Oprah and the Golden Globes Sham

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The Golden Globes were last night.

Just in case your phone died, your power was out, or you’ve had no contact with the outside world in the last 24 hours.

And, unpopular opinion alert: watching the whole thing, I kind of felt a little bit, oh, sick to my stomach.

Seeing the uber wealthy celebs don all black, and take public cheap shots, and all but genuflect at Oprah’s altar, the whole evening just left a bad taste in my mouth, if I’m being honest.

It honestly just seemed like a bunch of petulant children, complaining, a la Verruca Salt, that their porridge was too hot or too cold.

I mean, many of these women, who are all publicly “championing” the end to sexual assault and harassment, have literally made their careers off of allowing themselves to be sexually objectified. It’s the reason they’re in those chairs. You want to tell me that your skintight black dress, that has slits UpToHere, or is sheer with strategically placed lace, is protesting sexual assault? Honey, take a look in the mirror. How about you cover your goods, and have a little self-respect and then let’s have the conversation. I’m not saying to wear a turtleneck and orthopedic shoes, but just don’t come at me with your crotch hanging out of your dress and tell me that you’re championing respect for women.

It just seemed a little hypocritical if you ask me. It doesn’t add up.

And not that by wearing provocative clothing is in any way, shape, or form “asking for it,” but there is a certain way to present yourself in public, versus how you present yourself in the bedroom. And that line has all but ceased to exist. I don’t know, maybe that was just how I was raised, but it is an act of love and respect to help our brothers in Christ not fall into the trap of sin, and maybe one way of doing that is, I don’t know…not dressing like you work at a brothel. Just a thought.

And I know, I know. Bring on the criticism. I think deep down, we all know it’s at least part true.

But what got to me more than snide remarks from the presenters, the militant feminism on display, or the choir of men, all visibly uncomfortable at the tone of the evening, was Oprah’s sermon on the mount.

Now, first. The fact that in the 75 year history of the Golden Globes, that there has never been a black woman to win that award, is a fact that we should all be ashamed of. And Oprah is absolutely, 100% deserving of that award.

Next. Oprah is a child of God. She has done tremendous good in the world. She has overcome a lot of challenges in her past and has successfully built a career that is transcendent, influential, and impressive.

However, Oprah is not God.

And should not be worshiped as one.

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Listening to her speech, which, yes – it was powerful, articulate, passionate and incredibly moving – about some very difficult and real topics that need addressing and changing and tackling – listening to it, I felt as though I was being taken to church. Hints of southern baptist preaching came to mind, and I was half expecting to hear a “Can I get an amen?” at some point.

But the degree to Oprah’s revere is truly diety-status. And it makes me sick.

Oprah champions beautiful messages: Believing in yourself. Doing good for others. Overcoming adversity. However, her new age spirituality belongs in the dumpster. Because it is not Christianity, and it should not be touted as such.

To the point that, Christians should fear the mass-sheparding of the flocks of millions to her pasture of false truths and vanilla spirituality.

It’s scary.

But back to her Golden Globes 2018 speech. The “new day” on the horizon for young women and girls.

Granted, I fully realize that I have been blessed with a solid and safe upbringing that, sadly, not everyone is fortunate enough to have. Sure, I had my health challenges, and had one episode of sexual assault, but my life has been incredibly secure. My parents are loving, Christian people who have been married over 40 years. There has been no domestic abuse, no poverty, homelessness, unemployment, racism, or prejudice that I’ve had to personally experience, and for that I am incredibly grateful. And I know that that is not the case for everyone. And that is heartbreaking. And if that’s reason enough to be wearing a black dress, then I guess sign me up.

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But.

This “new day” on the horizon.

Am I missing something?

This life that they’re complaining of….we have it so good. We live such a privileged existence here in the United States. We have health care. We can vote. Drive cars. Marry whomever we choose. Have access to clean food and water. We can go to college. Hold any job we choose — up to and including the President of the United States.

What about in third world countries, where women are still suppressed by men? What about in the middle east, where women are still “kept” by men, and prohibited from driving, or showing anything other than their eyes in public?

Truly, what room do we have to talk?

The sexual abuse that has been coming out recently here, is deplorable. And I am so glad that those predators and creeps are finally being called out and given the consequences they so deserve.

As an actor myself, I too, have been on the receiving end of unwanted advances made by “decision makers,” and have faced the career altering-consequences when I turned down those men.

But I have also, to the detriment of my career, turned down the numerous opportunities I’ve received to play great roles that also happen to involve nudity, sex, or other situations/dialogue that goes against my morals and beliefs.  Why? Because I am actually championing women and the messages that art sends out into the world to young women and men about respect. Respect for others. Respect for oneself. Respect for marriage. Respect for life.

