It’s not very often that I’m shaken by things.
I’m pretty bullet proof.
I mean, as an actor, rejection is part of the game.
And hey, putting my life out on the internet, I’m pretty much asking for people to hit me with a myriad of varying opinions. I get it. Heck, I welcome it. Bring it on.
But what I don’t appreciate, is ignorance.
Nope, I don’t appreciate bullies hiding behind the anonymity of a computer screen to tear down or intimidate another person.
That, in my opinion, is the lowest of lows.
I mean, we’re better than that, people.
And to be honest, I hate to even give a bully the time of day, but I was just so disgusted that I had to clear something up.
Over the weekend, I received an email. I was out on the boat with my family, and I was scrolling through my messages, as I often do during the day, and I came across a message that, in so many words, was calling me a temptress. This person said some truly hurtful things, questioning the authenticity of my faith, and saying I was trying to make men stumble and putting my story on the internet with the purpose of making men “lust” after me.
It was just so condescending and offensive.
I couldn’t believe it. I thought, are you reading the same blog??
And so, as someone who won’t shy away from a clap back, I decided to clear up precisely why I write this blog. Share what my true motives are.
Because…news flash: it’s not to make men “lust” after me.
There was a time in my life that was very dark: when I was going through my anorexia, ten years ago.
And the thing about this disease that makes it so insipid, is that it thrives in secrecy. That’s why it is so painfully misunderstood.
Parents and doctors don’t know how to get through to the girls (or boys) suffering from this disease that is slowly killing them.
When I finally got better, I would talk to my parents about that heartbreaking season we had successfully been suppressing out of existence. And the number one thing they said was that they felt completely out of control. That their hands were tied.
They were watching their little girl slowly waste away, and there was nothing they could do to get through to me.
And that planted the seed in my mind. But it wasn’t until a friend’s sister began showing signs of an eating disorder, that I finally decided that this is what I was called to do.
I have always been a believer that God uses everything for good. No suffering is ever wasted, because eventually, it will be used to help another person.
And this was it.
I knew that I needed to tell my story: I needed to share the reality of the disease – tell all the things that girls going through an eating disorder wished they could tell their parents, but couldn’t…because “ED” wouldn’t let them.
During my anorexia, there were so many things that I wished I could have told my parents – things like, I’m lying to you about what I’m eating. Or I need you to ask me why I’m hurting. Or I’m afraid of gaining weight but I can’t tell you that because I don’t want to seem like a shallow and superficial jerk. Inside, I was just screaming at the top of my lungs for help, but I was being strangled by the rituals and fear and control of the eating disorder.
Anorexia and secrecy go hand in hand, and I wanted to just tear down the curtain and expose all things that parents needed to know about what their child was going through so that maybe one person could be saved from the agony and anguish my family endured during those three years that I was controlled by anorexia.
I’m not proud of my story. I’m not sharing these things to “brag.” And certainly not to allure men to pity me or be attracted to me. That is just…what?!?
I’m sharing my story to hopefully prevent a girl from adolescent osteopenia, infertility, shattered relationships, a lifelong battle with self-worth and body dysmorphia, and all the other shit – excuse my French – that I’ve had to work through as a result of this damn disease.
Trying to get men to lust after me?
Sweetheart, it sounds like you need to take a cold, hard, look at your own insecurities.
I’m working through my issues, sounds like you should too.
And so I’d like to do something: I’ll be taking questions all this week,: You can email me, (email@example.com) or leave a comment here, with any questions you have, and I’ll answer as many as I can in a post next week.
I want to get back to the roots of this blog, and helping others – obviously not as a doctor/therapist/dietician or anyone with the “credentials” to professionally do so, but just as a girl who has been to those depths and back, and is now living in the abundance of a life free from ED.
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469 responses to “The Silent Scream”
Pray marshmallows stick to their shoes for a year. I would tell them they must lack courage because they hide behind anonymity. They must be jealous so stand tall my friend.
Hahah oh my gosh this made me chuckle. Thanks friend. Hugs and love xox
People are crazy! I agree there is nothing worse than internet bullies, and that my friend is just a ridiculous claim. It is true that the more you put yourself out there, the more vulnerable you are making yourself to this type of thing, but that doesn’t make their actions or opinions right.
Thanks Abbey. Yeah, I have a zero tolerance policy for bullying. Thanks for your encouragement. Hugs and love xox
Hey, I believe bullies themselves are severely neglected people seeking attention. Have mercy on them and ignore them until they find better ways to express themselves.
you’re right – i should pray for them. that’s the right thing to do, albeit much easier said than done. great point!! big hugs x
How could this person be so cruel. You’re a lovely person but I for one as a guy who follows and supports you feel you’re not out to get guys after you and I hope you feel that the other way too.
Be who you are and don’t let any haters get in the way of you and your mission in life… You are pretty awesome 😊
Thanks Simon, yeah I was prettytaken aback by just the way this person was out to tear me down. Just gotta dust it off! Thanks for your encouragement. Hugs and love xox
I bet you were, just dust it off and do what you do. Love and hugs back xox
You’re a sweetie 🙂
Im quite confused on how anybody could see this blog as a means to “make men lust after you”.. like what???? how awful! Just know your blog is making an impact all over the world! Thank you for your continued transparency ! xo
Thanks Sophie. Yeah I was like…huh?!? It was a really discouraging message. Thanks for your constant kindness and positivity! It means a lot 🙂 have a great evening Sophie! Hugs and love xox
Yes!! EXACTLY why I started my blog too! Eating disorders are so much more common than people think, people need other people to speak up and say “we are here and we know what you go through” im soooooo thankful for your blog, Caralyn because is actually inspired me to get into a support group and I could finally say that I needed help. Now I’m on a mission to help others. Sending you love, xoxo
Oh my gosh Caitlin. I can’t begin to express how much this touches my heart. I am so glad that you’ve found hope here and have joined that group. You are AMAZING! and an inspiration and I hope you can hear me cheering for you! Sending so much love and hugs xox
Hang in there — Friday is coming!
Like what you are doing with this blog! You do a good thing for God and it will be criticized. Keep going!
I think that we need to not give any space to people with a destructive attitude towards us. I’m older than you, so I’ve learned to let go of those – but in the past I did my share of reproaching others myself. Not engaging them and keeping silent about their behavior… is your best ‘weapon’. This type of behavior can’t be stopped until the person herself is enlightened about how she is doing an evil deed even though she acts believing to be backed by goodness. It’s the second time in a short while I see you clarifying the purpose of your blog, but this energy you are spending can be saved: those of us who aren’t out here to judge know exactly the meaning of your blog. It’s pretty obvious. On the other hand, those out there who come to judge will judge regardless – they are in a quest to judge.
Thanks Milly. I really appreciate your support. You’re right- I shouldn’t give them even a second glance. Actions speak louder than words. Hugs and love xox
Im so sorry you went through this..As a revovering addict I have similar motivations as to why I blog and open up about dark things in my addiction and other insecurities. I applaud your blog..there is real ignorance in the world and so much projection…just put it down to that..bullies are very sad people and they are full of ignorance. God bless. 🌷
Thanks friend. Yeah gotta just brush the bullies off. Thanks for your encouraging words. Hugs and love xox
One thing I hear quite clearly is a sense of compassion in your words. I see you recognizing that the Person behind the words is in pain in some way and you’re willing to extend your vulnerability and compassion in spite of their harsh words.
