I’m going to be honest, I have 2 vodka/coconut waters in my system, so this post may be a bit…spirited.
Bad joke. OKAY!
I had a conversation with a friend tonight that has completely pulled at my heartstrings and offered me some much needed perspective.
So naturally, I’ve decided to share with you, my wonderful internet friends 🙂
Sometimes we need to grant ourselves permission to mourn for ourselves.
Alright, that’s coming straight out of left field. I should probably back up a bit.
I don’t think there’s a person on this earth who isn’t going through, or has gone through a difficult season.
I was talking with my friend tonight about that. About this incredibly difficult season that he’s had to navigate through this past year with the murder of his friend from a hate crime, and other family challenges. Things that I cannot imagine going through.
And he’s a young man. In college. The “prime” of his life, and yet his world has been absolutely turned upside-down in a series of truly tragic and unfortunate events.
Listening to him tonight, and hearing the pain he was carrying around with him, and the pull between moving on and being angry, I just felt called to tell him something, that I decided I wanted to share with you, too.
It’s okay to mourn for yourself.
Listening to my friend talk about this lost year where he was dealing with the repercussions of everything, I just felt called to tell him that he has permission to mourn for that lost time. To mourn for the time he’s been grieving and sad and lost and angry. Because in giving yourself permission to feel those strong feelings, you are sending a signal to yourself that your feelings and your emotions matter. It’s okay to feel down or mad or frustrated about that period of time when you were grieving – time that you “should” have been living out the “prime” of your life.
One of the most healing things for me was to finally mourn the period of my life that I lost to my eating disorder.
For such a long time I just pushed it to the back of my mind, thinking I deserved to not walk in my graduation. I deserved the shattered relationships, the squandered high school years and the delay in college. But the fact is, I lost close to 3 years to my anorexia. Time that I can’t get back, and time that “should” have been spent living life to the full. But instead it was spent in the chains of an eating disorder that nearly took my life.
It’s okay to mourn the loss of that time.
I needed to acknowledge to myself that, yeah, that period of time was stolen by an insipid disease, and it really sucks that life played out that way.
But allowing myself to come to terms – fully – with the truth and the reality of my past was one of the first steps in my true healing. The first step in the peace that – may not have fully resolved the strife in my heart – but it did give me the freedom to move forward with my life.
That’s what it allows – it allows freedom.
Being that it’s the Fourth of July tomorrow, I really wanted to incorporate the notion of freedom into my post. But I didn’t really know what the angle was that I was supposed to take.
But this is it: allowing ourselves to feel, and acknowledging the wounds we have gives us tremendous freedom. Freedom to heal. Freedom to seek to peace. Freedom to embrace the light. Freedom to let them go. There is freedom when we acknowledge those pains, and then give them to Jesus.
There’s so much guilt and pain and suffering that we’re all walking around with – what if we could break free from that? What if we could just give ourselves permission to not be “okay?” Allow ourselves to feel the feelings – the wounds – that aren’t all shiny and pretty? That’s the first step. Then giving those wounds to Jesus? — That’s freedom.
I just wanted to take that agony away from my friend tonight. Give him the courage to mourn for himself and for the pain he’s gone through, and the loss of that time.
No matter the situation, healing is never a “Point A – to Point B” trip. It’s a multidirectional journey with lots of stops, road blocks, and backtracks along the way. But one thing’s for sure: Jesus is paving the way for you every step of the way.
And there’s no greater freedom than releasing our pain to Him.
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299 responses to “Permission to Feel”
Yes, we all go through it, at one time or another, this has been an especially difficult year for me as well, so I can empathize with what he is going through. Unless you go though something like this you don’t fully understand what Jesus meant when he said, “Happy are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.” It’s only by going through the hard times that we realize who our true friends are, for they will be the ones offering us comfort. It is only by going through the hard times that we know how to offer comfort to others when they need it.
Thanks so much for this response. You’re so right, theres so much truth to what He said. How grateful are we that we have true friends in our lives. Thanks for topping yb. big hugs xo
Yes. Our Lord said it himself. “How blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted.” It’s from the Sermon on The Mount from the Fifth Chapter of St Matthew’s Gospel. Or maybe the 6th Chapter. Reading both chapters won’t harm anyone. Great post.
amen to that, David. thanks so much for this reflection. i’ll have to check out those chapters. hugs xo
I love this, Caralyn! I must say you’re a pretty good writer when you’re buzzed! Maybe I should give it a try…? Haha much love to you, fantastic post
aw, thanks Caitlin. I really appreciate it. hahah oh gosh, yeah I don’t know but the words just seem to flow!!!yes! try it! hugs xox
Pastor, love the pic of you and the stained glass! It’s an omen! Important topic you write about today which could open many conversations! Prayers for your Mom!
thanks so much Rick, yeah, something that we all have walked/will walk through. thanks for the continued prayers! hugs ox
Great thoughts and perspective. At 56 years young, I’ve seen many seasons of life from beautifully fantastic to just plain awful. The better you are at rolling with life’s punches, the better off you’ll be in due time. Since we can’t delete things from memory like a hard drive does, they must be filed and integrated into our lives. Making us the unique individual that we all are. So sorry for your friend. 😞
thanks for this, John. You’re so right, we’ve got to roll with the punches. thanks for your kind words and for always being a great friend. big hugs xox
So welcome, wishing you and your family a great holiday. xo
same to you John! We’re celebrating my 4-year old niece’s birthday tonight so life is good! xx
That’s awesome – God bless!!
yeah it’s super fun 🙂
Thank you so much for this! I needed a few reminders that you shared in this post. You’ve got a follower in me.
aw thanks friend. i’m so glad this hit home with you tonight. big big hugs xox
wow – you are creative in your vision and approach, refreshing. Greatly said and your blog bring positive energy!
thanks so much Mihran 🙂 what a kind thing to say. so glad it hit home with you! big hugs xox
Nicely worded as always. It was also well timed, to me. He reveals his message through strange and wonderful ways. Always a pleasure to read you article.
thanks so much!! wow, i’m so glad this came at the right time for you. hope everything is okay. sending hugs and prayers your way. big hugs xox
Ah, man. Once again, your post leaves me teary eyed for good reason. The comments here are also being used by the Holy Spirit… Blessed are those who mourn, for they shall be comforted. I want to share the comfort– and Comforter– with you tonight, in response to this post.