And I think that maybe, in addition to the black dresses and the stirring stump speeches, if Hollywood really wants to make a difference in the climate of respecting one another, they need only to look as far as the content they are creating.

Because truly, and sadly, they are the gatekeepers for the tone in our society. They are the trendsetters in every sense of the word. And much of the filth that comes out of Hollywood and onto our big and little screens across the country consists of nothing more than glorified, soft-porn that mocks God, glorifies unnatural beauty standards, and celebrates infidelity and promiscuity.

So don’t throw on a black outfit and tell me you’re championing women and fighting for respect.

Not with that track record.

It’ll take more than an Oprah sermon to get me to believe any of that.

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558 thoughts on “Oprah and the Golden Globes Sham”

  1. Hello, I think I subbed to you many moons ago and I see your blogs come into my inbox but I have to say, I don’t always read them. This post however is ON POINT and I praise you for having the guts to say what some of us are thinking. Enough Already! Thank you for writing this!

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  3. I think if a woman chooses to wear a dress that’s see-through in certain places or has a slit, that’s her choice. How a man reacts is his choice. Yes he will immediately be drawn to her, but what happens next is on him. Our brothers in Christ can literally be attracted to anything. Some men get turned on by feet, for example.

    Also, regarding cultural sensitivity, there are certain cultures where dressing in fewer garments is actually the norm. In India, for example, women show their midriffs and backs every day. Here, that would be considered “slutty.” There, it’s modest. In Korea, wearing miniskirts is totally normal. Here, it’s seen as “slutty.” So if we should dress a certain way to help our BIC, then how should we dress? Because I don’t think it’s the same all around.

    Regarding the women, each woman has an individual story and belief system regarding her femininity and what that means/how to express it. We can NEVER judge people who behave in the way they’ve been taught to behave. This is what women are taught. I can guarantee that 99% of the women on that red carpet do not know Christ. Why are we expected to hold them to the standard of a woman who has been walking with the Lord for years? It is unfair to judge them in this way.

    The fact is, a woman could be walking around naked and a. be dressed appropriately in some cultures and/or b. still not be asking for it.

    Asking women to cover up their bodies before talking about sexual assault is giving in to the patriarchal mindset that women are indeed asking for it. Why don’t the men cover up? Bulging muscles and tight pants draw attention to their bodies as well. Why are women blamed for being women and having curves? This just plays into the old rhetoric of the female temptress.

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    1. Omg you are speaking so many facts! I love this. I think this is very insightful and literally touches upon everything I have been feeling but couldn’t find a way to put it into words. This is great.

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    2. Thank you so much for these thoughtful remarks. You bring up some incredibly powerful and true points! I love hearing everyone’s perspective because this is a dialogue with lots of emotion and personal experience to draw on. You’ve given me some great food for thought! So glad you stopped by. Hugs and love XOXO

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    3. I disagree with some of this. You’re correct in that a Christian can’t hold a non-Christian to God’s standards, but neither are Christians to cower for fear of offending a non-believer or keeping our mouths shut and not saying anything against the hypocrisy that is obviously there in society’s actions or dress or speech, whether or not society sees the hypocrisy.

      To say a woman can wear whatever she wants and place 100% of the blame on the man for the consequences that might follow is faulty. Whether we believe in God or not, we all know men are way more visual than women, so in many cases–especially when it comes to Hollywood!–when a woman chooses to dress in a way that is provocative, she then also needs to own part of the responsibility for the reactions the men around her have.

      The issue of dress is a Kingdom issue, not a cultural, worldly issue. God has standards, regardless of culture. Just because women dress a certain way in another culture doesn’t necessarily mean that way is “okay.” Just like we don’t condone other cultures for the way men treat their women and children, we shouldn’t necessarily be condoning other cultures’ ways of dress. Our standards for how we treat one another don’t come from man; they come from God–again, whether or not society acknowledges this (morals and values come from God; without Him, there would be no morals or values and everyone would do what they saw to be right in their own eyes–which is the way our society seems to be headed). Likewise, our standards for how we should dress, especially if we profess to be Christians, don’t come from culture, they come from God, and God has told us to cover certain parts of our bodies. So while it might be “okay” in one culture for a woman to walk around naked, that doesn’t mean it’s okay in the eyes of God, and THAT’S the standard to which we are asked to live. And yes, it’s also the standard we should be lovingly encouraging our non-believing friends to aspire to. Christianity didn’t survive 2000 years because we thought, “Well, they’re non-believers, so who are we to say anything about God and His designs for marriage and family and dress and sex and…” and thus kept quiet about Him and let societies do as they pleased. We mustn’t let our minds be conformed to the world’s standards. That includes all cultures.

