Hey friends! I AM SO EXCITED about tonight’s post, because it’s something new, and…in the words of James Charles, “good and fresh!”
I love writing, but I also love talking and interacting with y’all — I mean, hello — reading and answering your comments is a highlight of my day!
So I thought it would be fun to answer some of the questions you asked over on Instagram in a fun little video!
And the REALLY EXCITING part, is that this is going to become a weekly installment over on Patreon!
By joining me, you’ll get access to these videos once a week, AND I’ll answer any questions you send in!
I think this is a highly valuable resource for anyone going through recovery, or who has a loved one battling an eating disorder, to be able to get first-hand information, from someone who’s been there and is on the other side.
No, I’m not a doctor, therapist, or dietician, but I am someone who has been to the depths and back again. And I think that’s really worth something. Much like my book, Bloom, these videos are something I wish I could have had access to when I was going through my disease.
But even if an eating disorder hasn’t touched your life, or a loved one’s life – these videos are a great way to just connect in a fun and more personal way, as the questions aren’t ALL recovery centered!
So comment below if there’s a question you’d like me to answer in next week’s video! And thanks to everyone who sent in questions! If I didn’t get to yours this week, I’ll answer it in an upcoming video!
This week’s questions:
1.) Do you still have bad days mentally dealing with ED, even though you’re recovered?
2) Do I ever miss my eating disorder?
3) Have you fallen from your faith at any time? How or who helped you stay close to God?
4) Advice on having boundaries with guys. — (I love this question!)
5) How did I get to where I could run a half marathon?
Alright, that’s it for tonight! Please let me know in the comments what you thought – if this is something you’d like to see more of – what other topics you’d like covered — I’M ALL EARS!! 🙂
I hope you have an amazing day! And when you read this…I’ll be out on a date!! Eek! WISH ME LUCK!
“This is what the Lord says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life.” Ez 37:5
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82 responses to “Q & A VIDEO! You asked, I Answered!”
ON THE USE (ULTRA SENSITIVE EMPATH)
A USE often Plays THE VICTIM!!! because of OverCareTaking then becomes A Really Resentful, Awful, Mean, Cruel PSYCHOPATH!!!; so I AM Suggesting Solitude and Isolation in Order to:
…then Return; Repeat…
Interesting. Unfamiliar with the USE terminology
Excellent video Caralyn! I so enjoy the part about dating. So true, go where the good guys (and gals) are. The best way to meet is pure happenstance. ❤️
Aw thanks so much John! Glad you enjoyed it! Yeah – happenstance – I like that! Hugs and love xox
Can’t wait to watch the video! Question for next time: what is your daily routine?
Thanks so much!! Hope you enjoy the video! Perfect! I’ll answer it next week 🙂 thanks for your question!
“Every day choose to believe that you are precious and worth loving.” That’s something that I’ll bet is not readily grasped by a lot of your readers. The Caralyn we know is outspoken, staunch in her faith, and always ready to be positive. Maybe this is the face we see, because we see you making that choice in every post.
However, I now remember when I first started reading your blog from the beginning. I felt the residual pain in your words despite the positivity of each article. You were anonymous, but the pain from those early days still peeked through. I “saw” you. Maybe it’s because I don’t consider myself to be a nice person and always must choose to be nice and not let my temper come out. I know what it’s like to choose. I went to an orphanage once in my twenties. The kids climbed on me like some playground equipment, and I was glad to play with them. But I never went back. It hurt too much emotionally, because I could feel the pain that drove them to connect to and touch someone. That’s sort of how I felt you, but I also had this motivation to help this time instead of pulling away.
I’d forgotten those early exchanges and trying to be supportive without somehow offending. So hearing you today reminds me – and your readers – that our view of you is…limited. You’re the great and powerful BeautyBeyondBones, but more than that you are Caralyn.
Community. This is why St. Paul urged everyone to meet regularly to talk about the Word, sing hymns and psalms. Christianity is a TEAM activity!
Only date a potential mate, as my wife always told our girls.
I really enjoyed your video and look forward to seeing more at Patreon!! Well Done!!