“It’s okay to feel down or mad or frustrated about that period of time when you were grieving – time that you ‘should’ have been living out the ‘prime’ of your life.” This. As I thought to myself, “Jesus, those two years of my life sucked”– grieving the time of my life I should have been blossoming into a young adult like you wrote about here– I heard His Voice. It was Joel 2:25 (I will also include verses 26-27, which spoke to me).
“I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten—
the great locust and the young locust,
the other locusts and the locust swarm—
my great army that I sent among you.
26 You will have plenty to eat, until you are full,
and you will praise the name of the Lord your God,
who has worked wonders for you;
never again will my people be shamed.
27 Then you will know that I am in Israel,
that I am the Lord your God,
and that there is no other;
never again will my people be shamed.”
I am so sorry if the verses about food have struck a bad chord, that’s not what I meant at all. But it was amazing– I lamented to Jesus about my lost years, and I was immediately comforted by His Voice. He will repay what was ripped away. He has restored, is restoring, and will restore. Boom.
May we stay oh-so close to our Jesus, so that He can do that healing work that only He can do. ❤
Praise Jesus for this post, and for you, Caralyn.
With Love in Christ,
I thought to JESUS, “Jesus, those two years of my life sucked.” Clarification, not using His Name in vain! Sorry about that haha.
haha — i got you fam 🙂 xox
Aw, Annalee, I’m so glad this hit home with you. thank you for this thoughtful reflection. Yeah, lost years are something that we have to come to terms with. Amen – Jesus is the ultimate healer. know that you’re in my prayers, friend. big hugs xo
Thanks Fam 😊 and Thank you– how can I be praying for you?
And this theme also SO speaks to the situation with the Chibok girls… Thank you. ❤
Aw you’re kind – just for patience 🙂 thanks!
I actually really needed to hear this today. Thanks so much for sharing.
Thanks girl. I’m so glad this came at a good time for you. Yeah, listening to my friend last night, i realized that i needed to hear it too 🙂 Sending big hugs xox
You’re welcome <3
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Obviously Satan foes not agree with you! I was attacked by him and prayed for Jesus to intervene for by behalf. Of course I do not drink so that would never do.
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Thanks, yeah Jesus is the most powerful of all! satan doesn’t stand a chance against our Savior! big hugs x
Funny thing is… I was thinking this yesterday when I was blogging yesterday (If you want some further insight, read it!) and it’s amazing to see how you’ve put in a picture what I was framing.
Just thinking aloud! Great read.
Oh awesome! Thanks so much for stopping by Kevin! Hugs and love xox
Acknowledgement and acceptance are true building blocks of peace and healing. We’ve all been there, and you’re right…it’s ok. With faith and effort, we will overcome. Thanks for the strong and beautiful message!
Thanks so much friend 🙂 you’re right – they’re building blocks for sure 🙂 Hugs and love xox
I’m not opposed to the idea that “everything is God’s will or God’s plan”. But I do object to the implicit corollary that we shouldn’t be mourning or feeling bad about anything. The plan doesn’t always comfort. Explaining “why” doesn’t always comfort. Job’s friends proved that. God accepts our tears (well, our deserves ones) and I’m a pretty fierce defender of that part of our inheritance as members of God’s kingdom through Christ.
Good post as always.
Thanks for this reflection, Brandon. Yeah – the plan doesn’t always comfort – very true. But we can trust that He will work together for good. big hugs xox
Awesome post. An excellent reminder to own our feelings and to be honest with ourselves and in so doing, to find freedom. Great post 😊💜
oh gosh thank you so much 🙂 Glad you enjoyed it! big hugs xox
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Thanks for the reblog! Hugs and love xox
I like this. I feel like I still haven’t completely mourned for all the lost opportunities in the past, to mourn for the friendships and experiences and relationships that never happened because I spent too much time studying, because I didn’t understand how people worked, and because I spent most of my 20s in churches that were very strict and legalistic about how men and women should interact. I haven’t completely mourned the passing of my chance to get married in my early 20s and start having children soon after, and because of this, to have a place in American church culture. And I’m not sure how to do this. I say that the problem is that I don’t know where to go from here, since I don’t really have a blueprint for what life should look like as a 40-year-old Christian who has never been married and has no children, but maybe at least part of the problem is that I haven’t properly mourned.
thanks so much Pi 🙂 Yeah, my heart definitely goes out to you. Things may have turned out differently than planned, but I know that God has something good in store for you. Something that will be worked out in His timing, and I know that hearing that is eye-roll worthy and frustrating, but hang in there. I will definitely keep you in my prayers. Big hugs to you friend xo
Thank you 🙂 ❤
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This is a strong message. I wish I would have seen and learned this emotional language as I was growing up.
Thanks so much friend. I really appreciate your kind words. glad this hit home with you. big hugs xox
Healing thoughts and words for those who do not think they deserve to mourn- after all I lost time or opportunity because of something I messed up. The lost periods do not end no matter how long we are around and the repetition sometimes can get me down. Then I am drawn to Jeremiah 29:11 where I am assured that God’s plans for me may include lost times and the need for mourning but those plans are always part of giving me hope for the future. Great post as usual. I never get tired of reading them. Hope u do not tire of sharing them. God bless. John
Hey John, thanks for this. You’re so right – God’s plans will definitely include some trials, but we ca rest assured that He will use them for good. thanks for stopping by. big hugs xox
I love this Caralyn! It made me think of something a little different. It made me think of when my youngest daughter went to college and my husband and I became empty nesters. That was a hard stage for me. I realized I was mourning for that amazing period in my life that I’d never get back. All I had ever wanted to do was be a stay at home mom. I enjoyed every moment. Then, much too fast, my girls grew up. I let myself be sad, and I adjusted pretty well. But yes, mourning for a period of time in your life that you lost…. or that you loved….. is healthy. Happy 4th of July!😊❤️🇺🇸
Oh thanks so much Jenny! So glad you enjoyed it. Yeah, I can only imagine that adjustment. Sending you such big hugs and love xox
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You have such a beautiful soul.. A wonderful post, thank you. Two things you didn’t know about me, I’m a drummer and my dad was a minister 🙂 I love the photo of you and the stained glass cross 🙂 <3
Aw Walt, thank you so much. Oh wow, a drummer! how cool! thanks for sharing that. big hugs xox
I think I’ve mentioned before that my childhood was not the close-knit family experience that a lot of people know. When you or others talk about how close you are to your parents, I understand you on a strictly intellectual basis. I really don’t know what that’s like, how it might feel.
