Beer Hall Banter

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So a funny thing happened on the way to the forum…

JK.

If you get that joke, consider yourself a musical theater geek.

(You’re in good company here) 🙂

Clearly, I’m in a mood tonight.

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This weekend was one for the books, y’all.

Let’s just say, I ended Saturday night at a Brazilian dance bar/tin roofed lean-to/shanty in the heart of Brooklyn that was cash only, blasting latin pop music, and decorated in a way that would make Bob Marley proud.


The drinks were strong, but not nearly as strong as the staunch body odors wafting through the tightly packed dance floor.

But surprisingly, that was not the most noteworthy part of my night.

Rewind about 6 hours. At a beer hall with my friends. We were with a group of about 20, but I found myself at an intimate table in the back with 3 of my friends and one of their colleagues. Three boys and two girls.

And I found myself and my gal pal ( 🙂 ) listening to a heated debate the boys were having about…religion.

“Religion is dead in America.” “It’s nothing more than organized hope.” “It’s designed to just control people.” “Full of bigots and racists.”

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Yeah. It was uncomfortable. Tense. One guy was sticking up for faith, and the colleague was on the attack.

I mean, my friends are New Yorkers. They are not “religious.” I would refer to them as secular. Nothing wrong with that! I love them, they respect my faith, I don’t try to push it on them, it’s just kind of a non-issue. So I was quite surprised when this passionate argument was breaking out across the table.

I stayed out of the debate…but it definitely stuck with me.

And in the cab ride back to the city, I couldn’t help but replay that conversation in my mind.

“Religion is dead in America.”

There are times – and this is one of them – that I have to remember where I live.

New York City is not a microcosm of the United States as a whole. It is an entity unto itself. A unique beast, if you will.

This really struck me – visually – as my cab was crossing over the Brooklyn Bridge. It’s like this other-worldly, threatening, mass of buildings rises from the water. The island of Manhattan is a force to be reckoned with. From the backseat of my cab, I truly appreciated how stunning it is, especially at night with the twinkling lights. Outside my window was an iconic snapshot.

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But it is not a snapshot of the rest of the country.

Religion – and faith – is not dead.

I’m just living in a city where it’s harder to see.

But, I’m going to be really honest. Thinking back to how that conversation played out, I felt really convicted.

I could have refuted their claims and fought back and really presented my case. I could have sent a strong message. I could have done or said a lot of different things….but I didn’t.

I just kept my mouth shut. I rationalized it in my head that, Oh, I’m not even in this conversation. They’re talking religion and politics…not something I want to entangle myself in.

But coming home, I realized…I am part of the problem.

How am I living my faith?

Sure, my friends know I go to church every Sunday and that I am a Christian. But Jeez Louise, my friend’s colleague hangs out with us for one night and proclaims that “religion is dead?!” Clearly, I am not doing my job very well.

Maybe I need to be a little more outspoken. I always say that I try to show my faith in my actions rather than tell my faith in my words. But perhaps I need to speak up a little bit.

Politeness and being quiet, that doesn’t encourage others who may also feel like they’re alone in their beliefs and therefore can’t speak up.

I don’t know where this is going…I kind feel like this is the scene from Les Mis where they’re barricading the Parisian streets singing, “Do you hear the people sing, singing the songs of angry men…”

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Boy, I really am a musical theater nerd.

I’m not trying to start a revolution here. But I do feel personally responsible for this guy’s perception that faith is dead.

So I’m going to take a long, hard look at how I’m living my life. Because, Leapin’ Lizzards, if someone can literally be sitting across a table from me and proclaim that, then something’s gotta change.

Wearing a cross necklace just isn’t going to cut it anymore.

Not in today’s cultural climate. Not when there’s so much at stake…

Now, please excuse me as I go and listen to some show tunes and order a WWJD bracelet.

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308 thoughts on “Beer Hall Banter”

  2. This is truly an interesting post. And it is a topic – nay, a war – that wages in my very soul. I was raised catholic, had absolutely NO negative feelings about it, but came to a point in my life where I felt my beliefs were vastly different than what was considered “acceptable” in most monotheistic religious “systems” (for lack of a better way to say it). I struggle with the concept of a God, the concept of Faith and the concept of my….hmmm…relationships to others. And truthfully, I don’t know that I’ll ever feel compatible in a religion or according to what is typically taught about morality.
    With that being said, however, I still believe America is the absolute safest place for the freedom of religion. I believe, however, that is changing. I think there is a certain flavor of society that wants to demonize those that have a faith system. I think it becomes more and more obvious that the only people that are going to be “accepted” in society are those that deny a Christian faith. There is a definitive role people take that belittles those of faith, trashes those beliefs as “stupid” or “uneducated” and associate atrocious acts to those who practice certain religions.
    I think, it is important to maintain people’s freedoms and that means not tarnishing those who choose to practice a faith differently than others.

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    1. Thank you so much for this perspective. You’re so right, we have to maintain that freedom – after all, that’s why America was founded. So that no matter what you do or do not believe, this remains a safe place to do so. So well said. Thanks for sharing this part of your heart:) sending big big hugs xox

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    2. it’s interesting because I feel the exact same way but in the opposite direction! Making the decision to be Agnostic has been a long, mindful and wonderful experience for me. However, people do not want to discuss it. I was raised Catholic with a catechism teacher for a mother and a devout Italian Catholic father. My sister still believes exactly what we were taught growing up and I think that is wonderful. I would love to know what brings people to believe? What is positive about people arguing over who is correct in their beliefs or not? How do you know you are following the right doctrine? I personally need more than”Faith” because there are too many examples of “faith” to choose from. Faith in what? I have faith in my family, friends, myself and, to be totally honest, I have faith in humanity. It’s time we give ourselves a chance to make the differences without anything backing us up other than our willingness to work together and be an amazing country.

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  3. Hmm, you’ve definitely got a good point here. I’ve been guilty of the same thing in my life and that’s something I’ve given a lot of thought and had a lot of heartache over. I’ve never been to New York, but I can imagine how that must be there. Despite what people think, the only sound in Texas isn’t the thumps of nearby Bibles.

    Thank you for your posts, it’s refreshing to read the thoughts of someone so like minded.

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  4. I feel like this is so true! It’s really hard to be respectful of others and still stand your ground! Two Scriptures I really like on the subject are 1 Peter 3:15-16: “But in your hearts revere Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.” (http://bible.com/111/1pe.3.15-16.niv). I guess the part that may be key here is having an answer prepared, which we can share boldly, but respectfully. Thanks for your post! I’m going to try to do better in this area too :).

