So here we are: it’s the Monday before Thanksgiving….and I was supposed to be getting on a flight home to see my family this morning. And — I’m sure, like many of you — I canceled my Thanksgiving plans. Instead, here I am: smack dab where I’ve been for the entirety of this conflabbit pandemic: solo in my studio apartment in New York.
So to honest…the thought of crafting something inspiring or brimming with bubbles of gratitude for tonight’s post…it just felt kinda phony and flat. Because frankly, I’m pretty pissed this virus is preventing my family from being together over Thanksgiving.
I was at the grocery this afternoon, and all the end caps had the makings for all the Thanksgiving mainstays…the pumpkin pie filling; the yams and marshmallows; the green beans, french fried onions, and cream of mushroom soup; the stuffing and gravy; the cranberry sauce…every aisle — you couldn’t escape it. Thanksgiving had thrownup on Shoprite. The cornucopias, the gourds, the autumnal candles — it felt like they were there just to spite me — mocking me. And as I literally began to feel hot under the collar, I realized that I was turning into a bonafide Thanksgiving Scrooge.
And I’d be willing to bet a hot fudge sundae that I’m not alone in feeling that way. Probably 80% of the people in my life have either canceled or significantly altered their Thanksgiving plans to adhere to the threats of the coronavirus. So to say that there’s a lot of bitterness and mixed emotion around this holiday that’s supposed to be overflowing with gratitude and thankfulness…seems rather appropriate for 2020.
Walking home, the cold air helped me reel in the emotion a bit. Sometimes, I can let my proclivity for the drrrramatic arts (*spoken with a Shakespearean accent*) get the best of me, so I decided to take a step back from myself, and I asked God to just be with me in that moment.
Here’s the thing…yes, it royally stinks that we’ve all had to turn our lives upside down because of this virus no one asked for, and frankly no one did anything to deserve. But I realized that all day — ever since I woke up and was reminded that I wasn’t getting on that flight home — I had been focusing on all of the negative things. I had been living from a scarcity mindset. I was not only choosing to see life as “half-empty,” but actually looking for things that affirmed my Negative Nancy attitude.
When, you know what? There are actually a lot of really great opportunities that have come about because I’m going to be in New York over Thanksgiving.
For starters — and the thing that I’m absolutely ecstatic about — is that I’ll be spending Thanksgiving with my boyfriend’s family! As you know, this special gentleman came home to Ohio with me back in October to meet my family, and we had such a blast. And now – I’ll be able to meet his! I can’t wait to meet the people who are so important to him, and helped shape him into the man he is today. So I am absolutely thrilled and very thankful that they’ve invited me into their home to share such a special day.
That’s a huge blessing and an opportunity that I am so grateful for.
Being local for Thanksgiving also allows me to spend it with my friends, who are also “stranded” here after canceling their Thanksgiving plans. Having a *very small* Friendsgiving with my quarantine “pod” is something that I’m really looking forward to, as well.
Friends are such a blessing, and sometimes, I think I take for granted these special relationships. But the truth of the matter is, my life is rich with love because of the “chosen family” of friends I have in New York City.
And also – being local over Thanksgiving allows me to help my special gentleman move apartments! Granted I’ll probably be doing more cheerleading than actual heavy lifting, the fact is, it’s nice to be there for the “big moments” in the lives of the people you care about. This fella is at the top of my “gratitude list” (oh my gosh, I promised myself I wouldn’t do this….hahah), but truly, my heart has never been so full, and he brings so much joy to my life. So gush-fest over, but let’s just say, I’m glad to be spending Thanksgiving with him.
I guess my Scrooge episode this morning/afternoon is officially over. Thank goodness. Feeling negative is exhausting!
The great news is that I’ll be going home super early (read: mid December) to spend most of the month with my family. And that is something I am also so grateful for. That, and having the ability to work from anywhere — that’s a gift in and of itself. And my health. And my family’s health. And the food on the Thanksgiving table. And the roof over the table, and….oh boy…I’ll quit now before I really get rolling.
So. If perhaps, you’re feeling a little down-in-the-dumps that your own Thanksgiving plans have shifted, know that, you are not alone. And I honestly, it really helped me to — I know it sounds so exhaustively cliche — shift my focus away from the negativity, and instead focus on the blessings I have to be thankful for, during this unprecedented Thanksgiving.
It completely turned my day around, and I hope it does for you too.
Whatever you plans, I hope that you and your loved ones have a very special, very beautiful and joyful Thanksgiving. Know that you are in my prayers, as I am grateful for you, stopping by my dusty little corner of the Internet. You are a blessing to me.
See you Wednesday for a yummy recipe, and then Monday, for programming as usual! (No blog post on Thanksgiving, but I WILL be sharing lots of fun videos and photos on Instagram. – @beauty.beyond.bones) — AND PS: All advice on “meeting the parents” is welcomed with open arms! hahah
Big bear hugs and lots of love,
“This is what the Lord says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life.” Ez 37:5
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