NYC is not safe anymore.

And it’s because the city desperately needs police presence.

I don’t have to tell you about society’s current tidal wave of hatred and detest towards our men and women in blue. Battle cries to “defund the police;” publicly canceling anyone who even considers that “blue lives matter.” There is a quelling uprising against law and order, and while – sure, it may seem “woke” and a noble bandwagon to jump on, the fact of the matter is, there are serious consequences to alienating those who are there to protect and defend. And that is being seen in full scale in Manhattan, no matter how much the mainstream media may try to downplay it.

(And Mom and dad, I apologize ahead of time for the worry this post may ignite. Please know that I am being safe, taking precautions, and frankly…not doing anything stupid to get into a dangerous situation.)

My friends and I got back from Maine on Monday night at midnight. And the city was lights out. Dead. For a city that used to literally never sleep — where you could go out at any time, on any day, and see swaths of people milling around — it is alarming that Manhattan is so quiet. And why? Because half of New York has left, and those that have stayed behind are scared to go out past 10.

Outdoor restaurants close at 10 pm. Historically 24-hour CVS’s, bodegas, and diners — now all close at 10. Parks – which have never been gated up…now, locked with a chain and padlock at 10.

Why? Because it is no longer safe to be out after dark.

Perhaps you may be thinking I’m overreacting. Sure…just a typical overdramatic millennial who’s extra skiddish because she’s a young woman who lives alone. Please. I have never once felt scared in NYC. Ever. Until now.

It was such a shock to go from “Mayberry,” Maine back to Gotham. The night my friends and I got home, I got a text from one of my friends — that morning, there was an arrest made in her building. A homeless man had been living in her stairwell for MONTHS, and had been stealing packages. This was in a super nice building on the Upper West Side — arguably one of the nicest, most affluent neighborhoods in Manhattan.

A man. Living in her stairwell.

Which is particularly alarming and crazy, because she had been getting her packages delivered to my doorman building for quite some time now, because all of her packages were going missing.

Crime is up.

You may recall the incident I had just a few months ago: where a BLM radical YouTuber accosted me outside my building, and forced me to get on my knees and hail BLM while he livestreamed it. I was one of a string of young women he “vlogged” that day.

Graffiti tags are absolutely everywhere. The population of homeless people has soared, and so has their boldness. My friend was curtly confronted by a homeless man who pressured her into VENMOING HIM money, when she explained she didn’t have any cash.

My “neighborhood watch” Citizen Ap on my phone pings incessantly throughout the day and night, notifying me of crime in my current vicinity. Unsettling reminders for sure.

These are not just isolated incidents. Homicides. Robberies. Burglaries. All have skyrocketed recently. And why? Because cops are afraid to do their jobs anymore.

Why put your life on the line, when — if you act to defend yourself, it could be filmed and end up on national news where you’ll be labeled a racist, and prosecuted?

They’ve had enough. And so they’re walking off the job. In startlingly large numbers.

The NYPD has recently cited “ongoing challenges,” including an “increase in retirements” and “deep budget cuts.”

That is terrifying information. Terrifying.

In case you missed it, back in June, one billion dollars was cut from the NYC police budget. And the impact of that are now beginning to be felt.

What is going to happen to our country if law and order is not the backbone of society? Truly? What will our world become?

Now here’s the tough part. Because yes – we need to support our men and women of the badge – but it is also true that there are “bad apples” that are drawn to the allure of the police force, and the power and -sadly, weaponry- that goes along with it. But to completely throw the entire baby out with the bathwater, just because of a problematic bunch…it is wholeheartedly unwise.

Are the horrific and heartbreaking incidents of unjust police brutality that have happened in recent months absolutely unwarranted, unjust, and deserving prosecution? One hundred percent yes.

But those handful of terrible, terrible incidents do not color the vast majority of blue men and women who truly have dedicated their lives and their livelihoods to protecting and serving the community, and keeping people safe.

It is a job that I cannot imagine waking up and doing every day.

And it is a job that, yes, probably should have more training and vetting, and support, and accountability, than it currently does.

But we need to support law and order in this country. Without it, we are creating a scenario ripe for malice, and foul play, and all sorts of corruption. A scenario that we are beginning to see play out in Manhattan.

Yes – we need to stand up for the innocent lives lost to unjust police force. We need to demand justice for Brionna Taylor, for George Floyd, and for those heartbreaking examples of lives lost at the hands of cops.

But we need the police.

If that means supply more adequate training – so be it. If that means more checks and balances within the system – full steam ahead. If that means a stricter vetting process to become a man or woman in blue – let it be done.

But we need the police. And we need to support the police.

Lord, may the civil unrest that is plaguing this country come to a peaceful end. May our brothers and sisters see one another as just that: one family — one human race, all with dignity and inherent value. May we come to respect one another and earnestly desire to work together to come up with creative and effective solutions to make each and every person in this country feel safe, and supported. And may any tinges of racism be expunged from the hearts of those harboring such darkness, and be replaced with Your love — a love that sees the dignity and value of each and every human life – from conception to natural death. Amen.

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252 responses to “NYC NEEDS THE POLICE”

  1. Very well spoken, sister. Not wanting a police force is another unhealthy extreme. Citizens and law enforcement have to be on a united front to keep our communities safe.

    • Thank you Christopher . You’re right – and a safe community is the ultimate goal. Hugs and love xox

    • Oh gosh, yeah lots of unrest recently. Big prayers for our nation. Thank you for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

  2. I was just thinking the other day(I have no evidence whatsoever to prove this.)that the general emptiness of streets worldwide, may be making those who are around, more vulnerable. As for the homeless, I believe the UK government is making a real effort to get everybody off the streets and into decent accomodation. Unfortunately it seems to me that many things happening in The US may actually be driving more people onto the streets. As I understand it,( forgive me my only source is Oprah here,

    • You’re absolutely right about the vulnerability. There’s a lot of bystanders too – just this week, there was an attempted rape on a crowded subway platform in broad daylight. Instead sprinting to help, people just recorded it on their phones. What has this world come to. That’s great that the UK is doing that. Big prayers for our hunting world. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

      • Thanks Carolyn. My typing is terrible as you know but did you mean to say hurting world not hunting. That is terrible that such a thing could happen on a crowded subway platform. Look after yourself.🙏

      • Yes! Oops – yes my typing is terrible on this iPhone! So sorry. Yes – so sad. Thank you friend. Enjoy your long weekend. Hugs and love xox