You are, without a doubt a beautiful young woman. Women have, for far too long, been held responsible for the way men, rather naturally, respond to a woman they find attractive. The accusation that you’re writing the blog to attract the attentions of a guy is absurd. The title of your blog, “Beauty Beyond Bones” indicates that you are looking deeper, you are looking toward the beauty that God gives us as His well loved children. You’re looking deeper.
I fully support you taking this on, because your responses will be kind, clear, and not demeaning to yourself, or anyone else along the way.The support goes on to re-presenting your story, re-telling the tale that brought you to this moment, with this blog.
I will offer that there may be a moment to walk away from that conversation, for you, rather than for this hurting person.
Oh Teri, thank YOU for your compassion and encouragement. Amen – God really does heal and uphold His children. I am so grateful for that. Hugs and love xox
Pastor, I have always seen your blog as a mission trip in progress! Yes, you are attractive, however if anyone would take the time to read your blog, they would soon see a very consistant theme. Helping people by sharing your story and testimony! Keep preachin’ pastor and I’ll keep attending! Prayers and hi to your Mom!
Thanks so much Rick. I really appreciate it. You are always such a bright spot in my day! I’ll pass along your kind words to my mama! Hugs and love xox
Just keep writing! You’re doing a good thing here
Aw thanks friend 🙂 big hugs to you xox
A LOT of people these days can only feel good about themselves when they’re dragging other people down. It’s really sad. Ignore the comments or emails of those kinds of people, avoid ANY kind of interaction with them….but pray for them, with love and compassion. They do not have a faith life (and they like to taunt their victims by questioning their faith), and they are very, VERY broken! 😥
Thanks Charack. you’re right, it’s really sad. thanks for your encouragement. big hugs xox
Carolyn, just keep being WONDERFUL, AWESOME, MADE-IN-THE-IMAGE OF GOD you! His light is always shining through you and your generous heart has never done anything more than care for ‘the needs of others.’ I am proud of how you have learned you TOO deserve care – don’t let the darkness of someone else’s opinion cloud over this reality. Continue to pray for them, as I know you already are…and trust God will begin to transform their hearts. And if it helps…I highly recommended a book in a post some time ago titled: Unoffendable https://hugsnblessings.com/?s=unoffendable There is so much wisdom I personally appreciated from the author, Brant Hansen. It’s scripturally based, so I do believe you’d enjoy it too! Until then, warm hugs of love for the beauty you bring to the cyber-world (and beyond!)
oh my gosh Dawn, this just put a huge smile on my face. thank you with all my heart. you’re so right – gotta pray for them. Thanks for the recco! hugs xo
Hey Caralyn, we get it, well most of us. Thank you for this blog and your wonderful sense of courage! And your faith is so inspiring.
I recognize that type of criticism you received as being based in a strict fundamentalist faith and culture. I say culture because they have certain standards that they believe are correct, and even Biblical, and if anyone crosses that line then they are considered out of order. And these types of people are so quick to criticise!
I know this because I was there too just a few years ago. Having come out of that thinking, and those types of churches has been a life changing experience! I can honestly say it took some recovery time, although it was nothing like you went through.
God bless you and thanks again!
Thank you. I am so touched by your encouragement. Yeah, criticism is hard to receive for sure. I’m glad you’re on the healing journey 🙂 Know that I’ve got your back, my friend! big hugs xo
🙂 🙂 🙂 xox 🙂 🙂 🙂
Well, you are attractive but you most certainly can’t make anyone lust after you. I wrote a post on that very topic recently. Everyone makes the decision for themselves how they will feel about a person or situation.
thanks so much Nic. I really appreciate your support. i look forward to reading your post! big hugs xo
I love how you look at suffering. When you said that suffering is never wasted and we use it to help others, I just felt like that was something I really needed to hear but never knew. I don’t look at suffering like you do but I think it may help me with some things.
thanks girlie. Yeah, suffering is never wasted. My mom always taught me that. I hope that it hits home. I’ve found that the more I think about it, the more it moves in my heart and gives me peace. thanks for stopping by. big hugs to you x
You’re welcome. Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Just…wow. He didn’t read you from the start as I have. Otherwise he might have had a different take instead of judging you so harshly. But more on Patreon!
thanks so much Jeff. I look forward to reading it! 🙂 hugs! x
You are in good company …. seems to me Jesus got a lot of static from critical legalists as well.
haha that’s a great point! He received the biggest and most drastic criticism of all! and thanks be to God for that act of love!! big hugs xox
Aren’t people unreal? It’s taken many years on the internet to get a feel for what ails us as human beings. We’re self absorbed and pathetic, what can I say. I call it teh stoopid. On the bright side, all these critics can help you feel better about yourself. I mean, if we’re grading on a curve here, I can at least look at them with some compassion and see how we all have issues. 🙂
it really is baffling. thanks for your kind words. it definitely was a good exercise in sharing my true motives for the blog. good to clarify 🙂 thanks for stopping by! big hugs xo
I agree with the little yellow fella in the GIF – what!? That is so disgusting. This person obviously has some serious issues hiding away. Temptress? Heck no. Rise above this nonsense and be strong! 👊🏻👊🏻👊🏻
haha yeah, that little yellow “Minion” had the exact look on my face after reading it. thanks so much – yep gotta brush it off! big hugs x
thanks, same to you! ❤️✝️
You hit something about admiration. A man could have female followers and a woman could only have pursuers. Unfair. I admit I don’t always stay on topic. Paths cross and uncross.
Wow, I’ve never thought about that before, but you’re right. wow. just wow. thanks for stopping by and as always offering a profound perspective. hugs x
Don’t let them dim your light. I respect you and the work that you do.
thanks again 🙂 means a lot x
Caralyn. I feel so bad that someone, a male, not a man, would write to you that way. I hope he wasn’t professing to be a Christian, because his actions Don’t line up.
Your story on your blog is obviously being told to help others, and I would say to help families of others who are living through ED.
A main highlight of your writing also, is the definite love you have for Jesus Christ, and your willingness to share that continually.
Caralyn, you are respected, honoured, loved, admired as a person, a LADY, a Christ Follower.
Don’t pay attention to those who write or speak so negatively, and don’t really pay attention to what they read when they write.
Luv ya Caralyn! ❤⚘😀
Aw, George! Thank you so much for this beautiful encouragement! i am seriously smiling from ear to ear. you are such a great friend. you’re right, gotta just brush it off and keep on moving!! God is good! big hugs to you xox
I’m a guy. I read your blog. I have never for a moment reached that conclusion. I think you are doing a great thing telling your story.
It seems to me that if the dude has that much trouble controlling his feelings when reading your blog he ought to find something else to read.