A few days after we buried my dad I had a pretty intense crying jag that Julie helped me through. I wasn’t mourning him. I was mourning the fact that, although I don’t think it was ever going to happen, there was now no chance I’d ever have a normal, close, father-son relationship with him.
When my mom died, there was no grief over anything. After two years of visiting her in a nursing home where she refused to do anything to help herself, I was simply relieved it was over. People commented on how well I coped with “losing her.” I just said she’s in heaven, so there’s no reason to be sad, which was only part of the truth.
Even at my age, I still have bouts of feeling sad that I never got to experience a real bond with my parents, but I let it in, roll it over in my mind, and then let it go. I don’t fight it. Neither do I nurture it. I let it have it’s time and then move on. I’m just thankful to God that He motivated me and showed me how to do better.
Our family therapist in Toledo once told me that life is the process of mourning loss; from losing the womb to gradually losing bits and pieces of ourselves, both mentally and physically, we must deal with loss.
I’d say your friend is mourning the loss of his friend, his own innocence, what was once, I think, a somewhat more civilized world. I’m sure his “feelings package” is different from anyone else in a similar situation. That doesn’t invalidate them. As you wisely said, he must acknowledge them and allow them. If he doesn’t, he’ll be stuck in that emotional cycle. As I do, he should neither block nor hold onto them. Let them have their moment, thank God for them, and let Him carry them.
For you, I would suggest that your three years gripped in ED’s grasp weren’t lost. That period was your apprenticeship into the wisdom you now have from it and the boon you are now to so many people. That was the fire God refined you in to do His work and spread his Word.
Should you mourn the cost of relationships, lost proms, etc.? If that’s what you feel, of course! Jesus’ own feelings had Him sweating blood! He feared the task and possibly mourned the future as a man He’d never see. I guess that was part of the temptation to bail.
If you, your friend, or any of your readers have emotions to acknowledge, well, I think Jesus understands and remains ready to help. He’s intimately aware of our condition.
Life is a process of mourning loss. Wow, what a powerful thought. Thank you so much for sharing this, Jeff. Gosh, my heart just goes out to you. I can’t imagine what you had to go through in mourning those emotions. I think you’re right – we have to feel them and move on. I’m glad that you had Julie by your side during that. You’re right – Jesus stands ready to help. Love this reflection so much. Thanks Jeff. Big hugs xo
Hugs back to you, my prophet friend! You certainly were your friend’s prophet in speaking comfort to him. I pray you are having a great, restorative time with family!
Thanks again Jeff. Hope your visit went well 🙂 ✨☀️💛☀️✨🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸
Such a beautiful post! 💚
Thank you so much Roda! i appreciate it 🙂 hugs xo
thanks so much! big hugs xox
I think we are allowed to go through hurts in this life so we can contrast the agony of the here and now with the promise none of those hurts, ailments, or for that matter death exist in heaven, and heaven is open to all of us if we choose that rather than the materialism of this world. If we choose materialism we vote for non-existence and will get what we desire. While I concur with this excellent presentation I’d like to say a word about anger because the injustice in this world makes all of us disenfranchised and angry. I was angry for years at injustice done to me, but then one day I woke up to the fact my anger didn’t hurt my enemies, they were going on their merry way unaffected. But it was destroying my health and I made the decision for my own preservation that anger had to stop as it was eating me away just as anorexia sucked the life out of you for a time. I believe that was a God given gift recognizing how foolish I’d been to let anger ruin me. Now I can look back on that experience, painful as it was, as a lesson in discipline I had to learn to move me in the direction of my goal heaven.
What a powerful thought. thanks for sharing that Ian. I think tire’s a lot of truth in that : we’ve got to stay focused on that ultimate goal. big hugs xo
Giving oneself permission to feel is one of the toughest errands we all must undertake. I’m proud you figured it out so young! http://tltake.blogspot.com/2007/10/death-of-friend-permission-to-weep.html?
you’re so right – very tough! thanks for your kind words! big hugs xox
God cares, you know. Do you remember the story of how Jesus and the disciples got into a boat and “started across the lake”—referring to the Sea of Galilee. “Suddenly, a terrible storm came up, with waves breaking into the boat” (Matthew 8:23-24). While not unusual, storms on the Sea of Galilee would come up suddenly and could be very violent. The disciples were frightened, but Jesus “was sleeping” (8:24). The disciples must have felt like Jesus was sleeping on the job. They were hurt at his apparent indifference to their plight: “Teacher, don’t you even care that we are going to drown?” they asked him (Mark 4:38).
Who of us has not experienced a sudden squall in life’s placid waters and suddenly been nearly swamped? Maybe we have been healthy one day and facing a terrible prognosis the next. Maybe the storm has taken the form of a divorce, sudden unemployment, or a house fire. Maybe it’s just the little stresses building up in our too-busy lives that suddenly threaten to sink us. Christ may well be “on board,” but that doesn’t stop us from feeling frightened, bewildered, and hurt that he is apparently sleeping on the job.
The disciples’ fear was addressed when Christ woke up, rebuked the men and the storm (in that order), and asked the men what had happened to their faith (Matthew 8:26-27). Fear and faith are antithetical—Jesus expects us to trust him in the storms of life. Why should we? Because he controls all nature and can control our stormy human situations, as well as give us peace.
Thank you so much for this beautiful response. you’re so right – God cares. So much. These are great examples. thanks for sharing. big hugs xo
Mourning is a deeply personal thing and I never thought it was so personal that you have to do it for yourself every now and then. It’s like when you lose a job or lose a relationship or something else very special. Everyone has to go through a season of saying farewell to things.
thanks so much Tony. You’re right, it’s very personal, and something that we all must face at one time or another. thanks for stopping by. big hugs xox
Yes. Love this post.
thanks so much friend. big hugs xo
A deeply beautiful post. May your friend continue to receive healing.
thank you so much. i really appreciate your kind words for my friend. big hugs to you xox
Praying for your friends healing, and thanking God he has a friend like you. God bless you xoxo
Thank you so much Margaret:) I appreciate you’re prayers so much. Much love and hugs xox
It’s my pleasure, I love to pray 😉
It’s necessary to mourn the loss of time, to grieve for yourself…and in all of that, you also have permission to ask Father God to redeem that time, those circumstances. It’s what He does, what He wants to do for us. Ask Him to do it for you. He will. <3
You’re so right. And He will redeem that time. Thanks for this. Hugs and love xox
Try inspirational you are. God has a purpose for you.
