Taylor Swift.
Arguably one of the most well known musicians of our time.
The price? Well, as revealed in her new documentary, Miss Americana, that premiered recently at the Sundance Film Festival — a lot of things.
For starters, her name sparks…well…a gut reaction for a lot of people. Some — like her rabid fan base of Swifties — absolutely love her. Can’t get enough. For others, thanks to the ~often unfair~ tabloid headlines about a feud with Kanye West, her dating history, and more recently — her political outspokenness, some people are staunchly not Swifties.
Myself — I have always loved her music. It’s catchy, fun to play on the guitar, and had lyrics I could relate to. However, I always made sure to separate the musician from the music. Why? Because as a young woman who has recovered from a severe case of anorexia, Swift’s image was unhealthy for me oogle over.
Having spent two years entrenched in a disease that nearly cost my life, there are certain “tell-tale signs” that I can pick out from a mile away. And I always had an uneasiness in my heart that this young musician was struggling from some sort of eating disorder. And I’m sad to say, that – as she revealed in Miss Americana – she absolutely did.
But this article isn’t going to be a scandalous recount about it. I’m not here to put her under a magnifying glass, or scrutinize her past, or fetishize her new image and recovery.
Rather, I want to highlight the incredibly impactful message she shared in her film, in a candidly honest and impromptu conversation after being photographed by paparazzi leaving her NYC apartment.
Because – the courage it took to open up about such an intimately personal and painful part of her past – one that still carries a gross stigma in society at large because of sheer misunderstanding and stereotypes — it turns out that Swift is the eating disorder recovery advocate we never knew we needed.
Here’s the thing – this past week, I had many readers email me about Taylor’s revelation in the documentary. And so I watched it for the sole purpose of writing this article. And so I was waiting with piqued anticipation for this segment of the film.
And while some headlines may just grab onto the clickbait of “Taylor Swift’s Eating Disorder” — the fact of the matter is that she brought up four incredibly important and powerful points in this off-the-cuff conversation.
So I wanted to really let her words speak for themselves, and point out the beautifully nuanced deepcuts that are getting glossed over for those catchy one-liner headlines.
First: Words have power.
“I’ve learned over the years it’s not good for me to see pictures of myself every day ’cause I have a tendency to — and it’s only happened a few times and I’m not in any way proud of it — I tend to get triggered by something — whether it’s a picture of me where I feel it looked like my tummy was too big or, someone said that I looked pregnant or something – and that will just trigger me to starve a little bit. Just stop eating.”
It doesn’t matter if you’re Taylor Swift: words cut deep. You can have all the success, all the material things, all the most amazing designer clothes, celebrity friends, you can literally be on top of the world, and you can still be impacted by negative comments. You can still feel insecure, alone, not good enough. Words are powerful. And we need to realize that. At the end of the day, a negative remark reveals more about the one speaking, than the one spoken about. Be kind. Words can hurt.
Secondly, RECOVERY IS THE BEST DECISION OF YOUR LIFE.
“I thought that I was just supposed to feel like I was gonna pass out at the end of the show, or in the middle of it. I thought that was how it was. And now I realize: No, if you eat food, have energy, get stronger, you can do all these shows and not feel it! Which is a really good revelation, because I’m a lot happier with who I am. I don’t care as much if somebody points out that I’ve gained weight. It’s just something that makes my life better – the fact that I’m a size 6 instead of a size double zero. That’s wasn’t how my body was supposed to be, I just didn’t really understand that at the time, I really don’t think I knew it.”
One of the most terrifying things about recovering from an eating disorder, is that you don’t know what your life will be life without your disease. It has become all you know. And believe me, at 78 pounds, I had completely lost myself to the disease that was strangling the literal life out of me. So the thought of — who am I without it — creates a paralyzing fear. But as Swift so beautifully puts it, without it: you’re happy with who you are. And that, friends, is the gosh darn truth. There is freedom – and that is a beautiful thing. Freedom to feel, fully. To love, fully. To experience life, fully. None of which, you were able to do, when your body is literally surviving in SOS mode, doing everything it can to just keep you alive.
