I had an experience the other day that really stuck with me: an encounter that stayed in my soul.
Ever since my mom’s stroke, I feel like people can sense something different about me. It’s like, I’m walking around with this neon sign that says, Tell me your secrets, my life is in shambles!
Something like that.
Or I’m just super non-threatening.
Like your anti-Regina George. More of an Anne of Green Gables type.
Either that or Mary Katherine Gallagher.
But however I read, I just feel like people — strangers — have been really open with me.
Like the other day…
If there’s one thing that’s true, it’s that I hate going to the doctor. And I know, the irony isn’t lost on me, because wouldn’t you know…my sibling is a doctor.
So this was the first I’d been to the doctor in, oh….five years or so. I had to go get a check up on my Ulcerative Colitis.
Anywho…the only thing I hate more than going to the doctor, is getting blood drawn.
Goodness gracious, I nearly pass out when someone comes near the inside of my arm with a needle. No ma’am.
So, of course, how did my appointment end? In the blood lab.
But you see, I’ve developed a coping mechanism: I get the nurse to distract me with a story…Right after I tell her I’m deathly afraid of needles.
So here I am, asking her how she’s doing, and I inevitably end up just babbling on about my own life, to keep myself from thinking about the whole needle-situation taking place on my arm.
So, eyes clenched, and mouth running, I’m telling this woman about my mom and how she had a stroke, and that I’ve been her recovery sidekick since December. And I was just spouting off about how even though it’s been a hard season that it’s actually been a blessing that’s brought us closer and strengthened our family.
And after I felt the release of the tourniquet and the relief of the bandaid, I opened my eyes, only to find this sweet nurse with tears running down her cheeks.
She could barely find the words, she just silently cried, nodded, and pointed to herself.
She proceeded to tell me about how she had some sort of brain issue on one half of her brain, and that she had finally saved up enough money and scheduled the surgery, but that she hadn’t told her kids yet, because she was afraid of how they were going to take the news.
She just poured her soul out to me, as though it had been bottled up for weeks, just waiting to explode.
I stood up and gave her the biggest hug I could, and we just stood there for about 45 seconds, in a bear hug – her big bosom shaking through sobs.
I don’t know what came over me, but I whispered to her that God was going to get her though it. And I told her that I would be praying for her.
She just looked at me and smiled. “We were supposed to meet today,” she said.
Driving home, I couldn’t help but feel incredibly trivial that I was so concerned over a silly little needle, when that kind woman was grappling with a burdened heart and spirit.
And it just made me realize how, so many people are walking around with incredible pain and fear. And how, sometimes, all they need is someone to share it with…even if it’s just an arm on the other end of the needle.
I didn’t do anything earth shattering that afternoon. I just listened, and gave her a hug.
Because sometimes, a hug communicates everything the other person needs to hear.
The fact is, we can make a difference. We can be a light to someone in the dark. And it starts with the people that God places in our lives — even the people administering the needle of doom…God places people in our lives for a reason — sometimes for our benefit, and as it turns out, sometimes for theirs.
So she was right – we really were supposed to meet that day.
Thanks God. Thanks for letting something good come from that interaction.
***A little update:
Well, I wrote this post from my apartment in NYC. I’m going to be here for 3-ish weeks, and then hop back and forth, splitting time between NY and Ohio 🙂 At least that’s the plan for now…Thank you all for your prayers and encouragement during this transition.
Oh…and the results of that blood test and my Ulcerative Colitis check up? — 100% healthy
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232 responses to “Blood Ties”
I know I have said this a dozen times but I just love it! God puts all His children right where He wants them to be. I love reading how amazing His hand is at guiding us straight to who needs us or who we need, right when we or they need it! Thanking Him also that your tests came back clear, and saying a prayer for that sweet lady God sent you to help, and her surgery. God bless you! 🙂
Thanks so much Margaret! you’re so right — God knows what we need and will put the people in our lives to fulfill it! yes! lots to be thankful for. thanks for this. big hugs xox
Back at you! Always big hugs xoxo
Great news on your health. I have ulcerative colitis as well so I definitely understand the celebration in that. Sounds like you have so much to celebrate. God is working in your life! Thank you for sharing your story with the world. Your light makes a difference!
Thanks Tammy! Yes I’m so grateful for that news. I’m so sorry that you know the woes of UC too. Have you heard of the Specific Carb Diet? I’ve been following it for nearly 5 years and it has kept me in remission! Thanks for stopping by and for your kind words. Will definitely be keeping you in my prayers! Big hugs xox
Thank you! I don’t follow the Specific Carb diet, but I do gluten free and I am really mindful of what I eat and it does make a huge difference. I will look into the Specific Carb diet. I am always open to what may help me feel better! Thank you!