      To ask why men don’t have to cover their bodies–well, women aren’t as visually stimulated as men, so seeing a man’s six-pack isn’t going to drive a woman to lust after that man, verses a man seeing too much of a woman’s thigh or too much cleavage will send him to the bedroom in his thoughts. Women are the physically weaker sex; we need men as our protectors. Men are the visually–maybe even mentally–weaker sex; they need us women to protect their minds and thoughts! That means helping them by dressing in a modest way. And whether or not we like the patriarchal mindset, it’s the way God set things up after Adam and Eve sinned, so to fight against His design for family and society is fighting against Him. Not that men can do whatever they want–men are supposed to love the women in their lives like Christ loved the church. If our husbands and/or our fathers aspired to love us like Christ loves us, we would have NO qualms welcoming them as our spiritual heads of households.

      But to think so little of our brothers in Christ and the uphill battle they face every day in this sex-crazed society because we want to wear what we want to wear when we want to wear it is selfish. Period. And that’s the opposite of how we should act as Christians. Jesus said to love God first and love our neighbors second. Our “selves” don’t factor in there at all.

      Like it or not, the Christian walk is all about self-sacrifice. Marriage isn’t about what our spouse can do for us; having children isn’t about what the kids can do for us or filling a need in our hearts. It’s learning about God on a new level and seeing imperfections in us–brought out by our spouse and our kids–that God wants to smooth out. The trials we face are there to deepen our faith in God. Everything in life has one purpose: to glorify God. A thought that doesn’t always leave the best taste in our mouths because we’re sinners and at our core, we want to glorify ourselves. It’s a constant battle this side of Heaven, but it MUST be fought. As Charles Spurgeon says, “Discernment is not knowing the difference between right and wrong. It is knowing the difference between right and almost right.” That line is becoming increasingly blurred in today’s society, but I would argue that if we call ourselves Christians and we’re walking with the Lord, then we ought to look in stark contrast to society and not feel like we have to apologize for it.

      No, I don’t hold a non-beileving Hollywood star to my Christian standards, but that doesn’t mean I condone the way she dresses, nor does it mean I shouldn’t help teach her to honor her body by covering it up, were I to have a friendship with said star. So thank you, Caralyn, for the ways you uphold your faith and God’s standards as an actress. You might not be rewarded with men’s definition of “success” on this earth, but God will reward you in Heaven with a treasure you can enjoy for eternity.

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      1. Hi Laurie, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this and for joining the dialogue. you bring up a lot of great points here. i love that quote from Charles Spurgeon. i appreciate you sharing it. big hugs to you x

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      2. Wow so you talked about many different topics. I don’t think it’s worth getting into it, but I don’t see it the way you do. My first topic when talking with a woman about Christ is not her clothing. My God that just reinforces the rape culture rhetoric the church has done a great job of perpetuating. I will never encourage a non-believer to “clean up her act” and “aspire” to something she doesn’t believe in. That takes time and trial and error. Where in Scripture is a woman’s clothing discussed in terms of covering up? Point me there, please. A man will literally be attracted to anything. Should we take responsibility for that? Also, yes women will lust after men. Not sure why you think otherwise but I for sure have lusted after men who are shirtless. Also, why do we assume that we know better than other cultures regarding “treating women and children”? Which culture are you referring to? Does the white American culture know better than the rest of the world? Christianity has become so infiltrated in American culture that it’s hard to extract the truth from it. Such a colonizer’s way of thinking. P.S. Jesus said love our neighbors AS OURSELVES. Pretty sure God wants us to love ourselves. How can we love our neighbors as ourselves if we don’t love ourselves? Be blessed. Peace.

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  4. Your take on Oprah and her deity like status is spot on. It’s something I recognized years ago when she was doing her show. I’m really enjoying your blogs. God bless.

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  5. Very true and deep. I couldn’t watch it for long, it disgusted me. Do as I say and not as I do…like they don’t even realize because they have been seeped in it for so long.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this topic! You’re right there are kind of some double standards going on I feel at times. So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love XOXO

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  6. I don’t know what to say and just a disclaimer, I am not trying to start an argument. I just wasn’t so convinced about the way you described the way they dressed up, yes it maybe is quite provocative, but shouldn’t society teach men to control themselves, before telling women to dress with modesty?

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    1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this piece. That is really a great point and something to think about. It is definitely a tough subject with a lot of different viewpoints and perspectivespit! And I appreciate you sharing yours because this is a dialogue that I for one can learn something with! Hugs and love xox

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    2. Shouldn’t society teach both men and women to control themselves? There are just as many raunchy women out there as there are raunchy men, both sides can be, and are often at fault concerning issues.

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  8. Amazingly well written blog post, and I didn’t watch any of the Golden Globes and was unaware of Oprah and her speech save a friend of mine posted something on Facebook about her becoming next President of the USA. I give that entire and culture a wide birth by choice. I agree with everything you have said… can I get an amen?

