To the Meanie in the Comments Section

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Hello from Ohio!!

I snuck away for a couple days to visit my family! And I’m having so much fun with my little nephews! They are just as cute as two bugs in a rug!

I wanted to just say…last week, a commenter said something that I need to respond to:

“Your prior self inflicted illness has probably given you some sort of brain damage. Seriously. Go. Get. Help. And seek counseling. Your parents did you a disservice in your rearing, girl.”

I have since deleted it.

And typically I would just let a nasty comment slide. But if you bring my dear parents into it….

So I need to clarify:

a) This “self inflicted illness” made me who I am today. I am a strong woman. I have grown a depth in my soul that only comes from the recognition that I am nothing without God. And honestly, I wouldn’t trade those lessons I had to learn the hard way for anything because I am the woman standing in front of you because of that season of fire.

And b) Yes. I did get help. I went to an inpatient treatment facility for three months, where I witnessed things and heard stories that broke my heart: stories of abuse, witnessed drug detox, girls who had been enslaved to anorexia for 40+ years. I got help and am by the grace of God am healed. And now, I’ve dedicated my life to helping others walking similar paths.

So if you ask me, I think my parents did one hell of a job in rearing me. They have fiercely loved me through the darkest of days, and never gave up on me. Thank you for your feedback, but I’ll take their incredible support, love and guidance any day of the week.

Thank you to those who stuck up for me in the comments. I am grateful for such wonderful people in my corner.

And just for the record, over coming an eating disorder does not make you any less of a person. You are not broken. You are a warrior and never let anyone tell you otherwise.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going out to dinner with my biggest supporters and role models in my life: my parents.

See you Wednesday for a delicious recipe!

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145 thoughts on “To the Meanie in the Comments Section”

  2. Enjoy that sweet time with your family!! You are such an encourager and inspiration to many and surely you’ve picked those characteristics up from none other than your folks’ guidance and love!
    Speak on girl!!

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  3. Haters are going to hate.
    The only thing I can say is follow the ONLY piece of sound advice Taylor Swift ever gave humanity.. (everything else she ever said is just pure liberal garbage)..
    “Shake it off”…

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  4. You’re everything many are striving to be. Keep inspiring others the way you do. Along the way you’ll stumble upon a few like this, but as you know best you can only pray they find peace with their own struggles that cause this behavior.

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  5. Your parents did a FABULOUS job and so did God! We thank them both for you and your posts. Keep up the great work and encouragement you give to u. THANKS! There are always throwing bombs, and they hurt – it’s because they, themselves, are miserable and project it onto others. Still, it isn’t always to dismiss. One jerk can ruin a day – they aren’t worth it.

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  7. Don’t let that devil steal your joy. Walk in your new life and the joy God gave you. God let’s us go to the bottom so all that’s left is Him and you wouldn’t change your relationship with Him to NOT have your eating disorder. That’s what God allowed to draw you to Him.

    Your life is full of peace and joy now … don’t let that devil steal any of it. You came to far to worry about a stranger who isn’t happy in their own life to try and drag you down.

    You’re fearfully and wonderfully made. You are a daughter of the one true king and he rescued you.

    “Love your enemies…Pray for those who persecute you.”
    ❤️❤️❤️
    Enjoy your family and your new life.

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  10. I read your blogs frequently but I missed that particular one you spoke of. It irritates me to no end when people when people come on to someone’s blogs and say nasty things. Its like coming into someone’s home and disrespecting them. Its like reading the asinine replies on the different FB groups there are (there is at least a dozen a day of smart Alek replies.

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  11. Huh! Some people are so ignorant it’s amazing to me that they’re still upright. And then I remind myself that hurt people, hurt people. It says a lot about a person’s character when they write such trash. I am so sorry my dear. You don’t deserve this. Your parents don’t deserve it either. As my mother used to say, “consider where it comes from”. and don’t let it steal your thunder. I will keep that person in my prayers. It’s obvious they’re the ones that need the help. God bless.

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  12. Caralyn. I did see that reply and immediately saw it as a person who had little to really challenge anything in your post so he resorted to a personal attack on both you and your parents. Sometimes that happens when you are faced with the Truth. I am praying for you and your parents knowing that our Savior will heal any hurt this person may have caused. I will pray for that commenter also as he so desperately needs to know Jesus- the only one who knows the needs of all. Keep writing and recovering and living out your faith. I really appreciate you. John

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  13. Hate comes from ignorance. It also comes from their own internal pain being projected outwards, that whole misery loves company thing.

    Keep on spreading the light, Triple B.

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  14. Saw so much support for you, as is appropriate. Pray for your antagonist as he is one if those deceived. 2 Timothy 3:13

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  17. This person must now know anyone with an ED history. If it all stemmed from parental upbringing, then every sibling in a family would be expected to have ED. Ignorance. Thank you for speaking up for yourself and your parents. I echo the sentiment that ED history and the recovery journey can make us into who we are in a way that God can use powerfully.

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  18. This doesn’t make me angry. It makes me sad. I’m sad that you even had to respond to the comment. It makes me sad that someone would judge someone else and her family for something he or she clearly does not understand. It makes me sad that we live in a world that is accepted behavior. You handled it all beautifully. Hugs to you, Caralyn.

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  19. Perfect response to anyone who is so broken and miserable that they would post such mean comments. We all go through dark times in our lives and most of the time we went there by our own volition because we needed to go through it to get to the other side. 💞

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  20. I am glad you won’t let some coward sitting behind a computer leaving mean comments bring you down.

    Jesus has blessed many who struggle with eating disorders and other issues through your blog. The opinion of Jesus is the only one that ultimately matters.