Oh good! Yeah it’s amazing how Diet can really make a huge difference for those with IBD!! sending massive hugs 🙂
Thank you again. You continue to bless others. God bless you and congrats on the clean blood work.
Thanks so much. Gosh I am humbled by your kind words. Yeah lots to be grateful for. God is good! Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox
Part of my having had an “interesting” life thus far is that people have told me their secrets and burdens since I was a child. I think I don’t need to be anyone special for this except to be a good listener and to keep the secrets secret. This may be my “mission in life,” but it’s not difficult if I don’t judge people.
That’s such a great quality to have: not judging others is what we should strive to do. 🙂 thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
I am an atheist, I don’t believe in the relevance of god on this, but what a great difference you made today! People can be good regardless of what they believe.
Thanks Andrew! Yeah I was so grateful I could listen when they needed an ear. sometimes a person just needs a hug:) thanks for stopping by! Xox
Hugs are underrated! Sometimes people dont need advice or an answer, they just need someone to listen.
That’s so true!! 👂👂👂
If you haven’t read it, Henri Nouwen’s “The Wounded Healer” might be of interest. It’s a wonderful meditation on your experience today: because we experience our own wounds, we are better able to minister to others. It’s a stunningly beautiful book, all the more so since it helped me convince myself that all the time I spend in addiction and actively running from God could have a larger purpose and that I can be a better minister because of those many painful years.
Glad to hear your mother is doing well enough for you to travel to NYC! If you like, come to the Church of St. Paul the Apostle on 59th and 9th, right by Columbus Circle (shameless plug). That’s the Paulist Fathers Mother Church and where I’m serving this summer.
Hi Rich, thank you so much for passing that book along – I’ll definitely check it out! And how awesome! If I’m in the neighborhood I’ll have to stop by! Thanks for your powerful perspective! Hugs and love xox
You are an angel on earth. You are one who has beautiful things to say, who touches others so deeply, and who is one that others can literally kneel before and let out their tears too. You are a light that no NYC blackout can ever darken. You glow like every color of the rainbow!! xoxoxoxoxo
Oh my gosh, you are just too kind!! Seriously, Migueltio – you have absolutely made me smile from ear to ear. Thank you. And thanks for reading all my posts tonight 🙂 have a great rest of your evening xox
Hey I gotta bring out those precious dimples!! You always make me smile!! 🙂 🙂 Its always a pleasure to read you blog!! xoxo
Hahaha awww happy pre-Friday my wonderful friend 🙂
You too! 🙂
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Big believer in “everything happens for a reason” – she needed a shoulder and there you were….sometimes we all need a shoulder.
Thanks so much 🙂 I agree – everything happens for a reason. 🙂 thanks for stopping by! Sending big hugs xox
Encouraging as always tho
Thanks 🙂 big hugs xox
I’m sure you touch lives more than you will ever realize. What a wonderful post!
Wow, what an incredibly kind thing to say. Thank you. So much. Hope you’re having a great evening! Hugs and love xox
Peace my friend.
Hey Caralyn. I believe that all who are serving Jesus have Divine Appointments, and when you had one of these Appointments in the Doctor’s office, you knew it, and knew what to do. You heard God, listened to the nurse talk and cry, and gave a big hug. Many times those are the best things you can do for someone.
This shows, and proves, the special lady, special person, woman of God you are.
We are all blessed by knowing you. I can’t even imagine how blessed the people are who know you personally, and actually have a face to face relationship with you, sitting down over a meal, tea, or coffee, or in a Bible Study.
God’s Peace as you will be in NYC for a while, away from your Mom and Dad, may your mind and spirit rest in Jesus Christ. Praying the Comfort of Holy Spirit be within each of you, and your Mom continues to strengthen.
An appointment at an appointment 🙂 hehe thank you so much George. I think you’re right – sometimes a hug is the best thing you need. Thank you your incredibly
Kind words. I am truly touched. Thank you. Thanks for your continued prayers. You’re a great friend 🙂 Hugs and love xox
We troubled ones seem to have some sort of bond. just back from a Ascension Day dinner at my church and just by chance at my table of 6, two women and three man (Me included) had lost our spouces in the last year. Maybe God wanted us to all sit at the same table. We are not pleasant company for people not on the Grief journey.
Oh gosh, wow. I definitely think God brought you all together for a reason. I hope it was a healing and comforting gathering 🙂 thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox
That is so. Beautiful. Father is so beautiful, and so perfect in his timing and placement of us. It kind of makes me think, the way things just happen and so many times it just seems like a freak accident, like what if you hadn’t just babbled, that whole encounter would’ve been different. It comes as a great comfort to me to know that Father can and does live through us even when (and maybe especially when) we aren’t particularly conscious of it. Maybe that’s the result of all the conscious time we spend with him, asking to be used, or maybe it’s just the willing spirit of our ignorance? Haha, whatever the case….thank-you Father for not being limited by me.
