Thank You, Captain Obvious

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*sigh*

It was an…interesting weekend.

I always find myself on Sunday night, staring at a blank computer screen wondering, “Okay, God. What the H am I supposed to write.”

Tonight…I know exactly what I’m supposed to say.

Back at the beginning of this month, I published the post, Honesty Hour. And first of all, I have just been blown away by the outpouring of encouragement and kindness. So thank you. Truly.


But in it, I talked about feeling restless about what I’m supposed to do with my life, my career, my love life, everything.

And basically, I summed it up by saying that God is always communicating with us. We just have to be aware.

Well this weekend, He smacked me upside the head with His message.

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But what happens when what He’s saying is not what you want to hear?

Allow me to set the stage.

3 boys. 3 days. 3 messages.

God pulled A Christmas Carol – “Ghost of Christmas Past” – move on me.

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Thursday night: I’m falling asleep and I literally pray out loud in exasperation, “God, please just show me what you want me to do with my love life. I’m tired of waiting.”


There are a few interesting guys on my radar. Now, I am completely aware that this sounds like I’m “playing the field.” But that’s not the case. In an effort to be open to love, I am trying to be open to the people that God places in my life. And so, there are a couple interesting guys. Interesting sparks, if you will.

Well, during three different episodes this weekend, I was shown legitimate deal breakers about each and every one of them.

That, my friends, is what you call God being Captain Obvious.


Think I’m exaggerating?

Friday Night: I find out Guy A, possibly has another girlfriend back in his home country.


This is learned from a conversation I had with one of his 10 friends visiting from across the pond.

Communicated: this guy could possibly have infidelity issues.
Saturday Night: I have a 2 hour conversation with my mother about my love life and what God wants me to do with my life. I feel restless and super impatient, but my mother assures me that God has a plan and that He will reveal it.

Not even an hour after that conversation ends, Guy B literally shows up on my doorstep,  having taken a bus to NYC. He wanted to reevaluate why I ended things back in January. I have not heard from him in months. He had everything going for him – but I just didn’t have that romantic feeling.

What I think is being communicated: This is obviously God saying, “Get over yourself, BBB! This is the guy for you!” 

But I will find out, that is not the message.

Sunday Afternoon: Guy C has a birthday party and he does not issue me a personal invitation. Which doesn’t sound like that big of a deal. He didn’t personally invite anyone, and come on…this is the world of Facebook and texting. Get over yourself, right? But we’ve had a history since 2012, so you would think he’d make an emotional advance already!


Communicated: this guy either doesn’t truly care or lacks the gumption to reveal his feelings.

Let me pause here. These are three guys who I have known since I moved to NYC in 2012. And I have been “pursued” by each one individually for 2-3 years. That’s a significant amount of time. Not that I’ve wasted, but that, I’ve been stalling. Mainly because I haven’t been ready to accept love, but none the less, I have never shown my cards — been in a perpetual state of waiting.

And then this weekend happens right after I prayed that prayer.

So I was like, “Dang, I need to figure out what all this means. STAT.”


And here’s what I got: I think that in each of these three situations, God has shown me that I’ve been devoting all this time and energy into these relationships, and none of them are who He has planned. So I need to stop spinning my wheels and find someone who will a) have me as his one and only, b) respect my boundaries and c) be able to communicate his feelings.

God was telling me no.

And that is hard to hear.


Could I have read that big romantic gesture of showing up Breakfast-Club-style as God smacking me over the head saying, Helloooo! Do I have to spell it out for you!? I am hand delivering who is right for you!

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Sure. But I’m missing the greater message. The message as it relates to this crazy and blatantly coincidental weekend.

God says no sometimes. And it sucks. But I have to trust that He’s not going to leave me high and dry.

Maybe I’m supposed to realize that I’m not looking for love in the right places. That my friend group is not the place to find love.


Maybe Guy B’s freakishly timely arrival at my doorstep was just God reminding me that there are still good guys out there and that I shouldn’t compromise.

Maybe God is just winking at me saying, “You wanted a sign, you got one, baby!”

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I don’t know. I have to pray and reflect more on all of this.

But here’s what I do know:

God does communicate with us. In conversations. In coincidental circumstances. In your gut when you just get that feeling. In people showing up at your door in the middle of the night.


He is always sending us messages. But how often do we actually take some time to actually reflect on what it is He’s trying to say?

I am SO guilty of this. Life is BUSY. I’m working, hanging out with my friends, blogging, instagramming, writing posts, thinking about posts, insta-stalking Beyonce and her “Becky with the good hair” scandal…

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…going grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning — and this is all while multi-tasking and listening to a podcast in my ear at the same time!

My mind is never quiet.

So truly, how then should I expect to hear God’s gentle whisper??

So advice time: how do you do this? I’m genuinely asking? How do you make sure you are able to hear God’s voice?

Because it’s out there.


So that’s what I’ve got.

I’m just trying to trust. To remember that God knows exactly what he’s doing. And even though I don’t understand, He does. And He already has the right man picked out for me. I won’t be able to miss him.

