My Body, My Choice

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In recent days here, in light of Alabama’s recent Human Life Protection Act, there seems to be a caustic energy that is sweeping the world.

Celebrities like Selena Gomez, Miley Cyrus, Pink, Reese Witherspoon, Cynthia Nixon, Rihanna, Courteney Cox, Kylie Jenner, Emma Watson, Karlie Kloss, Hilary Duff, Gigi Hadid, Diddy, Ellen Degeneres, Ariana Grande and countless others, have joined in the outrage of our neighbors and former classmates on Facebook, shouting “Men Shouldn’t Be Making Laws About Women’s Bodies.“

They’re doxxing the people who voted in favor of the bill. And Alyssa Milano has even gone so far as to pledge a #SexStrike in protest of the prolife legislature that is “robbing” them of their “bodily autonomy.”

Well tonight, instead of joining the argument about this deeply emotional issue, I instead wanted to offer a different perspective on my own relationship with my body, as someone who has had to live with the results of my choice for the last 11 years now.

If you were to ask me, when I was in the throes of my anorexia, I would have shouted from the rooftops: “MY BODY, MY CHOICE.”

Because that’s exactly how I was living: I was choosing to destroy my body through starvation, obsessive exercise, insomnia, and other destructive manifestations of my eating disorder.

I did not want ANYONE to have any say over the way I was choosing to treat it. I wanted to destroy it as I so pleased, and there wasn’t a damn thing anyone could say or do otherwise about it.

And in fact, as an 18-year old high school senior, no one could. Because I was legally an adult.

And so even though I was clearly a danger to myself, and was wasting away to 78 pounds, my parents, legally could not force me to go to inpatient treatment. Because it was…my body, my choice.

And even though I would have never said, “I want to die,” that’s exactly what my actions — my choices — were not only communicating, but successfully manifesting.

You know what my choice got me?
Osteopenia at 18 years old.
All my hair fell out.
I never got my period, and even to this day, I still have only menstruated thrice.
My circulation, even to this day, sucks.
I suffered from edema for six years, even after recovering.
My relationships took a huge hit.
I had to drop out of college.
And I can still struggle with feeling unworthy of love.

I wish I could just go back in time, and shake that strong willed, hurting, and terrified young girl and say, “Your choices are killing you.”

I would hug her so tightly and not let go.

There’s so much I wish I could tell her. So much perspective that I would share, now — as a whole, healthy, and healed young woman — that I so desperately needed to hear back then.

Because the only way I have been able to embrace recovery, and leave those destructive behaviors behind, was to realize that — my body was not mine to destroy.

Yes, it was my body, but my choice? Not quite. My body is a gift – on loan to me by the Father. And you know what, yeah that might seem a little bit “out there.” But take it from someone who was literally knocking on death’s door — there are certain things you wake up to when you’re teetering on the edge.

When I realized and embraced that I was a child of God, and handmade by the Father, it suddenly became crystal clear that my body was a temple. It was my act of worship. The instrument through which I am to glorify and honor Him who gave me life, and saved it.

It was no longer my choice. It was my responsibility. It was my privilege. It was my beautiful vessel to honor Him with.

I think we can get so lost in our pride, our ego, our autonomy. I know I did. My body was mine to deprive nutrients. It was mine to kill with olympic caliber workouts on no sleep and no fuel. I could berate my mind and spirit with flagellating, critical thoughts, and isolate myself so that no one could tell me otherwise.

But in the end, a life of striving for autonomy led me to the brink of death, literally.

And I’m still paying the price for my choices.

As someone who lived the most radical, and most extreme manifestation of “My Body, My Choice,” I want to just leave you with one final thought.

We all have that fundamental human right over our bodies. That’s absolutely true – and as I found out – up to and including autonomous choices that lead to self-demise. For better or for worse, that is the prerogative of each and every person.

But that human right, is not actually what is coming under “attack” in these prolife legislations. Because that autonomous choice to self-destruct is our fundamental right, UNTIL it threatens the life of another person.

That’s why a person is free to drink alcohol to the point of passing out, and yet — if that same person gets behind the wheel of a car, it’s illegal. Why? Because all of a sudden, that choice threatens the life of another.