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    1. Hi Carlye! Thank you so much. You’re right- it’s a tricky balance, especially with friends. That’s a powerful verse. Thanks for passing it along. Speak the truth in love. And yes, be prepared. I definitely was not! Eek! Thanks for the encouragement! Hugs and love xox

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  6. From across the pond, I see America has more of Jesus in it than most countries. Sadly, also more religion. The two are incompatible. America is great. New York, London, Cape Town, every city tends to be secular. Until you start looking around it.

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  7. My perception of religious belief is that it is ultimately a completely personal organizing principle and varies enormously within any espoused system.
    I’ll leave Christianity alone and pick on a highly-placed Buddhist priest from Myanmar. He gives long fiery speeches stating that an ethnic minority deserves to be annihilated from Myanmar – and he told the 60 Minutes interviewer the same with as much unpleasantness and hatred as I’ve seen in any other faith. He bore as little similarity to the Dalai Lama as I do to Justin Bieber. On the surface, though, they are both devout practitioners of Buddhism.
    You might find the fellow that said that religion is dead in America had some similar specific examples in mind that you might agree represent your beliefs as little as (pick simile here). And that might help you reach rapprochement in a surprisingly simple way. Kind regards.

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    1. Hi friend! This is some really great food for thought. Thank you for that. You’re right-especially with the election, there are many an example of that viewpoint. You’re right. But the whole world cannot be defined by an extreme-either one pole or the other. So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

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  8. Can I claim this as my personal favorite post? One, the musical references were on point! And the entire post motivated me to reclaim Christ in everything. I’ll probably need to keep reading this every once in a while, because it is so challenging!

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  9. A well timed post as I have just finished writing one based on something Archbishop Desmond Tutu said “Whoever says religion and politics don’t mix must be reading a different Bible to me.”

    As an outsider internationally it looks like politics in the US could do with some ethics and a voice of faith offering love and forgiveness in a divided society. Few of us have a chance to influence the grand stage but in the small conversations amongst friends is where we can be true to ourselves and ultimately true to God.

    I know at times we are all like St Peter and just find it simpler to keep quiet and deny that we know who Jesus is. The challenge is to be honest in who we are without imposing ourselves on others. I think that if we do this people respect our integrity and honesty even if they don’t share the same view on life. A friend of mine once decided she wanted to explore her faith as she was drawn to “what you lot have got going on” – like fire and light we can in a small way make it compelling to be attracted to finding out more on the journey of faith.

    Good luck!

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    1. Thanks Rob! Wow that’s a powerful quote by the archbishop. You’re so right-we each have our own sphere of influence where we can share our hearts. You’re right-faith is attractive. Thanks for the encouragement! Hugs and love xox

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  10. You go, little Gavroche! Err, I mean Caralyn. 😆

    Funny/interesting thought: They were arguing that religion is dead in America. It can’t be that dead if they are arguing about it. If they have such strong passionate feelings about it, it’s not dead. If it’s worth arguing over, it can’t be dead. After all, no one argues about the dodo. That’s totally dead and gone.

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  11. I actually understood your musical theater joke! Unfortunately, quote a few people hold the view that “Religion is dead in America.” They couldn’t be further from the truth. If religion was dead, it wouldn’t be a counterargument against abortion, LGBT rights, and such. If religion was dead, all of the churches, mosques, temples and whatnot in America would be obsolete. I understand that you feel that it’s your responsibility to educate your friend but I’d caution you against placing actual blame on yourself. If your friend knows that you’re a practicing Christian, that should be enough for him to not say something so blatantly wrong. I think he may be the problem here, not you, and that’s why I say this.

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  12. It’s appropriate to say where I’m coming from. I am part of a small religion with no resemblance to anything most people know, and I am ordained. On top of that, I see religion and spirituality as somewhat different and sometimes separate. I have not found it improves my spirit or my relationship with deity to try to correct people. They will believe whatever they believe. I believe religion is still very much a part of American life. Consider what happens to open atheists running for office. They get incredible negativity, and as far as I know, none has won an election. To me, that’s a better measure of reality than what someone says after a beer or two.

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    1. Thank you so much for this reflection! Yeah, definitely some liquid courage was part of the equation here that night! And it’s true-as much as people may not want to admit it, faith still plays a role in our lives. Have a beautiful night! Hugs and love xox

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  14. Timely post. Our message at church yesterday was about “wearing masks” and being a different person based on the situation we are in. Really got me thinking about how I’m living out my faith too.

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  15. So easy to bean invisible Christian and wonder about our world. You girl speak out on many issues. You proclaim your faith and the reason for that faith so well. Maybe the only thing you can add, if I can be so pretentious, is simply be ready to tell why you live the way you do. I have the feeling you will become an effective witness in a very short time if you remember what you say will come from the Word, into your heart and then to others. In 63 years I have found the best witnessing has come when I share what I know. That is being a witness. I will be praying for you and again marvelous insights. You are a blessing.
    John

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    1. Hey John! Thank you so much for you kind words and encouragement. You’re right-I need to be read to answer the WHY. Hmm something to think and pray about for sure. That’s really great advice. Thanks for the prayers:) massive hugs to you xox

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  16. I absolutely love your blog. I never miss a post. Speaking out in faith is becoming difficult. Christians have been silenced under bureaucracy, political correctness and fear or sticking out or being ostracized. I don’t blame you for not speaking out though, sometimes you know when saying something will make a positive impact and when it would not. One of the best ways to show your faith is to lead my example. In many ways that cries out more than words. And you have been great at doing that based on reading your blog. Great post!

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  18. Caralyn! I went to Patreon but didn’t see anything there. Also, here’s a reply from last week I sent be email as Patreon wouldn’t let me comment again…?

    I have to say I am so proud of you! You reached the correct conclusion when I thought you were heading elsewhere. I was wondering how to point it out without coming off poorly. As to religion being dead in America, it isn’t quite dead yet (Monte Python, anyone), but it’s sliding into the grave. I think you would get a lot out of the book Already Gone by Ken Ham. There’s also a DVD of it if you want a simpler version.

    Penn of Penn & Teller says he thinks Christianity is hogwash, because if Christians REALLY believed the Bible and in the existence of hell, they’d be screaming from the rooftops! But no one had ever tried to talk to him -until of course he said that.

