“Girl Power”

**Please be aware that this post contains an image that may be triggering if you are in recovery from an eating disorder.**

Well, Victoria Beckham is in some hot water this week.

Yep, that Victoria Beckham. Equally known for her previous life as the enviable Posh Spice, and her status as David Beckham’s ridiculously fashionable wife.

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Honestly, just hearing her name takes me back to my elementary school obsession with the Spice Girls, and all their platform shoes, pleather, and “Girl Power” glory.

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Well, waking up this week to a firestorm of tweets, outraged over her sunglasses advertisements, my interest was piqued, and I had to do some investigating.

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She had released a new line of eyewear frames, and the advertisements included a model who, was so emaciated, it made me lose my breath.

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(I went back and forth about including the photo, as I am very aware that, as many of my readers are in recovery from an eating disorder, some may find this image highly disturbing or worse, triggering. However, this is a case of “a picture is worth 1,000 words,” so I am going ahead with including it.)

I’m going to be honest, my very first thought when seeing that photo was, “Dear Lord, she looks like a Holocaust victim.

And then my brain went to, “Lord, help all the impressionable girls who see this photo.

And then I had to close out of the image before it started doing bad things to my own recovery.

This post is not out to body shame, or to speculate whether or not this 29 year old model has an eating disorder.

I nearly died from anorexia. Knew every “trick” in the book. If you think I can’t tell if someone is actively engaging in anorexia or bulimia simply from looking at them, you’re kidding yourself.

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But I’m not here to call out this woman.

Instead, I’d like to turn the attention elsewhere.

I remember back in high school when I was really struggling, and deep in the throes of anorexia, I used to pine after the bodies of these waif-like models and actresses, and just obsess over their thinness. Obsess is even too gentle of a word. I would scrutinize them, as I would my own body. Comparing, detailing, dreaming, lusting after the sunken in cheeks and protruding bones.

I would not stop until I too, resembled the skeletal bodies I saw on the runways and advertisements.

To say that how women are portrayed in the media can have a negative effect on an impressionable young girl’s image and idea of beauty is the understatement of the century. Just ask 78 pound me.

I saw Victoria Beckham’s advertisement, and I literally started crying, thinking about that teenage girl, who is locked away in her bedroom, coveting the emaciated body of the model in that shot. Planning how she’s going to skip her next meal, or secretly exercise, all the while, loathing herself with a vehement hatred that leads one to slowly kill herself, one bite at a time. Just like I did.

My heart breaks for that hurting girl. The beautifully broken girl who doesn’t realize the incredible gift that she is to this world. The hurting girl who doesn’t realize how immensely loved she is, cherished by a God who wants nothing more than for her to thrive.

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Victoria Beckham, shame on you for putting this image out there into the world. For blasting it on your Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, website, and in the magazines across the world.

You could have said No. You could have said, “This image is harmful to the minds of young girls.” But you didn’t, and the damage is already done.

This isn’t meant to drag Beckham, here. Because truthfully, the problem is bigger than any former, “Girl Power”-loving Spice Girl.

And therein lies the problem.

I’m just so sick of Tinsel Town calling themselves champions of women, and yet pushing and perpetuating these unhealthy standards of beauty.

When is someone going to have the courage to say, “This isn’t beautiful, it’s dangerous.

This model’s body type isn’t something to aspire to, it’s a death wish.

And again, this is not meant to be a personal jab at this particular model. But for crying out loud. Someone needs to take a stand and say, this standard of beauty is killing our girls.

Because clearly, the literal poster child of “Girl Power” in the nineties — Posh Spice, Victoria Beckham – who herself HAS A DAUGHTER – is not going to do it.

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“Girl Power” my ass.

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150 thoughts on ““Girl Power”

    1. Hey Bryce, thanks for your reflection. yeah, it’s really sad. And btw, what a powerful way to volunteer your time. that’s awesome, kudos to you. Hugs and love xox

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    1. thanks you so much 🙂 yeah, that’s been my recovery in a nutshell! and also — trust Jesus haha 🙂 Hugs and love xox

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  1. I think you were rescued from your life threatening choices in that era to be an inspiration to those suffering with the same mental and physical issues. I’m very proud of what you’ve accomplished. 🙂

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  2. Thank you for sharing your journey. I hope this model is getting healthy. 💞💞
    I’ve been struggling hard with my body image since being pregnant and postpartum. I sometimes get angry with myself for not having morning sickness so bad that I’d throw up and lose weight and for gaining so much at the end of my pregnancy (really only 25 pounds but my mind…) I’m trying not to fall back into destructive measures. This post meant a lot to me, and I wish you all the very best on your recovery journey, as I know it’s a marathon and not a sprint.

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    1. Thanks so much friend for sharing glory thoughts on this. I’ll definitely be praying for you and your pregnancy. 🙂 sending big big hugs. Amen – marathon baby!!

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  3. and so it is said……….”Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never do…” words are powerful and they can hurt deeply and photos even more. Shame to those who go after the dollar, not promoting wellbeing.

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  4. Another great post! It really saddens me that we allow and encourage models who are severely emaciated. I remember reading fashion magazines idolizing these models. Now I can see how unhealthy that was. We need to stand up for the truth that women and men are created in God’s image, and are so precious to Him.

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  5. 💙💙you may never read this comment, because you probably get hundreds a day. but i just wanted to take a comment to thank you for your blog, your ceaselessly raw truth and vulnerability and supporting this cause that is so dear to your (and my) heart. as someone in recovery from anorexia too, i couldn’t thank you enough for the motivation and inspiration and light you emit into the world. 💙💙

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    1. Thanks friend 🙂 that seriously means so much. I’m so glad that this resonates with you. Know that I’m cheering for you as you reclaim your life in recovery! Sending big big big hugs xoxox

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      1. ahhhh i’m honored and grateful and filled with admiration! 💙 sending you endless hugs too, and i can’t wait to read your book! 💙💙

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  6. Thanks for sharing, it is an important issue. I have a young daughter and always say to her being healthy is the goal, not how your body looks. I also reiterate to her that it would be boring if everyone looked the same, it’s the differences that makes everyone attractive. Thanks also for the like on my post – peace and blessings 🙂

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  7. Girls to power, now more than ever.
    We have to fight for what we want, and pursue our dream work in the best conditions. For example, women who dream of becoming a model, who struggle to enter the world of modeling.
    A greeting.

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