Which is exactly the case with abortion. Because those choices now involve another person. And now, it’s no longer a human right, but a civil right.

Sitting here today, I’m just so grateful that my family and loved ones were able to get through to me that my choices were not only killing me, but deeply hurting the ones I love most. And thank God it wasn’t too late.

In my recovery, I’ve vowed not only to never return to that way of life again, but that everyday, I will make the choice, to honor my body, and use it as the instrument of peace and hope God entrusted me with.

And to those saying that Men Shouldn’t Be Making Laws Against Women’s Bodies – I say, you’re right. And further, Women Shouldn’t Be Making Choices to Destroy Their Child’s Body.

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354 thoughts on “My Body, My Choice”

      1. Big hugs right back at ya, girl! 🙂

        It just amazes me how everyone in Hollywood and the media nearly dies from sweat inhalation about restricting guns and taking guns from people and creating more and more gun laws, but they believe that it is right to kill a baby in the most brutal ways possible. 😦 Go figure.

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  4. The “my body my choice” seems to be the last card the Pro-choice faction plays. The idea is that this trumps all pro-Life arguments. At the core is that it works only if it denies the personhood of the fetus and that fetus’s right to life. The courts have been avoiding this question since Roe v. Wade. And it is an awesome question to discern. No wonder the Supreme Court is reluctant to go there.

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    1. I completely agree, David. It all should down to WHEN life begins, because once personhood is established, then he or she has rights. Awesome question to discern indeed. Hugs and love xox

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  5. Amen! you said it perfectly, and I agree …coming from a women who was told , should of never been able to have kid’s because of my birth defect, I had two beautiful kids and family and doctor’s were amazed . I believe there is a God and he wanted me to bring them into this world and why should I have deprived him … The births were not easy especially my daughter who they thought I should end the pregnancies or do test that would possibly had that effect. and when I was so worried and in doubt my dad said to me do not do the test they dont know . this is a gift from god and you will be able to handle what way she comes and you will love her and thats what I did and she was just fine.

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    1. Hi friend! Thank you so much for sharing your story. Praise God that you were able to have kids!!! Amen to that – what a tale of victory 🙌🏼 Hugs and love xox

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  7. This is beautifully thought out and written! When women talk about making choices about their body, they are making choices about another human being’s body! To support your point, I read in DNA; Pirates of the Sacred Spiral by Horowitz that women’s bodies shut off the rejection part of their physiology regarding the infant so that the baby survives. The immune system is “instructed” to leave the baby alone!

    Different heart, distinct DNA…everything tells us that it is not part of the mother’s body!

    Caralyn, I sure wish I could comfort you somehow over the difficulties you still face! All I can offer are my prayers, the fatherly love from “dad2,” and all the support I can give! Extra love and hugs tonight!!

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    1. Hey Jeff! Gosh thank you so much. What an interesting fact! I’d like to read that book. You’re so right – just because a car’s parked in the garage doesn’t make the car part of the garage. Thanks so much Dad2, for being a great encourager and friend!! I appreciate it so much!!! Hope you and Julie have a great great night 🙂 Hugs and love xox

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      1. The book is out of print but in high demand. It cost me roughly $60 for a used copy. Mint condition go for $100-200! I wrote a 23 part series on it starting June of 2017 – https://jeffreyhking.wordpress.com/2017/06/22/pirates-of-the-sacred-spiral-part-1-2/ Less expensive than buying! It’s about how DNA research has been manipulated in the past for evil doings. The fact about mothers not rejecting their babes was used for a covert sterilization project in, I believe, the Philippines. Hence the title – Pirates of the Sacred Spiral. Written by a Christian.