Third: Beauty Standards are tearing our girls (and guys) apart.
“I would have defended it to anyone who said “I’m concerned about you.” I was like, ‘What are you talking about? Of course I eat, it’s perfectly normal, I just exercise a lot.’ And I did exercise a lot, I just wasn’t eating. … I don’t think you know you’re doing that when you’re doing it gradually. There’s always some standard of beauty that you’re not meeting. Cuz if you’re thin enough, then you don’t have that a$$ that everybody wants. But if you have enough weight on you to have that a$$, then your stomach isn’t flat enough. It’s all just fu**ing impossible. You don’t ever say to yourself, ‘I’ve got an eating disorder!’ But you know you’re making a list of everything you put in your mouth that day, and you know that’s probably not right, but then again, there’s so many diet blogs that tell you that that’s what you should do.”
I don’t need to sit here and tell you how unrealistic and unhealthy our societal standards for beauty or masculinity are. Spend 0.5 seconds scrolling through Instagram, and you’ll see: society demands perfection. We’ve come to demand photoshopped-flawlessness, when the truth of the matter is that, none of those concepts of beauty are either a) actually as they appear, and b) really truly what actually matter. Beauty comes from within. Beauty comes from being a product of He who handcrafted us. It’s your light — His light — shining through that makes a person truly beautiful. Not the right waist-to-butt ratio.
And finally, DO WHAT YOU’VE GOTTA TO DO PROTECT YOUR RECOVERY!
*Pointing to a paparazzi photo of herself* “This would cause me to go into a real shame-hate spiral. This. I caught myself yesterday starting to do it, and I was like, ‘Nope, we don’t do that anymore. We do not do that anymore.’ Because it’s better to think you look fat than to look sick. And we don’t do that anymore, and we’re changing the channel in our brain, and we’re not doing that anymore. That didn’t end us up in a good place.”
When Taylor shared this, I was literally standing up and cheering. This, my friends, THIS is the secret to a lasting recovery: protecting it. WE DON’T DO THAT ANYMORE. Amen. This is why I don’t have a full length mirror in my apartment. This is why I don’t own a scale. This is why I threw away all the clothes I wore when I was sick, and have banned all those “safe” “diet foods” from entering my apartment. This is why I’ve turned down opportunities to attend New York Fashion Week shows. It’s because protecting your recovery has to be the number one priority in your life. (That and God). But you have to do whatever you need to do to change that channel in your brain, and stay focused on your health, your recovery, your new abundant life.
And sure, when you’re first starting out your recovery journey, that decision will have to be more deliberate, and intentional. But as the years go by — and as someone entering my 13th year of recovery, I can tell you that it does get easier. And those triggers subside, and eventually you do get to a place where that freedom isn’t so laborious, but rather, natural – second nature.
I am so proud of Taylor. I know that sounds — almost patronizing, and I don’t mean that to be. But as someone who has watched her from afar over the years, with honestly, a broken heart — having had an inkling that something was terribly amiss — I am so overjoyed for her that she’s found the freedom of recovery.
There was something in her voice during this documentary that truly resonated with me. There was a strength. A power. An ownership of self that only comes through overcoming the darkness. It was the voice of a young woman who had crossed the thrashing sea and made it to the other side, a skillful sailor.
Forgive the painfully cheesy metaphor there, but sometimes a hackneyed mental image like that speaks louder than anything I could type this rainy Thursday morning, here in Manhattan.
So Taylor, thank you for sharing your story with us. In recovery, you learn -after many highs and low- that vulnerability is actually a beautiful thing. Vulnerability is powerful. And it’s a true gift to those you share it with.