God has never once abandoned me. Not through my anorexia. Not through fears and changes and new starts and pain. He has always been faithful. And He’s always encouraging me and communicating with me along the way. The trick is to recognize His speaking.


 

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313 thoughts on “Thank You, Captain Obvious”

  1. I’m on a new journey in my life – things happened I didn’t understand but now I reflect back I can see they were guiding me to a path. Although the journey involves some pain, I’m going with the flow as I do believe I am being guided.. Thanks for sharing your journey x

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    2. I’d like to make a small comment here, for a bit of male perspective: do you all know that there are some really good guys out there just waiting for a good girl? Someone with their head on straight, who loves the Lord say more than Facebook? Take heart dear ladies. There are still gentlemen left out here. We’re just hard to find. We don’t advertise, cause well, we’ve all been hurt. Thats just universal. Peace and love and yes dear God, Hope. Much love

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      2. Thanks for that male perspective – I totally agree – I’ve got an amazing man in my life – we’ve been together since I was 15- over 40+ years since we first met – I feel blessed to have found one of the good guys and your right – there are lots more out there… For me my new journey relates to work.. I’m very lucky in love! Much love back xxx

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  2. hmmm…I guess I need to pay closer attention to what God is saying, because I’m completely confused about this one guy in my life and don’t know if I should just let it go or was he put in my life cuz he’s the one..

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    2. I think the confusion itself would be a pretty good indication of a problem. I would think that a relationship blessed by the Prince of Peace would be peaceful – at least most of the time.

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  3. I can’t stop smiling at this post…but if i were to say anything, I would say that you keep on trusting. You won’t miss him. surely.

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  4. Just relax and take a deep breath. God wants us to take a step back and just be with him. I had to wait until I was in my early thirties before I met the man God wanted me to meet. But I had to go through a lot of dejunking before that could happen. We have been married for 23 years now and the wait was worth it. Big hug.

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      1. I so relate to this post with the multiple not really right for me guys! After I fully recovered from my 10 hour a day OCD rituals and was actually able to have a relationship I started dating and then intensified this with internet dating about 8 weeks ago. I have had so many messages and likes from men and I really thought I would meet Mr Right very quickly. This desire is sharpened by the fact that I am 46 and it is last chance saloon to have a child. Not that I am even sure a child is right for me that is another message I need to get from somewhere. But not one man that I’ve met online have I fancied or has been suitable which has really disillusioned me. As I’ve said many times I’m having a spiritual crisis and don’t know whether I believe in God anymore. But I need a message on this child issue pretty soon. Maybe meditation is the answer to receive these messages.

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      2. Hi friend. Thank you so much for sharing this. I just want to give you a big hug. Being unsure about something so important and waiting for an answer is always so so difficult. I just want to encourage you that God’s timing is always perfect. We may not understand it, but perhaps further formation needs to take place before he makes it come to fruition. That’s what I’m trying to work on. Thanks for reading. Hang in there my friend. Xox

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  5. I love this post. The struggle is truly real when it comes to listening to God and sometimes I feel like I am hearing him wrong or I am only hearing what I want to hear. That is until I was praying a few months ago and I clearly heard God tell me to break up with my boyfriend. I thought that I something was wrong with me because I had peace with the breakup. However, I know that it was God because I have not had the desire to go back. With that being said, sometimes we have to breathe and place ourselves in a silent place and just listen. And then sometimes God will send us a big flashing billboard. There is no perfect way to hear from God, you just have to be in a place to have an open heart to what he says. And usually your first thought of the situation is correct 😉

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  6. Hey, m’darlin’! I really enjoy reading your journey and your faithfulness and persistence in looking to our amazing God for direction, strength & hope. Thanks for sharing so candidly. Also love your sense of humor as, although I’ve lived in Southern Europe for more than half of my life, I’m still a Jersey-born girl from just across the Hudson.

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    1. Hi Maureen! Thank you so much for this encouraging note:) you’re so right- God IS amazing. And I just have to trust His divine timing and plan. Yay for the NYC boroughs! ☺️☺️ thanks again for the pep talk! Hugs and love xox

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  7. Hey BBB, I wasn’t going to give any advice, but since you asked… I make sure I stop. I don’t have a specific time for stopping and I don’t do it every day, but when I become aware of not really hearing God in my life I stop. Stopping for me usually takes one of two forms: adoration, reading Scripture, or both. (I guess technically that’s three). When I do this, I don’t think about my issues, petitions, etc. I simply let myself be with Him and be open to whatever He gives me during that time. This is actually how I heard my calling to married life (happily married for almost nine years now). I was thinking a lot about the vocation question. The answer came crashing down on me when I wasn’t asking God about it or even thinking about it. I was just in prayer at adoration and it suddenly came to me like a big huge pile of bricks. Anywho, on another note, I read “What I learned from losing my hair” to my students. It was well received. Thank you for all your words, your honesty, and everything you do on this blog.