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    1. Thanks Edward. Yeah there were a lot of oprah 2020 comments floating around today. Thanks so much. Hugs and love xox

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  9. Very well said! I think last night gave us bloggers a lot to “talk” about. I have been very impressed with your well written posts about the craziness of life. You have a wise outlook for such a young person- a beautiful young woman inside and out! So nice to have found your blog!

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  10. Seriously. Exactly. How can you honestly stand there, with your boobs hanging out and say, with a straight face, the words ‘women’ and ‘respect’ in the same sentence?! Not to mention the fact that they claim to empathize with oppressed women…when, for most of them, their biggest ‘issue’ is whether they get paid $1 million or $15 million. Wage gap, my ass. Pretty sure there are more pressing issues facing women in the world these days…and if I don’t have a real clue what those are in my comfortable, American, low/middle class life, then they certainly don’t. Appreciated your honest take. ❤

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    1. Aw thanks Kat. I appreciate your kind words and support. Yeah we all have so much be grateful for, especially in the grand scheme of things. Hugs and love xox

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  12. Bravo. You echoed my sentiments exactly. Hollywood is speaking out against sexual harassment yet our prime time shows are still plagued with bachelors and bachelorettes being pawed over. Our movie theaters are selling out tickets to watch Mr Grey and his porn. No thank you. Last night was revolting, to say the least.

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    1. Thank you Leah. I really appreciate it. Ugh, that movie franchise makes me sick 👎🏼 To think our middle school girls are watching that. So sad. Hugs and love xox

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  13. I completely see your point, but then again, this is where the problem lies. Why should we women have to scrutinize and agonize over every article of clothing we wear so as not to be “temptresses” for men? Why can’t men respect women regardless of what is worn or not worn? Those celebrities last night were glammed up because it is a glamorous event. This does not mean the message they sent was any less powerful.

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    1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. That’s a great point and I appreciate you joining the dialogue on this important issue. Hugs and love xox

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  14. I think there’s a silent majority that agree with you, and kudos to you for having the courage to speak a publicly unpopular opinion. I couldn’t watch the GG and their hypocrisy. Because of these Hollywood women, we have young girls that don’t understand boundaries, respect for their bodies, and respect for themselves. They push an ‘anything goes’ culture, much to the detriment of our young girls.

    They’re kidding themselves thinking they are champions of women. They’re champions of themselves, and whatever gives them publicity. Where were they when this was happening to their peers? What sacrifice did they make to protect their fellow women? Did they support the likes of Paula Jones, Kathleen Willey and Monica Lewinsky? Or did they join the chorus that made fun of them and publicly ruined them?

    These women are about the empty gestures. Wearing black changed nothing. Starting Time’s Up changes nothing. It takes each and every one of those women to be willing to sacrifice, and none of those women are. We’ve all seen the pictures of Oprah all chummy with Harvey, and yet that room was falling all over themselves for her. They’re emotion-driven; if a speech, or empty gesture, makes them feel good, they go with it, without the benefit of critical thinking.

    Where were the original Harvey accusers last night? Why didn’t any of those women invite them as their guests? Because this is nothing more than a publicity stunt on the backs of real women.

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    1. Thank you PJ, I appreciate your support. Yeah – they are idolized by little girls. It broke my heart seeing the 11year old actress from stranger things all oversexualized and in a backless dress with heavy makeup. She is a child. A. Child. Makes my heart sad. You brought up so many great points. Thanks for sharing your heart. Hugs and love xox

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  15. Well said. I didn’t watch it, and never have or never would myself. Just me, but I agree so much of what comes out of Hollywood is utter trash. I agree, and I applaud your stand. The church needs to show the world the difference by how we live, our values. Peter said they’ll think it strange (1 Peter 4, I think), but so be it.

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  17. Usually I read your entire post, but I think I caught the gist of it. I would say I agree, but that would mean I watched the Golden Globe Awards. I didn’t. I could care less. Really. Really. Could. Care. Less.
    And I know I’m not alone. I don’t want or need a lecture from whoever the Celebrity of the Minute is. Today it’s Oprah, tomorrow it’s (insert name here). And we will get the same facile understanding of good moral conduct from people whose concept of good moral conduct matches whatever the contingencies of their careers dictate.
    Bottom line: I don’t care and I’m not alone in my indifference.

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  19. When I saw your first picture in this post I guessed “that’s what Golden “Globes” are.” Always On Target again and thank you for your post. The godlessness of television has made it such a sickening thing. And all content in general because it goes everywhere. You can’t just kill your TV anymore. God bless you you are a great writer. Amen to morality and prayers for return to it.