Thanks JP, I really appreciate that so much. Yeah, a lot of truth in that! hope you’re having a great night! big hugs x
I’m a 60-year-old man with a wide and worldly experience. You are not in any way at any level writing as a “temptress.” We may disagree in many ways, but I never doubt your sincerity or the strength of your recovery. You can safely ignore that comment as someone else’s sickness, not anything real about you.
thank you so much 🙂 gosh, you are so awesome. You’re right – i think it was more revealing about that person’s own issues they’re dealing with. just gotta brush it off. thanks for the encouragement. big hugs x
Yipes. Firstly, whoever sent you that email has some deep, and I will use this word: PROBLEMS. It’s not rational, not sane, not anything but distorted and hateful, and moreover terribly sad. Such a person lives without joy. I guess you could say Creator gave you a challenge there- how do you respond to such poison with clarity and Love? Seems to me you did just that. I find your blog very much worth reading on many levels, in part because you HAVE survived the darkness and pain, and risen from it. Keep up all your good work!
thanks so much for your support. you’re right, it really is sad, and I should pray for this person — that’s what Jesus would do. And yes…that is a c.h.a.l.l.e.n.g.e. Thanks for your encouraging words. big hugs to you xox
One sure effective way to combat bullying……………continue to blaze trails with your blog. I am sure your intention and purpose are being aligned
thanks so much 🙂 Yes! just gotta keep on keepin’ on! I appreciate your kind words. big hugs to you xox
Apparently that reader has been interpreting things differently or not looking at the same blog as I am. I haven’t seen anything inappropriate on your blog. I love reading your blog and seeing your journey. Keep your head held high and keep doing what it is that you are doing….I know you will help and inspire others.
(I’m the first one to call other women out on their inappropriate attire or actions so if you don’t hear it from me it must not be true. It’s something I can’t hold my tongue on because I don’t want my young girls looking up to women like that and I don’t want my husband or son exposed to that)
I hope you responded with, “Hey… I can’t help looking this good.” 😉
I wonder, was it a guy or girl who wrote the email? If a guy, the answer’s simple: read another blog. Women in the Middle East wear head coverings, I believe, partly because men don’t want to feel “tempted.” Just cause I feel tempted, it’s not my place to demand every woman wear a burka. If you look attractive to someone, it’s not their place to demand you stop being who you are.
I, for one, have never ever felt that in any of your posts have you come across like you were trying to be a “temptress.” If you are, you’ve got a pretty goofy way of going about it.
hahaha oh my gosh that made me laugh out loud. Thank you so much for your support. Yeah, if “tempting” means sharing all the gross and ugly details about your life in an embarrassing and self deprecating way, then sure! haha thanks for saying that. means a lot. hugs x
I had a Muslim friend who thought women who weren’t wearing a Bourka were trying to seduce men. Yet he would act sexy and try to seduce as many American women (married or not) as he could. Your creep could have been using a more “Christian” standard, saying women should wear XXX. Likely he doesn’t hold himself to the same standard. I look at you and see a diamond emerging, bright and beautiful. In some people, I see Emeralds, Pearls, etc. You can see them in most people, but some buried very deep.
Wow, Douglas, thank you so much for this encouragement. Gosh, a diamond. I am seriously so touched and humbled. You rock, friend. Big hugs xo
That’s just so rude!! Keyboard warriors are definitely the worst, their uninterested in you and your why, they’re just concerned with their own rubbish.
Your blog is great and like you I blog to hopefully have girls/women not go through what I have. I’m sure, like me, you wished there was something like this for you to read, to connect with and show you there is a different way. Keep up the incredible work, you never know who’s life you’re changing every day xx
Thanks so much for your support, Louise. Keyboard warriors! i’ve never heard that term but it’s so accurate! Thanks so much for the affirmation. means the world. big hugs to you xox
We all have our stories. Thanks for telling yours.
thanks so much Ray. You’re awesome. Yes – and each person’s story is worth telling. 🙂 big hugs x
I suppose all of us can look back on life and find someone has either misinterpreted what we are doing or saying, or are just plain nasty and making us the object of their dismal outlook on life. At first I have to admit I took them seriously and was more than slightly annoyed they’d invaded my space when they knew little about me. Over time though I’ve come to realize some of those outbursts are a cry for help. Their lives are just so dysfunctional they hit out indiscriminately in the hope someone will notice them and help them through whatever is causing their dysfunctional attitude. Instead of dismissing these people pray for them. They need the Lord to touch their heart and make them into happy and fulfilled people.. As for you being a temptress, keep on tempting people to love the Lord as you have been doing so effectively. You are a good person, feel sorry for those who like the one you mention have such an unhappy self-centred existence.
Thanks Ian. You’re so right – it’s sad, because it really is usually a cry for help. I should pray for this person. Easier said than done, but that’s what Jesus would do. Thanks for such a beautiful encouragement. means a lot. big hugs xo
Sometimes I really hate people. Well, the negative ones. I am glad you realized that that person was insecure. It’s amazing how people like that can be cancerous and spread their negativity around.
thanks Kerry, yeah it’s pretty sad. Gotta just keep on keeping’ on! big hugs xox
I also get frustrated with anonymous cowards. If you are going to be an a-hole- show your face.
true. very true. it’s like the rule was, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” NOT “if you don’t have anything nice to say, say it anonymously.” lol
There’s no way for anyone to actually understand how another person feels, as we only reflect upon the experiential Self we recognize and assimilate with. That being said…whenever you attempt to offer an opportunity for connection with thousands of other people, you’re going to get this type of behavior from a small percentage of that population? I’m not suggesting it’s appropriate or acceptable, but it has to be expected at some point. How do you choose what to ignore, and what to write about here?
thanks for this thoughtful response. you’re right, you can’t please everybody. Honestly, I know it sounds hokey, but I pray about what I should write. I just step up to the keyboard and say, “okay Lord, what do you want me to say tonight?” Thanks for stopping by! big hugs xo
No worries, I don’t lust after you is just my charm that get women to fall in love with me without meaning to and now it even getting stronger again from learning something from my past that I don’t even remember, that is sad, funny and ironic that is my roommate that I made a mistake with, but it was with my sprite personality, lol, how ironic is that?
haha this made me smile. Thanks Michael 🙂 pretty ironic! 🙂 hugs x
Hang in there. Not everyone feels the way that person did. Don’t let negative people bring you down. Keep posting!
Thanks Linda. You’re right – just gotta brush it off. i really appreciate your kind words! big hugs x
Beautiful post! It is so wonderful that you have taken the time and energy to speak out about such a “secret” disease in the efforts to help others. Take the criticism as a compliment. I love this quote: “Pay no attention to what the critics say. A statue has never been erected in honor of a critic.” 😀
thanks so much Sherina! Yes! It is my deepest prayer to help those who are suffering from it. Because there is a way out. there is hope. Even when you can’t see it, the hope is there. thanks for your kind words. big hugs xox
You are right, Caralyn! Bullies are a pathetic species. Keep doing what they are doing and they can keep rolling in their filth (yes, that’s a euphemism)! I hope you are well despite this.
thanks so much Brandon. Yeah, just gotta brush them off. oh yeah, i was more annoyed than anything. I just had to clear things up for my own sanity. Thanks for stopping by! big hugs xox
I hear ya. Sometimes we need to take inventory, and just write it down. I have a whole series of blog posts on that right now. I called them Versions as they’re of versions of bullies that I’ve encountered. Big Hugs to you too! XoXoXo
wow that sounds like a powerful series! big hugs xox
They are intense. But also it is great therapy! XoXo
You just keep doing what you’re doing! The enemy wants to stop you from using your faith and your story to help lift others up, so he uses people like that guy to attack you.
thanks Cahall. that’s so true – the enemy will take out all the stops and wants nothing more than to squelch our efforts of faith. But God is stronger and He will prevail! thanks for your encouragement! big hugs x
Thanks again for sharing your why. I also love the idea of having us ask questions if we have any. You can, and will do some amazing work for the kingdom of God.