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    1. Hi friend! Thank you so much for be advice. All three of those are such terrific ideas. Because you’re right-we have to stop and intentionally seek him and just be with him. Oh my gosh thank you for sharing my post with your students! I am truly honored. It really means a lot. Thanks again for everything! You’ve given me a lot to think about. sending hugs and love xox

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  8. That was from the movie “Say Anything” not ” The Breakfast Club” 🙂 sorry I had to point that out.

    I don’t think God has anyone picked out for us, that goes against free will, and how boring would that be? Love or falling in love for that matter is a adventure. Although Hollywood has turned it into something else. Image has a lot to do with “love” now-a-days, I was one of those people until a very big turning point in my life. I threw it all out the window and I could never be more happy, more in love. I know a lot of people believe that God has a master plan for everything, but that already happened when sin was defeated on the cross, we are free now. Just go with what you feel is right. You will get hurt or maybe you won’t, life is too short to be scared to try. That is the beautiful thing about both love and heart break, you learn from both. As always awesome blog.

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    1. Hi Scruffy! Haha oops! My bad. I actually haven’t seen either 😂 thanks for this perspective. I’m so glad you’ve found love. That’s so awesome. And yes, life is short. So bring on love! Thanks for reading. Hugs and love xox

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  9. “Be still and know that I am God.”
    It is on the stillness and the quiet that we settle our mind and leave it open to Him to speak to us. With all the noise we surround ourselves with, we often forget to give Him undivided time. Thank you for your posts. They are always uplifting!

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  10. Thank you for having the courage to bare your heart and soul, sweet one.

    I believe our Creator always gives us signs, And that it’s up to us to notice them, to make the decisions. Trusting our gut instincts and following our hearts while listening to our minds is key. For our beloved Creator has indeed put a spark of Divinity within each and every one of us, hidden behind our thoughts and within our hearts.

    Having struggled a bit with anorexia and being underweight most of my adult life and also having experienced heart break on many occasions I know that waiting to find the one can be so frustrating.

    My boyfriend found me in FB first – we were told about each other by a mutual acquaintance but waited a whole year before friending each other! And even though we aren’t engaged yet, we do plan on being together for the rest of our lives. Our love is deep and very very real.

    Hang in there kiddo, this is just a phase and in retrospect will seem like only a heartbeat in the grand scheme of things. Blessings and thanks for following my blog! Your post is quite excellent and your site amazing.

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      1. Thank you so much, I’m so glad to have found you in the blogosphere.

        Even though I have literally a few hundred friendly acquaintances in my small city, it took me a year to touch base with them on FB, because of being shy. But now I have met folks all over the world and have over 1,100 friendly acquaintances in that realm.

        God is indeed good. Always knows what’s best for us. xxxxxx

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      3. Am finally up to a normal weight. Of 136 pounds. And have to keep reminding myself that this is not too heavy. Because most of my adult life it’s been about 105. Did drop down to 87 lbs on two occasions.

        I’m so proud of you!

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  14. God works in weird ways for sure. My husband wanted to date me when were teenagers and I refused due to his wild ways. Fast forward to when I was 19 we both were engaged and he drunkenly told me we would get married one day that we were soul mates. I laughed. Then a year later we both had recently ended our engagements I moved back to our hometown and ran into him at a party. 6 years later we are married with three kids! Be patient, love will come when it’s least excepted.

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  16. May I share a sweet little discipline for hearing Gods voice. Find your happy place. a place that you can go both physically and imaginatively. It must be a quiet, private, and sacred space. When you want to talk to God, go there, either physically or imaginatively, and wait. And ask Goid lots of questions. You would be astonished at all the answers you will get once you start asking all the right questions. Perhaps the best question is , Lord what should i be asking right now. And above all things remember that..” the gifts of God are exceedingly precious and are not to be despised.

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    1. Hi Jack, this is some great advice. A happy place is so very important. especially a quiet happy place to just be with God. And what a great question to ask: what should i be asking right now…very profound! thanks again for stopping by and for this great encouragement. hugs and love xox

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  17. Thankfully, you live in the greatest cultural city on earth. If you expand your comfort zone a little, there may be no limit to your choices.
    I do not mean lower your standards….I mean expand your search area, as you suggested. Good people always pop up in the strangest places.

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    1. Hi friend! This is some really great advice. You’re right. I live in the cultural center of the world. I’ve just gotta try new things and be open to those who may be there too! Thanks for reading. Hugs and love xox

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  18. I can’t remember where I got this saying from, but this post made me think of it – “Sometimes God doesn’t give you what you think you want, not because you don’t deserve it, but because you deserve better.”

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  19. Everything you’re going through is setting you up for God’s big plan. All of the heartache, pain, headaches, and worry. Trust me. Your plan may not become clear for another few years, but when it does, you’re going to be glad you’ve had these tribulations.