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      2. OH WOW! Talk about a golden copy!! I can’t wait to check our your series. 23 parts! How awesome! I’ve better start reading! Haha Hugs and love xox

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    1. Hey Andy! Thank you so much 🙂 I appreciate your kind words and support, and for taking the time to read! Hugs and love xox

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  11. Good stuff. I would love to post this on my website with your permission. I could create links back to website and anything else you would like to include. I think this would really foster some thinking with the followers of my stuff. Very thoughtful and wonderfully written. Thanks, Paul

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    1. Hey Paul, thank you so much. Absolutely – I would be honored if you passed this along!! I appreciate it! Have a great night! Hugs and love xox

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  12. One of the pro-abortion movement’s biggest bait and switch is “you’re free to choose!” But what the big lie is not the money they make from the fetus is that you’re free from the consequences of your action. No one is ever free from the consequences. You may suffer now, or later, but doesn’t matter. My friend, thanks for sharing about what happens to your body during an eating disorder and how you’re still healing several years later.

    And thanks also for speaking the truth with so much love.

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    1. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts on this. You’re right – every choice has a consequence. And you know, one of the really incredible services that prolife crisis pregnancy centers offer are counseling service for post abortive mothers. They need love and compassion and support. Because you’re right – it is such an emotion and difficult choice that sooner or later will catch up. Hugs and love xox

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  13. Very well said, again, Caralyn!!!

    To bend thought on the word “choice” — there is a “choice” here but not after the event. Instead the choice is to refrain from an act that might conceive a child. -Jeff

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    1. Hi Jeff, thank you so much for sharing your heart on this. I agree – that is the “choice” that people so quickly forget. Hugs and love xox

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    2. And also – one of my favorite prolife voices on this – I think it’s Steve crowder?? But he is prolife but he says he’s pro choice…4 choices…abstinence, adoption, contraception, motherhood. Makes a lot of sense. As a catholic, I personally do not follow that belief about contraceptive, but I understand and applaud this argument!! Hugs and love xox

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  14. Agree! Your body, your choice! But when you involve another human’s life, especially a defenseless one, the ‘choice’ involves a new responsibility.

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    1. Hi Dawn! Thank you so much for sharing your heart — and amen — there’s a responsibility there!! Glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox

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  15. You may have missed the point. You have the right to be left on your own, or to seek help or to listen to advice, but that’s not something a government should decide for you. As to when a life begins, not the Bible or science has an answer so it’s left to religion and the law, not the best institutions to make these judgments I think. And it’s certainly not my place to remind you that men have entirely too much to say about what women ought and ought not to do or dictate choices.

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    1. Hi Steven, thanks so much for joining the dialogue about this. I agree that WHEN life begins is really the question here. And religion aside, we have to turn to science. So we have to look at…is it 6 inches of birth canal? Is it at a heart beat? Is it at conception? — because this one has a LOT of different factors, like a baby in one of the best hospitals in the country with all the fancy technology is viable a lot earlier than a baby born at a barebones community hospital. Or what about economic factors that effect viability? A family that has means to pay for those technologies vs one that doesn’t also effects viability. Which brings us to conception. Those are just some of my thoughts, I’d love to hear what you think. And in terms of men dictating my choices, the men in my life and community, and the laws I’ve grown up being privileged to in the USA — I have never had anything but support, empowerment and encouragement from men. I have been brought up knowing that a woman can do anything a man can do – if not better. I have been paid equally. I have been respected. I have been given a fair shot regardless of my sex. So I guess I just don’t quite see this oppressive society where men are dictating my choices. Again – I hope this isn’t coming off as disrespectful, because I’m not meaning it to at all, and I hate that tone doesn’t come across on a computer screen. Because I’m just having a dialogue!! 🙂 and I appreciate you sharing your heart and joining in. Hugs and love xox

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  16. Caralym, your voice is powerful! So thankful that you chose life and are still here, making a positive contribution. We don’t know the value of one life because it cannot be calculated. The babies deserve to live and to be. There has been much propaganda that makes human lives as having less value than a whale or some other bird or insect. You show how one can go from near death to vibrant life. Keep speaking! Love and hugs! XOXO

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    1. Gosh you’re mind to say that. Thank you so much for always encouraging me and giving me the empowerment to speak up!! I agree – the value is immeasurable!! Hugs and love xox

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  20. This was an excellent post. I really lean heavily on my libertarian side on this issue, I dont think its a good idea to have the government intervene in the matter but rather have each persons conscious dictate their personal outcome. In my travels I have never found anyone who was pro choice that wasnt pro life, meaning those who argue for choice werent killers or hated babies but rather wanted the free will and the right to decide for themselves.