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  21. Hey Caralyn! Thank you for responding beautifully. God bless your heart and strengthen you. I also pray that the Lord touches the meanie’s heart and they grow to understand the love of God. It’s sad that they had to post that and you had to read it. However, I’m glad you have Jesus in your life and His light is shinning so brightly in your heart. Sending lots of love and hugs Caralyn! Keep shining!

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  25. So kind of you to give words and time to a troll. If these were not sufficient for that sad individual, then she/he can take heart that in the absence of repentance there is an eternity of focus awaiting their arrival in Gehenna…

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  28. We’re basically the same Caralyn. If someone was to attack my person, I wouldn’t give it a second notice. But when they bring in and insult the people I care about, then I’m not going to just let that slide. You want war, I’ll give you a war.
    I’ve found the best argument against a liberal meanie is logic; plain and simple logic. I noticed that all you have to do is ask the right question and that completely stops them in the tracks.. their train of thought gets derailed immediately. Why? Because like their arguments, its all based on emotions, feelings and nothing else.

    Unfortunately the world we live in at this moment thinks they are so entitled to having others gratify and make them feel good. So emotionally shallow are they that they cannot handle the fact that someone will disagree with them or think to view the world in a different way.

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    1. That’s exactly how I see it too! I will always stick up for those I love! Thank you for the tips! Plain and simple logic! Love it!! Hugs and love xox

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      1. You’re welcome.. Anyways, the next time a meanie comes along, just take Taylor Swift’s advice and “Shake it Off!!”

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  29. I am a firm believer in ‘Everything Happens for a Reason’. This was your journey, your sacrifice in order to help others – and you do! It has made you the person you are, your parents must be so very proud of you, as you are them. Pity the person who made that comment and pray for them.Love and light. X

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words and for having my back. I so agree. Everything happens for a reason, and Good works everything together for good! Very touched by your kindness. Hugs and love xox

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  30. I do not know you in person, but as I have read you entire blog from the post 1 last weeks, I have to admit that you are one of the most beautiful souls I have ever met (unfortunately virtually only). You are beautiful inside out and I just live the way you write and express your thoughts. You are so kind and down to Earth in your mindset. This negative comment wants me to say the F word for the author, but as you know – we just have to pray for those who have heart of stone.

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    1. Oh my gosh, I am so touched by your kindness, Ave. Thank you so much, truly. I am so grateful. Amen- we must pray for those who need Christ’s love! Hugs and love xox

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    1. Oh my gosh, I am so touched by your kind words. Thank you for your support. Good bless you too! Hugs and love xox

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  32. Hold on to the real truth and don’t let this make you discouraged. I understand that you want to stand up for your parents. I have similarly awesome parents and would do the same. Just know that all of us who know anything did not believe a word of what that commenter said. Consider that to so many of us who know something from our own experience of what you have fought through and overcome you are like a beacon of hope and thousands pray for your continued strength. BTW your nephews are adorable. ❤❤

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    1. Thank you so much for your kind words and support. You’re so right – I must focus on the good, and gosh, am I grateful for those prayers!!! God is so good!! So glad you stopped by! Hugs and love xox

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  34. You probably recieved 100s of positive comments but your focus was on a comment that made no sense at all. Crazy the power of negativity. In future I wouldnt even give them the satisfation of making them the highlight of post. Was this the post you were talking about when you were late posting last week?

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    2. Thank you so much for this powerful perspective!! You’re so right – it’s amazing how one negative thing can capture your focus! I need to shift my perspective on that one! Great great point! Shouldn’t give it the energy! Actually no! This wasn’t the post – it was a different one that I decided to scrap all together because though it was talking about a topic I feel passionately about, it could be misconstrued as hurtful if read in the wrong spirit or tone. Perhaps I will try to rework it one day soon. Thanks again for stopping by. Hugs and love xox

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  37. Cara, I am just reading this post. You know I am always a couple days behind. First of all you are a wonderfully and beautifully created masterpiece by a unique and victorious God. Second of all, you do not owe anyone anything. You are too dignified as a daughter of the highest King to bow down to the poor attempt by the emeny or anyone else to tarnish what God has declared as being great. My dear sister you will forever and always have my support. You are light and encouragement. Jesus said we will be persecuted by our faith because he was persecuted. I will pray for anyone who has unresolved feelings or issues that they wrongly take out on others. Keep speaking God’s truth on his behalf.

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    1. Hi Ada, gosh thank you so much for these wonderfully words of support. I am truly moved by your kindness. You’re right – i shouldn’t give energy to that negativity. yes – i will join you in prayer for that person! Hugs and love xox

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  38. Oh my gosh! I just saw this. How anyone can be so heartless (and misinformed) is beyond me! You are an amazingly strong and awesome person! That commenter is the one who really needs help. God said, “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” It’s a hard thing to put into action, but is well worth the effort. If you haven’t already done so, I suggest you include that person in your prayer. I’m not saying this in a sarcastic way, I mean, really. This world would be such a better place if everyone sincerely prayed for each other. God bless!

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    1. Thank you Joy for you kindness and support. You’re so right – i need to pray for this person! that was instruction given to us straight from the source! i agree! thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox

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  41. We all have to overcome life. No-one lives in a perfect world. What prompts cruel comments often boils down to personal life experience and their up bringing.
    At present their thoughts and feelings do you no harm.
    Remember Christians in the Russian Federation have been imprisoned for their faith, many with physical ailments but they are spiritual warriors. As the Apostle Paul made clear nothing can separate from Gods Love Romans 8: 35 through 39

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