    Hang in there, and keep your eyes and heart open. 🙂

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  20. Honestly, this post is exactly what I needed to read today. A day after a huge blow, I keep seeing posts and verses that relate exactly to my situation. So I say, thank you. Btw, I didn’t know you live in NYC — so do I! All the best, S

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  21. I admire your spiritual discernment. How lovely and utterly important that you are checking in with your Heavenly Father regarding a potential partner in your life. It’s hard to hear “no” from God, I have been there too. But in the long run, I never regretted it, not once. Trying to ignore His will in my life only ever led to pain and heartache. His “yes” will be well worth the wait. I promise!

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  22. Me too “feeling restless about what I’m supposed to do with my life, my career, my love life, everything” and I’m married to a wonderful man ♡

    I love that you’re being transparent about your wonderous future outlook. You SHOULD be even more picky than you are. You know why? You’re worth it. Trust God, His plan and time is always better than ours.

    Have you read The Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh? It was incredible and timely for me. It was one of the last books I read before I got married.

    I love that you used the word gumption! ♡

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      Your relationship with God is much more important than a relationship with a guy.
      2. If you do find the right guy, who ticks all the boxes, make sure his spiritual walk is compatible with yours.

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  25. I can completely understand the recognition of needing to stop and listen to God and not always knowing how. Through our infertility there were so many times that I was begging God to tell me what to do and I’m sure He was answering way sooner than I heard Him. I just didn’t know what to listen for. Unfortunately I don’t think there is a magic formula or way to hear God. I think the more time you spend reading the bible, praying, worshipping will help His voice become more clear.

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  26. Your post reminds me about how Abraham’s servant asked God for a sign to help him choose/find a wife for Isaac in Genesis chapter 24. God helped him find Rebekah for Isaac. Sometimes we forget that we can and should pray about everything. Philippians 4:6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

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  27. I liked your recount about the 3 guys that have come into the scene. When you pray, God answers in 3 ways. No, not right for you(even though you feel it’s right) Not yet, because there is something else to be learned before it can work or Yes!!! It’s so obvious that it’s staring at you in the face. If you’re NOT hearing from God it’s because it’s a test, to see which way you will go.
    May God master all your decisions.

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  28. Love using of Buddy Christ. I know where you are coming from. Hopefully you don’t give in to some new guy and he has 3 women that have been pursuing him and he is still involved. However, if you want to see an ironically makes fun of itself movie, go get Deadpool. You will laugh your butt off at the many references and quick changes. I would say I have given out 10 good copies just in the last week. But then again if you act you may not want to watch a movie, the same way as I do many things and horses and once in a blue moon play lotto or numbers and never for more than 20 and more like 10. I typically pic mine and my mother’s birthdays in straight and box orders and the agent said her birthdate, which we are only off by 1 digit and I do something similar with win 4. I decided to be cheap as I have very little coming up. What happens? You guessed it, mom’s birthday straight and the win 4 to boot. This is a 5-7k night on the numbers alone and I am now looking for my funny go to sleep movie as I thought do not bother and I only spent 4 bucks, I would never have looked at the results, UGH.

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      1. You’re welcome. The only thing I will say with Deadpool there are plenty of curses and crazy references. You need to have your computer to decipher some things:)

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  29. Such a good description of why it’s so hard to hear God’s answers to our prayers in this day and age! It’s so hard to simply be still and quiet long enough to hear His whispers to us. Good luck in your quest to find love, patience and openness are key.

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  30. I guess it is really hard in this super-fast world to find the time to listen to God properly. I found that I just had to get rid of actions that took up my time to no end, and that gave me the time to do some listening 🙂
    Prioritising the important things gives us all the time we need to pursue our relationship with God – and also with other people, too – and I guess it doesn’t matter what age we all are, as we all just want to be loved for ourselves 🙂
    The biggest trick, I guess, is learning to love ourselves enough to accept that God’s been doing that all along 🙂
    I think it’s wonderful that you have learned to reust God enough to start listening to His messages 🙂

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  31. What a lovely, inspiring post! 🙂 It’s hard to be patient sometimes, especially in the face of not knowing, but it’s better to listen to the messages than to invest our hearts into someone and then end up disappointed and hurt.
    I find that taking time to listen and develop my relationship with God does wonders for my self-esteem and reminds me that I am worthy of a good man and that I shouldn’t settle just to escape loneliness. 🙂

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  32. Hi BBB – wonderful words. I am reminded of Luke 10:38-42, the story of Martha and Mary. I spent many years not stopping to listen and then after some difficulties and losing a friend to suicide I turned to God exasperated and he taught me it was time to live in the present each day. In short summary, if getting my morning coffee can be such a high priority in my life then I sure as heck can spend the first few cups with the Lord so I share that time with God everyday and post on my blog to share what we talk about. It doesn’t start out easy and I had to commit to it and put other things/activities aside but now I look forward to my morning coffee with God. You said the perfect words in your last picture “Be Still & Know…” Peace be with you! I really enjoy reading your perspective and faith.