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    1. Hi Karac, thank you so much for sharing your heart on this. You’re right – it is a deeply emotional issue, and I think at the end of the day, people are just trying to do what they think is right. Hugs and love xox

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  21. I think the way you told your story was beautifully done and very moving. “but whoever drinks the water I shall give will never thirst.” I’m happy for you that you chose to drink the living water that He offered you.

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    1. Thank you so much Tom, I really appreciate your support – amen to that! His living water!! I am so grateful for His saving power. Hugs and love xox

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  22. Great post. I just want to point out this. The same states pretending to want to save lives. And as Kay Ivey says , ” all life is precious, ” also signed the death warrant for an inmate that same night. I know baby,a killer. But once you say all life is precious you can’t go and agree to have someone executed. Another thing I want to point out is : if people are so pro life why do women hate to tell their boss that they are pregnant. They know they will not get the promotion. Women are treated differently at work in a bad way once they become pregnant. im just saying

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your heart on this emotional issue. I think being prolife is a way of life that yes, needs to span the broadest definition. Hugs and love xox

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  23. Two things. 1. If you don’t like the laws in Alabama, don’t live there. If you don’t live there, you really don’t have a say in the laws the people pass. 2. If men have no right to tell women what to do with their bodies by passing legislation, you’re right. Maybe we ought to repeal Roe v Wade. A law that was passed by men to tell women what to do with their Bodies. Clearly, they had no right too pass it.

    Oh, and a sex strike? Knock yourself out. Maybe if people did that more often, instead of using abortion as birth control, there wouldn’t be such an outcry. It’s really the first, and most responsible choice a person can make in the matter of preventing unwanted children.

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    1. I agree – I think it’s so right that Alyssa is advocating for abstinence. It’s like – YEAH! THAT’S BEEN THE SOLUTION ALL ALONG. haha Hugs and love xox

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  24. Well said Caralyn. So clear, authentic from the heart.
    I just shared a post on fb, from the wife of a previous Pastor at our church. She was an “accident” in her Dad’s mind. But certainly not in her FATHER’S Plans.
    Her Mom struggled through, raising her, and she is now a Mighty Woman Of God as well.

    Thank you Caralyn, God Bless you as you continually serve Him, Glorifying Him, Praising Jesus, and speaking Truth.

    Luv. 😀❤️🌹😘 Hugs

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    1. Thank you so much George 🙂 wow – what a powerful story. You’re so right – God has a plan for each and every one of His children and each is precious in His sight. I appreciate your support and encouragement, always. Hugs and love xox

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  26. By the way, women legislators voted for these bans, and a woman governor signed it into law. Hmmmm. I guess that there are women who choose to give people a chance at life as opposed to those who seek to end it with the exception of themselves. I say that we need more women… like you.

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      1. You are very graciously welcome BBB. You are a great lady to be kind to, and you have a great and special heart. Hugs and love to YOU!!!

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  27. I would really like to see a more broad definition of the pro-life movement before I can get behind this. It’s hard because I agree with what you are saying about the threshold of autonomy vs. threatening the life of another person, but I see so much of the energy focused on this particular issue and almost none (with the exception of a few activists) focused on things like addressing the death penalty, involvement in war, or the existing health disparities (like infant mortality rates) for kids who are currently alive.

    TLDR I agree w you but I feel like I end up choosing between policies that largely support low-income families/good health outcomes (largely Democrat) or ones that largely support traditional pro-life stances (largely Republican) and no platform that supports both.

    For example I think better child care and health care policies like inclusive family leave would help lower abortion rates. I think above you mentioned more funding for adoption and sex education – idk, that is never included in these types of bills. It seems easier to ban things than to really address the problem at all stages of life and for all types of people.

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    1. Hi Liz, thanks for sharing your heart on this emotional issue. I think there’s definitely something to the broad definition. And part of the awesome thing about prolife crisis pregnancy centers is that they offer so much support and resources to lower income families. Great ideas. Hugs and love xox

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      1. Yeah crisis pregnancy centers are helpful, I guess they don’t address the rest of the gap in care but they’re something. Although I think some are faith based and that could be a barrier to care.

