The Angry Feminist

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Warning: this post may be slightly unpopular.

You know what fashion trend I am completely over? Shirts with words on them.

You know what I’m talking about…they’ll have random words like, “How about Tacos” or “#squad” or something like “Laundry Day.” The whole I’m-really-trying-to-look-like-I’m-not-trying look. And listen buddy, you ain’t foolin’ anybody. Just take your poly/cotton blend attempt at irony back to the dumpster fire that is Forever 21 where it belongs.

Sheesh.

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But since I’ve been back in NYC, I’ve noticed the tone of these said “word shirts” have gotten…well…hostile.

And women, I’m looking at us.

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I’ve seen shirts with language such as “No Uterus, No Opinion,” “Not your P####,” “Feminist as F@%#,” “Who Runs the World? Girls,” “F#*%ing Nasty Woman,” and my personal favorite…”She’s Beauty, She’s Grace, She’ll Punch You in the Face.”

Frankly, I’m disgusted.

Listen, I am all for celebrating womanhood and the feminine genius – after all, we are the crown of creation and have so much to offer the world – but when did celebrating womanhood become about absolutely tearing down men?

There’s no excuse for belittling another human being just to elevate oneself. I mean, isn’t that exactly what you’re “fighting” to stop in the first place? Apparently it’s okay to reduce a man’s value and worth and intelligence because it’s in the name of feminism, right?

What message are we sending to children, when our clothing attacks men with profanity and language I certainly wouldn’t want my future children repeating?

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I mean, where’s the line?

And I get it…there are a lot of reasons, especially given recent history, for women to be up in arms. (I’m lookin’ at you, R. Kelly, Donald Trump, Jay Z). And those feelings are valid and important.

But for cryin’ out loud, can’t we take the high road?

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The truth is, men and women are different. We are each a unique reflection of our Maker, and are equal partners in life, in marriage, under the law, in the eyes of God.

But I’m tired of women putting men down just to advance the feminist agenda.

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One of my favorite verses on this is from Col 3:18-19, which gets a bad wrap. It’s all about a wife submitting to her husband. But what gets left out is where the husband gets that very same instruction! And it goes further in 1 Peter 3:7 to say that husbands should treat their wives “with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life.”

God wants men and women to be a team.

We are to build one another up.

We are to treat one another with respect and dignity – as equal partners.

One of the most powerful things my mom ever said to me was that when you get married, your number one job is to help get your spouse to Heaven.

It’s an equal partnership where the earthly and eternal wellbeing of the other becomes more important then your own.

That’s radical feminism.

That’s the male/female relationship we should strive for.

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I’m going to call it how I see it: this new wave of profane feminism isn’t feminism…it’s bullying. 

And you know what? It needs to stop.

By acting out with such base and vile behavior and language, we’re just as bad as the “mysogyny” we’re fighting against.

It’s the epitome of hypocritical, and honestly, it’s just in bad taste.

I’m just going to leave you with this…you attract more flies with honey than you can with vinegar.

And maybe, if we hold ourselves to the standards of virtue and grace, and humility and honor, then men will take a page from our book, and that respect we’re demanding will be voluntarily given.

So please, enough with the aggression. It doesn’t look good on you, sweetheart.

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553 thoughts on “The Angry Feminist”

  1. shhh don’t tell anyone but I do get a bit sweary now and again. I turned 40 and found my “voice” as a person. Yeah, I get it’s not pretty so like chocolate cake, I’m trying to cut back. Really I am. Mostly I don’t but sometimes the sweari-ness washes over me and the words rush out so quickly they can’t be stopped.
    ❤

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  4. Well expressed Truth! This is a marvelous post!

    When I was ever so much younger, I had a habitual bad language problem. I suppose I thought it made me seem more mature when I took it up. Thank God I was delivered from it. Someone pointed out to me that swearing is a crutch used by those incapable of realizing that the real power of of communication is in bringing the language to bear to express oneself in no uncertain terms (like you have done here).