      • Hello Caralyn! I’m happy to say we are on the same page in more ways than one; of course from this one that you explained well and also my most recent writing! I alluded to this fact slightly in one of my last long comments to your blog ever so gently in order not to scare you more than I was sure you might be already. I said to your announcement of planning a trip back home to visit family soon, that I was very glad to hear that; as the big brother or even paternal instinct just kicks in with me, but, mainly because though I give you credit surely for doing so well and hanging tough I see it as a worrisome circumstance for you and any women caught up in life in the fast lane! I have much I want to say and think I should but I’ve already gone much further than I was planning to here! So if you can indulge me and do me a great favor if at all possible would you check your email which I believe wholeheartedly will be good for both of us; I do worry as well as my being persistent when I have something very important to say come hell or high water nothing will stop me, and, I’ve had some powerful people in recent years who by their nefarious undertakings put me at complete odds with them just by my being who I am and where I am, but, I made sure they understood my meaning that nothing will shut me up if I see that I should speak out about great injustice other than me having my lights put out; and if that had to happen then so be it, though in my heart I always prefer to be planting seeds and trying to take the high road and show people even those that hate me that there is a better way and we don’t have to be adversarial; but, like I said if I’m a goner I’m sure God has it covered as to who will either take my place or what plan will unfold to cover all the bases that I left behind anyway! It goes without saying really, that you will keep praying and stay vigilant so that is a comfort, but, still be very careful and please don’t take any chances at all. I know I’m saying something that’s certainly been coming at you consistently by so many dearly loved ones, yet still, it’s sort of an obligation with me when I put my mind to something like this, and, none of us can ever have enough prayers or goodwill come our way due to the fact that we’re all still far from being home free just by the fact or by virtue of our being here in this life.
        Thanks for the consideration and your being on some pages that count so much; even though I don’t get the kind of feedback I may anticipate over time.
        Brother in Christ Jesus,

      • Hi Lawrence, thank you for joining the dialogue and sharing your thoughts on this. I’m glad this resonated with you. You’re right – there can never be enough prayer! Amen! Hugs and love xox

      • Interesting – – in full transparency I haven’t been able to check my email since last Monday so perhaps it did go through and I haven’t been able to get there yet. (Been slammed with work catching up from Maine!)

  3. Your right Caralyn NYC does need the police and if the gutter press over there is anything like the UK’s they won’t help matters. Glad you had a nice break with your mates😀

    • You’re absolutely right Kenneth. They’re crafting then narrative to suit their agenda. It is sad. Big prayers are needed. Hugs and love xox

  4. Amen Caralyn, well said! What Cuomo and DeBlasio have done to NYC is disgusting! There was a crime stopper video on Twitter the other day of a man attempting to rape a woman in broad daylight in NYC. People filmed him and he stopped. Nobody did anything. They just filmed him attacking the poor girl. It is total insanity! People better vote all those tyrant liberal traitors out of office. Getting rid of police is dead wrong. Romans 13:1-7 is clear about God establishing authorities to punish wrongdoers. We must have law and order. We are living in a time where people call good evil and evil good. Thank you for speaking the truth! God bless and be safe! Maybe it’s time to leave NYC. We just left Colorado for Florida and we love it down here. Governor DeSantis is the man! Lots of cops down here and plenty of law and order…lots of sunshine too.😊

    • Thank you Ryan, so glad this resonated with you. Yes! That attempted rape in broad daylight! I was going to put that in the piece too. I know. That’s what our world has come to: we’ll film instead of step into help. Enjoy Florida!! Sounds lovely! Hugs and love xox

      • Thanks! P.S. I would not have filmed the attack. I would have kicked his you know what all over that subway station and given him the discipline of his life! I want you and all women out there to know that there are still men out here that will fight for you. I cannot and will not just stand by and do nothing. I will engage the threat quickly with great force, even to my death if necessary. If NYC is Gotham, then I’m Batman! And I don’t need a mask or a cape. Just the power of the Holy Spirit and my two big American fists! Seriously, please consider leaving NYC. If my little girl lived there, I would have driven there and brought her home a long time ago. I know you are tough, but that is no place for anyone wanting to live a peaceful, safe, and sane life. Praying for you! Also praying God fills NYC with more guys like Batman, casts out the traitor politicians, and restores law and order. God keep you safe and bless you!

      • Haha good! It’s a relief to know there are still good people out there who will help their fellow man!! Amen to that! That is so refreshing to hear!! God bless you Ryan. Giving you a standing ovation right now! Haha thanks again for the prayers!! Hugs and love xox

  5. Yes ma’am, we must support law enforcement. In all aspects of the world has a small degree/percentage of bad. We as a country must find and follow our moral compass. Be safe and pray for peace.

    • Thanks friend. You’re so right – we must support those who are there to protect us! Hugs and love xox

    • Thank you friend. Yeah, our city is hurting right now. We definitely need prayers! Hugs and love xox

  6. For he is God’s minister to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid; for he does not bear the sword in vain; for he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil. Romans 13:4

    As always, the answers are in the Bible. Here St. Paul tells us that this is part of what government does. It’s government’s job to combat evil behavior. But Godless, lawless people with no understanding of how God ordered things, no Biblical foundation are doing stupid things like calling the police bad and criminals good. Isaiah wrote, “Woe to those who call evil good, and good evil.”

    You likely saw pictures from Portland where the mayor didn’t support the police, and now the rioters have tried to torch the mayor’s house! Who ya gonna call? When will the pendulum swing back to law and order? How long. Too long, I think!

    Maybe you don’t want to go home at the risk of infecting your parents, but what about one of your siblings? Stay with them for a time. I lived in downtown Detroit for three years and NEVER had a problem. But if things had gotten as bad as NYC now is, I would’ve left quickly. What about Chicago for acting central? I had a friend from grad school, Maureen McDevitt, who made a great living there doing industrial films and regional commercials. Chicago isn’t as bad as NYC – I’ve spent a LOT of time there.

    Caralyn, my friend, I had to say all this as I’m worried for you! You remain in my prayers daily!

    • Thanks Jeff for this wonderful encouragement. You’re so right – so not be afraid!! And so true – the answers are in scripture! How blessed are we to have the God breathed instruction manual right in our pockets on our phone! Those are great ideas about locations. Chicago has avibrant arts scene. I almost went to college there! Thank you so much for your prayers – they mean the absolute world. Grateful for you, my friend. Have a wonderful Labor Day weekend! Hugs and love xox

  7. Interesting post. Unfortunately, this is the result of many things happening at once right now – a deadly pandemic, extremely divisive politics, a failing economy, etc. These are scary times, I agree. I wrote a post about this recently, too, more so about the incredible uncertainty we’re going through. We’ve been lucky to live in such a safe and rich nation, and now we’re starting to experience problems that we used to see on TV in foreign lands. Such is life.

    I do have political beliefs and persuasions, but it hardly matters anymore. I usually lean left and vote Democrat. But right now, in a world and country where we can no longer agree on anything, it no longer matters. People on the right and left are now ready to kill each other in the streets, people showing up to protests with assault rifles, people signing up for militias.

    Really, I’m just holding my breath until the election in November. It seems pretty certain that no matter who wins, there will likely be a constitutional crisis and both sides will claim the vote was rigged. Welcome to 2020.

    • Thank you Nick for sharing your thoughts on this. You’re right – this has been the culmination of the “perfect” storm – so many factors. Me too – praying for this country that leading up to, and post election, we are able to heal and come together. Hugs and love xox

  8. Living with that kind of fear must be awful. I wish our society could focus on individual events, both good and bad, instead of this all or nothing mentality. Then maybe we could speak freely, listen to one another and enact real change. Be safe

    • Thank you Kristie for joining the conversation. Amen – sadly there is no gray area. we need cooperation and compromise and mutual respect! big prayers! Hugs and love xox

  9. We have had a couple of police incidents in Dallas, too. My heart breaks for the families of those killed needlessly. However, I truly don’t understand the ‘defund the police’ idea. I am grateful for all the good police officers out there.