I’m cheering for you, and the new life you’ve embraced. Because whether you’re a Grammy Award-winning megastar, or just a humble blogger that gets excited over a 40% off coupon from CVS — recovery is the great equalizer. And we’re all on the journey together, supporting and cheering for one another along the way.
“This is what the Lord says to these bones: I will make breath enter you, and you will come to life.” Ez 37:5
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83 responses to “Taylor Swift: The Recovery Advocate We Never Knew We Needed”
Thanks for your help and support!!
It motivated me a lot
Oh I’m so glad! Thanks for sharing that. Sending you so much love and hugs xox
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Thanks Mindy 💛💛💛 hope you’re having a great night! Hugs and love xox
Thank you Caralyn! I am having an exciting evening getting to work on my manuscript! Hugs and love back to you 🤗💗
Exciting indeed! Happy writing! 🥰
The movie, television, and music industries promote a small size and certain looks in the U.S.. The thing I noticed about British TV is it is the opposite. You see a variety of sizes and people or average looks. I’m sure those celebrities get pressure on them to meet certain weights and sizes.
You’re right about that Sharon. I love to hear that about British tv! Very true! Big hugs, thanks for stopping by xox
Such a wonderful inspiring post! 💖
Hi Paula! Oh gosh thank you so much! it was an inspiring film! would highly reccommend! hugs xo
I am 100% here for this post! For so long, I was genuinely afraid to eat. I was a size 3 and strangers would ask if I was pregnant! Size 3 with a flat tummy! Watching Taylor talk about it really hit home. Hollywood shoves their beauty standards in our faces, but that doesn’t mean we have to adhere to them and I know that now. At this point, I’m fine with being in shape, but I don’t ever again want to strive for being paper thin.
Hi Quinn, thank you so much for sharing your story. You’re so right about that – Hollywood dictates such an unhealthy standard. Amen to that sister!! i’m standing with you and cheering for you!! hugs xox
A fabulous post about the truth of eating disorders. Keep sharing the message!
thank you so much!! I’m so glad you enjoyed the post! i appreciate the encouragement! big hugs xox
Great post. This kinda thinking applies to anything. It’s like my constant battles with anxiety. I don’t beat myself up over it anymore. I didn’t realize Taylor overcame anorexia. Wow. I really like what she said.
Hi Derek! thank you so much for sharing your story. yeah – she really let us into a very intimate part of herself. that took a lot of courage! hugs xox
I’ve always had a lot of respect for her. It might be unrelated to the specific point at hand, but she’s one of the rare celebrities who has maintained her career scandal-free. And in today’s day and age, particularly considering our cancel culture, I imagine that’s an enormously difficult thing to do.
It’s funny you write about her, because I actually made one of the characters in my first book a diehard Swiftie. When I was writing it, I emailed her to make sure she’d be alright with me mentioning her in it. The response I got, which was surely written by one of her minions who screen her accounts, was basically “she doesn’t have time to respond to you”. So I made mention of it on her blog/website forum, and actually got the green light directly from her (at least I think it was, unless it was another minion posting as her).
She’s just always come off as a very classy, respectable person imo. The only thing anyone can roast her on is the whole dating thing and her string of exes, but even they all seem to still think very highly of her.
wow what an interesting story! how cool that you got a response from her! i agree – very classy, very respectable, and that really shone through in the documentary. I agree — and with the dating thing — it’s only headline news because she’s a megastar and the guys she dates are celebs. her dating history is not unlike any other twenty something!! thanks for stopping by! hugs xox
Oh and I forgot to mention: this was a very well written and articulated article. It gives a lot of insight into things I imagine most people don’t piece together.
and aw shucks, thanks for saying that!!! yeah — expecially with a big “bomb drop” like that, people can miss the nuance of what she really actually said, and just latch onto the headline bombshell — but she in fact communicated so many important things! xox
I love this! Addiction is no laughing matter and it’s one of the ways Satan is wreaking havoc in this World. One thing we ALL must do is get into agreement with God about who He says we are…..we are his children. Royalty. ❤️ His opinion of us is all that matters….