Keep on sharing the why.
thanks friend. yes! the why is important, and i really do pray that this blog can be a source of hope and potentially some answers for someone who is in the thick of ED either themselves or with their loved one. God is good. big hugs to you xox
I am sickened that anyone would send you an email like that. I have never felt that way about you and never will. You are a lovely young woman that people like that see as a threat, or are jealous. As you know, I am 73 years old and the only woman I lust after is my wife. Do I say nice things to you and other women bloggers and comment on how they look or how they write? Yes I do and I damn sure won’t stop! Whoever wrote that email is filled with their own insecurities. I am so sorry you had to deal with this. You should publish their email address, but I know you are better than that. Never change and never give up! You are you and you are an inspiration!
thanks so much Walt. Yeah, it’s really sad. Gosh, I am so touched by your kind words. Thank you. You are so awesome. You’re right – it really shows a lot about what they’re going through, and I really should pray for them. easier said than done haha Thanks for your kind words! big hugs to you xox
Hugs back 🙂 xoxo
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You tell ’em!
haha thanks Kristen! i appreciate your support! have a great night! big hugs xo
I was a brand new Christian in the late 90s, when the big fad was that dating was bad and the whole purity thing was huge among youth and college groups. You know that I’m no fan of casual sex, but a lot of Christian communities took this way too far. I moved in 2001, a few weeks before I turned 25, and found myself at the church I refer to in my blog as Church I With The Problems. It seemed like people there obsessed over the need to conquer feelings of lust, to the point that men and women serving in the same ministry weren’t allowed to date each other; someone I knew there recommended to me a book by someone who actually wrote that dating couples shouldn’t spend more than 2.5 hours per week alone together before they were engaged, to prevent lust from taking over, and that they shouldn’t sleep together until they were married for six months in order to build emotional intimacy; and we had extensive Bible studies discussing exactly at what hour of the night a single man would have to leave a single woman’s house so that people wouldn’t see him there late at night and assume that they were sleeping together. I’m not by any means defending anything that this jerk said; it just makes me wonder if he isn’t intending to be a bully, but this might just be the way he was raised.
This is such an eye opening perspective. thank you so much for sharing this. you’re right, I don’t know the back story and where this person is coming from. I really should pray for this person – which is so much easier said than done haha. thanks for stopping by and for this shift in perspective! big hugs xox
It should also be noted that a lot of people like this whom I’ve encountered over the years feel such a need to call out other Christians who they think aren’t as pure-minded as them that this takes precedence over any rules of tact or acting appropriately. The Bible does say to confront brothers and sisters in sin, but I don’t think that necessarily means pompously making assumptions about people you barely know.
For example, when I was 34, I had a 48-year-old roommate (not really someone I knew well, not really someone I was close friends with, but we did go to the same church, that’s how we found each other as roommates) who had this kind of mentality. One day he sat me down, explained that he noticed I hadn’t slept at home twice that week, assumed that I must have been sleeping with the girl he’d seen me hanging out with, and then he proceeds to lecture me about purity like I’m one of the high school kids that he led a Bible study for. He went on and on about where Paul says that there must not be a hint of immorality, about how people will get the wrong idea about me, and about how this couple we both knew who didn’t say I love you until the day he proposed and didn’t kiss until their wedding day are the kind of purity that all Christians should seek to emulate. A normal person would have minded their own business, or at most gone to one of our close mutual friends and asked if there was anything going on that I might need to talk about, rather than make assumptions and treat me like a kid.
For the record, one of the nights that didn’t come home had nothing to do with the girl, and the other time I had slept on her couch. We were hanging out on Saturday, I was giving her a ride to her church on Sunday because she couldn’t drive at the time, and for me to have gone home in between would have accomplished nothing except wasting two gallons of gas and an hour of sleep. I may have written about this in my blog, now that I think about it.
yeah, assumptions are so dangerous. they do nothing but hurt people. it’s always so hurtful when people jump to conclusions without knowing the whole story.
Stay strong! Appreciate your blog. Peace and blessings ~ Bill
thanks so much Bill. i really appreciate your kind words. peace and blessings to you too! x
You go, girl! Don’t let the haters stop you from doing what you’ve been called to do, especially since it’s helping other people and honoring God!
oh my gosh Mia, thank you so much! what a kind thing to say. i really appreciate your support. big hugs xo
Great job with your recovery. What’s an early sign to look for that could indicate someone is struggling with this?
thanks so much Benjamin. I appreciate your question! I’ll answer it in depth in next week’s post! big hugs to you xx
Thanks for your courage and strength. Keep going!
🙂 🙂 xox 🙂 🙂
I enjoy reading your blog; it gives me perspective on the lives of people different than me, yet very much the same. Opinions seem to matter more than convictions in our changing culture. No one wants to die for opinions, yet many have for their convictions. That is what makes the difference between feelings & faith. When I read your material I see someone who had been lied to & found the truth. I enjoy seeing your smiling face & comical animated pics. Don’t let anyone stop you from making the world a brighter place.
thanks so much for your kind words. I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed reading it! I appreciate the encouragement with all my heart. big hugs x
OMG, you’re so brave! People can be completely rude, insensitive, and ignorant. I’m glad you’re able to share and be positive even when other people aren’t as understanding or empathetic! Love the positivity.
Thanks so much Ashley! you’re so right – it’s really sad. thanks for your encouragement! yes! gotta brush it off! big hugs xox
Thank you for sharing this – your message is vital to the silent ones.
i am seriously so touched by this. thank you with all my heart. hugs x
You may like this quick read, although I wish that no one ever felt this way: https://theadventuresofshe.wordpress.com/2017/07/08/the-silencing/
thanks again. i look forward to reading this x
This was a pretty good blog. I’m so proud of the way you handled the situation. What that person did could have been more of a way to sabotage your success as a blogger and infuse you with doubt or tried to intimidate you to shut you up. You were level headed, direct, and above all: graceful!
thank you so much Alexandria. you’re so right, i’ve got to just brush it off and not let this person give me doubt. thanks for your kind words. big hugs xox
Lust after you? Impossible. There is a purity to your femininity that inspires true and complete love. I don’t know to express it. But you share yourself so fully that a deep and complete love is the only authentic response. I know you are just a good old human type woman, but WOW, just wow.
gosh, David, i am so touched by this. thank you. i am humbled by your generosity. hugs to you x
Beauty, my dear, bullies are people with the strangest addictions of all and possibly the hardest to cure. It’s called anger and it may be caused by many things. It goes so deep, they themselves can’t tell what’s wrong. Recovering bullies are probably the most courageous of all addicts – imagine how must it be not only to forgive the garbage in your life causing it, but to forgive yourself for being that angry as to deeply hurt other people. Very hard indeed. So have love for them, if nothing else. This being said, everything happens for a reason at any given time. You alone can figure out why this email came now – is there something you need to heal inside you or others? Or maybe not you, but someone who is reading just this post and the comments? God knows. I’m looking forward to your post in reply to other questions about anorexia. I have no idea what causes this and what kind of insecurities you faced. Love from Canada, always.
thank you so much for this encouragement. you’re so right, bullies are working through their own things. I need to have love for them and pray for them – which is much easier said than done. thanks for the support from Canada!! 🙂 big hugs to you xo
Your story is truly inspiring to a lot dear. There is no lust in your words, its only in those hearts that think in that way. You truly are a star who have fought so many odds and still standing here, bringing up all your thoughts and emotions as an example for others to learn. Thank you for your beautiful words.