        I’ve worked most of my career in nonprofits/health care so I feel strongly about this. Idk there is a lot of stigma toward poor people, but also not a lot of resources out there in states passing these laws to help people be less poor.

        Compassion for babies is understandable, but what about the people we want them to grow into? It just doesn’t make sense to me.

        If we’re so convinced that life begins at a certain time, I guess it bothers me that our policy doesn’t reflect that it also continues a long time after that.

        Not that you necessarily think this but I see a lot of ‘people just made bad choices and they deserve what they get’ sentiment when it comes to people using public services, without much empathy.

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      2. Thanks for all the work you’ve put in in your career. I can feel your passion! Thanks for sharing your heart

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    1. Oh gosh thank you so much Steve, I appreciate that. Actually I think pretty good! Thanks for asking! Hugs and love xox

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  29. Amen, sister!!! I BLASTED a fiery post out on Facebook this past Friday night(it’s public, so you can take a look at it if you want to), because of exactly what’s going on, and a few other things that some near and dear to me, refuse to know God and adhere to what His Word says. I am so glad that you also wrote about this–it’s another confirmation to me, that the Holy Spirit is putting it into our hearts and minds to let the world know what GOD says in HIs Word, how we are to treat LIFE, and how precious it is! My pastor touched on the same things this Sunday, giving even more confirmation of how the Holy Spirit moves in us, and lets us know we have that “singleness of mind”, as we should. I’m blessed to read each one of your posts! Love you!!

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    1. Hey there Nett! Thanks so much for sharing that. Yes!! It is SO precious. Looking forward to reading your post! Hugs and love xox

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  30. Thank you so much for this. I couldn’t agree more. The blindness in this world, the lengths people will go to to defend evil, so sad. Keep shining the light.

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    1. Thanks so much Adrienne!! I really appreciate your support. So glad this resonated with you 🙂 Hugs and love xox

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  31. I’ve contemplated over the rights and wrongs of abortion quite a lot. I used to believe that it is a firm no-no because at the end of the day, no matter how much we try to mask the facts, it is a form of killing. Despite my inclination towards banning of abortion still persists, I am gradually thinking that perhaps the people at the top and the people of society should look into reconsidering allowing abortion from extreme cases of unwanted abortion, on a strict case by case basis. Cases such as r**e and i****t definitely deserves a ponder by the judges, don’t they? Obviously, appeals for abortion due to pregnancy from blatant promiscuous demeanours should have almost zero chances of success.

    I am touched by your personal experience of anorexia. Glad to see that you are using your huge following well to spread your educational messages. Keep touching lives.

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    1. Thanks so much for sharing your heart, Jo. Yeah it is a deeply emotional issue, and I think deep down everyone is trying their best to do what is right and what they think the best thing to do is. And I agree – it is a form of killing. So the question then becomes, what to do about that. So glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox

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  32. Spot on! Once there’s a baby in the womb, there are two bodies involved and one does not have the right to kill the other.
    I like the drink-driving analogy too: I have the right to drink and the right to drive, but not to maim or kill another by doing so.

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    1. Hi Stephen, thank you so much – I completely agree – two bodies!! Thanks so much for your support and for your son sister encouragement. Means a lot! Hugs and love xox

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  33. It is so good to hear a woman speak out for the lives of babies and their fathers.
    Yes fathers…men, Real men want children.
    Sex has been perverted, the act of creation is sacred as well as a bonding activity with your sweetheart.
    I have, in 59 years only exercised that right with the three women I was married to.
    None of them respected the gift.
    Be fearless sister, the world needs to see and hear from a real woman with values.
    May God keep and bless you always.

    Namaste

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    1. Thank you so much friend for sharing your heart and your story. I agree – it is definitely s gift to be respected, and I’m sorry your ex wives didn’t respect that. Hugs and love xox

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    1. Hi Jack, thank you so much for your kind words. I appreciate you stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  35. I think I am pro-life with the three exceptions – rape, incest and protecting the life of the mother. I think the right to life trumps the right to choice. My problem is when life (not the soul) begins. Roe vs Wade is a compromise I can live with. What I can’t agree with is abortion on demand or using abortion as a birth control method. It also sickens me when some women abort female babies because their culture prizes male babies and demands a male heir. Does this make me Pro Life? While the fetus at six weeks has no EEG and is legally dead and the Bible tells us that it is only at first breath that God sends the soul (Both old and New Testament) I can’t accept that means a fetus in the third semester may be aborted; if the fetus is viable then it is murder to abort it. Every religion on earth says “Thou shalt not kill.”

