I don’t know if you’ve heard the news, but The Boy Scouts have decided to officially change their name.
They’re dropping the “Boy” – and instead, becoming simply the Scouts BSA, in an action that will now include girls in their program.
I woke up on Wednesday, checked my phone, and that headline was literally the first thing I saw. And I actually let out an audible groan, accompanied by an epic eyeroll.
Are you kidding me? What are we doing, America?
Now from the surface, this may not seem like a big deal. And maybe, perhaps, even a positive step in the right direction to include girls in one of this country’s most formative boys’ program. After all, it’s been around for 108 years. It’s time they get with the times and let the girls play, right?
Now, before you tune me out, I invite you to just read on with an open mind.
I’m going to just come right out and say it: there is nothing wrong with having an exclusively boys club, and an exclusively girls club: The Girl Scouts.
It’s not because I’m some backwoods, brainwashed, out of touch conservative that thinks women should just vacuum in pearls all day and cook dinner and meet their husbands at the door with a martini.
It’s because you and I – as males and females – uniquely reflect the masculine and feminine reflection of God, each in our own beautiful and intricate way.
The likeness of God is as complicated as the “issue” that gender has become in recent years.
We can’t even buy little girls pink “onesies” anymore without being labeled as an anti-feminist, with an antiquated view of gender.
Preschools in Sweden have adopted “gender-neutral” school environments.
UT-Austin recently rolled out a program rejecting masculinity, going so far as to cite excessive masculinity as a mental illness.
Traditional gender expression has become something to squelch. And frankly, it is under attack.
But the fact is, God, in His incredible being, has both masculine and feminine traits, and we – created as males and females, in His image – reflect that in a very specific and unique way.
Men have an inherent yearning to protect. To provide. They strive for bravery, strength, and honor, craving respect and justice.
And females were created to compliment that masculine expression in our own way – with beauty and mercy, having a nurturing heart that longs to love, foster relationships, and create a family – that is literally knit into our biology.
And hear me when I say: I’m not saying that females are not strong, or that men can’t be gentle. We, as children of God, are beautifully complicated expressions of a mix of both masculine and feminine traits of our Maker.
But it’s not a crime to have formative organizations for our youngsters that foster those traditional traits for our boys and girls.
The Boy Scouts foster strong young men, and the Girl Scouts foster strong young women. It’s not discriminatory. It’s biology.
I pulled up the Boy Scout oath:
On my honor I will do my best
To do my duty to God and my country
and to obey the Scout Law.
To help other people at all times;
To keep myself physically strong,
mental awake and morally straight.
And the Scout Law says that a Scout is…
Trustworthy, Loyal, Helpful, Friendly, Courteous, Kind, Obedient, Cheerful, Thrifty, Brave, Clean and Reverent.
I mean, Hallelujah! If more men actually lived like that, I don’t think I’d be single right now!
I remember growing up, several of my guy friends received the highest “Scout Honor” and became “Eagle Scouts,” and that meant something. It was such a coveted and revered title that boys aspired to.
And I was a Girl Scout. And I loved the sisterhood it fostered. Heck, that was part of the reason I became president of my sorority in college.
In case you were wondering, the Girl Scout oath is as follows…
On my honor I will try
To serve God and my country
To help people at all time,
And to live by the Girl Scout Law.
And that Law stating:
I will do my best to be honest and fair,
Friendly and helpful,
Considerate and caring,
Courageous and strong,
And responsible for what I say and do,
And to respect myself and others,
Use resources wisely,
Make the world a better place,
And be a sister to every Girl Scout.
Again, traits that, Heavens to Betsy, in the narcissistic world of social media and snapchat and Kylie Jenner, we need to be instilling these values in the younger generation.
The Girl Scouts aren’t some backwards thinking organization about just crafting and cookies, either. They prepare the young girls for STEM careers (Science, Technology, Engineering and Math.)
And from their website, their aim is to “help girls pursue four goals: Develop their full potential; relate to others with increasing understanding, skill and respect; develop a meaningful set of values to guide their actions and make sound decisions; and contribute to the improvement of society.”
What is wrong with that???
I would like to submit that instead of suppressing that which makes us either masculine or feminine, in efforts to be more inclusive or “forward thinking,” the real progressive action would be to openly and publicly embrace that which makes us male and female in the image and likeness of God.
In fact, what if we were to step out in boldness and say that, we need to “cut the crap” and get back to our roots. The roots that this country was founded on. The roots that brought our ancestors to this country. The roots that for years, have shaped this nation, until only recently: our trust and belief in God.
We’re doing a disservice to the younger generation by denying little boys and little girls the formative programs that foster those characteristics that reflect those masculine and feminine reflections of God.
Can you imagine the reverberation in our culture if we taught young boys to embrace their masculine likeness of respect and dignity and honor? Or if we encouraged young girls to celebrate the strength and mercy and fortitude that lives in each of our hearts, as daughters of God?
We would be raising each other up. Calling the other to be the highest version of themselves.
And I’d be so bold as to say that by encouraging these masculine expressions of God in our young men, we wouldn’t have so many Harvey Weinstein’s walking around.
We’d have a generation of men. Who lived with integrity. And followed the freakin Boy Scout Law.
We live in a broken world. Christian values are attacked every single day, in the news media, in the entertainment industry, in advertisements, school curriculum, our laws and cultural norms.
The answer to this conundrum lies within our own four walls. The world is not going to do us any favors.
It is our responsibility to instill those values in the future generations. Schools aren’t going to do it. The Disney Channel isn’t going to do it. And now, not even the Boy Scouts is going to do it anymore.
Boy Scouts, you’ve really let me down…caving to society’s feminist bully culture like that.
It’s time you take your own advice and adopt the bravery you say you stand for.
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