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    1. Hi friend, thank you for sharing this. I’m so sorry that you lost your friend. That is so tragic. I think you are really onto something about Mary/Martha. We need to just be with Him. I think its really great that you’ve made spending time in the morning with God a priority. He is good. Sending hugs and love xox

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  34. Beebs, man does not really live on instinct much, anymore. I brought this up with a friend, and he made an interesting comment. He said something to the effect that people believe their intelligence precludes the need for instinct. He made comment to the fact of a judge in our community who is a high-standing religious official also in the community, that her wife offers no support of her own to the religion. She has ceased to allow herself to “evolve.” Others might say progress or improve, but in this case I do especially like the work “evolve.” Instinct helps us to evolve. I like your posts. They show that you learn from day-to-day occasions in your life, evidence of evolution within yourself. I feel that if I were a serpent and my life and that of my species were threatened, that I would launch myself and inject my venom into my enemy. Even if I died in the attempt, my species would be better off. My race would be better able to survive. I don’t believe any threat should be left alone, but dealt with. Psychiatrists and psychologists would over and over try to convince us patients in the hospital that if there is a situation that we can do nothing about, to forget about. Worry about things we can’t fix will not solve anything. I believe they borrowed these philosophies from Freud, who called religion itself an illusion but somehow within the instinct of humanity. People want to make everything cognitive, but it’s not. Instinct teaches so much more than cognitive abilities. Instinct developed leads the way in one’s life to progress and evolution.

    It’s painful to read a blog about boy troubles. I don’t really want to offer advice. I don’t like to receive it myself except from certain people. I’ll just say, good luck. May you venture in fields full of flowers and find honey where you least expect it.

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    1. Hi Dan! Thanks for this reflection. I’m sorry to bug you with “boy troubles” 🙂 hehe I’ll try to keep these types of posts to a minimum. You’ve definitely offer a lot for me to ponder. So thank you for that perspective:) sending hugs and love xox hope your weekend is going well xox

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  36. God does speak in multiple ways…He can use anyone or anything to speak to us. The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands…(Ps19:1) but most often hearing His word and reading His word. (Romans 10:17) I just wrote about how He spoke to me the other day in a billboard! But yes, you do need to be quiet before Him to really hear Him. Meditate on a scripture in line with what you’re praying about…(Proverbs 31) spend time praising God for who He is…and thanking Him for what He’s done in your life…He will show you. Here’s my prayer for you…Thank You Lord for BBB and her beautiful heart. Her love for you shows. Increase her desire for closeness with You and remind her of Psalm 37:4 take delight in the LORD, and he will give you your heart’s desires.
    I pray that your eyes will be opened to see all He wants you to see and your ears will be opened to hear all He wants you to hear and your heart will be receptive to all the blessings He has for you in the name of Jesus! Amen.🙏😊

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    1. Hi friend, thank you for this wonderful reflection! Wow a billboard! That’s so awesome. Those are some wonderful suggestions. And thank you for the beautiful prayer. It means so so much. God is good. Hugs and love xox

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  38. The first way God speaks to a person is when that person is not aware of God and unsaved or out of Gods grace and the bible says they are blind and can not see because they were born blind due to sin and because the devil works to keep them from seeing or hearing and especially from believing in jesus and His Father God.

    2Co 4:3 But if our gospel be hid, it is hid to them that are lost:
    2Co 4:4 In whom the god of this world hath blinded the minds of them which believe not, lest the light of the glorious gospel of Christ, who is the image of God, should shine unto them.
    2Co 4:5 For we preach not ourselves, but Christ Jesus the Lord; and ourselves your servants for Jesus’ sake.
    2Co 4:6 For God, who commanded the light to shine out of darkness, hath shined in our hearts, to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ.

    So God sends people who do hear him and have the Spirit of God inside of them so people must listen to them awhile so they can wake up to God.

    Act 5:29 Then Peter and the other apostles answered and said, We ought to obey God rather than men.
    Act 5:30 The God of our fathers raised up Jesus, whom ye slew and hanged on a tree.
    Act 5:31 Him hath God exalted with his right hand to be a Prince and a Saviour, for to give repentance to Israel, and forgiveness of sins.
    Act 5:32 And we are his witnesses of these things; and so is also the Holy Ghost, whom God hath given to them that obey him.

    They must hear others until they are understanding the written word of God for themselves and then they stay where they feel God is trying to reaxch out to them. God speaks to us thru his word and by His Spirit. That we ask him to send the Holy Spirit to help us hear the word of God is the beginning of Christian life and the Holy Spirit begins to teach us about Jesus Christ.

