What I Learned From My Mother

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Tammy Taylor. Carol Brady. Claire Dunphy. Marge Simpson. Claire Huxtable. Kate McCallister. Mrs. George.

When it comes to movie and TV moms, we have been #blessed with all kinds.
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And these characters are all so lovable because we can see glimpses of our own mothers in each and every one.

Some more than others, (I’m lookin’ at you, Mrs. Regina George, self-proclaimed “cool mom”), but each reveal an aspect of every mother’s heart. Because at the end of the day, Mrs. George is really just desperately trying to relate to her kids, however questionable her tactics may be.



I’ve already expressed on here, numerous times, my complete admiration of my mother. She is my rock. My best friend. My role model. My biggest supporter. And I love her with my entire being.


But you already know that. So I’ll table the gushing. At least for this post. 🙂

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But truth be told, I have learned so much from my mom. Growing up, even into high school, my mom would tuck me in every night and we would chat for a good 30 minutes about absolutely everything. From faith, to friends, to fashion, to her childhood, to boys, to fears, to struggles, to my hopes and dreams for the future. And I learned some of my most valuable lessons from her.

But there’s one gem that she taught me that has stuck with me more than anything else.

Something that I find myself repeating multiple times a week, if not multiple times a day.

Just do the next right thing. 


Recovery from anorexia is a bit overwhelming. And if that’s not the understatement of the century, I don’t know what is.

But there were days, many many days, where I simply did not think that I could do it. That I couldn’t make it through the next meal, the next supplement increase, the next weigh in, the next urge to exercise.

But it was during those times that my mother’s little mantra would come into my head and help me get through that particularly difficult moment. Just do the next right thing.


I’ve been pretty clear that my recovery was in no way my doing. That it was God’s. His rescuing. His strength. His working. Which is true. But at the end of the day, I was still the one that had to put the fork to my lips. And I believe that this little “one liner” of strength and perspective was given to me by Him, through my mother.


I think a lot of times in life, and not just recovery, we can get bogged down by everything staring us in the face. Whether it’s finals, or stress at work, or a house full of kids to take care of, or relationship issues, or kicking an addiction or bad habit. We can become frozen with uncertainty or doubt or fear.

And it’s in those moments when I just take a deep breath and think, Okay. What is the next right thing?

And I’ll tell you what, just that shift in perspective can change a mountain into a mole hill.

And sometimes that’s all you need to get through that moment.

For me, it was a game changer.


So thanks, mom.

Whether you’re a biological mother, a spiritual or emotional mother, or even a “puppy mother,” thank you for all the hats you wear: Nurse. Encourager. Provider. Teacher. Disciplinarian. Nurturer. Fashion consultant. Protector. Comedian. Helper. Chef. Entertainer. Advice Guru. Advocate. Spiritual Advisor. Friend.

You enrich our lives, just by being you.

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154 thoughts on “What I Learned From My Mother”

  4. Sounds like you have a wonderful mother and an equally wonderful relationship with her. Love the lessons that she’s imparted to you … such a great way to approach life. Hugs and warmest wishes to you. xo

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    1. Thanks Corrie, for sharing this. Aw I’m sorry you miss your mother. It always gives me peace to know that we’ll see our loved ones again some day:) thanks for reading. Sending you a big big hug right now. Hugs and love xox

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  8. I needed this so much just now, I was going through a number of issues today, and I just kept hearing, “Joshua just take it the next ten seconds at a time” it didn’t really sink in until I read this, so thank you for allowing me to see I just need to keep doing the next right thing!

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  10. That advice is the best. It’ll get you thru any overwhelming task. I get on overload pretty quickly and just fixing my mind on the next thing to be done has pulled me through some very dark moments!

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  11. I had a therapist that said “when you feel like going crazy, stop, breathe and make the next healthy choice. Whatever it is.”
    I still remember that and do it when I get feeling crazy. I also say a prayer in there. Wise words from wise women.

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    1. Hi Ellie! That was some very wise advice by your therapist. I love that. Yeah pausing and praying is always the ticket to peace in the craziness. thanks for reading! hugs and love xox

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  12. This is a truly beautiful blog post 🙂 Mothers are always there for their children regardless of whether or not we are happy or sad. That one paragraph you wrote before the very last one could not have been summed up better 🙂 Mothers are all of those things and I am glad that your mother was no exception 🙂 Anyway, keep up the great work as always 🙂

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    1. Hi there John! Aw, thank you so much 🙂 yeah I am so grateful for my beautiful mother. Because you’re absolutely right – they are all those things. And how lucky we are for that. Thanks for always brightening up my day! hugs and love xox

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  14. “Just do the right thing.” How that one simple statement, when brought to life, through God within each of our lives, would change the world.

    Thank you for another great post. 🙂

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      1. I was just in the neighborhood so I decided to stop by and see what was happening with you. I found a lovely post on your blog. 🙂 Hugs and love back to you.

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  15. I love this!!! Thank you. The question on what is the next right thing to do is simple and so easy to follow. I have a question I ask myself “How can I choose to love right now?” Similar, huh? Also — I love what you wrote about just gaining a higher perspective. Thankfulness is one of my key intentions. So many blessings to you.

