I’ve been doing a lot of thinking recently. About a lot of things: life, family, relationships, the state of the world. Frankly, for an overthinker like me, there’s a lot of available options to dwell on, given the current reality of life in 2020.
But especially recently, I’ve been thinking a lot about my faith. And the toll 2020 has taken on it.
Let’s be honest — for a “cradle catholic” who has never missed Mass a day in her life – (except one Sunday in Iceland when there was literally no church within a 4-hour radius) – going nearly 4 months now, without physically going to church…it has had a greater impact than I’d care to admit.
Sure, I watch a livestream of Mass on Sundays, but it’s just not the same. It’s missing something.
And as a result, I’m afraid I’ve frolicked my way into the quicksand territory of “Good Person Christianity.”
You know what I’m talking about — the…But I’m a “good person,” so I must be solid in my faith … mindset.
For example, I am what you’d call… a “waver.” I like to wave at people with a smile. Running, passing people on a walk, driving — doesn’t matter the situation, if our gazes pass, I’m gonna wave at ya. I call it the Midwesterner in me — my friends call it absurd. But whatever you call it, it’s a nice feeling to make someone smile.
But that’s the thing: God doesn’t want a church full of “good people” who wave at their neighbors, or give up their parking spot at the grocery store. A wave does not, a Christian, make. He wants a church full of believers. He wants a church full of people who have invited Jesus into their hearts and prioritize that relationship. And then let that change them. And sure that may result in behaviors that read as “nice” from the outside — but it needs to go beyond just that surface level.
And I’m afraid I’ve fallen into that convenient, surface level “safe space” of “good person” Christianity. I’ve developed a cruise control faith life, thanks to quarantine.
This social isolation has forced us to take the initiative when it comes to our relationship with Jesus. It’s made us take responsibility for prioritizing our walk with Christ — and unfortunately I think I’ve fallen asleep at the wheel.
Christianity in 2020 is a different breed. Life circumstances and the cultural climate in 2020 has challenged Christians to take the initiative in their spirituality without the guiding mentorship of a physical church with people and pastors and fellowship and togetherness.
We’re on our own. We’re out to sea, in a single passenger “dingy,” and the waves are roaring and crashing, and it’s up to us and our own personal sailing skills to navigate the rough waters.
So today’s the day I’ve decided it’s time to take control of my ship. It’s time to tighten the sail, grab the wheel, and get back on track. And if perhaps, some of this sounds familiar to you, then I’d like to invite you to do the same.
Starting today, I’m going to prioritize my relationship with Christ. I’m going to listen to worship music around the house. I’m going to make time to spend a minutes in the Word. And I’m going to pray for the Holy Spirit to move in my heart to want to love Jesus more.
Isn’t that a beautiful thing? A friend shared that with me in college – she would always pray for help to want to love Jesus more.
And I think that is exactly the ticket: wanting to love Jesus more. Desiring to fall more in love with Jesus every day.
Being a “good person” is simply not enough.
Lord, transform my heart, and help me to want to love you more.
What are some ways you plan on strengthening your walk with Christ?
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Jesus has already chosen you. You just need to accept his choice. “Love him more.” What an absolutely great way to turn back to him! Peace.
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Thanks for this beautiful encouragement Tim! That really means a lot! Yes!! Hugs and love xox
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Good discussion. I have likened the corona life to life on the farm where personal interactions are rare and highly valued.
As a good Catholic, I am surprised that you are not praying the hours. I found the hours helpful for a long time, but gave it up to practice continuous prayer.
Another helpful practice is journeying. While blogging can sometimes feeling like journeying, I often feel blogging is more like an emotional strip-tease. Your book is a focused journal. You might try writing the daily examine–reviewing all the times during the day when you have felt God at work in your life.
The problem of physical presence in mass is a hard one to overcome. When I worked with Alzheimer’s patients, I made it a practice of taking several patients to daily mass. The routine and physical presence was highly meaningful, even though as a Protestant, I was not given communion.
The corona life will no doubt leave a permanent mark on the church. I know that for my parents who are homebound by age and incapacity, telephone church has become a meaningful addition to their routine because they cannot attend physical church anymore.
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Hi Stephen! Thanks for this thoughtful response. Life on the farm – interesting!! You’re right – it’s going to leave a mark for sure. Those are great suggestions! I’ll have to look into the hours. My fam never grew up doing those but i know many who do. Stay well! Hugs and love xox
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There is nothing quite like a full on church service – the atmosphere, the music, the ministry, the message.
