If It’s Fragile, Let It Break

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Quarantine Day 60. NYC

Do you ever just hear a little nugget of wisdom and think…wow, that’s going to change my life?

Maybe it’s incredibly simple, maybe it’s menacingly complex. But when you hear it, you just know.

I was going through my inbox late last night, which – let me tell ya, is there anything more intimidating than an overstuffed inbox? It’s like…where to even begin??

Yeah – 3,627 unread emails …. I should really do something about that.

But anywho – in sifting through the messages, I came upon one from a reader who is struggling with relapse in her recovery journey from anorexia. And I say recovery journey, because that is exactly what recovery is: a journey. With lots of ups and downs, some restarts, some stumbles. A journey. But the destination is always forward.

But this sweet reader was seeking advice on how to overcome those fears and thoughts of doubt when it comes to recovery.

And I’m going to share something that I heard today, that was one of those things that just hit me with a, this-is-going-to-change-your-life, kind of punch.

And it’s applicable to so much more than just recovery. In fact, recovery wasn’t even the first thing that entered my mind when I heard it.

If it’s fragile, let it break.

If it’s fragile, let it break.

I mean, is there anything more acutely harrowing, and yet profoundly emboldening than that short little phrase?

If there’s one thing that I’ve come to learn about recovery from an eating disorder — and let me just preface this by saying, I am now on my 13th year of recovery from anorexia.

Thirteen years. Over a decade of choosing life, every day. Choosing truth. Choosing Jesus. Choosing recovery. Every. Day.

There have been ups. There have been downs. There have been restarts. And yes, even a season of relapse, right when I started out wobbling my way through the first stages of recovery.

If there’s one thing that I’ve learned about recovery: it needs to be strong.


Powerful. Steadfast. Unyielding. Grounded. Resolute.

It cannot be fragile. Let me repeat: it cannot be fragile.

And listen, I know, I have said, that protecting my recovery is my number one priority in life. And I stand by that. It is true. But not because my recovery is fragile. Nay, just the opposite. The act of protecting my recovery in itself, is an act of strength.

It is wise. It is strength from the onset.

If it is fragile, let it break.

In this life, I’m going to be honest, the only way I have ever learned to appreciate and value something, is if I’ve had to rebuild it from rock bottom. I’m talking my life. I’m talking my health. I’m talking my relationships. You name it — only that which we invest our blood, sweat, and tears in, do we bestow value upon.

I mean, just pause and think about your own life. What do you value? Your family, your faith, your relationships, your health? Why? Whyyy are they meaningful to you? Because you’ve invested your energy into them. Most oftentimes, your painstaking energies.

There is nothing about “fragile” that is truly sustainable. Nothing. Nada. Zip. Zero. Things that are fragile, will eventually break. Maybe not in the near-foreseeable future. Because, sure, we can “baby” this fragile item, and wear padded gloves, and keep the temperature at a comfortable 72 degrees with a 47% humidity level, but that is ultimately unsustainable. Truly. No matter how gung-ho you think you are.

If it’s fragile, let it break.

Why? Because when it heals, it will be stronger and more resiliant than ever before. And more than that, you will value it with a deeper appreciation that can only be reached through knowing what it is like to lose it.

So what am I saying? Am I suggesting to give in to relapse and give up on recovery in the hopes of coming back stronger?

No, not at all.

But if your recovery is so fragile that you’re still not living your life to the absolute full — in a completely free and unencumbered way, without any traces of ED — you’ve got to ask yourself if your recovery is really a recovery at all?

Which is some tough love if I’ve ever heard it. But it’s something that I had to ask myself, to which the answer was one that made me make some huge changes in my life. And I’ll link a resource right here about how I finally kicked those lingering ED habits that were completely dictating my life. (AKA, my relationship with food).

If it is fragile, let it break. Because you have no room in your life for a frail, delicate recovery. It needs to be unwavering. Absolutely airtight and bulletproof.

That goes for recovery, and it goes for life. If a relationship has you walking on eggshells, terrified of saying the wrong thing, or seeming too this or that, let it break. Life is too short to never be able to fully exhale. And after the 2020 that we’ve had so far, honey, we’ve only got time for strong, life-affirming, consistent things in our lives: that goes for men, that goes for sources of entertainment/information, that goes for areas we put our energy.

