One of my favorite things to do in NYC is just wander around.
Especially now that it’s warm out, I like to just put on my sun hat and get lost for a few hours on a Saturday.
There’s never a lack of things to do or explore.
Like just the other day, I happened upon a person playing the didgeridoo.
The didgeridoo.
On the street corner. Busking.
Like, you were able to smuggle that thing all the way from Australia, and yet here you are busking for money? How’d ya swing that?
But on those exploration afternoons, somehow, I always seem to end up at my favorite frozen yogurt shop. Which just so happens to be next to a big bookstore.
You guys…
It hurts my heart to think that actual bookstores are becoming extinct.
Seriously. Enough of this E-Reader crap. Let’s get back to real, hard bound, turn-the-page books!
Who am I kidding, I haven’t read a book in who knows how long. I never even read a book throughout high school. #CliffNotesForLife
But, that being said — I like to go into bookstores.
So, many a Saturday, I’ll meander around the three levels of Barnes & Noble, ice cream in hand, and people watch, browse, title skim, and just watch the literate in their native habitat.
But one thing that just boggles my mind is how many Self Help books there are.
Seriously.
It is a billion dollar industry.
Everyone from Jessica Simpson, to Jenny McCarthy, to Ozzy Osbourne, to Steve Harvey has authored a self help book.
And, I don’t mean to be cynical, but self help books…kind of make me angry.
Now don’t get me wrong, I read The Purpose Driven Life and loved it. (Albeit 2004).
And I understand that a lot of people have really “gotten a lot” out of these self help books.
But in my humble opinion: self help books are a bunch of crap only scratch the surface.
During my recovery from anorexia, I tried everything. I bathed myself in positive affirmations. I worked on mindfulness. Therapeutic crafting and adult coloring. I practiced positive thinking. Journaled. Set goals. Broke goals. Gave up on goals. Ripped up said goal calendars.
I tried every “self help trick” in the book.
Nothing truly made me free. Nothing broke through the chains of ED addiction and fear and destruction.
Only one thing: Only God.
I was reminded of this just the other night.
I had reached my breaking point.
Yes, I am strong in my recovery, but every once in a blue moon, I get tired of being strong.
Looking in the mirror, my face stained black with mascara, eyes swollen and distant, I allowed myself to just cry.
To Him.
And I remembered something that I had momentarily forgotten amid the chaos that life can so easily become:
I cannot do this on my own.
I cannot “self-help” my way out of the trials and the heartaches of life. There is nothing I can do but just cry to my Savior that I need rescuing. Need guidance. Need Him.
Maybe you can relate, but I know at least for me personally, I sometimes feel as though I cannot be real with God. I have to present to Him only the best parts of me. Only the polished, healed, well-spoken parts of my soul.
But what about the broken parts? The parts that need healing? The parts that a self-help book can’t fix. Why is it that those parts of my soul — the parts that need the most healing — are the parts that I am the the most resistant to reveal to Him. To hand over to Him?
That is the part of my spirit that Jesus longs to heal. That He so desperately wants to shine His love into so that the brokenness can mend.
But He’s not going to force Himself where He’s not invited.
In order for His healing power and healing love to be able to penetrate into my spirit, I have to surrender it. I have to be willing to say, “God, help.”
Not “Self, help.”
But “God, help.”
He’ll take care of the rest.
Self help books, sure, they can offer some good advice. Some ways to alleviate stress, relax, organize your life, boost your confidence, declutter your home.
But they can’t heal.
Only God can do that.
I should know.
“God, help.”
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400 responses to “The Self Help Sham”
so true.
Hi David! Thanks for this. Glad you feel the same. Have a great weekend! Hugs and love xox
Everyone is different. I have had the completely opposite experience with personal development books. I think the main benefit you can get from them is motivation to stay positive and do what you need to do, but some of my books have actively changed my life around. There are a lot of crappy self-help books out there. I’d say probably 90% of them are just people trying to make a quick buck selling common sense, but there are gems. 🙂
Whatever helps you be the best version of yourself is worth it though. People certainly need much more than books to do that.
Hi friend! You’re absolutely right. Everyone is different and what works for one may not for another. And there are some gems out there:) gotta weed through a little bit to find them, but it’s true. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Excellent! In every way EXCELLENT!
Hi friend! Aw thank you so much! I’m so glad you enjoyed it! Hope you have a beautiful rest of your night! Hugs and love xox
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Beautiful post. And I agree, though I must admit I went through a stage of buying many self-help books myself. The last few years though I’ve realised that strength and help and healing can only come from within. In the end, words in books are just that. Hugs and good wishes to you for a happy weekend. xo
Hi Miriam! Thank you so much. Yeah, I can definitely relate. I did too. Lots and lots of books. But I think you’re on to something there. Hugs and love! Xox
And back to you, with abundance xox
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Alright Ive got this thought for you…
We had the so-called dark ages, where they burned books so we don’t have a great/perfect idea of what that time period was like, right? But now that everything is digitalized, and only available online, will future generations know anything about us?
I’m serious haha – we have letters from people hundreds of years ago, but now we write emails…which get deleted after xyz amount of time. Same with online documents and websites. Will we be an enigma in 100 years? 200 years? 1000 years?
Anyway, hope you’re having a good day
Hey MM! Wow this is so thought provoking. I have no idea!! Kind of crazy when you stop to think about it. I think I’ll write more letters! Haha hugs and love xox
Yes I hope you do!
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Absolutely beautiful post! Thank you for this.
Hi Diana! Thank you so much for you kind words. Glad you liked it. Hugs and love xox
Your quotes are always great.