But one thing that you need to know Caralyn. It is one thing that we all should remember. Many a preacher have said, “Going to church doesn’t make you a Christian no more than standing a garage makes you a Cadillac”
But Yes.. one does miss the church services. You could have a chance to witness an event like this.
But let us take our minds to reality. Do you think that God did not know Covid was coming? He did.
Quite often we get rooted into weekly rituals that even Church becomes just another thing that we do. That should not be the case. It should never be the case. I guess the one thing that this whole situation did teach us is, “Why do we do what we do?”. Why are we really going to church? Is it because we’re expected to?.. Or is it because our hearts yearn to worship our God?
Take it this way. A relationship with God is supposed to be the same as what you have with your father. Being away from your parents at the moment, what are your feelings when you get to talk to your dad?
Do you come to talk to God in prayer with the same enthusiasm or feelings?
That is the real mark of a believer. Yes. we can easily fall into the trap of self-righteousness in the sense, “I’m a good person. I obey the laws. I should be a good Christian.” No.. that’s not enough in the eyes of God, for God looks at the heart. Remember the story of the rich man?..
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Thanks so much for this powerful response. You’re so right – God knew this all along! And wow – I love that parallel with missing my earthly father. That really put it in perspective for me!! Amen. He sees the heart! Hugs and love xox
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A lot of good points as always. Each person has a right to their own opinion, but Jesus never say look at me, praise me, he said live as I live. His message could be boiled down into one word. Love.
With your blog, you are spreading love and joy to thousands of readers; you are spreading the message of faith. That is the foundation of what Christianity is.
Don’t be down on yourself a moment longer; you are doing more than enough in the current circumstances. 🙂
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Thank you so much. You’re so right – one word: LOVE!! I love that so much. And gosh what a kind thing to say! I am humbled by your generous words. Thank you my friend. Hugs and love xox
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My words are meaningless unless you resonate with the truth that is within them. You are a beautiful soul that shines a bright light all over the world, on every continent. Jesus works through you to help others, never for a minute forget that fact. 🙂
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Thank you again 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
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Wait. I’m confused. You’re like, super good all the time. Didn’t you have a good holiday? Hm. Just saying. Don’t beat yourself up. Be happy. Do the things. Make mistakes. It’s life. Most of your readers seem like good people also.
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Thank you. Yes the holiday was super fun! I’m very grateful to have had that time! Hugs and love xox
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I think, with the way the world is falling apart good people try to absorb the world’s failures. Then, they need help. I used to buy my kid’s friends school clothes. Because, I knew what it was like. So. About this time of year, a dozen ten year olds and I would hit the mall. Haha. I don’t think that made me good but, it felt good.
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Like, I could feel guilty for opening my heart to kids that weren’t even mine. That had dads that should have been there like me. I could feel guilty for not being enough for them also. Or, I could be happy that when there was plenty I made sure they had some also.
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so sad
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Nah. It’s life. Do what you can, don’t feel bad for having it good. Don’t feel guilty when things aren’t so good and they’re still good for you. None of your readers should. Your parents probably worked hard to make life better. Whether that was God’s will well, that’s a hard question. I know. When things were good I made it better for others. I still do even though times aren’t that great.
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Its truly great to witness God’s continued healing and development in your life. It seems that time is the currency of relationships. We can’t know or be known well unless we “spend” time. In my experience, spending regular and consistent time with Christ helps to build on my relationship with him. Worship attendance, bible study, small group and time alone with God in prayer all “count” as time in that relationship. The “good” that we may do always follows and flows from the relationship. Good people don’t go to heaven, forgiven people do. Well done and thanks for sharing your journey.
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Thank you so much Richard! You’re right about that – time is the currency. Amen! Forgiven people! Hugs and love xox
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I think what a lot of us are experiencing right now is a wake up call for “cultural Christians.” This is a term that I had not heard until one of my good friends explained their ministry to both Christians and Muslims. A lot of Christians and Muslims have something in common, their faith is cultural. Where they were born and where they live, that’s just what you do. If you’re born into a Muslim family, you’re Muslim. If you’re born into a Christian family, you’re Christian. While faith is just as much a mixture of out cultural experiences as a personal experiences, the present age we live in has told people that it doesn’t really matter what you do, just do what feels right for you.
Religious Pluralism has robbed our faith of what makes it strong. We live in a post-christian culture which no longer cares if you go to church every Sunday, or to mass every day the doors are open. As long as you tolerate other people’s beliefs, people no longer care what you do. This sense of passivity has permeated through the church as well. Culturally, if we do good things, attend a church service once a month, you can label yourself as a Christian. No one is going to mind.