Thank you so much for sharing you’re heart on this. You’re absolutely right – we are His children! And it really is all that matters 🙂 big hugs xox
“One of the most terrifying things about recovering from an eating disorder, is that you don’t know what your life will be life without your disease”
and that is the crux, people get used to the routine, as harmful as it may be it becomes the normal, and we can not even ponder life in a different (healthy) way, as cliche as it is, “one day at a time” works… even “one hour at a time” if needed, maybe just a nudge from a friend is what it takes to take the path, or a random act of kindness… just keep shouting in the wilderness, people hear you 🙂
You’re so right about that David – one hour, one moment at a Time. Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your heart 🙂 big hugs xox
Words matter. We need to watch the words we speak to ourselves. Be kind. Thank you for sharing.
You’re so right about that. Words really do matter. They’re powerful. Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
Just a tad of hypocrisy here wouldn’t you arguably agree; that this supposed great musician who supports abortion and militant feminist agendas is just a byproduct of a decadent spoiled rotten, meme culture generation, propped up by big business which is only interested in one thing; making big bucks. This is no role model for any kids regardless of what afflictions she may or may not have. Her biggest affliction being I LOVE ME! ABSOLUTELY ZERO SYMPATHY HERE FOR HER.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Lawrence. I haven’t been following her politics but I hope that she doesn’t support those things. Hugs and love xox
Hey Caralyn, I hope you get me or as you once told me “I get it” when I got into being repetitive and a bit edgy at times, I wouldn’t want to harm your feelings at all but in the hard and fast world we live in and driving in the fast lane this internet can get hairy and has consequences so far reaching; as I’m sure you know much more about it than I do because I’ve avoided and was a resister to the what I saw coming over the years this frenzy which it is at times. That said I’ll be blunt, I have seen so much trash in the last few years that I get a bit perturbed and think do I really need to be around all of this! I like what I see you do most of the time but I get weary wondering if dipping into some of these others wells of attention and notoriety or putting yourself on some parallel with them whether that is wise or not. I think “I get it about what you’re doing and trying to accomplish so I want you as a friend to be doing the best you can in achieving your good goals and not get swept up in rigamoro or fake hype out there that’s all, kinda. That big brother or protector comes out in me too much at times I admit I go overboard because it’s built-in due to life experience and I think I was born like that. Don’t worry if I was in a position to actually do you some good outside of these social bouquets now and again on the net I wouldn’t hesitate because you are a fine woman who deserves God’s blessings and graces I pray. I have had some baggage heaps on me in recent years and it altered my patience a bit much but I’m still the same old me only beat up some and disappointed in what others did to me and how they do so much wrong when so much should be getting accomplished; vis-a-vis our POTUS as the prime example! If I can be so frank I think you try to strike a balance often where you see some good happening even when there is some sorta bad right in the fray or thick of it too; because you want to hope for the best and feel you can be a positive influence which you are, to draw out more of that good. But I don’t trust things so much like that the way I used to before things happened to me and others, I mean bad damaging things; set up by nefarious heartless persons which there are many who do prowl around as you know, “that roaring lion thing,“ so the happy go lucky me is in check and taking a backseat now is the main tune here, it’s been way stressful as well as permanently damaging and maybe I’m just tired and should loosen up about these things and let others have the benefit of the doubt again like I used to a lot more back in the day. They will never stop the real me in there altogether though, hardly; I guess I’m like most people still a work in progress, time will tell. Let’s see what comes up and what is possible; how does that sound to you? Side note of some surprise; just this morning very early I was in a Stop&Shop, needed more of that MaraNatha peanut butter and the gourmet marshmallows, LOL, along with about a week’s groceries too seeing as I was there; and wouldn’t you now I run into this employee who has to be the same bloodline as Taylor Swift, go figure! Practically a close or perfect body double and in all regards, I’m around 5’10 and she is well over my head! I was like you all of a sudden, the reporter or P.I. antennae came out although not clandestinely eavesdropping I had to for lack of a better term pick her brain which I developed some skill at doing having worked in outside marketing and as a news photographer; and struck up a conversation that made me see lots of good in some of these younger ladies like her and Taylor in that late 20’s early 30’s bracket which she is in, and who for all I know must listen to Taylor’s music a lot, I just didn’t have that much time or luxury to carry on a sit-down, and like the good I saw about her as in how you do in Taylor I got to realizing you do that but pass on the cheesy stuff! This lady has a couple of professions going and plays musical instruments so I thought that seemed also like you and this really decked me kido; because I know it was no accident and God is telling me something important for sure here in all of this and you are part of that, absolutely! I actually thought about hat scene and you and your blog until I got the chance to check messages and saw this one you left which I had wondered if you were about to send one! This is really so cool isn’t it! So first off I have to say I think God told me to calm down and don’t think any ship is going down and He is in charge so it is all good, just hang in!