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    1. Hahah oh gosh. Just a typical dress at the show 🤦🏻‍♀️ thanks for your thoughts and support. Means a lot. Hugs and love xox

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  20. God’s truth is pure, holy and absolutely powerful in authority over every living being.
    Thank you sister for your honesty in bold fashion beautifully clothed and displayed.

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  21. please keep in mind the general intentions of these privileged and wealthy stars…they have the spotlight, not us, and they’re trying to use it for our benefit…because we are greater as a diverse nation, we are greater as a nation that values all of us, not just the men, the white, the wealthy…

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  24. One other thing: On women’s dress. In scripture to dress modestly in context was about not wearing expensive clothes, as if a woman needs that, but rather what’s in one’s heart (1 Timothy somewhere, I think). But I agree with your point about women and clothes, even if we all might draw lines a bit differently. Everything is sexualized, highly sexualized nowadays. The films, and so much else, most of which I never see. So I think it is good for a woman to think about what causes attention to herself in ways which might cause a brother in Christ to stumble, even if he really shouldn’t. And there has to be room for differences in how we approach and handle this, for sure. The point being not to get all hung up. It really doesn’t bother me to see a woman’s natural beauty in what she wears, which is part of God’s good creation. And you haven’t been prudish in how you dress either, Caralyn, which I think is a good counterpoint to anyone who might criticize your thought on women thinking twice before they wear just anything. And after the fall God did clothe Adam and Eve. Just me rambling. But thanks again for sharing this post, and for your stand.

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    1. Thanks again Ted. Yeah these are really powerful points. And I will be the first to mitt that I don’t always dress as modestly as I should! Which also points to the truth of what you were saying. It does however make me sad to see the 11-year-old actress from stranger things all over sexualized in a backless dress and heavy make up. It’s sad that it’s starting that young. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts!Have a great night XOXO

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  25. So the glitterati were preening for the cameras, patting themselves on the backs because they aren’t like those people who are taking things too far. Yawn.

    On the point of choices made in attire, it seems like women and men keep arguing over who has to do what. It seems to me that each of us should be acting in a way that makes the other better. “I’ll do what I want but you better control yourself” is a bad deal no matter who says it.

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    1. Oh boy JP that is the truth! After all, shouldn’t we all be trying to help one another get to heaven? Wink wink thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love XOXO

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  27. So much to unpack… I don’t mean to derail your rant but I want to give you some feedback on the part, “…but it is an act of love and respect to help our brothers in Christ not fall into the trap of sin, and maybe one way of doing that is, I don’t know…not dressing like you work at a brothel.” This is from rape culture; “it puts the responsibility for a man’s lust and fantasies squarely on the shoulders of women.”
    Consider this: “Not only does Jesus say nothing about female culpability in a man’s fantasies, he absolutely destroys any excuses a man might make about his inability to control his own urges. No, Jesus says, a man’s culpability begins and ends with his own dang eyes and right hand.
    Jesus is always pointing back to the broken human heart as the spring from whence our sin comes. Men don’t lust because women are immodest. Men and women alike lust (aka covet) because we want what we can’t have.”
    The whole article is excellent and can be found at https://medium.com/@joelherbert/modest-is-hottest-is-not-in-the-bible-49b58ed1fdf6

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    1. Thank you so much for thisPowerful response! You’ve provided some really insightful points that I’m going to be thinking about for a long time. That’s a great point about lust. I look forward to reading that article. Thanks for passing it along. Hugs and love xox

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  29. Thank you for your post. I have stopped watching these award shows many years ago because it is no longer about the awards but about personal anti-America politics.

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  30. I believe that God is exposing our sins, both national and in the church. I think He’s giving us a chance to confront our darkness and seek His light.

    Even though I believe that, I also believe that it’s complicated.

    On the one hand, men need to just straight up control themselves. A woman can be walking down the middle of the street, naked, at noon and nobody has the “right” to touch her. (I know you don’t believe that; just an example). On the other hand, we women need to stop playing the “game” and demand respect, which starts with respecting ourselves, even if it costs us position, power, money or influence. On the third hand, the “game” exists because men have so much trouble seeing women as equals (I speak very generally, of course) and they are the ones who predominately control advertising, fashion, etc. It’s all very messy.

    I don’t have a problem with actors/actresses or any other “elite” people addressing these issues, but you aren’t wrong when you point out their hypocrisy. But maybe, at least for some of them, this season of turmoil marks a turning point, a time of discovery and change. I hope so.

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    1. Ooops, wasn’t totally clear in my comment. I meant to say that I don’t you don’t believe that anyone has a right to harm women for any reason.