The blessings you give by caring…beyond words.
Gosh thank you so much for your kind words. I really appreciate it. Hugs to you xox
Yes! Great post. As one author put it- emotions are the cry of the soul. I can’t agree more how important it is to have compassion and grieve for ourselves and younger selves. The alternative often leads to shame and pain. Happy 4th!
Thanks so much Clifford! Emotions are the cry of tHe soul. What a powerful thought. Thanks for sharing 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Hugs all around you!! Yes, healing takes time. It takes patience. We get so used to many others not wanting to hear when we feel down, troubled, sad etc.. They see it as “too much drama” and don’t want any part of it. Now its not great to dwell and dwell etc.. but to feel different feelings then “oh happy go lucky” is totally natural and totally acceptable in getting us through tough times and toward healing. As much as joy is a part of it all, so is pain. Hugs for all your joys and also all your pains!! xoxoxoxo
People sometimes do it with my poetry. They only want to see me write happy joyous or upward things. Sometimes I’m angry, or saddened and I have to get those out!! You are worth it every day no matter if you are happy, sad, glad, or mad! More love and hugs!! xoxoxoxo
yeah that such a great point. We ARE worth it, no matter how we feel! 🙂
Hey Migueltio, thanks so much friend. you’re so right – healing really does take time. i hope you’re having a great holiday weekend. big hugs to you xox
I did I hope you did too! xoxoxo
🙂 right on!
Early Summer on Limekiln
A June afternoon
a cloud filled sky
sun shining high
canoes and kayaks
paddling by the
not yet July.
The beautiful pines
the maple trees
tall and pristine
with vibrant needles
and broadened leaves
full of life
A lake of blue
of current so gentle
helping to spiritually
renew and settle down
issues so dramatic so
mental waters so
calm not over run
from a popular hotel
or vacation rental.
A beautiful day
a beautiful breeze
a beautiful mountain
covered by trees
a beautiful family
basking in the
light of the beautiful
Thanks so much for sharing this 🙂 beautiful. Hugs and love xox
Hugs and love backatcha!! xox
Very honest and beautifull post! Ironically I just posted a very similar topic! Not just saying that to promote myself but I love it when things like this happen because it proves we are all connected somehow. I fully understand and can realate to your feelings of lost years and YES you absoulutely have the right to your feelings. We can’t truly let go of something until you bravely stare it down and deal with it.
thank you so much Marta! What a coincidence! You’re right, we’ve got to look things straight in the face and deal with them 🙂 Thanks for stopping by. big hugs xo
Just wanted to say thanks for liking several of the posts on my blog! Like this post as well. Good insight! We all go through tough times, some more than others. I think it’s okay to question and reflect. It helps us to make sense of the world we live in and allows God to speak to us. Blessings to you!
you’re so welcome! you’re right – it’s okay to reflect! big hugs xo
and thank YOU for stopping by! 🙂
Perfect timing!!! Perfect message, exactly when I needed it!!! Thank you!!!
Hey Melinda! oh good, i’m so glad this hit home with you today! thanks for stopping by. big hugs xo
I am just coming out of the darkest part of my life, the loss of three invaluable and loved and closest people in the world to me. I mourned unabashedly and depressingly for nine months and then decided to birth it and start new life. A bit morbid maybe but everyone has their way of forging through and I never ever could b have done that one without God holding me. It is the closest I have ever been to death and to God, the realest I have been with myself to just be. It is essential. You and I share that history, same thing different paths and I am so glad your friend came to you because you get it and can share Jesus with him. Without Jesus, we are lost without hope. With Jesus, we have comfort and renewed strength when we mourn. It ends us beautiful. Only God can take junk and make a masterpiece from it. He did that for me and I am His fully because of it. Love you, girl. Chin up. Keep going, sweet friend. ❤
oh tonya, i am just so deeply sorry for your loss. My heart absolutely goes out to you. You’re right, everyone has their way of navigating grief, and I’m so glad that you’ve found your strength in God. Know that you are in heart and prayers. Thank you for sharing your story. sending you so much love xox
I know mourning is good , feeling is good. I love my parents and they live really far, same country ,but far nevertheless. If anything happens to them, I wonder if I could reach in time. Any sad news of someone else parent’s demise always triggers my mourning for my parents, even though they aren’t. It is like am preparing myself that I may not be by their side and it is very hurtful even to think and I could not help but cry.
It is worst because they are not dead. I talk to them almost everyday. It is the fear of loosing them and be not there when the moment comes that I hate. I hate myself for crying over .. but I really can’t help and do not want to even try.
I always believe in feeling and letting emotions out. This time am taking it too far ..
Hi Hira, thank you so much for sharing this. I can definitely relate. Losing my parents is my ultimate fear as well. I’m glad you still talk to them frequently. I’m sure that means a lot to them. Thanks for stopping by. keeping you and your parents in my heart and prayers. big hugs xox
Thank you so much for this. It is exactly what I needed to hear. I’m in a season of grief, and I am so tired of people saying it will all be ok or to suck it up and get over it. All I really need is a time to not be ok, to cry, to grieve, to throw things and to feel. I know I’ll get to a better place but I won’t get there until I am allowed to feel what I am experience. Thank you for a space to be vulnerable.
hi friend, i’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through a difficult season. You take all the time you need to come to terms with your feelings, because you’re right- it’s okay to not be okay. Just know that you’re in my heart and prayers, and even though I don’t know you – i love you and i hope that things get better soon. But until then, feel what you feeling and know that there are people who care about you. sending so much love and hugs x
Thank you so much!
xox 🙂 🙂 🙂
Beautifully said. We have to allow ourselves to mourn for ourselves at times or else we will never be able to heal. The worst lies we tell on the ones we tell ourselves, and pretending you are okay when you aren’t is one of the worst lies we tell ourself.
It is okay to hurt and be different and struggle and not have it all figured out. The more people realize this the happier we will be as a society because we will stop feeling not good enough and we will realize that we have to power to lift people up. Thanks again for sharing.
Thanks so much David. You’re so right. That’s the beginning of the healing process. Thanks for your thoughtful response. Big hugs xox
Thank-you for being there for your friend. I pray that your wisdom found a home in his heart.