This has also led to the other extreme, where we see modern day Pharisees getting all up in arms because people were not allowed to go to church. They felt like they were being oppressed, and their rights were being trampled on. Seriously? Is that the only thing that makes us Christian? We have to be inside a specific building, so we can sing the same 10 songs from month to month, and check off a box. Both of these are types of “cultural Christians” I have seen. The new “anything goes” variety, and the more traditional “this pew has my name on it” variety.
All of us need to wake up. It’s not about what our parents do. It’s not about how tolerant we are of others. It’s not about whether we accept all religions as equal. It’s not about whether we miss a Sunday. It’s not about whether we have gone to the same church building our entire lives. And it’s not about just being a “good person.” As you said, it is about prioritizing Christ in our lives. The church today as an opportunity to rethink what it means to be a Christian, and maybe we can get back to the true meaning.
We need to pursue Christ passionately, pray persistently, and love unconditionally. It doesn’t matter if we are Catholic, Protestant, Baptist, Methodist or all the other “brands” out there. It doesn’t matter if we meet virtually or meet in person. It doesn’t matter if you meet in someone’s house, or if you meet in a fast food parking lot. What matters is Christ, without him we’re just a bunch of “Ians.”
I’m sorry if I’ve ranted a bit, I think I need to make my own post on one of these topics now. As you said, Pray for the Holy Spirit to move our hearts to love Jesus more!
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I’m actually letting go more, taking less control, going with the flow of where Goodness draws me…imperfectly of course. But finding much peace in the process.
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Hi Bill! Thanks for sharing that. That’s so awesome!! Hugs and love xox
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Really enjoyed that, faith and belief is very important for us to grow as humans.Had been busy for the last few weeks, I hope you are keeping well and staying safe across the pond in NY?
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Thank you so much – you’re right there in lies the growth! Yes, thank you! Hugs and love xox
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Absolutely loved reading this post! It is so true that part where you say “Life circumstances and the cultural climate in 2020 has challenged Christians to take the initiative in their spirituality without the guiding mentorship of a physical church with people and pastors and fellowship and togetherness.” I completely agree and I also think that this is a reminder that the church is not necessarily just the physical place where you go to worship God, but you are the church too and it’s important that we work on our faith by ourselves too. Thank you for sharing!
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Hi Jacolene! Thank you so much! I’m so glad this resonated with you! You’re right – we are the church!! Love that. Hugs and love xox
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I appreciate you being so open about your faith, and I wish you the best on your journey. Here’s a wave right back at you!
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Thanks so much Jim! I really appreciate your encouraging words. Hahaha love the wave!!! 😄 that just made my day! Hugs and love xox
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Dear Caralyn, I have been walking with Jesus for a long time, sometimes with better success, sometimes stumbling along like most of us “pilgrims” before we reach the Heavenly City. As such, I am still learning what I blogged about on August 20, 2016 about Practicing the Presence; to be aware of our Lord always whispering into our ears, always at our elbows to say, “This is the way, Walk in it.” (Isaiah 30:12) https://capost2k.wordpress.com/2016/08/20/practice-the-presence/
You are on my daily “prayer walk” and the Lord and I stop in NY and talk about you every day.
yours and His,
c.a.
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Thank you so much CA for sharing your heart. Practicing the Presence – oh wow I absolutely love that. I look forward to reading your post. And thank you so much for including me in your prayer walk! I am so touched!! Know that you are in mine too! Hugs and love xox
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I relate to your feelings – missing church – missing the contact with others waving as we pass by – not feeling this is enough. Living alone ust be especially hard in this pandemic world. I pray for you to find companionship that has the same Christ-centered values you do… and can be the person God designed as your companion from the beginning. I would not be coping well at all without my dear husband of 58 years. He is my strong-hold with Christ when times like these try to smother us! Hang tight, Caralyn. This will not last forever. It just feels like it!
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Hi Jan! Thank you so much for sharing your heart, and for your prayers. Yes! I pray for that companion every day, and I trust in God’s plan and perfect timing. That is so beautiful, the love you two share. Very inspiring!! Hugs and love xox
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You’re welcome. Comments from deep in my heart. Love to you, Caralyn. Bee 🐝Well!
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Thank you for your honesty! Learning to navigate through this new normal of church online has been challenging for sure but we are certainly blessed to live in a era that it is an option 🤗🤗 Thanks for sharing!
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Hi Teresa! Oh thank you so much for your encouragement. You’re so right – we are blessed that we have that option! What an important perspective to keep! Hugs and love xox
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One of my friends said that being a “Good person” will get her into heaven. The truth is Jesus is the way into heaven. I wish my friend would see this, but I don’t think she hears me when I tried to tell her the truth.