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    2. Thank you so much for this thoughtful response, Marie. you’re so right – it is very very complicated with a lot of emotion involved. I hope so too. thanks for sharing your heart 🙂 big hugs to you xox

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  32. Wow. Your opening paragraph is powerful as is this entire post. Thank you so very much for telling the truth about these folks and about Hollywood. Actors of old would likely be disgusted by what Hollywood puts out today. Not much good these days. Mostly trash. God bless you and your family!! ❤️

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    1. oh John, thank you so much for your support and kindness. Yeah, not something i would want my future kids to be absorbing. thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

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  37. Amen!!!!! You are what gives me hope for this nation when I am dead!!! I watched about 2 seconds of it and I was done!

    The thing that gets me about “some” of these women who have been sexually abused by a boss, or the like, have waited 40 or more years to report it. And I actually heard one say this when asked why. “Because it was my dream job.” What???????????????????

    If a boss would have ever done that to me after he tried to get a tissue for his busted lip, then he would of had to hire someone else for that position of being his “play thing.” Then, he would of had a lot of explaining to do after I told his wife. Then he would have to get a dang good lawyer after I sued the hell out of him, for costing me my job, and it would not of taken me 40-50 years to do so!!!!

    Not that a woman is ever responsible for sexual abuse, but when you do not do something about it, and you allow it to happen to others, that to me, is on their shoulders.

    I am like you, do not talk to me about sexual abuse while your crotch, butt, and boobs are hanging out, and tell me, “How you are so against it.” The Bible also says, “We are never to lead others into temptation.” If that is not temptation then would someone please explain to me what is????

    As far as Oprah, puh-lease??? The thing that gets me about her for a long time now, (and I used to really like her) is she thinks she speaks for “everyone.” When she said, “My mother’s generation would have to die before racism was gone,” that one got me!

    When my Mom died I wanted to ask her, “Are you happy now, bc I sure the hell am not?”

    Well done and you know I love you. God Bless, SR

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    1. thank you so much SR! ha, i don’t mean to laugh, but your description of what you would do definitely made me smile. You’re right though – she does not speak for me or any of the other christian women I know. Don’t get me wrong, I think she is a good person and has contributed some wonderful things and benevolence to society, however her version of “Christianity” is actually not christianity at all, and it is leading people away from God, not to Him. that’s really powerful about your mother. thanks for sharing that. hope you have a great night, and thanks for your encouraging words and support. means a lot. Hugs and love xox

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      1. I agree her “beliefs” have nothing to do with Christianity. It is just like you get to God by any means, and Jesus said, “He was the only way to the Father.”

        Doing “good” things does not always make us a Christian. I have some Hindu friends who I love and adore, but would never correlate their beliefs as “Christian.” Nor do they refer to themselves as such.

        We have to be very careful on who we listen to today.

        You know you can laugh all you want, as you know that is exactly what would of happened! LOL! I think you have known me long enough to know that. Love you and God Bless, SR

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      2. amen! The Way, The Truth, and The Life!! That’s so true. and yes! i do know that that is definitely how it would have gone down 😉 thanks again for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

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    1. thank you so much Melanie!! i’m so glad this resonated with you. thanks for your feedback! Hugs and love xox

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  39. I feel the exact same way as you, but my peeve is guns / weapons. Now, while I don’t hunt I have many friends who do, and I have no problem with it. What I do have a problem with is all of these stars who made their money shooting guns in movies (guns that you can’t get legally) then speak out against guns (hello Matt Damon, Sean Connery, Arnold Schwarzenegger). Now pardon me while I load up my rapid-fire assault longbow and do some target shooting.

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    1. thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. I have never that about that angle of the issue, but there’s a powerful point there! big hugs xox

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  41. Here, here! My prayer, beyond politics or campaign platforms, beyond partisanship or lobbying and special interest control is that the leaders we are offered come from a more compassionate, Christian background with a real mission for delivering America back to her truest potential. Oprah doesn’t fit the bill. Trump doesn’t fit the bill. Hopefully we’ll all get the chance, one day, to elect a leader that can champion women, minorities and all the disaffected without it feeling so hollow.

    Keep up the awesome posts!

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    1. thank you so much of sharing your thoughts on this. I will absolutely join you in that prayer. yeah – i feel you!! hugs to you x

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  42. Thank you for your post. I was feeling a lot of the same things you said as I watched the awards last night. So glad that I am not a lone.

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    1. thank you so much Andy, I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts on this and for your support. have a great night! big hugs x

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  43. Oh dear. You should really leave politics out of your recovery discourse. I have bitterly disagreed with you before, and I’ll do it again because so many if not all of the points made in this post about feminist ideology and women’s right to their own bodies are really misguided. I can recommend some good books or articles for you about the ever-changing discourse of feminist intersectionality. (Audre Lorde is a good place to start)

    This type of rhetoric about women’s dress is the same as ‘she asked for it’ with regard to sexual violence victims and what they were wearing; and as for ‘having it good’–sorry but saying we have it good here because marriage equality exists and women can vote is still not enough? We have it good COMPARED to some countries around the world, but women (and gay folks, and trans folks, and people of color, and disabled people, and mentally ill people, and poor people, and formerly incarcerated people, and noncitizens, and people of non-Christian faith) are still grossly marginalized if not violently discriminated against in this country. I for one will not ignore that simply because another nation has worse human rights practices. There is no hierarchy of oppression.

