This Might Piss People Off

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Growing up, I always knew three things:

  1. Wearing a gray shirt washed me out (I would proclaim this as a “fashion conscious” and unapologetically precocious 7 year old)
  2. We had to go to church on Sunday.
  3. My father was a good man.

Those were mainstays in my life. How those things morphed into a life threatening case of anorexia is beyond me, but that’s not what this post is about.

Growing up in the suburbs of Ohio in the nineties, things were pretty…normal. (Well, aside from a professional acting career.) But I played in the woods, listened to Hanson, had sleepovers, and never had anything to worry or be afraid of.


Every night, when my dad would come home from work, we would always play this game: I would always hide underneath the kitchen table, and he’d pretend to not know where I was. And then I’d pop out and he’d be so excited and happy to see me. Looking back, I just remember feeling so delighted in. So loved. Cherished, in every sense of the word.

He was (and is) a good man.


This election has brought about a lot of ugliness on both sides. A lot of name calling. Gross generalizations. I’ve written about it. You’ve commented on it. Okay. No need to rehash.

But if there’s one thing that really saddens me, is the rhetoric about white males – we don’t have to go into detail, but it rhymes with shmeshoginistic, shmomaphobic, and shmite shupremecist.

And I’m going to be really honest, last night, I cried myself to sleep thinking about how my father must feel, having all these horrendous names and gross generalizations being tossed around about, in particular, white, Christian males from the Midwest. And how, he just has to take it.

So instead of making this political or defensive or anything like that, I wanted to honor my father, and share a few lessons that he’s taught me.


1) Give to the less fortunate. 

Growing up, my family never discussed finances. But we did discuss charity. And the importance of it.

It was never seen as something to be dreaded or an obligation, but rather, a joy. A opportunity to share God’s love through the resources we’ve been entrusted with. I remember growing up he funded a “tin roof” village in Nicaragua, he built a well that supplied fresh and clean water to a community in Guatemala, he *secretly* paid the salary of a worker at our church, financially supported missionaries, gave of his time for free on the executive boards of charities and pregnancy centers. Giving was in his blood. Never a burden. Always a joy.

And he instilled that in his family. My brother spent a year after college volunteering with the Jesuit Volunteer Corps. My other brother’s life work is providing and creating dignified and individualized home healthcare centers for the elderly. My mom built houses in Nicaragua and gave english lessons to a refugee woman from Afghanistan.

Dear Media: this man is not greedy or a xenophobic bigot.

2) Respect all people, and behave inclusively.

My dad, being the business man that he was, was ahead of his time in how he conducted his company. Back in the early nineties, long before it was “cool,” he would go out of his way to empower women in the workplace and remove any and all “glass ceilings” in the company.

He instilled in my brothers and I that all people, no matter of gender, color of skin, religion, sexual orientation, nationality – every person deserves respect and has an undeniable dignity as a person. There is zero tolerance for anything less than that. Zero.

Dear Media, this man is neither mysognistic or racist.

3) Family first, always.

There was no sporting event, dance recital, play, parent-teacher conference, or family dinner that my dad missed. We joke that he’d literally change clothes in the bushes to make it to my brothers’ football practice after work at the office. (He was their little league assistant coach). He turned down job promotions that would have moved our family to the Philippines, Germany, China. Don’t get me started on the dedication he had to helping me heal from my anorexia and ulcerative colitis.

The man sacrificed his time, his energy, his life, really, for his family.

Dear Media: this man is not a ruthless capitalist.

4) Let your actions do the evangelizing.

Which, hah, I’m realizing that with this blog I’m literally doing the opposite…

My dad never forced his (very strong) religious beliefs upon anyone. He taught us that we should show our love for the Lord in how we treat people. In the words we speak. In the way we respect the poor and disenfranchised. In the way we stand up for the kid in the lunchroom who is being bullied.

So, I guess, consider this post my standing up for my father. Because he, like many other silent but strong men, he hears the jeers, the jabs, the jarring generalizations and stereotypes being perpetuated about white, Christian males, by the mainstream media and uttered by people who are hurt and angry about the outcome of the election.

I understand, emotions are heightened, and there are perceived concerns/fears, but as my father taught me, before one speaks, one should consider a) is it true, b) is it necessary c) is it kind?

Because there are a lot of men having to just take it, because heaven forbid a white male stand up for himself.