    The person who quoted Peter above about speaking gently and kindly was spot on. Very hard to do in a charged atmosphere! One way to get in there without adding fuel to the fire is to get participants to define their terms. Did the one guy mean there are NO Christians left in America? Once people discuss what they mean by their words, you can find common ground.

    I was on a night flight to Europe once, sitting next to a young lady from Norway, I think. I started talking Christianity. She wasn’t Christian, but was willing to discuss. At one point she asked me – and it almost sounded like challenge – if I thought she was going to hell. After a moment I told her that it “…pains me to say it, but yes, you are.” I let her know it wasn’t me judging her, but what the Bible says. I let her see my sadness at that prospect. Maybe it was enough to get her thinking. I’ve thought of her often over the years, wondering…

    You have given me an idea for a post for tomorrow, a story from my high school years. Tune in tomorrow for it. Meanwhile, if you want a good laugh, see my post today. Still looking to listen to you over at Patreon!!

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    1. Hey Jeffrey! Thank you so much for this 🙂 I always love reading your heartfelt reflections. Sorry, the podcast just now uploaded. I just got home from work about 10 minutes ago — sadly that’s one thing I can’t do from my smart phone. haha. but you’re right — that’s a hard thing to do in a charged atmosphere but that’s terrific advice. Get people talking. Defining. And that sounds like a powerful conversation you had with that girl. i pray that it made her question and ponder the existence of God. 🙂 Can’t wait for tomorrow’s post! And i’m heading over to your blog to check it out right now! Big hugs to ya Jeff! Have a great night xox

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  19. Very good post. Like others, I have also experienced the same thing.
    Over the years I’ve learned that sometimes holding your tongue and comporting yourself as an example is the best witness you can give. Your time to give a witness may not have been then. There are two things to remember here.
    One: you were in a bar. I truly believe that a wise man and in your case woman knows when to hold her tongue. When people are drinking is not a good time for a meaningful conversation. but… it served it’s purpose, It made you question your ability to stand up for what you believe. Matt 7:6 talks about “casting pearls before swine… that you might not get trampled”. So perhaps this was a protection.
    Two: Luke 19:40 states that “He can make the stones cry out” if need be. God gives you the words when you need them and perhaps your tongue was stifled for a reason. If the parties in question were or would have been receptive, you would have found your voice. Remember how when Moses went to Pharoah and his heart was hard over and over again? There are many Pharoah’s in this world and when the time is right, their hearts will open for them to hear what you have to say. Keep in mind too that religion is not necessarily faith. Focus on that. Religion will be threatened in the future, 2 Tim 3 speaks about “lovers of men…” and because of this there will be compromises made by religious leaders so there will come a time when even religious leaders will prove false. So concentrate on your faith. That’s what needs to stand strong. And remain cautious as a serpent and innocent as a dove. As you can see by the responses there are others like you and a time will come when we will depend on one another.

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    1. Hi Jolie! Thank you so much for this. You’re right-nothing “good” ever comes from an alcohol-influenced conversation. And what a powerful verses. Thank you for sharing them. I really appreciate your advice and insight! You rock! Big hugs xox

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  20. I really enjoy your blog and your transparency!

    More and more I’m asking for boldness in sharing my faith, and a greater ability to listen to the direction and guidance of the Holy Spirit in doing so. Who does he want me to share with? What does he want me to share? This for me means asking to be made more aware of God’s agenda and the needs of others, and less needing my own daily agenda. I think when we look at sharing in this way, it becomes far more personal – God using us to reach a person in his world with his amazing love story, personalized for them, so they can get to know him through Jesus. Even when called to contend our faith, we can be silently praying for the right words that will pierce hearts, and not just speak truth.

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    1. Thank you so much! This is so powerful. I love that you pray for boldness. That’s awesome. I will definitely try that out. Because you’re right- when we pray for they words, they come. And they are effective. Thanks for this encouragement! Hugs and love xox

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  21. Wonderful self disclosure and reflection. Thank you, and love how you balanced poignancy and lightheartedness. I doubt you need any instruction, but I’ll pass my experience on anyway…I find that committing to just asking sincere questions neutralizes assertions like, “Religion is dead.” For instance, “Really, why do you think that?” Then really listen to their answer, don’t try to correct unless they ask (which they never do), then ask whatever the next logical question might be, like, “So, do you think I’m dead, since I am religious?” Then listen sincerely, and keep following up with more questions. My mistake, and I think many others make the same one, is we listen to respond and win, instead of listening to learn. Thank you for letting me contribute. I hope it adds something positive to your thoughts. Greg

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  22. I feel you’re doing New York City a disservice! Religion is alive and well. As a Jew, I know I can get whatever fix I need: from ultra-Orthodox enclaves (which, okay, I don’t frequent) to Chabad (which I also don’t frequent) to every shade of progressive Judaism you can imagine. (Yup, there’s my sweet spot.)

    Sometimes I go into the city with friends on a Shabbat evening just to experience the life and spirit of B’Nai Jeshurun, sometimes to Central Synagogue when I’m in the mood for a Reform service and Moorish decor, and, of course, there’s Beit Simchat Torah which is still, I believe the largest Jewish LGBTQ congregation in the world.

    I’ve been to plenty of Christian churches in the city too. There are Catholic churches everywhere, without even mentioning St. Patrick’s Cathedral. There’s an awesome Anglo-Catholic church called St. Mary’s–but affectionately known as Smoky Mary’s because, once upon a time, congregants allegedly passed out from all the incense. (By the way, there used to be a good French kosher restaurant right by Smoky Mary’s. Le Marais–I think it’s still there.)

    And of course there are mosques and Hindu Temples and Buddhists Temples and–well, the list goes on and on.

    And yes, there are plenty of secular denizens of NYC. I’m just as glad for them–they’re just as much a part of the fabric that makes up the city. But NYC is not anti-religious. Anyone who claims it is must be shutting their eyes whenever the Chabad truck rolls up.

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    1. Hey Jenn!oh wow that must be a lot of intense to earn that name! Haha but seriously thank you for this perspective! You’re right-it’s not dead. I just have to be aware and open my eyes. I’m so glad you’ve found such a rich environment to worship in the city! That’s so great. You’re right, my favorite church is actually in the city too. Lots to be grateful for. Hugs and love xox

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  23. Religion will always be alive because God isn’t dead. Of course there will always be attacks on different religions, but that all comes because of one thing, lack of understanding. If we would all just realize that when we take time to examine religion the principles taught are good. They give us hope and teach us to improve. There will always be lairs and hypocrites within a religion, but you can’t confuse those individuals with the teachings itself.