Aw thanks friend. That really means a lot. So glad you like them. Hugs and love xox
I have an honest question. I’m not trying to be negative, I just want to know, because it’s what I struggle with. How many times have you cried to GOD before getting the healing and help. I think I have cried asking for help 10’s if not hundred’s of thousands of times, but my brain (or body) is still broken. I still struggle daily, weekly, monthly, yearly with depression so debilitating that I completely loose control of myself, taking my emotions out on others- especially my loved ones- and especially when it’s the last thing I actually want to do; and so extreme that I have almost lost my life several times because death would simply make the pain stop- I hurt so badly that I just want it to stop, more than anything else. I want nothing more than to be healed and every time one of those things I mentioned has happened I end up crying to god asking for healing. Yet it has never come for me. I just want to know why, have I not cried enough times. Have I not hurt others enough times, have I not hurt myself enough times to matter. Why can’t I find that healing I so desperately want and need. I have begged, pleaded, tried to make deals. Nothing. I agree with you the self-help books are not the answer because I too have tried all of those as well. Doctors and drugs can’t even fix it. It seems in all the universe there is no healing for me, and it just makes me wonder what I did wrong to deserve this. There’s never even been anything or anyone talk me out of suicide. I have always done it myself. I make there be a reason that I shouldn’t succumb to the pain relief it would bring, and I wonder how many more times I will be successful at that. I genuinely wish I knew the answer, because I really do want the pain to stop, I often wonder if I know what happy even feels like because I have to dig so deep to think of moments that I feel were happy moments, and often the depression even clouds those. I’m sorry if I’ve upset you, I just wish I could find my healing answer.
If I may offer this from St. Paul, 2 Corinthians 12: “7 And lest I should be exalted above measure by the abundance of the revelations, a thorn in the flesh was given to me, a messenger of Satan to buffet me, lest I be exalted above measure. 8 Concerning this thing I pleaded with the Lord three times that it might depart from me. 9 And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”
While it may not be the answer any of us seeks, it is His answer. My daughter suffers from depression, anxiety, Asperger’s, epilepsy, etc. I’m familiar with just how painful these things can be. I have depression myself. But we continue to pray, we continue to work away at it with the strength God gives.
I can’t imagine how tough that was for Paul. He healed the sick, raised people from the dead, but he couldn’t get healing for himself!! Keep praying, keep trusting God that He won’t abandon you!!
I knew a girl who suffered from arthritis, in her teen years (and still does in her early 30s) she cried out to God for healing for many years, but nothing happened there was no healing in sight at least not the way she wanted. She decided that God wasn’t for her so she walked away from him. Years later she reconnected to God and he did heal her. All those years she was seeking healing for her body God wanted to restore her soul, but she couldn’t understand that. It takes complete surrender to God for him to heal us on the inside. Today she still has arthritis, she got married and has 3 kids. Believe in Him in spite of what is happening. I know this is not what you are dealing with but I believe God is with you and it was in those of your darkest hours that he stepped in. I will be saying a prayer for you.
tcailleach , reading your comments, I had tears in my eyes. I hear you. I wish I could wave a magic wand and heal your pain, but this is outside of my power. I feel compelled to tell you that I’ve been there in that black hole of despair desperate to find an end to the intense pain that comes of not feeling good enough and not feeling like I matter. I think you have every right to feel upset and angry that you haven’t found the answers despite working so hard to find them. It’s exhausting, I know, and no one but you knows the pain that you are going through, but I can say that I have experienced that kind of hopelessness that comes with ongoing emotional distress, and so I am compelled to reach out to you. I want to say that you are not alone. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can reach me at lshawn77@gmail.com
Self help books are like “bodily exercise.” They do have limited value. However dear lady, you nailed the real deal here. Well done.
Hi Wayne! Thank you so much for this insight. You’re so right-there’s some good “stuff” in them-positive things for sure. But true healing is from him. Great to “see” you friend! Hugs and love xox
This is an amazing post! You have so much insight and speak the truth. I often forget that I don’t have to handle it all on my own. This was a great reminder to look to God! Thank you!!!
Thank you so much! Wow that’s so kind of you to say. You’re right-we don’t have to handle it by ourselves. Hugs and love xox
I just recently wrote on my white board “I don’t have this”. It is a reminder to myself that on my own, I can only make it so far. With God, I can go as far as He will take me. That is the where I want to get to. Thanks for your thoughts….enjoy reading them.
Hi Cheryl! Thank you so much for this comment. Amen to that: with Him we can go wherever He wants to take us. Thanks for reading friend. Hugs and love to you! Xox
I think we need more nitty gritty, real life books. There’s too much fluff out there.
Hi friend! I think you’re right. Some real talk books. I agree. Hugs and love to you xox
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Thanks Eric:) so glad it resonated with you. Hope you’re having a great night. Hugs and love xox
I just bought The Purpose Driven Life! I haven’t even read it yet. Should I ask Amazon for my money back?
Seriously, though…good post. Nay, great post. We all want to improve our lot in life, but like you say, we need to ask the one who can heal and help, rather than try to do it all ourselves. We can only get so far without Him.
But I’m not giving up my Kindle. 🙂 Thanks for this, and for all your posts!
Hi T! No no it’s a great book! I read it twice. It’s super. Thanks for your kind words. Haha alright-eventually I’ll have to get a kindle too😂 hugs and love xox
This reminded me of a quotation from Parker Palmer: ‘wholeness is the goal, but wholeness does not mean perfection, it means embracing brokenness as an integral part of your life.’
Hi friend! What an incredible quote. I love that- wholeness is embracing the brokenness. Hugs and love xox
I actually used this quotation in a meeting I presented on inner-strength, and what it means to ‘be a tiger.’ Parker Palmer has said some really brilliant things; this particular one was from “Living From the Inside Out.” I hope you’re having a nice day. =)
Oh awesome! That sounds like a great talk! Have a great weekend. Hugs and love xox
Interesting post, and I get what you are saying 🙂 But I think for me it is more accurate as something like this- self help books, any book, animals, other people and relationships, nature, jobs, therapy of any kind, education, etc., can all be resources God uses. I think we limit His ability for healing ourselves/others if we are the ones deciding how and what that should be for others.
Hi Tammy! Wow what great insight! You’re really onto something there-God can use anything and everything to reach us. We just have to have our eyes open! Hugs and love xox
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“Not self help but God help” so good!