Hi Jeff, gosh thanks for this wonderful response. And thanks for sharing that part of your heart. You’re right – looking pain in the face is a tough exercise. I am so touched by your kind words, Jeff thank you. And you are SO RIGHT about that – the body of Christ is a COMMUNITY!! A TEAM!! And that’s how we are going to make it through. By journeying together and being support and encouragement for one another along the way. Only date a potential mate. – that’s wisdom right there. Tonight’s date – gosh he’s such a great guy, but i don’t know. He’s not from this country, and that presents a lot of difficulties. Hmm — gotta pray about it. Thanks for being a great friend. Much love to you and Julie!! Have a great weekend! Xox
You had a blast doing it? I had a blast watching you. I did not have time to watch, but I watched anyway. Listening to the story of your anorexia and faith made me see the amazing person you are. (For me, I lost my faith many times and struggle to keep it from time to time.) I hope to see more videos.
Awww thank you so much JB for taking the time to watch!! And thanks for sharing your heart. Can’t wait to make more videos 🙂 Hugs and love xox
You are very graciously welcome so much BBB.😊😊😊 Thank YOU for taking the time to make the video. Hugs and love to YOU!!!
Great idea to do the videos! Fun to watch and good questions. Hope your date is going well!😊 xox
Thank you Jenny Marie!! So glad you enjoyed the video! Can’t wait to make more! And yes! The date was fabulous! Hugs and love xox
That’s great, glad you had fun!! Hugs and love back to you!💖
This was so fun to see you in person. I have five sons and one non-verbal daughter, so forgive me if I get too excited about your blog, lol! You are an amazing young woman. Pretty sure you should move on down to Texas where there are lots of polite, Christian handsome young men. 😉
Oh my gosh you’re so sweet!! Thank you so much 🙂 haha yes!! Texas men are great – I dated one in college 🙂 hehe Hugs and love xox
Caralyn! You’re a wonderful advocate and a blessing to many. ♥️
Oh my gosh what a kind thing to say. Thank you so much Terese! Hugs and love xox
Keep fighting the good fight! Thanks for the likes, they are motivation. Also, your works are inspiring.
Hey Dave! Thank ya so much 🙂 I really appreciate that!! Hugs and love xox
Good luck and thanks for sharing! I saw your question thingy on Instagram, but I’ve been very busy the last two days between work, a trip to a SF Giants game on a weeknight (which gets me home well after midnight, about five hours before my alarm goes off), and seeing Avengers Endgame for a second time, so I didn’t get a chance to think about a good question to ask.
Thanks so much 🙂 ohhh that sounds like such a fun night at the game! And the avengers! I’ve never seen those movies but I hear they’re awesome!! Hugs and love xox
There have been some running story lines across all 22 Marvel movies, and this one was a fitting wrap-up to that thread. And I only go to events in San Francisco on school nights when it’s a special occasion. The Giants have a few “college night” events during the year where they’ll have a special event ticket where you get a free giveaway item with a Giants logo in your school’s colors, and this year, for the first time, they added my alma mater (UC Davis) to the schools that they do college nights for. (My brother went San Francisco State, and we went to their college night game in 2016.) I was with a friend who also went to UC Davis (but a few years after me), and she had never been to a baseball game before, so that was fun.
Anyway… time for bed… I hope tonight went well… have a great weekend!
Oh how fun!! Thanks, you too!!
So cool to hear your voice, friend. You are as spunky and precious as you write! As always, love you, beautiful sister. Hugs!XO 😄 ❤
Hey Tonya!! Awww you’re so kind to say that 🙂 haha spunky — I love that — I strive to be spunky 😎😎😎 hope you have a beautiful weekend!! Love ya, friend! Hugs and love xox
Spunky is a celebration of life and rebellion against all things death. So it is awesome, keep it going. Love you, friend.😄❤
I think you’re so right about that! Thanks again dear friend xox
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Thanks Tonya for the link up! Hugs and love xox
Caralyn, you did a great on the video. So open and positive. With every victory, there is always a struggle to overcome. Life and Spirit has definitely come into your formerly dead dry bones! I know you will find the right man for a husband. Enjoy the process! XOXO
Aw thank you so much!! You’re so right – there’s struggle but there’s also freedom from the struggle!! Thanks for your kind words 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Love this new series!!! Looking forward to your upcoming Q&A 😊
Oh my gosh thank you so much Lisa! I’m so glad you liked it!! 🥰🥰 I really appreciate you watching it!! 😊 have a beautiful weekend friend x Hugs and love xox
Your very welcome!!! Happy Friday 😇😘
Thanks so much!! 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Really enjoyed the video! 🙂 I loved your wise and honest answers. My question for the next video is: How long have you been a believer?
Blessings and grace!
Aw thanks love! You’re on a reading roll! And Thanks so much for your question – I’ll answer it in the next vid! Hugs and love xox
You’re most welcome dear! Lol yeah, you know how I get it done! 🙂 you’re welcome! Nice. I look forward to viewing. 😉 same to you!