    Thanks for being open about this topic!

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  24. This is a great reminder for us to remember our Christian tenets, I think. I’m so guilty of not spreading the word, as I know I should be doing. I spend a lot of time with people whom subscribe to the belief that religion is dead, but spirituality is alive and well…..

    Another great read! 🙂

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  25. Great blog! Your writing is amazing! So vivid and alive! It’s like I was sitting there with you! …like I’ve witnessed the same or similar conversation. Great food for thought. Bravo!

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  26. That’s funny. Last Sunday it was sorta the opposite with me. After Mass I got in a conversation with two others that lasted almost and hour. I didn’t want to talk. But something inside told me I should. It wasn’t so much about religion being “dead” but more about theological points and approaches. Finally, at about 11 pm (it was a night Mass), we stopped talking at this downtown corner by the Cathedral, near the Salvation army, the pawn shops and skyscrapers. I love night Masses the most. Especially downtown. 🙂

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    1. Thanks for this! I love night masses too. there’s something about having the day behind you that just brings a sense of peace that I personally don’t get during the morning. so glad you had that experience. it sounds like a fruitful discussion. 🙂 thanks for stopping by! hugs xox

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      1. If I happen to be up early and feel called to go I will catch an 8 am or 8:15. The sun streaming thru stained glass can be nice too. But lately it’s been more noon or evenings. I go to mass a lot. Some of my readers might be surprised at that. But God isn’t calling perfect people! Pax 😍

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      2. I hear that! I am *severely imperfect! Haha that’s so great that you enjoy going! And you’re right- nothing quite like a brilliantly lit up and sparkling stained glass window. I love when the sun comes out from behind a cloud and brightens up the window during a high point of the homily, or if the sun goes behind a cloud during a somber point in the readings -I almost feel like God winks at us through the stained glass/sun/readings haha Hugs and love xox

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      3. That’s nice that you are attuned to that. I’ll let you in on a little secret. Maybe because I converted in 2001, sometimes I get the impression that some Catholics see me as a bit unusual. So when the sun shines right thru on me, say, just after the mass, I feel like God is saying… See, this guy is okay! He’s not weird! Xxx 😊✨🌟

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  27. As someone working in the Church, I hear a lot of the “religion is dead” type stuff, too. I live in the South, though, and it–like NYC–is its own world, and it’s a world where religion most certainly isn’t dead. It’s changing, sure, but not dead.

    While you and I disagree on quite a bit of how faith manifests in daily life and opinions, I appreciate how hard it can be to “out” oneself for one’s faith among non-religious friends. Prayers for courage to speak when it is necessary (and for the words to say).

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    1. Hi friend! Thank you so much for this. Isn’t it funny how the different parts of the country can have such different feels? That’s such a great nugget of advice — praying for courage is most certainly a good thing to do. God is good 🙂 Thanks for stopping by and for your encouragement! hugs xox

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      1. I think so. Had our weekly prayer meeting tonight. Decided to start “shaking God’s throne” in prayer. Praying for spiritual awakening and revival in my community. We need it!

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  29. I’m thankful you’re giving this some thought. Godly wisdom is a rare quality these days. Worldy wisdom makes life much more comfortable. Godly wisdom requires submission and sacrifice. Two unpopular words in the English language unless there being used in an adult novel or horror movie.

    Romans 10:14 says, “How then shall they call on him in whom they have not believed? and how shall they believe in him of whom they have not heard? and how shall they hear without a preacher?”

    You’re not a preacher but that’s not what that word originally meant. It meant one who proclaims. Living out your Christian faith with love and respect for others is vital. If we fail at this no one will hear us. If we fail to take advantage of the chances we have to share truth with others we’ve waisted the opportunity we’ve earned by our lifestyle. I’m an evangelist (well a pastor who practices evangelism) and I still miss opportunities regularly, so I’m not judging.

    I live South Georgia. In a small town. I mean small. They recently had the entire town carpeted. (You’re too young to get that reference.) There’s a church on every corner. Yet, every time I go out to share the gospel I find more people who’ve never heard what Jesus has done for them.

    This is an American culture issue. Christians have stopped telling the truth in order to respect other people’s freedom. I’m personally thankful that someone invaded my “freedom” to share the gospel with me. We get entirely too caught up in our Americanness.

    “No man that warreth entangleth himself with the affairs of this life; that he may please him who hath chosen him to be a soldier.” (2 Timothy 2:4)

    “For here have we no continuing city, but we seek one to come.” (Hebrews 13:14)

    If Christianity represents truth then it’s evil to “respect” people so much that we allow them to continue believing a lie. A lie that will destroy them. Im glad your asking this question because God has the answer.

    Telling others lovingly what Christ has done for us is a great way to share the truth. Thanks for using your blog to do this everyday!

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    1. Thank you so much Robert! That really means a lot. You’re right-they’re not popular but are necessary for a life of faith. What an awesome job. Sounds like you’re really making a difference! I’ll definitely keep your ministry in my prayers! Speak the truth in love. That’s the way to go! Hugs and love xox

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  30. Now all we need is for religion to die in the church. “Christians” have fallen in love with rules, fog, lights and worship Hillsong. They sing about their first love but have long since moved on from their First Love.
    It’s the church in this country that gives your secular friends the views they have. The gospel is so simple. I love it so much.
    When people say things like that, I jump in and agree and explain to them that there is an 80/20 rule in church. There are the 80% who are “church fluff” that I like to call them. They are what everyone sees walking in. Then there is the 20% that drives the church – the core people. The people that are in every ministry, tithing every week, praying on the spot for the sick and weary.
    There are 80% of churchies that think they are saved because they said a prayer that granted them some magical rite of passage into Heaven. Then there is the 20% who are truly saved.
    Maybe people will disagree, but I’ve been in church my whole life. I’m a PK and I believed for 29 years the lie that I was a Christian because I knew all the memory verses and went to church and talked the talk…even walked the walk. But I was part of the 80%. I’ve since moved forward. But I have such a strong opinion about this because I was lost in church. And by the grace of God, He made me an offer I couldn’t refuse. It is my calling to witness to the “saved”. To those people who are Jesus’ Instagram followers but never actually met him.
    Anyway, thanks for the read.