Thank you so much! I’m glad you enjoyed it! Hugs and Love xox
I really enjoy reading your posts. I am a self help book person. I don’t normally finish the book but I get what I can out it…however I am very aware of where I should turn for all of my help! 🙂
By the way I gave you a happiness tag…please check out the post and if you feel it pass a little happiness to someone else! https://mommyusage.wordpress.com/2016/06/02/happiness/
Hi friend! Thank you so much for this reflection. You’re right-there’s a lot of good that can be extracted from self help books, but He Is the ultimate healer. Very true. And thank you for the tag! Hugs and love xox
Amen sister…I couldn’t agree with you more… Only God can heal… Yes doctors etc but their power whether they believe it or not is given to them by God. It always goes back to God… I was just having this same conversation with the Lord tonight and asked Him for the grace to truly let go and let Him… Wonderful post…
Thank you so much. You’re so right-only God can heal. I’m so glad you had that conversation. 🙂 hugs and love xox
I love your posts so much, it’s always accompanied by amazing pics.
Aw thank you so much! And yay! I’m glad you like my pics! They’re a bit of a labor of love to make, so I really appreciate the feedback! Hugs and love xox
well amazing job
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So happy you know about God Help. Don’t forget He knows everything about us. We can’t hide.
Hi Daphne, than you for this. You’re so right-he knit us together so he really does know us. Hugs and love xox
I think self help books can light the flame, but God tends the fire.
Hi Ellie! This is so true. There really is a lot of good in SH books, but you’re right-God tends the flame. I absolutely love that. Thanks for stopping by! I always love to “see” your face pop up! Hugs xox
You’re hilarious.
+Good thoughts!
Haha aw thank you so much Ike! So glad you enjoyed it! Hugs and love xox
I’ve always loved your blog. It is such an inspiration, and the first and only anorexia recovery resource I’ve found that is biblical. Thank you for everything you’ve done.
Hi Rebecca! Aw thank you so much! That means so much. Sending you so much love and hugs xox
Outstanding!! God is always in our corner- we just need to look his way 🙂
Thank you so much Pepper! I’m glad you enjoyed it. You’re so right. He is AWAYS in our corner. What a comfort. Hugs and love xox
I have so much to owe to both self help books, and God. One can never learn to much. Or from too many people. I did enjoy your post. Thank you.
Thanks Mama Friday! Yeah, self help book do have some great ideas and motivation in them. But you’re right- God is a big factor too. Hugs and love xox
This was spot on! Self help books can be helpful, but they too often promise to bring healing and recovery. They can ‘help’; but they are not the ultimate healing. Only God can bring that.
Also, they so often promise “overnight” results. “Get help fast…”
When my husband was assaulted, it took me years to overcome the fear, anxiety, and pain. Recovering from an ED took years as well. But God walked with me every single step of the way.
The Bible is ultimately THE self-help book. It points us to the One who can heal and provide peace. And although this world we live in is filled with pain and struggle, God walks with us every single step of the way. Although both painful experiences took so long to recover from, they made me stronger… and they gave me greater understanding of other’s suffering, which makes me more empathetic and loving.
Spot on, Beauty! With everything “printed in electrons, “The Man” doesn’t have to burn any books. Just hit “Delete!” OOOPS!!
I could not study in today’s colleges with everything on line. A lot of the prompts for information had to do with whether it was on the right or left page, top, bottom, middle. No such clues when scrolling.
How cool on the instrument from Australia! I have a friend from Australia whom I haven’t seen in 10+ years. He’s bringing his wife with him to the states the end of September. New York City. We’ll be meeting them there. See the email I’d sent you.
This is amazing. So true, so simple, so hard, and so neccessary. Well said
Thank you so much Mary. I appreciate your kind words. Hugs and love my friend xox
This succeeded in making me miss New York.
Hi friend! Aw NYC misses you too! So glad you you stopped by. Hugs and love xox
What a wonderful post. I am in belief that it is in complete surrender that God heals our brokenness. I am learning that I can be naked and unashamed before my maker. It is the honesty and intimacy that he wants to share with us. I made a comment to a reply that you had.
Hi Lesa! Thank you so much for this reflection. You’re so right-a complete surrender. What a comfort to know that he accepts is at our most vulnerable and raw. Hugs and love to you xox
I struggle with this as well. I believe we need to be God-dependent not independent. Nice read to start my day, Great job sister 🙂
Hi Nathanael, thank you for this reflection. You’re right-God dependent. I like that. Hugs and love xox
I agree with you, and I would also like to add that in addition to a higher power, we also need each other. Another inspiring post. Thank you so much!
Hi friend! Thanks for this insight. You’re so right- community, and a supportive community- is so so important. It means the world. That’s why I’m so grateful for friends like you! 🙂 hugs and love xox
Amen. I think the problem is that, in an attempt to appeal to as many people as possible, many self-help books take spiritual truths and try to explain them in secular terms. So instead of trusting in God’s promises, we’re told to “think positive.” The approximation may work . . . up to a point. But if you want the real deal, I think you gotta get a Catholic self-help book. 🙂
Oh my word you are hilarious! And again well written and a wonderful testimony. May God bless you abundantly.
Haha aw thank you so much! Glad you enjoyed it! Hugs and love xox
Great words…so very true!!!
Thanks Tammy! So glad you liked it! Hugs and love to you xox
I just wanted to take a minute to say.how incredibly wise and inspiring you are. I started my own blog a few months ago and I found your blog’s few weeks ago. You’re posts are everything I yearn for mine to be. I come to your blog when my heart is heavy and I am in need of encouraging. I’m praying that God continues to bless you for the sweet woman you are!
Hi friend. Oh mygosh my have no idea how much this touched my heart. Thank you. I look forward to reading more from you! Sending big hugs and love xox
Yes!! Australian culture is starting to take over America! 😉
Hehe yasssss! Thanks Jonathan! Have a great night! Hugs and love xox
I love this! So, so true. So many people rely on self-help, when all they need is help from their Creator. Great post!
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Love this! So, so true. So many people rely on self-help, when all they need is help from their Creator. Great post!!
Thank you so much! Amen to that-all we need is Him. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
I love your writing!!! Bringing life back to me, right on dude. Yeah, wandering, sondering, the best. I’d been gettin so obsessed with always having a destination, yet wandering always would settle that and still does. Maybe that’s part of us having wanderlust, a natural balance. I really like your posts though, I am a little fearful from time to time about making mine too lax, right on.