He is not any of the ___”ist” words being hurled like grenades. He has spent a lifetime earning his credibility and I’m going to defend the upstanding man who raised me.

Ok, for fear of going “too far” I’m going to sign off here.

I hope this comes across as it was meant.

Here’s to all men of every race, color and creed who exemplify the values that we millennials need to look up to. Thank you for being everyday heroes.

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437 thoughts on “This Might Piss People Off”

  1. So much irony in the statement, “All white people are racist…” Honestly if we use the proper term of prejudice to describe what is occurring then we see that it is universal. The only way to end racism or prejudice is with education. If we try to shame people into denial then ignorance (prejudice) blossoms (well it grows more like a mold or a fungus.) If we have a frank and open discussion we can educate each other. Don’t get me wrong, feelings would get hurt, but if we had this discussion out of love then we could heal.

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  2. Yes, I agree your father is a good man. He sounds much like my late father, who was also a white Christian male and a teacher and farmer in Southern Ohio, the demographic that was targeted during the campaign and afterwards by both sides. My father was a good man who never spoke of finances, politics, religion or his service in World War 2 that earned him a Purple Heart and a Silver Star. He never even told us why he got the Silver Star, one of the highest awards for gallantry in combat, and the Army records are missing, so we, his surviving children, will never know what act of heroism he performed. That was typical: he never spoke of his many good works. Like your father, he just did them.

    It saddens me that he, like my two white sons in their early thirties who are also good men and also conservative, would be so denigrated by labels that might be misapplied to them. Those labels are essentially name-calling, and that is never a good, kind, or productive thing to do.

    Even though you and I know that we differed in this just past election, we agree on the basics: the values and morals necessary to the good life for all people, however they may be categorized. Let’s respect everyone, and everyone’s right to an opinion, and encourage others to do likewise.

    Peace and Love in Christ to you…

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    1. Hi Timi, thank you for sharing this. Wow your father was a great man. I am grateful for his service to our country. I agree-labels are only destructive. We should respect each other and use kind and inclusive language. Hugs to you friend xox

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  3. This is beautiful. And everything I have been thinking about my husband. How have we gone so horribly wrong that when we disagree we point fingers and demoralize instead? This is not discussion, this is not life-giving, it is rather a wedge pushing further the divide of ‘difference.’ I pray from a motherly heart that peace may be restored to this hurting nation. And I do know it will…because: Jesus, I trust in You. Hugs dear one for sharing such authentic feelings with us and know that you do not stand alone in them!

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    1. Thanks Dawn! I agree-labels are just wedges. I pray that we start seeing one another with love and compassion. And yes. Peace! I love that image of Jesus – Jesus I trust in you – divine mercy. It’s beautiful. Google that image if you are unfamiliar. We have it in our home:) thanks for this beautiful reflection. Hugs and love xox

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  4. So you again have posted something of importance to all. In the world in which we live, there are always those who become targets, usually those who seem the most defenseless due to prevailing beliefs. And as in all circumstances, all generalizations are wrong 🙂 Characterizations such as you describe come from someone who may have a valid point about being wronged by someone, but not by everyone. Fixing something usually needs to start between two people and with that unpopular word that is only comfortable when someone does it for me – forgiveness. Your father would be proud and I am sure he is. I am proud just to say I read your blog and can share it with others. Thanks and keep it up. The world needs your words and your faith in the only one who can really fix this.

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  5. BBB you have done an honorable thing for your father. Lifting him up in the midst of the present situation. I would bet, given your description of your father’s character, he appreciates it, but any attention that comes to him he reluctantly receives because it embarrasses him a little. You did a good thing. You have obeyed the sixth commandment, “Honor your father and mother.” I am a man in my upper 50s and I am betting he and I are of the same generation. In my generation receiving attention I always feel like it should go to another because I just do what I do, and there is nothing outstanding in my actions. My wife is always after me to graciously receive a compliment, and I am TRYING.