    Women objectifying THEMSELVES is a choice, and that’s what makes it acceptable. When women are objectified via the male gaze or for profit because they are pressured by an industry or individual, that’s a problem. Being clothed or unclothed doesn’t drain a woman of her self-respect. Self-respect is self-defined, individual. I appreciate your passion, but I can’t really vibe with the fact that your tone implies that your specific morals are universally shared and forgive me, but it embodies Christian arrogance.

    I thought Oprah’s speech was a mess, but for radically different reasons than this goody-high-horse-respectability-politics rant. Her, Meryl Streep, and many MANY others who wore black are hypocrites–they either have worked on movies with actors or producers or directors who were directly involved in a sexual assault or act of harassment, abetted rapists in the industry, or were responsible for violence against women themselves. She talked a great game up there, but her history of baiting many of the women victimized by Harvey Weinstein says more than enough about her actions and her words. Same goes for Meryl Streep, Gal Gadot, and even Justin Timberlake, who was recently cast in a Woody Allen film.

    I truly hope you can expand upon your ‘definition’ of feminism and what the true essence of intersectionality is.

    Blessings.

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    1. Hi friend, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. I truly appreciate you joining the dialogue, because there really are so many different perspectives and viewpoints to this emotional and passionate issue. I will definitely have to start with Lorde’s book, thank you for the recco. That is a powerful point – there is no hierarchy in oppression. Thank you for this great food for thought. Lots to think about. so glad you stopped by. big hugs to you xox

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      1. “Sister Outsider” is her great collection of essays, where you will find her most important thoughts. Some of my favorite quotes in general have come from her work. I hope you get much out of it!!

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      3. Hey BBB,

        So true “there is no hierarchy in oppression.” There also is no sane mind which “tolerates” everything for the sake of “tolerance.” That is until your “everything” disagrees with theirs.

        At one time in history in this nation and others “women” needed to fight for their rights. The right to vote, work, and show their ankles, is what they were fighting for, among many other things. I will hold these women up as long as I live especially those in the early 1900’s. We are living off of what they did.

        These women were placed in jail, lost their children and horrible things happened to them. Force feeding, death, and the like.

        But…they did not set themselves up as a “golden god” to be worshiped and adored. To tell you the truth I cannot stand them! I am a woman and have never had trouble being one, or had trouble bc I am one. I think for myself, do for myself,and my work is what I want to do, but… I never tell another “woman” she is “woman” and she “ought to roar.”

        Some women are so full of themselves just bc of their gender, it’s sickening to me. I mean get out here and do what Mother Teresa did, then tell me how “wonderful you are!”

        As far as you having “Christian Arrogance,” that one got my dander up! That is what I mean when someone wants another to “tolerate” everything. When it comes to them “tolerating” us, then we are “arrogant.” I always tell them, “tolerate me,” as that is your living standards.

        As my uncle (WWII vet) said as I told you before, “Everyone in this nation needs WWII here for one week, then they would shut up and be thankful for what they have.”

        I tell you this right now, I will die before I EVER let another person think and speak for me. Don’t you ever leave politics, your faith, our Church or anything else out of your blog bc someone disagrees with you! Or in your life!!! Texas will be coming to NY and PLEASE DO NOT MAKE ME DO THAT! LOL!

        That is what happens when they do not agree with you, they try and “shut you up!” Yet, we must listen to them over and over and over. Love you and God Bless, SR

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      4. hahah thank you SR – that’s such a great point. We are living off of the humble work they did. Key word, humble. thanks again, friend. much love to you! x

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      6. The in between queen,

        I do not know if you are addressing me or not but since you placed the word “tolerating” in there I did not know. However do not ever think you will EVER in your life tell me who to address or what to say as that will never happen!!!! The day I give you that kind of control over my life is the 8th day of the week which is NEVER!

        You have the wrong person here if you EVER in your life think I will allow you to do that!

        Now you have been addressed and that should make you happy! SR

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  44. Hello my friend, you choose an exact point to show to the brainless people who act and project themself as cool but really horrible. This is your most best post in your entire blog as i read them all every time with every comments too. Impressed and you are the best representative of your beautiful country for now. Cheers

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    1. Hi friend, thank you so much for your support and encouragement. it seriously means the world. Cheers to you too, friend! Hugs and love xox

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      1. Only when other 100s of other females have same vision the country really can change to the best shape. Thank you for the quick response. I really not expected i can receive an answer from you. Keep writing with you more power and smiles.