    Heb 1:1 God, who at sundry times and in divers manners spake in time past unto the fathers by the prophets,
    Heb 1:2 Hath in these last days spoken unto us by his Son, whom he hath appointed heir of all things, by whom also he made the worlds;
    Heb 1:3 Who being the brightness of his glory, and the express image of his person, and upholding all things by the word of his power, when he had by himself purged our sins, sat down on the right hand of the Majesty on high;
    Psa 119:98 Thou through thy commandments hast made me wiser than mine enemies: for they are ever with me.
    Psa 119:99 I have more understanding than all my teachers: for thy testimonies are my meditation.
    Psa 119:100 I understand more than the ancients, because I keep thy precepts.
    Psa 119:101 I have refrained my feet from every evil way, that I might keep thy word.
    Psa 119:102 I have not departed from thy judgments: for thou hast taught me.
    Psa 119:103 How sweet are thy words unto my taste! yea, sweeter than honey to my mouth!
    Psa 119:104 Through thy precepts I get understanding: therefore I hate every false way.
    Psa 119:105 NUN. Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.
    Psa 119:106 I have sworn, and I will perform it, that I will keep thy righteous judgments.
    Psa 119:107 I am afflicted very much: quicken me, O LORD, according unto thy word.

    if we do not understand that and feel dead to Gods word and Gods voice then we need God to give us the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus.

    Rev 22:16 I Jesus have sent mine angel to testify unto you these things in the churches. I am the root and the offspring of David, and the bright and morning star.
    Rev 22:17 And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let him that heareth say, Come. And let him that is athirst come. And whosoever will, let him take the water of life freely.
    Rev 22:18 For I testify unto every man that heareth the words of the prophecy of this book, If any man shall add unto these things, God shall add unto him the plagues that are written in this book:
    Rev 22:19 And if any man shall take away from the words of the book of this prophecy, God shall take away his part out of the book of life, and out of the holy city, and from the things which are written in this book.
    Rev 22:20 He which testifieth these things saith, Surely I come quickly. Amen. Even so, come, Lord Jesus.
    Rev 22:21 The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ be with you all. Amen.

    Rev 2:7 He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith unto the churches; To him that overcometh will I give to eat of the tree of life, which is in the midst of the paradise of God.

    Heb 10:15 Whereof the Holy Ghost also is a witness to us: for after that he had said before,
    Heb 10:16 This is the covenant that I will make with them after those days, saith the Lord, I will put my laws into their hearts, and in their minds will I write them;
    Heb 10:17 And their sins and iniquities will I remember no more.
    Heb 10:18 Now where remission of these is, there is no more offering for sin.
    Heb 10:19 Having therefore, brethren, boldness to enter into the holiest by the blood of Jesus,
    Heb 10:20 By a new and living way, which he hath consecrated for us, through the veil, that is to say, his flesh;
    Heb 10:21 And having an high priest over the house of God;
    Heb 10:22 Let us draw near with a true heart in full assurance of faith, having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience, and our bodies washed with pure water.
    Heb 10:23 Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;)

    it is this great need for the Holy Ghost–thats right–He is called a ghost but a Holy Ghost–who begins very quietly trying to show us rthe way of salvation thru Jesus Christ. The Spirit uses other people who know Him to speak to us and help us along until we are saved and also we ask fro this same Spirit to help and guide us. We are simply to ask for the Holy Spirit.

    Jn 5:7 For there are three that bear record in heaven, the Father, the Word, and the Holy Ghost: and these three are one.
    1Jn 5:8 And there are three that bear witness in earth, the Spirit, and the water, and the blood: and these three agree in one.
    1Jn 5:9 If we receive the witness of men, the witness of God is greater: for this is the witness of God which he hath testified of his Son.
    1Jn 5:10 He that believeth on the Son of God hath the witness in himself: he that believeth not God hath made him a liar; because he believeth not the record that God gave of his Son.
    1Jn 5:11 And this is the record, that God hath given to us eternal life, and this life is in his Son.
    1Jn 5:12 He that hath the Son hath life; and he that hath not the Son of God hath not life.
    1Jn 5:13 These things have I written unto you that believe on the name of the Son of God; that ye may know that ye have eternal life, and that ye may believe on the name of the Son of God.
    the word of God says ask and you shall recieve. here it is in a nutshell written in scripture. The Holy Ghost is a Spirit–the Spirit of od and he comforts us –makes us feel loved of God and not afraid. we do feel afraid at times and depressed but then we seek him and He comforts our hearts.

    Joh 14:13 And whatsoever ye shall ask in my name, that will I do, that the Father may be glorified in the Son.
    Joh 14:14 If ye shall ask any thing in my name, I will do it.
    Joh 14:15 If ye love me, keep my commandments.
    Joh 14:16 And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever;
    Joh 14:17 Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you.
    Joh 14:18 I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you.
    Joh 14:19 Yet a little while, and the world seeth me no more; but ye see me: because I live, ye shall live also.
    Joh 14:20 At that day ye shall know that I am in my Father, and ye in me, and I in you.
    Joh 14:21 He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.

    the instructions are clear–all these things we begin recieving first because we ask for them in Jesus name. We simply bein prayin and expecting God will answer. And if we are weak or frustrated with askin then we need to get around other believers who help with this. It is a commanment–a rule–and it can not be broken–that a new nbeliever must get with other believers and God will surely begin reaching out to them. All one has to do is be a part of gatherings when they happen.