Thanks so much Brian. Yeah it’s really sad. Thanks for your prayers and kind words. Hugs and love xox
We call it loss because the expectation was positive. The northern tribes have this funny way of celebrating every attempt it humbles the winners and creates bonds of cooperation between everyone. Americans do not celebrate everything only the winners. That gap between winners and losers creates much sorrow.
Thanks Kenzie. This is a really interesting perspective. Hugs and love xox
There is a wholeness to God that we do not have. A broad perspective, that we are here to achieve. I could lose everything tomorrow that would be my doing, not God’s. I could be a millionaire and it would be the same. I don’t think God really cares what part of Christianity we believe in as long as we can endure this life and still believe when we are called too.
You’re right- a wholeness to Him that we should try to emulate
Agreed. There’s a freedom to it. You knew when you called on Him your insecurity disappeared. Is fear any different? Loss? God is the great accountant but cannot tell us the “why” in our actions. Only we can. Sure, He has the power to level cities but how much suffering have we caused each other. Even in His name.
Even in His name. Amen
And, that’s a nice shirt dress. 👌 I’m learning emoji. Self taught.
So so SO beautiful. Thank you❤️
Thanks so much friend. I appreciate it. Hugs and love xox
Powerful words Caralyn and so insightful. If we don’t acknowledge out own pain, the time that we have lost and acknowledge the guilt that we feel, we will carry it around our necks like a heavy chain for the rest of our lives – and I speak from personal experience. You know, I’m sitting here in the UK, it’s 7am and I’m reading your post, I felt pretty terrible when I woke up, but your post (as they so often do) has galvanised me and made me feel a little stronger. Maybe today won’t be so bad after all. You are an inspiration to many – never forget that. God bless you.
Thanks so much Rich. You’re so right – it will be a heavy chain. I like that imagery. Thanks for this thoughtful response! Hugs and love xox
Lovely words. Always appreciate yourself and others as you do not know their story.. take one day at a time and everything will be ok in the end 🙂
Thanks so much friend. Yes one day at a time. Hugs and love xox
Thanks for your posts. My 14 year old daughter has been hospitalised for anorexia and so we are mourning her health and her presence with us and also our freedom to do things together as a family. Her hospitalisation was a shock. I knew she was ill, but didn’t realise how ill and there were things I wish I had realised earlier. I wrote an article about it on medium https://medium.com/@christinegrant222/eight-things-i-wish-id-known-about-anorexia-ea6ebdcbb13c
I know your busy but if you have time to take a look and comment please do.
Oh gosh friend I am so sorry to hear about your daughter. I will definitely keep her and you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I will definitely check out your post. Hang in there friend. Hugs and love xox
As I understand it, the reason for a mirror is the Light. And Light understood as the Lord Jesus who took upon us our pains, our anguish and our death.
It is very common when I am praying, or diluting myself under the feet of the Lord Jesus, transforming me into water, I am moved; Sometimes I even smile, but in general my darkness, pain, hurt, revolts, stupidity, my past, the present, the future, etc., all this … is diluted, and I get up and take care of the life.
So, this is how it works: The Lord delivers our darkness.
This is the difference that faith makes for those who believe, for those who receive, understand and practice the gift of believing.
I add my testimony to her words, Caralyn, without fear, because this is the feeling I am allowed to have, by my faith in Christ, this is my freedom, granted to be free.
I immerse myself in Him to renew me every day, to restore myself, to strengthen myself, to strengthen myself, and to rise and go and take care of my life.
And this is the intention: believe in Him, exercise this power to believe in Him in your behalf and for all those whom your words are permitted to attain.
Grace and Peace!
Please, Caralyn, delete this comment above because I corrected it and posted again, and this request here as well. Thank you!
I will try – i’m on the boat with my phone so i have limited abilities away from my laptop.
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Sorry for this inconvenience, I already asked WP to allow access to editing our own comments on other pages. Thank you!
I couldn’t agree more with what you have shared!
Amen and amen!!
What stood out especially was when you spoke about healing. Your exact words were,
“No matter the situation, healing is never a “Point A – to Point B” trip. It’s a multidirectional journey with lots of stops, road blocks, and backtracks along the way. But one thing’s for sure: Jesus is paving the way for you every step of the way.”
That really spoke to me.
Thanks so much Rolain. I really appreciate your thoughtful response. So glad this hit home with you. Hugs and love xox
Beautiful post – spot on. Sending healing prayers to your friend and thank you blessings to you. And thanks for the heads-up – vodka & coconut water – that’s one I have yet to try!
Thanks so much Theresa! I really appreciate your prayers and kind words. Hugs and love xox
The reason for a mirror is the Light, so I understand.
And Light understood as the Lord Jesus who took upon Himself our sorrows, our anguish, and our death.
It is very common when I am praying, or diluting myself under the feet of the Lord Jesus, transforming me into water, I stay emotioned; sometimes I even smile, but in general my darkness, pain, hurt, revolts, stupidity, my past, the present, the future, etc., all this … dilutes, and I get up and I will take care of life.
So this is how it works: The Lord dilutes our darkness.
This is the difference that faith makes for those who believe, for those who receive, understand and practice the gift of believing.
I add my testimony, Caralyn, without fear, because this is the feeling I am allowed to have: faith in Christ; that is my freedom, granted to be free.
I immerse myself in Him to renew me every day, to restore, to animate, to strengthen, and to rise, and go and take care of my life.
And this is the intention: believe in Him, exercise this power to believe in Him, in your favor, and in favor those whom your words are permitted to attain.
Good morning, Caralyn!
I made a comment in your post: Permission to Feel, and I ask you to delete the first because I made some corrections.
WP does not allow me to do the correction, just on my own page. I apologize!
Have a great day, health and peace!
Thanks Carlos. Ok I will see if I can! Thanks! Hugs and love xox
Thanks so much for your heartfelt reflection Carlos. That is such a beautiful thought- He DOES renew us everyday. Amen! Thanks for sharing that:) Hugs and love xox
Often we push unpleasnat feelings away by labeling them “bad”. Feeling just are. Yes, go ahead and feel them without judgment. Mourn the loss. – Oscar
You’re so right – and without judgement is the key part! Love this so much. Thanks again for all the reading today Oscar! Hugs and love xox
Powerful! Thank you!