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  45. I didn’t watch the award show, but so Oprah’s speech on youtube as a trending with the whole #timesup deal. I was like, wait, is this a new thing? I can’t keep up.
    And I like how one actress was like… I will count time as before Oprah, and before Oprah…(move over Jesus) ::insert sarcasm::
    Anyways, thank you for this. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one with the same sentiment.

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    1. thank you so much, yeah it is definitely hard to keep up with. thanks for sharing your thoughts. big hugs xo

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  46. God bless you my friend for speaking the truth as many of us see it. The sayings, “practice what you preach”,” lead by example”, ” actions speak louder than words” all come to mind when I see many people, who have a platform. Sadly, it seems to be, “do as I say not as I do” God bless you 🙂

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    1. thank you so much Margaret – I truly appreciate your support and kind words. hope you have a great night. big hugs xo

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      1. My pleasure, as always. I was away for a bit but I’m being blessed catching up with every one. I know, that you know, this will probably be a can of worms but God moved you to post it. He will certainly bless you for doing what He wants you to do.

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      2. oh good! well, happy reading! haha – a can of worms indeeeeeed heheh Hugs and love xox

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  47. I think the conversation about modesty as a way of advocating for women’s rights and empowerment is important one. And I am glad you made that connection. But I think it has to be different conversation than the one about rights and sexual assault. I’m sorry you experienced the challenges of having your career limited by taking stances about not doing nudity, sex scenes, etc. You are courageous and that should be honored. It saddens me even more that you experienced assault in the form of unwanted advances. Your own story shows how pervasive the assault addressed by #metoo is and how important speaking out is regardless of the imperfections and inconsistencies of the communicator. I have come to accept that truth ought to be celebrated as true even if the person stating the truth is inconsistent, or even hypocritical. I believe there’s more we can celebrate about the light being shone on the need to treat women like the image of God they are even if it’s coming from people who on many fronts I disagree with. We must find common ground where it exists so that we can effectively point out disagreement where it does well. That approach has helped me resist my urge to see those who don’t yet see the light as enemies and appreciate them. That has also prompted them to learn more from me as well.

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    1. thank you so much for this thoughtful response. there’s so much powerful food though thought here. you’re right, truth should definitely be celebrated. thank you for your kindness, friend. big hugs x

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  48. While I’m not exactly a Golden Globes supporter (the entire telecast and nominations are based on the access that celebrities give the HFP) I was surprised at how effective the all black dresses effort was to at the very least bring about an awareness for the #MeToo movement and to show that this years telecast based on the events of 2017 would not go on “as business as usual.” First of all, that photo of Mandy Moore is from Last Years show?! And I found all of the women’s dresses this year to be absolutely tasteful and elegant. Also, Oprah is at Deity stature because she single handed changed the face of television, film, pop culture, racism and has done so much for HUMANITY that it would take hours to to distill it all. Your sweeping generalizations are lost on me.

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      1. I’m sorry you feel that way. i believe that everyone has the right to their own beliefs, and i respect that. I’m just sharing my beliefs, that’s all. no forcing here 🙂

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      2. I know. But in sharing, you’re also assuming that others share them with you and it kind of makes all that is being addressed get lost. Again, forgive my probably perceived harshness; it’s just hard to feel like I’m reading a logical argument while there’s so much theology and relative morality jammed into every point.

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      3. It is very interesting that you take the time out of your day to write (attack) someones blog yet yours is without content. If your attack is based off of your standpoint you should put it down in writing and prepare for the same. As for your assumption let me define the word for you so you have something to dwell on ASS-u-ME. Don’t just don’t, you make yourself look bad in so many ways.

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      4. Without content? I have 44 posts on my blog, dude. And putting hyphens between syllables does not constitute definition, so I’m not really sure what the point is here. Myself and the OP have a long history of political difference and I already clarified the absence of ill-intention; these are all moot points. I put my thoughts down in writing in several different comments. Insulting my intelligence does nothing but perpetuate the very same attitude you’re accusing me of having—which makes you look equally bad—I’m not insulted by your aggressiveness whatsoever.

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    2. thank you for sharing your thoughts on this emotional issue. you bring up a lot of great points that I definitely will think about. yeah, it definitely successfully started a conversation and i think that was a big thing they set out to do. i was unaware of that, about Mandy’s dress — it must have been incorrectly credited on the website i found it, because i definitely would not have chosen an erroneous photo. sorry about that. 🙂 any who, thanks again for joining the dialogue!. big hugs to you xox

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    1. hahah – sorry — no offense meant at that! just trying to be funny 🙂 hehe thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

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