Thank your so much! I’m so glad you enjoy it! I think you’re right-being curious and wandering is just a part of our souls. I appreciate you stopping by! Hugs and love xox
But yea man reading is the bomb diggity, I’ve been working at a call center where I get to read, write, or draw (or just sit) between calls. Well, I hadn’t really read much at all recent years but since I have started working at this call center, reading has swept me away once again. perfect gif
Thank you so much! I’m so glad you have that opportunity to read! That’s so awesome! Hugs and love xox
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Aw Thank you so much Shiannel. I’m so glad you liked it. Thanks for reading! Hugs and love xox
The self help books that I like are the ones that point to Jesus.
Hi friend! Yes! Those are definitely right on the money! Hugs to you! Xox
Another thought-provoking entry!
I’ll admit it: I love ebooks. No more cramming books into a tiny living space for me! Now I can carry around thousands on my phone.
And I understand where you’re coming from with the self-help vs. G-d help. I’m a fan of certain self-help books; wary of others. Our religious backgrounds are a little different, but I subscribe to the theory that it’s best to work (on ourselves or anything else) like it all depends on us, and pray like it all depends on G-d.
Hi Jenn! Aw thank you so much. Haha yeah Ebooks definitely solve the space issue! I love that perspective. Hard work and prayer. ❤️👍 Hugs and love xox
Agreed! Although I love self-help books, I know I can’t do it without God’s help!
Hi friend! Thanks for this. Yes, there are some great reads out there for sure, but you’re right-God is the great facilitator to healing! Hugs and love xox
This is such an amazing post. So often I get scared that God only wants to see my good qualities, and I only give half of my heart to him in my prayers and other things. But thank God you have written how to solve that problem 🙂 I especially love that last picture you put up “Give yourself permission to ask for help.”
Beautiful!
Thank you so much:) so often I find myself unwilling to ask for help for a myriad of silly reasons, but when I do for just makes it all worth it. And o think he gives us people in our lives to help us through the day to day. So glad you stopped by. Hugs and love xox
It’s hard to believe you are so young. If only I had that same wisdom at your age. It took me forever to accept that God accepted me, that his hand was/is all I need. I know your previous heart has been through a lot the last week, and this post has let me know you’re healing, and aware of how precious and loved YOU are.
Oh my gosh thank you so much for such positive and encouraging words. It really means a lot. Yes, God has been working on my heart and I am so grateful for His love. Thanks for your kindness and support. Hugs and love xox
Spot on. Well-written. Only He can. He works in us to work through us. As we surrender to Him, opening all the rooms to Him, we find release, freedom and life.
Thank you so much! You’re absolutely right-we find true peace and freedom in Him. Hugs and love xox
Thanks friend! And thank you for liking my posts so consistently. May God bless you richly this year!
Hi Tim! I appreciate you stopping by and taking the time to read! 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Great post- so, so true!!
Thank you so so much! Glad you enjoyed it! Hugs and love xox
Again, you hit the nail right between the eyes. I think self help books are so extremely popular today simply because people want to think that they don’t need God or that they themselves are God and that they can heal themselves. What they actually end up doing is lowering the bar to fit their ability. And its profitable. You can make a lot of money telling other people how easy it is to make a lot of money, telling other people how to make a lot of money.
Hi jack! Thanks for this response. You’re right- we like to think we can do it ourselves. But that could not be farther from the truth! Hugs and love my friend! Xox
I have such disdain for self-help books now…
Your post on the topic is timely for me. I just ran across this Pixee Fox gal that is intent on changing her physique to resemble that of an Anime heroine. THIS is the logical conclusion of all self-help fodder– we try to make ourselves into something other than ourselves.
The wisdom that Ive gathered on my journey, may or may not help you. That’s the thing– God loves diversity:)
But when vulnerable people try on other’s wisdom in wholesale fashion…. The result is an ill-fitting garb. Or, mutilating one’s self to fit into another’s ideal.
Only God can assist us in our own journey to fulfillment. Others can cheer us along, but it really does boil down to our individual need for a personal relationship with our Creator.
We are all unique. Let’s never loose sight of that;)
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It’s funny when grammar reformed-grammar nazis make such mistakes though, right?
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Thank you so much for the wisdom you’ve shared here. So so true. We are all unique. And if all boils down to our relationship with the father. Amen to that! Thanks for sharing your wonderful insight. Hugs and love xox
God, this is beautiful. Thank you. I really needed this today. <3
Hi friend, Thank you so much:) I’m so glad it resonated with you. hugs and love xox
Somehow this little song by Keith Green seems to fit: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CFnpqEjBHOw
Hi Tom! Thanks for passing this along! I look forward to checking it out:) Hugs and love xox
Yeah, how true that is, and give me a papery thing to hold and read any time…
Hi friend! Haha yes-yay for paper books! Seriously though I appreciate your encouragement. Hugs and love xox
Yeah, hugs and love…
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Great post 🙂 You know in a lot of ways (at least in my opinion) I feel that self-help gurus have become a victim of their own success. I mean people buy their books thinking everything will be solved in a heartbeat, but in actuality, that is not what those books set out to do. Instead, they were written to remind whoever buys them that the writer of those books are like the best friend they never meet. In other words, they arguably write as If they were an average joe like their self (only richer than the person who buys their books). Personally, I do not need those kind of books, but I do enjoy reading a snippet If I am in a bookstore or I am searching on a book store site that allows me to view sample pages for website visitors. My advice to people out their is to do two things: get in touch with God and do not look at self-help gurus as Gods and instead treat them as nothing more than a good or great friend. This is just my two cents personally 🙂 Anyway, keep up the great work as always 🙂
P.S. did you have a great Memorial day? I did 🙂
Hi John! Thank you for sharing your wisdom:) seriously I love how you think. Your two cents are spot on : get in touch with the Big Guy, and treat them as friends. Very good advice. Yes it was a great Memorial Day! Bring on summer! Hugs and love xox
This is gorgeous. I love your openness. And this. “But in my humble opinion: self help books are a bunch of crap only scratch the surface.” I even got a giggle. Totally agree. Time to let God help and surrender to Him. Only in Him is there true peace and release. x
Thank you so much for this:) Hehe I’m glad you liked it! You’re right-it’s in him that there’s peace and freedom. Hugs and love xox
Luke 4:23
Matthew 18:20
Genesis 2:18
Don’t pay any attention to the Holy Spirit behind the curtain.