Thanks so much TL! Hugs and love xox
It is ok to feel, that is why God gave us emotions, allowing yourself to feel, is a release, when buried it turns into depression or deep seeded anger. That is also why God gave us free will, he does not want robots. He wants us to love him freely. He gave us emotions to feel and express, it makes each of us unique, he just does not want our emotions to have us or control us. It is ok, even Jesus expressed his emotions, at His Father’s house being used as a retail shop He got angry, at His friends saddness of the loss of their brother, He cried. Good word!
Thanks so much for this thoughtful response Sandra. You’re right- that’s what free will is all about. Hugs and love xox
Thank you for this post. ❤ Enjoy your Fourth Beauty. 🙂
Thanks so much:) you too! Happy 4th! Hugs and love xox
I love this blog! I like how you incorporate your personality into your writing. BTW I laughed at that “bad joke.” I am a big fan of corny jokes…. lol
Thanks so much Fredrick! Glad you enjoyed it! Hugs and love xox
Thanks for sharing! Love this post! I have struggled with disordered eating in the past too. Sometimes I look back and really wish that I wouldn’t have been so obsessed about my body and relationship with food in such an unhealthy way. And you’re completely right, it’s okay to mourn that part of your life! I also look back and think, even though I don’t like that I was at such a low point back then there is so much to say about the journey to building that healthy relationship with food and positive body image. I like to look back and know that that dark part of my life also shaped me into the person I am today. A now strong and more confident person. 🙂
Thanks so much Mary. I’m sorry that you can relate so personally but I’m so glad we’ve both found that freedom. Hugs and love xox
Thanks so much Tori! Hugs and love xox
Hugs and love right backatcha!
This is very accurate. Everyone needs to be able to mourn and feel. I feel the same been off for 5 months from work with depression. Now back there is a sense of mourning at time lost but I’m trying to accept that.
Thanks so much friend. I’m so sorry that you’re going through a tough season. Know you’re in my prayers. Hugs and love xox
This is a lesson I am trying so hard to learn. It’s tough. I feel like we are sort of conditioned to believe that mourning and sadness are negative and that we should avoid them, which is so damaging. A huge part of my recovery has also been allowing myself to mourn the anorexic girl that I was. She isn’t me anymore, but letting go of AN does feel almost like letting go of an (abusive, destructive) friend. Although I know it is ultimately for the best, it’s painful. I’m trying to let myself say goodbye so I can move on into the life I was made for.
Thank you so much for sharing xx
Thanks so much Britts. I’m so glad this resonated with you. I’m cheering for you that you’ve gotten rid of that destructive friend, but I do know what you mean about mourning. Hang in there. You’re doing the right thing for you- you’re living the life you were made for indeed!! Hugs and love xox
It’s so OK to mourn for ourselves that God breathed all those Psalms of Lament to give us the words!
3 For my days pass away like smoke,
and my bones burn like a furnace.
4 My heart is struck down like grass and has withered;
I forget to eat my bread.
5 Because of my loud groaning
my bones cling to my flesh.
6 I am like a desert owl of the wilderness,
like an owl of the waste places;
7 I lie awake;
I am like a lonely sparrow on the housetop.
8 All the day my enemies taunt me;
those who deride me use my name for a curse.
9 For I eat ashes like bread
and mingle tears with my drink,
10 because of your indignation and anger;
for you have taken me up and thrown me down.
11 My days are like an evening shadow;
I wither away like grass.
In saying these, we join our seasons of mourning to the Passion of the One who redeems them.
Christ’s peace be with you!
Amen. Thanks for sharing this. Hugs and love xox
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Another great post from Beauty Beyond Bones!
Thanks for the reblog! Hugs and love xox
Not only did you help yourself, you helped another. Each time you share your own story, the burden lifts just a little bit more. I know you blessed your friend by sharing … just as you bless your readers by sharing with us. jan
thank you so much Jan. You’re so kind to say that. You’re a blessing to me 🙂 big hugs xox
It is essential to not be nurturing wounds, but instead to have the confidence that they will be healed if we want that to happen. Some people don’t want their wounds to go away because they act to validate certain behaviors. I pray that your friend will soon experience the healing powers of genuine forgiveness – of others and of himself. Lots of love to him and to you.
You’re so right – He can heal those wounds. Thanks for your prayers and kind words. Hugs and love xox
He is lucky to have such a caring friend as you. 🙂
What a kind thing to say. Thanks again Milly xox
I love this post. I think irs something a lot of people need to hear.
Aw thank you so much. I really appreciate it Esmee. Hugs and love xox
Straight to the heart! Thank you.
Aw thanks so much:) big hugs xox
Very real and very relatable! I’m still learning this lesson in my own personal life. Thank you for sharing!
Thanks so much friend. Yeah me too. It’s a lifelong lesson that changes with every season! Hugs and love xox
Through pain and tribulations a transformation begins, with Jesus on your lips, He will lead you to greener pastures. God bless Caralyn, and happy 4th July.
Amen. Thanks again my friend. Happy fourth! Xox
Happy 4th! Mourn, but be happy, as life blooms despite grief. Enjoy the day and everything that it brings, everyone that embraces you.
Thank you so much friend. You’re so right – life blooms. I love that imagery. Hugs and love xox
Thank you for this, this actually reminded me of all the times I was grieving after losing both my grandmother (2008) and my grandfather (2013). It took awhile to heal, and I remember just being in my room and just letting it all out, truly feeling the pain- just crying and giving Jesus the pain. Think that was in 2015.
I think pain can do one of two things to a person. It can either shape you or break you and that’s a choice we all have to make. Another thing had happened was I was friends with someone I actually hadn’t heard from in a while, for some reason I had this sense that I should check on them, I search their name on Facebook and turns out they passed away last year and that sent me in for a loop, I was friends with this person in Middle school and High school, even saw them for a little bit after we both graduated. That was heartbreaking.
Sorry for all this, again thanks so much for this post, your blog and most of all you have been a blessing, so thank you and God bless ❤️
Ohgosh in so sorry for your loss. Yeah giving Jesus the pain is the best that we can do in that situation. And gosh that is so heartbreaking about your middle school friend. Sending you so much love and hugs. You are a blessing to me. Hugs and love xox
Allowing ourselves to grieve, to admit losses and accept our sorrow is not only freeing for us but builds up a community where expressing all emotions is valued.