Thanks so much friend. I really appreciate your support. Truly. Grateful for you!!! big hugs xo
Hugs to you too
Thank you for sharing your heart, and for your willingness to open yourself up in order to help people who are still locked inside. Can you give parents a “watch for” list of things that they should be aware of that may be signs of ED in their son or daughter? Or perhaps some things that someone who loves a person suffering from this disease can say that would be encouraging, loving, uplifting, and open the door to communication?
Thanks so much for your kindness. Absolutely. Those are such great questions and I will answer them in depth in next week’s post! Sending such big hugs and love xox
There are many, including me that appreciate you and your blog. Some people are discontent and unhappy and project this on to others. Stay true to your vision for your blog and yourself! You are a blessing! Hugs!
Thanks so much friend. I am seriously so touched by your kind words. You’re right- it’s a sad reality. Big hugs xox
You are doing the right thing with your blog, and it’s a brave thing to do to put yourself out here like this. Thank you for all that you do!
Thanks so much Nick! I really appreciate your support. You rock my friend 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Between this email, and a few other responses you’ve shared in the past few weeks, it seems you may be experiencing some discouragement about this blog. I haven’t been able to post anything on mine (I hope to do so again soon), but I have been reading yours. I can only say this means you have to stay focused and press forward. I hope your book gets published. And, as a woman, mom of an almost 20 year old daughter, and future counselor, I value the information you share on the real struggles of anorexia and overcoming it. Perhaps one day I will need your perspective in counseling a teenager who may be struggling with this very issue. Stay strong!
Thanks Melissa. I really appreciate your uplifting words. It seriously means so much. And what an incredible and important line of work you’re going into. That is a gift you’re giving with your life. Know that you and your career will be in my prayers! Hugs and love xox
Great response. I listened to an interview with Megan Phelps-Roper, a former Westboro Baptist member and she has really given me a lot of insight the mindset of bitter hostility from others. Here is her TED Talk https://www.ted.com/talks/megan_phelps_roper_i_grew_up_in_the_westboro_baptist_church_here_s_why_i_left
Thanks so much Karisa! And thanks for passing this talk along. I can’t wait to watch it! Hugs and love xox
Keep sharing your beautiful, broken story, and let the haters hate. Because they’re always going to be there. You are an inspiration and an encouragement in so many ways. God bless you for your transparency and authenticity.
Thanks so much for your support. I am truly touched by your generous words. Sending such big hugs and love xox
I hope you didn’t take any of what was said by this person personally, as it truly was not and had nothing to do with you. It was their stuff. One of the biggest and best lessons I’ve learned is not to take things personally either way, positive or negative. If someone tells me something like their life has been turned around because of me as their therapist, I don’t personalize that either. Basically something happened that made that person decide to do what they needed to do to make what changes were necessary. It wasn’t about me. Helps to keep the ego in check. Just like what this person said to you it so was not about you, totally that person’s stuff. The Four Agreements, this book changed my life helped me put a lot into perspective.
Thanks so much Tammi. That’s such great advice- to not take anything personally either way. You’re right on the money – just gotta brush it off. Thanks for the encouragement and support. Means a lot. Big hugs xox
There are days when the big brother in me wants to do something retaliatory. I’d love to spend a few minutes with whomever insulted your character. Jerk.
aw, thanks Anthony. I really appreciate that you’ve got my back! And as the kid sister of two great older brothers, I know what you mean, and i appreciate it! 🙂 big hugs xox
It takes practice to do..but it’s been good for me to learn.
practice makes perfect 🙂
I am so sorry you had to endure that email. I have another friend of that had the same thing happen to her this past fall. It is sickening and discussing. You are in my prayers. Keep up the good work, for you are correct, often we are allowed to go through experiences so that God can use us to help others.
Blessings to you and yours
thanks Pastor Lester. you’re right, it really is sad. Thanks for your prayers. Yes! God can transform and use anything for good! thanks for stopping by! big hugs xo
I love and look forward to all of your blogs. You are an amazing writer and a Christian which is so important. So important. You are extremely talented and so glad as painful as,life has been with anorexia and stuff,you are alive today to share your story and be able to help others who are going down that path,especially the young people out there. Starts way too early now.
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aw, Katie, thank you so much for this beautiful encouragement! i am so touched and humbled by your generous words. God is good! and you’re right – it starts way way too early. sending big hugs xox
Hi there,how can I get in touch with you personally? Would love to talk if possible
Sure thing – firstname.lastname@example.org
Can you put up the link to the lusty, tempting posts of your blog(?) because I missed those, LOL, I’m sorry. I feel bad joking about it but, it is hilarious someone found that in your blog. I appreciate the topics you cover with such an open dialog, this post will be no different. :):) You are telling your story, and that by far helps more people than you know 🙂
hahah thanks so much Margaret! that made me legitimately laugh out loud! thanks so much for your kind words and for making me smile 🙂 big hugs to you xox
😉 laughter is a blessing 🙂 xoxo
yes it is!!!
So sorry this happened to you. You truly inspire me and others. Keep going girl, your a blessing.
oh my gosh thank you so much. you’re so kind to say that. sending massive hugs xo
This was beautifully written and God bless you for sharing your story despite the opinion of others. Keep writing and being great ☺️
aw thank you so much CC! You’re so kind to say that. You rock, my friend! 🙂 haha big hugs xox
Your strength is inspiring. I will never understand how we can slip and make such superficial and blatantly erroneous judgments of others when we claim to follow a certain religious tradition in which judgement is reserved for the One who comprehends ALL information and is, therefore, solely capable of perfect, merciful, and just judgement. On another note, as a father of a young girl growing much to fast into a young woman, your effort to share your experience is sincerely appreciated.
thank you so much friend. i am so grateful for your kind and generous words. You’re so right – I’ve got to take that advice and leave the judging up to Him! will definitely keep and your daughter in my prayers! sounds like you’re a great dad 🙂 hugs x
you are too kind, thank you. (out of an abundance of caution, of course, i was referring to the goofball, bless his heart, who did the judging). i can say ‘goofball’ because i learned living in the southern US, one can say anything about another so, long as one follows what was said with, “bless their heart.”
hahaha i gotcha 🙂 and oh my gosh isn’t that the truth! i went to school in south carolina for a year and found that to be spot on!
I admire a woman, or anyone for that matter, who can be open with their feelings and strife. It instantly makes them credible, not only as a witness, but as an authority as well.
The biggest problem I’ve had with overcoming pain or any form of antagonism has been being left feeling like the enduring of a trial leaves you withered and less resilient. Only because you find yourself needing more from others than needing more from yourself. As a result, that’s where a lot of insecurities come from. Not easy to be objectively critical of yourself and expect to achieve progress, let me tell you.