    A person has NOTHING except their reputation. If you are known as an honorable man or woman you will go far. If you are known as dishonest, or conniving you WILL eventually reap what you sow. By the media throwing out the assertions (opinion with no facts) that ALL white men are, as you say, any of the ____ist words they are doing just as our government has done for the last 8 years (not an assertion but an observation) of dividing our nation into an “us against them” society. To make a generalization about a group by the actions of a few is inflammatory and counter productive. My brother and I were both shot by a black man. If I had listened to some of my acquaintances I would have declared ALL black people bad and just WANTING to kill white people. I praise God I had the mental fortitude to KNOW I was shot by A BLACK MAN and NOT the black people. Are there racist whites? You bet! Are there blacks the want to hurt white people? You bet! You know what though? In both groups there are a majority that are GOOD and HONORABLE people. Hate is a taught pattern, and so is love. We can teach our children to love or we can teach them to hate. As the sapling is bent so it grows. The question is, how do you WANT to be known? You want to be KNOWN for your love, kindness, and building others up, or do you WANT to be KNOWN for your HATRED, division, and CAUSING conflict?

    Being loving and kind doesn’t mean your are being a wimp. The most loving act in ALL of human history was when Jesus fed those that were hungry, healed those that had no hope, and when He went to the Cross without opening His mouth to defend Himself. How many of us would lay down our life and be mercilessly tortured for people that we had NEVER even met. Jesus is always put forth as a carpenter but what did He build with? Stone? Rough-sawn lumber? The paintings I have seen of Jesus has always been frail and timid but I believe Jesus was well muscled and bold in His appearance. I think Jesus had a zest for life, and an outgoing character BUT He laid His life aside to fulfill the will of the Father. “Behold the Lamb of God that takes away the sins of the world.” Just like the men of our culture, both white and black, people have always asserted what Jesus was like. My Lord and my God loves people and He died so that we might have life. Don’t believe the media because they lie to promote a given agenda. I challenge you do just “see” what the media “wants” you to see but look deeper. See the good that God does through people. Believe that which you witness. If you only look at one little segment of our society you will get only one small view. Open your eyes and mind to the bigger world and witness the true nature of people.
    Sorry, I got long-winded. 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much Eric. I so appreciate your kind words. I agree- a person earns their reputation and my father has definitely heather his. These generalizations made me sad because they fail to see the whole person. I wish we could all see one another with “love goggles” 🙂 I’m so sorry to hear hat you were shot. But you’re right, we cannot judge a whole group by the actions of one person. Amen to that. Jesus gave his life for us, and we are called to live lives that acknowledge that bring him glory. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  6. This is such a great post. It is so needed, the individual stories that come out from all the noise and generalizations. Another label that is making me crazy is the “uneducated white men,” as if they made their election choice based on being uninformed and unintelligent.

    There are educations to be had outside of the classroom, in the real world, that gives people a perspective and an experience that is different than what is found in a college classroom. That life education is not “less than.” Whether a person is college educated, or “school of hard knocks educated,” or both, their perspective should not be demeaned.

    Thank you for having the courage to speak out on your perspective with grace and thought in this noisy world!

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    1. Thank you so much:) that’s kind of you to say. Yeah that’s another really hurtful label too. Gross generalizations like that paint with too broad a brush. I agree-we need to be respectful of everyone and all education 🙂 Hugs and love xox

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  15. I really enjoyed your reflection and I wholly understand your sentiment, that idea that somehow we have become tainted or tarnished by something so ridiculously beyond our control. My husband served in Iraq in 2003 and the battalion he was wiht were accused of things and then they were somehow all tainted, it took away the good things they did under extreme circumstances and replaced it with something uncertain.We live in times of uncertainty but your father will always be the things that you admire regardless of what goes on with the rest of the world. Love to you. XXX

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  19. I appreciate your desire to stand up for and honor your father. And the the trauma and pain you feel when you hear these labels thrown at white men.

    However, I want to give a different perspective and give you a chance to zoom out. My husband a black man and sons young black men have lived with labels and generalizations about their character and who they are for years. And all black men live under a stereotypical microscope for hundreds of years. See what is a bit frustrating is that now that people are challenging and questioning a racist system people want to stand up and say the world shouldn’t judge all white men because of the actions of a few, but never once stood up to speak against the injustices and racial slurs, labels or generalizations thrown at men like my husband. He is An amazing father, husband, a man who has walked through recovery from addiction and speaks to men on how to live in freedom with Christ, a businessman. But with all the things he is, if he stands on a corner with sweats and a hood in his own neighborhood someone perceives him a a danger, thug or threat all because he is black . No matter how much I stand up for my husband the system was never designed to love him as a black man. Nor my sons. This election has uprooted hate on all sides. It pains me and I know it accomplishes nothing. I am so glad my hope is in Christ and that I can lean on him in the days ahead. So please don’t just look through your lense or stand up for only what you understand. realize that my pain and people of colors pain about race and labels or generalizations came well before this election. The pain is hundreds of years of oppression. This pain effected our entire country not just blacks. And that it is going to take us all standing up for what is right to make any change. For us all to heal and be willing to sit at the table even with those who hurt us or our enemies and allow God to heal and connect us all.