Thanks for this thoughtful reflection Madeline. You’re so right – it builds community. Hugs and love xox
Beautifully written, Caralyn. Reminds me of 2 Corinthians 1:4. I love your heart for others. ❤️💟✝️
Thanks so much Terese! You’re kind to say that. Big hugs xox
This is where I came to, in prayer for you, the past week – the heart.
With well wishes –
thanks so much David. i am so grateful for your prayers. hugs x
The time that you lost is gone, never to come back. In a sense, it doesn’t matter any more. What matters most that you came out of it and have the courage to share what you went through. Even if it helps one single reader or by extension someone else connected to your readers, that lost time was well spent.
thanks so much friend, for this powerful perspective. I really appreciate the encouragement. big hugs xo
First, eliminate the awful word “should” from the equasion. What is done is done. Period. And then, your are correct that we grieve the loss of many things including lost years or opportunities as well as people. Self care is critical to surviving the trials of life. Your friend has to take care of himself since no one but God knows what he needs but him. And finally please, do not ry to fix anyone who is hurting.You or anyone else. Love them or be there for them but leave the fixing to God. Thanks for sharing this story with us.
thanks so much Steve. you’re so right – should needs to be thrown out that window. And yes! leave the fixing to God. big hugs xo
This is a good word. Something I very much needed to hear. Thanks for sharing so openly and honestly!
A little bit of encouragement to throw your way… Any time I think about lost time there is a particular verse out of the bible that comes to mind:
“I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, the hopper, the destroyer, and the cutter, my great army, which I sent among you.” – Joel 2:25
I know that none of us can know how or when, but I love that God promises to restore to us the time lost that was being devoured by the “locusts” in our lives (whatever they may be for you or me or anyone else).
thanks so much friend. i really appreciate you sharing those verses. so comforting. big hugs xox
Love everything about this. As someone who knows well, the journey of grief, I very much appreciate the perspective of mourning for yourself. I easily have 5 years lost time. Thank you for sharing your heart. This is what the world needs;) people who have the courage to give pain a voice and use it for good.
Thanks so much Joni. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry you can so personally relate, but I’m so glad it resonated positively. Big hugs to you xox
Well said and I think that you hit on a very important topic. Interestingly enough, I have been thinking along some of the same lines for myself and others. And I have also been pondering what the lack of good grieving does to us.
Blessings and have a wonderful day!
Thanks so much Jim. So glad this hit home with you. Hope you’re having a great day! Hugs and love xox
To quote you – “I don’t think there’s a person on this earth who isn’t going through, or has gone through a difficult season” this is so very true. We all have things that we carry with us and have the burden to bear but you are also right when you say – “give it to Jesus” He will make a way. Thanks for the reminder and thanks for always being a light to others.
thanks friend. you’re so right – we all have those seasons. Amen! He will make a way. thanks for the encouragement. big hugs xo
Thanks for sharing this. I lost fourteen Years to alcohol and drugs. I know how devastating it is to lose so much time. I gave it over to Jesus and now I’m rebuilding my life. God is a restorer.
Thanks so much for sharing your story. I’m so glad you’ve found His healing power and restoration. Know that I am cheering for you!! big hugs xox
The truth that true freedom comes from feeling through and grieving through the mess of suffering and loss, and then giving the pain to Jesus, is a truth that usually comes with age. So, as someone who is still in her young “prime,” I think you are ahead of the curve, in personal growth and familiarity with grief. It’s just awful that you and your friend have had to suffer so young, but you have held onto Jesus, and as such, have chosen LIFE, both here and eternally. Keep writing! You’ve got such a good message to share!
thanks so much Steph. You’re so right – choosing LIFE is something to celebrate. thanks again for your encouraging words. God is good! big hugs xox
Nominated you for an award, check it out here https://olufisayoadeyemi.wordpress.com/2017/07/05/the-cramm-blog-award/ Great post btw
oh wow! thank you so much for the award 🙂 it really means a lot. big hugs xox
You’re welcome 💕
There are things in this world that are worthy of mourning.
Jesus was a man of grief; He was familiar with suffering. He mourned.
If our Lord who knows all things (and understands how it all fits in His plan) took time to grieve and mourn, who are we to think we should do otherwise?
thanks so much for this thoughtful response Kathleen. You’re so right – Jesus mourned too. Thanks for stopping by! big hugs xox
Love you blog. I’ve suggested it to many young women I know battle eating disorders. Thank you for being real.
Thanks again Kathleen. I am truly so honored that you’d pass it along. 🙂
Thanks so much Vox. Hugs and love xox
This post was so difficult for me to read- I don’t mourn anything – I don’t face anything I try to outrun or avoid, and like you said I often feel I deserve things that I probably don’t… thanks for giving me something to think about
Hi friend, I’m sorry this was a difficult read for you. I do appreciate you taking the time to go through this post and reflect on it. big hugs xox
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Thanks so much! I really appreciate you stopping by. Hugs and love xox
Seriously needed this. Thank you for always sharing so beautifully.
Aw good. So glad this hits home with you. Hugs and love xox
The truth will set you free. Beautiful post.
Amen. Thanks so much. Hugs and love xox
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Very inspiring! Thank you for sharing this. I can’t imagine what its like for your friend right now and I shall be praying. I have lost friends through suicide, drugs and a car accident, this hurts so much for thise close. You are right, Jesus is always leading and guiding us, he is the way for true healing for each one of us. God bless you
Thanks so much friend! Amen! he is always guiding. Thanks for your prayers. Means a lot 🙂 big hugs to you xox
I agree with you on this – I was in a tough relationship (mental abuse) young 21-25. 4 years of my life, spent as an old-married like person in a bad relationship when I should have been going out and partying and discovering my limits and making regrets/promises not to get that hung over again…and whatever. Instead, I was ever trying to please a man, and trying to figure out what I did wrong…and even after I left those 4 years…it took me another 6 to7 years before I could view myself in a positive light and become part of a couple again. So, yes, there was that time I needed to grieve for a love that had to end, and grieve for the time I lost for me and loving myself…before another could love me again.