What I admire about you most is how you’ve turned your mess into a message… A trial meant to bully you has actually built you instead. I love it. Absolutely. More to the point, you use it to encourage others in their fights… their wars… whatever they may be.
Great read, as always!
Hey Kevin, thank you so much for this thoughtful response. you’re so right – insecurities are powerful forces to be reckoned with. Thanks for your support and encouragement. means the world. big hugs xox
very well said, never let them win. God Bless,
Thanks so much Pastor David. I really appreciate it. Hugs and love xox
I find that people that can’t or won’t grow and heal attack those that do. Cowards hide. You are no coward *or* temptress. <3
thanks so much for this encouragement. yeah, that’s a sad truth, i’m afraid. thanks for stopping by! big hugs xox
Well, my love, as a doctor and much more importantly a Christian and friend/sister, I love you and am ever increasingly proud that you have the courage to voice that which silence strengthens, thus helping others and ensuring your path never returns to the secret cave of despair God rescued you from on purpose in love. What anyone says does not matter, that you obey with a humble heart of love matters ridiculously and eternally much and you will be rewarded for that. Love you as always. Hugs, beautiful! ❤
Oh my gosh Tonya, thank you so much. I am so touched and humbled by your kind and generous words. You’re so right – God really did rescue me and for that I am forever grateful. God is good. Thanks for the encouragement. Big hugs xox
Thank you posting about your personal experience with ED. I have a cousin who is 13 and is just about to get out of a rehab center. Thank God she didn’t need to be tube some girls aren’t so lucky. You really gave me insight to how she must feel. I’ve felt helpless in helping her. The thing I do is write every week and hope she reads my letters. I get hers every other weeks but thank you for shedding light on how she must feel. I feel so much more compassion now ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing that. I’m so sorry to hear that this hits so close to home with you. I will definitely keep her and you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I know those letters meant a lot to her. Sending so much love and hugs xox
Thank you again for sharing your heart with people you have never met and would not know if they passed you on the sidewalk. I appreciate you. I am proud of how you handle your recovery in reaching out to others in need. Keep up the good work.
Thanks so much Steve. I am so touched by your kindness. Thanks for your encouragement. Sending big hugs xox
Here’s my question:
What do you do/ how do you handle poor body image when it creeps back into your life?
thank you so much for your question. i’ll answer it in depth in next week’s post 🙂 thanks for stopping by. big hugs to you xox
Henry Rollins said, ‘Weakness is what brings ignorance, cheapness, racism, homophobia, desperation, cruelty, brutality, all these things that will keep a society chained to the ground, one foot nailed to the floor’. I love the way you handled this Caralyn, with dignity and self-respect. Your website is an inspiration and so are you.
wow, what a powerful quote. thanks so much for sharing that. chained to the ground is right. thanks for the encouragement. big hugs xo
morning sunshine…I want to encourage you to keep on doing good (Gal.6:9). Whenever Truth goes out, the devil tries to steal it and Jesus says that there will be many that do not understand it (Matt. 13). He has granted you the mysteries of the kingdom, where you have walked and what you have been through and Whom you have seen, is precious and a testimony that will stand against weightless words. Keep going… keep sharing…keep doing good. much love and many blessings..
thank you so much for these beautiful verses. so encouraging. you’re right – God will help me. just gotta keep speaking His truth. big hugs to you x
Byron Katie tells her view on those people who criticize her. She thanks them for their opinion and then leans into the person to ask them to continue and say what they see in her. She tells them that she’s not always aware of how she projects herself because she’s too close. Can’t see the forest for the trees…I guess. She asks the person to get really detailed and honest and then thanks them. Maybe two things could happen. 1. You get a point of view that may or may not have a smidgen of truth. Something to look at. 2. You might get a chance to have a real conversation with that person where he could learn something that would change his mind or be useful to him? Anyway…Byron Katie…great lady.
Hi Eric, thanks so much for sharing this. I’ll have to look Byron up. She sounds like she’s got a great head on her shoulders. lots to think about. thanks x
You share your vulnerability and story with love and truth. A harsh reflection is their own reflection in the mirror and not about you my love. Brene Brown and President Roosevelt’s ‘Arena’ speech are in this moment. ‘If you are not in the arena, your feedback is irrelevant’ <3 xXx
Hi Jane, thank you so much for this. If you are not in the arena your feedback is irrelevant… wow that is a powerful quote! i haven’t heard that before. thanks for your encouragement. big hugs xox
Exactly the same reason I share on my blog except I am still struggling with it and not over it YET, but I want to overcome it with the many people suffering from mental illnesses out there. I really wanna punch that person who sent you that email in the face (god stop me), that is just incredulous. Always love reading your blog! Haters gonna hate, potatoes gonna potate! Lol.
Hi Faith, thanks for this encouragement. potatoes gonna potate! hahah that made me chuckle. Keep on sharing your story friend. the journey is long and sharing your path is going to help not only yourself, but others along the way 🙂 big hugs to you xx
Please please please do not let that crazy woman dissuade you in anyway! I cannot imagine what she would have read that would put such ideas in her mind. What you write is authentic and helpful and so very brave. I enjoy every post I have ever read and I hope that you will continue to do it. You are helping so many people whether they have Eating Disorders or not. Thank you for listening to God’s prompting.
thank you so much Christine, I really appreciate your kind words. I am so encouraged. thank you with all my heart. God is good, and I just want to share His light. Sending massive hugs to you xox
You’re beautiful. It’s apparent you’ve been through a lot. It looks like based on these comments here, you have a good support system through MOST of your readers! I didn’t see any negative comments out in the open, so obviously that person does want to hide and be a coward behind the screen! Keep doing you, boo! 🙂 And thanks for following my blog! I really think we are very similar! Xoxo 😘
hi friend, thank you so much for your encouragement. i have been filled with so much gratitude today, after reading these generous notes of kindness. i can’t thank you enough. sending massive hugs x
It’s truly a shame that people have to try to tear down what God is building up. It happens to me from time to time but no one, not even the worst of the worst, can tell me worse things about me than I have told myself in the past. I’ve heard it from the biggest enemy I’ve ever faced and am managing, in spite of what some trolls and bullies like to dish out, to overcome the obstacle I refer to as me.
You are doing a great job with this blog and your message reaches beyond your eating disorder.
Remember, if you don’t face opposition, you aren’t blazing your own trail.
thanks so much Mike, yeah it’s really sad. we should try to build others up, not tear them down. Thanks for this encouragement. yes! we’ve gotta keep blazing those trails 🙂 big hugs to you xox
“I have always been a believer that God uses everything for good. No suffering is ever wasted, because eventually, it will be used to help another person.”
I identify with it, the mercy of God when is present transform also our darkness into fuel, “wood that can be burned to bake bread.”
As you know, freedom is beautiful because it allows everyone to have their opinion and can share it, and others have the freedom to accept or reject it.
As we know, there is no privacy on the internet. This is an open and public global territory. So it is up to each individual navigator to set boundaries for himself and others for which waters and depths he wants to travel.
But I suggest, if good is a choice, put yourself under the guardianship of the Lord Jesus, for to us the sea is vast and deep, harboring darkness and light, and only the Lord can walk on the waters.
thank you so much for this, Carlos. Yes, the mercy of God is powerful. and wow, I love that quote about the bread. so true! thanks for your encouragement. you’re right – gotta keep myself under His guardianship. thanks for stopping by. big hugs xox
Ps. So it is up to each individual navigator to set limits for himself, for others, and for what waters and depths he wants travel.