    I write all of this in love,

    Thanks for hearing

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    1. Hi friend, thank you so much for sharing this powerful perspective. It saddens me to know that thinking still exists. And I’m sorry that you know it first hand. You’re right-we need to all come together and see one another with love and see past differences and unify as children of God. I really appreciate you sharing your story. Sending big big hugs xox

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  20. I appreciate your desire to stand up for and honor your father. And the the trauma and pain yoi feel when you hear these labels thrown at white men.

    However, I want to give a different perspective and give you a chance to zoom out. My husband a black man and sons young black men have lived with labels and generalizations about their character and who they are for years. And all black men live under a stereotypical microscope for hundreds of years. See what is a bit frustrating is that now that people are challenging and questioning a racist system people want to stand up and say the world shouldn’t judge all white men because of some actions, but never once stood up to speak against the injustices and racial slurs, labels or generalizations thrown at men like my husband. He is An amazing father, husband, a man who has walked through recovery from addiction and speaks to men on how to live in freedom with Christ, and a businessman. But with all the things he is, if he stands on a corner with sweats and a hoodie in his own neighborhood someone perceives him as a danger, thug or threat. No matter how much I stand up for my husband the system was never designed to love him as a black man. Nor my sons. This election has uprooted hate on all sides. It pains me and I know it accomplishes nothing. I am so glad my hope is in Christ and that I can lean on him in the days ahead. So please don’t just look through your lense or stand up for only what you understand realize that my pain and people of colors pain about race and labels or generalizations came well before this election. The pain is hundreds of years of oppression. This pain effected our entire country not just blacks. And that it is going to take us all standing up for what is right to make any change. For us all to heal we must be willing to sit at the table even with those who hurt us or our enemies and allow God to heal and connect us all through tough conversations like these.

    I say all this in love,
    Thanks for hearing with an open heart and mind.

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  21. I agree, it is a GROSS generalization. My husband, my brother, my sister’s husband, my stepmother’s husband, and many more men I know are all in their 50s and beyond and not one of them is any of those things. My husband is actually a priest and a canon. It’s not that there aren’t men like that out there, but I would like to think they are in the minority.

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  22. Thank you for your beautiful tribute to your father. It reminded me of how my dad used to play “what’s that bump?” at bedtime where my sister and I would hide in the covers and he’d pretend he didn’t know what was in the bed and tickle us as we squealed in delight. Truly one of my best memories especially since he’s been gone for almost 16 years now. Good father’s have more lasting influence than they could ever know. God bless and Happy Thanksgiving 🙂

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  24. You’ve described your father as ethical, moral man. What a wonderful role model for a child to grow up and emulate.

    It is a complicated moment in history isn’t it? To look beyond the slings and arrows of the endless campaign cycle and try to imagine the true nature of the man who is taking the helm.

    Being a Washingtonian most of my life, I take most comfort in the peaceful transition of power. It is awe inspiring and something I suspect many take for granted without truly appreciating.

    The challenge for many is getting past the anger, the attacks on minorities that was such a fundamental aspect of the election, and not the media spin, not the surrogates, but straight out of the candidate’s mouth.

    I understand there are good people, like your father, across the country for whom the hatred does not resonate. I imagine how painful it must have been for ethical, moral people to find themselves in a position where they felt no choice but to support the man.

    And now, we will all wait, hoping the man we elected demonstrates he is not defined by the small minority for whom hatred is their guiding principal.