Thanks so much for sharing your story with me. I’m so sorry that you went through that. I’m so glad you’ve discovered that self love again. You’re worth it! Keeping you in my prayers. Big hugs xox
This is so totally right on the money. It must be a time for recognizing this. My place on the path is very similar right now: letting myself feel and acknowledge the dark feelings, handing them over to the higher light for healing and purification and thereby ascending. Your journey is so beautiful and true. Thanks for sharing.
aw thanks friend 🙂 so glad you enjoyed the read. you’re right – feeling those feelings is so important for growth and healing. thanks for stopping by!! Praying for you on your journey 🙂 hugs x
This is an amazing post. Your posts always encourage and inspire me- thank you for always being so honest and real. Prayers for your friend 😊
thanks for all the reading you’ve done this afternoon! it really means a lot 🙂 thanks for your prayers xox
Of course! We were on vacation and just got back, so I wanted to get caught up on the posts I missed! 😊 You’re welcome!!
John 11:35 NIV
Yes. Most powerful sentence in the Bible. Hugs and love xox
These are healthy phases, right? Holding things in or back clog us up on the inside. Thank the Lord for times of seeing it released. I pray your friend let’s it go.
On Mon, Jul 3, 2017 at 5:03 PM BeautyBeyondBones wrote:
> beautybeyondbones posted: “I’m going to be honest, I have 2 vodka/coconut > waters in my system, so this post may be a bit…spirited. Ba-dum chh! > Bad joke. OKAY! I had a conversation with a friend tonight that has > completely pulled at my heartstrings and offered me some” >
thanks so much Gary. so true – bottling up our pain only leads to greater pain later on. Yeah, he’s a great guy. top notch 🙂 big hugs xox
Great post. Yes, we find freedom when we give our wounds to Jesus. He loves us so much that it is he who is in much more hurt, when we are in pain. The Bible tells us to cast all of our cares on Him. Let us all live to it. God bless you and your friend!
Thanks so much friend 🙂 amen – just gotta hand them over to Him! Hugs and love xox
Your writing is incredible!
Oh my gosh thank you so much Samantha! Hugs and love xox
Hi, Thank you for writing from such a personal perspective. Don’t stop and take care.
Thanks so much. I appreciate it. Hugs and love xox
I have nothing original to say — other than that I found this post very moving, and wise.
“We need to grant ourselves permission to mourn for ourselves”… may I borrow that phrase? (Haha I will attribute it, of course.)
Thank you for sharing. 🙂
Thanks so much Mr. Buffy. Yes! Absolutely you may use it. I’d be honored 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Thankyou — and you’re most welcome. 🙂
Keep up the inspiring posts… wonderful! x
This is beautiful, I love it. You’re absolutely right about needing to allow ourselves to mourn and recover. Also thanks for stopping by and leaving a like on my blog! x
Thanks so much J. I really appreciate your thoughts. Big hugs to you xox
whoa! such a timely post for me. I am in a season of ” stuck” and have had a rough couple of years so I completely agree with the fact that you need to grieve! Thank you for this!
Hey again friend. I’m sorry you’re going through a tough season right now. I’ll definitely keep you in my prayers. Hugs and love xox
Thank you !!
You seem like a great friend
Aw thanks so much!! That really means a lot. Hugs and love xox
Buzzed and yet, the post still hits home, that is pretty awesome
Haha thanks 🙂 so glad it did! Hugs and love xox
Liked “Like A Woman Scorned..” It was eye opening for me. Now I know that eating disorders are for real and everyday people struggle with them. Thank God you are a survivor!
Thanks so much friend. yeah, they touch a lot more people’s lives than we realize. yes! thanks be to God! bighugs xox
Yeah, I had to mourn for losing my adolescence and twenties and,early thirties (and possibly a chunk of my childhood) to depression. It was hard, but it was necessary. Because I needed to mourn to try to get past the anger and resentment that was under the surface (and still sometimes is there, when I’m down) about missing out on all the fun my peers were having when I was feeling despairing and suicidal. Like mourning for a person, if you don’t mourn for yourself, the feelings don’t go away, they just stay under the surface and poison you.
hey again friend, thanks so much for sharing your heart. I’m so sorry you can relate so personally. you’re right – mourning for your personal loss is part of the healing process. sending you so much love, warrior 🙂 xox
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This was one of the most challenging & interesting things to learn. But it was a lesson well worth it.
Thanks you so much! i appreciate you taking the time to read! big hugs x
I always believe everything happens for not only reasons, but also lessons, if we able to keep our positive mind, and you did it!
i love that thought 🙂 thanks for sharing! hugs x
Beautiful and apt. Thank you for the reminder. And for visiting my blog 🙂
thanks so much KJ, i appreciate it. hugs x
Hey there! Thank you so much for what you do through this blog! I have not yet gotten to read many of your posts, however just from reading this one and seeing your vulnerability, love for Jesus and desire to help others in their struggles and rejoice with them as well shows me that what you are doing is so valuable!! I look forward to reading more from you, and thank you so much for following my blog as well! I hope you are as encouraged by what I am doing here as I am by what you are doing! <3
Thanks so much friend. I really appreciate your kind words. Hugs and love xox
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Thanks for the reblog! Hugs and love xox
I found your blog when you’ve liked some of my posts. Thanks! I really enjoy reading what you have written. This one particularly speaks to me because I spent most of my 20s-early 30s so focused on my career that I forgot how important it was to forge personal relationships. I beat myself up on the friendships I could have had, but I also know that I am the person I am today-and more in-tuned to other people-because of the person I was then.
Oh gosh Susan thank you so much for sharing that. I’m glad that you’ve found growth through that:) sending so much love xox
What a great post. I think you , your friend and readers may enjoy this reflection “Seek Peace ”
thanks so much friend! i appreciate your kind words. big hugs x
Excellent advice! We deserve time to mourn, as you pointed out. And how awesome it is to know that one of God’s specialties is giving oil of gladness for mourning and the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. God bless you as you continue to bless others.
Thanks so much Stephanie. I really appreciate it. Oil of gladness. I like that. Hugs and love xox
“There is freedom when we acknowledge those pains and then we give them to Jesus” There is so much truth in these words, God bless you!
yes! Thanks so much friend, I really appreciate it. big hugs x
Loved this. I’ve just recently realized I lost much time and much of myself in the last two years due to injuries. It’s a long road back and it’s still not over. But I’ve forgiven myself for who I was at that time. It’s progress
Thanks so much Athena for sharing your story. Hang in there. The healing journey is long but there is light at the end of the tunnel 🙂 Hugs and love xox
I’ll be praying for your total and complete healing 🙂 xo