Hi Brian! Oooooh I can’t wait to look these up!! Thanks for passing them along! Hugs and love xox
They came at me as independent sentences. It may not be helpful to labor over the surrounding verses.
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Reblogged this on The Prozac Queen's Court and commented:
Even though I don’t have the same issues the author does, I can definitely relate. Self-help books never did anything for me. I have to remember to seek God…I might get so wrapped up in my own BS that I forget to pray or ask, but ultimately I know that everything good comes from Him…the meds I take, the talent of the doctors I visit, the counsel of my friends…I might not recognize it or acknowledge it-frankly I’ve been more inclined to hit the doctors up because I know I have a medical problem, not a spiritual one-, but all good things come from Him in the end.
I love bookstores!
I gave this a reblog on http://theprozacqueen.wordpress.com…I hope you don’t mind.
Hi friend! Aw thank you so much for the reblog! It really means a lot:) glad you liked it. Hugs and love xox
I love to read so self help books are a great way to get the process started or even stay in a posture of healing – but it’s gotta be about God.
I used to work at B&N and that store sounds awesome. Oh, I also now want ice cream…
Hi Jonathan, thank you so much for this response. Haha sorry to spark your sweet tooth! Haha you’re right-there’s some good stuff out there, but ultimately it is about God. Hugs and love xox
My sweet tooth has been good. I still haven’t had ice cream but that makes me sad now that I think about it haha
🍦🍦🍦virtual ice cream for ya 🙂
Ha-ha. That’s sweet. Thanks! Plus, you save me the calories 🙂
haha anytime! 😉
It’s Monday, which means I think the non digital ice cream is in store after a good workout 🙂
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So true.. so true 🙂
As St. Josemaria Escriva says in ‘The Way’ :
” Books: don’t buy them without advice from a Christian who is learned and prudent. It’s so easy to buy something useless or harmful.
How often a man thinks he is carrying a book under his arm, and it turns out to be a load of rubbish!”
Source: http://www.escrivaworks.org/book/the_way-contents.htm
Hi there Carol! What a great quote. And so true! There’s so much out there that’s rubbish. Not all, but enough to be weary. Have a beautiful weekend friend! Hugs and love xox
Thank you and have a great weekend you too 🙂 * Hugs back*
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It’s funny isn’t it that we don’t want to show our brokenness to God and yet that is just why Jesus came to save us because we are broken and can’t fix ourselves.
Hi Christine! Amen amen amen! That is so true. That IS why He came. what a comfort to know that we don’t have to be able to fix ourselves! Hugs and love xox
Self-help books never helped me help myself. Its people and their love who did. Also writing, drawing and singing.
Hi Lulu! Thank you so much for this reflection. That’s so awesome-yeah tapping into what makes your spirit alive is so powerful in that. And so is a supportive and loving community. Hugs and love xox
1 Peter 5:7
[7]Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
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1 Peter 5:7
Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.
I love that verse. Thanks so much for passing it along! Hugs and love xox
Pleasure!
Hugs back!
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The Bible. Still the original – and best – self-help book.
As always, very well-done, JD! 🙂
Hey there tony! Amen amen amen. It is THE BEST self help book. Thanks for stopping by! Hope you have a wonderful weekend! Hugs and love xox
The NYPL is a great place to wander too. B&N is a good choice too. Self help is a form of denial, itself wrapped in a shiny cover. Its good to believe, it helps to see the cracks in our armor.
Hi friend, so right you are. I love that visual-cracks in our armor. Very very true. Hugs and love xox
Very well stated. There is really no self-help, it is God-help!
Thank you so much! Amen to that! It’s all Him! Hugs and love xox
You don’t need to worry about me, anymore, Beebs. I can die happy now. I don’t need your preaching, your Jesus, etc. I found a pearl worth more than it all. I can die happy now. Chau chau.
Hi Daniel, sending you a big hug right now. There is always a way out. Praying for you. You’re not in this alone. Hugs and love xox
I never feel your hugs, Beebs. I’m sorry. I just have no imagination. Words don’t leave imprints in the skin like bites and bruises would.
I’m sorry about that Daniel. 😢
Y qué vas a hacer al respecto? Sorry no me satisface el hambre.
Te soñé, Beebs, pero no te reconocía por tus fotos. Eras mas alta de lo que me acostumbro. Cococí tu extrema humildad sin ser creída ni de ti ni de tus dones. No debo contarte todo el sueno para que no me des una cachetada, pero igual no sentire la cachetada igual como tus palabras de abrazos.
I wish I spoke Spanish …
Ah, Beebs, I do, too. Don’t we all? You know, what I most miss about New York is the fried bananas, or I guess, plantains, as they are called, that I first tasted there…It was about a dream. But that’s alright. What does it matter? Nothing matters, anyway.
I’ve never had plantains! I’ll have to look for them! You matter:)
Yea, I can’t say you’ve actually lived in New York City until you’ve had Cuban rice–arroz a la Cubana, the which is with fried plantain. Don’t boil it. I tried that. It doesn’t work. I’m speaking by experience. I just believe the fried plantains, when they are fried, have an exquisite taste. Sometimes that’s all I feel like eating.
You’re making my mouth water!!
Good! It’s good to be hungry in life!
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Beebs, I’ll send you my story if you really want to hear it. It’s crude and uncensored, though. You’ll probably never forgive me. Do you still want it? Where do I send it? I’m not going to put it public. If you do put it public, that’s up to you. But I ask you not to.
Hi Dan, thank you for your willingness to share you story. You can always email me at beautybeyondbones@yahoo.com
Okay, I’ll try that. I need a break from my toil and muddle. You say, beautybeyondbones@yhaoo.com? Did I get that right? Is that an email that you actually read, or is it a ghost/redundant account? Sorry. You don’t need to answer that, I guess. I was just curious.