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    1. Thank you for this reflection, Jon. yes, waiting and praying that good will come from this election. that there can be healing. and that we can come together as a nation with love and compassion and understanding. That is my deepest prayer. And that DT’s time in office will benefit and be inclusive for ALL people. hugs to you friend xox

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  25. As a father myself, you are a very thoughtful daughter and I’m sure your father is very proud of you. As a Christian white male in the Midwest, thank you. 🙂
    Now, my prayer is that ALL white males will think and love like your father does, and that all people of all colors and creeds will be seen for who they are, not by the color of their skin or their religion. Let love win the day.
    Blessings.

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    1. Thank you for this, Mel. I’m glad it struck a chord with you. I agree. Cheers to all the good fathers from all background who teach their children with love and compassion. They make this world a better place 🙂 hugs to you friend xox

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    1. Thanks again Mickey. I’m sorry that you’re getting run over by the wide gross generalization brush. That stinks. I wish we could all be compassionate and inclusive. That would be amazing. Glad you stopped by! Big hugs xox

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  32. Beautiful post! Your father sounds like a good man. A loving and supportive father (and mother) is a true gift from God.

    Many blessings to you and your family! 🙂

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  33. Fantastic! I’ve been thinking about my dad. He was a Marine first wave in the Korean War. He was a sergeant by 23 years old. He was so proud of America. He worked his ass off for my brother, two sisters and me. He loved my mom and built his career from nothing after the war to be a great businessman. We weren’t millionaires but wanted for nothing. He taught us how to love God, neighbor and treat everyone fairly and with respect – no matter what their color. The mainstream media is horribly bashing Christian men and it’s so sad and infuriating. I’ve talked a great deal the last week and a half about blanket statements- they’re wrong and unfair.

    Thank you for a wonderful post!

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    1. Hi Mary, thank you for sharing this. Wow what a great man. Thank you for his service to our country. Yes, we have been blessed tremendously to have such incredibly role models as fathers. And amen to that-blanket statements are nothing but hurtful and misinformed. I appreciate you stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  34. You are so very blessed to have such a father! My father, whom I worshipped, died when I was 11. Your tribute is beautiful! The world needs countless more good men like your father. VERY well written!

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  35. Again, you have to look at it from both sides. Again, people nowadays are way too sensitive. No one is attacking your father directly but there’s also isn’t coincidence that most of the CEOs in this particular country and presidents and have been Caucasian males. As an African America male I can say that my people have been grossly generalized. So hearing or reading this type of stuff doesn’t bother us. In general sense it’s basically a choice few of y’all getting a taste of your your own medicine. Rather or not the few good people deserve it isn’t our concern. We’ve been dealing with this for years upon years; all of us. So in all honesty we don’t care about your feelings or your fathers or your values for that matter. Everyone is guilty. It’s liking picking on a kid or someone for so long that the get to the point that they’re ready to fight even if they know they’ll lose. Speaking on behalf of all brothers and sisters; honestly, get over it. Again, we’ve been dealing with this type of bullshit for years. So again, we could care less about the feelings and opinions of what males now that they’re finally experiencing what we’ve been going threw. As well as the over dramatic passive Caucasus girls and women such as yourself. Your people will get love and peace the day that you’re people own up to what you’ve done to the Mexicans, native Americans and blacks and genuinely show us the same love and peace you so desire. Until then, all you “good” people are just collateral damage. The lot of you are honestly very foolish to think that there wouldn’t be consequences for your people’s actions: present or past.

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    1. Thanks again for this perspective. Yeah generalizations have sadly been around for years and years and that breaks my heart. Obviously there is a lot that I can never understand, but I do feel for all people, whenever they’ve been or are being hurt. We are all children of God and I wish we’d all treat each other as such. Xoxo

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  36. I’m not trying to being mean or “hurtful” but it never fails y’all always (and I hate that word) seem to understand where we’re coming from. It’s like y’all sincerely don’t understand. It’s not all love and it’s not all peace. We’ve died for this. All the sensitive passive foolishness is honestly very offensive. I mean there’s white women who can’t stand the mindset of typical white males. That says a lot. But more importantly that proves that what we’re saying isn’t bullshit. Until somebody owns up it’s always gonna be like this. It’s nothing personal. It’s a generalization for sure. But again, welcome to the club…

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  39. Sadly, we seem to be characterizing everyone. All white males are racist. All Muslims are radical terrorists. All blacks are poor thugs. All gays have an agenda for domination. All Christians are narrow-minded. Yada yada yada. I don’t know what to say. We’ve lost the ability to communicate, to see other perspectives. We have a world of communication tools at our hands and it has become our new Tower of Babel that prevents us from communicating and knowing.
    And yes, I say this as a straight, white, middle class, educated, privileged male..