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  6. THANK you! Thank you for your words. You have said exactly what I’ve been thinking, but didn’t dare express, because I just wouldn’t do it with the grace needed. But I feel that you have. Thank you thank you thank you!! Now how do we get this post to go viral??!!

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  7. Thanks. The current anti-men environment that passes as feminism is so destructive to society. Sadly that segment if our society given over to secular and atheistic ideals will never understand the Judeo- Christian model where men and women value, dare I say love, each other. As Catholics, we know we were made to love and serve God,

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  14. Bingo! Love what you wrote, in fact in corporate world we women are being belittled. We have to work harder to prove that we are of equal skills and experience. Why do we need to work harder to prove? As an Asian women, we not only work in the office what about home? House chores should be equal too, am I right?

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  15. THANk YOU for this. It’s SO refreshing to finally read this perspective. As a mother to Little’s who can actually read these shirts, and a woman who is in shock and dismay at the polarization that has ensued among us-it’s about time more woman spoke up advocating better ways! Of course, I get that hard battles need to be fought sometimes, and that right now there are some very important topics on the debate stage. But I don’t recall any of the greats (Martin Luther King, jr. comes to mind) acting in Such verbally or physically abusive ways in their fight for equal rights. I certainly couldn’t imagine him wearing a shirt like these. You can’t preach love and kindness while wearing most of them, or holding some of these signs. You just can’t. AnywAy-thank YOU. Here’s praying we can find a way past it to a brighter future.

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    1. Thanks so much Laura. I really appreciate your kind words. Gosh I can’t imagine how difficult that is to navigate with your little one. You’re right- those greats lead by example with dignity. I’ll join you in that prayer. Hugs and love xox

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  16. Yes!! I love this. There is a lot of “feminism=vulgarity” these days that I just cannot get behind. Since when did behaving with dignity become a mark of shame? Not all behaviors are dignified and yes, there *is* a point where dignity in behavior is less subjective and more objective. Anyway, thanks for this post! Loved it.

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  18. Bravo! Was just discussing this very topic with somebody earlier today. In the frenetic race for equality that women are embarked upon, there is so much emphasis on the things they can do just as well as men, that they are forgetting the things they can do that men cannot.
    This obsession for sameness is robbing them of their uniqueness.

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      1. Sorry, I’m far too ancient to ask you the question I was going to ask you, and it’s not something that you, of all people, should be asked in jest. I’m certain that someone will ask it of you some day, with an open heart and a full expectation that all of life’s joys will shared between you.

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      2. Oh, dear lady, if only men knew what beauty lies cloaked inside of you, they would lay down their kingdoms to serve the life you harbor. Please, have pity on your servant!

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  20. Oh my gosh, I LOVE THIS POST, like holy crap! Its so good! Get em fam! Get em on that bullying! But let’s be honest us men need to stop being bullies towards women. What I love about Jesus is that He valued and elevated women. Thanks for sharing this, keep going my friend!! 😀🤘🏽🔥🙌🏽👊🏽❤️
    Keep bringing it, YOU DA BEST!!

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  26. You say it girl! I think we’re just going away from the ACTUAL spirit of feminism. What about the women who actually need us? When did feminism start meaning man hating?!

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  28. YYYAAASSS girl, preach! Women need to understand and get their facts right first before fighting for something they’re not even clear about. Men and women are a team, and a team consists of members that make up each others strengths and weaknesses. Sending love! xo

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  29. A scene in Bambi comes to mind as I read the blog, when Thumper is reminded by his mother that if he doesn’t have anything nice to say it is better to say nothing at all.
    Freedom of expression comes with responsibilities and there have to be boundaries. Just because something can be said doesn’t mean it should be or that it is right.
    The words of Ro 12:18 “If it be possible, as much as in you lieth, be at peace with all men”.[the Greek word isn’t gender limiting or specific]
    Hate speech is a part of everyday life and anyone who holds a different opinion has to expect to be ridiculed and insulted. So how about taking a lesson from the bible account of Job – that we make a covenant with our eyes (in this instance not to be offended by the rhetoric or better still not to read the slogans).
    Justice remains in the hands of God so we answer for our own errors.
    The indignation is brilliant, words on a shirt aren’t spitting, slapping, beating or the precursor to murder, they are words on the shirt of someone who feels they have become a victim.