We are strong. And there is no time for anything but.

I’ll close with this. The idea of “strong” or the concept of “strength” can seem daunting. Overwhelming. Frankly, completely terrifying and maybe even unattainable — especially if we’re coming from a place of wobbliness or shakiness in our recovery — or other situation.

But here’s the good news to remember. We don’t have to be strong by ourselves. In fact, our strength is never truly solely our own. Our strength comes from God.

He is our strength.

He strengthens us. And it is in our weakness that He is the most strong.

So when you’re doubting your recovery, or feeling that you simply cannot go on…surrender it to God. Give it to Him, and He will give you what you need in that very moment.

Because realtalk: WE are fragile.

Break into His hands.

Because then He can put the pieces back together in a strong, God-fortified way.

“This is what the Lord says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life.” Ez 37:5

A big thank you to my foundational sponsor, BetterHelp Online Therapy. I cannot begin to express how beneficial therapy was for my recovery from anorexia.  Speak with an online therapist. Or check out content about eating disorders from BetterHelp.


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125 responses to “If It’s Fragile, Let It Break”

    • amen to that – thank you for sharing that link! you’re right – He is our strength 🙂 stay well! Hugs and love xox

  1. Such truth but hard to completely understand until you go through the breaking. I have often heard that relapse is part of recovery which in my head I know is true. But what cannot come despite the breaking is giving up. Trying not to break on your own will always end up with someone having to pick up the pieces. But falling into God’s hands gives you a time to regroup, to gain strength to continue-not to give up. Wonderful topic keen insight and meaningful witnessing. Always impressed and I always grow through your words Caralyn. Keep it up. Am thankful God let me find you. John

    • Thank you so much John!! You’re so right – giving up cannot be an option. And amen – His Strength makes all the difference. Grateful for you! Hugs and love xox

    • Yes! Amen to that Kim! We’ve got to be able to breathe!!! Stay well and thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox


    There ARE Two Ways to Raise SomeOne to Their Greatest Potential; they ARE:

    ♡ “You can do this; I believe in you.”
    ♧ Clubbing – “You can’t do this; you’re useless.” – Clubbing
    ◇ Both ARE Valid; just Take Care when CHOOSING!!! What to Say with Whom

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    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    ◇ So YOU!!! ARE Whinging, Whining, Moaning and Bitching about LOSING YOUR STUFF!!! and The People YOU!!! Trusted; well Here’s a NewsFlash for YOU!!! What YOU!!! Have YOU!!! ARE Supposed to Have and What YOU!!! Don’t Have isn’t YOURS!!! so I Suggest Practicing PAM (Perspective Attitude MindSet); it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that Cross-Examining Self via Self-Talk like a Child is a Powerful Healing Practice…so I Say Give CSC (Comprehending Self Conversation) a Go; it Worked for Me and I Totally Guarantee YOU!!! will NOT!!! Regret It and WILL!!! Authentically Move On

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    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇



    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    ◇ We ALL Have Our View of Right and Wrong which may Change over Linear Time; some Aspects of these Views ARE Broadly Broken Down into:

    ♤ Expectation and Disappointment
    ♧ Clubbing – Appropriateness and Rudeness – Clubbing
    ♡ Forgiveness and Grudges

    …it’s Pretty Obvious that We Perceive ‘Failure’ when Our Expectations ARE NOT!!! Met; conversely We Perceive ‘Success’ when Our Expectations ARE Met…so what happens next is Celebration of ‘Success’ or Blaming and Finding Fault for ‘Failure’; it’s Tough Forgiving Self for Contributing to a Nasty, Horrible, Stressful Situation; yet in The Absence of Forgiving Self Forgiving Others is Nigh On Impossible, so I Suggest:

    ♡ Forgiveness of Self
    ♡ Forgiveness of Others
    ♡ Ask For Forgiveness

    …in addition I Suggest taking Linear Time to Reflect on YOUR!!! InterActions with Others and Get Things in to Perspective; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that this may Resonate or it May NOT!!! Resonate as Low Risk…because Energy is Zero, Nada and Our Mistakes Matter only in The Context of Continuous Learning; ergo:

    ♡ Mistakes in The Now=NONE!!!
    ♡ Mistakes in The Past=Too Many To Mention
    ♡ Mistakes in The Future May Be Avoided=Be Awake, Aware, Alert

    …so I Suggest YOU!!! ALL please PAY ATTENTION!!! to EveryOne and EveryThing; it’s NOT!!! Easy but NOTHING!!! WorthWhile is Ever Easy and AnyThing Easy is Rarely Worth It…beautifully put by Dolly Parton is this; it’s Reported that SHE!!! Said “I spent a lot of money to look cheap.”

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    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇



    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    ♤ Expected vs UnExpected; so YOU!!! please Deal With It or Celebrate
    ♡ Forgiveness vs Blame; please Quit YOUR!!! Fault Finding and Practice Forgiving
    ◇ InterAct Respectfully; please Ask Others How They Define Respect and Request that They Reciprocate

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    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇



    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    ◇ OK, SomeOne Has Given YOU!!! The Block Finger; what I Suggest is Don’t Take It Personally…it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that Blockers ARE Blocking Each Other; in the MeanTime YOUR!!! Friends Stick Around especially when it GETS REALLY MESSY!!!

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    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇



    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇

    ◇ So YOU!!! ARE Blaming ALL others for YOUR!!! Self Inflicted Misery; it’s Crystal Clear Clarity that YOUR!!! Plaintive CRY!!! is “WHY DO YOU TREAT ME THIS WAY!!! 🤔 ?” when There is an OBVIOUS!!! Answer, Quit The Relationship; ergo Walk Away from Them and NEVER!!! Ever Communicate with Them Ever Again…whether in THIS!!! 3DLife or Any Other Life; it’s YOUR!!! Call, YOUR!!! Choices, YOUR!!! Decisions EveryOne

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    ◇ – Diamond Hard – ◇


  3. Faith is potent. Its potency is applicable to anyone, the god or religion isnt as important as the ability to give over to the will of an all powerful god. Its such a hard thing to do, but in doing so you allow yourself to break first, and then everything else that needs to break does, in its time.

    I think this Psalm is a good one, I think its encouraging.

    Psalm 68:6

    God makes a home for the lonely;
    He leads out the prisoners into prosperity,
    Only the rebellious dwell in a parched land.

    Dont rebel against faith, let it break you and in in turn you will leave the parched land.

    Your pagan friend,


    • Hi Karac, thank you for sharing that perspective. Yes, giving over control to something or someone greater than yourself if paramount to recovery. It’s actually a cornerstone of AA. What a powerful psalm. Thanks for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

    • Oh wow thank you so much Alan, that really means a lot!! God is good 🙂 Hugs and love xox

  4. I wasn’t sure how to respond to this, but then I remembered the best job I ever had. I was a corporate trainer for a Fortune 100 company. When I looked at my job description after 6 years it looked like something I couldn’t do, and yet there I was. What happened?

    I started with the basic job, and it grew. I grew. I got good at what was on my plate, so my boss asked if I wanted to try something more. I always said yes. The only reason I was able to say yes was because I had grown strong in everything I’d taken on to that point.

    Is that like recovery? You’re not doing all the things in your first year that you’ll grow into at 13. You get the hang of the first steps. Once strong in that you look at what’s next. You keep building, right? And, if something breaks, you rebuild that piece into a strength that works. That’s what I got from tonight.

    • Hey Jeff! thank you for this insight. i love how that relates, because you’re right – that is life: we are continually growing, evolving, building. And sometimes, we need to refortify or rebuild, but the growth process is forever onward and upward. Glad it gave ya something to think about 🙂 Hope your week is off to a great start, my friend! Hugs and love xox

    • Oh good I’m so Glad it resonated with you! Yes! Don’t we all!! Hugs and love xox

  5. if its fragile
    Let it break

    That makes me think of a verse. Just a sec…I

    Yes! Hebrews 12 Thank you very much!
    I love Hebrews 12 sooo comPLETely helpful.