You have inspired and given hope. Continue to be you.Hugs Mxox
Thanks so much Maria. I really appreciate your kind words. You rock my friend 🙂 big hugs xox
You’re welcome. You have come a long way. Keep going. Cheers Mxox
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oh wow!! Australia!! that’s so cool!! goodnight 🙂
Goodnight. Sleep tight. Mxo
It’s such a shame that people feel this desire to say mean things. Fear of mean people was what held me back from blogging for such a long time. You are making a difference and it’s sad that “some” people can’t see that. xo-Amy
Thanks so much Amy. You’re so right, it’s sad that people feel the need to be mean. Thanks for your encouraging words. Hugs and love xox
So sorry you had to get an email like that!!! And I believe the Lord is using you and your story to help so many people. 💜 He loves you, always remember that!
thanks so much Robyn! i really appreciate your encouragement. Amen! The Lord loves us with an everlasting love! 🙂 big hugs to you xox
You’re welcome!! 😊 He does!! Huge hugs back!!
xoxox 🙂 🙂 🙂 xoxo
I agree, the person who made the accusations was not reacting to the spirit or attitude that you portray; rather they were reacting from their own struggles. If I were in your shoes I would be struggling with anger and vengeance, and I encourage you to stoop down and minister to your accuser rather than throwing stones back (Not that I think you are; again, my struggle). Keep the faith!
thank you so much for your kind words. You’re so right – I need to love and pray for this person…which is a lot easier said than done! hah. thanks for the encouragement. big hugs xo
Well if you wanted to entice men to lust after you, I am sure you could find a topic more conducive to that. Your recovery after an ED? that is what is hot now? Ya….I think someone out there has some issues that they need to see after. I have never had an ED but the way God speaks to you in your every day life is something that connects with my spirit. Keep on keeping on….. you are encouraging many through your willingness to share your experiences and how God is teaching you through them.
haha, thanks Cheryl. Yeah, that’s what I was thinking too. Bit of a disconnect. And thanks for your kind words about my blog. I’m so glad that it hits home with you. God is good! sending big hugs xox
Life is so funny and people respond in the strangest of ways to the way we communicate. The biblical example of Lot in Sodom explains something fundamental. The visitors to the city did nothing to provoke the lust of others, they just had to be there. It was a reason for the residents to show how they felt.
We same the same politically – people are on the streets and sending horrendous emails and tweets to each other because they feel aggrieved when nothing threatens them.
So when someone imputes wrong motives it is their problem. We can choose to be offended or hurt, we can also choose to make the comment count. The best response is always to understand that the problem lies with the other person.
Your blog helps many, your life experience reminds so many of us that we can recover and regain our personal identity. Those who have met me in the last 3 years know me as someone who has recovered from cancer, now living with a deteriorating heart problem and define me as such. But like you we are more than others see.
Use this as your platform, focus on recovery and dignity but most of all learn to smile at the incorrigibility of those how lack perception and need to have their say.
As my Grandmother said: Everyone can have an opinion but it doesn’t give them the right to share it and you’re not obliged to listen.
I love the the blog
thank you so much friend. This is such a beautiful encouragement. I love that quote from your grandmother – we’re not obliged to listen. gotta keep focused on the good! big hugs xo
[…] writes, with great candor, about having and recovering from an eating disorder. Her most recent post deals head on with an accusatory, unkind, bullying […]
Thanks for the link up! Hugs and love xox
This made me so proud to say I know you!❤
Oh my gosh thank you so much! What a kind thing to say! Big hugs to you friend xox
Whoever it was, love and pray for them and wish them well. Hard to do. But I think we will receive the great peace of God if we can show mercy towards others who may not understand us or who ‘strike’ at our intentions to do good. Keep writing! Your story needs to be told!
Thanks so much for this powerful perspective Jeanne. You’re so right – I need to pray for this person. Thanks for the encouragement. Hugs and love xox
No problem! Take care!
We men are sometimes odd, repressed creatures. I apologize on behalf of my entire gender 😉 Seriously, people who lash out at others are ALWAYS motivated by insecurities they have with themselves. Let it roll off like water off a duck, and pity your critics. They come from a place of pain and desperation, of feeling like they have no voice or power, so they try to exert power through trying to cause others pain. Ignore their ignorance!
P.S. Just wanted to make a word nerd suggestion, since I am indeed a word nerd! You use the word “insipid” but I think you might have mean “insidious,” based on the context of the sentence. Just a suggestion! Thanks again for another great post!
Thanks so much Anthony. I really appreciate your kind words! Yes! Gotta let it roll off! And hah I think you’re right about that word choice! Hehe Hugs and love xox
There seems to be a strange perception that genuine suffering/strength/purpose/faith has to look a certain way, and for some reason that look can’t be attractive. This seems to connect to your post a few weeks ago about the woman who expressed that your size wasn’t ok with her perception of representing recovery from anorexia. You are really beautiful, but more than that you are attractive in a positive and light-filled way – and you’re very clear about who you are and why. I’m sorry that people aren’t willing to accept that just like everything else in life, genuine suffering/strength/purpose/faith does not have a one-size fits all, and it doesn’t have to not be pretty. It’s not pretty OR, it’s pretty AND. Thanks for sharing your story and your faith and for breaking down false perceptions!
If i found my daughter is secretly exercising or lying what she eats, what should we do.
As a parent, can u also list out or give us some advices what we can do to help our children with this disease. For example, some do and dont
Thanks so much for your question. I will go in depth on this in my post next week. Thanks again. Sending big hugs xox
Hi Britin, thank you so much for this affirming reply. You’re so right – everyone’s recovery looks different. And however it looks is okay! Because we’re on the path 🙂 this was a powerful perspective that j needed to hear. Thanks again. Hugs and love xox
You have a calling … you are serving others by telling your story … you are to admired for your bravery, your honesty, your sincerity, and your willingness to put yourself out there no matter what !! I refuse to even discuss the individual you encountered … or any others of their ilk. It’s a waste of time.
I CELEBRATE YOU and SUPPORT YOU in your CALLING. jan
Oh my gosh Jan, this brought a tear to my eye. Thank you so much. I am seriously so touched by your generous and kind words. You are a blessing to me. Hugs and love xox
Ridiculous!!! She obviously has her own issues which cloud her eyes to the beauty of your honesty! Keep on lovely soldier!!! You are making a difference!❤️
Thanks Kim, for your encouragement. It means a lot 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Hope that I spelled your name correctly. 🙂
I commend you for your nobility and respect. Instead of lashing out in a negative way, you showed humility, honor, and grace. In my opinion, you were an example of what Christ told us to be.
Second, I cannot wrap my head around anyone saying that your blogs are used to tempt men, to cause them to lust after you. You don’t post anything pornographic, or use flirtatious words, or anything remotely close to tempting men. It is okay for someone feels empathy or pity for what you went through, but anyone who reads your blogs should be able to feel the genuine emotion within your words. Feel the genuine concern, passion, and desire to help others.