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Thanks for sharing that! You’re so right, He is the Way!! I appreciate you stopping by, Amanda! Hugs and love xox
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Just in case so some people that haven’t will open their eyes wide to what is going on.
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Hi Amanda Gene…Allow me to put my two cents in here, as while I read some of the comments before going to bed; this one stood out to me, and, then I realized why. I had just written a comment to another blogger a few days ago that responds to my blog essays and she was talking about not being so hard on myself, but, I had to explain to her that I wasn’t being hard enough on myself, and, that most people aren’t quite getting it like your friend, I’ve been there too; so let me share this long comment with you, so you perhaps when talking with your friend again will get her to listen to what this guy had to say, and who knows maybe this time you both can have a bit of revelation, together, I hope. I’m sure Caralyn will cut me some slack here in leaving a long comment like this for you and your friend.
…. and I appreciate that, really! But, I’ve assessed things too much for too long to not be sure of what I see. Yes, I see the grandiose and magnificence of life and the miracles that are happening every moment of every day. Call it a fatalist outlook if you will, but, I know that it won’t ever get to any fluffy hunky-dory situation in this world and will only get much worse, because all the signs are evident! I go by Biblical Scripture verbatim, then the Holy Spirit speaking to me and we are not going to see things suddenly do a 180 and all will be peace and happiness and nirvana! This deal here is screwed and people don’t like to hear people like me talk harsh reality, but, want to concoct their own version of a designer religion or philosophy of life, thinking that I’ll just kinda go along to get along and do my thing as long as I’m not hurting anyone I should be good to get through some pearly gate; ah-ah not so easy; but sorry folks it is what it is! I got poked a few times too many by sinister bad ugly evil people to now not see what I see wrong here! It’s tragically flawed and I know saying this can piss people off, because they don’t want to face that truth or can’t! I can, and will. I can learn all the lessons I want to cram into a day, every day, but it won’t buy me another minute of time on this God forsaken hell ride! I learned even from the innocent Dove’s suffering that I tried to rehabilitate giving it a second chance but failed and it died suffering, and, me looking at the aftermath knowing that we are that Dove too! Jesus Christ told us straight out if you love your life in this world then you aren’t going to heaven. You need to say I don’t like my life being in this place, messed up place, it’s not heaven or the Holy Place where God is, and not even close; because I know there is a much better place to be that is more real than this and more than I could ever imagine; so, it’s like cutting the cord, and relinquishing all that is lost and a forgone conclusion, and, to then not live for this world, but, to live for what is beyond this existence! In other words I could be a billionaire and live for this world in spades doing and seeing it all and giving it my all, but, that won’t mean diddly-squat when this shell I’m in bites the dust and it will in one unbelievable moment! So, then all that fantastic stuff I did here and invested all my energies and psyche into was the wrong things to invest in, garbage in and garbage out! This is a losing proposition and thinking that I can keep picking up pieces and move on to some great ACHIEVEMENT is a fool’s errand! People are totally helpless and powerless to alter the course of things in any significant way, and, it’s only possible with Jesus Christ, who told us all of this already! As I say, some have high confidence and belief in that; and many or even most today give lip service and talk poppycock, there is no middle ground or lukewarm territory that will cut the mustard when we are dead, nothing else will do, except Jesus Christ, who is God Almighty, PERIOD! We’re in a constant state of conflict here, and not going to ever come close to bliss! And, I want BLISS, Eternally! If not then this life wasn’t worth JACK! It isn’t here and not even close; no cigar for this guy here! Jesus showed us all of this and some see and believe, and others do not. Simple game plan, this is a short hop living here, it’s over before we know it! I’m focused on the Good the VERY good and it’s not here dear! I hope you get my meaning, and, know I say my mind always! This world here and now is never going to deceive this character. When I was younger I heard old timers say “all that glitters is not gold,” but, then I said yea I hear ya and just went off letting the world titillate and mesmerize me into my own self-imposed delusion, while ignoring the stark realities of what I should be doing over what I was doing, Basically, wasted a lot of time, and, sure I got the job done and then some, or accomplished certain duties and survived, but, at the end of the day where will that ultimately place me or get me to? I’m too much of a realist for most people to handle, so don’t feel bad if you want to hit me upside the head, its par for the course with me! Hasta La Vista Baby! I used to do a good Arnold and a Sly Stallone, but they could break me like a pretzel, I was a more silly side kick or Dana Carvey Clown. Maybe I missed the boat and should have joined the Circus! Hahahahaha!