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    1. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. I agree – thou shalt not kill is definitely the baseline. I am unfamiliar with the passage you’re referring to, but I always rely on the passage from psalm 139:13-14 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” And I agree – culturally driven abortion based on the sex of the baby is just so incredibly sad. We see that also with babies with Down syndrome, they are being aborted at alarming rates. It just makes me want to cry. Hugs and love xox

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      1. Thank you for your comment on my comment. Here are two passages that address God breathing life into us outside the womb.
        “And the LORD God formed man of the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul.” Genesis 2:3 KJV – why Jews believe man receives his soul at his first breath.
        and
        “And when he had said this, he breathed on them, and saith unto them, Receive ye the Holy Ghost.” John 20:32 – just like God breathed life into man in Genesis 2:7, so Jesus breathed eternal life into man there in John 20:32.The use of the verb ejnefuvshsen to describe the action of Jesus here recalls Gen 2:3: This time, however, it is Jesus who is breathing the breath/Spirit of eternal life, life from above, into his disciples.
        I have a newpher with Down’s syndrome who is near 50 now and the whole family is blessed by his life among us.
        Peace and love

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      2. Oh awesome, thank you for sharing those passages! And wow – that is truly wonderful. All life is precious and matters and yes! He enriches your lives! Hugs and love xox

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  36. You write so beautifully about your disease and recovery. Truly insightful and inspiring. As you must have witnessed on your journey there are many roads to recovery and reinvention and not all of them lead to Jesus or Christianity or any particular religion. I am glad for you that faith helped you find yourself. I always feel like the minority here stirring the pot but so be it. I find it hard to compare your disease of an eating disorder with a woman’s right to choose. I think a choice of having a child or not is eons away from a disease like addiction, eating disorder etc. I am so very glad for you that you have been lucky enough to have lived your entire life non-marginalized. You may be in the .001% of women in this country and the world to have that experience. Or perhaps you haven’t recognized it happening…..Sometimes in trying to draw connections we alienate. Like when people would tell me that “they understood how I felt” after my brother and mother died because “their dog had died”. Totally different unrelated situations. See what I am implying. Peace, love and kindness even when the choices don’t match my own- right?

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    1. Hi friend, thank you for sharing your thoughts. First of all, I want to say that I am so sorry for your loss. That is so hard, and I’m really sorry that you’ve had to walk that road. And secondly, my intention with this post was not to alienate. Nor was it to compare having a child with anorexia. But rather, to highlight another perspective on “bodily autonomy” that is the cornerstone of the pro abortion position. Lastly, I do appreciate that there are other ways to recover – for me personally I couldn’t have done it without a faith. Even alcoholics anonymous – a secular org – recognizes first and foremost as one of their “12 steps” is to recognize that there is a divine power greater than oneself. So another path – not necessarily having to be a Christian path, but it is one way to find recovery. 🙂 and thank you for offering these perspectives! I love dialogue, and I respect everyone’s opinions! So glad you stopped by, and also – I’m so sorry that people have said that to you about losing their pet. That is just so insensitive, and though I’m sure they were well meaning, I can’t imagine the hurt that must have caused you and I’m just really sorry for that and wish I could give you a hug 🙂 xox

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      1. Now that you have explained further I see your perspective. Thank you, yes I understand people are well intentioned and grief is usually very difficult for most to discuss. Hugs to you too! 🙂

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  37. I, for some reason am just seeing this so clearly. Yes, have all the sex you want and do what you choose to do with your body, but once that body houses another, aren’t we to protect those children by law? Clearly. I’m glad to read your blog. I am really happy for you and your recovery and being so tight knit with God and your faith and the word. It’s good you are so strong with Him at such a young age. Keep at it. What the devil meant for harm, God is truly using for your good, and the good of many others! Like your stories. Thank you for sharing you. I can relate. 🙂 Holly

