Here we are: December 30. New Year’s Eve Eve.
And for many of us, myself included, we’re coming to the end of an unusual Christmas season. Unusual, meaning…things weren’t the storybook, “Covid-is-behind-us” utopian daydream we envisioned about Christmas back in October.
And I don’t know about you, but given the current state of our unsteady world, it feels like any resolution we may make for 2022 is either a) a waste of time, because who knows what the world is going to look like in a day, a week, a month. Or b) unnecessary pressure to place on ourselves, when frankly we’re just trying to make it through the day and keep our head above water.
Listen, I get it. I’m right there with ya.
When I was home for Christmas this past week, I did a lot of movie watching with my family at night. Specifically, Hallmark movies, but then, that’s a given, no matter what time of year.
But there was a moment in one of the movies, where the father of the protagonist said to his son, “You can’t climb a ladder with your hands in your pockets.”
And I literally whipped out my phone and wrote down the quote, because I found it so profound, and such an accurate depiction of recovery…and as I’ve been pondering it today, to New Year’s resolutions, too.
There is no easy “fix” of recovery. Recovery is not a magic spell that is cast over you, where all of a sudden you wake up and never have to work at silencing the “Voice of ED,” or combatting negative body image thoughts, or sticking to your meal plan, etc.
Recovery is a life long journey…and one that takes incredible effort.
No one is going to hand it to you. No one can do the work for you. And no one can want your recovery more than you do.
It is a daily mission you are on, yourself. (And I found out quickly that I could not do it without the strength and support of Jesus, who is my recovery).
But recovery is a ladder. And you can’t climb it with your hands in your pocket.
You’ve got to show up every day, and attack it with your entire mind, body and spirit. You’ve got to be proactive, on the attack, giving it your all.
There is no other way around it.
Which, can also be applied to our resolutions.
And let me interject right here, as an anorexia survivor, this specific time of year, with the nation’s fixation on weight loss, dieting, and shedding the “holiday weight,” I’m not talking about the clichè resolution to “lose weight.”
You can find that on another blog site.
But whatever your hopes and dreams are for 2022…your resolutions, if you will…be it, to spend less time on your phone (which is mine), t0 pay more attention to your budget, to call your parents more, to spend more time in prayer, to eat more home cooked meals, to start therapy, to go on more dates to find your partner, to pay more attention to your spouse or kids, to be a better listener (also mine)…whatever you’re setting your mind and heart to in 2022, attack it with that same mindset.
You can’t climb a ladder with your hands in your pockets.
Go after it. Give it your all. Don’t be content with mediocrity. Put all you’ve got into reaching that goal.
Because, like recovery, no one is going to do it for you. And we have one life. One life to live. And though we may feel – myself included – that these “pandemic years” have been a big ol’ pause button, the fact is, time is still ticking. The world is still turning. And whether we like it or not, or think it “fair” or not, life is happening, “pause button” or not.
So now is the time to take our hands out of our pockets, and create the life we desire. Fix the areas in need of improvement in our lives. Tend to the important relationships in front of us. And put our efforts into promoting that healthy, positive change in our lives.
Because in order for things to change, things have to change.
So with that, I wish you, my friends, a blessed and happy New Year.
Be safe, be healthy, have fun, and most of all, know how loved you are!
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