So, Amanda, seriously I hope you catch my drift here and it does a smidgen of good for either you or your friend not that you need it but maybe something I say here will give you more options in explaining things to your dear friend. If not, nothing ventured nothing gained, and, you could get at least a laugh out of it! God bless you and your friend!
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I am a follower of Jesus. It’s sad that this person I spoke to doesn’t want to accept the gift that Jesus has given.
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Hi Amanda Gene! Oh of course you are; I recognized that in your comment and your attempt to enlighten your acquaintance was a very Christian thing of you to do. I know you heard this countless times, but, it sticks in my head as a good rule of thumb having heard it first from my Dad when I was growing up who was always right about anything he talked to me about regarding life and purpose. “You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.” A person does need to be ready or receptive to see the light and we are only other mere mortals, so, I know I can’t wave a wand or say some special word and heal another person’s conflicts, a bit complicated in most cases to be sure. Also, I hate to say this, but, in today’s very bizarre high-tech conflicted world simplicity is almost never to be found, too many layers or onion peels to get through to just find a little truth at times. And, here is the really bad part which I’m sure you’re aware of too, but, evil is real and diabolical forces are running rampant throughout causing real mayhem; just look at our government and geopolitical turmoil with such bad players really trying hard to make this a hell on earth! My point is that the Holy Scripture that speaks to this in my way of seeing it is this, “Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.” Matthew 7:6
“The stiff-necked and stubborn enemies of the gospel are unworthy to have it preached unto them.” biblehub
To me Amanda Gene this is the same as someone with a hardened heart. Just can’t penetrate with kindness or anything.
“A pearl is known among the Greeks for its oriental brightness: and a pearl was in ancient times greatly valued by the Latins: for a pearl that Cleopatra had was valued at two hundred and fifty thousand crowns: and the word is now borrowed from that, to signify the most precious heavenly doctrine.” biblehub
Some people really are that far out on a limb to oblivion while some are just a bit confused and maybe need to learn the hard way unfortunately or get burned and finally get the message about the real deal out in the big world.
But, no matter what the case may be each of us owes it to ourselves to be watching out for our own good and I know this one from learning the hard way because more than once I went out of my way for another who took advantage so there are always nefarious factors to be weary of especially these days.
After all this, basically all I’m saying to you is I agree 100% that it’s sad, very sad! It is a dream to want to see all people understand and accept these truths and so much more. I really admire that you gave it a good try and care enough having a love for Jesus the way you do to help like that, but, the big brother always comes out in me having grown up with my little sisters I just naturally learned to watch out for and protect them as I loved them as much as any brother can, not wanting anything bad to happen. In my trying hard something bad happened to me once, when I found out a certain fella had hurt my sisters feelings and with a group of friends around he had said some bad things to her, so I went to talk to him and found him with a few guys, and as I tried to only talk to him to ask him would he please not bother my sister like that again; one of his tough buddies sucker punched me right in my gut and I got an enlarged spleen from it. This is why I get so worried for others to say don’t stick your own neck out or go out of your way to correct others or even help. Maybe it’s better to let them come looking for the good help and words they need to hear when they are ready, then like the horse finally being thirsty enough looks for the water to take a good drink.
I’m sure you know all of these things, but, I like to talk about them to a nice person like you when an opportunity comes along so maybe in this venue especially, it will make that little bit of difference or the tiny push in the right direction that someone out there reading this needs and make the world of difference in saving them from misery or worse! I liked your question/comment, I’m so glad it stood out to me and I hope you got a tiny something from my long responses! All the best to you and God’s blessings always.
Brother in Christ,
Lawrence
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Totally agree- online church is NOT the same! There is something about being together with brothers and sisters in Christ that makes a huge difference. Churches have reopened in our area and I cannot express how grateful I am. While I am grateful that we have the technology available that makes online church a thing – we do have to be careful, because like you stated so well, it’s easy to fall into going through the motions and not really connecting with Jesus. Corporate worship is a gift not to be taken for granted! Praying you get to partake again very soon!
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Hi Lori! Thank you so much for sharing your heart. You’re so right – it is definitely something to be grateful for!! Thank you for your prayers, know that you’re in mine too! Hugs and love xox
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Thanks for sharing how you are handling these times of uncertainty. 2020 is the year for all of us to go deep into our souls and find the “real” me. We have found acceptance and trust in God makes everyday / every moment a joy. You are a beautiful soul and you make us smile always. God bless you and please stay safe. Jesus loves you and you are never alone.