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    1. Hey Samson, thank you so much for this reflection. There’s some powerful food for thought there. I like that point about being Jesus’s IG follower but not knowing him. That definitely challenges me to really look at my relationship with Him and see where I’m truly at. Thanks for this heartfelt response. Hugs and love xox

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  31. Hello this time it’ll probably make me very unpopular with your readers. It might even make me unpopular with you. The reason I say that is because you know you will notice but over the past little while I have not commented on anything you’ve written. I am not watched any of your YouTube videos recently. And there’s a purpose for that. The blog of Beauty Beyond bones it is a wonderful thing and you’re very insightful and intelligent woman however I find it hard to grasp how are you can so easily fall in with the secular crowd and you claim to be a Christian. I don’t get it it’s beyond me I’m not trying to point fingers but you make an interesting point faith in America is fading that is evident. Instead the Christian faith is being replaced by rock music an individuals with multicolored hair and tattoos. there’s no such thing as rock music in the Christian world that’s in the seat of Lucifer. Christianity doesn’t need to conform to the secular idea I’m becoming cool. Christianity should not be cool according to the secular culture. it needs to be different from the world it’s music needs to be different from the world it’s people need to be different from the world. no I’m not saying that everyone who is not a Christian should just receive Bible are you saying that the idea of Christianity in America is lost on most men who are in the Pulpit because most of them aren’t fit to be in the pulpit. now I will say this I think you’re terrific person I really deep down believe that About you. you have an opportunity used to make Jesus smile every day and I pray you continue to do that with this blog and I will continue to pray for you and that your influence will not be lost because there’s no defeat in Christ Jesus. I’m going to break normality here for a moment and I’m going to be honest with you I don’t make it a point of reading everyone’s blog that I subscribe to. I began reading yours because you have a pretty face. I kept reading your blog because I could see deep down within your heart

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    1. Hey there! I had been wondering why I hadn’t seen your friendly face pop up lately 🙂 I’m sorry you feel that I am not an authentic Christian. I am a very flawed person. Very flawed. And I am just doing my best to pursue the heart of Christ while being in the world but not of the world. You’ve really given me a lot of food for thought here. So thank you for that. I appreciate the prayers and I do hope that I can earn your respect, because I’m trying my best to follow the Lord in this wild and crazy world. Hope all is well with you! hugs and love xox

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      1. You never lost my respect. I’m just confused. I’m confused at the fact that there’s so many churches you claim to preach Christianity under different denominations if Christianity is one single umbrella why is there so many different denominations. What are churches missing? Where are the missing the mark? It’s not you that I’m angry at. I’m confused by the need to fit in. When I was baptized in water been baptized by fire of the Holy Ghost I did a complete 360. I gave up the world in a heartbeat and everything in it. I didn’t talk the same way I didn’t feel the same way my problem is with the church most people in the pump it claimed that all Christian needs these days are salvation. I’m here to tell you so make sure that’s good but the real difference the keeping power is the fire of the Holy Ghost. Most churches are backwards and confused because they’ve taken up their altars. Some don’t even preach the Upper Room. Some preach the miracles of Jesus as times in the old day. I’m here to tell you that the god of Miracles still works today. If he didn’t I wouldn’t have received amiracle yesterday for my kidney stones blood disease and migraine headaches dear Carolyn received the keeping power of the Holy Ghost and you know exactly what I’m talking about

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      2. I’m so glad to hear that your kidney stones cleared up and that you’re doing better! Praise God! That is truly awesome. You’re right – God definitely still is alive and working today!

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      3. I’m not here to judge I’m here to love you as Christ loves you. If I didn’t that would be like everyone else. And being with everyone else isn’t cool because then you can’t stand out amongst the crowd. You made an impact on my life. I’m not going to say I don’t have my flaws because I do. However I do realize that the grace of God is far better then anything I have ever experienced in my entire life. When the Holy Ghost came in my life is completely changed I didn’t live for myself anymore I lived for the purpose of God. once I receive the Holy Ghost the Bible became a new book to me. By the way thanks for saying you miss me I’ve been busy a lot in school. I should send you some stuff I’ll pray a special prayer just for you because I know how tough this world can be but I also remember the cost of calvary. Jesus loves you Carolyn

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    2. If I may reply to you Pen and Sword regarding some of the premise you have put forth in your initial comment.

      You state that you have difficult to understand how someone can be easily surrounded by the “secular crowd.” I do not fully understand how you intended this to be understood, but I would like to put forth a response to such a topic. The Bible never commanded us to remove ourselves from those who are not believers, nor does it tell us to condemn those who are not believers. Jesus did not take the disciples away to a place where they were free from the influences of the culture of the time. They were, in fact, surrounded by the culture of the ever changing world of the ancient Jewish occupation by the Babylonians, Persians, Greeks, and Romans.

      This is further continued by the claim that rock music is replacing or corrupting the Church. Again, I am not sure of what you mean by this, but I cannot locate where the Bible mandates the standards of musical medium. Let me put it this way. Is a stone anymore evil than a pebble? No, of course not. Firstly, God created all things, and are therefore good. A stone has no inherent evil in its nature, nor does it have ill intent. If I have an electric guitar and use it to glorify the name of Jesus, does that make it any more evil than a stone? How about a shovel? A sword? Of course not, that is illogical. Is Christian hip-hop or rap any more vulgar than the hymns of old? No.

      On the notion of tattoos and multicolored hair, I must disagree. With the sacrifice of Jesus, the law moved from being written on stone tablets to being written on the heart. Paul asserts that “All things are lawful for me…,” but quantifies the statement with “but not all things are helpful” (1 Corinthians 6:12). So is having pink hair inherently wrong? No. Is having a tattoo inherently evil? No. The ultimate issue at hand here is a matter of the heart. You can look and compare yourself against those of others, but you cannot looking to their heart and know where their intentions lie. You can only know the intentions of your own heart and life.

      Christianity will never be “cool.” Christianity will never be “relevant” in the eyes of secular culture because Christianity does not conform to those values. I agree with you on that, but the issue you begin to run into when you start imposing what Christians should and shouldn’t do, be apart of, be away from, is legalism. This is what the Pharisees did and Jesus responded to them as such, “Have you not read?” While I do agree with you that there are men on the pulpit who ought not to be, I must assert that there are many, many more who are on the pulpit who do need to be there. Who have the qualifications, according to what is taught in the New Testament, to lead their houses, to lead their congregations, to lead the Church.