I do know someone who speaks good Spanish, a good friend of mine. Maybe someday she’ll teach me.
Well said. Self help = “it’s all about ME!”
Hi Hugh! Thanks for this! You’re so right!! Have a great weekend. Hugs and love xox
What I love – apart from agreeing with everything you wrote – is that while others teach the theory (and there’s nothing wrong with that) you have lived (and are still living) the practice. You don’t just believe *in theory* that only God can sort you out, you KNOW it in practice! That’s so powerful and once more I’m typing through my tears (God does that to me as one way of saying, “This is so right!”).
We all need to hear this! Thank you so much!!
Hi Stephen, wow thank you so much for this wonderfully encouraging note. You have no idea how much it means to me. So thank you from the bottom of my heart. And thanks again for the reblog. Hugs and love xox
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This is such a great post from someone who is not merely “talking the talk” but “walking the walk” with all its pain and difficulty and knows that only God can heal our brokenness.
“Why is it that those parts of my soul — the parts that need the most healing — are the parts that I am the the most resistant to reveal to Him. To hand over to Him?
“That is the part of my spirit that Jesus longs to heal. That He so desperately wants to shine His love into so that the brokenness can mend.”
Hi Stephen! Thank you so much for the reblog and for the incredibly kind words about my blog:) it really means a lot! Hugs to you friend xox
Totally relate. I’ve spent a ton of money on all kinds of self help books. Used to be my favorite section in the bookstore. But no matter how many I read, I’d embrace the “advice” for a while and think I’d finally found the key to life, but it always wore off and I knew deep down there was still something missing. Yes, crying out to God is the real answer…the key that fills that hole no best seller could ever fill. Thank you! Love your blogs!
Hi Mao! Thank you so much for this response. You’re right-crying out to Him is the real answer. Amen to that! Have a great weekend! Hugs and love xox
Preach! Amen, amen.
Haha thanks! I appreciate you stopping by! Hugs and love xox
I agree about the self help books, real help and victory comes from God through His Son Jesus Christ. Nobody knows the wounds we carry deep inside, but Jesus knows. He was there when we were born, He was there when we took our first steps, He was there at the root and origin of all our problems. JC is the only one that knows what we’re going through and the only one that can heal it. May the peace of Jesus fall afresh on you and your readers. from http://www.fatherrgodlovesyou.com
Hi friend! Amen to that-it comes from Jesus. Not only does He know what we’re going through, but He experienced it first hand and went through it himself when he was on the earth. Powerful. Hugs and love xox
JESUS CHRIST took all out woulds to the cross.
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So incredibly true my friend! Thank you for the reminder 🙂
Hi Matthew! Thank you so much:) glad it resonated with you! Hugs and love xox
Beautifully said!
Thank you so much! I’m so glad you liked it:) hugs and love xox
I can so relate to your feelings causing this post!
Hi friend! Aw thank you! I’m so glad you can relate! Hugs and love xox
You can paint such beautiful word pictures. Thanks for this post. So often we turn to so many people and things before looking to the One who really can help us since He created us and has known us since before the foundation of the world. Blessings to you today, my dear blogging friend.
Hi there Linda, wow what a kind thing to say. Thank you so much! You’re absolutely right-He is the one who really can help us. Amen amen amen. Hugs and love xox
I loved this post. So true that we can only do so much on our own. I’m so glad I found your blog. You always have such cute visuals to go with what you are trying to say. Oh, I agree, down with ebooks!! Something about holding an actual book in your hand, now that’s perfection!
Thank you so much! I’m glad it resonated with you. And yes! Physical books are great-you can cozy up with them, unlike an ereader! Plus highlighting and taking notes and doodling in the margins! Haha Hugs and love xox
as a self help expert who has been doing it for 30 years, I can tell you: no one can teach or help anyone else… It ones decision that can make a difference, not a book or a coach. I can give you step by step instruction how to achieve anything you wish, but you the one who have to take action and not no one there to hold your hand along the way.
I do like your post a lot, and your opinion is being supported by your followers and thats the reason for posts in the first place.
Wish you Love, Health and Wealth
Alex Moses
Hi Alex, thank you so much for sharing this great perspective. You’re so right-we have to want to change our lives. You can lead a horse to water…:) thanks so much for stopping by. Hope you have a great weekend! Hugs and love xox
thank you for well put together reply
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Thanks for the reblog! It means a lot 🙂 hh
Thanks again for the reblog! Hugs and love xox
Wow. .. Your heart in this is amazing! I am absolutely amazed at your confidence and clarity! The love you have for Christ is incredible and seeing you as victorious in a battle I am working with Christ to fight is truly encoureaging! God bless you!
Thank you so much friend. That seriously means so much. Yes, God is good! Glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox
I used to feel that way about self help books until I realized that it is both a mature and humbling thing to seek growth outside of yourself. It’s like being a flower in a pot and saying you will continue to do just fine with the soil you have…but then you see that other flower seeking out fertilizer and realize you can seek out more and customize it to what you need.
I agree that there are some pretty crazy or overrated topics and titles in self help aisles, so don’t get me wrong. But wanting to seek personal growth through other sources is fantastic when done with mindfulness.
I also agree that God is numero uno. He’s the source. But there are some awesome titles out there, especially in the Catholic/Christian genre, that are changing lives.
New York sounds like a fun place to live!
Hi friend! What a beautiful image with the flower. There’s a lot of truth in that. And you’re right, once you soft through the “gimicky” titles, there really is a lot of good stuff out there. Powerful stuff that points to the truth. But amen-God is numero uno. So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox
I look forward to sharing your blog as you’ve done a beautiful job of articulating the very message I need to share. I believe “hearing” it in this format will come across better than directly from me. Thank you for sharing the way you do; your blogs are so insightful and inspirational.