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Thank you so much for your wonderfully encouraging words! They really mean a lot. Amen – we are all so deeply loved by Jesus!! Hugs and love xox
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Thank you for sharing this delightful post. It brought a couple of points to mind and one of which you make clear in your text. It is the point that “good people” do not go to heaven, forgiven people do, and to receive forgiveness, one must invest in a genuine personal relationship with Jesus Christ, which you so well point out. The second thought that came to mind is this: By the fact that you are conscious of and examining your walk with God, it testifies that you are not idle in a “safe zone” of “good person Christianity.” Instead, I believe it shows that you are active and growing in your spiritual walk with the Lord day-by-day, as are we all.
Blessings,
Darryl Orrell
afaithfulsower.org
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Hi Derry! Thank you so much for sharing your heart. You’re so right! Forgiven people do!! I am so touched by your encouragement, thank you. Hugs and love xox
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Great piece. This type of Christianity is very dangerous to us all. We must fight daily to keep ourselves reminded of the sacrifice and the one who was sacrificed. May God continue to inspire you and give you the strength to keep building yourself and others through the power of His Word and the power of your testimony! And yep, these bones shall live!
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Hi jdo! Thank you so much for sharing this powerful perspective. You’re right – we need to live in the shadow of the sacrifice, always remembering it!! Hugs and love xox
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As you seek you will find the truth within yourself. All that you seek may not be, as that which is seen. Great post with your Heart’s revealing.
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Thank you so much for that nugget of encouragement. Very true! Hang in there! Hugs and love xox
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Great post, Caralyn! I love how you pointed out that we need to ask the Holy Spirit to create in our hearts the love for Jesus that we don’t have. We certainly don’t come by that love naturally so it must come from a work of the Spirit in our hearts. So glad you emphasized that! God bless you each day and keep you safe!
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Thank you so much Patty! Thanks for your kind words – you’re so right – and how blessed are we to have that Helper in the Holy Spirit!! God bless you too my dear friend! Hugs and love xox
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This post was exactly what I needed to bump me back to hopeful. These days have been so heavy. Thank you for your candid words.
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Hi Teresa! oh gosh thank you so much, i’m glad it resonated with you!! you’re right – they have been so heavy. We’ve got to cling to His hope! Hugs and love xox
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I don’t think God is that concerned with religious rituals. The writer of 1 John tells his readers if they don’t love those they see, they are not loving God who they cannot see. When we show love to others, we are simultaneously loving God.
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Thanks Peter for sharing your thoughts on this! Yes! God is love! Hugs and love xox
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Hi, Caralyn-
Consider yourself as the “minister”. Which is certainly different than always receiving the ministry. But as the “minister,” it is important for you to feed your Faith. (You do not want to burn out or become discouraged.) Just what you need to be strong in the Lord is something for you to define. I am beyond any doubt studying and praying will be an integral part — with a bit of humbly following the Spirit. -Jeff
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Thanks so much Jeff for this thoughtful response. I am humbled by your generous words! Amen – following the Spirit! Sending hugs and love xox
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Great post. Candid write.
Wise decision. May the Lord guide you each step of the way to discover the length, breadth, height and depth of His love for you and woo you into your first love. We love Him because He first loved us.
I need to do the same. Let’ dive deep into the ocean of His endless great love.
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Thank you so much Fenny! I really appreciate your kind words and prayers. Amen – His love is deeper than the ocean! Hugs and love xox
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God bless you. Amen.
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Brother in Christ Jesus,
Lawrence
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Thank you Lawrence. And you too! Hugs and love xox
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Hi.. God bless in your journey of knowing and loving Jesus more!
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Thanks you Arjay! God bless you too! Hugs and love xox
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This is a great post! While I agree that being a “good person” is not enough, I also think you should give yourself credit for being one. There are so many Christians who aren’t the best representations of the faith; I think we should lead by example to bring people to Christ.
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Thank you Katie!! You’re right! Leading by example is a great tool for evangelization! Hugs and love xox
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Totally agree – it’s so easy to slip into performing morality when all Jesus wants is to walk in relationship with him each day 🙂
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Thanks Gareth! You’re absolutely right about that! Hugs and love xox
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No prob! Glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox
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Thank you for your honesty! Your post is spot on. We all need to take responsibility for our faith these times. Personally, I connect more when I am careful about the things I consume, I’m talking social media, songs, movies etc. Only things that make my heart yearn for Jesus. Of course, the Word of God is a delight always! I pray God helps you stay through to your resolution. May He strengthen you and uphold you all the way.