Oh getting back to Taylor, just to add I thought she does have a definite left leaning attitude but you actually know more about her than I will or want to; to be honest. But, I have to add what I did hope for was a more enthusiastic inspirational banter with some of the followers and you when I got way into the Right to Life article you just wrote. I like to think people out there especially that follow you care with whole heart about this horrendous evil that is going on in our world like you and I do; and that they would be as motivated to speak up more even if not so over the top like me; which I admit! All we can do is take one day at a time and put one foot in front of the other and at the end of the day that is the prescription! Hope you enjoyed the great meals you’ve been cooking up lately! Yummy, Peanut Butter and Jelly Flap-Jacks with Blueberries, Big Ones, this weekend!
God Bless You!
Lorenzo
I even forgot the Big Bears Hugging XX and that was a way long comment again!!! Ha, ha, he. he, look at me, I’m so silly! 😜🤣😜😉
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Just one more thought; Taylor Swift is still growing as a person just like any of us should be hopefully and we don’t know what final result may occur or what great positive effect she may end up having on a multitude of younger women out there that need to move toward truth and understanding, but you my friend, you are right there is great potentiality there in Taylor which still remains to be seen or manifested! Like you said Caralyn; we can only “hope” and pray for great good that is yet to come; and let’s give it a chance to unfold! Amen.
Hugs and Love. XOX…
I was an anorexic years ago and really needed to change my view of myself. Even now after years of recovery I avoid certain triggers! Such as the weight loss challenge going on in the office with weekly weigh ins! I carry a few extra pounds now but I remind myself that I’m not worried about that, my focus is on being healthy now!!
I hope you don’t mind if I share my latest post about changing our perspective of how we see our lives! http://tamarakulish.com/2020/02/07/teach-ourselves-to-feel-positive-to-see-more-positive-things-in-our-lives/
Peace, Tamara
Thank you Tamara for sharing your story. Yes! Protecting our recoveries is such an important thing – if not THE most important thing. Amen! Thanks for sharing your post. I look forward to reading it! Hugs and love xox
My pleasure! I’m looking forward to hearing your feedback!!
You’ve written a very moving post, Caralyn. Protecting your recovery is tremendously important.
I have never suffered from an eating disorder, but I lived inauthentically for 50 years before I found the strength to admit to myself who I really am. I had to work and struggle and pray to find a way to live as my true self. And, just as with an eating disorder, there are attacks on that self, both from other people and from my previous life and the thought patterns it instilled.
So, your article really resonates for me. It brings me encouragement in a practical, down-to-earth way, as well as being solidly grounded in God’s love.
Thank you!