Congrats on that great result! Happy pre-weekend! (:
Thanks so much Carson! Yes! He really is so perfect in His timing. He always gives His kids exactly what they need. Amen thank you Father! And also- a big thank you to Him for a clean bill of health!! Have a great night! Hugs and love xox
I don’t know, man. I never ask for anything. I used to, when I was small. God, gave me life it’s not, the easiest. Never has been.
Thanks for sharing that, Kenzie. Yeah, it’s hard to understand why things are how they are. Sending so much love xox
Hard lives are short lived, thankfully. Maybe, I’m just not one of God’s. The Natives were always the heathens. It’s okay, I mean I never was good to keep score. I always thought, well God must be busy I’ll help my neighbor, friend, stranger.
All I know is that we each hold a precious place in God’s heart 🙂
You can have my place. I’ll go back to the fields and dig and work. Send money home like the others God forgets.
Thanks so much Barton! Hugs and love xox
Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, proclaiming the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. When he saw the crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without a shepherd. Then He said to his disciples, “The harvest is plentiful but the workers are few. Ask the Lord of the harvest to send out more workers into His harvest field.” Matthew 9:35-38
Thank you so much! That’s so true – I love that verse. It brings so much comfort. God is good! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
I have the great good fortune to be disfigured, so it has always been obvious to me that what draws people to me is my surrender to the purpose of allowing love’s light into the world. It was only in my fifties that I realized love IS God, but that’s because I’m not terribly wise…
Allowing love’s light into the world. wow – now that is a beautiful thing to do. thanks so much for sharing that, Brian. I would have to agree — you DO bring that light!! it shines through you and your words 🙂 big hugs xo
There are a few things you really got your arms around here, and I enjoyed it all very much. Detailed comments over where the Cool People hang out!! 🙂
Thanks Jeff. Hahah yes! The cool people hang out Hahahaha looking forward to reading your thoughts. Happy pre Friday! Hugs and love xox
I’m glad my comments resonated with you. Remember the Tiffany lamp image? That’s how beautiful we all are when we have God’s “light bulb” shining from within. I couldn’t help thinking of the older gentlemen at the grocery you wrote about some time ago. Another example of someone else seeing your light on.
Thank you for the affirmation that you see His light in me! There are days when I’m not too sure! God blesses us in at least two ways, doesn’t He? He blesses us with His ministry to those who don’t yet know Him and with His ministry to our “team mates” in Christ, bolstering each other in our faith.
My week started poorly, but ended very well yesterday, so, just like a bad movie with a good ending, it gets a decent review! HA! I’ll make home early afternoon today, and will see my Shweebie Pie when she gets home from work (don’tcha just love pet names?)
I trust NYC has your battery almost fully charged! God bless you, my friend! Big hugs to you!!
I do love that Tiffany lamp imagery. So beautiful. And good! I’m glad that your week ended better than it started! Same to you, I hope you have a great long weekend! Hugs and love xox
Great! You found your answer. Also great you are healthy. Even greater, you can release pain of other people. Not many can do the same. Without being trivial, I think this is a great gift. Keep on helping others.
Thanks! Yes, I’m feeling at peace with this decision 🙂 thank you for your encouragement and support. Means the world 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Let me just say, I love reading your posts. God is using you in so many ways. I believe He places us where He needs us to help others by sharing our stories. So thankful your blood work came back great 😊
Oh my gosh what a kind thing to say. Thank you so much. You’re right – our stories can be used by Him! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Helping others heals the soul! ☺️
Yes it does!! Thanks Roda! Hugs and love xox
Yeah I know their is a lot of people scare of needles but I don’t mind needles, but we all scare of something and that what make us human.
Hah yeah. That does make us human. Thanks! Hugs and love xox
Glad you made it safe, and yes God knows what he been doing. Many Blessings
Thanks so much:) yes- I’m going to trust Him!! 🙂 Hugs and love xox
You very much.. he won’t let you down…
Thank you so much:) have a great night xox
Thank you for reminding us that there are times when, “God planned we would meet today.’
Oh good I’m glad you enjoyed it 🙂 thank you. Hugs and love xox
I LOVE this. Thanks so much for writing so beautifully! It’s so true that sometimes if it’s heavy, we should stop carrying it. Thanks for the reminder to be open to sharing the burden with others who are hurting!
Aw thank you so much! Yes! We can help lighten the load! Hugs and love xox
Yes..needles 😭😭 I’m having a local on the 13th to deal with a toenail issue 😂😭 Seriously not looking forward it. But I feel after the other days events in Manchester these things feel so small 😟
Oh no! I’ll say a prayer for you:) that’s really true – a powerful perspective. Hugs and love xox
Love, love, love this story! God uses us in the most unexpected ways sometimes! By the way, I’ve loved reading over a few of your posts…I struggled with Anorexia as a preteen. I love your boldness to share your victories and your vulnerabilities. Keep shining your light!!
Thanks so much Courtney! Yeah it was a really special moment. I’m sorry we have that as a common thread in our pasts but I’m so glad we’re both in freedom! Hugs and love xox
God places us where we are needed. One of my favorite things is to remind myself that it does not matter where God plants us, Bloom with grace!
thanks so much 🙂 Bloom with grace. I absolutely love that. thanks for stopping by. hugs xox
So so true. A hug, a smile, a connection etc goes a very long way. Truly. You’re a blessing
You’re right – those little kindnesses go a realllllly long way. thanks for the encouragement. 🙂 big hugs xo
Hugs to you also. 💛
So glad everything work out find for you.
Blessing to you and your family!
Thanks so much Rose! I really appreciate it!! yes, lots to be grateful for 🙂 big hugs xo
Awww, sweet friend, I am so proud of you! For the decision to split time (great though exhausting compromise- you got this) with your mom and home 2 and to listen and show love and just be open like that. I cannot help but think that God looks at you, drops down little diamonds and smiles so big! 🙂
Thanks so much Tonya 🙂 You’re so kind to share in the excitement with me. oh gosh, what a comforting image — that just brought a big smile to my face to think of God looking at me from Heaven with love. Thanks for saying that 🙂 big hugs xo
“Because sometimes a hug communicates everything….” ❤️
Yes it does!! Hugs and love xox
My dear friend,
What a lovely story with a deep background! When we become aware of the sufferings of other people then our own fear is getting less and less -as we are aware how brav other people are when facing a bigger operation or having heavy loads on their shoulders to bear, like sorrow with pain, kids, partner, money and so on – and as you did: your own fear become small but your heart opened and poured humanity over the nurse through a compassionate hug – my friend, this is exactly what we all need: to help each other in our sufferings – then sufferings are shared and weigh only half the weight as when suffering lonesome.
God has surely arranged this kind of meeting and it is a practical example for all of us.
Thanks for sharing and have a nice weekend
Thank you so much Didi. You’re so right- when we live, keeping others in mind, it is a powerful thing. We were created to help and love one another. Thanks for your kind words. Hugs and love xox
I love it – as always!
You are a blessing and a great encourager. ☺
And the good news is that we can all encourage others if we look – and pray – for opportunities.
Imagine what kind of world we would have if we all did that!
Why, it would be heaven on earth! And isn’t that part of what it means to pray “Your kingdom come… on earth…” What fun to be part of the answer to that prayer!
Thanks once more for sharing your life with us and being an encouragement and a blessing.
Thanks Stephen! Gosh you are too kind. Thank you for your generous words. I think you’re right! It’d be heaven on earth indeed. Thanks for always being so encouraging. You’re a great friend! Hugs and love xox
❤❤❤❤hehehe hugs to you too!!
Thank you for sharing this moving story Caralyn – reinforces the view that we can use our experiences, however challenging to help others.
Thank you so much:) yeah it was too powerful of an interaction not to share:) have a great weeekend! Hugs and love xox
I am drawn to your blogs time and time again, they are inspirational. . You come over as a very warm, amazing soul. Keep spreading the love of Christ to everyone you meet. Big Jesus hugs to you!
Wow what a kind thing to say!! Thank you so much, I am humbled by your generous words. Thanks for those hugs:) right back at’cha! Hugs and love xox
It is an absolute pleasure reading your blog posts. I enjoy them a great deal. I hope you have a blessed weekend this holiday.
Oh my gosh that is such a kind thing to say!! Thank you so much! I’m so glad you enjoy them! Same to you:) Hugs and love xox
Absolutely. Happy Memorial Day.
Hope you have some fun planned.
I do! It’s a friend’s birthday, so that should be fun 🙂 what about you!?
I have absolutely nothing planned with anyone.
Well then I hope you enjoy some relaxation! 😁
I appreciate the thought Thank you. No different then any other weekend I’m afraid.
Reminds me of a book I read, The Great Dance, by C. Baxter Kruger. In it, he talks about how we all participate with God as he interacts with a with people. In wanting to comfort this woman the Lord brings you along to participate. That’s a simplification that doesn’t do the book justice. But you are right about God wanting you there for her. And she was right about both of your destinies to meet that day. God is awesome!
Thanks Tony! Sounds like an awesome book. I’ll definitely have to check it out. Thanks for passing it along! Hugs and love xox
That is so beautiful!! Divine appointment!
Thanks Dan! Yes! A divine appointment indeed. Hugs and love xox
I guess this kind of answers “why?” to some things. All this time, you were being prepared for this moment. Who knows where it all ends? We only know that God is in this life even in the smallest details.
I absolutely love that — God is in the details. Amen to that! What a powerful thought. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Hello Pastor! You have written another beautiful message which you can easily convert to one of your sermons! As a Gentle Witness, I remind people to listen, then listen some more. Your meeting was a God-event, not coincidence! Thank you! I am praying for you and your family! Say hi to your Mom for me! Ps; l closed and re-opened my blog all in a period of 2 days! It is open while under constuction! I hope you will wander by, in your spare time 😊
Hey Rick! Listen and listen some more. I love that advice so much. Thanks for your prayers and kind words (as always) 🙂 very grateful for you! Hugs and love xox
Thanks San 🙂 ✨✨✨✨Hugs and love xox
hugs and love 🦋💛💜💛🦋
That is an amazing story. I believe with all my Heart, that God puts us in the paths of those that we can encourage, and also get encouragement from. We have such a bigger purpose in life, if we would only get out of our own way and let God direct it. Thank you for sharing this story. Also, I am happy to hear your health is on track!
Thanks friend 🙂 I agree – I think our paths cross with people for a reason. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
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You never know when God is going to turn your trials, into a blessing for someone else.
Thanks for the reblog! Hugs and love xox
My pleasure! You reminded me of something that I had forgotten. God can use even our worse trials to bless others.
So glad to hear that the checkup went well , praise God always . Yes, God always sends Angels among us, as the old song by Alabama says. GOD always knows what we need before we know. It could be anyone, even a stranger. Prayers always for you and your mother. Keep on blogging and Praising God. I Love it!
Thanks friend 🙂 yeah it was a really special interaction. Thanks for your kind words! Hugs and love xox
Why don’t you write about fire or something cool! Blood draws are not cool! I’m trying to understand the title of your article and how it relates to your subject matter. Can you help me out? I mean, is it because you got blood on the ties of your Reebok shoes? Killer shorts, though. I keep looking for some ’70s style running shorts for running, and around here the businesses just deny deny deny as though basketball were the only actual true bona fide sport for humanity.
hahah blood on my Reeboks, now that’s funny…nah, what tied that woman and my spirit’s together in that moment was literally her taking my blood. maybe a little too abstract?
Well,okay, I’ll take that. Blood ties is usually family of a direct line. My argument is that for the premise to hold, that is, your pun, to literally hold, you would need a long-term relationship with this woman. And maybe I’m wrong, and maybe your hug was more than just a “hug”, but I’m just a man who questions everything, even the littlest details of some not-so-obscure blogger’s puns.
To make the pun fully and legitimately accurate, tying both the vial and needle to blood family lines would take a lot of work. That’s why it is often said, Easier said than done. You wrote once that a woman can do all a man can do–and more. I guess I just expected more of you. Unless, of course you and this nurse become and are intending to become eternal friends, legiti blood lines, as it were in a celestial sense. I don’t mean to judge too hastily, and maybe those were your intents, an eternal friendship bond of sorts with a nurse who draws blood. That was why I asked. But I only speak as I see, and question accordingly. As per differentiate between truth and error, between solid and falsehood, between gospel and Apostasy. I hope you understand. If not, you are free to attack.
Caution: friendships for eternity are NOT an issue to be taken lately. As may in saying, to “cast your pearls before swine, or that which us holy unto dogs, lest they turn and rend you.”
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate it. Just a title 🙂
It’s always so nice to hear two strangers helping each other. I’m so glad your test results came back negative!
Thanks Alleh! Yes! I have a lot to be grateful for 🙂 thanks for stopping by! big hugs xox
This post gave me chills. I’ll be praying for that amazing lady. You have such a kind heart. It’s so amazing the way the Lord uses us to spread His light and love!
oh my gosh, you’re so kind to say that. Thanks again, Robyn! You’re on a reading roll! haha 🙂 thanks again for the prayers. know that you’re in mine too! hugs xo
You’re welcome!! Haha yes! I hadn’t had a chance to read your posts right when you posted them this week so I wanted to get caught up! Thank you!! 😊 Huge hugs right back!!
You’re so sweet. Thanks again 🙂 ❤
I seem to recall ANOTHER post very recently where “we were supposed to meet today” came about…think God is telling you something 🙂
Hi Jeff! I know! All these purposeful meetings! There must be something in the water!! haha hugs xox
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Hi Michael! Thanks for the reblog! hugs xox
What a great story and a great reminder to think about what other people may be going through. You were definitely supposed to meet that woman on that day. It’s great you opened up to her, and she to you.
Thanks Nick 🙂 Yeah, I was so glad that our paths crossed that day. thanks for your encouragement. big hugs xox
You gave a PERFECT demonstration of something I got in prayer last week. I was complaining a bit about feeling and seeing God’s love. I mean by faith I know it’s there and I do get occasional hugs (I don’t know how else to say it; I feel God’s embrace). But it’s not all the time.
As I asked for that I was instantly reminded of all the times God’s love flows THROUGH me – just like what happened in this case with you. It’s like we’re his pipes if you will. The love isn’t given to us only for us to feel warm and connected, it’s to reach out and give 45-second hugs just like you did.
Good job, Caralyn, you are God’s hand extended. Even when you don’t know it or expect it.
Oh gosh thank you so much 🙂 His pipes … I love that 🙂 thanks for such kind words. I am truly touched. God is good and isn’t it a comfort to know that He can always reach us through one another 🙂 Hugs and love xox
People often feel that it takes something profound to make them reconsider things. I’m such a person
Stories are a great mechanism to put a frame around our own. Like you were saying, we can carry our own heavy baggage for so long. There’s a story behind what the next person did to lessen their burden and I believe you’re the type to tell someone yours (like you have) to inspire someone else to do the same. Personally, I think nurses who draw blood or ghoulish vampires so I can personally identify with your reservations about them and their… prodding… nature.
Anyway, this one is a good read too! It’s amazing to see how something seemingly routine or unimportant can bring about a heavyweight fight between a bully and the little guy/girl. Even more amazing to see the underdog make the bully realize that even they can be victims and the cherry is watching them lay down their burdens because they can do the same.
“In my experience, prayer is pretty iffy as a battle plan. But I’ll also say this, if you need a miracle, there’s nothing like it.” -Bruce Campbell as Sam Axe: Burn Notice “The Fall of Sam Axe.”
Thanks so much Kevin 🙂 you’re so right – we can only carry the baggage for so long on our own. Isn’t it awesome to know that God puts people in our paths to alleviate the load. Thanks for stopping by 🙂 Hugs and love xox
So AWESOME!! Jesus! 🙌🏽❤️
I loved what one of the things said “if your load is too heavy, stop carrying it” so good!
Let your light burn my friend!! 🔥🙌🏽🤘🏽😀❤️🙏🏽
Oh my gosh thank you so much 🙂 you too my friend! ✨✨✨✨Hugs and love xox
you two definitely crossed paths for a reason that day! ..i haven’t been online in a while but your blogs always evoke emotion within me!
Thanks friend 🙂 aw that’s so kind of you to say. I’m so glad you enjoy reading them! Hugs and love xox
What an encouraging post! It seems people are so willingly to be open with you since you are so open with them! Keep going, God will keep using you. –E.R. Peters 🙂
Thanks so much ER! What a kind thing to say! Hugs and love xox
I Love the way you write, you make me Smile. <3
Oh my gosh what a kind thing to say!! Thank you!! Have a great weekend! Hugs and love xox
Beautiful, you know, God uses hearts that aren’t afraid to show that they have been wounded and are fragile because those are the hearts that others sense can be trusted with their “heart” and their fears, and worries, without fear of judgment or being ridiculed. I truly believe this is only the beginning of what He will do through you! God Bless you. And you are truly beautiful inside and out and love is the most powerful weapon against the darkness of this world.
Thank you so much N. I love that thought: hearts that aren’t afraid to show they’ve been wounded or broken – that is such a beautiful thought. Thank you for sharing that with me, and for your wonderfully kind words. Sending big hugs xox
Chosen for such a time as this, this is your season Caralyn! I love to read about how God is working through you in a sweet and subtle way and your openness to His leading. It really is as simple as taking the time to listen. Glad your check up was healthy!
Thanks so much Terese. Gosh that’s a kind thing to say:) you’re right- listening is a big thing. And thank you – I am very grateful for that clean bill of health! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
YAYYY on getting clean blood results, I don’t like needles much either. I am glad you decided what to do with the whole moving thing…..going through a similar situation right now 🙂
Thanks so much! Yeah a lot to be grateful for, with the clean bill of health 🙂 good luck as you transition to a new chapter as well! I’ll be thinking about you!! 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Hi Caralyn – your story reminds me of a famous quote…”Be kind, because every person you encounter is fighting a hard battle you know nothing about”…thanks for sharing and God’s peace be with you!
Thanks! Oh I know that quote well. It’s actually one of my favorites. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
As I am actually going through my own tribulations with a head injury as well, this story hit home for me. Our God has called us to rejoice in our trials, as they bring endurance, which thus brings character, which then brings hope fulfilled by righteousness in Jesus (Rom.5:1-11) Thank you for sharing this, as it has only given me additional belief that God’s will shall be done in my life.
Oh gosh I’m so sorry to hear your going through that! I think you’re right- it builds character. Will be praying for your complete healing! Hugs and love xox
Hi… I’m a few days behind on blogs…
Such a sweet story. It’s so nice when you can connect with a stranger like that.
It’s a nice contrast to something I experienced in 2004 at the place I call on my blog “Church II With The Problems.” I was accused of acting inappropriately, based on rumors, half-truths, and people taking things way out of context, and after that happened but before I left, I had a lot of conversations about what happened and why people thought I was acting inappropriately. One of my “friends,” in one of those conversations, told me that the reason people don’t like me and are turned off is because I tell them too much. When people ask me how I’m doing, I actually tell them how I’m doing, and they don’t want to hear that. People just want me to say fine as a formality, not talk about my day.
People I’d been in a Bible study with for over a year at this time.
It’s true that people are this shallow, but it’s sad.
Out of curiosity, did this doctor’s visit happen in Ohio or New York City?
Oh I’m so sorry to hear that, Pi. That’s never a good feeling when we feel we can’t be open with our friends. I’m sorry you had to walk that road. I think sharing your heart is a beautiful quality 🙂 It was in Ohio 🙂 thanks for stopping by! hugs xx
How do I get a copy
Hi Kobe! thanks for asking, I’ll definitely let everyone know when/where it can be purchased! 🙂 thanks for your interest!! hugs xo
Truly gave me chills. God puts us in the path of others, and they in ours for a reason. You were her angel that day.
thank you so much 🙂 gosh, what a kind thing to say. i was just a hug at the right time 🙂 but i do thank God that our paths crossed that day at such an important time for her. that was a blessing for sure. thanks for stopping by! hugs xox
What a good reminder that we are social beings and need to have each other’s interests at heart in order to function at our fullest potential.
Thanks so much Ian 🙂 You’re right – that leas us to our fullest potential! thanks for stopping by! hugs xox
great story, I too am an open book and sometimes it worries my family…I have gotten into wonderful discussions with people. I am glad to hear your health is good…:)
Thanks Katie! I really appreciate your kind words. Yes! Love that you share your heart:) Hugs and love xox
wow nice story, God just has a way of doing things, strange but that’s God for you. I wonder if there is a way I could contact you.
Thanks so much! You’re right- God does have a way. Thanks for your kind words. Hugs and love xox
Good news on your health 👍
Thanks David! Yes! Lots to be grateful for 🙂 Hugs and love xox
Great read and what a great feeling you put in my heart this morning. I truly look forward to reading your blog – especially Monday morning! Now to comment – Congratulations on the Health Check and Blood work report!!! Praise God for that!!!!!
I like how you put it “I didn’t do anything earth shattering that afternoon. I just listened, and gave her a hug”. Oh but you did do something earth shattering – you opened the door for that conversation and confession of self guilt – that’s more that most people do in a day! People do not like to hold things in and you (and God) were there – just in time. Secondly, people can often sense Honesty, Truth and Integrity in a person – which in turn causes them to open up and begin a conversation……. involuntarily. Kinda almost like a spontaneous utterance. Again – praise God for that!
Keep up the good work, stay strong in your faith and thanks for letting us follow along in your daily life and recovery. Glad to know that you are keeping your ties with Ohio close at hand. It might be inconvenient, but I think it’s a good solid decision!
Thank you so much! That’s really kind of you to say. Sometimes a hug is the best thing you can give a person. Praise God indeed. Hugs and love xox
This totally spoke to me today. First, I am a neuro ICU nurse. I specialize in strokes, TIAs, brain injuries and the fact you are her recovery partner makes me tear up. It is SOO IMPORTANT!
second- I hate the doctor too… I work with them daily… I hate going and hearing about myself.
thirdly- all the blood work.. It’s awful. I ask for them to use the smallest needle possible and distract me.
I totally understand this and I’m sorry about your mom.
Thanks friend. I so appreciate your kind words and advice and encouragement. Same! I always ask for a baby needle haha Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Such a sweet soul story! Thanks for sharing! Nice finding your blog today! Light and Love, Shona
Thanks Shona. I appreciate you stopping by! Have an awesome day! Hugs and love xox
Excellent post, and an excellent moment to share to show us how even the most “trivial” moments are far from that, how you coped invited this profound moment into the lives of two good humans. Thank you for sharing.
Thanks S 🙂 I really appreciate that. Yeah, sometimes even the smallest of moments can have a big impact 🙂 thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Happy to visit! Have a good night. Day begins here just off the equator on the other side of the world. 🙂
(Not sure I responded… hmmm) but right now life feels pretty epic. Hold on to it while you can right?
I pinch myself from time to time
Truly inspiring post this is. Bottling disturbing issues inside only puts a burden on one’s spirit which is supposed to travel light by default. You helped that woman that day offload the weight she had being carrying, “just” by lending an ear. It’s what makes you human. You aren’t “super-nonthreatening”, instead you’ve got a welcoming spirit. Keep lighting up the world.
thanks Gerard. I really appreciate that. you’re right – sometimes we all just need a listening ear. thanks xox
You’re most welcome. True, sometimes it’s all that is needed . . . “listening ears” do save lives.
Yep, you were meant to meet to encourage her and let her know that God is in everything. Wow! What a beautiful testimony.
Hey T! Aw thank you so much. Yes! He is in everything and will bring good from everything! Hugs and love xox
Amen. Keep being an encouragement. On Thu, May 25, 2017 at 4:00 PM BeautyBeyondBones wrote:
> beautybeyondbones posted: “I had an experience the other day that really > stuck with me: an encounter that stayed in my soul. Ever since my mom’s > stroke, I feel like people can sense something different about me. It’s > like, I’m walking around with this neon sign that says, Tell me ” >
Thanks Gary:) appreciate it. Hugs and love xox
Such truth! It’s so great to hear of people who acknowledge the importance of a kind heart and kind words! Blessings! 💕
thanks so much! yes! kindness is so important 🙂 hugs xo
I love this, I had an experience like this once, I was in school waiting in line to get a school ID, I started talking to this girl I’d just met, & we bonded & she told me how she has been suffering from depression since 2005 & was finally graduating!
She told me that it has taken over ten years to graduate but she’s happy because she has finally managed to control depression. She gave me great tips on managing college life & I was really grateful to get insight from her!
I think most of us are wrapped up in out struggles & it can be hard to be vulnerable & open up to people. I thought your post was beautiful, I really enjoyed it, thanks!
thank you so much. Wow, what a powerful interaction. it sounds like your willingness to listen was a real gift to her! thanks for stopping by~ hugs xo
A small encounter. Hardly trivial. – Oscar
🙂 thanks again, Oscar. hugs xoxo
Sounds like you may be Empathic, perhaps a light/soundworker. There are a
few legit tests out there that can help you.
Wow! You’re indeed an incredibly strong woman! I cannot imagine the pain you must have felt going through those flairs.
And thank you once again for your posts. Once again, I found comfort in many little things you said in this and the UC posts. I am more and more convinced the more of your posts I read, that God is speaking to me through you and your stories. I’m so grateful I found your blog. Big e-hugs to you and a big, but thank you. I also hope and pray your mom keeps getting better and better every day.
Thank you so much 🙂 oh my gosh I am humbled at that thought! I’m glad that these words resonate with you so much! And thanks for your prayers. It really means a lot. Hugs and love xox
Truly an inspiring post. Keep your head up Princess!
thanks so much Britney 🙂 I appreciate your encouragement! hugs xox
inspiring! everything happens for a reason! keep encouraging others ! <3
I so agree, Sophie. Everything for a reason! Hugs and love xox
I really appreciate all you are doing on your blog. My grandma died of anorexia long before there were wonderful places of sharing like your blog. Thank you! I nominated you for a blogging award..couldn’t quite find where to tell you: https://siplifeslowly.com/2017/06/07/nominated-for-a-blogging-award/
Wow thank you so much for sharing that. Gosh I’m so sorry to hear about your grandmother. Sending all my love xox
I just read this because I’ve been slacking on reading blogs lately. But this made me smile so big! I love how God uses us!
Aw thanks! So glad it made you smile! Hugs and love xox
I’ve gotten behind in reading your posts which is sad for two reasons. First, I’ve been missing your amazing stories about God on the move in your life. I like to think of God’s work in the world as a stream. He invites us to step into the stream and be part of his amazing grace. Maybe don’t downplay your part (I mean you get super bonus points for the MKG reference and super, super, bonus points for the Anne reference). You were willing to be present, to not withdraw or patronize, and be God’s agent of love; that’s tremendously huge.
Second, reading several of your blogs at once will make it challenging for me to be totally brilliant as usual. I will do my best.
Thank you so much Brad! you’re so right – He invites us into the stream — i love that imagery so much. thanks for sharing 🙂 aw, i hope you enjoy the read!! you’re awesome! hugs xox
Such an uplifting article to read! Thank you ❤️
Thanks Indigo! I’m so glad you think so! big hugs x