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Thank you so much Temiloluwa! i really appreciate your thoughtful response – you’re right – it’s in our hands! i so appreciate your prayers. know that you’re in mine too! Hugs and love xox
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Thank you for this good word! I am preaching a summer sermon series on “DIY Religion,” based on some ideas from an article I read, and one of the “myths” of DIY Religion is that good enough is good enough–I’ll be referencing your article this Sunday (with reference of course!) in my sermon, so thank you for the insights! When the sermon comes out on video, I’ll try to remember to send the link you way.
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thank you so much Joe! I’m so glad this hit home with you. oh wow i love that series idea!! i’d love to hear it!! Hugs and love xox
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As a Marine, I know that (to use your ‘sailor’ analogy) a good sailor knows when to tighten the sail, when to add slack, when to roll it up, and when to hold on for dear life.
I know what you mean by the “waver”. I am not one of those. I know people like that. I go about my day secure in my relationship with God. I know He knows my heart. I don’t have to smile at a person to be a good man. I don’t have to go out of my way to be a good man. I just have to make the right choice when the choice is placed in front of me.
God knows our hearts, and the hearts of others. If they chose to judge us, well then: Matthew 7:2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
So, just be a good person. Make good choices. Let the Lord guide you and he will place you in those moments to help others of his flock.
Don’t beat yourself up (the world is ready to do that for you—don’t join their side). You’re doing better than you think.
Be well. God bless.
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Thank you so much William! And thank you for your service to our country! Amen – let Him guide us! Thanks for sharing that! Hugs and love xox
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So I think you are spot on in the fact that it is a time to get back to what matters and that is relationship with God. It’s funny because I think a lot of us have actually replaced relationship unknowingly with routine. Got to church on Sunday = relationship. Listen to the right music = relationship. Attend a bible study = relationship. And none of those things are bad except for when they are actually replacing our desire to KNOW God. Routines feel safe because they don’t require faith. But step in a virus like CORONA that messes with our routine and God reveals that we weren’t pursuing Him, we were pursuing the routine. (Not true for everyone just generalizing what I think God is doing for all of us). So now we are in a place where we actually have to TAKE TIME and pursue that relationship and that means something. Because it is us learning that knowing God is truly what is important and not the routine we made important. And yes people / gathering together are all important parts too but I just think God is revealing to us where our hearts truly are. Now we can decide what to do with that. Thanks for your courage to write and the way you hear God.
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thank you so much Dan! Amen to that – I think this whole thing has been an exercise in heart reflection. And amen to that – it’s all about the relationship!!! Big hugs to you xox
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Thanks so much for your comments and honesty. Never forget that the same God is working in your home, just like He works in the church building. He will never leave you and He will never forsake you. He is using you, and He has Big plans for your life to impact people for Him. Remember He also wants to be your best friend, and He is a friend that will never fail you. Blessings to you.
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Thanks so much for the beautiful encouragement. You’re so right – our Best Best Friend! What a comforting thought. Hugs and love xox
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If you wouldn’t mind, could I have you read my Post today. I really appreciate your writing. Thank you so much..
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So many comments, what can I add. I will say this, you nailed it! This is what walking an everyday life is like with God the Father, His Son and the Holy Spirit. Maturity happens in these up and down periods of our life. Continue to lean in on your “Good Christian” but start adding more “Shine like Christ” attitude into your days. It feels like walking through Relationship 101 with God, Which is a learning process that pushes trust to the ultimate. He is always there for us, will we always be there for Him?
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Thank you S for sharing your thoughts on this! You’re so right – shine like Christ! Love that! Hugs and love xox
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Love your message and your plans to sail a sacred ship! So glad to see your still on course in all the chaos! May we all soar more, and flap less! Blessings from a brother in Indiana. keep your eyes to the horizon and always look big picture.
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Thank you so much! Sail a sacred ship – I like that 🙂 amen to that! Thanks friend! Hugs and love xox
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Once again, great post. I am lucky, because I have developed a personal relationship with at least two of the three pastors who are in my life. (We just had a change in one of my churches.) I have my call friends, those whom I call from church, just to check on them, elderly and shut in. I have also discovered a group called Complicit Clergy where you can see homilies from the more outspoken priests. Been following Pastor James Altman. He doesn’t mince words. (Don’t share this on your site or you will probably cause CC and Fr. Altman grief.) I just know from your Abortion stance, that you will like what he says. As a non-Catholic, I find his words sobering, even to the point of questioning whether I should become a Catholic. I even gave to his parish. We must all now hear the truth and share it wherever we find it. We must bathe ourselves in Jesus words and teachings. I pray Psalm 91 and 23 every day. Also get the Verse of the day from Bible Gateway. You can use whatever edition of the Bible you feel comfortable with. Sundays I attend three services online, because I like my old pastor the best. I also try to catch Fr. Altman’s homilies. In my prayers for others, I will always invoke Jesus’ healing hands and comforting words (the Bible.) Give Fr. Altman a listen. I’d be curious to know what you think. God Bless you always.