      In looking through you later comments, you state that you are confused by the many different denominations of Christianity. Well, a denomination is merely the means in which a church operates. I, a Baptists, hold that baptism is only performed by immersion as according to the baptism of Jesus by John the Baptist. Other denominations may believe in baptism by springing, or pouring. The means are different, and I would argue against anything that isn’t immersion but I digress. What is the church missing? Nothing. You are looking at this matter as if the church as trying to “fit in” which I must admit that some congregations are doing, but that does not negate what churches do or what the church is teaching. If and should a person teach/preach (pick your own action verb) something that is contrary to the Bible, then the Bible has an explanation on how to properly handle that situation.

      You speak of your radical change upon Baptism, and I must assume that you are using this as storytelling method. Baptism does not save you, nor does it change you. It is merely a public display of the change that has happened internally. Then what you describe, the being on fire bit, is what I will refer to as seasons. Throughout our walk with God, we will go through seasons where we feel like we are on fire, and things are going well, and we’re reading our Bible everyday, praying often, being faithful. Then there are seasons where the fire is less noticeable, it is difficult to pray, difficult to open the Bible, difficult to be faithful. Does this change my faith in who Jesus claimed that He was? No. All people need is salvation! Nothing else can save them apart from the sacrifice of Christ. No amount of good works can save us. No amount of money can buy our way into Heaven. Nothing can bring us to salvation, except Christ. IF someone has met Christ and had their lives transformed, then there will be evidence of it in their lives. Jesus teaches this in the parable of the true vine in the book of John. It is clear in Paul’s epistles. We should celebrate new salvations, we should “pump” it up! However, there is a component, which I believe you are hinting at that follows salvation and baptism, discipleship. Teaching and equipping others to share their faith, to seek mentorship, to learn and grow in the faith. And if there is an area the Church needs to work on, it is that. Discipleship.

      To conclude, if a Christian rock song brings someone to a place to seek God, it is good. If a Christian rapper’s music brings someone to a place to seek God, God be glorified. If somebody’s pink hair and tattoos brings someone to a place to seek God, God be glorified. If my car brings someone to a place to seek God, God be glorified. If my life brings someone to a place to seek God, God be glorified. The issue isn’t in the Church trying to be “cool,” rather it is legalism on what is permitted and what is not. And as Paul teaches, all things are permitted, but not everything is helpful. So I challenge you to search your own heart, your own motives as you continue through life. I hope that you have some food for thought here, and do not find that I have attacked you or beaten you down. None of that is my intention, but to merely share my understanding with you in response to what I have read.

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  33. This is great BBB. A quote I heard ages ago is that ‘the world will not read the Bible. They will read Christians’. What a privilege, yet huge responsibility (and struggle) we have to show the world Christ! God bless 🙂

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      1. No dramas 😊 and for the record, the way you respond to any pushback in the comments is awesome. So full of grace. You’re just about as authentic as they come. Keep doing your thing Carolyn 🙃

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  34. Dear Caralyn,

    I’m writing this 06:00 a.m. at my local commuter-train station on my small Android.

    As a Christian you have a call to:
    I. To love God with all your heart and mind and…
    II…. your neighbor as yourself.

    This doesn’t nessecarily mean that you have to participate in a hopeless argument in a beer-hall. To just ignore the discussion can in fact be the best way to stand up for yourself and God!

    While young people tend to have their “Sturm und Drang” period. When you get older you can relax more, in God and in yourself.

    I hope I didn’t mess this up…

    Hugs

    Lennart

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    1. Hi Lennart! Oh my gosh that’s so early! Thank you so much for typing this out on your phone! This is such a powerful reflection. You’re right, a lot of times leading by example can be more powerful than any word uttered (or argued!) Thanks so much for reading! I hope you have an awesome day! All aboard!! 🙂 haha oh my gosh that’s the most cheesy thing I’ve ever said! hahaha xoxo

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  35. So I’ve been waiting all day for this post 😉

    This sparks something interesting for me. I almost want to say, you’re a little late to the parade Caralyn! (in the most friendly way possible, of course 😉 ) and, you’re so right.

    But the other thing I want to say is, your revolution is already happening – three years ago I was watching it kindling on the forefront–watching my older brother valiantly spreading that revolution..it’s dear to me.

    But I think another important thing is that that revolution is changing the face of ‘religion’ – as far as I’m concerned, religion is dead, and I don’t care to revive it – I know that’s getting into the fine lines of terminology, but the idea is the same; Christianity is undergoing a major shift–it has to, because there are too many people dissatisfied with the insincerity and the misinformation and the control that religious people have swayed over it for so long – it’s an awkward time for the Church.

    I totally agree with you though. Cross necklaces won’t cut it. No Christian paraphernalia will. Probably no brilliant debate will, either. But you know what will? A revelation of love coming out of a Spirit-filled and led life. Because love, and grace, and truth, changes everything.

    And you know what, I don’t know how to get there, or how to be a better display of Christianity, or how to be a part of the revolution. But I know Holy Spirit is and will continue leading, and when the Church unites, we’re going to see it reborn and it won’t be mistaken as dead anymore!

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    1. Wow Carson. Not to go all “millennial” but this response gave me ALL THE FEELS! Haha seriously though this is so inspiring. Yes-love grace and truth are game changers. That’s how we’re going to reach people. That how we’re going to break down walls and break through to people. It’s with love. It’s how we live our lives. That’s the true revolution. Thanks so much for this 🙂 I always look forward to your comments! Hugs and love xox

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      1. Oh Caralyn.. but this is the time we were born for!! so please – be as ‘millenial’ as you were created for! 😀 Because that’s what it’s all about; we’re here to change the world. Nothing less.

        Happy Tuesday my friend!

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      2. Hahha yes!! You don’t have to tell me twice!! I will fully embrace millennial-ness with my love for all social media platforms, unnecessary abbreviations (abbrev’s) and affinity for ’90s nostalgia! Haha ❤️❤️❤️

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    2. OK, I can’t help but jump in here!!… Carolyn, first off thank you so much for your honesty, always. You have one of the most genuine hearts and a true authenticity that is so rare to come by. Also I do agree with Carson about how religion is dead in a sense (or dying)….People are either jaded by the perceived hypocrisy that comes with ritualistic “religiosity” or drawn to people that have a true, authentic relationship with Christ, the Living God. I know that the guy that you were talking to may have meant it in the literal sense that actual spirituality is dying, but tackling it from this different perspective maybe he is right, and maybe it’s a good thing. I actually just wrote about my struggle within the church on this and how the confusion led me to my darkest times (https://mackmarie.com/2016/10/10/doubt/ ). No need to read, but just in case you are interested. There is power and an attractiveness that comes when someone lives their lives in Christ. You are doing just that, ma’am. I get why you would feel that you maybe should have spoke up or said something- but at the same time, you are living your life out loud, unashamedly for Christ, beyond just words. I get those settings are difficult to speak up, but don’t beat yourself up about it. What you are doing right now is all you can do- reflect and gear up with a new fire to spread Christ’s love even greater. The Holy Spirit will give ya that courage 😉 I feel like it always sounds corny to say that but it is so true. I was a bit all over the board with this comment, but anyway, you have a mission field and God is using you BIG TIME, lady. ❤