Thank you so much Penny, I’m so glad you thought so. Thank you for sharing your story. Amen – living as our true self is so freeing! Hugs and love xox
Even at 73, I still feel that way and I hate to see my photo. I never starve myself, though I’ve done radical diets to try to bring back my svelte figure of days gone by. My self talk involves, saying it’s okay, you are f—in 73 and look amazing for your age, but it’s still a day to day challenge. I’m fit because I work out. It’s all in the middle and easy to camouflage, but I’m still not happy with my barrel like reflection. I grew up during the Twiggy rage. I get it. I thought of you when I saw this film. Love your blog.
Thank you so much Jolie for sharing your story and your heart. Yes!! Listen to the cheerleader self talk!! It’s spot on 🙂 big hugs to you xox
There are a lot of people that contribute the betterment of mankind. I thank you for being there keeping them to the forefront. You are one of the few that i believe to being on top of all things important. Keep up the great work.
Oh my gosh thank you for saying that. My goodness what an incredible affirmation. Means a lot. 🙂 biggest hugs xox
My mother’s cardiologist never recognized her anorexic tendency. As they worked together to figure out a medical regimen, and he stressed “don’t gain weight “ and etc to lower her cholesterol which thanks to familiar GENES was always high no matter what they did, he fed right into that tendency. Then when dementia struck, it was even worse. She died in 2018, weighed MAYBE 90 pounds—and was 5’7”…at 85. She couldn’t understand why everyone was always trying to get her to eat. Very sad.
Hi Shauna, oh gosh, i am so sorry for your loss. Gosh, this breaks my heart. thank you for opening your heart and sharing this. It is disappointing that her medical professionals didn’t serve your mother in the way she needed. my heart goes out to you, friend. sending all the love in the wolrd. xox
This is such a powerful article. Really the four steps you sared work for any form of addiction or sickness or life controlling issue. I am especially empowerd by thought number two. The idea that we have no ibentity apart from our sickness, addiction, what have you is what keeps so many of us stuck in the mire. It is only when we agree to launch into the adventure of discovering who we really underneath the darkness that we begin to get free.
Thank you so much Joseph! Yes! Recovery is a similar path, no matter what the origin — the destination is always the same 🙂 thanks for stopping by! hugs xo
Love, love, love the ‘protect your recovery’ and reminding yourself ‘I don’t do that anymore!!!’ Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!❤️
aw thank you so much 🙂 yes! that is such an important step in a lasting and fruitful recovery! i appreciate you stopping by! have a great sunday! Hugs and love xox
This is soooo good! And, I’m glad you wrote about it. I’ve have this film saved on netflix but hadn’t watched it, having heard she got political in it and unsure that I wanted to deal with another celebrity thinking they have some divine obligation to tell me how to think & believe. I also admire her amazing talent and the beautiful warmth and generosity she shows her young fans and I just didnt want to ruin it or her to. Lol
Didn’t we all suspect it? I think a lot of did although not everyone understands what it’s really like to experience it and we can thank you both for shining that light.
So much of what you and she have said here, easily relates to addiction as well.
Alcohol addiction, I’ve seen first hand the denial born of fear of “who am I without it” ” how do I live without it”, that unknown thing and how to protect your recovery. When life and home becomes a alcohol free zone, will friends & family stop inviting you to events, celebrations etc where they drink? Will attending or being in that environment be too much a temptation, will they stop coming to my home because they can’t drink here? The fears are overwhelming, the quilt, shame.
It’s so difficult to help them get to a place where they are willing to even acknowledge it because doing so implies they must take action.
I’m grateful to you and what you do. Though you are inspiring and shining a light on eating disorders, its relative to so much more, reaching so many more than what you may know.
Hi Laura! thank you so much for this thoughtful response. yeah, in all honesty, i wish she wouldn’t have gotten political at the end. the film was great up until the last 20 minutes when it became a political soap box of sorts. thank you so much for sharing your story. i can only imagine the difficulties the come with creating a sober environment. it sounds like you are an incredible source of support and empowerment. the world needs more people like you! and thank you so much for such kind words. i am very very touched. big hugs xo
Good work here. Keep it up!