    Let’s see if I can paste it

    So don’t turn a deaf ear to these gracious words. If those who ignored earthly warnings didn’t get away with it, what will happen to us if we turn our backs on heavenly warnings? His voice that time shook the earth to its foundations; this time—he’s told us this quite plainly—he’ll also rock the heavens: “One last shaking, from top to bottom, stem to stern.” The phrase

    “one last shaking” means a thorough housecleaning, getting rid of all the historical and religious junk so that the unshakable essentials stand clear and uncluttered.

    Do you see what we’ve got? An unshakable kingdom! And do you see how thankful we must be? Not only thankful, but brimming with worship, deeply reverent before God. For God is not an indifferent bystander. He’s actively cleaning house, torching all that needs to burn, and he won’t quit until it’s all cleansed. God himself is Fire!
    Hebrews 12:25‭-‬29 MSG

    That’s a bit long maybe, considering you 3000 emails.


    It is good for the things which CAN be shaken
    To BE shaken.

    Don’t you agree?

    Thanks sister .
    Love it.

    • Thanks so much! Oh wow what a powerful scripture. Thank you for sharing. Hugs and love xox

  6. This post reminded me of something my dad always used to say when we were kids. “When you think you are too big for your britches, get out there and battle mother nature and then see just how big you are.” In other words when we think we are so strong ready to “win” the battle, really we are so weak and fragile we are going to lose.

    But if we would only stay strong and weather the storm, instead of trying to control it, peace will come after it is over. Good post and God Bless, SR

    • Oh wow what a powerful quote! Sounds like you had a wise father!! Thanks for sharing that. You’re right – that’s an important perspective to keep! Stay well!! And thanks for stopping by, SR! Hugs and love xox

  7. YES!!!! I firmly agree my dear, recovery from anything can only go forward if the foundation is rock solid. Therefore, anything built upon filmsy ground isn’t going to make it for very long and will ultimately fail.Our faith, hopes, dreams, beliefs….all of it must be grounded soundly. It’s ok to fall off or fail. It only means a lesson needed to be learned to go the distance. It’s not falling down that defines us, it’s starting again and refusing to quit. What a motivating and inspiring post my friend. Congrats to you for never giving up on yourself❤

    • Hi friend! Oh gosh thank you so much. You’re right – grounded soundly!! And amen! Those lessons help us go the distance! Stay well! Hugs and love xox

  8. I love this! I was talking with a friend recently who had gone back to his support group after 25 years of recovery because he had given in to a lifestyle of anger which he realized was just another manifestation of his addiction. IN that place he once again reconnected with his faith which he had forgotten.

  9. What a wonderful thought process, you would make such an excellent eating disorder health specialist and no doubt you would have an opportunity to save many, many more lives in such a professional field and you could continue with your writing through being a published author. No one quite has the insight into your health condition that you have gained and you seem to have successfully navigated your way out of the life maze that is anorexia. Cwtches from Huw living in Devon across the pond that is the UK.

    • Thank you so much! And gosh what a kind thing to say 🙂 I would love to one day do that. I am humbled by your generous words! Stay well my friend!! Hugs and love xox

  10. Caralyn, it is so true that we must lean and trust God for our Strength. When we humble ourselves and let God direct our life, we can go so much further. All of us have challenges in our lives and this advice goes for everyone. Keep writing and inspiring! xoxo Love and hugs!

  11. This is such a powerful message that can be applied to all kinds of “fragile” in our lives! Thank you so so much for sharing this💕

    • Thank you so much Liz! I’m so glad this resonated with you!!! Hugs and love xox

  12. This was very eloquently written! I know I’m going through something and the journey of recovery it involves feels so long. I’m only in year one but this post is a breath of fresh air! Thank you

    • Thank you so much! And gosh I’ll be praying for you 🙂 you’ve absolutely got this. I believe in you and am cheering for you! Sending so much love and hugs xox

    • Thanks Lisa 🥰 I appreciate that. Recovery is one of those things that’s always offering new perspectives, and lessons, and self insights. Hope your week is off to a great start! Hi

    • Thank you so much Michael!! I would be honored if you did 🙂 I appreciate you stopping by and taking the time to read! Hugs and love xox

  13. I like this… I hit the little save ribbon, cause I know I’m gonna wanna read it later again lol … absolutely agree – I just have to remember in those moments lol ✌️💕

    • Thank you friend 🙂 Glad it resonated with you!! stay well and thanks for the bookmark! 🙂 Hugs and love xox

  14. What about the infinite you could possibly be fragile? Are you a body, or do you have a body? You’re not a chauffeur to carry around you’re spiritual self, but you sound like you believe you are two separate entities.