    Mat 18:18 Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.
    Mat 18:19 Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.
    Mat 18:20 For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.

    this is the beginning of Christian life and it is difficult. Those of us who lost a great deal to pursue this–do so because God is Himself a great reward. God and His Son are worth seeking for many reasons.

    1) To save us from an apocalypse that is prophesied to happen in our day
    2) great destruction is coming like the sunami in Indonesia–and it is written down in scripture plainly as signs that happen in our day and God has promised to save some from this.
    3) God is Himswelf our father thru jesus Christ and we all like sheep have wandered astray and do not know Him. He wants to restore that bond and be our supply but also to love us and care for us and manifest–thats right–reveal Himself–show Himself that he is awesome and alive and eternal and always there for all of us.
    4) the only alternative to not finding jesus Christ way of life is to find that we are doomed to terrible destinies–dark realities happen now and in the future to those who do not find God. hell is a real place and there are things one must know about that. we can see hell happening in people when they kill others or become perverted and homosexual or have multiple sensual encounters with many different people. All these things are why God burned a nation called Sodom and Gomorrah and we will live to see such terrible things happen to our own country. To not really find God is to just live with a not knowing until it happens and we are in destructive things like the sinners who lived in New Orleans.

    So, there is no good reason for not searching for God with all your heart and soul. You will find Him and live amongst those who have found Him and know their destiny is secure and safe and everything is OK.
    My prayer and my families prayer is that God would bless anyone who is reading this to seek after God and find Jesus Christ and find real salvation because there is much false religion out there–dead churches–Baptist, Methodist Pentecostal Catholic and no real experience of God. But God is still absolutely out there to be found as we can give witness to. We found Him and hold to Him very tightly to never loose our grip and hope that you also will find Him with us.
    After years of seeking God this way–God will eventually speak personally to people and we should all hear His voice. To be a Christian will mean we come into lonely palces as most people do not understand us except the two or three or more that God puts around us. That is why we need them so much. But the rest of the world will think you are strange and odd and they will begin to do subtle things against you until they sometimes outright mock you. We have been thru some really ugly things even from religious people. And there is a real live satan–an accuser who speaks to us subtely with negative thoughts that God is not there and we are alone or God does not love us or any number of depressing things. But these are what make for what we call “warfare” fighting against our own thoughts and praying for Gods help to defeat these intrusions and praying for God to defeat those who oppress us and persecute us–but praying for God to forgive them but to get them off our backs and let us live in this world without trying to drive us out. The world would already be destroyed if Christians were not living in it. These are very real things and we feel them and know the bitter striving of the dark world and those blind in it who just do not know why they hate us but that they do. And religious people who go to church but live in sin are the worst persecutors and will think people like us are a cult or bad or evil. All we want is to live in peace and seek God and know him for real but all they want is some get out of jail free card so they can live in sin and God is not going to give it to them but the devil will make them think they have such a card and fallen Christianity is sometimes the worst enemy of live and real faith in jesus Christ. I am going to stop here but I ask that anyone really reading this to read it several times and ask Gid to send His Spirit to help. I put much effort into it for your salvation and it may be just that–the very message that helps save you so please take it seriously and put effort into reading this and try to pray for the reality in it. Ask any of us you may know for prayer and help. You did not come into our way by accident. This was on purpose by God for your help. Nothing is coincidence with God and we love it that God would send us friends who may become part of our fellowship or who may get close to god and find fellowship somewhere else as there other little groups of Christians who are seeking God. However, God sent you here so please put your heart into listening to what i am writing here and know we love you. We hope you find what we have found. Until then, there is a promise that any new seeker should cleave to until it happens. this will be the last verse I send and my prayer for all who hear this.

    Rom 8:13 For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.
    Rom 8:14 For as many as are led by the Spirit of God, they are the sons of God.
    Rom 8:15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.
    Rom 8:16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:
    Rom 8:17 And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.
    Rom 8:18 For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.
    Rom 8:19 For the earnest expectation of the creature waiteth for the manifestation of the sons of God.

    Our search for God has been like a long adventure like the pioneers and we have found many sorrows along the way but also many wonderful things and rewards and things only God who is great and good can give. They are like eggs at an easter egg hunt or hidden treasure or springs of water in a raging thirsty wilderness. God bless you in your new search for God and please bever give it up. it is the best thing you could have ever done with your life. Our love and prayers In Christ go with you! Amen!

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  39. How does one hear God’s gentle whisper? Psalm 46v10 – He says, “Be still, and know that I am God”. In the midst of all the things in life that call for our attention, in the midst of all the pressures and demands of life, we really are told to take time to be still and to know God. I am reminded of the story of Mary and Martha. Martha was busy with doing necessary things but Mary spent time quietly at Jesus feet and was praised for choosing to do that. We get to hear God’s voice when we spend time with Him conversing. It is easier to just pray and make a list of things to talk to God about but we also need to learn to spend the time to listen.
    On a practical note, take a weekend, get away for a spiritual retreat to spend time with our Father. Father-child time. I have done this and so assure you this really makes a difference. And, yes, there have been times when I really, really, really did not like what God’s answer was but even if it took me a long time, I eventually came to understand it and realise He is wiser than me.