Thanks so much!! Hugs and love xox
You are welcome dear
xoxox 🙂
thanks so much! Hugs and love xox
Great blog. For me, it’s the word “we”. I absolutely love it. Yes, I am wounded. Yes, I am sick. And Yes, I am strong enough and smart enough to help myself. Together “WE” can can do it. Together “WE” are going to change that behavior, curb that thought, and make that choice. Together “WE” are going to support each other.
thank you so much, for sharing your heart. Yes! together we can do it!!!! i’m cheering for you, friend! Hugs and love xox
good work. honest. Thank you.
(and thanks for the tip about the Amazon link….I will pass that along!)
absolutely!! thank you so much for stopping by and taking the time to read! hugs xox
I have heard about this documentary, but I haven’t watched it yet.
Thanks Amanda! It is definitely worth a watch, much of it resonated with me. hope you’re having a great weekend. hugs xox
Beautifully written! I love the phrase “change the channel in your brain”!
aw thank you so much Clara! I agree – that’s a powerful visual! hugs xox
LOVE this post and will definitely check out Taylor Swifts documentary. What really struck me was protecting our recovery. It’s imperative and can prove to be difficult. Over 3 years ago I walked away from a friendship in order to protect my recovery from alcoholism. I knew it was the right thing to do, yet it tore me up. Yesterday I went to her funeral. It rips my heart out. The reality of addiction isn’t pretty, which is why I will always make my sobriety top priority even if it involves tough decisions. Thank you so much ❤️
Hey again friend!! oh thanks — yes! protecting our recovery has to become top priority, because without it, nothing else can function! thanks for sharing that. walking away from friendships is hard, and I can definitely definitely relate. But at the end of the day, you’ve got to do what is right for you. and oh my gosh — i’m so sorry to hear that!!! gosh, may that person rest in peace, and I’m so sorry for your loss. You’re right — tough decisions but right decisions. Sending you love and my condolences. xoxox
Thank you so much my friend, I appreciate it 😘❤️
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I watched Taylor Swift’s documentary the other day, expecting to see Taylor dive into the world of music and her journey to stardom. What a surprise to see her talk about her struggles, her vulnerabilities that simply makes all of us human. Despite her beautiful looks, incredible talent, and monumental fame, she speaks from a place we can all relate to. Your post summarizes her message so well I wish more people would get to see what you wrote. Very inspirational and full of great advice! Excellent work!!
Thanks for sharing that. Yeah it was a very revealing documentary! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
I have never been nor will likely never be a TS fan. I am glad to hear something positive has been gleaned from something she has done.
thanks for sharing that. yes – i think this was a positive move on her part! Hugs and love xox
I was so proud of her as well!!! What an amazing Young Woman she is! So very cool!!! Yay and Cheers!!! 🤗❤️😊
Yes!! It was a huge victory! Thanks for stopping by! Hugs and love xox
My pleasure!!! 🙂
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Caralyn, I don’t follow TS, but I think you did a good job of pointing out the good in what she has experienced. It must not have been easy for her to come to the place where she could share this struggle. It shows that no matter how famous you get the struggles and temptations in life never go away. They are actually probably quite a bit worse under the spotlight. Thanks for the post.
Thank you so much David! Yeah her doc was quite thought provoking. Hugs and love xox
Precious one, you are such a wonderful writer! Keep it up and never stop! I know God will continue to stretch your territory and continue to bring rich fruit from your work. Blessings!
oh my gosh, thank you so much 🙂 what a kind thing to say. grateful for you! stay well! Hugs and love xox
Such a great post! Praise God it’s been years but I struggled off and on with not eating and it’s interesting because today I just saw a picture of my-to-thin-self and I think I subconsciously was like “Nope, we are not going there! Change that channel!” I really appreciated this whole post! Thank you!!
thank you so much!!! yes! way to change the message in your brain! what a win!!!! big hugs toy ou xox