    • Thank you friend for sharing your heart on this. It really is such a sad reality right now. Me too. I am grateful for them! Hugs and love xox

  10. Sorry I hadn’t finished- I believe most people in the US are only one missed paycheck from the streets. We had a homeless guy living almost outside. I know this is not quite New York City but he could still be intimidating. Yes he got told off by the police. I noticed he became more aggressive when it was cold and wet. I dropped off a cheap rain cape by his blankets. Before long he had even been given a portable bed and blankets. People were always leaving him food. A local cafe must have been giving him free soup because when I offered to give him soup., he told me he liked the stuff from the local cafe, which I cannot afford myself. He stayed all Winter and he was no longer a problem. To be honest I became quite fond of him.I missed him when he disappeared. My ex’s uncle died on the streets here, I was very worried for him. I used to up to homeless people in London too and at least try to buy one of them a warm drink. I remember being scared. The guy was sleeping in a box. He just looked up at me and said, “Thank you.” I do not give money but I often try to give people food and drink.
    I always remember,”There but for the grace of God go I.”

    • There but for the grace of God go I. Wow that is such a powerful story. It is so very evident that you have a beautiful heart and soul that reflects the Father :). Thank you for sharing that xox

  11. Okay, a couple of things here, coming from an African American woman, educator and Christian. First, it is Breonna Taylor not Brionna. Second, defunding the police does not mean canceling the police. I do not know what news outlets you have been reading, but defunding the police means equally dividing money and giving it to different areas that can stimulate society socially and economically. For example, social work services, EDUCATION (severely underfunded), foster care, all of these different areas affect not just black lives but impoverished folk. Like the homeless man in the apartment stairwell.

    Your platform is pretty big. Please perform thorough research from the actual people facilitating these conversations, so you can gain a thorough understanding. This is how misinformation spreads.

    Read what black lives matter and other organizations mean when we say “defund the police”, historically speaking law and order has a bloody history. The true origin of police was founded not to protect but to control and perpetuate systemic racism and economic oppression in America. Thereby, maintaining the status quo.

    Finally, this may or may have not been your first experience, experiencing racial tension. As a Christian, I encourage you, to not think about yourself, but other people who are suffering harsh realities–not as a comparison, but a genuine realization that the reality in which you live is a bubble. People before George Floyd were dying and after. This is the real work Jesus was speaking. And it’s not always comfortable.

    • She is so busy quoting the Bible and pretending to love everyone as she tells them how bad NYC is. Never has she thought for a moment what’s it like to be anything but a privilege white woman(not her fault). She feels better quoting the Bible and really not living it. So many people pretend to love God yet hate their neighbors. No I don’t think she hates her neighbors. However I don’t think she would know Jesus or God if she saw them. She knows that people “look up and respect Christians “.

    • Tory, you do have to admit the whole defunding thing is a bit confusing. As Caralyn mentioned, Mayor De Blasio and NYC council CUT one billion dollars from the police budget. That’s not a reallocation or re-education, but a cut. And while you’re right about BLM’s position, others have taken a different tone:

      Rep. Ilhan Omar “The Minneapolis Police Department has proven themselves beyond reform. It’s time to disband them and reimagine public safety in Minneapolis.”

      This is especially scary (and irresponsible) coming from a sitting congress woman. I am all for police reform, and I believe all caring people want justice but reactions like this are not helpful.

      Meanwhile, NYC is not a safe place for anyone right now. And that’s not solving anything, only making the problem worse. Peaceful protest, yes, rioting and looting, no.

      • It is confusing if you, yourself as an adult who knows how to read and write are not taking the proper steps to educate yourself. Second, what Mayor De Blasio cuts I would not reinterpret that as defunding the police, especially if actual educated people of color are not apart of the conversation and helping to relocate funds to support all people. Especially poor people.

        Next, people are scared and rightfully so. However, now is the time for you to pick what side of history you shall be on. Police reform because it disrupts the status quo makes people uncomfortable. The status quo, which has for decades and centuries been built upon the backs of immigrants, people of color, slaves, and indigenous folk is coming to an end. Many people are waking up that this country was never founded on Christianity, but a Westernized-watered down version of it, which validated the mass murder of millions of people using out of text scripture.

        People are scared of change. Next, your comment adds nothing to the conversation

        You say, “I am all for police reform,” but follow up “reactions like this are not helpful.” If you care about everything you stated, you would not have followed up with “reactions like this are not helpful.”

        Because you are dead wrong. Calling out privilege, especially in relation to Christianity is essential for unity. We must be honest with ourselves before we share our ignorance and biases with others. Because GOD SEES THE LIES.

        Also you are implying the “angry black woman” stereotype. Let me be clear I have every right be upset about these injustices and I do not care if you view them as helpful. Because this is not about you.

        Your comment verifies you are not for police reform or for any argument inciting discomfort.

        But a book recommendation I will give you is “White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism” by Robin DiAngelo.

      • “But a book recommendation I will give you is “White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism” by Robin DiAngelo.

        Btw, I’m familiar with that book and would be happy to read it, Tory…if you’ll read books like Thomas Sowell’s “Black Rednecks and White Liberals” Or, Jason Riley’s “Please Stop Helping Us: How Liberals Make it Harder for Blacks to Succeed.” Or, maybe just watch the documentary, “Uncle Tom” I could give you a dozen more, all by Black authors. I don’t have any trouble being informed about issues as you suppose, but I won’t just go along with a one-sided narrative, nor will I be guilted because of the color of my skin. It’s not as simplistic or systemic as you’re trying to make it. I’ll leave it at that. As I said, I wish you well.

    • “Westernized-watered down version of it, which validated the mass murder of millions of people using out of text scripture.”
      I had to jump in because you stated your credentials then you went on to talk nonsense! The fore-bearers of America most certainly were not perfect human beings but there has never been any nation built in such a way on this earth! You have the tone of one who condemns America and wants to say it is so corrupt and wrong but it has always been the best place to come and start a new life for so many who left dictators or monarchies like the fore-bearers did or ran from commies, and it most certainly was based on Judea-Christian precepts of religion as all of those founders spoke about and worshiped Jesus Christ and that was a strong influence in the Bill of Rights as well as the US Constitution. I never saw in my studies any other nation in history do all the good around the globe that the USA has. Name some reach out and touch programs like Peace Corps and so many Christian Churches self-made help programs that have gone out into the world to help devastated or indigent peoples like none other than the way Americans have! Instead of building up the greatness of this nation you sound off about tearing it apart as a good thing which is absolutely a lie! Did Lenin, Marx or Stalin in Russia along with Pol Pot in Cambodia or Mao in China not murder millions of their own people not to mention all those that were in their way in neighboring countries to gain and maintain complete control of the people and resources, and even now Xi Jinping leader of the CCP has and is doing the same? But Biden has no problem being in bed with that monster as long as his son gets billion dollar deals! The problem with people that sound like you and BLM or ANTIFA is none of you have any clue what you’re saying or you never really suffered under a monster government; so having it easy here in America people like the ones attacking it now act as spoiled brats and actually attack what is the best thing they’ve ever had! That’s like blaming your parent’s for being born saying it was a rotten deal or thing to do! All people should wake up each day and immediately thank God for another day, another chance to do something good in this world! The sad reality is there are too many waking up and looking for trouble and cursing all around them while telling God to take a hike! I hope I’m somewhat wrong about you because I see so many people out there being maniacs that won’t even listen to reason; it makes me sick and I would love to see many of them turn around and wake the hell up!