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    1. Hi friend, you’re so right — Mary and Martha is such a great example of this. And what a great idea about a retreat weekend! I think that is so wise. Because you’re right – God’s plan is so much better than ours. He is INFINITELY wiser that us little earthly beings. He is the author of life, so we need to trust in His goodness. Thanks for this great reminder! Hugs and love xox

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      1. You know what they say… the right one is always right under your nose. I’m the same respect you also gotta do what’s right for you. Honestly WHEN you meet the right one … you’ll just know.

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  41. My friend, it took me 49 plus years to find my love. For me, I wanted a man who loved the Lord. Because of this, we trust each other with what God has planned for us. When I reflect on my life, I can clearly see when I have listened to God and when I turned away. God’s promise to us; he will love us and be there for us when no else seems to be. Keep the faith. Blessing to you. 🙂

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  45. Hi BeautyBB, I’m a more recent follower of your posts. Love your style of blogging. I think in my own life, if I would’ve actually listened to God, I would have saved myself a lot of heartache in regards to relationships. I followed my heart instead of my Bible trained conscience in many decisions I’ve made. The first scripture that popped into mind after reading this blog was Matthew 6:25-31. Your Heavenly Father knows exactly what you need ever before you ask him, and will direct you in all aspects of your life, but asks that you ‘Keep on seeking first the Kingdom’. There is one thing that God doesn’t want, and that’s for you to be anxious. You have a great platform here to reach others, keep up the great work.

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    1. Hi friend! Wow thank you so much for this encouragement. I love that scripture. Thanks for sharing it. You’re right. He definitely does not want us to be anxious. Thanks for reading! Sending hugs and love xo

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  46. Hi, I’m late to this discussion, but I still remember when I went through this years ago. I believe that God is always listening, but we can’t always hear Him because the world around us is so loud! I still remember when God told me that my husband was “the one” while we were on a date. It came as a strong, peaceful feeling that filled me with love, that we would marry and grow old together.

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  47. It takes a lot of faith to wait to see what these signs mean. Sometimes they’re clear as day, but in my experience, they’re usually murky and unfortunately don’t end up meaning what we want them to. Maybe it’s God’s way of giving us some hope, because even if it doesn’t end well, I’ve never not learned something about myself.

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    1. Hi Jenna! Thanks for this encouragement. I think you’re right. God is always giving us winks of hope. We just have to be looking for them. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

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  48. This is very insightful. We do learn from others perspective more often than we acknowledge. And God is so awesome for sending us those pointers that if ignored produces avoidable griefs. Thanks for sharing your depth.

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  49. Dear B-cubed,
    So glad I stopped over here and read this.
    I agree – God DOES communicate with us, but He’s nearly always the still small voice that gets drowned out by the clamor of the mob/world/internet/facebook/whathaveyou.
    You asked for advice — well, here’s what I do. When I’m in the car alone, I don’t have the radio on. Sometimes when I go for a walk, I don’t put headphones on or in so nothing is going directly into my ear. I get up early in the morning, when everyone is my house is still asleep, and I sit with my Bible and my other devotion books, and sometimes I don’t even open them. I listen to the rain fall on the roof, or the crows cawing, or the cars driving by. And I whisper to God A LOT — “what is it? what is it You have for me?” and then I try to listen.
    Blessings to you in your journey.
    Sally

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    1. Hi Sally! Thank you so much for the advice. These are some great suggestions. I think you’re right: intentionally creating quiet time is the key. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  50. Hello dear. 🙂 Thanks for being so transparent. I want to suggest that you stop looking for love. Pursue God whole heartedly. Spend time in His word (and stop listening to Beyonce! LOL!). 😉 It wasn’t until I stopped trying to find love and gave my devotion 100% to God, that he finally gave me a godly man who is now my husband. We desire to honor God and serve Him all the days of our lives. Our wedding night was our first night together, and I thank God that after years of promiscuity, we were able to find true love in one another through friendship and spiritual connection, verses physical attraction. God wants what’s best for you, and ultimately, that is Himself, so until you find contentment in Him, you likely won’t find it in anyone else, or you will think you have, but end up disappointment. Papa knows best. 🙂 If you haven’t I highly recommend the book Passion and Purity http://www.amazon.com/Passion-Purity-Learning-Christs-Control/dp/0800758188. Another good one that I recall reading is Joushua Harris’ I Kissed Dating Goodbye. SO GOOD! Praying for clarity in your life and for the Lord to fulfill your every desire! ❤

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    1. Hi friend! Thank you so much for this comment! What a beautiful and inspiring love story! I’m so glad you and your husband found each other. And thanks for the recommendation – I’ll definitely check that book out! Thanks for reading! Hugs and love xox

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