    Good post. Good thoughts. Good love…..and that’s something that this election hasn’t seen much of 😦
    hugs

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    1. Hi Jeff, thanks for this. You’re right, generalizations do nothing but hurt people. And I agree – communication is the key to healing. And listening and seeking to understand is paramount in the process. thanks for stopping by! hugs xox

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  42. I, too, have addressed how Generalizations are Generally Wrong (https://theviewfrom5022.wordpress.com/2016/03/17/generalizations-are-generally-wrong/)

    I am so familiar with what you are saying here. Our fathers, yours and mine, may not have been alike but much of the good of my father could easily be discounted because he did hate… a lot. From my father I learned patriotism and honor and sensitivity. I learned the importance of integrity and honesty. Those virtues are not canceled out just because he was also extremely racist and claimed to disown me because of my friendships with people of his hated group.

    Where I live, I am surrounded by ‘good’ people who hold misguided and cherished beliefs. (If my neighbors fed their lawns as well as they feed their hatreds, I would be living in a jungle.) But I love these hate-filled, narrow-minded children of God. I fit in with them because I too have blinders on…just in other areas.

    You, dearest, have done what we should ALL do: look at each person of each identified, generalized, lumped-together and pointed at group and play up the good stuff. Jesus saw the good in everyone. He wasn’t blind to the bad and neither should we be. But we will never get close enough to those we are here to reach until we learn to love them…each one individually. And it is easier to love someone when you can see the good in them.

    Well done, brave sister. I’m not the least bit pissed. I admire you.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing this. What a true statement – Jesus DID see the good in everyone. And what a example He set. You’re right, we have to see people first. Seek to understand and be quick to listen and even quicker to forgive. Thanks for stopping by. hugs xox

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  44. ah, your parents sound like my parents, but our family budget kept us in our community surroundings. my parents were not perfect, but us kids were very well loved. plus please do keep in mind that the “white male” generalization does not pertain to good people like your father. enlightened people can tell the difference. you are fortunate to have grown up with such wonderful role models.

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    1. Thanks Laurie! Yeah we were both blessed to have such great role models and parents. Yeah I wish we could all leave generalizations behind and seek to see the individuals. So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

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  45. I enjoyed this post tremendously. I too come from and am married to a man who exemplifies these things. I pray for peace and unity for this great nation. We are capable if we put lies away from us and seek truth.

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  46. I so loved this post. What a wonderful family you have and grew up with. I too am fortunate to have had a wise and loving father, which shaped me tremendously. Love and light to you.

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  47. Your father has character… in contrast to the caricatures that the candidates and their handlers have been. May you be a daughter in his mold.
    Oscar
    P.S. while doing my graduate studies at NYU, I took a sociology class. We were supposed to get in touch with our heritage. I suggested, as good Norweign stock, I should take my long boat up and down the East River to rape and pillage the Upper East Side, as my Viking ancestors did to Paris, etc. No sense of humor at NYU, at least for white-guys.

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  48. Honestly speechless by the strength of the words in this post. You’re an amazing writer and even more amazing for using your talent and this medium to honor and protect your father. He must be an incredible man.

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  50. Thank you so much for sharing. My dad is strong African man. And though our cultures are different and i cannot give the same examples as you did, I realized that he genuinely tried to do his best. And for that I am grateful because I see the sincerity in it, now. I have just been thinking lately about all the things that I have learned from him that i used to disdain, but now are part of who I really am. I thank the LORD He gave me my dad. Thank you for sharing about your dad in such a beautiful way.

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    1. Hi Griote, aw this is so sweet, thank you for sharing this. Yeah, they’re great teachers and we are definitely lucky to have them in our lives. No one is perfect, but at the end of the day, we’re all just doing the best we can and I think it’s beautiful how you see that:) big hugs to you xox

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      3. I hope this doesn’t come off as rude or ignorant but, have you tried out for Christian movies? There are more and more coming out these days.

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      4. That doesn’t come across as rude at all! I would love to but they don’t cast many out of New York, sadly. If I could get in touch with one of the casting directors I would be all over it! Haha thanks for the suggestion. 🙂 Hugs and love xox

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