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    1. Hi Holly, gosh thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement. Amen! I think God allows us to go through things so that we can help others 💛 (or at least try to!!) 🙂 I fully agree! Big hugs to you friend xox

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    1. Hi Tonya! Gosh thank you so much for your support 🙂 it was a tough weekend to be a prolifer! Gotta stay strong! Love ya friend! Big hugs to you xox

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  43. I absolutely agree with everything you said. Even if you don’t believe in God and don’t see your body as a gift from God that you have a responsibility to care for, as soon as a woman’s egg is fertilized and begins to grow, it is no longer a part of their body. It is a separate life. You can look at the genetic makeup of every cell of the mother’s body and it would be obvious that this embryo is NOT a part of her body. I don’t want to tell women what to do with their own body. If they want to cut off their hand or poke out their eye, I would do my best to talk them out of it, but it’s their body, their choice. But this is an entirely different situation. An embryo relies on the mother’s body to grow and develop, but it is not a part of her body.

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    1. Hi Don! Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this! I totally agree – it is a separate life. Separate brain, body, DNA, heart beat, whole nine yards. That is so so exceptionally put. Thanks for this awesome response. Hugs and love xox

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    1. Oh gosh thank you so much for your kind words. It seriously means the world. Hope you have a great night. Hugs and love xox

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    1. Thank you so much. I feel you there. It’s not about control! It’s about life! So glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox

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  47. I recently read a blog by a woman who grew up with a mother who tried to kill herself and her children. She sat her daughter down one day and said “I’m going to kill all of us because I brought you into this world so I can take you out”. This lady became prolife because of this experience. This is the same kind of thinking as “My body, my choice”. It’s not really. These people don’t realize that what is growing inside of them is another life. Doctors define life as saying when the heart beats, but they don’t count it when it is six weeks along inside the womb. Doctors fight to save the life of a baby born four months early but provide abortions past that date. It’s illogical. Doctors write books about science talking about the natural birth process, that it’s normal and healthy for a baby to develop inside the woman’s uterus, but they use the excuse of “Well, the baby can’t survive outside of the womb” so it’s not a person yet or something like that. It’s not supposed to survive outside the womb until it is 40 weeks along, not 20! But that doesn’t mean it’s not alive. It’s exactly where it is supposed to be. All the science points to that growing ball of cells will turn into a human being if allowed to continue. It’s not going to be a frog or something, but just because it’s tiny, it’s not supposed to count. God counts it. He alone created it and He alone is supposed to take it at its appointed time. If anyone else takes it, it is murder. And something else to consider, there is a Bible verse where God tells the people, “You keep alive what shouldn’t be and you murder what shouldn’t be” and he judged them for it. This certainly applies to the birth process. Some people go to the doctor and have their doctor give them hormones and such to keep the pregnancy going when naturally it would have miscarried and they have abortions for the babies that were supposed to be born. We’ve royally messed everything up!

    I get tired of hearing about women’s right. Real women, at least 99% of them, are born to be MOTHERS and to PROTECT the life growing inside of them. These “women” destroy this beautiful part of themselves. Also, we need to be reminded that the main purpose of sexuality is to have babies! That’ the whole purpose. If all we started having abortions, we’d all die out after this generation.

    Anyway, sorry to ramble. I loved this post. It’s very beautifully and eloquently written unlike my comment. LOL

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    1. Thank you so much for this powerful response. Oh friend, I feel you there. That is SO true about the main purpose of sexuality. With the introduction of the pill and the sexual revolution, it completely separated that purpose from the act, and commoditized sex. That’s a can of worms I would love to open in a different post. Hugs and love xox

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  50. This was a really beautiful, life-giving, and meaningful post. You are seriously hands down the most inspiring and relatable blogger I have come across. I really enjoy your posts and your vulnerability. Thank you for being so openly God-fearing!

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    1. Thank you so much TeresaLee, I’m so glad this resonated with you!! 🙂 and oh my gosh – you absolutely just made my day. What an incredibly kind thing to say 🙂 means a lot. Hugs and love xox

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