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  20. Very cool. And, what a strong message. You have a nice way of putting the post together with pics and things and it is easier to read the whole that way. 🙂

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  28. What a wonderful tribute to your mother. As a daughter and a mother myself, the bond cannot be measured. I am sure she is proud of you and I truly know how blessed you both are!

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    1. Hi Tanya! Thank you so much 🙂 You’re right – the bond is incredible. I’m so blessed to have her in my life. Thanks for the encouragement. It really means a lot. hugs and love xox

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  29. It’s wonderful that you had your mother with you through all the pain and heartbreak. Must have been very tough on her to see you go through this illness and fear for your life. Wonderful to hear you are still close. I miss my mum.

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    1. Hi Hanna, thank you for this reflection. I’m sending you a big big hug through the screen. I know this may sound kooky, but I really do believe we will see our loved ones again some day in Heaven:) lots and lots of love my friend xox

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  30. What’s really great about your story of you and your mom and all that she taught you – you’re gonna be a GREAT mom yourself someday! Your kids are going to be SOOOOO blessed!

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  32. I love this! I’ve been getting a bit stressed lately with all the things I’m busy with and I think this motto could be very helpful! For me also I’ve been trying to stop and realise how much I have already done. I’ll often get to the end of the day and think of all the things I havn’t achieved but if I stop and list the things I did do, I discover I’m doing alright.

    Wondeful food for the soul – thank you

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  34. “Do the next right thing” is some really good advice. Great post. Also, just letting you know that I still love reading your posts 🙂 I know how, sometimes, people show up at a blog and leave a comment and then disappear, and that can be discouraging. I’m still here 🙂

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  35. Ever since you liked my own blog posts, I have been fervently reading yours, and I have seen content I one day aspire to be as good as. Thank you for being a beacon and an inspiration, and please, keep on going, and I will as well. Thank you. God bless. Godspeed.

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  42. This one liner for me is a very special too. The first time I heard it, I was sitting in group on my third day in the psych ward. Me? In a psych ward? People thought I had it all together, but really I just wanted to die. And yet, someone offered the hope of this simple line. It put such a new perspective on the struggle through depression and self-harm. Because during the times that all I wanted to do was cut or overdose on pills, that saying would pop into my ahead. Just do the next right thing. It meant so much that I didn’t have to figure out how I was going to beat that monster. It didn’t matter that I didn’t have all the answers or even the way out, but all I had to focus on was doing the next right thing. Praise God, I have been free from self-harm for almost 6 months, and I haven’t abused medication in seven or eight. It all comes from doing the next right thing consistently. 😉

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    1. Hey masykes. Thank you for sharing this. Praise God indeed. I am so happy for you that you’ve found freedom. Amen to that-just doing the next right thing. sending hugs and love my friend xox

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  45. What a wonderful tribute to your Mom! Aaaaaand, so many great reminders here. “Just do the next right thing,” is one of those phrases that I hang my recovery on. Like deep breathing, I couldn’t get through a day with out it. “One day at a time,” still leaves me with too much to think about all at once! Haha. I really loved the way you acknowledge the different ways we can “mother” other people and find “mothering” for ourselves at the end of your post. My mom always meant well. Reminding myself of that helps when I begin to remember all the little traumas that contributed to my eating disorder and the other scars I carry. She did her best, but the truth is, and it sounds really cruel and terrible and accusatory to say this, her best wasn’t good enough. However… I am SO blessed! I am so blessed because I met other amazing women who showed me the unconditional LOVE that I did not receive from my mom. They poured their compassion and acceptance into that little void in my heart. It still took a boatload of therapy for me to get my mom’s harsh, critical, demeaning, and destructive voice out of my head, but I am so grateful for these other mothers who showed me a different model. For a long time, I couldn’t even talk to my mom on the phone, let alone be in the same state as her. Now, we are back to a place where I am able to see her for who she is, the good with the less-than-good, and I am visiting home again. Whew, this is a really long comment, but you always give me so much to think about! I hope that you are having a wonderful spring! Happy May, my friend! ❤️

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    1. Hi Lulu, thank you so much for sharing this. I think you’re right-God brings people into our lives for a reason, and it sounds like that’s definitely been the case for you. I’m sorry that things with your mom have been less than ideal, but I’m so glad that the two of you are in a better place and you’re able to go home again. That brings my heart so much joy:) thanks so much for sharing your sweet spirit on here, Lulu! It’s always such a bright spot to see your name pop up in my feed! Hugs and love xox

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  47. I love how you give so much glory and honor to God! You are inspiring so many people by sharing your story! Cherish the relationship you have with your mother. I always dreamed of something like that with mine but it never happened. Now I try desperately to share that with my daughter. Your mothers love and support is clear to see 🙂

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    1. Thanks Jen, for sharing this. Yes, God has been very good to me. I owe him everything. It sounds like you and your daughter have a special bond. I’m glad that you are able to cultivate that with her. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  50. What a beautiful testimony! So beautiful that God has blest you so. I have been blest with a mom who worked hard to make sure I got put in life’s direction. I can’t say she was there to help steer my direction in ways that many are for others, but it was a start that I wouldn’t have had, had it not been for her. ❤ Hugs!!

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