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      1. Thank you so much, Mack! Wow, I am just so blown away by your thoughtful and insightful comment! You’re right-it is interesting to look at it that way. Because there is some truth – by the number there has been a decline in people that identify as “religious” but I feel a resurgence coming on! People on Team Jesus. I feel it. 🙂 haha and thank you so much for your encouragement. That’s all I want to do: spread His love and His hope. 🙂 and I look forward to reading your post! Thanks for passing it along:) big hugs to you! Xox

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      2. Yes, girl, exactly! I keep telling my husband I feel a revival on the horizon. And other believers are expressing that same feeling. Thanks for taking the time for your thoughtful response as well. Hugs to you too ❤

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      4. Hi Mack!
        In a few words, it’s time for the Church (not just a corporate, religious entity, not just an assembly or denomination in such-and-such place but the church, the bride of Christ, an entire generation of Jesus-lovers from every tribe and tongue) to re-emerge, to choose authenticty and truth and JESUS, and to show the love of Father to the world – that is what I’m dreaming for. And it will be sincere, authentic people with stories like ours who’ve asked the hard questions and who have found their answer in the heart of Jesus, who will (and are) stand up and bring on the revolution – because we’ve all got a little revival in us since the day Jesus changed everything (: Thanks for jumping in Friend! Happy Tuesday!

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      6. „People are either jaded by the perceived hypocrisy that comes with ritualistic “religiosity” or drawn to people that have a true, authentic relationship with Christ[…]There is power and an attractiveness that comes when someone lives their lives in Christ.“

        You get it, Mack 🙂

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    3. It’s not easy being a christian, did Jesus not wear a crown of thorns? He never promised it would be easy but He did say it will be worth it. Take the parable of the talents for example…Matthew 25:14-30 The meaning of the parable extends far beyond financial investments..God has given each person a wide variety of gifts, and he expects us to employ those gifts in his service. It is not acceptable merely to put those gifts on a closet shelf and ignore them. Like the three servants, we do not have gifts of the same degree. The return God expects of us is commensurate with the gifts we have been given and the ability with which we possess. Over the years I have been trying to build the kingdom and bit by bit I believe I am gaining ground. First I started with my immediate family, then it branched out to my extended family, then my children started helping their friends, then I started with a church group and now it’s grown to other church groups and now we run prayer and spirituality groups. You have to pray and ask God to show you how. God bless and to grow the talent He has given you.

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      1. Hi there (:
        You’re right, it isn’t easy being a Christian in this culture, much less easy in other cultures where Christianity isn’t largely ignored (ISIS comes to mind) but the beauty of the gospel is Jesus’ yoke is easy and his burden is light; the weary find rest in him, the promise of salvation without the impossible work to attain it being on our shoulders.

        Daniel saw a kingdom that established itself; I know I might be getting back into those fine lines of terminology again but I don’t believe it’s on us to ‘build’ the kingdom – Jesus built and established it, we just spread the good news that it’s here and there’s no entrance exam. And when Holy Spirit lives in us and Jesus’ love becomes reality to us, that all becomes second nature; gifts start to grow and develop where we never even thought we had anything to begin with–and the Church comes alive!

        God bless you friend. In all your doing, don’t forget to rest in his love (:

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  36. Caralyn,

    You did everything right. So,too often we speak without listening. You sat there and listened to what was being said, and then pondered it. Keep this in mind–Proverbs 13:3 says this

    Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life;
    he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.

    Take what you heard, think about it as you did, then next time you’re in that discussion, you can speak wisdom with God’s words and not your own. When we’re hesitant to speak in thosr situations, its usually the Holy Spirit telling us to wait.

    You did great Caralyn 🙂

    God bless and always will be praying.

    Tom

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    1. Hey Tom, thank you so much. Wow leave it to proverbs to deliver a “one two punch!” Haha “comes to ruin”. Boy I can think of many a time when that was true! Thanks for your encouragement Tom. It truly means a lot. And I’m so appreciate of the prayers! Hope your week is off to a great start! Hugs and love xox

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  37. I love your candidness. You make me realize that being polite and politically correct is simply creating an easy route for me to selfishly skate through life. This is a crazy world and there is a lot at stake. You make it clear that being idle and quiet is just another way to let other people fall.

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    1. Hey Marlene! Thank you so much. yeah, at the end of the day, we’re all just doing the best we can, but you’re right-perhaps we can let the quietness go from time to time and speak the truth (in love of course) 🙂 so glad you stopped by! Big hugs xox

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  38. Religion & faith is not dead. Your story, your blog speaks of how alive your faith and religion is Caralyn. I suggest you have a business type card with your website to handout. Your story and present life as you share it speak volumes of God’s glory.

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  39. I’m glad you’re pausing and examining how you present yourself and I hope you’re not beating yourself up about not speaking out- religion and alcohol Do. Not. Mix. Not sure if anyone was drinking/drunk, just something to consider. Yes, you want to stand up for your beliefs and I’m not sure what that would’ve accomplished at that time. Maybe it would’ve been fine and you’d rest in the satisfaction of knowing you did what you felt was right. On the other hand, who knows what will happen when alcohol gets involved? Take care, wishing you the best and love watching you grow!

