Well, last week was apparently International Women’s Day.
I hope you can hear the dripping sarcasm in that last sentence.
Does anyone else throw up a little bit in their mouth when, come March 8, social media turns into an estrogen fest of caustic female pride?
I mean, double standard much?
Honestly, I walk around on days like today, and I feel like I have to apologize to men for the bombastic demonstration of my fellow females. I mean, I feel like I should be wearing a t-shirt that says, “We’re not all raging feminists!”
It’s just a really weird time right now. And, I know this post is going to get a lot of heat…I know that going into it, but frankly, someone had to say it:
Women’s Day…is dumb.
There, I said it.
Can you imagine if men tried to pull something like this? There would be castrated male genitalia littering the streets!
But since we’re females, we get a pass to devote an entire day to pissing on guys and making a mockery of the male person.
It’s a double standard that just feels icky.
Here’s the thing. And this is an unpopular opinion.
I don’t understand when it became looked-down-upon to be “traditionally” feminine. You know what I mean…the Scarlet O’Hara/Audrey Hepburn version of a woman: delicate, gentle, loving and supportive to a man, building him up, and being a compliment to his masculinity.
When did that become anti-woman?!
I’m sorry. But when I have a daughter one day, I’m not going to encourage her to play tackle football. I’m going to put her in dance class.
And I’m going to dress her in pink. And teach her about the importance of etiquette, and chivalry. And yes, I’ll encourage her to follow her heart, and play outside and get her clothes dirty, and do the things that make her feel alive – but she will know that she is a lady.
And I am not a monster for wanting that.
There’s a desperation when we try to dominate men. We’re striving to beat men out at the top jobs, and demanding this and that, and cut-throating our way to the top, no matter the price — all in the name of Girl Power, and Time’s Up, and Me Too – or whatever the feminist “Phrase of the Week” is. And it’s time someone step back and beg the question: What is the price?
I’ll tell you what it is:
The decline of the family unit.
We are reeling as a country when it comes to home and family life. Divorce, separation, cheating. Parents not knowing what kids are doing. And kids, fending for themselves, without the guidance of a supervising parent.
I mean, the family dinner has become nonexistent.
Our society desperately needs families.
Strong, familial bonds that teach how to treat one another with respect. Integrity. Honesty. Discipline. Communication skills. Cooperation. The difference between right and wrong. How to share and work together.
The family is what a great society is built upon. — Or at least it used to be — Back when that was seen as the most important career a woman could have: that as a mother and wife.
Her career as a homemaker.
But sadly, we’ve lost that, and instead, have outsourced those vitally important tasks that truly shape our children, to nannies. To after school programs. To what they watch on TV. Or even worse — to social media.
And let me tell ya, Snapchat won’t raise our children with integrity and honor.
It takes a parent.
I want to just pause to say two things:
First: I know that dual incomes can be necessary in this world, with tuition, and bills, and expenses etc. And just because a woman works outside the home in no way, shape, or form, makes her a bad mother. Hear me when I say that.
Work/life balance can be a real thing — Devoting quality time to family and spouse, and making it a priority. Working with progressive companies who have family-friendly practices and schedule flexibility for both women and men. (Which frankly, all companies should!)
And on that note, there is still a lot of progress needed to gain equal pay and equal advancement, to remove glass ceilings, and stop harassment. If a woman wants to work, then she should have every opportunity available guaranteed in a safe, inclusive, and pro-family environment.
And I celebrate the women (and men) who have figured out how to attend to both work and family. And I celebrate the companies that have made it possible to do so.
Secondly: I know that fathers are also an equally key component in raising children. And on that note, it is also fully acceptable for fathers to stay/work from home with the children too. But this article is about Women — on Women’s Day.
Let’s get one thing straight: women do deserve to be celebrated and honored. Fully. 100%.
We are life bearers. We are problem solvers. We are strong, brave, funny, smart, organized, beautiful, creative, nurturing human beings.
That is something to honor today, and everyday.
And we’re capable of doing everything a man can do…and technically more, when you get down to the biological nuts and bolts. (No pun intended!)
But in this time that is so hyper focused on the advancement of women, I wish we could place more importance on the invaluable role a woman plays in the home. In her child’s life, as mother. In her husband’s life, as wife. Those are not “four letter words” to be crapped on in the name of feminism.
I’m tired of feeling like a traitor to womankind, simply because I value those things.
God made us to share in partnership with men: equal and complimentary.
Putting down men – even in the name of feminism – is never a good look.
My mother taught me that.
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