    • Thanks for sharing your perspective, Jim! I think we are a beautiful fusion of body, mind and spirit.

  15. Great post as always. I guess we are all fueled by thoughts and thoughts can easily take you back to a dark place if you give them thoughts energy.

    Hands up….. I know nothing about anorexia (so i apologise for my ignorance in advance). But Im interested in learning, as I feel the better, I understand people the more I can help them.

    As a person looking in, for me, it stems from a disliking of themselves. Like they’re not worthy like they lack in some way. And more than likely these feelings came from bullying, low self-esteem, problems with family etc.

    Is this true, as in the right ballpark? Thanks. 🙂

    • Thank you so much!! It’s totally okay! Eating disorders are overwhelmingly misunderstood, as they still have a stigma attached to them. These feelings come from an internal message — a lie — that they have come to believe about themselves, which can come from a myriad of places — not just bullying or family issues. My “lie” that I believed was that I had to be perfect to be loved — which came from a childhood spent on stage, where I was constantly setting the bar higher and higher for myself. It was nothing anyone said or did, nothing with my family, nothing with self-esteem, but rather the crippling perfectionism, and the warped sense of control I got from it. Sorry that was long! and not as in depth as I’d like to be ((like how do you water something so massive and intricate down to a 140 character tweet??)) But i hope that gives a little more insight. You can also watch my video on youtube with my entire story where i go totally indepth and break it down completely 🙂 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aeM7o0IeMZk Hugs and love xox

    • oh my gosh, Jim, I am so touched by that. thank you my friend. I feel unworthy of that! Hugs and love xox

  16. Great post and encouraging words! Once you’re down, the only place you can go is up…
    Isaiah 40:29 says, ‘He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless.’❤️

    • Thank you so much Ali! amen! the only place you can go is up! Hugs and love xox

  17. “If it’s fragile, let it break.” Hmmm wow! So very true. Amen to this sis. Your testimony ALWAYS gives me the right amount of dosage I need spiritually, mentally and emotionally whenever I get led to read them. My heart always feels tighten at first and then after I finish read it there’s a release of peace and I feel stronger! Bless the Lord for the anointing He placed upon your life through this talent to truly bless the hearts of both the lost and found. <3

    "Because realtalk: WE are fragile.

    Break into His hands.

    Because then He can put the pieces back together in a strong, God-fortified way." THIS!!! 👏🙌🙌👏👏😣

  18. Very good! I enjoyed the content, the content, the heart. Inspirational! Swing on by my blog every once in a while and let me know your thoughts.

  19. This was an inspiration to me. I’m on my own recovery journey and learning to surrender to God on a lot of things. To say it is easy is an absolute fallacy, but hearing the strength in your post is rewarding encouragement to me. Thank you!

    • Hi friend! oh good! i’m so glad it resonated with you! you’re so right – surrendering to God is the way to go! Cheering for you on your journey! stay well! Hugs and love xox

  20. This post gave me chills as I was reading it. Thank you for this powerful reminder to be protective of our time and energy this year. I love this line: “We only have time for strong, life-affirming, consistent things in our lives: that goes for men, that goes for sources of entertainment/information, that goes for areas we put our energy.”

    – Katie

    • Hi Katie, thank you so much for this feedback! i’m so glad it resonated with you. Amen! This quarantine has put a lot into perspective, and that is definitely one of them! stay well! Hugs and love xox

    • thank you Christopher! Glad it resonated with you! i don’t know what came over me, but I felt moved to write about this, and the words just kept coming! stay well! Hugs and love xox

    • thank you friend!! 🙂 yes! Into His hands is the best place to be! stay well! Hugs and love xox

  21. 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 says,
    “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.🙏 for all of us!

