Yesterday was my birthday!
And for the first time ever, I’m actually embracing getting older…or rather, embracing the new chapters that come with age.
That, and I’ve finally accepted that I can no longer pass for an 18-year-old ingenue in acting auditions.
But I realized a few things this weekend, as I fought feeling old and out of my prime…
1.) Our time on this earth is a privilege, and getting older is something that sadly, not everyone is guaranteed.
I think this one speaks for itself. The news is full of too many tragedies. Cherish every moment we have here with friends, family, loved ones.
2.) Always forward, never back.
This is something that I’ve definitely thought about a lot since getting married. But the fact is, yes: everything that I’ve been through has shaped who I am and instilled in me the values and life lessons that have made me the woman before you. But there’s a difference between respecting that time for what it is, and dwelling there.
The fact is, if I were to dwell on pain or guilt from the anorexia in my past, it would be robbing my husband of the right now. It would be stealing the joy of the present and the future we’re building together. So always forward, never back.
3.) Bodies Change, and That’s Okay
Here’s the long and the short of it: our bodies change as we grow. For women, our hips widen, gravity has its effect on things…and frankly, our body is not going to be the same as it was when we were in high school. And that’s okay. There is beauty in the grace that comes with that acceptance. It took me a long time to develop gentle self talk, but life simply is no fun when its spent beating yourself up over how you look. God made us uniquely beautiful: His masterpiece and work of art. And that goes for all body sizes, shapes and ages.
4.) Priorities Shift, And That’s Okay
It’s interesting to examine where I am today, and where I was just even 10 years ago…which, I know…seems to contradict my second bullet point. But it’s true: ten years ago, I had been living in NYC for two years, and my priorities were: friends and acting. In that order.
And ten years — and a lot of hair damage later (thanks to consistent straightening…) my priorities have definitely changed. Now, my husband and our relationship with Christ through our marriage is my number one priority. Followed by our families, friends, and how we can best show up for the people in our lives that we care about.
I value quality time with loved ones over a wild night out on the town. I value building a home and a life with my husband. I value activities and conversations that strengthen our faith. And I value being strong and healthy to one day bring children into the world.
Perhaps this stems from and older, more-seasoned lens through which I view the world. But that shift in priorities is a welcome change.
5.) God’s Plan For Me Does Not Have a Time Limit
There is no expiration date for God’s plan for us. Just because we’re getting older doesn’t mean that God can’t use us, or that we’ve run out of time to complete whatever we thought our mission was in life. God’s plan for us evolves as we evolve. It changes as we grow, and it grows with us.
His plan will look different for different seasons of life, but God can always find ways to use us to do His will and His work.
And I pray that hopefully not too long from now, God will put motherhood into His plan for me.
Who knows — maybe even by my next birthday 🙂 I do love an August birthday…
What are some things that you’ve learned as you’ve grown up?
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