Just had one of those pif’aney things lol… you and K. Reeves would make a decent couple 😋
I’m thinking you’re what he needs and he maybe what you’re looking for.
Hah interesting!! Thanks for sharing – K Reeves, eh?! Haha Hugs and love xox
Yeah he rides the subways in your neck of the woods lol
Really?!! I’ll have to keep my eyes peeled!
Thanks for the list of new podcasts to listen too! I have never listened to any of those folks!
Thanks so much Joseph! Yeah they rock! Hugs and love xox
By the way I love the video idea. Great pilot!
Aw thanks so much! I appreciate that 🙂 Hugs and love xox
I liked your video!
Hey thanks so much for watching! Hugs and love xox
So often your post reminds me of a Seinfeld episode. When you said that you ran a half-marathon after celebrating an all night birthday party, I thought of the Seinfeld episode where Kramer played poker all night before entering a charity walk in the morning. I guess it’s just my sense of humor.
Oh hahha I love Seinfeld!!! Hugs and love xox
On a more serious note, I have mentioned previously that I battled anorexia and bulimia. Adolescence was very traumatic, and it left emotional and physical scars that have never healed.
My body, deprived of healthy nutrition, did not develop physically. Being obsessed with body image was exacerbated by having a body that looked like a stick.
What people need to understand is that eating disorders can be manifested in subtle ways like unhealthy cravings, an unbalanced diet, improper nutrition, or addiction to exercise. I was very clever at hiding my disease, but everyone thought I had cancer.
People in recovery often fear that they will get fat. You said something once that I have not forgotten …
“Eating will not make you fat. The weight will go where it needs to go.”
Like my sunken chest, scrawny shoulders, and emaciated ribs.
I often see young women jogging, and their skin is sagging off their bones. It’s not fat — just sagging skin — and I think to myself, “Damn, girl … ditch the jogging shoes and eat a burger.”
Thank you David for sharing that. I’m sorry you can personally relate. You’re so right about that – subtle ways. So glad you’re doing well 💛 I appreciate you sharing your heart. Cheering for you in your recovery! Hugs and love xox
Unrelated topic, but I was watching a Candace Owens video with Lila Rose she just posted about staying a virgin until married and it made me think of you. Boy, it’s a great discussion. Ok, now to read your blog.
Hi Eric! Oh wow, I will definitely check that out! Sounds really interesting. I love Lila Rose! Hugs and love xox
I’ll add that a great source of help/encouragement can be had for free at any Celebrate Recovery meeting. Only 2 out of 10 attend for drug or alcohol addiction so it’s appropriate for any burden you might be carrying. There’s a locator on the website so there’s probably one near where you are. It’s non-denominational, too, so everyone is welcome. What have you got to lose?
Awesome thanks Hugs and love xox
You’re an exceptionally amazing, and sophisticated woman! Keep up the inspiring work. 😇😊🥇
Oh my gosh THANN YOU so much!! What a kind thing to say. I appreciate you taking the time to watch! Hugs and love xox
My pleasure! Stay sweet, beautiful, and encouraging.
Awww thanks again 🥰🥰🥰
Keep up the good work and continue to inspire!
Thanks so much!! Hugs and love xox
Your quite welcome, much love and peace!!!
My dear friend,
In the moment or in the time period where our focus is captured on negative things, we are not away of the consequences that we expose our dear and near ones to a state of helplessnes, leaving them suffering in within their own world. But you went through it and you became of aware of it from all perspectives, you are now in the state of thankfulness that God has helped too to come out of this awful situation and understood the help of your near and dear ones as well (it went deep into your heart). So where we have our attention, there we are… This was a great life lesson too to understand and be aware of all what we do and think and speak has an effect, reactions. To be sure that even now we are not lost in the shackles of our mind, is to think twice and even three times before we release a thought or an idea into reality, asking us all the time: do my words or deeds bring harm to any person? are they really free from violence? and why do I do things in such a way I want to do (the motives behind…) – my dear friend this all is a help to make us more and more aware of ourselves, to get to know ourselves…
Thank you for sharing this video with giving answers to such profound questions.
May God bless you and your family, may God bless everyone to overcome suffering and pain and live the way of Consciousness.
Gosh this is such a beautiful response. Thank you Didi. You’re so right — that’s something i wish more people would ask themseves: if our words or actions bring harm to another. So well put! I really appreciate you stopping by and sharing your heart. Hugs and love xox
Welcome, my dear friend 🙂
Hugs and love 🙂