Thank you so much! That really means a lot. I’m so honored that you would want to share it! hugs and love xox
I LOVE this post. Confession – sometimes (usually) when I read your posts, I get SO EXCITED that I can’t even make myself go over every word, because I just want to suck the whole thing in and know what it all says all at ONCE! So I start reading, and as I get more and more excited, I scroll faster and faster, until I’m at the bottom, and then I have to go back and put all the pieces together.
Story. Of. My. Life. All of it. I am SO EAGER to make progress in my recovery that I can’t find the patience to just sit still and BE. Period. (.) Somehow, I still find myself falling into this trapped way of thinking that *I* hold the keys to my recovery, and that I will achieve and attain wisdom and knowledge and grow in understanding and faith through diligent application and hard work. Somewhere along my path, I lost track of Proverbs 2:6 and Sirach 1:1. It all comes from God. It is by HIS grace that I am where I am, and every good thing that I know and every good part of me is from HIS blessing. Yes, I put in the effort, but through patient cooperation with the Holy Spirit, not through dictating my own course, or through studying and reading, and certainly not through checking off the boxes on my lists of what is “guaranteed” to secure my recovery and health. Oh, goodness, I SO needed your reminder today. <3
How many times did I hear people repeat that sort of trite and kind of cheesy little saying, "let go and let God." I never understood it at all. I never really understood what "letting go" meant until I DID it (started to, at least). There was no self-help book that led me there, but I did find help in books. The book that made the biggest impact for me, that opened my eyes to the reality of God's love for me, was a book about Catholicism by Robert Barron that very plainly and simply laid out the basics of the faith, who God is, why he loves us, what it means to be saved. When I was in treatment, I read C.S. Lewis and "The Gifts of Imperfection." I continue to love books about psychology, philosophy, and theology, but I need to keep in mind that these writings themselves are not the answers. They are good, but they are not THE good. They point me in the direction of the greatest good and the deepest truth. Thank you, thank you! Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. xoxoxo
Hi Lulu! Oh gosh, that made me smile hearing you describe how you read my posts:) thanks for that little nugget of cheer today! And oh my gosh – i love how you put that: they are good, but they are not THE good. So so true. There are a lot of books out there that do have some great advice and positivity and insight, but at the end of the day, God is the ultimate source for our healing. Amen to that. Thanks for the kindness and the prayers friend. Know that you are in mine too! Hugs and love xox
I really related to your post so much. I too, have an aversion to “gurus”…especially how they seem to lead to a cult of personality/celebrity (particularly in our culture). I’ve been able to make my peace here and just say a gentle “no-thank you” by remembering that Our Father is all the Divine Intervention and Inspiration that I need. And that The Bible is still the best “self-help book” ever written; one that has stood the test of much time. I’m very glad and grateful to know that no one, least and most of all me, know better than He does. If I’m ever in doubt, I just review the Highlight Reel of all the things I’ve said and done in my life, left to my own devices…..Blessings and thank you, Pearl.
Thank you so much! I so agree. The bible is the authority when it comes to “SH” books. Thanks, Pearl, for stopping by! Have a great weekend! Hugs and love xox
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I believe this blogger makes an excellent point. I have found it to be true in my life. While I do find many self-help books to be helpful in my quest to: better understand my spouse, reduce clutter and organize my house (and my mind), and gain insight on how life experiences factor into the person I am today, I have also come to recognize they have limitations, and if one is not careful in their selection, some “self-help” books can serve not only to not be helpful but can in fact be detrimental. Please take time to read the following excellent blog.
Thank you so much for the reblog! You rock:) have an awesome weekend xox
Good read! It saddens me to see how much of Christian literature has turned into self-help. If we could help ourselves, there would be no need for Jesus! I think we sometimes forget that the true key to change is heart change, and only Jesus can do that.
Thank you so much Sherae! Amen to that-there really would be no need for His grace. But you’re right-there is only one Key. And that’s Him! Hugs and love xox
Love it! I have read a lot of self help books and really they are all the same and the only thing that really helps is God and my bible.
Thank you so much! You’re really into something there-it really is all God who can heal. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
“…for your Father knows what you need before you ask him.
(Matthew 6:8b ESV) But, He still WANTS us to ask… 🙂 Great post…
What a great point, Damon. Thanks for sharing this passage. A really great point to think about and reflect on. Hugs and love xox
Only one can: only God…Amen
Great post. pray for this country(US) that is so immersed in self help, hummanism, and deceit. On the streets of Baltimore so many have become hopeless in seeking help within themselves, OUR Help comes the LORD, thank God for that, and thank God we have a hope that can truly set us free…FOREVER!
Hi Chad, thank you for this beautiful reflection. You’re right-only God. Amen amen amen. That’s where our help comes from. Praise God for that indeed. Hugs and love xox
Well said, thanks for sharing. Enjoyed it immensely.
☺️☺️☺️thanks again Maxtari xx
Enjoyed reading this post. Reminded me of the Psalmist questioning at one point: ‘Where does my help come from?’ And answers, ‘My help comes from the Lord.’
Thank you so much! What a great quote. I love that. So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox
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Thanks for the shout out! I really appreciate it! Hugs and love xox
Love this! Personally, I read self help books and articles but I always seek His guidance and wisdom. Although I have read somewhere, “You cannot save the damsel if she loves her distress”, maybe the term “self help” is just to catch one’s attention that there is still hope, and for you to be saved, you must initiate in helping yourself first before others will be able to help you.:)
By the way, I would like to applaud you for being able to go through that storm and came up stronger. The world would have been a poorer place otherwise. 🙂
Hi friend! Wow thank you for such kind words. Truly, I am touched:) and I love that saying about the damsel! So so true. I think you may be onto something there about an attention grabber. You’re right-there are good reads out there. But ultimately one Healer. Hugs and love xox
Love this post!!!! I have read some good self help books, “The Happiness Project”, was awesome. But it was a fun book on some tips to organize your life. I agree that someone greater is there and to embrace that is going to fulfill you.
Hi friend! Thank you for sharing this! You’re right, there is some good stuff out there, but yes, true fulfillment lies elsewhere. Hugs and love to you! Xox
All kinds of emotions went through my mind as I read this post, but in the end that’s it, you nailed it. If we want to change, change for the better, there is only one Source, and beating around the bush with “trying” is only going to prolong the pain.