  12. Love your prayer in this blog. Let us remember God’s word. Love one another. Think of others more highly than our selves. pray for our enemies

    • Thank you so much Jo! Amen to that! Love one another and AMEN! BIG PRAYERS for our enemies. Glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

  13. I’m not sure if anyone else has already said this, but, I paused my feelings and my emotions from leading while reading your post, which I must say IS BEAUTIFULLY WRITTEN.

    I discussed it with my husband about how I understand your point/argument/perspective. And I agree with you. TOTALLY, 100%. But I also noticed that this blog post was missing a part of you, as if you supressed much of your passion and joy in writing, shoved a fraction of yourself into a corner of the room, and gave us this. This was safe. I applaud your penmanship and your pristine use of language. Girl!!! GOOD JOB!!! EXCELLENTLY WRITTEN!!!

    But I didn’t like it, because it didn’t really feel like you. After feeling everything you allowed me to feel, you pulled back. And I get it, you have to be safe and smart. So I get it. But I miss the days when we could all be free to be ourselves and not be judged unjustly, often being asked to pay the bill for other people’s offences. I’m sorry if you’ve ever had to deal with that, so very sorry my love.

    Thank you for this post. I’ve never been painted so we’ll a picture, of what much others outside of my race has felt (outside of the movies, and those don’t count for me that much). So, thank you.

    So in conclusion, my dear, my husband and I realized, that the experience you’d just described, was what we’ve often seen displayed in the movies as Black Struggle and Black Communities, Ghettos, Hoods, Projects, etc. You had just, almost barley, skimmed the surface of the “Black Experience”.

    I’ve never lived like that. But I’ve seen it. And it bothers me just as much as it bothers you. Your situation right now bothers me, just as much as it bothers you. And I’m with you. Let’s find creative ways of getting on with this new normal. Making some tough decisions. Facing some hard truths. Letting some people go. Dreaming big. Stepping on. And finally just being able to BREATHE AGAIN.


    Thank you.

    Lord, please, if You are truly my sister’s Keeper, if You really do give angels charge over her, and if You really do intend to show up in her life as Lord and as Saviour, please keep her safe. Never let the enemy rejoice over her. May he ALWAYS BE PUT TO SHAME. May she ALWAYS KNOW the safety of Your arms. In Jesus’ most HOLY, & PERFECT name, amen.

    Love you sister. Thank you.

    • Hi Racene, wow thank you so much. I am so moved by your response!! And your prayer is so powerful – joining your there!! I am actually quite shocked and impressed at how intimately you know my heart! Because you’re absolutely right – I played it safe with this post for fear of saying the wrong thing and really REALLY upsetting people. Ok let you in on a little known tidbit – my last super polarizingly political piece about trump was discovered by a close friend who is a very empassioned liberal. And this person completely wrote me out of their life after reading it. Blocked me from all social media. Never spoke or returned my calls again. Left our friend group. I was no longer invited to their wedding. It was such a deeply sad SAD outcome for publishing what I felt was a respectful (though passionate) piece about my political position. So to say that I have been burned is an understatement and so I’ve been conditioned to REALLY play it safe when it comes to seriously polarizing topics like this one. But youre right there was a lot more I wanted to say. THANK YOU for stopping by, for your encouraging words and support, and for just being a wonderful person. Sending big hugs xox

  14. Police are needed and if they cannot control, then something else needs to be done. Black lives do matter but so do all lives. We are all created by God. And I’m sorry to say this, but going to anyway. All women go to the bathroom the same way and all men do too. No one is better than anyone else in this world. We all matter. And all will answer to God.
    Be safe and take care

    • Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. Amen – we are all created by God and one family. We need to remember that and live accordingly. Hugs and love xox

  15. They can’t do their jobs anymore. Plus the progressive movement that’s soft on crime and allows these criminals to be on the street like that rapist who was caught. There needs to be a huge overhaul. Well said Caralyn. I don’t know how you do it. I’m glad I live in a safe area in Staten Island.

  16. By the way I am not advocating either you or your friend put yourselves in any danger but maybe try contacting your church or another organisation to try to help him. Is there not something about giving a child(or adult) a cup of water. Matthew 10:42

  17. Carolyn, I’m in horror regarding NYC, and haven’t even finished reading, my little sis in Christ. Evil is rampart and the more biblical principals are push by conservatives the more evil will manifest. We’re in the days… what the Bible said about calling good evil and and evil good”! They’re many blind to the light cause their deeds are evil. I pray that the Holy Spirit of God give you the wisdom and guidance regarding your life and of what to do next regarding NYC’s present darkness-this is not a fantasy-its real life. Let me go back to the post. 🙏for you and all the Godly New Yorkers.🙏

    • Thank you so much for your concern. You’re so right – we need God’s Word and His love and light now more than ever. Holy Spirit come down!! Glad you stopped by Giselle! Hugs and love xox

  18. Oh my goodness, girl! Have you thought about getting out of there?!
    I realize we need to help as much as we can – prayer is and has always been the weapon to use. Our fight is with spiritual enemies (as the Bible tells us). That’s the only way to bring about real change. I believe we should do what we can in the natural as well.We’re called to help feed and clothe the poor. But prayer is where it’s at for real, lasting change. Prayers for you and NYC.

    • Hi Connie, thank you for your concern – you’re absolutely right – prayer is what we need and BIG TIME! thank you for joining me in prayer! Hugs and love xox

  19. On point! I’m not really sure why people would like to defund the police, the same people who make their streets safe. I just can’t see the logic in that. 🙁 Instead of throwing out the police, why not support and improve them. Sadly, these people would seen see how they are destroying themselves from within.

    • Thank you so much Joshua! I agree – let’s support and improve them – they are our protectors! Hugs and love xox

  20. P. A. I forgot to mention, that the secular media, the liberals, and the devil all have an agenda to destroy all that is good-America. When a country does away with law and order, takes your right to bear arms for protection, takes away honoring God from its speeches or leadership we are on our way down. We Christians have to wake up-its not about political parties, it’s about our religious liberty and our total well being in general that’s at stake.😢

    • Thanks Meg. Yeah that’s the advice of my father too. Definitely a lot to pray about. Thank you for your concern!!! Sending big hugs xox

  21. Aren’t law and order and our justice system why we fight wars with other countries? To help them defeat their unrest and chaos? And create a peaceful government that resembles ours? Yet the exact same things are now happening here on US soil. In a way, we have become what we were fighting against for others. Sounds kind of like our country needs to do some self care for itself first, before trying to help others! We’ve got to fall back, regroup, and put our own oxygen mask on before putting someone else’s on. Because if you die from lack of oxygen, you are no help to anyone else. Just like if you don’t take care of yourself in recovery, you can’t help anyone else!