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  32. This was refreshing. It’s incredibly encouraging to see that some women get it, understand that bringing men down to elevate women is just as bad as men bringing down women to elevate men. Sure, maybe that’s a minority voice right now, but this fills me with hope. As a guy, you never know where a woman will stand with regards to this vile, vitriolic feminism that is currently sweeping the world and it actually can really damage really rewarding relationships and friendships. Thank you so much C, keep it up. Continually praying for you and yours 🙂

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  37. AMEN!!! If I could write that louder I would. Can I add a fist pump and a “WOO WOO WOO”? lol. I couldn’t have said it better. I am a single mom to a wonderful 13-year-old young man. I HATE how boys are being belittled and losing their own identity because of the bullying through feminism in this day and age. It breaks my heart when my son doesn’t understand why he gets treated with hostility sometimes. It’s just so wrong. I want my son to respect women and celebrate the differences in both men and women. Don’t “angry women” realize they are the very cause for male chauvinism at times? It goes either way. Angry women=equally angry men and vice versa. I guess that’s why it’s so important for every person individually to take stock in their own reasons and agenda. After all, we’re all responsible for our own actions but we can’t be responsible for how others react.
    Once again, THANK YOU! You are AWESOME! I’m not just saying that 🙂
    Blessings,
    Carol

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    1. hahaha thank you so much Carol!! Yay for fist pumps! 🙂 gosh, I can’t imagine the difficulties you’re facing raising a young man in this cultural climate today. i will definitely keep him and you in my prayers! it’s so hard when society is literally screaming so much crap in your ears! sounds like he’s got a great mom to keep him grounded in the truth 🙂 thanks for this awesome perspective. you rock friend 🙂 Hugs and love xox

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  38. Loved this post too. Agree with everything you said. I’m of the same opinion. As Bano Qudsia, the late Pakistani writer once said: We are against cruelty. Wether it is against a woman or a man, we all get together and fight against it. Stay blessed lovely one.

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  40. Yes to this entire post. It’s something I rant about on the regular.
    As the mother of two boys, I despise the hostility because I don’t want them feeling like there’s something wrong with them just because they’re male.
    As the mother of a girl, I fear how society will interfere with my own instruction on what it means to be a woman.

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    1. thanks so much, Lee. Gosh, bringing up kids in todays cultural climate – i can’t imagine the difficulties you’re facing. it sounds like your kids are really lucky to have such a rockstar mom to keep them on the right path 🙂 thanks for sharing that. big hugs x

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  41. Girl! Thank you so much for saying this. It takes guts, but being a true disciple for Jesus is risky these days. Thanks for being a beacon of His beauty and grace in a world that is increasingly ugly. xoxo

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    1. aw thanks you so much! 🙂 that seriously means a lot. yeah, we’re living in strange times. but luckily God won’t leave us out to dry 🙂 Thanks for the kind words. Hugs and love xox

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  43. A student once asked me, outside of academia I should stress, how men could help the cause of feminism. I said the best most men could strive for is to not be a d**k in the way they treat people, regardless of gender. If we all stood by treating people with compassion we wouldn’t need all the isms of the world.

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    1. haha – I don’t mean to laugh but that was a great response!!! you’re so right – we all need to treat every single person with compassion and respect. that would definitely solve our ism problems. thanks for this awesome perspective. Hugs and love xox

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  50. I totally agree with you nowadays if someone is a feminist that mean they are cool and amazing . Now the definition of feminism went from being equal to destroying the other gender !! I even wrote a blog about how we need to treat each other as humans and not male or female I am soo happy that there is someone who actually understand

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