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Thank you so much Sandman! It sounds like you’ve been blessed with a wonderful community of friends! I will definitely check out Fr Altman. Thanks for the recco!! Could be fodder for an upcoming post! Haha stay well and God bless! Hugs and love xox
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“Cruise control faith life.” Great phrase: I can relate to it. When the covid crisis began and my company started telecommuting, and then the state ordered people to lock down and stay at home, I think I expected it to last a few weeks and treated it like a semi-vacation. Had I known I would still be working from home four months later, maybe I would have looked at it as more of an opportunity to focus on those areas of my life and faith that get overlooked when life is too busy.
Thanks for challenging all of us to take hold of the ship, tighten the sails, etc. It’s time for me to make each day count for the Lord!
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Thanks so much Michael! I feel you there – there was a novelty to it in the beginning. Little did we know. Yes! Hugs and love xox
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One thing can’t be taken from us in a time like this and that is our relationship with Jesus.
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You’re so right about that – our relationship with Him. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
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Thank you for the post! It is absolutely true, and it has literally been my lifeline ever since I had my little one; I realized I cannot do life without immersing myself in the Bible, studying it, and praying to love Jesus more every day. I of course am not super great at it still, but this reminder is definitely going to propel me.
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thank you so much ! 🙂 I’m so glad this resonated with you you’re right – the Word is a lifeline! Hugs and love xox
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Well put 😊 a good habit to get into is a daily reading of The Word and this is something that over the years I have struggled with (even as an Officer, minister, pastor) but for the past 5 ywa
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Years or so have read the bible chronologically in different translations which has broadened my understanding 😁 so much more I could say – but for now take 🤗
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It definitely on my list of goals for this coming year
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Yes you’re right about that that! There is power in the Word! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
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Miss Caralyn I am right with you. I have such a challenging time watching the Mass and not fully participating. I forget that Making a Spiritual Communion is a gift to us. Keeping up with a consistent prayer life has been challenging. Prayer lately is in the form of “help”, “I need you”, “thank you!”, “I’m not sure where this is going I’m doing my best to trust you”, “Lord open my heart and ears please”.
I’m working on accepting that in this moment, this is where I am in prayer, yet again. There is an experience of being scattered. Yes that’s it! Scattered, flung afield, here there and everywhere. It’s time to run, like a little one, into the arms of our loving Father for that embrace that says, “All is forgiven, I love you. I created you.”
Oh Caralyn, may you ever grow in the Divine Mystery of God’s LOVE.
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Hi Teri! Oh gosh thank you so much. You’re right – that’s an important perspective to remember: spiritual communion is a gift!! And how blessed are we that during all of this we’ve had the ability to go virtually. Huge blessing. What a comforting thought!! Thank you my dear friend. Have a beautiful weekend. Hugs and love xox
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This is a powerful post, Baby Girl. Thank you for sharing something that has needed to be said for a long time. Thank you also for your unashamed honesty. YOU are a breath of fresh air! Blessings!
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Thank you Mac, I appreciate your kind words! Honesty can be scary but totally freeing! Hugs and love xox
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So nice to be back. Love reading your posts! It is true. We like to keep it at surface level. Who we are in Christ should move us to understand how we can declare that relationship within culture and community
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Aw thank you so much!! Amen to that! It should move us! Hugs and love xox
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You just wrote exactly what I’ve been finding in my own faith in the last few days. Thanks for writing this.
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Hi Chrissie! oh i’m so glad this resonated with you!! 🙂 sending you so much love and hugs xox
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Great post! It’s easy to take our faith & relationship with God for granted. Truly, Lord help me to want to love you more!
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It certainly takes work on our part to steward the relationship with Jesus but key is also being open and led by Him, led by the Holy Spirit- how He wants to grow us and transform us into spirit filled followers of Christ ❤️ Jesus is the head of the church – he is our church and will minister to us individually if we are open and receptive to it! ❤️🥰 ❤️🙏 He knows us inside and out and knows our needs and will guide us through a storm – He’ll even rebuke the storm! ❤️ He’s so good! 🙌 xx
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thank you so much! you’re so right about that — He will guide us through the storm! what an incredibly comforting truth! glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox
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Thanks so much, lovely words that express a desire to know Him deeper – resonates with me 🤗
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thank you so much MT! I’m so glad this resonated with you! Hugs and love xox
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Thank you so much Roselyn!! Hugs and love xox
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