    • What a powerful verse. Thanks so much for sharing that! Hugs and love xox

    • Thank you so much Lohluh!! I appreciate that 🙂 stay well! Hugs and love xox

  22. “He is our strength.
    He strengthens us. And it is in our weakness that He is the most strong.”
    Perfectly said!

  23. A very encouraging post. “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheth me.” Phil. 4:13. And in all things I need His strength.

  24. Loved this – this saying is amazing, perfect and spot on for a commentary to life. I can see so many times when this saying is exactly what needs to be heard. Thank you for this!

    • Hi R! Thank you so much 🙂 so glad this resonated with you! Hugs and love xox

  25. Thank you for today’s post. You drove home what my friend said to me yesterday. I have a not so positive relationship with my father’s side of the family, and my friend told me since it breaks my heart to hear negative feedback from them that I need to leave those relationships and build healthy ones from family and friends who do care. My inner circle may be small but it is strong. You are right that our strength comes from God. He is always with us.

    • Thank you Amanda 🙂 I appreciate you sharing that. I have always heard that if you can count your true inner circle on one hand, you are incredibly blessed. Quality over quantity! Hugs and love xox

  26. I understand where you’re coming from with this blog entry but we have to be very careful the phrase is not misunderstood. Darwin’s theory of Survival of the Fittest takes the perspective that fragility is not to be tolerated and its natural for it to be cast aside. So looking at that objectively the lame the halt and the blind would be viewed as a liability to society and following Hitler’s thinking should be killed so they are not an economic burden on society so it could move forward unhindered. That’s not the Christian viewpoint at all. The fragile are to be nurtured and hopefully rescued in fact God asks us to do that. That’s why we run hospitals. That’s why we have doctors. So my first impression in hearing if its fragile let it break sends shivers up my spine.

    • Thank you so much Ian for sharing your thoughts on this. That’s a really great point – can’t take it out of context so it’s misunderstood. Stay well my friend. Hugs and love xox

    • Thank you so much M’bolla! yes! So very grateful for the healing in my life! Hugs and love xox

  27. BBB – beautiful blog. Seriously, wonderful sentiment said so simply. Makes it even more awesome. Loved the way you teased out the finer details. There’s another saying ‘if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it’ but this one is more profound – just let things go and when the time is right strength will rise like a phoenix from the ashes.
    Please may I say that I love reading your posts but right now, with time so heavy in our hands, it seems to fall away more than before. I am trying to post – but days slip by; I have 100+ blogs in my Inbox waiting for me to respond to; I am keeping your recipes, and your wisdom. So heartfelt thanks for now. Stay well. Stay safe. I think of you in NY and hope for better days soon. X

    • Hi Marilyn! Thank you so much 🙂 I really appreciate that! 🙂 strength will rise like a phoenix — wow how beautifully put!! and gosh I am so touched by your kind words, thank you!!! stay well my friend! Hugs and love xox

  28. Hi “beauty”:
    I don’t know how you found time to visit my blog with over 3,600 unanswered e-mails.
    And thank you for your enthusiastic response to my blog “God of the Gaps?”
    I decided to read your blog because I found the title intriguing.
    There are many good things you said in your blog: it shows it comes from extensive experience.
    And I am glad you are well on your way to a full recovery.
    However, your account shows your resolution was weak initially; in fact, you had a “season of relapse.”
    Had you let your resolution “break” while it was weak, you would not be where you are today.
    I agree, though, that unless a resolution is strong it will probably not succeed until it becomes strong.
    I also tend to agree with Ian: unlike other animals, we humans should not believe in the survival of the fittest of us; we should help those who are weak, encouraging them to become strong.
    I also believe that “God helps those who help themselves.”
    I think, putting all one’s trust in God is trying to sell a product that doesn’t work.
    Like a good Father, God is not out there to take the little credit we deserve: he is not insecure.
    You deserve all the credit for becoming what you are today, and your Father is looking at you with proud, glazing, loving, eyes.
    Keep the good work!

    • Haha thank you Carmel, I really appreciate your words of encouragement. I am truly so touched. I’m so glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

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