Granted, I have not read every single one of your posts, but even if I only read one which is not the case, your words I feel were given to you by God. He inspired you to write what you write and that cannot be a temptation as God does not tempt us or cause or inspire us to tempt others. Your blogs have helped me in moments that I needed it. I still struggle in some ways with my eating disorder but knowing that God has placed you in my life even through just blogs gives me hope and I’m sure others. I do not feel alone in my struggle.
God Bless you and keep fighting the good fight and never let anyone beat you down.
Hi Tiffany! Oh my gosh thank you so much for this beautiful affirmation. I am seriously so touched and humbled by your generous and kind words. I’m so glad that my blog has resonated with your spirit. God is good and I thank Him for the healing in my life. Thanks again friend. You are a blessing to me. 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Hugs back. 😁😂
I am also going to reblog this with your permission, of course.
Absolutely. It would be an honor. Thanks again Tiffany!
Awesome. The honor is mine
In so sorry that someone emailed you that foolishness. Unfortunately, it comes with the territory of having almost 30,000 followers! In so happy for you and you have so many followers because so many people connect to you and your story. Those two or three of 200 delusional people are always going to come creeping out of the woodwork to try to hinder your calling. Don’t let them and don’t let them discourage you in any way. Your blog is my favorite and that’s because you’re so real, relatable, God loving, and hilarious! I’ve never had ED or been through many of your experiences, but at some point pain is pain, and joy is joy, and learning is learning. So, my girl, you’re reaching far more people with positivity and hope with your blog than you probably ever imagined. So keep it up and keep it moving when people come with the foolery.
Btw, I love that you said “clap back!” 😂😂😂 I’m off to read that post now!
Wow, Celestial! you’re on a reading roll! thanks so much! you’re so right, i have to just brush it off, keep on moving, and stay focused on Jesus. Because His is the only opinion that matters at the end of the day. Thanks again for all your encouragement and wisdom. You’re a blessing to me! big hugs x
I know, I always end up reading your entries in bulk.
Hahha yeah, that’s life for ya!! Haha
When I was reading what that person said in the email my brain was like “What what what?” How on earth? Just like, what? LOL There is no way any sane person can get THAT out of your blog and posts and if any man IS attracted to you through your blog I believe it’s because or would be because of your insight, intelligence and above all your love for God.. This person was SO off the mark and sounds like they have some issue’s they could use much prayer for.. Sending my love … Robyn
thanks so much Robyn! yeah that was pretty much my same reaction. I was like, huh??? Thanks for your kind words. Yeah, you’re right, i need to pray for this person, which is a lot easier said than done! haha big hugs to you xo
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A beautiful and humble message from a good friend. She is a living example of God’s love and grace.
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Blogging opens us to the criticism of others. Some comment and disagree with us respectfully and with civility. Others…not so much.
I’m sorry this person misunderstood your intents and chose to judge you.
We are told to gently restore a brother (or sister) we see in sin. It’s almost impossible to do this via text, Facebook, or email. And often, if not always, when we type a judgmental accusation we ourselves are in sin.
Your story and the way in which you share it clearly glorifies God and helps others heal. Keep it up.
thanks for this thoughtful reflection, Kathleen. you’re right – when we put ourselves out there, we are opening up the feedback, both good and bad.thanks for your kind words. big hugs xox
Do you know what an “internet troll” is? Don’t feed the trolls! In other words, don’t let those kind of people, people who want a fight, get one. They want to see a response happen. Girl, you don’t need that shit.
Temptress my butt. Just move on as if your didn’t read that email.
Thanks Stiina. Yeah a troll is such an accurate word for what it is. You’re right – I don’t need it! Just gotta brush it off. Thanks for stopping by and for your encouragement. Hugs and love xox
As cliché as it sounds, when people come at you in a ridiculous way that only means you are doing something right. I completely agree that God uses us to help others out of their dark places ,the enemy knows this..someone is going to get delivered from your testimony and he is mad! Keep sharing!
Thanks so much for these great thoughts. I think there’s a lot of truth in that. I pray that He uses my story for good! Hugs and love xox
xx you’re great and your blog has helped me and given me hope, inspiration and support and helped me understand and find compassion for myself xx thanks for all your words 🙂 Em
Oh Em, thanks so much for sharing that with me. I’m so glad this has hit home with you. Sending big big hugs xox
Lordy. Lordy. Lordy. Please pray for the fool. Obviously, that individual is feeling tremendously inadequate and is projecting their insecurities onto you rather than dealing with them by his ol’ self. He is not your issue and you shouldn’t internalize his problems. Nuns get raped, and the rapist’s excuse could be “her habit blew in the wind revealing her leg.” Women who wear burkas get raped and are faulted for the assault on them. Seriously?! Your faith is between you and God, the Almighty. What, has he been given the Book of the Devine Readings of the Human Mind that allows him to know what is in the breast of men? (Sarcasm) Let that inadequate humanoid go and get on with your life. God has a plan for you. Embrace it. Love it. Share it. Yours UH, xoxo
Thanks friend. You’re right, I need to pray for this person, which is easier said than done. Lots of powerful food for thought here. I know it’s so sad. And you’re right – God does have a plan! Amen! Hugs and love xox
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Thanks for the link up! Hugs and love xox
*shaking head in dismay*
It’s crazy how crazy people are at times!
And you know what, you don’t even have to defend yourself. Your work, your writing speaks of who you are.
It’s clear what your passion is.
So just remember, for every person you meet who doesn’t understand what you are about there are a dozen other people who understand and are cheering you on! 😁
Thanks Rolain. I really appreciate your encouragement. You’re right – it’s a head scratcher! Thanks for stopping by! Big hugs xox
Have a great day!
You too Rolain!!
Beautiful anx encouragingly gracious! Indeed that person is struggling with their own inner pain keep on doing the good work!
Thanks so much friend. Yeah, my heart actually goes out to this person. Hugs and love xox
Huh? What the what? Is she reading the same blog as the rest of us? Sometimes we can twist things to try and see where a person is coming from, but I got nothing. It’s definitely something within her that she has to work out. Maybe you remind her of someone, maybe she has something else going on, but, it is about her, not you.
Thanks PJ, yeah that was my exact reaction too. Thanks for your encouragement and support. It really means a lot. Hugs and love xox
Many years ago I noticed that whenever someone says something to you about someone other than themselves, good or bad, you learn more about the person speaking than the one they are speaking about – even if it is you. I am so impressed by how you have dealt with this and am sure you have come out of it stronger.
For those who love God all things work together for good. This chap gave you, if nothing else, the chance which you have taken to live out Jesus’ words, ‘Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.’ But there is much else – I have read through these comments and what amazing love and support is there. That will surprise no-one except possibly yourself. Keep up your good work! 🙂 (Wow! it worked! I’ve never used an emoticon before & don’t know how, but copied it from above)
Thanks so much for this powerful reflection Anthony. You’re so right – He works ALL things together for good. Thanks for your encouragement. It really means a lot. And so true – gotta love and pray for this person. Hah nice emoji!! 😄 Hugs and love xox
I’m sorry to hear that you were attacked that way. As I’m sure that you know intellectually, the attack says more about the other person than it does you, but I know the heart often feels differently. Sounds like you’ve used this experience to inspire and invigorate—that’s great! Best wishes to you!!
Thanks so much Clifford. You’re right- it definitely communicates a lot. Thanks for your support. Hugs and love xox