lucky to have you by her side in this time of trial.

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    • Thanks so much Meg! That’s so kind of you to say. Yeah I definitely feel like God is showering His mercy on my family and I right now. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  112. I learned meekness and humility later in life, and learned that things work out much better for me when I can admit that I don’t know everything and I’m not perfect, lol.
    Good luck to you and your family- health issues are incredibly taxing.

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