So you know how Google is coming out with a new phone, and how they’re advertising it all over TV?
(And no this isn’t an ad…)
But their main selling point is twofold: First, that there’s unlimited photo storage, and secondly, that it can take a “selfie” through voice recognition, simply by saying, “Take a selfie.”
And all day yesterday, during the Bengals/Steelers game, this freaking commercial kept coming on, with that teenage girl floating on a big flamingo inner tube in the water going “Take a selfie! Take a selfie! Take a selfie!” with the varying duck faces and pouts to follow.
And as I felt myself getting more and more annoyed at that stupid ad, I thought to myself, “Is that what we’ve come to?” — That the main selling point for this huge phone – that is trying to rival Apple – is that it can take a selfie through voice recognition?!
Are you kidding me?
This. This is what we’ve come to, people.
I’ve got a dirty little confession here folks: I’ve been watching a lot of Keeping Up with the Kardashians here lately. And every time, I’m always just struck with the nauseating level of narcissism going on in that family. I should probably stop watching it actually, for fear that it is going to rub off on me…
But the more and more I’m becoming aware of the toxic level of self-absorption that is seeping into our culture, the more I can see it in everyday life.
One of my favorite “games” to play as I’m walking around NYC is “spot the selfie”…and let’s just say, it can get pretty entertaining.
But here’s the sad thing…the more I can spot it in others, the more aware I am of it in myself, too.
I got to go to my favorite church yesterday, since I’m home for a hot second in Ohio. And the sermon was all about the very first commandment….Not having any other gods before God.
I think when people – myself included – think about that, they think about the obvious idols we have in our lives: money, power, success, food, cars etc. Those we can grasp pretty easily.
But what about the idol that is literally staring back at us in the mirror.
What about the idol of self?
Now let me pause here for just a minute to address the elephant in the room. The irony is not lost on me that here I am literally talking about narcissism, on a blog that is about myself.
Hello, pot. Meet kettle.
But the idol of self very well may be the most pervasive of all competing “gods” in our lives. And in today’s social media obsessed society, where reality TV has become the norm, and a comfortable, self-focused way of living is habitual…we’re becoming the monsters that we’ve helped create.
Growing up, I always heard about how this was the “Me First Generation.” I’d like to amend that to simply the “Me Generation.” Because by saying “Me first,” it implies that the person is even considering the other person that is going second. I think we’ve surpassed that and now it’s just me.
And you can see this in everything from our advertisements – Google celebrating the selfie function of its phone, and with unlimited storage so you can hoard every precious selfie. — To how we live our lives.
The age at which people get married and have kids has dramatically shifted to later in life. Why? So that people can focus on themselves, and their career, and their travels, and free time, not wanting to be tied down or imposed upon by *gasp* another person.
And that’s not a judgment, hello – I’m in that boat, too. But it’s all just very…singular focused.
And it is a really tough aspect of life to navigate and try to escape. And I’m going to be really honest, it is something that I definitely struggle with: that idol of self.
And so listening to the homily, it really convicted me and made me reflect on…myself.
“Then repay …to God what belongs to God.” (Matt 22:21)
Everything I have — I — belong to God, and therefore, I need to be giving my life to Him. To His service. To helping His children.
That is how God wants us to live. Repay to God what belongs to God.
I think I can get too caught up in the scheduling and nit-pickiness of blogging to forget that that was and is the BBB mission: helping others overcome adversity – especially those struggling with eating disorders. That’s why I wrote my book. And that’s why I continue to write this blog.
The (often over-)sharing of myself and my life and ideas – it all has to point back to that mission: helping God’s children, one beautiful soul at a time.
As far as the other sources of conceitedness in my life, I think awareness is key. Every time I want to think about myself, I need to pause and turn it around…how does this effect someone else?
How can I use my time or my resources for the betterment of someone other than myself?
How can I give? How can I listen? How can I serve?
I know Rome wasn’t built in a day, but I can take baby steps.
That, and banning the Kardashians from my Netflix queue.
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