    • Yes – we need to put on our own oxygen mask first before helping others! What a powerful metaphor. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

  22. Imagine as a black person going through this everyday. We are treated like sh-t. And you are complaining about safety. Me and my mom where pulled over because the policeman said it didn’t look like we should be turning down that road. She had to show him her license which showed she did live down that road. And that it was a bs reason to pull us over. But he was hoping to get some type of bust. We are assaulted by the police everyday and yes you can feel unsafe today. But it is another thing to be you. We feel hunted everyday just for being black. The people that protect you are the ones that wants us dead. I know this. I was a policewoman. We were sent to the NCO club because our police sergeant knew it was closing. Blacks hung out there. No other reason. Have you ever been treated like are less than an animal. More people are upset when a dog is killed before a black person. Yes we may need the police. But we don’t need them to kill us simply because we are black

    • Hi friend. Thank you so much for sharing your heart and your story. You have opened my eyes to a reality that is heartbreaking. I am so sorry to hear that you and your mother went through that. It is not right. At all. Every single person should feel and be safe and protected. I appreciate you joining this dialogue with such a powerful perspective. Hugs and love xox

  23. I can’t even imagine what is going on there! I hope you stay safe. I live in Ontario and I can’t even imagine walking through the cities I usually find super safe to fearing even going out at dark. Although similar things are happening across Canada, it is no where the same as what you have described. I hope you all stay safe!

  24. Thank you for sharing what you are experiencing. We join jn your prayer for God’s truth and peace to prevail in righteousness.

  25. Defunding the police is backwards thinking. We need forward thinking in terms of training, community outreach AND most importantly, these officers have to be able to seek professional help. Without being punished for doing so. Many cops also serve our country, so you figure they’re deployed on the other side of the world for a year or more, they come back and go right back to police work. No down time. How can that be healthy?

    You take care of yourself, young lady. Be safe.

    • Thank you for your concern and kindness. You’re right – we need to support those ho are protecting us. Hugs and love xox

  26. It seems like that is what the mayor of NYC and governor of New York want. It is sad to see it from afar, but I am sure scary to be in the midst of it all. Maybe you should move out of there. The situation will not improve anytime soon. I am concerned for your welfare.

    I agree we need our police. We need law and order. It is sad to see mayors of cities like NYC, Portland. Seattle not seek to protect their residents.

  27. Well-written post, Caralyn. It brings to mind a song from 1972, about a time when NYC was deeply troubled. The city came back once and it will come back again. If you listen to this song, it may make you cry, but also give you hope that NYC will recover again. God bless you.

    • Thank you so much Grace. Yeah, Nyc is looking more and more like the crime ridden Nyc of the eighties. I pray and do have hope that it will bounce back!! Thank you for the song! Hugs and love xox

  28. Antifa and BLM are not who they present themselves to be.

    Antifa means anti-fascist. The were started in the 20s against facism. BLM means Black Lives Matter. They are trained communist. Both organizations have their roots in Communism. The don’t seek to stand up for the rights of the individual. Rather, they seek controversy. That’s why all the rioting. They don’t seek peace, but rather to tear down society. They will both be vanquished.

    • Sadly I think you’re right. If your read their info on their website, they want to dissolve the nuclear family unit. Scary stuff. Yes – black lives matter. ABSOLUTELY. But the radical organization BLM is cause for concern. Hugs and love xox

  29. We do need police and President Trump concedes there are bad apples in the force just as they are in any other branch of society so those bad apples need to be weeded out without destroying an institution set up to protect us all. I liked your prayer which indicates we all originated from the first parents Adam and Eve. So showing respect to each other would be the first move toward a more ordered society and that respect has to come from all of us not just those we don’t like for whatever reason. However human nature being what it is that probably is a big ask. I think its safer for you to find another location to live for the present. My grand daughter lives in NY and I fear for her too.

    • You’re right Ian, as will all groups, there are bad apples and we need to create some sort of inferstructure to weed them out and create systems to make sure they don’t enter the force to begin with. Amen. Right there with ya! Thanks for your concern. Hugs and love xox

  30. Wow beautiful said as always. Praying for America. Praying for you that you are safe. Thank you for sharing your heart with us. May God continue to bless you and watch over you! 💛

    • Thank you so much for your prayers and concern! Amen – God help us!! Hope you have a lovely weekend. Hugs and love xox

  31. Last year, there was a police officer in the big city next to my suburb who was shot and killed during a routine domestic dispute call. When other officers came to peacefully set up crime scene tape, a group of neighbors started heckling them and saying they all should be shot. And this was over a year ago, before all the recent incidents started. I’m starting to fear that we’re either headed toward a second Civil War, or at best a semi-peaceful breakup of the United States, because the left and the right are so far apart on values and lifestyle that these tensions are inevitable. And of course that brings up the question of whether I need to move far away to another state, because I certainly don’t share the values and lifestyle of most people here, but that is a very complicated issue. Moving away would be a huge pay cut, and I’d experience other kinds of culture shock wherever I ended up. And Christians aren’t supposed to feel comfortable anywhere in this world. I should be seeing this state as a mission field. But am I really doing God’s work when I’m in such a toxic environment that I’m angry and depressed and afraid all the time? I don’t know…

    • Hi Greg, thank you for sharing this sad story. Gosh breaks my heart. I pray that this nation can heal! All powerful questions to consider. I wish I had the answers! Big hugs xox

    • I was frustrated too with where used to lived Big issues with drugs-many social issues. Day after day I listened to women, who were subject to abuse both by their partners and their “friends.” I was supposed to be the one with the problematic relationship but I knew many of them were in at least as much trouble as I was. They felt safe opening up to me, as my own relationship was such a trainwreck. I have always been the place people come when there back is against the wall. Did I make a difference? I doubt it. I remember one Christian friend opening up to me. On the surface, she had the perfect relationship but later I came to realise that she was actually in a worse situation than I was. I tried to make my kitchen table a place where these women could be raw and honest. That was the one contribution I could make. They all knew my relationship was a disaster. It made them feel safe to open up.

  32. Perhaps this isn’t a solution to the problem, but is it possible to leave NYC? Do you have to stay there for work or could you move elsewhere?

    It’s disturbing that so much crime is happening in NYC and I wouldn’t feel safe living there either.

    • Thanks Hilary, that’s what my father is urging too. It would break my heart to leave my friends. Yeah – big prayers for this city! Hugs and love xox

      • You’ll have to weigh the pros and cons. Remember, you can always return to NYC. Moving to a new place doesn’t have to be forever. I can imagine that leaving friends behind would be hard but it gives you a good excuse for more road trips, phone calls, and Zoom meetings. Moving to a new place can be exciting too. Good luck! 🙏🏻💕

      • That’s really a powerful perspective: it doesn’t have to be forever. Great GREAT points, thank you Hilary!

  33. Matthew 10:23 has some practical advice Caralyn. I’m praying for you. Most don’t realize the spiritual nature of the battle that is raging.

    • Thanks Jon – I will look it up! You’re right – there is a spiritual battle afoot, that is for sure! Big prayers for this nation and world! Hugs and love xox

  34. Hi Caralyn. I think we both agree that we need some form of public safety to keep people safe, but I think we diverge on some premises and are coming from different points of view, so I thought I’d share (since I, too, am from NYC).

    I hate to be *that* person who’s like “your stats are wrong” (because believe me, I’ve been there as a blogger before and it’s rough), but actually, per NYPD data, crime is down citywide for the year by a little over 2.4%: I will add that there are spikes in certain kinds of crime that are alarming; particularly, rises in gun violence (murder) and burglary. And there may be certain neighborhoods where crime overall is increasing; I don’t know if your neighborhood is one of them, but you can find out by looking up the stats for your own police precinct if you’re so inclined. But as a whole, throughout New York City, crime is down.