Thank you so much for this reflection. You’re right: there really is only one source. Hugs and love xox
Oh, I just loved this. It is a concept I am finally, finally beginning to grasp in my life, that only God can show us where we need to be. Mindfulness, affirmations, and self-help might be useful to some degree. But without God, they will fall short.
Hi Tee! Thank you so much for this reflection you’re right-without God, we are just flailing. Ame to that. Hugs and love xox
Hey 🙂
I just discovered your blog and I am fascinated by your style of writing. 🙂 It’s really cool! And I totally agree with you, it is so sad, that only few people keep reading books. On the other hand I would consider our blogs as another kind of books, so maybe the medium changed, but we still read. 😉
Maybe you want to look at my blog too?
Yours, littlegreenraven
Hi littlegreeraven? Thank you so much! That really means a lot! I’ll definitely check out your blog! Hugs and love xox
Thank you! That`s awesome! 😀
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It’s allright! Don’t worry! Have a nice day! 😀
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That is so inspiring. I love all the little quotes they are great.
Thank you so much friend. That really means a lot Hugs and love xox
Your welcome I love you blog 😃❤️
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Wonderful post! I have been there in the past trying different things to help myself relax. The only thing that stayed with me which I still use is journalling which I discovered through self-help books. Now I journal with God and have done it for years. This is where I pour my ‘real’ heart to him. If I ever think of avoiding those deep wounds I read Psalm 139 which reminds me that God knows already! Thank you for this really enjoyed reading this xx
Hi friend! Thank you so much for this! I’ll have to give psalm 139 a read! Thanks for passing it along! Hugs and love xox
You said it ALL in this post! Love it!
Aw thank you so much Deo! That really means a lot! Hugs and love xox
With all the faith I believe and know that I can boast of in the Lord, the one prayer I’ve prayed most is, “God help me”. Without HIS help, what can we do? Absolutely nothing! May the good Lord give you more wisdom, Lady beautybeyondbones, to show the world how to get it right.
ThanksH.O. You’re so right-we SO need Him! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Hey lovely, its been a while since we last spoke, I have been through quite a lot the past few week, it has felt like such crap that I have been dealing with, but God told that it was in preparation for what is to come. the burial of the old me, and my rebirth into a new full life in Jesus, our beautiful saviour, my Baptism. I am so excited I am praying more, reading scripture more fluently & absolutely enjoying my personal time with the lord <3. I hope you are well my amazing friend <3
God Bless you
Benjamin xxx
Hi Benjamin! Thank you so much for this reflection! I’m so glad that you’re growing in your faith and personal relationship. Reading scripture is so powerful! Hugs and love xox
I got so excited seeing the photo header for this post, it is obvious to me at least that you reflect the light of Jesus <3
Oh my gosh that is so kind of you to say. Thank you. 🙏🙏🙏
this is amazing. beautiful insights and beautiful words<3
Thanks Kimmi! So glad you enjoyed it! Hugs and love xox
We tend to shy away from bringing Jesus ouir true face because we still have a human reasoning condition attached to our pysche. I find myself struggling for days searching for a specific piece of scripture that addresses my needs and until I find it I am unsettled.
Thank you for you wisdom and your openness. It helps to know that we are all challenged in the same ways and to see how others manage their walk. Peace girl.
Hi Eric! Thank you so much for this. You’re so right-we can all come together because our struggles are the same. But we have the same savior! Sending you so much love! Xox
Thanks for the love, BeautyB. May your weekend be refreshing! 🙂
❤️❤️❤️ thanks! Same to you xox
I don’t know how I missed this post. Thank you. We have something for you. Inshallah we will share it with you on Monday. I really pray for you to write a book. Your posts speak of so much courage faith and determination
Hi Maha! Aw thank you so much! I’m excited☺️ and thanks for that encouragement. Believe it or not, I actually have a manuscript written, I just need to figure out how to get it published!! 😬 Hugs and love xox
Inshallah you will have it published. Fingers crossed
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Our Tribute to Sweet Angel made by ALin Cretu from Romania
Our Blog Post- Forgive us for all the mistakes.
http://waragainsteatingdisorder.com/2016/06/06/tribute-sweet-angel-anorexia-kills/
I’m just sitting here reflecting on this and am just so touched that you would make a tribute. What a kind thing to do. Thank you. The only thing is that my name is not Kim. 😬 I am still anonymous on here. One day ghat may change, but for now I’m just BBB. ☺️ but again, thank you for spreading the word. Hugs and love xox
We’ll change it. And thank you BBB for your kind words.
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I love it!
Thanks tonya! So glad you enjoyed it! Hugs and love xox
Thank you for this lovely post. I am going through a similar period of defining what it means to get “self help”. This really brightened my day! Thanks fellow New Yorker
Thank you so much! So glad you could relate. Yay NYC! Sending big hugs and love xox
I agree with all my <3 about books!! My favorite in NYC La Casa Azul Bookstore was started as a dream/vision by its owner a few years ago, first as a book club at El Museo Del Barrio. She finally opened a true "location" up on 103rd and I loved it!! I come to NYC once a year on a "shopper bus" (I live over 4hrs away) and for the past 3 years, I went loco buying from there. I was sooooooo psyched for her last year as they won one of those grants that Citicorp was handing out for small businesses. They were featured on a Citicorp add and everything. Though the store was small, it was always bustling with activity and had a LOT of events such as readings, signings and other things that really made the place vibrant. Sadly, they decided to close the store this past December. I truly don't know all the inside about why. Her post to all was that they were going to regroup and re-market their product with an even better focus on the community. They have a website, but their book selection there doesn't reflect what the store was. Its sad. I love and will always love books. LOL my poetry book has one all about that subject. As far as self help books, I tried one in college and it didn't do a thing for me. I found The Four Agreements ok when I read it a few years back but other than that, I don't pick them up. Biggest hugs u!!! xoxo
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Preach!
Thanks friend! So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox
I have a library of self help books…..need to have a huge yard sale.
Hi Larry! Hah I love a good yard sale:) thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox