Words from A Wise Woman…

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This post, is from my mom.

The day after I returned to NYC, I woke up to find this beautiful letter from my mom waiting for me in my inbox.

She asked me to put in on the blog.

And I’m going to be honest, I’m getting anxiety hives thinking about pressing “publish” because…I don’t like writing positive things about myself. But I’m fulfilling the wishes of my mother.

So without further ado….

 

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“Well,this is it. This is the time I’ve been waiting for.

Time to say thanks to my biggest helper and supporter during the last 5 months since my stroke.

Now that you’re back to your life in NYC, it’s time to thank you: Caralyn!

My life has CHANGED! Since my stroke on Dec. 27th, I’ve had to learn how to talk, follow conversation, and ask questions. It’s been hard.

But I have to say, that you, Caralyn have been the most significant helper, loving helper, cheerful and goofy helper, and Christ-Centered helper that I could have been blessed with. 

So over the past five months, not only has MY life changed, but YOUR life changed, Caralyn. Especially you. When I had my stroke, you were home for Christmas. We were all out having dinner with friends when it happened. You were right by my side that night and from then on. You gave up your job, moved home and cared for your confused mom.

Everyday, you put a smile on your face and led me out the door to workout. You let me drive everywhere, to get used to….everything! You made delicious meals, made sure we had the ingredients to make everything. You had questions that you’d thought about, which you’d ask me on our daily walks, to get me talking about things that I held important. Your character is what I will always remember about these past five months. It’s remarkable. And appreciated. 

You’re always positive! Always purposeful!

You spent many evenings with me as I sat on the couch, not being able to say much. But having you there made things joyful. 

You know, I think you’re beautiful. And I hope you know how grateful I am. Saying “Thank you” doesn’t seem like enough! 

But :

Thanks for helping me get my speech back.

Thanks for making the meals and cleaning the kitchen.

Thanks for doing the grocery shopping.

Thanks for taking me to all my speech therapy appointments.

Thanks for going clothes shopping with me.

Thanks for taking walks with me and working out.

Thanks for spending long hours and doing nothing with me.

And mostly, thanks for just being you. God is amazing how he’s given us this incredible time to grow together in appreciation of health, well being, speech, but most of all, in appreciation of each other.

This has been an incredible journey that I’ve shared with my best friend; you. Thanks for being here, and being you, Care. I love you. 

-Mom”

Mom, thank you. I wish I could put into words the depth of love I have for you in my heart. You are my mom and my best friend and I thank God for you every day.

Reading this, I don’t feel I deserve these glowing words, as I was only doing what you have done for me every day of my life.

This chapter is not closing. It is no where near “finished.” And if I’m being really honest, I’d say that it is, in fact, only just beginning.

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God has a way of using the pain and trials of our lives, and using them for good. Transforming the hurt into something beautiful. Something healing. Something that can be given away to others.

And I am waiting with baited breath to see how God will use this in your life. Because you’ve never been afraid to give. That’s one of the most beautiful things about you.

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We are never stagnant. Never sinking, but always growing. Evolving. Progressing. Some seasons, that growth is more obvious than others. But for you, it has been contagious.

As you’ve healed, that peace and strength has permeated everyone around you, myself included.

You are the catalyst. You are the change agent.

It is the Spirit in you.

Your stroke may have changed some things, but in my eyes, the only thing it has changed is it has heightened your power to move people. Resonate Christ’s love within their hearts.

You shine now, more than ever.

I love you, mom.

Shine on, mama. Shine on.

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375 thoughts on “Words from A Wise Woman…”

  3. Our beautiful god produces beautiful people. You and your mother are shining examples of this. Thank you for posting this. It’s an inspiration and a faith grower in so many ways. May God keep blessing you both.

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  9. My dear friend,

    Uff tears are running down my cheeks – I could feel your moms thankfulness and love and your love in return to your mom, it is like a stone fell into my heart and caused many ripples that touched me so much, vibrations of love that has also reached my heart. Beautiful, how God makes things happen, even if it looks bad at first sight – with the stroke to your mom He has put an evergreen twig between you and your mom – evergreen love!

    Thanks, my dear friend – I send you both, you and your mom, warm greetings from my heart.

    May God always hold His protecting hand over you and your family
    Didi

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    1. Thank you so much Didi, I really appreciate your prayers and kind words. I will definitely pass along your warm sentiments to my mom. Thank you. You’re right – God makes beautiful things happen – evergreen love – i absolutely love that 🙂 have a wonderful day, friend! hugs xo

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  12. God is amazing, you will always be a blessing to me, even when I feel I don’t deserve such a blessing 🙈🙊 I’m sure all those this your mum said you were came from both her and our amazing God ❤ you are one of the most loving human I honestly know, even to strangers you just beam off love to us, I wish every day to meet you at least once in my lifetime just to show how much you mean to me, the only thing we have in common I feel is our goofiness 😂 but you still talk to me like we been best friends for years 😍 I’m pretty sure I’ve only known you less than 2 years x
    Send lots of love, blessings and a massive hug to your mum from me, tell her everything she said was spot on, & thank her from me for the amazing blessing in my life which is Caralyn ❤ love you so much ❤

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    1. gosh Benjamin, thank you so much. I am seriously just blown away by your kind and generous words. I am so grateful for our friendship and that our paths crossed those nearly 2 years ago! You are a blessing to me, and I will absolutely pass those sentiments along to my mother 🙂 Have a beautiful Tuesday, friend. sending massive massive hugs xoxo 🙂

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  14. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful, personal letter from your Mother. It sounds as if you deserve all the kind words she shares about how you have been there for us. As a mother, we sacrifice so much for our kids, but how many step up with they need us.
    As a single mother since my boys were toddlers, and my daughter was 7, we were all very protective of each other. It is nice that I have them to lean on when needed and in turn I am always there even though they are now adults.
    Take every heartfelt word from your mother and embrace them, as she truly shows how much she loves and appreciates all you do for her.
    Thank you for sharing!!!

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  15. Awwww. How beautiful, how precious. That woman; your mama loves full of love for her precious daughter. Thank you for loving her and being able to take care of her💞

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  16. Don’t hesitate to toot your own horn. Sometimes it’s well-deserved. It doesn’t make you self-centered when you are only acknowledging something you’ve actually done. From your blog posts, it sounds like everything your mom said was true, and you deserve that praise. Everyone deserves – if not to be recognized by others – at least to recognize in themselves when they’ve done something worthwhile and when they have good qualities.
    So, don’t feel guilty for posting this. Take a little time to be proud of yourself. You deserve it.

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  17. Thank you so much for sharing! I know how it feels to be the sick one and I’m so glad you were there for your mom and that she was also able to show her gratitude. 🙂

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  18. Wow – A Mothers’ Love!!!! And just remember – she raised you 🙂
    Reminds me of my post “No Charge”. from a few days ago. There is no payment other than love in return that could ever repay what a Mother has given for their child.

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  20. This is so beautiful! His strength is perfected in our weakness. What a blessing to receive such a touching display of love. I know you struggled a little bit ago wondering if you were doing right for her, now you know just how right you were doing for her! God bless you and Mom! I can only imagine how happy it made her to write this to you and how happy you were to receive it! Much love and hugs xoxo

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  21. What a beautiful post! My favorite thing your mother said about you was that “you’re always purposeful.” What a great compliment. Love it. And how wonderful that God has used this terrible situation to make your mother-daughter relationship so special. I’m sure that’s just the start of the good that God is going to bring of this trial. (By the way, you look a lot like your mama…beautiful ladies!)

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    1. Thanks so much Courtney 🙂 heheh – we actually get that a lot, that we look link! Thank you so much for your kind words. you’re right – God has really made beauty from ashes 🙂 glad you stopped by! hugs xo

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  22. Oh this is beautiful, you two just ooze love all over the place (: ❤ it's so obvious your mother is (and rightly should be) so proud of you. Thank-you for sharing!

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  23. Wow! Elegant words from two elegant ladies. You and your mom are inspiring, to say the absolute least, and to say the absolute most would take more than simply words. You seriously had me in tears while reading this. 🙂

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  24. Truly beautiful, Caralyn. And uplifting to someone who is going through some pretty rough stuff. Nice to know some good can come of such difficulties. I’m very happy for both of you!

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  25. Very well​ done!

    Advice is that you hold onto that letter; it will come in handy when you are feeling the opposite of charitable and supportive, because even if you’re feeling that way, the letter will prove what you’re really like. Which is a greatly supportive and kind.

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  29. I’m so very glad you shared this letter from your Mamma! Thank you. It made me smile! I think it so very beautiful as you are now back in NY! God Bless you in the next phase of life for you both, and so glad to hear that you mamma is doing so well.

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  30. You and your mom are blessed to have such a relationship. I know you know this, but it’s worth stating again and again.

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  31. Perspective is everything! That your mother can count this as a blessing….she is indeed wise! And what a blessing for you to hear these words, that while they are a “thank you”, also sound like a blessing that she is speaking over your life. May you always be positive, and may you always be purposeful!

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  32. Geeeeez, I read this at work this morning. It’s a good thing I go in so early that I’m alone for the first hour. I had tears in my eyes as I read this. What a great letter and post. You both are blessed to have each other. We’re blessed that you share things like this with us.
    Best wishes to your mom 🙂 ❤

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      1. You’re so humble… You fully deserve it as you helped your mum over 5 months, that’s amazing! Hugs and love xo

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  34. Wow, this gave me goose bumps and brought tears to my eyes. It made me think of my mom and I have to say, there is no love greater than that between a mother and her child (not taking anything away from those wonderful fathers). God had His plan and through the pain and sorrow, it played out so well. The 2 of you together in a way that probably wouldn’t have happened otherwise. Not saying you weren’t close but this made the closeness even better. She is your joy and you are hers and you both are so Blessed. I am so happy that you still have her and I pray that you all have many, many years together. Finally, there is nothing like having each other to reach out too whenever you want. That is what I miss most and this is why I’m so happy for you all. God Bless you both always.

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    1. Aw thanks Corrie. I’m so glad this hit home with you. You’re so right , there’s really something about a mother’s love. That’s so true – though I would never have wished a stroke upon my mother, I wouldn’t trade the healing and strengthened connection we got as a result. Thank you for your continued prayers and for being such a constant source of support and positivity. You are a blessing to me! Sending big big hugs xox

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  35. Thanks for sharing this on your blog. It was touching and hearfelt. I was starting to tear up until you mentioned the promo about shoes lol. I’m kinda glad because it made me laugh lol. Yeah I can understand why you don’t like to brag about yourself. Remember the bible saya let others do so. Proverbs 27:2: “Let another man praise thee, and not thine own mouth; a stranger, and not thine own lips.” So what your mama did for you in the letter was righteous and wise. You are a blessing to others and a special person. Thanks again for the blog post. Have a blessed day!

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  37. What a blessing you are and what a blessing she is! Not many Moms do that. Not many moms come full circle and say/write those things. For many, they either shower with things (which is in place of those words) or they play games of guilt over the past. Then some wait til the Grandchildren to “get their new fix” on their Child’s life, which they let go for a while, seeing the Grandchild/Children as a new representation of their own child in younger days (trying themselves to recapture those days, which as we all know is not real). Not many say you are beautiful for who you are and who you are working to be, and thank you for helping me all that you did. In a helping situation, many may give a Thank You, but then “want more” or “wish for more” as if all you gave was still not enough. Her letter was a true heartfelt blessing and at the same time shows how wonderful and inspiring you are!! Love always and every day!! xoxoxoxoxoxo ❤

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    1. Wow Migueltio, what a beautiful note. Thank you so much. You’re so right – mom’s are such a blessing and I’m so grateful for her in my life. Her letter is something I will cherish forever. Thanks again 🙂 hope you’re having a beautiful evening. Hugs and love xox

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  40. Your mom has an amazing attitude. She is looking back on the last five months and seeing the good that God has worked through this difficult time – which she so beautifully said was the time spent with you and the closer relationship it fostered. What a great example you have to follow!

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  44. Crying on my keyboard at this beautiful message. I still have a hand written note from my dad that’s decades old now. These things are loaded with blessings. Funny how in adjusting your life and putting plans on hold to serve your mom, you were blessing yourself with this great outpouring of love. A lesson for us all.

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  47. Hello Caralyn! I read and followed your blog! What beautiful sentiments from your mom! Thank you for liking my new post “Strength for the Day.” I am still new at blogging, but appreciate your like. May God continue to bless you and your mom!

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  48. You remind me of me. Quite happy to tell others how fabulous they are, but having real trouble knowing how to accept compliments. Very self-deprecating. “Shucks, I was just being me”. I feel that way at work when someone says thank you, and all I’ve done is answer a question, or do my job. Or at church, or at home . . . basically anywhere. I’m just me. Nothing special. The truth is that we are something special; because God made us that way..Reading your past couple of posts I can see someone who cares and loves and is happy to give her all, for those that she loves. God bless you for that, and keep on keeping on.

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  49. It was a lovely letter and I’m glad that the Spirit moved your mother to write it. There will be days when you’ll wonder if you did the right thing, are doing the right thing. Read the letter again in those times. It’s a great gift, to have something so tangible that shows and states the degree of love and appreciation she has for you.
    “Well done good and faithful servant. You took care of me when you saw me sick, and in need of comfort.”
    xo

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    1. Thanks so much Jeff. Yeah I am going to cherish this letter for a long time. It was such a gift to receive it. Thanks for your kind words of encouragement. I hope you’re having a great week! hugs xo

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      1. Clearly I am just scratching the surface, and while looking forward to continuing the journey, the transformation is obvious. The love you have with your family is inspiring. It is going to be an interesting journey with you this summer 🤓

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