    Stats aside, I’m coming from a lens where my brother, myself, and none of our white friends were stopped and frisked, while lots of my brother’s middle school friends (Middle school!) talked about “walking while brown” (in other words, 11-13 year olds getting stopped and frisked, even though they were not really doing anything wrong). A lens where my brother would go with friends of color to the subway, and he was allowed to go on by NYPD while all of his friends of color were pulled aside to be searched by the NYPD. A lens that heard numerous tales about disproportionate use of stop-and-frisk and other unjust policing practices by people of color (and tales backed up by statistics). There is a lot of anger with the NYPD, and frankly, a fair amount of it is justified. But personally (albeit, coming admittedly from the point of view of someone who has not been harmed by racial disparities in policing as I am not a person of color), I think that the most productive way is to try and really get to the root of these racial inequalities instead of well-intended band aids that are nice for a time but don’t address systemic issues (for example, the end of stop-and-frisk was needed in my opinion, but the root of racial inequality in policing was not addressed by simply ending that policy).

    My apologies if my rant here is a little bit long or takes away from your post. Hopefully, my post gives some food for thought, regardless of whether you agree with me at all or not. Which is maybe the biggest goal of this long comment, because if you vote in New York, there’s a mayoral election next year, and most certainly one of the major issues candidates will have to answer (and one thing you’ll have to discern between candidates) is their philosophy about policing.

    • Hi Brendan, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. I appreciate you joining the dialogue and offering this powerful perspective. Police brutality absolutely needs to stop. And we need to make sure that those who enter the police force are properly vetted. BecHse every person should feel and be safe. So glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox

      • No problem, and thanks for taking the time to read and respond! It looks like this post resulted in some lengthy comments, so thanks for responding.

    • To Brendon Birth I enjoyed reading your informative comment. It is always great to hear the perspective of somebody actually dealing with the situation. I would like to quote you on my blog if that is ok.

  35. Oh Caralyn, what a nightmare. I pray that this situation comes to a swift and peaceful end. I’m glad you got some time out in Maine. xx

  36. Great post. But let it be known that the idea of interfering with law and order (like defunding the police) is anti-God. And, by the way, it beats even logic.

    • Thank you friend. I agree – we need law and order in order to fully live. Glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

  37. My dear Caralyn,

    As this is a severe problem of man, of his mind that too many times is ignorant, selfish, causing problems to himself and others in many various ways, I have just written a prayer poem, to support your prayer you wrote in the end of your text.

    I share your sorrow what happens right now in different parts of the world.
    Hugs and love, my dear friend


    O Lord, plant more consciousness
    Into the hearts of the people
    Let understanding and tolerance grow in them
    In a sphere of love and hope
    Be merciful and remove the sting of hatred
    From their hearts and heads
    Let them recognize
    That we are all one
    One big family
    Not better, not worse
    But brothers and sisters are in You
    So please, extinguish the fire of violence
    With the water of your love
    Let us stand together, grow together
    Sharing bread and water
    Giving up ego and selfishness
    For a peaceful coexistence
    In your garden of creation
    Scent of humanity
    Blossoms of confidence

    DidiArtist, 04.09.2020

    • Thank you so much Didi for this thoughtful response. I am so moved by this powerful prayer poem. Joining you in these important sentiments! Amen!! Let’s strive for harmony!! Hugs and love xox

      • Yes, my dear friend Caralyn. Man has to become aware of his own deeds and its consequences to learn his lesson that we are all one.
        Hugs and love, my dear friend 🙂

      • Thank you very much, dear friend 🙂
        The single drop lives in the ocean, however, all drops make this Ocean – we are never separated from it, never separated from God, only our mind and ego separates us, gives us the illusion of duality. If we watch our planet from far, we do not see life there, but when we come closer we see life in thousand ways, life that belongs to One planet. We have to change our glasses to see that Oneness already exists…
        Thank you very much, my dear friend 🙂
        Hugs and love

  38. you are younger than me, I remember the city as a cesspool and out of control violence of the dinkins era, I was held at gunpoint @ 14 and lost my gold chain with a Mezuzah on it … I have not worn jewelry since, rudy changed the city and now it has descended into craziness in a matter of months… is this a test? or just a repeat ? I do not want to paint democrats as bad people, because they are not generally, but their policies and opinions lead to this… sadly. the only choice is to be the light…. so just be the light, we can discuss it, we can debate it, but being the light is the only solution in the face of darkness. I am not a christian, I am not religious but I do believe that good triumphs evil in the end…. I understand your frustration and encourage you to forward on, what else is there?

    • Thank you so much David for sharing your thoughts on this. And oh my gosh what a sad and scary episode! I am so sorry you endured that! I do have hope t eh at good will triumph over evil too. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

  39. Who could possibly have foreseen that defunding the police would produce an increase in crime? No one could have predicted this outcome! Just… no one!

    • Thanks friend. Yeah – it is so disheartening. We need to support those who are there to protect our communities. Hugs and love xox

  40. I am really sorry that you were harassed in such a manner. I would have liked to know what that youtuber would have done if you didn’t bend a knee.

    Personally, I would have stood my ground. Regardless of what they did. I don’t cave to bullies.

    I never supported the BLM, because they actively support known criminals. They make radical martyrs of these individuals who were “attacked’ by the police. Never mind that there were warrants for their arrest. Never mind that they were high on drugs. Never mind that they attacked and raped girls.
    Can you imagine how the victims of those criminals must feel; to see these people labelled as heroes when they clearly are not.
    Anyone who supports the BLM have not really taken the time to read their mission statement. They are not for black lives. They are not for any lives. They are about destruction of government and families in the pursuit of a socialist agenda.
    I watched in horror as people who are just innocently eating a meal at a cafe, being harassed. Videos online show protesters harass an elderly couple crossing the street. The old woman needed a walker. #Heartless
    The number of businesses that have been destroyed by the BLM; especially ones that openly support their cause. They sure have a funny way of appreciating people that support their cause.

    And the level of hypocrisy from the Democrat party is unbelievable. Mayors of towns supporting the riots and destruction; just as long as it is not in their neighborhood. Anyone approaching that section of the city will be arrested and charged.

    Its interesting that you mentioned Gotham. Because what we need is a Batman to fight along side the boys in blue against the criminal element that has claimed many major cities is your country.
    Like one meme said, “The day is coming soon to where Good men are gonna have to do bad things to very bad people..”

    • Thank you friend. I know it was a terrifying episode. I felt particularly vulnerable being alone at the time and a single young woman. I didn’t even have my wallet with me. So I figured to just not rock the boat. You’re right – their mission statement is truly terrifying and I wish people would look into it before blindly supporting. I appreciate you joining the dialogue. Big prayers for this city, nation and world. Hugs and love xox

  41. Personally I would get out of New York. Maybe that why you had such a good time in Maine. You might not think living in that Environment is harmful but it is, mentally. How better would it be to wake up in the country were you can go for walks and breathe fresh air. New York will always be there.

    • Thanks friend. Yeah that’s what my dad thinks too. You’re right- definitely mentally challenging! Hugs and love xox

      • This whole virus and global unrest, is affecting us all in ways we don’t even know. What I recommend is that you move somewhere for 2-3 weeks, maybe a friend can put you up, and experience being out without actually leaving, if you know what I mean. Then see how different you feel. Been a creative person you will know if its helping you almost instantly.

  42. THANK YOU! I haven’t been to NYC in a long time, but I’m sure it’s a lot worse than it used to be. All of our cities and even rural areas desperately need police protection.
    Reposting your blog on my Facebook page.
    Again, thank you.

    • Thank you Tim. I’m glad this resonated with you! And thank you for passing it on!! Hugs and love xox

  43. It’s all abstract until it happens to you to someone you know. I recall a time when NYC had extremely high crime in the 70’s -80’s. It got cleaned up and the city prospered. Its unfortunate how far some will go to further a political agenda. Im thankful I dont live in a city anymore.

    • Thanks Karac for sharing your thoughts on this. Yeah our city is certainly different than pre-covid. How heartbreaking. Hugs and love xox

  44. I think the whole mistake was to use the words, “defund the police” and it becomes the battle cry for all who want change. We still need police and the strategy needs to be “refocus the police”. In regards to BLM, I agree the pendulum has swung too far back the other way, but that was also the case in the Women’ Lib movement for a while. The problem is the whole “them against us scenario” promoted by 400 years of abuse and by opposing views and politicians to get reelected. As long as we are divided and opposed, we can never exist together. Sanity has to come to both sides of any disagreement and inciting riots by forcing compliance (“Might makes Right” or “Law and Order”) is also not the way. While many demonstrations start out peacefully, the hooligan fringe either rushes in or is imported by the other side to stir the pot and make it worse, so they can carry out crimes in anonymity. Then BLM or some other faction gets the blame for all the destruction. A meaningful dialogue has to be encouraged between all groups, proper responses to crimes have to be encouraged, better training for police is needed and not every situation needs to be used as a police training exercise. Don’t get me started what they do in Berkeley every time the students have a peaceful protest. In our city, they currently have 4 teams of a policeman and social worker who respond to domestic disputes, social worker to deescalate tensions and policeman to protect the social worker. Police are being asked to be our problem solvers in all areas and they willingly take on the job, even if they do not have all the training but they should be looking out for our greater security, not handling petty complaints with a SWAT team. The proliferation of guns, both legal and illegal just exacerbates the problem. We also need leaders who do not make things worse with their words or actions. They need to be for all people, not just themselves. A complex problem or problems, for sure. We have to come up long enough to breathe so things can get better. Stay well.

    • Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. You hit the nail on the head when you said that “as long as we are divided and opposed we can never exist together.” Amen – we need to come together and have healthy, respectful dialogue and meet at the table seeking to understand so that we can creatively come up with solutions. I appreciate you doing just that. Hugs and love xox

  45. So sad and disturbing.
    Appreciate your sharing these details so we who do not live there can know what is happening.
    I live in a suburban area of a medium size city and am aware that the inner city area has changed drastically and become increasingly dangerous although on a much smaller scale than NYC. I suspect that this is happening everywhere to varying degrees. So many problems to address but one thing is clear we definitely need the police.
    Keeping you in prayer,
    Stay well and safe!

    • Thank you so much for your prayers and kind words. Really means a lot. Yeah – big prayers needed for this country right now! Hugs and love xox

  46. My advice is to move out of NYC now. The situation you’ve described will not improve but continue to deteriorate due to the budget cut you mentioned. I believe this country is under God’s wrath and the urban areas will be affected first. You can continue your blog and your business from anywhere. Get out while you can.

    • Thanks Rollie. Yeah that’s my dads advice too. Definitely something to pray about. I appreciate your support and concern my friend. Hugs and love xox

    • Thank you so much Mel, I really appreciate that. And by the way – I love your response to another comment: peaceful protest : yes. Rioting and looting: no. I am in total agreement with you! Thank you for joining the conversation and for stopping by, my friend. Hugs and love xox

  47. I am glad you said something. I will be interested in the response you get. Any negatives would have to be coming from those who don’t live there. I have urged family who live there to move, but they are staying. As long as the Arch of Baal replica is in that city, you are going to have problems. (You can Google that.) I will pray for you. Sending you strength, courage and wisdom. May the Lord continue to protect and guide you.

    • Thank you so much Sandman. I’m glad this resonated with you. Yeah my dad also thinks I should leave. It’s very difficult to pick up the life you’ve built and leave but I am definitely praying about it. I will google arch of Baal. I’ve never heard of that! Thanks for your prayers and kindness my friend. Hugs and love xox

  48. yes, most certainly support the police. defunding makes no sense. But we also have to address the underlying issues as to why there are so many homeless people in the city and why there is such unrest in our country…

  49. Thank you for your heartfelt stories, exposing a rational approach to solving difficult and hyper-emotional problems before us. Portland Oregon mirrors New York. Prayer is a most powerful weapon against the demonic terrors across our land.

    • Thank you so much friend. You’re so right – there is power in prayer, and our city, country and world need a lot of it!! Glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox

    • Thank you so much for your prayers and concern. Yes – this city country and world really need prayer big time!! Haha yeah they were not thrilled when they read this! Lol!! Hugs and love xox

    • Thank you so much Temiloluwa! I’m so glad the prayer resonated with your heart. Sending big big hugs and love. Have a beautiful Sunday my friend. Xox

    • Thank you so much for your prayers and concern. Yes – this city needs big time prayers right now!! sending big big hugs xox

    • Thank you so much Subi, I really appreciate your prayers and concern. This city is in Desperate need of all the prayer we can get! Have a beautiful Sunday. Hugs and love xox

  50. Carolyn, I understand your points. Living in Columbus, Ohio, violent crimes have skyrocketed, especially homicides. As with many things in life, we need to balance our approach to law enforcement with a balance and avoid knee-jerk reactions.

    • Thank you for sharing that. As an Ohioan from birth that breaks my heart to hear. Praying for the heartland! Hugs and love xox

  51. Minneapolis needs police too. Breaks my heart that the George Floyd saga started here and swept the nation. I can’t BELIEVE it when I read about how they are shrinking our police force. I’m praying with you. We need hearts focused on God to bring fruit worth keeping.

    • Hi Linda, thank you so much for joining me in prayer. Amen – we need God’s mercy, love, and healing right now big time. Hugs and love xox

  52. Agreed! I’m surprised police recruitment hasn’t gone way down. Who wants to serve when regard for their life is insignificant. When you were sharing, I immediately visualized the film “Escape From New York”. If you’ve not seen it, it’s like coming to fruition from what you describe. Sad. I have a feeling people will be headed toward remote places to live for safety sake.

    • Thanks Jolie for sharing your thoughts on this. Yeah there is a mass exodus out of New York right now. My building is only at about 40% occupancy. It’s wild. Truly. Hugs and love xox

  53. It’s a nightmare to watch the news and to see what has happened and is happening to our country. The police are absolutely necessary. I am shocked at the belligerent disrespect that rioters are committing towards the police. I pray for this country with all my heart. In my small town here in the south, I have seen an influx of cars from New York. I understand why after reading your blog. God bless you and stay safe. If all else fails, move south. We’d love to have you here!

    • Thank you so much Teresa! There is power in prayer! So glad this resonated with you. I appreciate your support. Have a beautiful Sunday. Hugs and love xox

  54. Hmm this is very horrible to hear but to be honest I see this as the city’s judgement from turning far away from Jesus. I’m not saying there is a remnant of serious righteous people, but indeed the end is drawing nearer and nearer. Will continue to lift your friends & you and your family and the city in prayer. Even the officers ought to be kept in our prayers and thoughts. I agree in that prayer with you. Blessings and peace to you! <3 🙂

    • From the article:

      “This was in a super nice building on the Upper West Side — arguably one of the nicest, most affluent neighborhoods in Manhattan.

      A man. Living in her stairwell.

      Which is particularly alarming and crazy, because she had been getting her packages delivered to my doorman building for quite some time now, because all of her packages were going missing.

      Crime is up.”

      This makes the assumption that

      A: the homeless man stole it.
      B: the homeless man does not have a right to be in that neighborhood.
      C: Because it is affluent, people who live there are somehow exempt from being crime victims.

      Who is doing the judging here?

      Read Luke 9:59

      • Hi Peter. I appreciate you joining the conversation again. I’d like to address your “ABC.” First of all, I was setting up the scene by describing the place in which she lives. It was not a dig at anyone. There are lots of different neighborhoods in Manhattan that span a lot of different income levels (that in itself is also problematic), and I figured that was a more eloquent way of stating that she lives in the neighborhood with the highest rent in the city. Ok now onto your points.
        A) there was evidence that he stole the packages, hence the arrest.
        B) he has every right to be in that neighborhood, but squatting in a building in which he is not paying rent is illegal. It is trespassing to the highest degree.
        C) again, I am not saying that people who live in affluent areas are exempt from being crime victims. I was merely setting the scene and painting a picture of the neighborhood I was describing. Because, as I mentioned there are many MANY different neighborhoods in Manhattan, and yes, sadly some have an acutely higher crime rate than others. And this particular neighborhood: the upper west side, is full of families, high rent buildings with state of the art security (ie 24-hour security personelle), neighborhood police watch, etc, and as a result, crime tends to be lower there.

        I am not judging here. I was retelling a story. Thanks for stopping by. I wish you well. Hugs and love xox

    • Thank you so much for sharing your heart on this. You’re so right – this city country and world desperate needsJesus. We are sadly living in a post-Christian world and this is just another example of that playing out. Yes big big big prayers needed. And there is power in prayer!! Sending big hugs to you my friend. Thank you for stopping by. Have a beautiful Sunday! Hugs and love xox

  55. Wouldn’t it be nice if police were more sensitive to other races? Unlike your false flags that “the Left” want’s to defund police, most just want common sense police reform. I doubt you have ever feared getting shot by police for getting pulled over or for jogging. Please consider that is a common fear for many people of color. This fear is reality based.

    God bless.

    • Thank you Peter for sharing your thoughts on this. What a powerful powerful perspective. Hugs and love xox

  56. Great and needed post. This ridiculous battle cry is gutting the police forces across the states. Have you seen this prayer? I’ll be praying for you all too!

    We need the police. The Seattle police were defunded. The chief of police — a Black woman (!) — quit. You’d think if black lives really mattered her work and placement as first black female police chief would matter.

    Insanity. And the thing we are being told is a lie.

    Love you. Continue to change the world!


    • Thanks Brian for sharing your thoughts on this, and for your support. I haven’t! But I’ll definitely give it a read! There is power in prayer! I know – what happened in Seattle is so heart breaking. And you hit the nail on the head – the straight story is not being told. The media agenda is tearing the country apart at the seams and inciting division. We need Jesus! Hugs and love xox

      • Sad to say but our country has deteriorated morally. It’s been happening even before the 2016 election with extreme hatred towards our current president that is going nonstop.

        We can only hope the right people are being put in office so we can fix many of these problems that society has. Including giving the police the best resources they need to do their job correctly.

        Also I agree with many of the posters, get as far away from the city as you can. Being in any major city with criminals running free and with less or no police. It’s only going to get worse at least until people start kicking the politicians out of office that are not doing their jobs. You got to wonder why they haven’t done that already.

        Stay safe and get out of NYC.

      • you’re right about that. yes – i pray for the leaders of this country and for the hearts of its citizens that we can come together, respect and love one another, and heal. Hugs and love xox

  57. If a thin blue line is all we need to keep our culture from chaos, we are already lost. There are not enough police in this country to do what’s needed when personal restraint is no longer a virtue.
    This is no longer about justice but about anarchy, regardless of the cost.

    • thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. sadly, i think you’re right – anarchy is afoot. this world needs prayers! Hugs and love xox

    • thank you friend, nyc has certainly become a bit of a jungle, that’s for sure. glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox

  58. To solve a problem in weeks or months, when these problems have taken generations to create… Personally, I do not like the phrase “Defund the Police”, though I agree that reallocating funds to programs which prevent future social problems would be wise.

    From what I heard on the radio the other day, for employees who could work on-line, 25% are white, 13% are Latinex, and 9% black. Also, a majority (don’t recall the number) of those who lost jobs during the pandemic are people of color. And, most of those who escaped cities (don’t recall the numbers) are white. Sales of country homes, RV’s, and boats, are up and mostly white people purchasing.

    That leaves the cities with greater percentage of furloughed/laid off and homeless folks looking for ways to survive, which unfortunately usually are deemed illegal. -Oscar

    • thank you so much Oscar for sharing your thoughts on this! i don’t have specific statistics, but i do know that in my life, i have friends from all different backgrounds and locations — myself included — that have had life and jobs interrupted from the pandemic. i pray for this nation and for those experiencing hard times. it is a difficult season for sure. big hugs xox

  59. Love this post…I do agree. We need to support the police….not let a few bad apples spoil the whole bunch. I had no idea that you were forced to do that my blm…that broke my heart…were you able to get any help from the police? Stay safe!!

    • thank you friend! you’re on a reading roll! amen to that – can’t let a few spoil the many MANY selfless cops out there who put their lives on the line every day for our safety. yeah – that was quite the episode. sheesh. Hugs and love xox

  60. Wow. I cannot believe the “take a knee” thing. What upsets me is that if I asked that clown if he thought DEMANDING random white women to take a knee and posting them without consent would inspire more allies or more friction he’d feel pretty small. I’m a Christian too and I think its challenging for us to find a way to champion the message of “black lives matter” while piggybacking with GODs Word that we are all made in His image. We are, but we haven’t been treated that way. And all of our siblings who know JESUS also know compassion. Compassion compels us to have sympathy to and the courage to “walk a mile” in someone else shoes. So we are tasked to always find ways to uplift and love on the oppressed. I just hope I (we – my tribe) still have you and other allies as allies when ignorance runs rampant. We need you guys more and not less, we need you guys stronger after that not weaker. I wish I could speak with that kid and get him to understand the error in his ways and how his ways detract from the message and alienate the allies we seek.

    • thank you friend, yeah that was quite an unsettling episode to say the least. thank you for sharing your heart. Hugs and love xox

  61. Hey, just wanted to say great article and applaud you for the courage it takes unfortunately to stand up in support of the police these days.
    I can’t believe such an awful thing (being forced to your knees and to do something or say something you don’t agree with) happened to you. Wow….
    God bless you for your courage once again and I will be praying for your safety and well being.
    Sorry I don’t know your name. I just know the title of your website.
    Be blessed and know your voice is being heard and is having an impact.

  62. You certainly are a good writer. You have a great way with getting a message out. Be careful and be safe!. May you make good decisions that you can live with and still be part of making the world a better place to live in. Be safe.

    • Thank you Barb, what a kind thing to say. I appreciate that! Yes! Staying safe! Hugs and love xox

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