I’ll tell you what: leave it to my dad to always come through with the KO knockout punch of wisdom. Even when I’m not asking for it.
This time of year is always particularly intriguing for me, because two of the biggest “calendar events” always fall on the exact same week: the beginning of Lent, and the National Eating Disorders Awareness Week.
I’ll be honest…the later, I usually have more qualms with, than support. (Read this, and this). But it is always really interesting to see what God places on my heart during this week. Because somehow, every year, God reveals to me a deeper truth that connects the two.
And this year was no exception. Except that the deeper truth, came straight from my father’s mouth, during a phone call last week.
You see, I am like every other only-girl/baby-of-the-family/daddy’s-girl, in that…more often than not, my phone calls home are me belly-aching about some situation in my life. Usually involving boys. And almost always seeking guidance.
And for my fellow baby girls out there, you know what I’m talking about.
But this particular conversation, my dad simply says — in all his fatherly wisdom — “Caralyn, actions speak louder than words.”
It’s what we’ve been told our entire lives. But sometimes, implementing it into actuality is easier said than done. Because sometimes hard truths are right in front of us – but we choose to believe words instead of concrete actions.
Sitting in Mass that night, it dawned on me that this coming Wednesday was Ash Wednesday — the beginning of Lent: the season where we spiritually prepare for Easter — the pinnacle of the Christian faith — through self-discipline and prayer.
And I was at the beautiful church in NYC — and hanging from the big, cathedral ceiling, is a ginormous cross, with our crucified Jesus hanging on it. It is larger than life, and the focal point of the worship space. So powerful. So beautiful.
But looking up at our crucified Lord, thinking about Lent — my dad’s one-liner suddenly popped into my head. And I realized…that’s it. Jesus on the Cross — that is the epitome of His actions speaking louder than His words. His death — was the follow through of all the words — He loves us that much.
That is the point of Lent — for what we do — our actions — to express our love for God: through giving up something we’re too attached to, or acting out our devotion to God through charitable works of service, or extra time in prayer. Action – not just words. Action.
Fastforward to right now, this present Monday morning. I’m sipping my tropical mango breakfast smoothie, and I come across the announcement that it’s National Eating Disorders Awareness Week.
I took a deep breath — bracing myself for what I would discover. Because I’ve felt that in the past, their themes and marketing images were more problematic than not.
And their theme this year is, “COME AS YOU ARE.”
They’re stressing inclusion of all “genders, body types, sexual orientations, races, stages of recovery, etc.” at the recovery table. Which – is great. Period.
But come as you are — I almost shook my head in disbelief for a second…didn’t Jesus say that?
And the answer is yes. Maybe not that specific phrase. But His message of “Come to me” – is all over scripture. Matthew 11:28 – “Come to me all who are weary or burdened and I will give you rest.”
Jesus’ entire ministry — up to and including the Cross — was drawing people to Him so He could love them.
But here’s the thing — Come as you are — yes. Come to Me — yes. In that weary, burdened state — as you are: yes, you are welcomed and accepted.
But that’s not where the story ends.
Action then has to take control.
“Come to Me, and let Me help you change. “
Embracing a life with Christ — like embracing a life of recovery — results in change.
It changes you.
And as a result – your actions have to not only match your words, but fortify them.
When it comes to recovery – you can’t just give lip service to recovery, and continue to engage in eating disorder behaviors. You have to take action.
As it is with faith. And Lent is that time to put our money where our mouth is. And strive to live out our faith in action. Culminating at Easter, where Jesus’ resurrection literally makes us new: new creations in the risen Christ.
All of this, of course, is much easier said than done. Just ask my lazy butt this past Sunday: when I literally sat around in running clothes all day — with the intention of going jogging, and yet could never find the energy to get off the couch.
Actions speak louder than words.
Thanks, Dad, for yet another pearl of wisdom that is applicable to everything from romance, to recovery, to religion.
“This is what the Lord says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life.” Ez 37:5
A big thank you to my foundational sponsor, BetterHelp Online Therapy. I cannot begin to express how beneficial therapy was for my recovery from anorexia. Speak with an online therapist. Or check out content about eating disorders from BetterHelp.
Sign up below for my free newsletter!
Get my daily videos, recipes and posts delivered straight to your inbox!
Here was yesterday’s video! https://youtu.be/8pmp4ZI968A
MAGIC TOOTHPASTE? Yes! I am in love with this superior whitening toothpaste. It keeps my smile sparkling, without sensitivity or bleach! I made a website where you can directly order this miracle product! So if you want to give it a try, you can go ahead and grab a tube for yourself. I promise, your smile will thank you!
I had so much fun going through the FabFitFun winter box — it’s filled with awesome products — from beauty, to fitness, fashion, skincare, home — all full size, valued at over $250, but sold for only $39.99 when you use my code “SANTABABY!”
Be sure to check out my affiliate, Audible. Listening to audiobooks while I cook is literally my new favorite thing. And just for you, they’re offering a Free 30-Day Trial Membership. And with this free membership, you’re going to get 2 free audiobooks! Literally. Free. It is the best deal ever. And if for some reason, you decide it’s not for you, you can cancel within those 30 days and it’s zero money out of your pocket, plus, you get to keep the 2 audiobooks. Soooo…it’s pretty much a no brainer. Plus, it’s a free and easy way to support this blog! So thank you!!
Huge shoutout to my favorite: Ethos Spa Skin and Laser Center in Summit, New Jersey! Located just outside of NYC, this gorgeous medical spa keeps my skin healthy and bright! Stop in and treat yo’self! 🙂
@beauty.beyond.bones – Instagram
For Podcast versions of my posts, please check out Patreon! It’s only $2 a month!! You make this blog possible 🙂
And really quickly, I’ve had several questions concerning my Amazon link (amazon.com/shop/beautybeyondbones) — You do not need to buy one of my specific highlighted products on my page, in order for it to “credit” my account. Any purchases that you search or make from anywhere on Amazon, after first visiting my Amazon page, will credit this blog and help support this blog ministry. I am truly so grateful and appreciative to those of you wanting to do so! So thank you! Again, it is an absolutely free, and easy way for you to help keep this blog going!