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    1. Hi there friend! Thank you so much. Haha I agree! Alcohol-influenced anything is not a good idea! Except perhaps dancing. Hehe but you’re right – definitely not the time and place. “Speaking ” through action is always powerful when it comes to this. That, or a one on one convo. Thanks for your encouragement and for taking the time to respond! Have an awesome Tuesday! Hugs and love xox

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  40. Hello! Wow, what an interesting experience you had, wish I could have been there! 😀 This isn’t to dampen anyone’s spirits or rain on anyone’s parade, I truly admire and encourage people to live out the faith and to proclaim it boldly, Romans 1:16 after all. BUT, its important to realise that, Christianity will be under attack by those of the world all the time. We’re meant to be under attack. Christ told the disciples to expect to be prosecuted, expect to be attacked. I don’t know what the religious hot tub is in the USA as I don’t live there but I feel like, it doesn’t matter where you are really, your faith will come under attack at various points by the Enemy but you HAVE to keep living it! Sending love and hugs from South Africa 😀

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    1. Hey there friend! Thank you so much 🙂 You’re so right – we should expect to be persecuted because Jesus was persecuted first. and amen to that! We’ve got to keep living it! ((And by the way, I love the term religious hot tub!) haha I’m totally going to start using that! Thanks so much for stopping by all the way from South Africa! That’s SO COOL!! Big hugs xox

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  41. Religion may be death, but Jesus Christ is risen from the dead 🙂 Christ is more than any religion. Religion is a system of beliefs or a code of moral conduct (and nothing is wrong with that) but Christianity is a relationship. And your friend is right: a religious system without this relationship is death. And I passionatly agree with these words from Brennan Manning: “The greatest single cause of atheism in the world today is Christians: who acknowledge Jesus with their lips, walk out the door, and deny Him by their lifestyle. That is what an unbelieving world simply finds unbelievable.”

    And the Gospel isn’t only a organized hope for nice boys and girls. It is a divine invitation into a Epic Story, the greatest story ever written, a story full of heroism, miracles and love.

    “Life, for most of us, feels like a movie we’ve arrived to forty minutes late.

    Sure, good things happen, sometimes beautiful things. But tragic things happen too. What does it mean? We find ourselves in the middle of a story that is sometimes wonderful, sometimes awful, usually a confusing mixture of both, and we haven’t a clue how to make sense of it all. No wonder we keep losing heart.

    We need to know the rest of the story.

    For when we were born, we were born into the midst of a great story begun before the dawn of time. A story of adventure, of risk and loss, heroism . . . and betrayal. A story where good is warring against evil, danger lurks around every corner, and glorious deeds wait to be done. Think of all those stories you’ve ever loved―there’s a reason they stirred your heart. They’ve been trying to tell you about the true Epic ever since you were young.

    There is a larger story And you have a crucial role to play.”

    Blessings to you,
    Mark

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    1. Hey Mark, wow this is really awesome. What a powerful quote. Sadly, that is so true. We need to be living out the gospel. a lot of times that’s the only “church” people will come in contact with. And that’s so true – an Epic Story. That reminds me of Wild at Heart. John Eldredge and his wife are such great writers. i love their stuff. Captivating was another great book they wrote. thank you so much for this great perspective! sending big big hugs xox

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  43. I really get you. I have had this same very experience with my work colleagues. Sometimes I will add to the conversation and at other times I will remain quiet and listen. Then I will pick the time to chat individually with that person, gently and empathetically, in a non-threatening way and make sure that I back it up with scripture and facts. I also pray to the Holy Spirit to help me pick the words. Sometimes the penny drops with people, sometimes only God can save them and then I think about how faith is a gift from God-those who will honour God’s name and His Son Jesus Christ and be Kingdom builders. Personally, I owe a lot to americans who have taught me a lot and were catalysts in others coming to God faithfuls like:- Joel Osteen, John Eldredge, Charles and Frances Hunter, Charles Kraft and more. God bless America ❤

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    1. Thanks friend. Yeah, i think an individual chat is definitely wise. it provides a better opportunity to have an honest and -yes! non-threatening! – conversation than when in front of a group. And you’re right – tapping into the Holy Spirit and praying for His words through you – that’s the best way to go. And wow what a power house list! thanks for stopping by! hugs xox

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  44. Sometimes, it is in our best interest to be quiet. It is the wisest thing. It too me a while to learn that. May I join you in listening to show tunes and where are you ordering that bracelet from? I need one.

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    1. Hey friend! you’re right, sometimes the best way to “say” something is through our actions. Yes! Let’s bring back the 00’s! 🙂 I’m not sure! I was going to google it….if i find out where i’ll definitely let you know! hugs xox

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  45. I am very guilty of not sharing my faith, I am a very personal person so its hard for me to share, I had an opportunity to do so last Wednesday at the CU, It literally hurt my heart later that night when I looked at the opportunity I had. same with friends and family I feel its more difficult I feel sometimes we have to be a true follower of Jesus rather than a family member or friend. I know some friends wont react positively to our faith but even when the times aren’t great for us to talk to them about faith we have to continuous pray for fruitful conversations

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    1. Hey Benjamin! I totally feel you! Sharing that intimate part of your spirit is definitely frightening. especially when you don’t know how it will be received. I think that’s so true – gotta be fervent in prayer. for others, for the words to say, for the way to be the living gospel…You provided some powerful food for thought. thanks friend 🙂 hugs xo

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      1. I feel my pastors have a great way with words to help me and the rest of us in the church understand what the scripture talks about, of course the father is using them in a way where we can understand it, which is why he planted me at the church I go to, also have you seen your facebook page’s messages lately I sent you a little message 😀 mean alot if you could let me know 😀 x. sending you lots of love and hugs (AND BUTTERNUT SQUASH ICE S-CREAM HAHA)

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      3. you never fail to make me smile, you love and support and encouragement means more than words can tell you I love you to bits ❤ (sorry that sounds such a british saying haha) xxx

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  48. Excellent blog as always. Seems some good stuff is happening in NYC see http://www.christianitytoday.com/thisisourcity/newyork/
    My own view is that rather than engage in futile argument, the better approach is to give my own testimony which cannot be refuted because its my experience. I take the position that I am not religious, but rather have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. Someone said that in how we live our lives, we should try to be the bible that so many will never get to read.

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    1. thank you so much! I’ll definitely check that out. Yeah, a personal testimony is always a powerful witness. Because you lived it. you standing there are living proof. Thank you for sharing this. Yes, let’s be the living bible! hugs xox

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  50. Awesome post as always! Living and working in Rhode Island I see a lot of the same culture you talk about here. It always discouraged me and I never knew how to effectively reach out to them. Then I read a book called “I Once Was Lost” by Don Everts. I highly highly highly recommend you and anyone that is looking for ways to engage culture read this book. Little sneak peak – the most valuable thing I learned is that there are stages people go through in their journey back to God. As Christians we sometimes like to jump right into the last couple of stages, but if someone is not there we are not helping them. I can’t say enough good things about this book, its short, life-changing, and really clarifies how we could/should engage people.

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    1. Hey Nate! Thank you so much for this. sounds like an awesome book! thanks for passing it along. you’re right – everyone’s “walk” looks different and we should meet people where they’re at. thanks for the encouragement! hugs xox

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